#ghostingsucks

[sincerelytoyat]

Have you ever been ghosted by a friend or someone you are dating? Or, have you ghosted someone? Chances are the answer is yes---to both questions! In today’s dating culture approximately 50 percent of men and women have been ghosted or have done the ghosting; and whether it be by a friend or someone you are dating, being ghosted sucks and can actually leave psychological bruises and scars. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss the phenomenon of ghosting, particularly why people do it and why it hurts so much, and share how to move forward after being ghosted.  ————————————————- Listen to this full episode on iTunes, Spotify, SoundCloud, or Stitcher. #figureoutyourlifepod #podsincolor #dopeblackpods #podcastingwhileblack #wocpodcast #wocpodcasters #blackpodcasts #blackpodcaster #blackpodcastsmatter #blackpodcastnetwork #supportblackpodcasts #dopeblackpodcasts #blackgirlpodcaster #blackwomenpodcast #blackgirlswhopodcast #ghosting #ghostingsucks #ghosted #stopghosting #ghostingisforcowards https://www.instagram.com/p/B355PYKlTMP/?igshid=174odvdyur05e

[thedatingvigilante]

The Ghost that comes back  #9

Ghosting sucks! It happens to everyone, What’s even worse is when that ghost comes back wanting a second chance or has some inane excuse as to why they ghosted in the first place.

My theory is that men, I’m sure like women, entertain multiple conversations with people at the same time and gravitate to the person that is most likely to fulfill their instant need for gratification. 

When the other prospects don’t seem as interesting or require more effort to woo, ghosting is inevitable.

So what happens when that ghost reappears weeks, months or even years later like nothing has happened? How do you handle it? Do you give them a second chance?

I’m a big believer in ball busting😂 If the person was not mature enough to tell you they lost interest or that they have made a connection they would like to see through, then I like to play a little game.

FAV ghosting recall story:  Guy ghosts after making a FIRM date.  Date, time and location all established.  Day of date, I text to confirm and get NO response. Clearly, another fishy in the sea has caught this man’s attention or he has died.  There really is no other viable explanation for ghosting.  6 weeks later he texts me out of the blue and says “hey, how about that drink?”  So I coyly reply “yes please 😉”. We establish where and when to meet and I tell him that I hope he actually comes this time and he tells me some sorry excuse about having had  to “work” the last time.  He is a physical therapist.  Our previous date was set for 9:30 as his clinic closes at 9pm.  He ghosted me at 3pm lol.  

So flash forward we are sitting in the pub, we order drinks and I lean over with a cute smile and say “so what happened last time?”.  THIS was his explanation. He had a last minute client show up and he couldn't leave.  Really???  At 3pm you knew that a last minute client would show up at 9pm?  I called him out on his bullshit.  He then got real angry at me for accusing him of lying .  Funny how a liar gets so angry when they get called out 🤣

He was raising his voice to the point where the other patrons in the bar were staring as I sat there and smiled.  “You agreed to a date just so you can shame me?”  YUP!!

He grabbed his jacket from the back of the seat and flung it causing the chair to topple over.  “Go sweetheart, we are done here, I’ll take care of the drinks”. I winked at him and he literally ran out the door. GROWN ass man ran out the door! 

Bartender came to check on me and asked me if I was okay.  I laughed and told him he had it coming.  Bartender told me drinks were on him as it was fun for him to watch😍

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[healingmyself]

...just cant...

[gracieurrutia]

He will know what he lost when time passes by....

[sincerelytoyat]

Whether it be by a friend or someone you are dating, being ghosted sucks and can actually leave psychological bruises and scars. _ To hear more about the phenomenon of ghosting, particularly why people do it, why it hurts so much, and how to move forward after being ghosted, CLICK the LINK in our BIO to listen to the episode on ghosting. ————————————————- Listen to this full episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, SoundCloud, Stitcher, & More! (Click Link in Bio) #figureoutyourlifepod #podsincolor #dopeblackpods #podcastingwhileblack #wocpodcast #wocpodcasters #blackpodcasts #blackpodcaster #blackpodcastsmatter #blackpodcastnetwork #supportblackpodcasts #dopeblackpodcasts #blackgirlpodcaster #blackwomenpodcast #blackgirlswhopodcast #podcastingwhileblack #blckcreatives #ghosting #ghostingsucks #ghostingmemes https://www.instagram.com/p/CDz5-yzJg5v/?igshid=345wqyz6rma3

[healingmyself]

نازنین

[sincerelytoyat]

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Why does ghosting feel so bad? • • 👩🏾‍🏫: Ghosting gives you no cues for how to react. And even worse, it makes you question yourself, especially your judgment. Like “Why didn’t I see this coming?” And, the truth is, you will never know if or when you will be ghosted. The best thing you can do for yourself is to question them and not yourself for the ghosting and then move on. ————————————————- Listen to this full episode on iTunes, Spotify, SoundCloud, or Stitcher. #figureoutyourlifepod #podsincolor #dopeblackpods #podcastingwhileblack #wocpodcast #wocpodcasters #blackpodcasts #blackpodcaster #blackpodcastsmatter #blackpodcastnetwork #supportblackpodcasts #dopeblackpodcasts #blackgirlpodcaster #blackwomenpodcast #blackgirlswhopodcast #ghosting #ghostingsucks #beingghosted #ghoster #datingproblems #relationshipissues #blockanddelete #moveonwithyourlife #itsthemnotyou #itsnotyourfault #itsnotyouitsthem #emotionalwarfare (at El Gran Cenote, Tulum) https://www.instagram.com/p/B3-p4R1lu3r/?igshid=1f1m2xu7c7cvk

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Why do people ghost? 👻 • 👩🏾‍🏫: People engage in ghosting because they are trying to avoid their own emotional discomfort and they give zero fucks about how it makes the other person feel. 🖤 We should be able to express ourselves openly and honestly with those we are dating. But, in today’s society, some folks would rather ghost someone than discuss their feelings. It’s passive aggressive and plain petty! ———————————————————————- Listen to this full episode on iTunes, Spotify, SoundCloud, or Stitcher. #figureoutyourlifepod #podsincolor #dopeblackpods #podcastingwhileblack #wocpodcast #wocpodcasters #blackpodcasts #blackpodcaster #blackpodcastsmatter #blackpodcastnetwork #supportblackpodcasts #dopeblackpodcasts #blackgirlpodcaster #blackwomenpodcast #blackgirlswhopodcast #ghosted #ghosting #pettyaf #protectyourheart #datingproblems #weallgotissues #ghostingsucks (at El Gran Cenote, Tulum) https://www.instagram.com/p/B39jzrAnmpC/?igshid=1chw4v5w6hlw7

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Why do people ghost? 👩🏾‍🏫: People engage in ghosting because they are trying to avoid their own emotional discomfort and they give zero fucks about how it makes the other person feel. We should be able to express ourselves openly and honestly with those we are dating. But, in today’s society, some folks would rather ghost someone than discuss their feelings. It’s passive aggressive and plain petty! ————————————————- Listen to this full episode on iTunes, Spotify, SoundCloud, or Stitcher. #figureoutyourlifepod #podsincolor #dopeblackpods #podcastingwhileblack #wocpodcast #wocpodcasters #blackpodcasts #blackpodcaster #blackpodcastsmatter #blackpodcastnetwork #supportblackpodcasts #dopeblackpodcasts #blackgirlpodcaster #blackwomenpodcast #blackgirlswhopodcast #ghosted #ghosting #pettyaf #protectyourheart #datingproblems #weallgotissues #ghostingsucks (at El Gran Cenote, Tulum) https://www.instagram.com/p/B37lCB6pbf7/?igshid=1qhqu76phl4hz