#friendshipsarehard

[sleepykitt47]

Idk if it's that I need to be specific abt who my friends are or if it's the fact I moved away. I just feel so weird around them at times...

[cluelessgirlblog]

"Favourite friends"

And the experience of being nobody's "favourite friend."

Girl friendships, in my opinion, are one of the most complex phenomena that a girl can experience as they grow up. It is, potentially, an essential part of girlhood. I'm particularly going to focus on teenage friendships between girls, starting with early teens.

Girl friendships can be some of the most rewarding relationships that you can build. It's reassuring to know that there will always be someone to turn to, and have lighten your mood. Whenever I think of girl friendships, I immediately think of the recent trend where Rachel (from F.R.I.E.N.D.S, not that I've watched it.....sorry.....) says, "I've got my girls." I think that this completely en-captures the beauty of these relationships.

However, being in girl friendships, particularly in a group of 3 or more, can bring forward issues like hierarchy, and favouritism.

Everybody has had a 'favourite friend.' You can admit it. There has been that friend that you liked a liiiiiiiiiiiittle bit more than the rest of the group. You might love all of your friends equally..... except that one person that you love a teensy tiny bit more..... or a lot more, but the point still stands. Best friends, favourite friends, whatever you call them, exist, and are normal.

When a group is hanging out together, you might feel more (or less) inclined to attend, depending on whether your favourite friend is going to be there. You can't help who you get along with more, but you can help how you treat the friends that aren't necessarily your favourite.

I, unfortunately, had to go through the experience of being nobody's "favourite friend." As one group member out of four, I knew deep down that between the other three members of the group, they all had favourites, and I was not anyone's.

You're probably wondering how on earth a group of 4 means that one is left out- after all, trios are the most notorious friendship group number, not 4. A group of 4 should be safe- a set of two best friends, right? It could have been due to the fact that I was the youngest by at least a year, or just the fact that my personality didn't mesh with my friends as much as I wanted. Well, either way, somehow, I was the least favourite.

I slowly started becoming more and more aware of the fact that I was not getting invited to group situations as much anymore, I didn't understand all their inside jokes; we didn't know the same people, and we were experiencing different things. After many tears on my behalf, feeling like an outcast, etc. I came to terms with the fact that I didn't want to be a least favourite friend in a group, and eventually ended up leaving the friendship group I previously mentioned.

Now, many many years later, I have started moving on from this friendship, and regard these girls with respect and friendliness. After all, we were just children trying to navigate friendships.

Knowing you are not anybody's favourite friend can be extremely detrimental to somebody's self worth and confidence, and is not an experience that I would wish upon anyone. I hope that if this did happen to you, you feel less alone by my shared experience, despite the limited details I felt confident to share.

Love Always.

[tinajeena]

KAL HO NA HO

How silly is that when people completely forget about the times you’ve been there, couldn’t help yourself but helped them, stayed by their side, chose them over somone, fought with someone because you can’t hear bad about your friend and obviously the memories you’ve made together all under the influence of an outsider. Is it all so easy to Suck everything outta person and leave? Leaving might be easy when it’s all mutual but what when the other one’s still attached and has expectations; nothing else but have some respect towards the one who destroyed his world trying to build yours expecting you’ll stay unlike everybody else. If you cannot stay or connect with him any longer, it’s totally upon you but do pay your part of credit by not hating on him for the sins he hasn’t committed.

Confronting each other and coming to a mutual decision is all what is needed at the moment but simply leaving and hating on each other for lifetime will never offer you mental peace. You’ll always be thinking about the ways to destroy and level down the other one which isn’t even productive.

Step up your game and spread positivity; resolve issues that break your neurons. Stop hating on each other because of pity issues as life’s too short; you never know KAL HO NA HO.

[kingwilliams3d]

Supposed to be asleep getting ready to go and have some fun on a much needed vacation, but instead I'm sitting in a dark room trying to figure out if the fight is worth fighting anymore.

[tinajeena]

Battle within myself :’)

I could only convey what was going on through the words I wrote. I could never completely describe the feeling that was inside me; More than a panic attack and less than destruction. Only support I needed was a single person. They all used to tell me - ‘Message me, I’ll be there for you!’ But nobody could ever understand the sadness underneath my laughter so loud. I could rarely smile; Either I would laugh or else smirk (when people used to build up silly Jokes on me). It was turning harder as the days were passing by, Really hard! I had my Parents working, not so healthy relationship with my brother, nobody to share my thoughts with. I had Friends which I could rarely call to pass time and smoke. I had tried everything but nothing was in my Favour. Drugs? They give you temporary happiness and Peace? They gave me Anxiety and the power of thinking more Negative than ever. Reaching at this point of life where, I am Left with my family, a city where my reputation is nowhere near to good and people who claim to know me. Looks like I cannot rebuild my life and Everything’s dragging me to the end as It will be very hard to Make new friends, a new reputation, a better personality and basically Transform myself into a better person! Whereas on the other side there is an easier option - DIE! and end this Crap. I don’t really know what will I be choosing in the coming future; right now all I am doing is missing nikita a lot. All I have faced my life, She knows every damn thing. It’s hard to loose a person like that yea? I have always taken years before moments, but with her it has been like so many years and so many good memories. Moreover, isn’t it too hard to believe that the person you trusted the most has fallen into the trap of someone else and left you to suffer knowing the fact how emotional and dumb you are. I was always the one - Left behind, thrown with Taunts about being dark, fat and having Bunny teeth. I had no friends till 6th standard and afterwards people came up to me with - Tina, Meri Facebook ID banade? I made friends like that.

#Friendships have always been difficult for me as I don’t think before speaking; I just blabber whatever’s inside me. I swear without even guessing if it would hurt the other’s sentiments.

#Fightingmyanxiety #tinajeena #missyounikita #hardtomove #struggle

[dblanderson]

Sigh... I wish I had anons to try and converse with me by pretending they're the guys from BTR... 

Sorry, just having a pretty bad day. Found out once again that someone I thought was a friend is lying to me in my face about why she can't hang out with me... I just wish people could actually be honest with me for once. I'm bad enough at making and keeping friends as it is. If you don't tell me there's a problem, how am I supposed to fix it???