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edge-oftheworld · 1 day ago

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when I was in high school there was a tendency whenever there was an attractive boy to simply fan over him. in a way that talked over everything he might say for himself and created a narrative that completely ignored, the fact in some cases, that he was really struggling—or if he was struggling, to pin all the blame on the girl he’s dating and completely ignore the thousands of other factors (no it can’t be mental illness or unaccommodated disability or systemic abuse or exploitation and if he is in an abusive relationship we won’t ever consider the factors that put him at risk for that)

and I’m not saying this fandom is like that. I get the need for privacy around some things and how in public conversations sometimes it’s a lot more respectful to stick to the positives (everyone who does that, I admire you) or even the struggles that are talked about publicly, show respect by not reading too far into them. there’s a time and place for that. but sometimes I feel like our only options are shitty and ableist gossip or totally ignoring the systemic and structural issues we know exist in something like the music industry until someone dies and then we’re looking for someone to blame. friends, there is a point where the respectful thing is to listen to what someone says and come together to make things better. and you can learn how to have that conversation respectfully. please do

#forever haunted by ‘I wasn’t always a cynic it’s just I’ve been bought and sold’#and actually this highlights my whole frustration with the conversation around mental health just about anywhere #like you tell people something sucks and they’re completely unwilling to even try to challenge the status quo in order to help #and idk. I tell myself they’re going to be fine. they’re so resilient. I’m doing all I can; I’m not on the ground there I’m at a distance #but at the same time is it not bittersweet sometimes to enjoy music born from trauma? to be at a live show knowing they shouldn’t be?#to me these stories have to be told for the reason that yes so people relate but also so we can do better for the next generation #anyway I’ve gotten deep into inxs lore lately and I can say. yes it is better for 5sos simply for the fact men can talk about emotions #but that didn’t come without a MASSIVE fight don’t you ever forget that. it’s gonna still carry shame. they’re choosing to fight that #but the sad songs we got as a result?? idk they’re the thing that turned me parasocial because there’s rarely absolutely nothing you can do #like if we’re ever gonna give them a gold star for talking about this stuff as early as sgfg til today we gotta ask ourselves to look at #larger systemic issues and stuff that we ARE a part of and while we can’t be there for them when they have a bad day. we can work on #anyway the high school example still haunts me. still drives some of what I do now. we were just kids. but most of us here aren’t anymore #and the newbrokenscene is grown up now and tbh the status quo should be TERRIFIED #so idk. at the very least sign the petition for liams law. advocate for better. address local issues of injustice and addiction etc #which in some ways I’m lucky that I get to do that in sydney so it feels connected but this is just as valuable anywhere #tbh the 2010s era of bubblegum pop and ignoring all our problems is over. you’re punk now. even katy released chained to the rhythm #thinking about the nfp I’m trying to start and how to start small. for disadvantaged kids maybe? intervening via urban design?#(don’t you ever forget 5sos WERE disadvantaged kids not even 20 years ago. that shit sticks to you no matter how much you achieve)#albums and activism #anyway it fascinates me to see how differently people do this kind of thing to each band member. like the vibe is different but still track #for this whole phenomenon like whether they’re seen as pretty or strong or cute or smth else that becomes the main thing not their words #and I say that but tumblr is pretty good overall. I just wish sometimes we could have a more active conversation before any tragedy #so gosh I’m ranting so much but PLEASE talk about this with me. I notice far too much and I can’t say any of it publicly #so occasionally I come out with a rant like this

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