#goofy behavior

[rosesandpeonys]

[peptozimbo]

Lola caught on the cams acting suspicious 💀 boy knows how to get comfortable

Lola-pig, the male Portuguese tumbler

[todayisafridaynight]

it is the middle of summer

[souviet]

Fun facts. Saw mom this past weekend. She spotted the news on the restaurant screen and said “I hope you don’t intend to vote for Kamala Harris.”

I ask her “as opposed to? You know I’m not voting for the other idiot.”

She made a little face and dropped the subject immediately.

Like. ???? I have extremely mixed feelings about voting in general but MOTHER who the fuck else would I be voting for?????

[thebrideofreanimator]

i think it’s so funny how at the end of phantom after saving raoul and the daroga from literally drowning raoul is helped out of the water by the phantom and christine runs over to him while the phantom watches and everyone’s freaking out over him and nobody even acknowledges the daroga is in the room it’s so funny

[bootleghellokitty]

it amazes me how people will go out of their way to argue with some stranger on a literal dress-up game over nothing

[cowgirl-interrupted]

"they/them is too confusing, just use normal pronouns!" Okay Apache/Attack/Helicopter

[averysblog]

I’m terrified of not being liked by people I don’t like

[untitledgoosegay]

re last reblog I do see fanfic culture pushing/replicating a certain model of "what trauma looks like," "how trauma works"

this is a problem across all areas of society obviously, but transformative works are, well, transformative. they're about crafting and modifying narratives where the fan-creator sees a flaw or a lack -- often for the better! don't get me wrong, I've done my fair share of "I take a hammer and I fix the canon," it's the main thing that gets my creative gears spinning -- but what happens when that "flaw" is simply a narrative not conforming to popular expectations?

some people just don't get PTSD from events that sound obviously traumatic. they're not masking, and they're not coping; they just straight-up didn't get the permanently-locked stress-response that defines PTSD. they walk away from a horrible experience going "well, that sucked, but it's over now." some people do get PTSD from events most people wouldn't find traumatic. we don't really know why some people get PTSD and others don't. but fandom has an idea of events that must be traumatizing, of a "correct" way to portray trauma. you see the problems with this lack of understanding in e.g. fans pressuring the devs of Baldur's Gate 3 to add dialogue where the player character badgers Halsin about his own feelings on his abuse -- because he must be traumatized, and his trauma must fit a certain mold and presentation of sexual trauma, under the mistaken impression that anything outside that narrow window is somehow "wrong" and disrespectful or even harmful to survivors.

take, for another example, the very common trope of a traumatized character who hates touch or sex "learning" to like touch or sex as a part of their healing process. certainly that can be healing for some people; other people will never like, or want, touch or sex, because of trauma or because they just don't. the assumption that someone who doesn't want sex or doesn't like to be touched must be traumatized, must be suffering from this perceived lack, is seriously harmful -- to asexual people, to people with sensory issues around touch, and to people for whom healing from trauma means freedom to refuse sex or touch.

and there's a secondary trope, one that's slightly more thoughtful but ultimately repeats the problem -- that once someone has learned that their boundaries will be respected, they'll feel it's safe to soften those boundaries. once they feel safe refusing touch or sex, they'll feel comfortable allowing it on their own terms. but many people don't, and many people won't! many people will simply never want to be touched, and never want sex, and they are not suffering or broken or lacking because of it. the idea that proving you'll respect someone's boundaries entitles you to test those boundaries -- the paradox is obvious, and yet this is something i've seen hurt (re-traumatize) people i care for.

people are imperfect victims. people don't heal in the ways you expect. many people have positive memories of their abuse, of their abusers. many people hurt others in the course of their trauma, in ways that can't easily be unpacked in a 5k oneshot. very few narratives of trauma and recovery actually fit the ones put forward by popular children's media and romance novels -- which are the ones I most see replicated in fandom spaces, because they provide the clearest narrative and easiest catharsis, and so they're easy and soothing to reach for.

that's not necessarily a bad thing! i am not immune to goopy romance tropes. i am not immune to teary catharsis. not every fic has to grapple with ugly realities. but there's a problem when these narratives become predominant, when people think they're accurate and realistic depictions of trauma, when the truth of trauma is unpleasant and uncomfortable, and doesn't fit any single narrative, let alone one of comforting catharsis

[vamp-bxtch]

I sent my friend a vid of me learning the opening to Enter Sandman on guitar and they sent back "heck yeah"

They are an excited 5 year old and I love them

[nebulaedaniel]

i rly am so glad we all agree that phan lore is ours and dnp shouldnt know anything about it

[aroaceleovaldez]

tbh my latest biggest theory for why HoO and onwards is such a dramatic drop in quality and consistency is just. Rick stopped making teaching guides.

Like, the Lightning Thief teacher's guide is SUPER in-depth with even stuff like sources about middle grade child psychology and exact specifications of where he's applying that, explaining what different character's goals/motivations are, their dynamics with each other and their environments, etc etc. Even specifying which specific myths certain plot elements are supposed to reference or be about.

That stuff just doesn't exist for later books. There's activity guides and smaller, significantly more simple teacher guides for later books but they don't go into anywhere NEAR the same level of depth. The TLT one is a full lesson plan that breaks down the book at every level and explains what's going on and more or less why Rick did that. The others are all basically just glossaries of terminology and some simple question guides.

And they didn't even use the TLT teacher's guide for the Disney+ show because they clearly aren't adhering to any of what's discussed in that breakdown of the book.

By creating a teaching guide alongside writing the actual book, that's forcing you to document what you're doing, why, your sources, and information about your characters and the story they're in. It's like an even more in-depth version of a series bible. But that's lacking for later books (and etc) and it shows because that level of thought and depth and attention just isn't there anymore.

[7greentears]

The gang.

[bleh1bleh2]

Her <3

[dirty-trash-mongrel]

Khan takes Lizzy's phone and then she immediately takes out another one without bothering to get up and get it back

[ladyespera]

i still just think it's hilarious how some of sephiroth's last words in crisis core pre-dying (first time) are "don't test me." devastating. humiliating. cloud really said you meant don't test ME. bitch you come in my fucking village with that stupid fucking sword you'd better come prepared for these country hands. man had NO idea just WHOM he was testing. he came he saw he lost. no attempts at dissuasion just stab stab stab claw swing. rip sephiroth he tried the wrong teenager. YEET.