#happy ace week everyone!!

[il3x]

diversity win! the person verbally and politically eviscerating you is asexual!

[rendevok]

Act II ~ The Challenge

A tapestry for chapter 2 of Let No One Sleep by @azalawa-scroggs on ao3

[goatvaxing]

wright anything agency!

[atroquinine-my-love]

Someone called my pride post for dgs last year the Miku Binder Thomas Jefferson of the Ace Attorney Universe and it haunted me

[vamp-bites]

Another watercolor doodle for @acetrigunweek day 7: free day :)

[aspecduality]

I dream of a day when more influencers and famous people have DNIs for aphobes, where it's commonplace to see people in the spotlight supporting and raising awareness and funds for ace and aro causes and support. Where aspec idenities are included in pride editions of merchandise. I await the tipping point in society when the words asexual and aromantic even if not agreed on, most people have at least heard of so I don't have to make a ted talk whenever I bring up my orientation. A day when not only sexual orientation but also romantic orientation is explicitly included in the non discrimination policies of employers and the like.

It won't be an easy path of course, and even when we get there it will be painful and unfortunately spark a lot of hate well. Maybe there will be times I will wish we could go back into the shadows we are in right now. Yet at the same time I desperately want that tipping point in society to just rip off the bandaid and start the process despite me being someone who likes to keep my orientation to myself with 99% of people I interact with in real life. Progress is slow, but the ball has started rolling. I await the day when aspec orientations step into the spotlight, even if I'm not one of them.

[taiturner]

lgbtq meme ◆ (2/5) headcanon lgbtq+ characters ━ ASEXUAL THEA MAYS

[mushroombo]

God, you’re pretty More’s the pity, since you need a man-- --What? Who’s brainy Or witty--

Day 1 // Lies and Secrets Fool’s Mate // The Chess Game

[zymstarz]

yeah sure that's how i'll [re]come out

[satinstowaway]

been thinking about zoscar lately. been thinking about loveless aromanticism and relationship dynamics that differ from the 'norm' and the fact that zolf and wilde never said i love you to each other but they didn't have to for us to understand just how much they care for each other. thinking about how they probably don't have the words that we have to describe their relationship. no queerplatonic, no aromantic, no asexual. thinking about how despite the fact that both of them are writers, putting their feelings into words has never been their strong suit. thinking about how maybe it doesn't have to be; maybe they don't have to say i love you to mean it, to mean something like it. maybe they can just say "i missed you yesterday" or "i made you breakfast" or "i fixed the button on your coat" or "i know you're having a bad day today so i'm just going to sit with you and not say anything to let you know i'm here for you" or "shall i read to you" or "you always oversalt your food" or "almost lost you" or "we've got this" or "i need you".

[hoperays-song]

Happy Asexual Awareness Day!!!!! 💜🖤 💜🖤 

[lazeecomet]

Things that i learned 3rd hand from other people way later in life then most people

Movies are a popular teen dating activity because its a dark room where you can get away from prying eyes and be a little intimate. Although i still believe that the movie industry popularized movies as dates to sell more movie tickets

The phrase "i want to have my baby" is not about marrying into wealth/fame by trapping them with a kid. its about having sex with the popular celeb

You are suppose to be hard in a dick pic. I am infinity grateful to my past and current self for never taking one

It took many years of observation and connecting the dots for me to put all of these together. the evidence for me being some flavor of ace is a little hard to ignore at this point

[artistic-argonian]

Seeing how we're in the middle of Ace Week, I felt like saying something about my experience with Asexuality, and how my perspective on things has changed over time.

I first realised I was Ace when I was 18, found the label and realised I never had any interest in relationships (I'm aromantic too) and didn't even know what sexual attraction was. When I first realised this, I felt confident in myself in a way I hadn't before that.

Then as the years went on and I learned more about the Asexual spectrum and met more people on said spectrum, I somehow began to feel more validated and more isolated at the same time. As I met more people I could relate to and realised more and more that I wasn't alone, but also realised that among most of them I was still... different. I felt like the "stereotypical" Asexual who's sex-repulsed while everyone else fights against and defies stereotypes. On my good days I felt good about myself, but on my worst I felt like an alien trying and failing to blend in with a world that I couldn't understand or fully relate to. I would and still do agree with posts I see about how not all Asexuals are sex-repulsed and people who do want that are valid and should be able to express themselves without shame, but felt bad for being the way I am. Like I was a boring, immature prude.

This mentality came and went for years, as I'd go between confident and happy with myself to lonely and hating myself, then back again. And it slowly got worse over time.

Now, while I still have those negative thoughts sometimes because my brain is a bitch and loves to give me reasons why I suck, I've started to change my perspective and feel a lot better about myself recently. After someone I have a lot of respect for and consider a good friend told me, "I think you just know what you want in life." I felt less ashamed and alone, and more self-assured. That someone I look up to not only doesn't view me as the womanchild I fear people see me as, but even respects me for being the way I am, meant and still means so much.

And now I hope other people like me can feel that way too: that you do belong and you're not alone or broken. Wherever you are on the spectrum, your feelings and experiences are valid, even if you don't know how you feel or what you want and are still figuring things out (I still am in some ways.) All that matters is that you're comfortable and happy in how you identify, even if it takes a while. And I wish you luck in your journey.

[fan-of-random-bs]

Did I miss Ace week somehow?

[glbtrx]

Happy aroace trending day :)

yes we're taking over the world

[ceilidhtransing]

It's so good to go through the Ace Week tag and read everyone's different experiences with asexuality and other ace-spectrum identities.

What's particularly interesting to me is when people talk about having had really long and difficult journeys realising they were ace - because for me, it was pretty much instant. As an adolescent I never paid much attention to my sexuality, passively assuming I was some kind of late bloomer, dreading the apparent inevitability that at some point I would have to have sex but rationalising that since everyone does it and everyone likes it then some day I'd feel the same (or at least have to put up with it, because what other option is there), until one day an acquaintance casually mentioned asexuality in conversation. From this first hearing of the word to me fully identifying as ace was about 1-2 days. It was like switching on a light. The fact that I'm ace was just so obvious and unavoidable, and as soon as I heard that what I already felt had A Word and was actually recognised as A Thing, that was it, I knew that was me. Seven and a half years later, that's still how I feel.

So I guess what I want to communicate - aside from just adding one more perspective and experience to the communal discussion that happens every October - is that it's entirely OK if the realisation of your sexuality comes not after a lengthy, agonising process of self-reflection, but rather very quickly after first hearing that a word exists. Your identity feeling so obvious and unquestionable that it required almost zero period of questioning doesn't make it any less real or valid or accurate than an identity reached after years of uncertainty and scrutiny. I think sometimes in the queer community we talk about long, slow realisations more than we talk about these lightbulb "oh, right, that's me" moments, but the latter definitely happen too (as does everything in between!) and you're absolutely valid no matter what journey you took to reach your identity.