#for work (i am unemployed) or 3) it’s a hobby and if they think it’s for a hobby hopefully they do not ask to read anything!

[strawberrybyers]

posted on facebook an image from one of the sets of stranger things to see if any of my 80’s babies/children/teens/adults fam members or whoever might be familiar with the lore and give me the insight.

i wrote out the post so formal though so they couldn’t get a whiff of the fact i am not asking because i intend to write an article for cinemablend but instead for my tumblr blog so my fellow mentally ill queers and i can go insane over a piece of prop to prove one of the hundreds of theories we all have ping ponging between us

[amanitaphalloides]

Please give me all your unemployment, job hunting, interviewing, etc tips!

hi unemployed community member <3

I am so sorry in advance for the length of this. I’m coming at this as someone who got laid off from a corporate job and is basically looking for the same job again, so ymmv with how relevant this is, but here’s a random array of tips I have found helpful.

MY GUIDE TO BEING UNEMPLOYED!

Getting your shit together after losing a job

Things you may need/want to do quickly if you have just lost a job (ie my week 1 unemployment to do list):

apply for unemployment benefits

review, negotiate, and sign your separation agreement

make an unemployment budget

take advantage of your final weeks of employer-sponsored insurance by having last-minute doctors appointments and getting your prescriptions refilled

look for new health insurance

contact student loan servicer to request a deferment/update your payment plan

More about this:

Unemployment benefits

If you’re eligible for unemployment benefits, apply to them right away. Different states are different, but you may need to have an in-person meeting at the unemployment office before you get any money. Scheduling this can take weeks. The world will look so much brighter if you have a little income. So if you qualify, do this first!

You will typically qualify for benefits if you got laid off or fired, but you also made qualify if your contract ended. Also you can usually freelance and still get benefits depending on how much you make.

Budgeting

Making a budget was really important to me so that I could concretely see whether I needed to panic about money and so I could give myself permission to relax. My goal was to stretch my severance and unemployment as far as possible while also doing stuff I enjoy.

Here's my budget template just in case our brains work the same way. This template is based on an old budget of mine - there are items on here that I set to $0 once I got laid off. I literally did budget in movie tickets because that has a massive impact on my joy in life.

Severance

If you are getting severance, it is possible to negotiate how much you get! I was able to get a few extra weeks basically by saying “this is bad timing and my income also supports my family."

Negotiating severance is like negotiating salary in that your former employer will probably give you less than you ask for. It's unlike negotiating salary in that you usually have zero leverage so honestly you might as well do an emotional appeal. IMO

Putting together an unemployed life

Stuff I consider absolutely non-negotiable aka things I MUST do not to spiral:

Make plans with friends. Write all your social plans down in your calendar and treat them as seriously as work.

Do something other than job hunting. Pick up a hobby. Give yourself a really specific reading or movie watching challenge. Volunteer. This will allow you to feel like you have a life which is absolutely critical to your self esteem, your ability to socialize, and your ability to function. You are going to have days when you NEED to feel cool. That will be way easier if you volunteered a few days ago than if you haven't done anything joyful for weeks.

Try to take care of your physical health. Move your body, eat full meals, go to bed at a regular time. I have really realized that sometimes the difference between me feeling good and despondent is truly just like, have I slept well and eaten and exercised recently.

Do things you like doing. I think it is very common to become unemployed and feel like you have to strip away everything in your life that's not focused on the job hunt. But you cannot stop doing everything that brings you happiness and expect to be okay. You will love your life if you fill it with things you love and you will hate it if you don't.

More tips....

Make a list of free or cheap things you can do for fun and then do them! Being unemployed is a great time to go to free days at museums if there’s anything like that near you. It’s also a good time to try a new recipe, check out a new walking path, FaceTime with a friend, write your grandma a letter, make diary comics, listen to new albums, watch movies you always meant to watch... for me though getting out of the house is especially important. I am constantly googling "free things to do in chicago this weekend" lol it pays off especially in a city!

I literally make Google calendar events for myself that are like "free museum day." I need to protect that time and treat it like an appointment to make myself actually do things.

If you have friends who wfh, go hang out with them and job hunt while they're working!

Applying for jobs

Tell everyone that you are job hunting. Post it far and wide. A lot of people get referral bonuses so they'll be trying to help you!

Job boards I use most heavily: Idealist, Otta, Built In, LinkedIn

This is so obvious but a lesson I really learned recently: only apply to places if you would take the job. If you're like "realistically I would not do that for that salary range" do not apply. you are gonna get yourself in Situations @ me two months ago

If you have a 1st or 2nd LinkedIn connection at a job you’re looking at dm them and say you'd love to hear what they think of the company!

I have also had success messaging random people on LinkedIn. Basically following this format: "Hi [name]! I came across this job at your company - I'm really interested and I'd love to hear more about what it's like working with the team. I'm sure you're busy, but is there any chance you have 15 minute this week or next to chat with me about the company before I apply? Thanks either way!"

Not everyone will want to talk but sometimes people still give you good insight into the hiring process.

It is really important to me to have boundaries around my job search. This has varied a bit depending on my schedule but the best thing I've found is telling myself I apply to jobs 9am-12pm. At noon I am DONE.

Interviewing

My interview prep: practice my elevator pitch with a focus on why it lead me to this company, pick out a few anecdotes from my past jobs I can share (a time I messed up, something I worked on that had a good result, something that didn’t go as expected, a time I had to deal with conflict), read the job's website and any news items I can find about them, and do a little quick review of the industry.

Most commonly repeated questions I've encountered recently: what's a time you made a mistake, what kind of management style do you like, why should we hire you.

This is the first time in my life I've ever genuinely practiced an elevator pitch and I hate to say it but it's really helped

After an interview (especially a panel interview) immediately take a few notes on what people said so you can write personalized thank yous.

I hope something in that was helpful and if not I'm sorry for the wall of text LOL but hugs and kisses it is all gonna be ok!!!

[haechoxo]

hi guyz ‼️ i will try to upload some blurbs i have over the next few weeks just so that i can feel productive and accomplished that i at least posted something,, but i dont think the mark smau nor the jisung works will be posted at least for another couple weeks because i completely blocked out the fact that am moving and i have not packed 😹😹😹 im #unemployed so this blog is one of like four hobbies i actively engage in, which is why i want to stay active for my own sake,, but my more srs projects will have to be put on hold 💔

i hope u r all having a good start to ur week! tell me about it :3

[twinsoftriumph]

vedesa and lalut! the slightly awkward buddy duo ESPECIALLY now that lalut is hiding the presence of a certain someone who has history with vedesa... who might need their own post because i think 3 in one post might be too much.

vedesa wears air prophet hair (modified), scolding student mask, to the love outfit, moments guide ult camera, and saluting protector cape. yes none of these are vault cosmetics. she's actually a sky version of an oc i made almost a decade ago so if i slip up and call her by her other name just ignore it

lalut was literally based off of my sky kid. moth height so i consider them the baseline. maskless, chill sunbather glasses, reassuring ranger hat, gloat hair, nightbird whisperer outfit, lively navigator cape, pleaful parent guitar

vedesa has existed for a Long Time. she's my beautiful princess with a disorder(s)

the most obvious one being narcolepsy which i initially made a thing just because i was leaving rps frequently and figured id give a character reason for but now it's a legit trait

she works as a messenger and does photography as a hobby so she is trying her darndest to appreciate life and keep that joie de vivre kindled by Touching Grass

it's not like a super serious job though she operates on her own terms and limits. she's unemployed at heart

also neurotic as hell. this was me projecting as a kid and it still is now.

probably susceptible to Toxic Yuri (shes bi but for the sake of the joke.) because she is a little too interested in the dangerous. megabird's weakest yuri warrior

she originally lived near wind paths but lives in vault now since it deals with memory lantern and darkstone technology shit

vedesa met lalut through her travels, and they basically encountered each other enough times that they started talking casually

lalut invited her to prairie peaks and it was basically heaven. she really appreciated the gesture and now they're friends :) the awkwardness is mostly just because of their personalities

SPEAKING of lalut. they're a prairie guide and they love hanging out and showing moths around. they call themself a moth wrangler which makes it sound 10x more intense than any of it actually is

they want moths to think they're cool so badly. they will pull out the guitar unprompted and be like WELL if you INSIST

they're actually very good-natured. they are trying so so hard. they want to also be a Cool Smooth Flyer. results vary

they know a bunch of weird light creature facts because they love ecology shit which is what they bonded over with vedesa initially. they bring these up unprompted as well but not to be cool it just Comes Out

vedesa invited lalut to vault. lalut keeps meaning to go but also vault gives them major heebie jeebies. vedesa is too awkward to invite them again

lalut has currently taken in ames. vedesa has History with ames and lalut figured this out and is trying to basically keep that whole living situation under wraps for now. more details will come in ames' post which ill do another time bc i need to SLEEP

[aximili]

15 people, 15 questions

tagged by @officialgleamstar ty!!!!

1. Are you named after anyone?

not in particular but i had a childrens book with a cat called Tom in it that i was obsessed with sooo. its a factor.

2. When was the last time you cried?

last thursday i watched Society of the Snow and it made me cry 3 different times omg. movies VERY easily get me especially when actors cry realistically

3. Do you have kids?

hell no... if my sister has kids i would like to be very involved in their lives but NOT 4 me

4. What sports do you play/have you played?

i swim every now and then if this counts. otherwise sports bad

5. Do you use sarcasm?

ye i guess like an average amount djfjd

6. What’s the first thing you notice about people?

i dont think i have 1 concrete answer for this lol, but probably something distinctive about their appearance unless they happen to be saying/doing something notable

7. What’s your eye color?

brown 👍

8. Scary movies or happy endings?

both is good. but i can only watch scary movies with other people. because i get scared

9. Any talents?

i can touch my nose with my tongue... is that anything....

10. Where were you born?

oxford :) i dont live there now so not too much of a doxx

11. What are your hobbies?

ttrpgs, writing, singing in choir, v occasional drawing/painting, i've also been getting into making a little music in the last couple weeks!

12. Do you have any pets?

not atm but i am determined that 2024 is the year i get a cat....

13. How tall are you?

5'3 - 5'4... i forget which im closer to

14. Favorite subject in school?

english and drama!

15. Dream job?

unemployed <3 no but in my ideal world i'll write and also teach at a university. vaguely on track for that atm. i'd love to work with animals again too in some capacity if the opportunity arose

Tagging:

i am ALWAYS too lazy to tag people for these things/get bogged down in anxiety abt whether ive forgotten a treasured mutual - but i really like knowing peoples answers so if u see this you can say i tagged you :3

[vaynglories]

get to know me meme (tagged by @strandedchesspiece, tyty! 💜)

do you make your bed? nnnnnot nearly as often as i should ahaha.

what's your favourite number? 3's pretty good tbh. it forms two of my favourite text-based emotes, :3 and <3.

what is your job? i'm one of the kens whose job is beach (Currently Unemployed).

If you could go back to school would you? tried that, got nothin' to show for it but student loans that i'll be paying off until the end of time; unfortunately my brain isn't really cut out for academia. (if i ever discover what it is cut out for, that'll be the day.)

can you parallel park? no, i don't drive >.>'' i'm lucky enough to live in a little city with decent public transport and with a lot of stuff within walking distance.

a job you had that would surprise people? wayyy back when i was in polytechnic i worked part-time as a life model for art classes for a bit. had a few friends who were art students, they were down a model for one of their classes, i needed the cash. yeah that meant my friends did see my whole naked booty ass out, but eh.

do you think aliens are real? eh, universe's pretty big. probably something out there, even if it's just little amoeba dudes wiggling around on one of those exoplanets with water somewhere.

can you drive a manual car? i can barely drive an automatic 😭

what's your guilty pleasure? honestly, writing fic. no guilt or cringe for the hobby in general; it's more the fact that there are folks out here putting out these thoughtful, plotty, well-researched works, and i am but a silly creature who writes mostly fluff and banter and occasional smut.

tattoos? none yet.

favourite colour? orange, teal, any shade of red. i wear mostly black though.

favourite type of music? my long-term heavy rotation is a lot of old-school goth rock and post-punk (sisters of mercy, the cure, siouxsie, etc) but i listen to a lot of stuff.

do you like puzzles? i do! when i was a kid my dad and i would get one of those big 1000-piece jigsaw puzzles over every summer break. i like puzzle videogames too, but there's something nice about putting something together with your hands.

any phobias? not since i was very little. my fears these days are all of the less concrete variety, like "dying alone" and "the inevitable heat-death of the universe".

favourite childhood sport? did karate for a few years... i miss it tbh.

do you talk to yourself? i sing or make weird noises more than i talk. my latest thing is making a weird kind of gravelly chainsmoker-catboy "nyagh!" sound when i drop my phone on my face in bed or something. three years of living alone has undone all of my human socialization.

what movie(s) do you adore? oh god i haven't seen a movie in years i think. a knight's tale is a Formative Childhood Classic to me though. been really itching to rewatch the hellboy and blade movies also.

coffee or tea? coffee is like a wife to me. even though all she does is make me sleepy (got the Caffeine Makes Me Sleepy adhd) and make my stomach kinda upset. we should get divorced maybe tbh.

first thing you wanted to be growing up? probably an astronaut? i read a lot of books about space when i was a kid and they had a lasting impact (see above: lingering existential anxiety about the inevitable heat-death of the universe).

tagging: uhhh picking some folks from my recent notifs: @mcbitchtits @thelittlestancient @thebansacredbanned @toybeluga (no obligation ofc!) also like, literally anyone reading this who likes doing these things PLEASE consider yourself tagged. (i like to know who i can annoy.)

[seannesruins]

Do you think you can be completely happy even without money, or you think money is necessary to be totally happy in life? Why?

Okay... so this is gonna be a long answer.

I was able to explore a lot in my life because I was privileged enough to have all my salary to myself, I didn't have parents to provide for, or siblings to send to school. I started working at sixteen, that's why I value money so much, knowing how hard it is to earn. I was able to send myself to college and provide myself with a decent home. Sure those were years of sleepless nights, but it also taught me independence, and though it is liberating at times there are also days that solitude brings forth loneliness.

I tried to fill that loneliness with everything I can think of. I was young, with a lot of time, and earning much more than I can spend. I partied. Binge drinking, and doing vices for days with people whose names I can barely recall. I was spending thousands every night, but there was no one to turn to when I had my first alcohol overdose. I was nineteen, too young to be hooked on vices. But what can I do when it was the only thing that makes me forget how lonely I am? I got into a revolving door of romantic partners, just so I can feel like I belonged with someone. Relationships that were good, but mostly I regret.

I tried discovering new hobbies. I tried to go back to arts, invested in painting. Then literature, writing poems, and buying every book I find interesting. I went to the movies almost everyday, watching everything that's showing in the local theaters, subscribed to every streaming platform there is. I invested in athletic wear, ran 21k marathons, bought a bike and ride 200k, bought outdoor gears and camped on deserted sites, hiked 2k+ masl mountains.

Those moments gave me peace but whenever I go home, I'm reminded of how alone I really am.

Last year I thought I found the person who will fill that loneliness. I changed my lifestyle to fit their definition of a perfect relationship. And when it ended I realized how much I've given up. My business venture lost me 70% of my capital, forcing me to declare bankruptcy, I had no other source of income. Moving out from the apartment that my ex partner and I shared left me homeless. And sacrificing my friends for love left me alone.

That's when I went home. And each day ever since, I am learning to work on my happiness. I no longer need to spend thousands on booze, in fact I am working on overcoming my alcohol dependency. I didn't need to go to the movies ever so often, there's a flat screen TV with my entire family sitting on the couch on popcorn nights. I play with my 6 year old brother, cuddle with another who's 1 year old. My 23 year old brother cooks me the best meals, and my sister does my nails when she's not being a moody teenager. My dad and I barely talks but he has provided me with everything I needed to pick up myself again. He never knew why I went home, he never asked.

It took some time but I was able to get my life back on track. I was able to rebuild the finances I lost, (and not to brag but I got more than what I lost that I was actually able to be unemployed for 3 months now and still have money), found myself a new apartment, reconnected with friends. And though I can't say that I am genuinely happy with the way my life is right now, I can say that I am getting there. I have learned to be okay with being alone.

Some of my happiest moments were because I can afford it but some of my unhappiest were because I have more money than actual relationships. So I guess it's not really about the amount that you have or willing to spend, it's about how and with who you spend it with.

[terubakudan]

Sup 2.0

I really need to work on updating consistently xD.

I really can't promise I'll always update, believe me when I say that I'm 26 and having a sort-of quarter-life crisis xDD If any of you guys have advice on dealing with this, that would be highly appreciated. You have my thanks in advance.

I ended up quitting my job again and am currently unemployed, 2 months possibly going on 3 months. Gave myself 2 months for relaxation. Don't regret quitting my job as that job turned out to have a heavy workload and a stupid manager == Stupid to the point that I knew how to do more things than that person and still was constantly bullied. Excuse the language but fucking deadweight. I can get along with colleagues quite fine but have a difficulty when it comes to authority xD I simply cannot handle authority that is incompetent. Taiwan has way too much incompetent midde-management.

Do not come to Taiwan to work. Period. Think thrice. I know work sucks in a lot of countries but dear lord we barely even have unions in Taiwan. QQ The power that businesses have here is too much and should really be kept in check. I never thought that I would be very vocal on workers' rights here xD

In the meantime I've started job hunting yet again, and now I have too much time for hobbies. With the looming anxiety of unemployment. But yeah I want to be positive despite the difficulty of finding a job nowadays.

I'll try to get back to blogging about fandoms and whatnot, I actually have quite a lot to share and got into some really interesting things :). Thanks to anyone who read through this and I wish you all a great week ahead!!

[fakinbaconpancakes]

Thoughts on Unemployment (Part 1)

This may be a long one because I have a lot of thoughts. Some of this may not be completely coherent.

I am annoyed that I was laid off. I was managing a group of 5, supporting a number of research groups, and getting the job done.

It was a decision because my boss thinks she could do it, I had 2 counterparts that did the same thing as I, and my boss' boss is a shitty manager.

My former manager was a piece of work. With a workaholic pathology, they had no personal boundaries. Working on holiday was the norm, and set a terrible standard in the group. If they weren't doing the job of 6 people, they weren't working hard enough. They resented the 20 people on the team who ultimately reported to her. How do you lead people you hate? I stopped providing information about my peers when I realized that they made it a point to weaponize it and attack others. Early on, and I'm only realizing it now, they were threatened by me and made it a point to threaten me. They said, when you do X, I can't protect you. I didn't work at a place where people were vindictive. They came from a place where backstabbing was the norm. And they brought that shit with them. The feeling of being threatened only increased when I learned how to make strong arguments, backed up by facts, and advocate for myself. I always made it a point to be convinced of better ideas, but I see now that my creativity and the slightest bit of willpower soured me on her. And now they think they can handle what I used to do. The team isn't stupid, and I see confidence in their abilities falling. I have more, but the one thing that always got me: "They (meaning the team members) aren't allowed to talk about their salaries with each other." I can't describe the number of times I had to step in to say "Yes they can," "Yes it's legal," "It's the National Labor Relations Act," "It's illegal for you tell them to not talk about their salaries," "Ask HR." And this was all before the pay transparency laws started popping up. By the time I got booted, pay transparency was part of the company culture, at lease seeing your own pay bands.

My boss' boss. What a piece of work. My first month, I went to say hello and got zero emotive reaction. My second month, they had a department meeting where they spent an hour yelling at the group. They made a statement saying they were there to help people in the department with their problems. I know our relationship went off the rails when I didn't come crying for help. I can handle my shit. And in the following 3 years, there was 1 instance where I needed assistance and they were completely ineffectual. Sometimes leaders are in leadership positions because they are great leaders. Other times it's because there was no one else in the start-up phase of the company.

Back to being unemployed. It feels terrible. I was sans work once before for about 8 months after returning from a job overseas. At least back then I had some hope and naiveite, but no plan other than just applying for jobs. That got tough, especially as time went on. I felt like such an awful person and it showed. At least this time I have some plans, which should lead to better patience.

My first month after the notice was terrible. Deep depression. All the cliches. Woke up late. Barely ate. Morning depression nap. Afternoon depression nap. No motivation to do anything. Went from 5 days a week workouts to zero. I went to a week-long hobby event, drove halfway across the country for it, and barely engaged. Spent some time with like 3 people instead of 100. Mostly sat and lost myself in some fiction. I left early to be miserable by myself at home.

[thoughtstokeepmeupatnight]

I've been so focused on getting physically healthy lately I've been completely unaware that I no longer have a creative outlet.

I keep getting pattern reminders of having a greater calling of value of service etc. That I should pursue that. And then I commit to a career that serves none of the sort.

I'm such a perfectionist, a fast learner, adaptive etc. i can easily get stuck in a job and lose myself in the process. I find it hard to realize that it's not serving me because I get instant gratification from completely menial tasks. If the job is constantly busy and I'm thriving and progressing in that field I'll end up wasting years serving a purpose that's ultimately below me.

I don't mean to say that I'm better than it I just mean i know it's not my calling but it's better than being unemployed and in a rut.

This economy has really pushed me to question my worth here.

Why am I working for another huge American conglomerate that is only out for its own profit? Where in this industry are they making an actual difference. Are we apart of the problem or the solution. We provide goods necessary for the environment and economies of the Pacific but what does that entail exactly?

Tbh shipping and customs broking and anything I can go into to make over 100k salary in the next 3 years it's all well and good but am I cutting myself short in the process.

It's been on my mind for a few months now. I think the comment today from my old pastor/mentor/counselor really hit the nail on the head.

She asked me if I was still dancing or writing. I'm not dancing I don't mind that. It was the writing that threw me a bit. Cause amongst everything that stayed constant.

I'm almost 100% sure this energy has come from lack of sleep and all the exercise I've been doing. I'm trying hard not to see it as a negative thing this time - I just need a little moment to breathe is all. I don't want to burn out. I know that sounds stupid because I just literally came back from a holiday. I guess 1 week didn't cut it.

I know after this busy week I'll be ok. I think it was the funeral amongst other things it was a happy one this time he had lived a full life of adventure and travel and he had the whole family and hobbies and so many friends etc.

I want that I want to work and be able to travel and make enough money to support that lifestyle etc. I don't want to waste away in an office in the same country and raise a family here to repeat the same patterns.

I get why there are so many old people where I work they've settled down they've had their experiences their family's their kids are all grown etc. I get coming back to this what I don't get it is staying here for the rest of my life.

Not when there's so much more to see in the world.

[owlsandwich]

Hope it's okay to reply to this. I saw it pop up on my feed.

I've self-published, and I'm pretty sure I'm doing it all wrong, but I'm still kinda happy with how it's turned out so far. I have a very uninspiring online presence, so maybe my account is a realistic and achievable experience haha!

At the moment I'm not advertising the book at all, because I decided to get an editor and do a 'second edition' — I'm working through those edits now. I was always self-conscious of the fact I edited the initial published version myself, but it doesn't seem to have done it much harm. You don't really get sales if you aren't promoting though, so it's all very quiet.

Strangely I've had 2 or 3 sales over the past month anyway, and I think this is from the IndieBrag medallion page (it's an indie award that anyone can submit their book to, though there is an admin fee).

Numbers-wise, my KDP stats are a bit skewed because I did a free promotion a month or so after the book came out, and it got a lot of downloads that count as sales. My total sales show as 567 because of this, but im not sure how many of those people will actually have read it :P The downloads mostly came from a reddit post I made about it being free.

I used to have the book available in Kindle Unlimited, where it got 27,978 page reads. I took it out because I wanted to be able to post it wherever I wanted, and if you're in Kindle Unlimited you aren't allowed to make the book available anywhere else.

I've had about 35 ratings, which I think is really good for a first book that's currently stand-alone!

I'm still torn on whether I actually want to have it for sale, or just available for free. I don't see myself ever making much of an income from writing — I am so in the red from publishing Mechanics, but I treat it as money spent on a hobby rather than as a potential income source. I'm more excited about people reading and hopefully enjoying the story than making money, and I'm wondering if this is more achievable if it's free? I'm posting my newly edited chapters on Tumblr to test this out. (On the other hand, I am recently unemployed, so maybe I should reconsider 😅)

Things I could probably have done better:

Had a bit more of an online presence before publishing and had ARC readers etc. to try and get pre-orders. You are supposed to start talking about your work at least 6 months before you launch it apparently!

Researched covers more and tried to get something that was more on trend instead of one that was just my own taste. I love the old cover still, but the new one is much more eye-catching.

Not published until I had more than one book. They say the best way to advertise a book is to have a sequel. I'm a very slow writer though, and I really like to process and work on a plot for a long time, so I don't think this could have worked for me.

There's probably many more things, but I'm trying to only mention things that I might realistically do.

I can't think of anything else to say at the moment! Feel free to ask anything else :)

People who have self-pubbed, how's it going for you?

You can tell me in a normal ask or an anon ask or or a dm, with as much or as little detail as you want. What are your numbers like? What do you think you did well, or could have done better when it comes to selling your book?

[c-ptsdrecovery]

When I was in darker points in my recovery, it really bothered me that I couldn’t find many C-PTSD success stories. I heard all about people’s trauma and their PTSD symptoms, but not about how they overcame it or how good their life was afterward. So now that I’m definitely on the mend, I wanted to post a bit about what things are like for me right now.

It was difficult transitioning from being unemployed for more than five years to having my first real full-time job. But although it’s been a little hard, it hasn’t been overwhelming. Things have been okay.

I do get triggered a bit still, but I haven’t had a massive flashback in a few weeks. For instance, I’m still training at my job, and I was on a Teams call with a co-worker who was training me. He was watching me work through screen-share and telling me everything I was doing wrong, which was a lot, because this job involves a lot of intricate little rules. And it started to be a little overwhelming, because criticism triggers me. I started to get a little teary, and maybe the stress was audible in my voice, because he backed off a little and then we ended the session. But despite getting stressed and everything, I didn’t actually have a flashback! I finished up my work day, talked to my bestie about it, got a hug (which made me cry a little) and I was fine. Which is a HUGE improvement for me.

Every 3 months, my therapist has to do an evaluation on where I am in my recovery and what we’re going to do for the next 3 months. We did that a couple of days ago (October). The last time we did this eval (July), I scored something like a 38. On this particular PTSD evaluation, anything over 30 is a positive score for PTSD.

Well, this time, I scored a 20.

This doesn’t mean that somehow all my residual symptoms will magically go away, or that I won’t ever struggle again, or even that I don’t need any more therapy. But it does mean that I have made a HUGE jump in my recovery since starting my job. I’m doing MUCH better; I’m feeling MUCH safer. I haven’t been able to get back into my hobbies yet (partly because I’m still adjusting to my work schedule!), but I’m starting to be able to have fun with my imagination again--starting to feel like myself again. I still cry at night sometimes for no particular reason, but now it doesn’t drag me down into a black hole of despair: it’s just a little catharsis.

I’ll try to keep updating with little vignettes about how things are going, because I think we all need some positivity sometimes.

[zaksdolls]

I have decided to give Patreon another go. I'm still tinkering with things here and there.

I still plan on sharing experiments and other findings on here and other socials, because I think knowledge should be shared, but they probably won't be as wordy and in-depth as on Patreon.

For those who do not know me as well, I am currently unemployed, chronically ill, immunocompromised, too sick to function properly, but too "well" for any disability or help. Artsy and creative things are my hobbies, but they are also the only things I can make any income with at the moment.

If Patreon isn't your jam, I completely understand!

If you would still like to help out, but without the commitment, I also have a Ko-Fi! https://ko-fi.com/zakniteh

I am incredibly grateful for any help, be it financially or liking and reblogging my work!

Thank you! <3

[doberbutts]

Love reading about your low spoon food prep adventures! I am autistic and rely heavily on meal preparation to get by, but I also adore cooking and baking as a hobby, so I really enjoy seeing what you make because it's the best of both worlds- actually interesting meals while being disability friendly <3 /pos

I never really caught onto the emotion indicators like /pos and /hj because to me as someone who was raised in the 1337-speak generation they read "piece of shit" and "hand job" 😅 I'm assuming that's actually "positive"?

But in any case thank you! I started doing this during covid- I was unemployed for the first time since I started working and I knew I needed something to do, so I started cooking healthy, fresh meals that are both filling and delicious and learning how to do away with pre-prepared and pre-processed foods. Not that I think there's anything wrong with them per say, just that they often contain ingredients I can't eat so it's better for my personal health to just make them myself.

And, as a result, I've been slowly expanding my food horizons! I've always been a super picky eater but as I learn more about what I do and don't like the taste of it's become easier for me to predict when I'm going to like something. I still hesitate for some things, but you really can't go wrong with meat + starch combos and lbr that's the majority of my diet lmao

Usually I spend the entire day cooking and cleaning (I'm currently resting bc I got dizzy standing too long in front of a hot stove) and then I eat out of my fridge for the remainder of the week. The only cooking I normally do during the week is breakfast, which is also pretty un-involved as it's usually either hardboiled eggs, bacon, and toast OR it's a breakfast bagel I cook directly onto the bagel- meaning it's exactly the same amount of prep as the same ingredients made separately lmao. Occasionally I want something like pancakes or waffles but for the most part this is what I do.

[falseandrealultravival]

Super-regional currency, Galois:　Bitcoin is junk：３ (3/4)

Ryuichi Sakamoto(musician:1952-)

The idea of ​​"Galois"

In the spring of 2003, my father developed Alzheimer's disease (one of the dementias). The Morishita family is a family of three men, a father, myself, and a younger brother. We have to take care of my father with two single sons. At that time, I was unemployed and my younger brother was a factory worker. My younger brother resigned from the company, but he was treated as a leave of absence.

Then, the only income as "yen" is my father's pension. I don't have it compared to my brother who has enough financial power. Moreover, I cannot go to work because of long-term care. It was a difficult situation for two men to have to look at my father.

Then what should I do with my income? ――There was the difficult problem . There are quite a few products that you need every day. But I don't have the money to be free!

Therefore, I settled on the fact that I would have to score the "acts" I worked for to care for my father and get them from my father's pension. In other words, it seemed rather natural for my father to pay for the "act" because his relatives act as staff for the care facility. I am a private care worker.

However, I also thought that the act would require some other currency instead of the "yen" for the product. So I remembered the existence of "local currency" and decided to do it myself. This is how the "Galois" was conceived.

My father was the factory manager of a secondary aluminum refining company. I am from the Faculty of Engineering and my hobby is "paper making". So I had enough knowledge about both metal and paper. Therefore, we compared the two and decided that it would be better to use metal as the currency unit. From Gesell's theory, a metal that is more stable than paper to heat and water may be suitable for the "Galois" currency.

Next, I will talk about the specific "Galois" settings.

It should be noted that one of the leading causes of Alzheimer's disease is the 1-yen coin raw material :aluminum. It is possible that my father, who had been exposed to the aluminum for decades, developed Alzheimer's disease.

If you read today's blog, you might think, "What a dry son!" Certainly dry. However, I think it is possible that a normal family is actually a dry relationship, but on the surface it is wet and friendly. Compared to that, I insist, "Rather isn't it crazy?" There was a situation in the Morishita family that had to be dry.

[rhiezus]

Special Q&A with Moon Nayoung.

now that you’re not an actress anymore, the world is dying to know: what is moon nayoung doing?

what a pesky devil of you. it’s not like i’m very busy but it’s not i want to be busy, so eating well, sleeping well, travelling, picking different hobbies, spending a lot of time on youtube. i’m unemployed, but gladly.

do you ever plan on acting again?

noo, i loved acting but that phase of my life is over. i am ready to be myself and no else for quite some time. i encourage acting though, it’s an exercise and it was an experience.

we saw your cat a lot on your social media, what’s is their name?

oh, when we started this i was crossing my fingers thinking: please talk about my cats. in all forms expect physical, i’m a cat. so i found manwol in a shelter, she looked me in the eye suspiciously and i thought “she is testing me”, so i took her home to complete her task. she is always watching me, i don’t know if like a affectionate way, however she is very jealous of the people around me and for that reason i think we identify with each other. i don’t remember my boyfriend’s cat names though, he has many and they just keep adding, i just call them what i feel like calling them and they always answer, it’s like an unspoken connection.

when are you and keun getting married though?

it’s that a thing you’d like to see? think we should live it for the world and charge a few to enter the livestream?

what’s the most used app on your phone?

it’s between my yoga app, subway surfaces and piano tiles. people often underestimate how good i am with phone games, not that i am bragging but i’ve had years of boredom and that adds to the experience.

we heard you like cooking, what’s your favorite dish to cook right now?

my favorite thing to cook... is spaghetti, there is like a hundred ways to do them differently and i love noodles. garlicky spaghetti, vegetable spaghetti, crock-pot spaghetti, the famous carbonara... there is baked spaghetti, it’s one of my favorites, chicken spaghetti, there is even a million dollar spaghetti that’s great and super easy. but last week i aced the tagine, it’s from maroccos. fun fact is most people think the word tagine is the meal itself but tagine is actually the cookware used to cook the meal. the reason for using a tagine is to make a dish tender and bring out its natural flavors. 

what’s the place you want to travel the most?

i would love to go somewhere on the american continent, because their food is rich and it’s very different from asia but at the same time i don’t like travelling for long periods and spending too much time on a plane. i would like to see mexico or argentina, maybe even cuba too. 

which of your friends are you most proud of? and why?

i don’t have that many friends, it’s not that hard to choose between them. the one that most accomplished things this year was bonghu, but that’s mainly because she got pregnant and i admire her nerve. she is a great friend, mom, person, woman and all in general so that makes me proud. 

what’s the song you sing along when you hear it?

ring ring.

who is the last person you texted? and what as the text about?

it was my friend group, i send a bear emoji with a blinking heart. i can’t recall what was the conversation about, it just called for a cute bear emoji.

how is your morning routine? 

i wake up, look into my phone for like fifteen minutes to an hour (there is no in-between), i go pee and take a shower, do my skincare, feed the cats, cook breakfast, eat breakfast, go jogging or hit the gym. now in quarantine i would do yoga at home, but since it’s better now i just go jogging again. and that takes about my whole morning.

who was your first celebrity crush?

i think it was patrick swayze, but also harrison ford. 

what’s on your mind like right now?

this. i mean? what else? i don’t know. 

what do you spent way too much money on?

masterclass online classes! i find it so interesting even though i know i don’t have the vocation of being a professional in that area, i mean... it’s just so great. i started paying for gordon ramsey’s classes, because i love that man but now i think i’ve even seen natalie portamn, anna wintour and even usher’s classes. 

what’s the most cringy worthy thing you’ve seen someone post on social media?

i’m not one to judge cause all i have are cats and food, and that’s the most cringy worthy you can ever get on social media but i hate when people do this long captions like, no one is gonna read it and they know it but they just do that too sound smart and meaningful. i mean there’s nothing you can really say that can’t be said in private, right? i don’t know.

what was the last show you binge-watched?

finished you a few days ago, don’t know if it was worth it, but i did it anyways. there was stranger too, season two was very well done.

what is your favorite item of clothing?

my favorite item of clothing? hm, i think is black high waist pants because one) it’s comfy. two) it’s cheap. 3) it goes with anything in your wardrobe. 4) and with any weather or mood.  

what are you passionate about?

i think... i’m passionate about just living, i mean. focusing on the present feeling and go from there, you know?! no need to be anxious about things you can’t see, while being responsible about the things you do right now and just work with that, like, make your lemonades. 

what’s the best part of your 20′s? what are you taking from this age?

hm. there is a lot of figuring out, from yourself and from others, nothing is certain and everything is fragile but also soothing and exciting. like there is many things i wanna do but also i don’t feel like doing, it’s a contradictory age that’s just hard to understand. i was not one to feel nostalgic or regret things, but as you get older you start to do that and you have to remind yourself that is a way to learn and be better. so for me, the best part is truly looking at yourself differently everyday, changing is inevitable so you have to keep remembering who you are and what you stand for in order to keep going. i hope that i am taking a better person from this. also make good friends, that’s probably the best advice and best part of your 20′s.

who was the last person you had a deep conversation with?

i don’t have many deep conversations, i am more the type that listens. but when i do it’s just thoughts, like now in this interview. so probably my last deep conversation is this, because you’re asking me things that are hard not to be deep about.

best advice you received from someone.

advice’s can be fragile and change from time to time, so the only one i think is right is about being kind to others, that sounds basic but that’s because it’s suppose to be. 

what’s the one food you can’t bring yourself to eat?

funny enough, i don’t like egg. like fried egg, i mean if it’s in the food and as an ingredient, i don’t really mind but as a meal itself... i don’t really like it. i don’t care for tofu either, i can eat it though.

if you were in a band, what kind of music would you play?

i would go for r&b but it would become popular quick so i’d have to make it pop but with still a little r&b vibe, know what i mean? but i can’t really sing, or play any instrument.

if it would have a movie about your life, what would be the title?

did you listen to folklore, the taylor swift album? i came across mad woman, and i really like that song, i think something like that... it doesn’t need to be something big and meaningful, just moon nayoung it’s fine. but i don’t want a movie about my life, there is many other important stories to tell.

do you believe in astrology? 

i don’t really have an opinion. i’m a sagittarius, who are suppose to be really free spirits, curious and idealistic, which i don’t know if it’s me or not. so i think is funny but i don’t really care.

do you consider yourself romantic? what’s the most romantic gesture you have done?

me? i don’t know. i don’t think i do things in name of romance, i do them because i want to. that sounds sooo bitter, but i swear it’s not! i may be a romantic though, but i am not hopeless, at least not anymore. cooking for your partner counts as big romantic gesture? cause i’ve done that a lot.

what was your favorite book as a child?

peter pan and little women. i probably didn’t wanna grew up, right?!

do you prefer baths or showers?

i like both, but i prefer showers because it takes less time and it’s more practical. cold showers in the summer all the way.

tell something you learn that you wish more people would too.

pay your bills before due date, mark them on your calendar or something and try to pay them before it’s due. even if it leave you broke for a few days, if you take your time it will only make you more lazy and it will become a habit. 

now leave us with a secret that no one knows about you.

there is not much people don’t know about me anymore and if there is, that’s the reason why it’s a secret, am i right? but maybe i call tell you that i already cheated on a text or something, cause that’s all i have for you. sorry.