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brindaneer · 3 years

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Whether or not God exists is one perpetual conundrum, but even the most hardened atheists of this world are rarely able to disclaim the significance of fate in life. What plausible reason other than misfortune accounts for the countless failures thousands of people encounter regularly in various spheres of life despite never making a mistake of their own? None. How else can a sane person explain why some individuals are born privileged while other similar ones are forced to suffer incessantly amidst abject poverty until death relieves them of their sufferings? Cruel, you say? Well, undoubtedly so. One person’s good luck so often brings misery to someone else.

This is exactly what happens in Zoya Akhtar’s debut directorial film, ‘Luck, by Chance’ when a photograph of the protagonist Vikram Jaisingh is selected purely ‘by chance’ for the lead role in a film and that of his at least as talented (if not more) friend Abhimanyu’s is missed. One random action, and Vikram rises to glory in the magical kingdom of Bollywood! Fortunately or unfortunately, this is true of innumerable ‘Vikrams’ and ‘Abhimanyus’ in the real world. Notwithstanding the massive amounts of effort that people involved with film-making put in every day, the vital role played by ��luck’ in the industry can hardly be ignored. And Zoya is not scared to showcase it in her very first venture. She juxtaposes Vikram’s dream ride masterfully with Sona’s nightmare in Bollywood and allows the uncomfortable truth about brutal fate to reverberate unabashedly throughout her film. It is this hard hitting honesty that makes ‘Luck by Chance’ one of the best chronicles of the Hindi film industry during recent times.

Just like her later films, here Zoya presents the audience with a vast gamut of characters that add exquisite flavours to her concoction, thereby making it all the more memorable for them. The mix includes a shrewd producer, an ageing, conceited, yester-year, her impulsive as well as ambitious daughter, an incompetent director, an egotistical superstar, a self-centered newcomer and a talented, hardworking, but exploited young actress among several others. Farhan Akhtar and Konkona Sen Sharma lead this brilliant ensemble which includes some of Bollywood’s most respected names such as the late Rishi Kapur, Dimple Kapadia, Juhi Chawla, Sanjay Kapur, Isha Sharvani and last but definitely, not the least, Hrithik Roshan.

It is this last name and the character he plays that we are going to focus upon in the present blog. Of course, the film itself deserves a complete blog but since this project started as a celebration of Hrithik’s works, we deemed it best to maintain our initial objective. Perhaps once we have completed analyzing all Hrithik’s films, we can come back to this very special one and dedicate a separate blog to it.

Hrithik plays Zafar Khan in Luck by Chance, the quintessential Bollywood superstar. Suavity, good looks, charm, talent- Zafar has everything in abundance. He is also completely human, filled with the baser human emotions of envy, guile and selfishness. It is Zafar who backs out at the last moment from the film of his mentor (Rishi Kapur) because he finds greener pastures. He does so without much concern for the massive loss that his producer might incur, the same producer who had given him footing in Bollywood. But, as Zafar points out to his secretary, he is tired of being ‘owned’ by the man. Incidentally, it is this specific moment wherein Zoya decides to portray Zafar’s softer side. Stuck at a traffic signal, Zafar finds few street urchins flocking near his luxury car and what follows is one of the most endearing scenes Bollywood has ever produced. The pure joy on the faces of the children as they see the superstar ‘up close and personal’ is heart-touching. And so is Zafar’s reaction to them! Instead of being irritated or throwing tantrums which might be expected from stereotypical stars, Zafar engages with the kids in his own way, making them happier with every little interaction. In that instant, he is as pure a human being as is possible for anyone to be. Zoya masterfully manages to reveal that Zafar is neither a monster nor an angel, only a common human being filled with both positives and negatives, through this very subtle and apparently trivial moment. The closed window of Zafar’s car which acts as a barrier between him and the children is a metaphorical representation of the class divide that prevails not only in ours but every ‘civilized’ society across the world. It is also a symbol of the boundary that separates a superstar from his common fans; a boundary that is often impossible to cross even if someone is willing to. Only a director of Zoya’s calibre can be expected to convey so many hard realities through a scene that lasts for about a minute. As flawless with his expressions as ever, Hrithik is superlative in this scene as the humane Zafar.

Talking about expressions, Luck by Chance also contained ‘Baawre’ which definitely ranks among Hrithik’s top dance performances in our list, not just because of his moves but more importantly, due to his countenance and attitude. Hrithik is phenomenal in this song and it is an out and out ‘paisa vasool’ performance. One other scene that deserves to be mentioned in the context of Hrithik’s acting is the interaction between Zafar and Karan Johar at a party during which the latter discloses to Zafar how stars are made. It is all a matter of the same old ‘luck’. A reigning star refuses to do a film and some newcomer gets a chance. Luck by Chance! Of course, whether or not he is able to utilize that opportunity depends on the individual’s talent, but destiny does come first. Hrithik’s conveyance of Zafar’s jealousy as he realizes that he has created his own competitor unwittingly is absolutely on the spot. All in all, Zafar Khan is possibly one of the most impactful extended cameos Hindi cinema has ever seen, and all thanks to Zoya and Hrithik for that.

Incidentally, Hrithik also played notable guest roles in two other films. One of them was directed by none other than Zoya’s brother Farhan. Hrithik starred as none other but Don himself in a scene with the stunning Priyanka Chopra. Well, it was the Don (Shahrukh) in Hrithik’s mask. Looking dapper in a suit, Hrithik walked right into the hearts of the audience as he twirled with Priyanka on the dance floor. Farhan was clever enough to make use of Hrithik and Priyanka’s terrific on-screen chemistry in that one scene and they sizzled together. The other film in which he did a cameo was Vikram Phadnis’s Hrudayantar. He donned Krrish’s attire once more there to give a few moments of happiness to a dying child. The scene between him and the little girl was truly gut-wrenching.

With that, we bid goodbye to our lovely friends with a promise that the break shall be a short one. Thanks for being patient with us.♥️♥️♥️♥️

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rbbox · 4 years

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Hrithik Roshan

Name Hrithik Roshan

Nick Name Duggu

Date of Birth 10-01-1974

Birth Place Mumbai, Maharashtra, India

Zodiac Sign Capricorn

Sex Male

Religion Hindu

Nationality Indian

Language Know English, Urdu, Hindi,

Marital Status Married

Hobbies Daily Exercise, Watching Movies

Height 6'2"

Weight 74 Kg

Eye Color Brown

Hair Color Black

Education • School: Bombay Scottish School

• Collage: Sydenham College B.Com

Father Rakesh Roshan

Mother Pinky

Sister Sunaina

Grandfather J. Om Prakash

Wife Suzanne Khan

Sons • Hrehaan(2006)

• Hridhaan(2008)

Debut Movie Aasha

Debut in Leading Role Kaho Naa... Pyaar Ha

Debut award Filmfare Award for Best Male Debut

Favorite color Black

Favorite Food Indian Food

Favorite Pet Persian Cat

Favorite Actor Raj Kapoor and Amitabh Bachchan

Favorite Actress Madhuri Dixit, Madhubala, Kajol

Favorite Hollywood Actor Sylvester Stallone

Favorite Hollywood Actress Helen Hunt and Julia Roberts

Famous Movies Lakshya, Koi... Mil Gaya, Main Prem Ki Diwani Hoon,

Mujhse Dosti Karoge, Na Tum Jaano Na Hum,

AAP Mujhe Achche Lagne Lage, Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham,

Yaadein, Mission Kashmir, Fiza

Contact Address Kavita Bld., 2nd Floor Vithal Nagar Society, 11th Rd.,

Juhu Scheme, Mumbai 400 049

Hrithik Roshan's childhood, marriage, children, family photos

Hrithik family

Hrithik Roshan's Children

Trivia / Facts

• His father Rakesh Roshan is the son of music director Roshan.

• Hrithik has two thumbs in his right hand.

• His Grandfather is the music director Roshan

• Roshan has two thumbs on his right hand

• He appeared in films as a child actor in 1980

• His Debut leading role in Kaho Naa... Pyaar Hai (2000)

• when he was six years old he acts in the movie "Aasha".

• His latest movie is 'Zindagi Na Milegi " Releasing on July 15, 2011.

Awards Winner

• 2000 :Filmfare Award for Best Actor (Kaho Naa... Pyaar Hai).

• 2000 :Filmfare Award for Best Male Debut

• 2003 :Filmfare Award for Best Actor(Koi... Mil Gaya)

• 2003 :Filmfare Critics Award for Best Performance in "Koi... Mil Gaya".

• 2006 :Filmfare Award for Best Actor in"Dhoom 2.

• 2008 :Filmfare Award for Best Actor (Jodhaa Akbar).

Nominated

• 2000: Filmfare Award for Best Actor (Fiza)

• 2001: Filmfare Award for Best Supporting Actor for"Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham..."

• 2004: Filmfare Award for Best Actor Movie is "Lakshya".

• 2006:Filmfare Award for Best Actor (Krrish).

• 2008: Golden Minbar International Award for Best Actor for Jodhaa Akbar

• 2010: Filmfare Award for Best Actor for Guzaarish.

Hrithik Roshan Movies list / Filmography

No Year Film Music Director Director Co-star

1 1980 Aasha Laxmikant Pyarelal J. Om Prakash Jeetendra

2 1980 Aap Ke Deewane Rajesh Roshan Surendra Mohan Rishi Kapoor

3 1981 Aas Paas Laxmikant-Pyarelal J. Om Prakash Dharmendra, Hema Malini

4 1983 Aasra Pyaar Da - J. Om Prakash -

5 1986 Bhagwan Dada Rajesh Roshan J. Om Prakash Rajnikanth, Rakesh Roshan, Danny Denzongpa

6 2000 Fiza Anu Malik, A. R. Rahman, Ranjit Barot Khalid Mohammed Jaya Bachchan

Karisma Kapoor

7 2000 Kaho Naa... Pyaar Hai Rajesh Roshan Rakesh Roshan Amisha Patel

8 2000 Mission Kashmir Shankar-Ehsaan-Loy Vidhu Vinod Chopra Preity Zinta

9 2001 Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham... Jatin Lalit, Sandesh Shandilya, Aadesh Shrivastava Karan Johar Kareena Kapoor

10 2001 Yaadein Anu Malik Subhash Ghai Kareena Kapoor

11 2002 Aap Mujhe Achche Lagne Lage Rajesh Roshan Vikram Bhatt Amisha Patel

12 2002 Mujhse Dosti Karoge! Rahul Sharma Kunal Kohli Rani Mukerji

13 2002 Na Tum Jaano Na Hum Rajesh Roshan Arjun Sablok Esha Deol

14 2003 Koi... Mil Gaya Rajesh Roshan Rakesh Roshan Preity Zinta

15 2003 Main Prem Ki Diwani Hoon

Anu Malik

Sooraj R. Barjatya Kareena Kapoor

16 2004 Lakshya Shankar-Ehsaan-Loy Farhan Akhtar Preity Zinta

17 2006 Dhoom 2 Pritam Sanjay Gadhvi Aishwariya Rai

18 2006 Krrish Rajesh Roshan Rakesh Roshan Priyanka Chopra

19 2006 I See You Vishal-Shekhar Vivek Agrawal Arjun Rampal,

Vipasha Agarwal

20 2007 Om Shanti Om Vishal-Shekhar Farah Khan Shah Rukh Khan,

Deepika Padukone,

Arjun Rampa,l

Shreyas Talpade,

Kirron Kher

21 2008 Jodhaa Akbar A. R. Rahman Ashutosh Gowariker Aishwarya Rai-Bachchan

22 2008 Krazzy 4 - Jaideep Sen Arshad Warsi, Juhi Chawla,

Irrfan Khan, Rajpal Yadav,

Suresh Menon

23 2008 Luck by Chance Shankar-Ehsaan-Loy Zoya Akhtar Dimple Kapadia, Farhan Akhtar, Konkona Sen Sharma,

Alyy Khan, Rishi Kapoor,

Juhi Chawla, Isha Sharvani

24 2010 Kites Rajesh Roshan Anurag Basu Bárbara Mori

25 2010 Guzaarish Sanjay Leela Bhansali Sanjay Leela Bhansali Aishwariya Rai

26 2011 Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara Shankar-Ehsaan-Loy Zoya Akhtar Katrina Kaif

27 2011 Don 2 Shankar-Ehsaan-Loy Farhan Akhtar Priyanka Chopra,

Shahrukh Khan,

Lara Dutta, Kunal Kapoor

28 2012 Agneepath Ajay-Atul Karan Malhotra Priyanka Chopra

29 2013 Main Krishna Hoon Amjad-Nadeem Rajiv S. Ruia Katrina Kaif

Juhi Chawla,

30 2013 Krrish 3 Rajesh Roshan Rakesh Roshan

Hrithik

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mredlich21 · 7 years

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Luck By Chance Annotated Edition Part 8: The Ending! Friendly Appearance from Shahrukh

#LuckByChance annotated edition part 8: The Ending! Plus a friendly appearance from @iamsrk

And now we are at an end! In a very long complicated section, complete with special guest star (I won’t make you wait, it’s Shahrukh). (full index of Luck By Chance coverage here) (more…)

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celebritylive · 5 years

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War to SURPASS Bharat and emerge as the BIGGEST Hindi opener of 2019, feels trade!

The trade and industry is quite upbeat, thanks to the release of the Hrithik Roshan-Tiger Shroff starrer War in a few days. That these two dashing and extremely popular actors have come together had made War a film to watch out for, since the announcement stage itself. The teaser and trailer further upped the hype and so did the songs. It releases on Wednesday October 2, a national holiday on account of Gandhi Jayanti. 2019 still have a few more biggies to release but none of them arrive on the day of festive holiday. As a result, War has the potential to have the biggest opening day of 2019 for a Hindi film. Trade analyst Taran Adarsh confirms the buzz for War as he says, “The craze for War is humongous, majorly because of Hrithik Roshan and Tiger Shroff coming together. Secondly, it’s an action film and thirdly, the timing is very apt. It releases on Wednesday October 2, a five-day weekend. The trailer too indicates that it’s a full-on, commercial film.” Girish Johar, film trade and business analyst, agrees, “The excitement levels and buzz are huge. Hrithik Roshan and Tiger Shroff coming together is a dream cast, not only for the makers but even for the audiences. And both are featuring in an action film and hence it’s like a never-before-experience of sorts.” Raj Bansal, the owner of Entertainment Paradise in Jaipur, admits, “The excitement is zabardast, mind-blowing! There’s huge excitement amongst audiences, single-screen exhibitors, multiplex exhibitors etc; basically, everyone!” Trade expert Komal Nahta calls the buzz for War ‘phenomenal’. Salman Khan’s Eid release, Bharat, had a record opening of Rs. 42.30 crore this year for a Hindi film. The trade experts are confident that War will go past this figure of Bharat. “It will open bigger than Bharat and emerge as the biggest opening day grosser of Bollywood in 2019," feels Harveen Singh, distributor from Rajasthan. Trade analyst Atul Mohan also predicts, “It has chances of surpassing Bharat”. Komal Nahta too agrees as he opines, “The first day figures are going to be more than Rs. 40 crore and it’ll be more than Bharat’s opening day.” “Yes, it has all the chances to be the biggest opener of 2019 for sure,” exults Girish Johar and adds, “Ideally, we would want War to go beyond even the Hollywood blockbuster Avengers: Endgame, which is the biggest opener of the year and all time at Rs. 53.10 crore. And it can happen as it’s one of the biggest combinations in terms of star cast, coupled with the holiday factor.” Raj Bansal predicts, “We are hoping for an opening over Rs. 48 crore. It could be even Rs. 50 crore plus.” Taran Adarsh however states, “Ideally, War should compete with Thugs Of Hindostan’s first number, which stands at Rs. 52.25 crore.” Besides War, there’s also Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy that will try its luck at the box office. Starring Chiranjeevi, Sudeep, Vijay Sethupathi, Amitabh Bachchan, Jagapathi Babu, Tamannaah Bhatia and Nayanthara, the film’s dubbed Hindi version is backed by Farhan Akhtar and Ritesh Sidhwani and they got lucky with the Kannada dubbed flick KGF last year. Most trade experts believe Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy’s Hindi version can co-exist and fare decently. Taran Adarsh says, “In the South, Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy will be a rage. In North, it also has chances. The film has industry from practically every industry. It’s an ensemble film and hence, is expected to fetch a big start.” Komal Nahta says, “Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy will of course score in South India where it’ll give a tough fight to War. Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy will be the ‘War of South India’!. But in the rest of India, it’ll have to contend with the opposition from War. Having said that, Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy will still take a decent opening because the trailers are superb.” Girish Johar agrees that this Southern biggie has a chance but War will dominate. He says, “Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy is looking quite good but specifically for the Hindi markets, it’s obvious that War would be the first option.” Harveen Singh however says, “I don’t think Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy is that big a competition for War in the North. In the South, it’s huge but in the Northern belt, it won’t have much of an impact”. He also predicts, “Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy will get an opening of below Rs. 5 crore.” Raj Bansal on the same lines states, “There’s hardly any buzz for Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy in this side, not even for Hindi version. No one knows the history of this freedom fighter. Such films don’t do very well in the North, except for a Baahubali.” Atul Mohan however refuses to write off the potential of Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy. He justifies, “Farhan Akhtar and Ritesh Sidhwani are quite smart. They must be confident of Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy and hence are taking the risk of clashing it with a film like War.” And lastly, the much-talked about Hollywood flick Joker, starring Joaquin Phoenix, also hits screens on October 2. The film has opened in film festivals with unanimous praise. Girish Johar feels this film too might excel, “Joker is a very upmarket Hollywood film which will have its fair share of audiences in the top metro city multiplexes. It has fantastic pre-release reports from Overseas.” Atul Mohan tells, “Joker seems like a very dark film and only for niche audiences but its reviews are very encouraging. It’ll get very limited release and they (Warner Bros) must be mentally prepared that they are coming in a week which will be dominated by two other big films. Maybe they must have planned it that way and must have avoided going all-out, like these studios usually do for mainstream, Hollywood films.” Harveen Singh positions the Hollywood dark film above Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy on the buzz scale. He says, “Joker has a buzz among Hollywood audiences, especially those who are fans of the character. I feel in West and Northern belt, Joker is a bigger opposition than Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy for War!” Raj Bansal however is ruthless as he makes it clear that “Releasing Joker on October 2 is the biggest mistake of Warner Bros. It will not work at all”. Komal Nahta too admits, “Joker doesn’t really stand much of a chance.” The trade and industry are divided over Sye Raa Narasimha Reddy and Joker but one thing is for sure. War seems like a winner and is expected to fetch a flying start. If content is also appealing and reports positive, then sky is the limit for this flick! Also Read: WAR: Hrithik Roshan performs daredevil stunt by jumping off a 300 feet bridge in Porto

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rampld · 6 years

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hrithik roshan costume appreciation pt.2: luck by chance, baawre

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Luck by Chance (2009) dir. Zoya Akhtar

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itsharsimranthings · 6 years

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The Story of So Called Nakhras in Getting Married

In a normal case scenario, every girl wants to get married, if not at 21 or 22, at some point of time in life. But when we see a paradigm shift in the upbringing of girls primarily in a country like India which has- Sanskars, education, sometimes a yes to become financially independent and some (plus and minus) say in choosing her prince Charming, this upbringing also ends up in adding a very interesting epithet which our society calls as ‘Nakhra’.

I am going to share my beautiful journey of choosing a life partner for myself. Mind it, it was not as easy as it was for most of my friends and also not that difficult when compared to another set of my friends.

It was a funny, super irritating, suffocating and sometimes a life saver experience for me. But above all it gave me a tag of designation which was less to do with my education or profession but my nature and that was,”Isske toh Bade Nakhre Hain, Aise toh Iski Shadi Nahi Hogi”.

I was 18 when I had lost my Mom. It was suddenly a shattered world for my Dad, brother and myself.

I had this sudden responsibility which was self-realized, of taking care of the house, cooking, daily chores besides pursuing my graduation and my post grad plans post it. From nowhere, someone suggested my dad that I should be married off as soon as possible. My dad has always been my biggest support system and he knew that ‘No’ this is not what he wants me to get in to at this stage. Time was flowing and gradually things were getting back on track, lots of ups and downs but as a family we pulled off quite well.

My brother had got married after few years and I had also started working. Once he was married, it was quite understandable that I am going to be the next target, which was nothing more than a Figment of Imagination….HAHAHAHAHA!!!!

From a Marketing job in a prominent publication, I shifted to a little relaxed career option-Teaching. I had joined as an Assistant professor with a renowned college in my city. But back of my mind there was a building pressure of getting married apart from anything else.

I had this fixed mind always that before I get married I want to do a few things in life on my own:

· Progress in a respectable career

· Travel/Party with friends

· Save a bit to travel again

· Save again for precautionary purposes

· Date someone and if things go well then marry the same guy too

God has been very kind towards me when he was choosing friends for me. I happen to have a good social circle which is a mix of funny boys and girls who come from different religions, age groups, educational backgrounds, careers but in spite of the difference in our demography we still maintain that homogeneity in most of the things. Some of these got married at the age of 21, some at 26-27 and some were still single like me. Some had say in choosing their life partners and some had no say only. While some like me were waiting for their fixed version of a life partner, with little compromises on conditions and some are still waiting.

The thought of marriage used to give me sleepless nights and sometimes shivers. I was given this freedom by my immediate family to decide on what to wear, where to go, choose friends, what to eat but life partner was questionable at times. After all its not just the two getting into a lifelong relation but two families and the same extended to relatives as well.

Rishtas were being looked for me. Some turned out to be too flashy, some didn’t like me and few I didn’t like. But the ones I didn’t like were not acceptable to people who suggested them to us. Since they suggested so it had come with a clause of a mandatory YES.I could not say no because it would spoil their relation with the family but the boy side obviously had a right to say NO.

My saying a NO or for that matter my family saying a NO had always created fights, big faces and lot of tension. Shadi topic had become more of a boxing ring. I would get upset a lot but then I also knew its my life. If after all the contemplations its not comforting me then its better I say no. Perhaps no one saw my ways of analyzing a proposal and those who saw-we would only disagree to agree.

Eventually a time came when I had to decide the basis on which I will choose a partner for myself. I was already 29 and after 25 if you are unmarried then it’s a questionable thing. So, you can well imagine how LATE I was in life for this. I was not feeling late but yes people around were. Some would say,” She already has someone in mind”, “She was unnecessarily made independent in life and that’s why she keeps on saying no to rishtas”,” We don’t know what does she want”, a dear friend once said, ”It seems your dad does not want you to get married”……. I was hurt at this because she could never understand what I want in life then how could she talk like this about my dad. Same girl was not given a chance by her family in choosing a guy for herself.

But the best was when my relatives ended up this entire Shadi conversation with a believed assumption that this girl has lot of Nakhras, this way she will never get married. I was like Really☹.Will I die all alone? No family? No romance? No honeymoon? No nothing?

I would cry alone and to avoid this depressing phase I would look for travel plans, work beyond my work hours, joined gym to stay at bay from this topic, spend time with friends who were going through the same etc. etc. I just wanted to get off that pressure which was building up day by day. Even my students were getting married. What could I do? I could not marry just anyone…..

Meanwhile a guy showed interest in me, I spoke about him at home but when my family agreed the guy just didn’t take a stand. Again, a lol moment in life because every relative knew of this story. I was so ashamed and just gave up.

It was such a phase that I and we 4 friends used to call our fate as MAHA MAHA LUL. Happiness and good luck was always ready take you turn. Everyday somebody’s FB status used to be either engaged or married to. I was like “iski ho sakti hai toh meri kyu nahi”.

After having enough of it, one day I decided to pen down as to what I am looking for in a match. Here it goes:

1. I am 5 feet 6 inches tall and I love to wear heels so the boy should be at least 5 feet 9 inches. Had once said no to a rishta because the boy was not even 5 feet 8 inches and a huge ruckus had happened. That was one day when I felt why I had to be of this height? Why everybody took pride in calling me tall and appreciating my height time and again when they will one day shoo me on this.

2. Decent to look at but a cut surd. I am a sardarni but I don’t have men around me who wear turban or have long beard. Someone who is handsome for you might not be handsome for me. Believe me on this, I was never looking for Hrithik Roshan.

3. The guy should be decently educated in whatever stream, articulate and well aware of what is happening around the world.

4. Should be financially independent (businessman, professional) but should not be in armed forces, I have respect for them but I have my own fears too till date. I was once made to meet a guy who was not working and when I said no for this I was told he looks handsome, see that. He was 32 and was financially dependent on his family. He had no routine and no aim. I could not digest this one at all and my no had once again created a big issue. I had suddenly become a villain. Till date that cousin of mine does not speak to me because of my no. LOL!!!

5. My working or not working should be a decision left onto me

6. Its okay if he drinks or smokes but he must not be a drunkard or a drug addict. People had problem the why I have no problems with someone who smokes. They didn’t see I was being flexible here.

7. Vegetarian or a non- vegetarian not a problem but he should not be a vegetarian because he has taken some sort of naam. I mean I wanted to take no compulsions.as simple as that.

8. Okay with a nuclear or a joint family

9. Horoscope matching not a problem but my horoscope hardly matched with anyone. I must have been to at least 22 odd pandits to get calculations done. Someone would say I’ll get married in two months, someone would say that proposal X is waiting only for my yes. But when I said yes believing that pandit, I came to know that the guy had already got engaged. I didn’t know and I still don’t know if I need to believe in calculations or not because the last one I had gone to had said that my time of birth is wrong. MOM where are you, help me with this at least. You see another LOL in life.

10. Now the last one, which is a shot, and many didn’t agree to this demand of mine and had concluded that I won’t get married in my life. I wanted a match in or around my city only. I will manage to stay in a smaller dwelling but not far away. Why I was adamant and obstinate on this one because when I lost my mother, my dad and I were alone. My brother was in Lucknow then and it took him more than 20 hours to reach us. I know people stay abroad and at times there are situations when family members are unable to reach but no I just could not adapt to this fact at all. I was never sent out of city to study or work being a girl and safety issues but same girl was let to get married just anywhere. Lots of fights and arguments would take place with family, relatives and friends on this point but I just didn’t want to bend. I was then okay with settling in NCR but nowhere else. I don’t know where life will take me in the long run but to start with I don’t wish to relocate.

Lot of discussions happened on these points. But then I had Nakhras. I had accepted this adjective for myself. I was about to turn 30 and my friends, my support system, many had got married and just 3 besides me were single. By this stage I had stopped losing my calm and would just laugh away and then would say that I will get whatever I am destined to but without trying for my 10 points I don t want to give up. Someone had advised me, “you have already become bad in the eyes of your relatives by rejecting proposals but don’t say yes to not your kind of a proposal because it’s your life”. I was looking for this push and support. And I was determined again. Hence, made accounts on Shadi.com, Jeevan saathi, newspaper matrimonial columns, marriage bureaus. I suddenly felt like a celebrity. I had my bio data and photos floating just anywhere and everywhere. Hahahahha!!!

Met different set of people on matrimonial websites who would in one go want my contact nos and ask me all sort of silly questions. Chatting with 5-6 men online was a task. Then enquiring about the proposals by stalking their fb accounts and taking help from friends whom I had not spoken to in years was another level experience. I’ll term this as a ‘Blessing in Disguise’ because it’s certainly unfair to get into a stranger’s life. However, cursing your decision later on in life was also avoided through this medium alone. CID and Crime Patrol was and still are one of my favorite shows thanks to the Police I became while conducting the various types of character inquires for my prospective soul mate.

But out of all the action scenes my most interesting experience was with marriage bureau. This owner made me go laugh-LOL…. LOL….ROFL.

As per him, I should tell a guy that I like to watch channels like star movies, HBO but not Zee Cinema. Talk big boss but not serials. I must know about India’s political scenario but when I asked him about economical scenario, which is my area of interest and educational background, his answer was a NO. He did my counselling after we had paid him 21000/- which was non-refundable. I knew that money had gone down the drain.

Struggle of finding a suitable match was at its peak. But god was with me. Maybe he just made me His favorite for a while and a twist came into my life. On my 30th birthday I was in Belgium for work. Apparently, I got a chance to stay away from calls who would be least interested in actually wishing me but more interested in lecturing me on how burdened my dad and relatives feel about getting me married.

I knew in hearts of heart, its high time, I will have to be serious and diligently look for a match. I was sitting with a friend of mine and we were making changes in each other’s profiles on the matrimonial websites to get more rishtas. Don’t ask me where we met and became friends.

In fact, he even met a dear friend of mine for matrimonial purpose (purely arranged marriage set up) and I was all ga ga about my male friend to my female friend and vice-versa. I was suddenly a kind of Vacholla(middle-person), that’s how they are addressed as in Punjab. I don’t know what, when and why it happened that this male friend of mine didn’t find my friend’s proposal as per his liking. He had some sudden light ON in his mind. He thought of considering me instead of my other friend. I knew that my dear friend will call off our friendship and will have all the ill wishes too for me, she perhaps felt and still feels that I have taken her guy away. No, I have not, certainly not. My chapter with her has ended for life. She is happily married now but I was not invited (I still feel sad. I am not out of those who will take someone else’s man away).

Coming back to my life, who will take this risk of talking at home again that I have another guy to introduce (he too can back out based on the past experience). I shared with my brother and then with my father. 4 days and the rishta got fixed. I was so happy and relaxed that thank god it has finally happened before my 31st birthday, a big sense of achievement.

I am happily married now and settled in life to my level of contentment.

Life has his own planning but we certainly need to work for this plan to become successful. Finding a suitable match is certainly not an easy task. For some it might happen in one meeting and for some it might not happen even in the 100th meeting.

So be optimistic. If it is bound to happen it will surely happen and if not then you can’t help it either.

P.S: A special note for two of my dear friends who are still unmarried, I know I have got busy and my priorities have changed a lot but you two are very close to me. We have shared our shadi related nakhras every time. We have laughed and cried on these together. So please don’t lose heart that you two are still unmarried. Remember, you both are younger to me, hot, independent, silly but pure at heart. What is bound to happen will happen. And shadi will certainly happen. If someone like me who has had a lot of Nakhras has gotten married then you two will also get. Just that our time zones are different. I feel blessed, I still get to meet you both and my family as and when I want because I was adamant on point no 10. May be few years down the line I am not in the city anymore. But still I’ll love you both anyway.

Another the two friends of mine, one in the UK and the other one in Chennai nowadays whenever you come to see your parents, see I can always drop in to catch up with you girls also. I have grown with you both but since you girls got married first so may be you are unaware of half of my stories of this struggle but yes I am also married now and a part of the same gang…))))

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