#girlies to me is a gender neutral term
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the billford resurgence could only work in the age of booktok dark romance girlies. ten years ago everyone would be writing essays on glorifying abuse.
#billford#book of bill#im joking#but not really#girlies to me is a gender neutral term#is it dark romance if your narrators are both unreliable?#bill cipher#ford pines
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i love being girlie online bc i dont immediately get perceived as woman. i’m literally just a profile picture here i’m just a guy being silly i love it it’s a place to express my feminine girlie fun side :3 but then irl i am desperately closeted so i do everything in my power to be perceived as less like a woman, meaning i neglect the girlie inside of me
#it’s really funny i’ve been procrastinating coming out for ages but i’m lasy#this is why i need deadlines#i’m great at working to deadlines#but also i kinda wanna get my shit together and become more independent before coming out bc i want to be taken seriously or something#listen a childhood friend of mine came out as nb when they were like 13 and my parents never took it seriously bc of their age#i’m not 13 but ykylykylykykyk it sticks with me#cal original#also this post feels very mysoginistoc#i really hate talking about my gender because i havent got it all sorted out and i’m scared that it’s literally all internalised mysogony#and i’m lying to myself#anywayyyyyy i love u feminine people and women and ayyyyyayayayyw just not as me ok!???? ok!!! mwah mwah#i love using the term girlie to describe myself bc i use it for a lot of my guy friends so it feels very gender neutral to me#whilr still conveying fun and whimsy and girliness and yayyyyyyy :3#ok shutting up now
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@titsgraham and anyone else who wants my mom to be their mom consider yourself adopted. @poofafannibal I know you called dibs but we all have to share lol
#her brain IS giant and huge and smart but plz don’t eat it please and thank you#girlies is always a gender neutral term from me#cringeworm’s mom
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girl dinner is about eating as much or as little of whatever bullshit you want bc sometimes cooking and being healthy all the time is hard [last night my girl dinner was microwaved pesto pasta and orange soda]
girl math is about jokingly justifying treating yourself and not pinching every penny like that one starbucks drink is what’s keeping you from being a billionaire [it also works the other way, the girl math doesn’t work out? purchase not worth it. like how i don’t waste money on a winter coat cause i don’t wear those, that’s like $80 to wear a coat once]
explaining (topic) for the girlies is about taking the bs inaccessible jargon out of topics and phrasing it in everyday terms
my thoughts cont in tags, would love to actually know other ppls thoughts on this
#like idk if i missed the point of these trends and am actually too hopeful or whatever#but this is what they feel like to me#and when ppl are automatically like#girl dinner is about starving yourself and glorifying eds!!!#or whatever#and like#you’re setting us back bc you’re playing into gender stereotypes!!!#i have to hold myself back from screaming#you’re falling for it!!! you’re tearing down women for not doing femininity the way you think is correct!!!#you are literally doing what you are mad at them for doing!!!!!#also!!! i use girl/girlie as gender neutral terms#even though widely they’re not used that way#it’s the same way i use dude/bro/boy/guy#if you’re mad bc it enforces the gender binary just…idk don’t have it do that for you?#i think the binary is bs as much as anyone#but like my guy friends eat girl dinners#and my girl friends will have boy time#discourse
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if you have to specify that a term is gender neutral every time you use it.... perhaps it is not as gender neutral as you think.
#perhaps just use one of the many many gender neutral terms we already have#perhaps im just bitter that every single post says girl or girlie [gender neutral] like... we do have actual gender neutral terms#if you need one#so you dont have to specify that its gender neutral every time#because its gendered by default#god its 'so you fuck dudes' all over again#ignore me btw this isnt serious im shooting shit#/lh
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girlie isn't gender neutral what the fuck are you on about
#kattalks#remembering when someone called me that and i said im not a girl because i dont like being misgendered (shocking) and this person was like#''i was using it as a gender neutral term'' hey read the first 4 letters of girlie and get back to me on that
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Hi hello I’m going to say something that only the feral girlies will understand.
I want to be loved so completely and so fully that it consumes us both and so little is left of our our shredded bodies that we are buried in the same grave ok?
Is that, is that normal?
#this is why he thinks I’m fucking crazy but whatever#he loves me and my madness#I am not normal about love#words#Pyxis writes#sfw post#also girlies is a gender neutral term fuck off if you don’t think so
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Also wasnt gendering you, i remember you by your ao3 handle im sorry if it came off that way 😔
OH oh nah you’re fine i dont mind!!
#no worries !!#i dont read a lot of gendered terms AS gendered just cause#i use them as jokes so often???#the name ‘garfield’ is neutral to me#cause i will constantly say to my friends#‘garfield r u slash j or slash srs’#girly pop is also neutral to me like yeah girly pop#hes so girly pop#babygirl is the same#ANYWAYS ENJCJSJS#anon#i need a tag for asks so bam
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genuinely nothing makes me see red quicker than a gendered term followed by "(gender neutral)" like "girlies (gender neutral)" "dude (gender neutral)" shut the fuck up i literally dont even care if you address your post to girlies i will simply ignore it if i so choose but the fact that you think youre making an effort to include everybody without actually changing anything about how you speak is annoying as hell
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quality ✧ do you need to lower or raise your standards? [Love PAC]
Hello! I believe this is my first pick a card of 2024, I hope you appreciate the topic I chose. This is something that I recently had to recognize and deal with myself, so hopefully you find this reading helpful.
Pick a photo or a number one through three and continue reading to find your reading.
One
No, absolutely not. If anything, your standards are too low. You are like me, at least myself a few weeks/months ago when I did not value myself. You need to understand that you are 100% valuable and loved, and that there is nothing that can depreciate your value. You may have been overconsuming readings, questioning as to why you continue getting into toxic relationships or completely lack a relationship and it's because you have a negative sense of self. Listening to self-worth or self concept subliminals may help you. You are worthy of a healthy, happy relationship but you need to be healthy yourself first. Now keep in mind, healthy does not mean without illnesses. I know from my experience with depression, I will never be healthy, but you CAN have a healthy outlook on life and a healthy sense of self, which is what you are looking for. Especially for my mentally ill friends, no one (not here, at least) is expecting you to be 100% healthy but to be as healthy as you can be, if that makes sense.
Two
Girlie, I hate to tell you but your standards are high as fuck. But is that a bad thing? You tell me. To be clear, when I say girlie I am 100% being gender neutral, this reading is for everyone ^-^! You're giving boss bitch energy, but are you actually a boss bitch? One thing about having high standards is that you also need to meet those standards yourself and you need to ask yourself "would someone like that want to date me"? For example, if you're really aiming for a basketball player or the top CEO, are you actually in a mental and physical space where that will happen? Are you out on the courts, networking and integrating yourself into sports environments? Are you working your way up to the top, making connections with higher ups and building a good reputation? I think you may have good standards, but you aren't reaching them yourself or not putting yourself in environments where you'll meet said person. Also make sure you are actually maintaining those standards too. If you think education is important, and you're actively in education and want someone else who is too, why settle for someone who hates education or isn't looking to educate themselves? Things like that make all the difference. If you want to talk the talk, you need to walk the walk too.
Three
This pile gives me much softer vibes than the other two piles. Your standards and romantic requests may be more traditional, you may want the house and the kids and the white picket fence and that's totally fine! I think you're doing well in terms of your standards, you uphold them and you aren't putting yourself in situations where you are with people who are against that dream or against those standards. I do need to warn you, however, that there are a lot of exploitive people out there, especially when it comes to wanting a more traditional homelife. Waiting is a completely fine thing to do. Don't jump at the first person that looks nice and ticks all the boxes because they may be lying. I don't see terrible things happening for you but I feel like I needed to include a warning. Just be careful and you'll get your wishes <3.
Thats all for today my friends! Check out my masterlist for my previous readings and remember to stay safe in this crazy world! Feel free to send asks with any topics you would like to see in the future.
#pick a card tarot#pick a card#pick a card reading#love tarot#free tarot reading#tarot readings#tarot reading#tarot#vampirememory#love pick a card
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Feeling Generous
Summary: You struggle to sleep in the quiet and it's keeping Nami from sleep too.
Content: gender-neutral reader (no pronouns or gendered terms but set in the women's quarters and reader's bed is located there), reader can't sleep with no noise, Nami giving "tough love" but really is just a big old snuggle bug, snuggles, set on the Thousand Sunny, Mention of Going Merry and want happens to her
Word Count: 970+
Tag List: @thesleepiestbearcub
A/N: GODDD I love this girly so much and NEED to write for her more. I hope you all enjoy!
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“I can hear your brain working,” Nami spoke suddenly from where she slept in her bed. You blew a low breath from your lungs, turning your face to find Nami’s back to you. “And you're tossing and turning.” She gave a huff, “It’s keeping me awake.”
“Sorry.” You grumbled, your irritation only growing at her complaints. An irritation that only grated at you further as you watched Nami snuggling deeper into her blankets and seemingly fall right back to sleep with no problems at all.
Silences engulfed the woman's quarters.
A silence that gnawed at the edges of your mind, just as it had hours ago when everyone had settled down for the night.
You’d been given a small reprieve from the silence when Robin pulled herself out of her bed, which lay between you and Nami’s own. She’d seen you awake. Had smiled kindly down at you and let her fingertips brush comfortingly over your forehead before heading out of the room.
You’d listened to her near-quiet footfalls for as far as your ears would allow before that all-consuming silence came flooding back in.
The silence of the night had always kept you from sleep.
The nothingness of it.
Your mother had told you to toughen up. To just shut your eyes and go to sleep but you just couldn’t. It’s part of the reason why the life of a pirate had been so appealing to you. The promise of the constant sound of the sea roaring just outside.
You had been blessed to be accepted into a loud-sleeping crew. The thin wall between the men's and women's quarters back on the Going Merry hadn’t stood a chance against it.
And it had been perfect. You hadn’t slept that well ever.
But then the poor Merry passed and while you loved the Sunny, Franky had seemed to sound-proofed the walls, leaving you in this deep silence once more.
You debated going and joining Robin in whatever she was doing. Debated just staying awake but you were stubborn. Determined to find some sort of sleep, no matter how light or restless. You wouldn’t survive the chaos of the day to come if you didn’t.
So, you squeezed your eyes shut and prayed for sleep to find you as swiftly as it could.
Seconds ticked by.
Then minutes.
The silences around you began to ring through your ears.
You tried relaxing your face. Let your jaw go slack. Loosen the tenseness of your shoulders.
Your body began to ache from the position you had chosen last and you soon found yourself shuffling around in bed, losing any progress you had made.
“That’s it.” Nami huffed, the harsh ruffle of her sheets making you jump and glance over your shoulder at her.
“I’m trying--” You started snapping at her.
“Just shut up.” She snapped back, shoving her sleeping mask up onto her forehead as she fumbled upwards. “I should charge you for the amount of sleep you’ve stolen from me.” She gruffed as she began to crawl over her bed into Robin’s. “But I won’t because I’m feeling generous tonight.” The way she all but growled the word made you feel like she was feeling quite the opposite emotion.
“What are you doing?” You gruffed right back as you pulled yourself upward.
“Lay down.” She commanded, crawling over Robin’s bed.
“No.” You snapped only making her look even more displeased. “What are you doing?” You tried again. Nami didn’t answer as she crossed the small space between Robin and your beds. “Nam--Oof!” Nami had shoved you back into the plush mattress beneath you. “Hey!” You tried to get back up once more but your body froze as Nami began to yank the blankets back enough to slip herself beneath them.
“I thought I told you to shut up.” She huffed, shimming down next to you. And shut up you did as Nami tossed you around so that her chest was pressed flush against your back. She wrapped an arm around your waist and a leg over your own, locking you in place against her. “This okay?” She sounded so annoyed--but her thumb brushing over your stomach oh so soothingly and face nuzzling into your neck made you think drastically differently.
“Y-yeah.” You managed to get out, Nami’s breath huffing out against your skin making it spark.
“My…” Nami hesitated in what she was saying like she was nervous to continue telling you whatever was on her mind. “My sister used to snuggle with me when I was scared. You know…before he came.” You gave a tiny nod in understanding. Before Arlong had invaded her home and forced her to work for him. “Thought it might work on you too.”
Silence filtered back through the room. A silence that didn’t seem all so vast with Nami’s warm body pressed against yours. With the sound of her soft breath in your ear.
“I’m…not the biggest fan of the quiet and dark I think.” You murmured so quietly it was hardly above a whisper.
The air fell still once more, Nami’s arm tightening around your waist a bit more.
“I’ll see what Usopp can make for you…maybe like a white noise machine? And a night light?” She whispered in your ear, sending an involuntary shiver down your spine.
“It's okay--”
“It’s not. You’ve been sleeping like shit.” She snapped softly. “Usopp will do it. Maybe I’ll knock a few berries off his debt to me.” You chuckled at her.
“Thank you…for this.” Nami snuggled deeper against you and you found your body instantly relaxing against her.
“Like I said, I’m feeling generous tonight.” Her nose nuzzled your jaw as she spoke.
Silence filled the space once more. Silences you hardly heard over Nami’s comforting hold and breath. Silence you managed to find sleep in. Good, warm sleep.
More Like This: Demons and Claws {Zoro x gn!reader} ⋆ Couldn't Sleep? {Robin x gn!reader} ⋆ Just Trying To Sleep {Luffy x gn!reader} ⋆ How Can I Be Of Service? {Sanji x gn!reader} ⋆ Nightmares {Usopp x gn!reader}
Ao3 link: Restless Nights With The Straw Hats
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Things I hate that I thought were tumblr exclusives, but that I've put up with IRL this year: being called girlie, bitch, babygirl, and sweetie and then getting people get mad at me when I say I'm a trans man. "That's not a gendered term!" "It's gender-neutral!" That's nice. I set a boundary and since you've decided not to respect it, we don't talk now. Yes, even if we're on a group project together. The final is only worth 20% of our grade. I have a 98.7% in this class. I can take the hit to my grade.
There is no girlie bitch babygirl sweetie here. My gender is many things. It is none of those. I don't care that people tell me this means I hate AAVE or I'm a gender essentialist on tumblr or being called sensitive IRL. Find a babygirl girlie sweetie bitch to go cry to.
There's immense power in realizing you can just opt out of shit. You know that quote, "canceling plans is like heroin"? Shutting down is like a really good dose of Clonazepam. Sucks that your grade is about to suffer. Sounds like a you problem.
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໒⦂ 𝐃𝐈𝐒-𝐌𝐎𝐈 𝐓𝐎𝐔𝐓.
synposis. you ask the fontainian boys and girlies for a lesson in the language of their nation — french, to better understand them and become closer.
genre. fluff + crack
ft. navia, lyney, furina, neuvillette
disclaimer. i had french for seven years in school, but my knowledge in the language is in no way perfect, so if i make mistakes, i apologize in advance! pointing out mistakes is okay, but don’t be an ass about it. furthermore, any terms of endearment that are written here will be used with their respective possessive pronoun to keep it gender neutral. for example, cherie is feminine, so i will put ma in front of it. cœur is masculine, so i will put mon. i hope this is lucid enough! lastly, if any qualities used ( fav color, macaron ) do not align with your preferences, feel free to change it in your head — i just used my own to make the sentence flow. OH and one more note i promise- some things can’t really be translated the same in english as they sound in french! mon cœur for example is not really a term of endearment you hear the same in english.. so if the translation sounds weird, it’s just because some things can’t sound the same unfortunately.. THATS WHY FOREIGN LANGUAGES ARE MORE ROMANTIC🗣️🗣️
gender neutral! reader
➫ 𝓝𝗔𝗩𝗜𝗔 ୨୧ ˎˊ˗
⌗ oh she was so excited when you showed interest in her native language, it was just so romantic and things couldn’t be expressed as deeply in english as they were in french.
⌗ very patient with teaching you! she prefers a more verbal approach with teaching you and despite her formal nature, she teaches you a casual and easy way of speaking that doesn’t make you sound robotic😭
⌗ “imparfait is used a lot when written, in speech however — between you and me.. you don’t hear it really often! so we’re just gonna focus on le passé composé~ <3”
⌗ if you feel insecure about your lack of accent, it’s okay ( bc me too. ), navia won’t judge you for it! she’s just happy that you’re willing to learn for her!
⌗ likes to set up a scenario for you to test your proficiency! this time around, she had invited clorinde to join you both for tea and macarons.
⌗ clorinde was as patient as a one came.. and was happy to be having navia’s macarons once more.
⌗ “ah~ y/n, voulez-vous un autre macaron? quelle saveur souhaitez-vous?” / “ah~ y/n, would you like another macaron? which flavor would you like?”
⌗ clorinde is just sipping away her tea as the gears are turning in your head to answer navia properly. “oui.. um, je voulais un de chocolat, s’il vous plaît..” / “yes.. um, i’d like a chocolate one, please.”
⌗ cue uncertainty in your words but navia just smiles brightly before clapping. “très bien, ma cherie~! voilà, un macaron de chocolat.” / “very good, my darling! here you go, one chocolate macaron.”
⌗ despite your embarrassment, the tea party went surprisingly well? you eventually got a little more comfortable despite your easy way of speaking, but navia couldn’t be prouder<3
➫ 𝓛𝗬𝗡𝗘𝗬 ୨୧ ˎˊ˗
⌗ he is a total tease with it and is the kind of tutor that would ask what you are referring to or press for more information just to mess around with you.
⌗ say he asks what your favorite color is, he’ll totally 100% ask WHY it’s your favorite color, and will await with this innocent smile for you to explain. like so.. “pourquoi le rouge est ta couleur préférée, hm? explique-moi s’il vous plaît, mon cœur~” / “why is red your favorite color, hm? please explain to me, my heart~”
⌗ “one of these days lyney, i swear..” you’d mutter and he’d just put a hand to his ear. “hm, qu’est ce-que vous avez dit? je ne comprends pas!” / “hm, what was that you said? i don’t understand!”
⌗ he is fr testing your patience, and now you are wondering whether or not it was a good idea to say you wanted to learn french. he is the most meddlesome teacher!
⌗ i feel like he’s one of those that refuses to answer you unless you respond in french. doesn’t have to be perfect, but he needs to hear you trying! thinks it’s the best way for you to pick up the language — an environment where you are inclined to speak it!
⌗ he probably makes lynette and freminet join in on this scheme of his.. fremmy is mouthing apologies in english to you while lynette is apologizing for her troublesome brother.
⌗ it’s needless to say, despite the extremities, lyney’s method kind of worked? i mean you’re in an environment where all you hear is french and you are forced to speak it in order to communicate with your lover and his family, sooo.. you’re bound to pick it up. sorta.
⌗ when arlecchino was in town again for a visit to check on her kids, you had this idea once you felt you knew enough of the language to ask for her approval on you dating lyney, since she hadn’t known yet.
⌗ so with lyney present, you shocked him completely by walking up to the fatui harbinger with a shaky confidence, holding your heart as you stared up at her. “madame arlecchino.. il m’a fallu beacoup de temps pour apprendre les mots.. mais,” you paused, sucking in a breath. “je voudrais avouer que je suis très amoureux de ton fils.. et je souhaite votre approbation!” / “miss arlecchino, it took me a lot of time to learn the words.. but, i wanted to confess that i am very much in love with your son, and i wish for your approval!”
⌗ lyney was in complete shock of what his ‘father’ might say, but when the smallest smile painted her lips, relief washed over him. “vous devez vraiment l’aimer beaucoup, si vous avez appris le français pour me dire ça.. vous avez mon approbation.” / “you must love him very much, then, if you learned french to tell me this.. you have my approval.”
➫ 𝓕𝗨𝗥𝗜𝗡𝗔 ୨୧ ˎˊ˗
⌗ oh, you thought lyney was bad? think again. furina is on another level of teaching french and just as troublesome, if not- worse, as he is with his methods of teaching you..
⌗ she’s got you writing, doing grammar and spelling, speaking, reading — everything you can imagine. all because you showed the tiniest bit of interest in the language since furina’s performances are often in french.
⌗ in hindsight, you just wanted to learn to understand her better whenever you attended her shows</3
⌗ when she realizes she’s overdoing things, she eases up and recoils a little, not wanting to overflow you with information. it was meant to be something fun for you both anyway to connect you more, not another year of education for you..
⌗ and so she switches to another method of teaching — which is practicing her scripts with you!
⌗ she helps you with your lines, and whatever you don’t understand, she will explain to you so that you guys can have your little performance together<3
⌗ she’ll summon her little animal friends with her vision to act as supporting cast while the two of you act out your lines. cue you being a flustered mess cuz you’re worried about your pronunciation and emotion since hers is so on point, but her eyes sparkle when she hears you trying. you can tell she’s glad you wanted to do this with her.
⌗ some scripts include her singing and it’s just the most beautiful thing. you had heard her once singing la vie en rose in the shower while reading a book and ever since, you’d wished to hear her again.
⌗ “et tu, mon ange..” she cupped your cheek, eyes filled with love for you. “mon étoile.. ma raison de vivre, de tout mon coeur, corps et âme, t’adore tendrement.” / “and you, my angel.. my star.. my reason for living, with all of my heart, body and soul, i adore you dearly.”
⌗ despite it being part of her lines, the script she was following, you had felt every word that was expressed and knew that furina had meant it all.
➫ 𝓝𝗘𝗨𝗩𝗜𝗟𝗟𝗘𝗧𝗧𝗘 ୨୧ ˎˊ˗
⌗ similar to navia, he’s very patient with you and not as strict as he looks like he would be. he’s very gentle and sweet about it.
⌗ when you told him you wanted to learn his native language, you could see the slightest hint of elation in his visage. if you were around water, it was bound to twinkle in response to his emotions.
⌗ it was decided that he would teach you as best as he could, and his methods were a little less verbal than the others though. he wanted to teach you the written part to help you with vocabulary and forming sentences. if you had that down, you would have a little more ability and inspiration to respond to him more easily.
⌗ although, he loved reading to you as well, even if it made you a little sleepy. his voice was just so soothing, you couldn’t help yourself when it came to monsieur neuvillette</3
⌗ however he made a point to do this after you guys practiced, since he realized it serenaded you more than it taught you.. but he didn’t mind, you looked so peaceful and adorable<3
⌗ still don’t have the pronunciation down for the very machine he used everyday for trials? he’s got you. “selon le jugement de l’oratrice de mécanique d’analyse cardinale..” yes. yes i did that. no translation needed.
⌗ it made you giggle a little when he said it, him obviously not phased by you asking him to pronounce it — little did he know you just wanted to hear him say it cuz it was silly..
⌗ one day you bring him a book series called ‘fables de fontaine’ — which are in essence, folktales of fontaine, with the intention of reading them with his assistance.
⌗ it made him smile to see you shyly hold up the stack of volumes, but he nodded and sat you down on his lap to read them together, as a means of testing your proficiency.. and maybe- just maybe.. cuz you wanted an excuse to be close with him.
⌗ regardless, he didn’t mind and rather valued the time you shared together since he was the ludex of fontaine — meaning he was often very busy and unavailable</3 so whatever time he got with you, was always and forever cherished by him<3 even if you kind of just maybe.. fell asleep midway while reading.. it just made him chuckle before pressing a chaste kiss to your forehead. “beaux rêves, mon bijou.” / “sweet dreams, my jewel.”
notes. i had this in my drafts for ages, to any of my french speaking readers — please don’t butcher me :’))) anyway i hope this was okay, little different from what i normally do since i don’t really showcase me writing in other languages cuz it’s more work to add translations — and it’s difficult to stay gender neutral😵💫
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Thoughts on remadora?
thank you very much for the asks, anons!
while they are by no means my otp, i really enjoy remadora as pairing - and i think they’re fully up there among the canon couples in terms of being an amazing vehicle through which to explore all sorts of questions about life and love - which i am aware is a sufficiently controversial statement that it involves an immediate engagement with some discourse…
because remadora girlies [gender neutral] get an enormous amount of shit within the fandom, particularly from fans who consider wolfstar to be a more plausible pairing for lupin than tonks. i have seen remadora shippers called homophobes for simply enjoying the couple, justified with the bizarre idea that it disrespects remus' relationship with sirius [so... the non-canon one?] to put them together. i have seen tonks turned into a pathetic shrew who is trying to keep remus from the real love of his life by trapping him with an unwanted baby. i have seen remadora shippers get a lot of the usual stuff that people who prefer the canon-endgame couples do [that to ship a canon pair is boring, that it is indicative of a lack of talent, that it indicates an uncritical support for jkr] magnified to eleven because tonks has the temerity to be a barrier to remus’ relationship with the fandom’s favourite hot and brooding man.
obviously, this is bullshit - primarily because its unreasonable and cruel to invest so much time and energy being mean to people because of their harry potter shipping preferences [fandom should never be that deep].
but it’s also a disappointment to me personally because it means that it can be very hard to find the sort of remadora i like without looking like i’m coming to contribute to the pile-on. because where many remadora fans and i don’t see eye-to-eye is that i have absolutely no interest in thinking about them as a relationship which is actually functional. and, all too often, i find myself sifting through fics which do prefer to interpret them like this - as romantic and passionate and stable - largely, i think it’s fair to say, as a defensive move against the tide of “urgh, imagine shipping that” nonsense - even though all the evidence of canon is that they are… very much not.
i am aware of the pottermore article which smoothes the edges of lupin’s canonical reaction to tonks’ feelings for him in half-blood prince - but, while i read this as something of a retcon to make the relationship more palatable, i also don’t think that assuming that both tonks and lupin’s attraction to each other was sincere precludes them being as dysfunctional as they canonically are. i don’t go in for the common anti-remadora argument that tonks “forces” him into a relationship with her - it’s clear in half-blood prince that it’s not only her who has discussed her feelings with molly and arthur weasley, lupin is definitely flirting with her when they pick harry up in order of the phoenix, lupin is an adult man [no matter other power imbalances between him and tonks - such as the fact that she is an agent of the state which oppresses him] who possesses the capacity to refuse her advances, and - since teddy’s conception is not immaculate - he has no issue with enjoying a sexual relationship with her even if he then wants to run away from the product of that.
instead, what i like with remadora is that they reveal something which goes against the grain of the rest of the series: that love is not always enough. throughout the seven-book canon, we see time and time again the idea that love - and, crucially, love-as-noble-suffering and love-as-sacrifice - is enough to overcome any problem. entire civil service collaborating with a terrorist regime? don’t trouble yourself, love has won. your mother dying in childbirth leaving you to be neglected in a state institution? your own fault you’re not interested in love.
i understand the genre reasons for this, but i also love the way in which lupin especially exists on the margins of these genre conventions [just as he exists on the margins of wizarding society!]. i’m always struck in deathly hallows that he’s the only person who’s actually realistic about the demands of war - particularly when he tells harry that it is breathtakingly naive for him to think he can get through the fighting without having to shoot to kill - and that part of him having to be shuffled out of the way when harry tells him to return to the pregnant tonks is because, were the story focused on realism, the idea of a wanted man who is considered an unhuman by the state fleeing in order to guarantee the safety of his wife and unborn child becomes eminently reasonable and harry's defense of the nuclear family embarrassingly unradical.
and so i like the idea of lupin seeing tonks - and tonks seeing lupin - initially as just a bit of fun, as the two of them being just two chill single people who think the other is hot and interesting and want to bang because of it.
[which is something fandoms in general really struggle with as a concept. we like epic love stories - and you won't find me objecting to that! - but we're less good at thinking about casual sexual attraction or transient friendships, and how these can be transformative and meaningful without having to end up going any sort of distance.]
and i then like the idea of the relationship being forced into a profundity it doesn’t really have the juice to sustain by the sheer avalanche of grief which besets the two of them - sirius, dumbledore, mad-eye, ted - and by the pressure of the war and the fact that the order is scrambling and the hangover of remus' self-destruction in half-blood prince which makes each cling to the other as a life-raft. i like remadora as something codependent and messy and strange and sad, and i don’t think this prevents it being sincere and fun and based in mutual attraction, but instead that these positive qualities can exist in conjunction with the fact that, without the war, it would have been a summer of fucking and that was probably it.
on tonks herself, i don’t think i can say it better than @evesaintyves in this meta on her character. i’ve been really uncomfortable with quite a lot of stuff i’ve seen recently which has taken against the idea that tonks can be meaningfully read as queer on the basis of what we find in the text, above all because it so often comes with the implication that one cannot imagine her in her canon endgame pairing and presume that she’s something other than straight or cisgender. eve sets out an excellent case for tonks as bolshy and liberated and in tune with herself and fun and confused and in flux and still figuring stuff out about who she is and where she’s going - and this translates, may i say, to an astonishingly beautiful way of writing her, lupin, and the dysfunction inherent between them which i highly recommend you read.
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Hello everyone!! How are you doing??
Today I'm here with a new injured posepack, this time some poses for a sim trying to figure out what's going on on the other side of the hospital door and a Doctor talking to them. They can be use by female or male sims. I tried to make them as gender neutral as possible, but female sim in duo and trio poses may seem a little girly on male sims.
I hope you like them and find them useful to tell your own stories.
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What is on it?
7 solo poses + 3 duo poses + 1 trio pose.
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Andrew's poses player
Teleport any sim by Scumbumbo or Mccc by deaderpool.
Get To Work game pack's double door.
MB Clipboard accessory
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and you were more beautiful when you could fly ~ ★
hey there! you can call me maggie! (or babna lol) i have mentioned my irl first name a couple times tho
they/she/he pronouns page :3
please use gender neutral/fem terms. im okay with and use stuff like dude and girly in a gender neutral way, lmk if you don't want me to :)
everything is platonic!! i say things like "<3" and "ily"platonically, so if you're uncomfortable with this lmk :)
also i swear sometimes quite a bit, i don't usually tag it but i might if there's a lot or smth
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i am a minor. adults are okay but no 18+ or big nsfw please
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not really any dni's, unless you're someone listed above or a weirdo (you know who you are)
more under the cut!
interests, hobbies, and fandoms
music ~ ☆ taylor swift, olivia rodrigo (shes literally me yall), conan gray, chappell roan, ajr, tx2, noahfinnce, cavetown, eminem, mcr, green day, måneskin, lots of broadway musicals, and MUCH more
im always looking to broaden my music horizons, so lmk if you have any suggestions! my music taste is crazy i like basically anything so i'll probably love any of y'all's recs lol
musicals (yes they get their own section) ~ ★ EPIC: the musical, hamilton, in the heights, SIX, dear evan hansen, be more chill, heathers, (kinda) wicked, les miserables, and beetlejuice, but the list is always expanding
movies/tv shows ~ ☆ the owl house, gravity falls, mean girls (movie and musicals), house md (not done yet, on season 7? i think), hazbin hotel, helluva boss, percy jackson, bluey, all versions of tmnt (especially rottmnt), the hunger games, metal family
video games ~ ★ minecraft, animal crossing, splatoon (2 and 3), kirby, pokémon, stardew valley
i have my own pink switch lite :3
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im currently reading circe, tsoa, and the iliad (huge greek mythology phase rn lol)
i'm a musician! i play clarinet in my school band and flute, piano, ukulele, and guitar in my own time :)
i am also a scout (bsa), my rank is tenderfoot :3
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@/katsika: etm oc rp (not rly active)
@/not-the-musician: pjo oc rp (also not rly active)
and some secret others :3
☆~ credit ~★ babna origin 😨 @/saradika and @/saraduka-graphucs – the beautiful dividers and "introduction" banner my pfp and header are from pinterest and the lyrics are from beetlebug's "lepidopterist" ♡
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