#gender incongruence

[alexisyoko]

Please check it out! (I added some Black Butler related tags because I used images of me cosplaying for comparison and not only.)

[robotmechagirl]

This public diary is mostly for me,

But it is also for you dear reader. I am often forgetful and outside my body so I took to writing down my thoughts in a notebook to have something to anchor myself. A lot of my notebooks have gotten destroyed with no one else having read them, which feels like a tragedy, so I started writing here in case my experience helps you in some small way. My intent isn't necessarily to write anything deep, or profound for you to ponder. Nor is it to amass any sort of wealth or fame. I struggled with being a transgender person for so long and was only able to help myself because of the visibility of other queer people, especially transgender people. (Especially you Julia Kaye <3) So my intent is to be visible for you to see and maybe you'll be able to relate to me in a way that helps you grow. Today has been a bit harder... My hands and joints are doing this new thing where they ache before, and apparently during, a storm. I mostly feel it in my hands, wrists, and knees. This is quite flustering, though maybe it's because it's supposed to be a really big storm. Maybe it will not be a common occurrence.

Struggling with my self image. Am wearing vintage clothing. This beautiful blue skirt, a red belt with a brass buckle, a white, collared shirt with frilly sleeve ends and red sailboats all over, and my pink glasses. My slightly faded, rose gold/magenta hair highlights are showing purple tips wear there was still some teal from the previous purple dye fading and it's styled into pig tails. I thought maybe pig tails make me look a little immature, but it felt fun so I did. Comments I got were that: I looked like Pippi Longstocking (Which was kind of the vibe). That I looked like Raggedy Ann. (Meh, that's fair) That I looked like Harley Quinn (Kind of a lazy comparison because they pretty much honed in on the grown woman wearing pig tails thing. But I do share a couple of personality traits with her so maybe not an extreme stretch.) That I look like I'm from the 50's (Not entirely untrue, but this could just as easily be 60's or 70's) And a friend remarked that I tend to more often resemble Princess Bubblegum because of the vast amount of overlapping character traits. (Doubt that has anything to do with me aesthetically) Looking at my face in the mirror I can see the feminization hitting me extremely hard. It's definitely gotten rounder, with a little more fat. If I just looked at me from the front perspective I appear pretty similar to my mom. Front perspective is honestly not that bad despite my grievances. When I turn my face to the side however, I can really see where male puberty kicked my ass. When looking at my body I can see where the fat has redistributed itself to make me slightly more curvy. I'm kinda still too skinny for my liking, and my body has wider shoulder with more narrow hips. Despite that I feel like I've seen plenty of cis women with this type of build before so I'm relatively unbothered by it. It's like... 3 months past a year of HRT I think and my breasts are starting to gain some actual definition. They appear to be in Tanner Stage 3. It's difficult to say if they're still growing, I'm fine even if they don't, but every once in a while I catch hints that they still are. When I lay down or press them they spill over past my sides. Starting to be able to see shadows hit them in a way that shows they're curving, they're about an inch from touching each other, and I feel like more of them are showing from underneath my bras. My voice is kind of messing with me because I can't always control it despite my efforts in voice training. I certainly can't sing. I lucked out in that I was getting miss/ma'am on the phone, through drive-thrus, and whenever it was detached from my face even before I ever started voice training. I've gotten fairly good at voice feminization since, but am realizing I'll never be perfect with it. I sometimes worry about those moments where my voice is outing me and am reconsidering having surgery on my vocal chords because of that. Tonight I'm feeling kind of lonely. My queerness was only received well by my mom and my immediate siblings. I lost a lot of people when coming out and some for other reasons. I've managed to make some good connections here, but it still feels like I spend a lot of my time alone. In that sense I still feel pretty isolated. It's the loneliness more than anything that's wearing on me. I do have plans to remedy the loneliness. After this move is complete I can throw myself into more creative projects, maybe join a queer coalition, and on occasion go socialize at the gay bar in town. If nothing else; it will keep me busy and channeling into healthy outlets.

It kind of shocks me that I've made it this far into my transition. Both the physical changes and the personal growth seems so slow, but the further I look back in time the more apparent just how quickly things have been happening is. I'm getting closer and closer to that appointment for consultation for facial and bottom surgeries in June to the point where it hardly feels like a wait left at all. Then I'll know whether I can start electrolysis before or after the facial feminization surgery. This got me thinking about getting my gender marker and birth certificate changed as well as updating my passport and I just don't know if I'm going to be able to fly that under this current administration. I'm kind of worried that if I try to update my legal documents, driver's license included, that I'll end up one of those horror stories where they change my legal name back to my deadname. I had to pay a lot of money and go through some legal hoops just to get my name recognized by the government. And I know my legal documents outing me did cause some issues when looking for work, and will cause issues in the future. This is kind of a long entry, and I'm starting to feel the full effects of fatigue, so I'll wrap up here. If you've read this far I am deeply touched and my heart goes out to you dear reader. <3

[femalefoxs]

Just had my second opinion (protocol, I wasn’t an edge case) and nothing weird came up so I have also been given green light on the gender incongruence (new term from the ICD 11 for gender dysphoria that the Netherlands is gonna use)

This means I can continue on my transition journey

[rottenteeth]

If you say you don't need dysphoria to be transgender you need to follow it up with the need to have gender incongruence. Not doing that makes people assume being trans is a choice. It is not. If you have chosen to be trans you will have a rude fucking awakening soon.

For most people gender incongruence causes dysphoria but for some nb people that may not be the case.

Also social, mental, and emotional dysphoria are all real types of dysphoria... people seem to forget that

Don't bring up euphoria if you experience euphoria that means that there is some underlying dislike for your agab.

[tpwrtrmnky]

Look, all I'm saying is, when I went to a hair removal clinic to get this bullshit off my face I was advised that hirsutism in women is a serious medical condition and before paying up i should make sure my doctor would note in my journal that i have it, so that it would be eligible for coverage

So I checked aaaaaaand nope, not when you're trans, specifically. Then there's no proven psychological benefit of removing facial hair, apparently.

That is the difference.

[ohchr-news]

What Is Gender Incongruence (GI)?

By Julie Lynn Marks and Medically Reviewed by Dr. Allison Young, MD

While the American Psychiatric Association (APA) uses the term “gender dysphoria,” it is not the preferred term worldwide.

Some people experience feelings of discomfort, uneasiness, conflict, or distress when their biological sex and their sense of gender identity are at odds. (e.g.) These feelings are what’s known as gender incongruence.

The International Classification of Diseases (ICD), a diagnostic tool used by healthcare providers globally, uses the term “gender incongruence” instead to reflect contemporary understanding of gender identity and sexual health.

[dykeulous]

Per your response to the radblr hot takes post, how is it possible that dysphoria can be biological but saying that so can men's violence is bioessentialist? I agree with the latter, saying that men are biologically enclined to violence absolves them of responsibility for actively choosing to be misogynistic, however the former just perplexes me. If all our ideas of femininity/masculinity are a product of socialisation (which they are), exactly what type of behaviour would "biological dysphoria" in a post-gender sociaty make you replicate and how would any of that be a sign of a disorder instead of natural variation within human personalities?

i believe you are fundamentally misunderstanding dysphoria, especially given your last point about “natural variation within human personalities”. dysphoria has nothing to do with personality, and the current social pressure directed at dysphoric people, which stems from the patriarchy, usually connects dysphoric people to forming identities around femininity, masculinity, and androgyny [note that not all dysphoric/trans people do]. in a post-gender world, those societal factors would be eliminated, which would mean that people likely wouldn’t form identities around gender, because gender would no longer exist. this doesn’t somehow prove that dysphoria is inherently societally produced. i don’t think calling it “biological” would be the right word, either; it essentially is neurological. there would be no behaviors for people to replicate around gender in a post-gender society, and the majority of trans people only replicate stereotypical gender roles to integrate better within the gendered society, since it is safer to do so, and because society creates social dysphoria which pressures dysphoric people to overperform in order to “prove” themselves.

that being said, i do believe that there are many different forms of dysphoria, and that much of it would be gone under a non-gendered world. rapid onset, as an example, would be completely done away with, as would presumably social dysphoria [which is the fault of cisheteropatriarchal expectations being forced & utilized against dysphoric folk, btw; not something trans people “weaponize” to harm women or whatever has been circulating around radblr these days– social dysphoria is important to critique, and it is important to emphasize that it strictly stems from the gender system, but it is also important to note that trans people essentially aren’t the ones at fault for this. after all, it is dysphoria– not a self-controlled, conscious misogynistic movement]. physical & sex dysphoria aren’t always neurological either, and radfems are right on the money when they point out that society can in fact create dysphoria & in turn then create desires to fix one’s body, inducing self-hatred & self-consciousness, coming to conclusions that one’s body is somehow wrong & in need to be fixed– and this is a conversation that the trans community desperately needs to be having, no matter how uncomfortable it is. but it is also wrong to diminish & undermine the existence of not only the painful mental health condition dysphoria is; but also the fully neurological type, which sometimes doesn’t even manifest in an mentally ill way, rather a neurodivergent way. sometimes, dysphoria just is. for some people, it doesn’t form the need to modify the body, it doesn’t form the need to revolve one’s identity around gender roles– it is simply ever-present, and would persist despite any societal changes, revolutions, ideas and culture.

[thespacelizard]

nothing has made me more aggressively nonbinary with none gender than the constant assumptions through all the medical transition shit that i've done that i simply must want to register as male and change my name to be male and update my records to be male and use he/him in everything

no bitch i want to opt out of everything!!! he/him privileges REVOKED

[anendtopursuit]

I GOT A TESTOSTERONE PRESCRIPTION YEAAAAAAAAA

[oidheadh-con-culainn]

watching black sails while having a popular post about knights sure is making me think about pirates and knights as very specific romantic ideals of violent men bound to each other by oaths, one ostensibly within the law and one emphatically outside of it

[scytheral]

✦ㅤENNORMiSSEㅤA gender That feels / is Paradoxical. A enigma Of ambiguity , Evident anomaly && incongruousness , A contradiction of Puzzles , a Numb mystery At it ' s Journey , anomalous Essence && Similars.

[ PT / Ennormisse: a gender that feels/is paradoxical. a enigma of ambiguity, evident anomaly and incongruousness, a contradiction of puzzles, a numb mystery at it's journey, anomalous essence and similars. / END PT. ]

─── ✦✦✦ ───ㅤCoined by The Prince.ㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤ─── ✦✦✦ ───ㅤRequested by Noboo.

[aq2003]

hello tedx talk about the concept of female actors playing hamlet from 4 years ago i wish you would not include funny haha gender essentialism in your points about how a woman would fit the character (because the concept that women take forever to make a decision is, in fact, a product of the sexist status quo you are trying to criticize) and instead consider that hamlet is someone that is constantly being made aware of their wrongness and inability to conform to nearly every standard set upon them, including gender, and so much of their inner conflict and self-hatred comes from that. yes a hamlet who is socialized as a woman would be extremely interesting but it's not just because girls deserve representation of a morally gray character w depression but because hamlet faces this expectation of docility in the face of an injustice that only they perceive, and they are made so aware abt how they're near constantly being watched, and they are so intelligent and talks circles around ppl yet they have so few ppl who they can trust who will actually listen to them and this all gains a layer of deeper meaning if it is made abundantly clear that this is all a direct result of misogyny

[ohchr-news]

Gender incongruence and gender dysphoria in childhood and adolescence—current insights in diagnostics, management, and follow-up via downloadable PDF.

Gender incongruence (GI) is defined as a condition in which the gender identity of a person does not align with the gender assigned at birth. Awareness and more social acceptance have paved the way for early medical intervention about two decades ago and are now part of good clinical practice although much robust data is lacking. Medical and mental treatment in adolescents with GI is complex and is recommended to take place within a team of mental health professionals, psychiatrists, endocrinologists, and other healthcare providers. The somatic treatment generally consists of the use of GnRH analogues to prevent the progression of biological puberty and subsequently gender-affirming hormonal treatment to develop sex characteristics of the self-identified gender and surgical procedures.

[gurorori]

i don't know, people can be trans in whatever way they wish and feel comfortable with, i just wish the people on the lower end of Actually Putting Work and Visible Effort Into It and Actually Experiencing Transphobia/Transmisogyny didn't feel like they automatically get a free pass to claim the same things we go through. if you do not share the experience of the vast majority of trans people, maybe you do not get to talk about it, or reclaim any part of it 😐

[eleemosynecdoche]

My gender is clearly well outside the binary, in that I have multiple, none of which are that closely tied to "man" or "woman". But at the same time, nonbinary as a social category exists to aid comprehension, in large part through providing a category for people who use unconventional pronouns. And I don't see any benefit from adopting they/them or neopronouns as a personal referent, so I can be she/her nonbinary (annoying and incomprehensible) or simply stand next to binary trans women and be counted among them, or in practice a mix of both.

[brifdi-daily]

we are going to hit 100 characters veeery soon... very cool