#for who!! by what standards!! what does that even mean!!!!!

[thehmn]

I want to apologize to my friends and family who have children for low key treating their kids like dogs but the standard methods for training dogs are even more effective of them because they actually understand language and are better at reasoning.

Positive reinforcement is amazingly effective, like I saw my nephew poking their cat so I sternly told him no, he stopped and I immediately changed my demeanor and cheerfully told him thank you and how happy I was that he listened to me instead of staying angry at him and he got this strange “Oh…It actually does make a difference wether I’m naughty or not” and later my sister in law asked why he’s so polite around me.

That’s literally what works best on dogs. Let them know when you don’t like what they’re doing but also let them know when you’re happy with them even if that means changing your demeanor on a dime (and even if you’re still a bit mad at them for doing it in the first place).

Oh and little treats. I skipped the aunt phase and is already turning into a grandma who has candy in her pockets for the kiddos for good behavior.

[zodiac-blood]

Like as someone who would definitely fall under the category of "is asexual with no sexual attraction but still does it anyway" I completely understand the notion of "hey it's nice to understand that not all ace people are sex repulsed" but also as someone who also considers themself gay (in a mlm way) (in a tertiary attraction kinda way) and has a girlfriend its like. But I've never seen anyone say any of the gay men in media I relate to can also date women without feeling attracted to them. Its like.... So??? Give me a reason aroaces are the only time there are exceptions that are respected that ISN'T just the the amatonormative idea of ""dating & sex is just natural"" and that allowing this exception means people can still center their stories around dating and sex.

This probably is because allo queers, even if being queer, can still abide by the amatonormative idea of "everyone needs to want/pursue a relationship and (romantic&sexual) love is the most important feeling", so even if yes, a gay man is not abiding by the cishet standards of attraction he can still have a "normal" love story of falling in love and pursuing that interest. Also additionally that aroaces fall outside of the "sexuality binary" (the weird idea that the only sexualities are "exclusive attraction to men" and "exclusive attraction to women" and that anything outside of that is not valid) A romance & sex repulsed Aroace cannot fufil any part of the amatonormative expectation and so exceptions are only allowed in the case that it makes the most important thing about their life still center around romance and sexuality. (Of course- exceptions aren't normally allowed like the fact no one gets I can be gay and have a girlfriend but that exceptions not accepted because it doesn't fit the sexuality binary)

Cause like. Most Allos can understand/relate to the concept of not feeling attracted to a certain gender (like het men don't feel attracted to men but can understand the concept of a gay man not feeling attracted to women under the basis of "its like me but reversed") but they don't have any point of easy reference to relate to no attraction at all so they don't really even try. If they can't relate to it then they don't feel the need to change their worldview to allow it.

Anyway as I said; I would fall under the category of "aroace that is in a relationship" (and not even because of the tertiary attraction) so I totally understand there are people who are like me. And yes I think having that sort of relationship is valid- I mean I'm literally living in one- but its very telling that every aroace character always has this same exact debate but you don't see ANY discussion about biromantic homosexuals or any form of split attraction and dating without attraction in allo characters.

Unfortunately I don't know that many canonically aroace characters- other than Percy (canon ace and Jello said she may also be aro) & Howie (aroace) from Epithet Erased and Lilith (aroace) from the Owl House. Didn't get into toh fan spaces so idk about that but I know I definitely have seen posts about shipping Howie and Percy (sometimes together bc of their rivalry - but other ships are more common.) And yeah Percy is only stated to be ace and "potentially aro" and not explicitly aroace- still definitely have seen many a Percy x Howie or explicitly sexual Ramsey x Percy / Zora x Percy going around so :v

Even if I am in a relationship the way I go about my relationship is a lot different than what allos go through- yet every time in fiction an aroace character is in a relationship its written exactly how allo relationships are. (Though I tend to be romance repulsed so I don't read much of that anyway lol). I do love that other aros who are more romance favourable than me like to write/draw relationships that fit how they live- but when allos write/draw it a lot of time they don't take care in actually considering how that would absolutely affect the dynamic or that there are some characters that just don't want any sort of romantic or sexual relationship at all.

I'm probably going to end up writing my own post abt this further so I don't derail but; also the whole idea of "split attraction and the ability to be not sexually attracted but not sex repulsed in a relationship is only an asexual thing" and not just like. A broad attraction thing that anyone can experience. Definitely is also aided by &/ partially the cause of these exceptions only being applied to aroace folk.

-Toby (they/them) & Bias (he/they)

the way fandoms are desperate to make all aroace characters romance and sex positive but then dont do anything remotely similar to any other identity is astounding. hmm i wonder why

PLEASE dont derail this about shipping characters of other identities please let this one post be about an aroace struggle

[evieelyzabethh]

"deep"

⭒'thinking 'bout ringing your line, i wish you would come home'⭒ make out + nsfw headcanons for Viktor

request✓: "Viktor make out headcanons (and maybe even nsfw hcs?) 👉👈"

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A tease, through and through. He likes to be begged for, to put it simply. He likes to worm his way into your brain and slither down your spine and make you shiver. He isn't one for PDA, or rather, he isn't the one to initiate it. There's too much volatile equipment in the lab, if ink is to spill on those notes it could set them back weeks, and one slight miscalculation could create an explosion. It's an unfair double standard with him. If you were to kiss him on the cheek, it's a real possibility he'll joking wipe it off, but he can mess with you all day long.

He is very patient while waiting for your resolve to crumble. He likes the journey between Jayce's presence in the room being your saving grace to your damnation as you try and will him telepathically to leave. He's amused hearing your pleas for him to stop teasing you becoming less honest as you lean into his lingering touches more and more. The way your eyes get wide when he asks you 'is it too hard? it's okay to want to tap out.' in relation to your work, but the way his accent is laid, almost slurred with how thick the words roll of his tongue, makes you think of something else.

His kisses are quick when you need them the slowest. After toying with you all day with his stupid dirty remarks and his pretty face and the way he flexes his hand or moves a spare gear between his fingers, you could eat from the palm of his hand. The blush on your cheeks is written off as a sign of an impending fever, even more believable because you're just so hot, and you lean into his cool hand against your forehead and look up at him with doe eyes that scream just take me home. He plants a kick peck to your check, and you twitch in irritation at the smug look on his face.

He's the type to make you chase him, your desperation feeding into what could only be sadism. He chides you for being desperate. 'I'm not going anywhere, doll, I'm just right here.' he says after pulling away from your hot kisses, removing your frantic hands from his neck and holding them in his. 'Good things come to those who wait.' He's a bit of a control freak in that way. He doesn't care how much you need it; you'll get it when he says so.

Despite his kisses being slow, his hands aren't. They work magic, he could work your bra off without you noticing. They also have a mind of their own, weaving between the buttons of your blouse to wrapping around your hair, tugging it as a sign of disapproval. Or sometimes he just holds your chin in one hand, brushing loose hairs from your face to memorize the look it holds. You would think he was a sculptor the way he delicately traces over each feature, grazing each freckle, feeling every divot in your lip. He's committing it to memory. He's not the type to keep polaroids, but he could immortalize both the before and after of your nights together into iron and stone.

Not often rough, but after enough of an adrenaline rush, maybe after a dose of shimmer, he could get there. He's not often messy, but after a rough day of frustration and failure, he's all teeth and tongue, mashing your face into his, practically falling into you with a fervor and anguish that is unfamiliar to the both of you.

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He gives me sadist vibes. The type to tie you to the headboard and leave you there with a vibrator strapped to your clit until you are sobbing and begging for him to take it off. The type to talk to you like he hates your guts, cooing at you condescendingly giving you whiplash at the juxtaposition of his mean words and his sweet tone. The type to accuse of getting off on the idea of being caught by Jayce when you're fucking in the lab. 'You think he'd be surprised, pretty, seeing that his best friend is a fucking whore?' You get the picture.

He can be sweet. Even when he's jackhammering his cock down your throat, calling you the filthiest names under the sun, he really doesn't have a vicious bone in his body. His pupils are dilated too big for his expression to be of genuine disgust. His hands are too gentle, even as wiping the tears that he caused, to truly hate you.

I see a lot of headcanons saying that he prefers giving to receiving, which I don't personally agree with. Don't get me wrong, he loves being in between your thighs, it's his favorite way of pushing your buttons and pushing you to the limits. He likes how frustrated you get when he blows cool air onto your aching clit while you clench at nothing. He's mesmerized by the way his spit mingles with your overflowing cunt. But nothing beats the sight of you on your knees, drool dripping from your chin, eyes closed as you're trying to remember how to breath. It's the fastest way to turn his brain off, and lord knows he needs it.

Due to his experimental nature, he's definitely into edging, both being on a receiving and giving ends. He doesn't just want to test your limits, he wants to test his, and he is not one to give up. He easily gives into you after enough tears start flowing, but he could go until feels like he is about to pass out. You probably tap out before he does, his groans eventually becoming nothing more than breathy whimpers, his chest heaving, his hand wrapping around the hand currently wrapped around his red, leaking cock. He's almost delirious but it just hurts so good.

More of a groaner than a moaner. Definitely takes advantage of those nights where you're on top of him to bury his head in your neck just to groan in your ear and tell you just how good you look on top of him because he knows it gets you off.

This being said, aftercare usually consists of helping each other into the tub, taking turns scrubbing each other clean while exchanging a few wet kisses in the warm water. It's only long after the water goes cold that you leave, giggling back to bed, where if you ask nicely enough, he'll read to you as you both fall asleep.

[velvetvexations]

I’m. So baffled by that one dude saying that trans men being able to pretend to be women is a privilege, because in his tags he says that it’s a thing specific to transmascs. Does he mean pretending to be cis as a means of safety is a transmasc specific thing?? Because uh, I’m… pretty sure that’s something that can be done regardless of a trans person’s gender? There are transfems and nonbinary people who can also pretend to be cis [whatever their agab was], too?

Its also not a privilege. Having to hide what you are out of fear isn’t a fucking privilege lmao

strangely people understand that when it's about trans women

just saw a post on my dash saying "'infighting' is a dogwhistle which frames transfems as aggressors". i really hope the tide is turning like you said, bc this shit is getting exhausting and im still seeing it from random people i follow who otherwise gave no indication that they drank the koolaid.

they make me out to be the aggressor all the time!

Nazi imagery anon here

These are the pics I was referring to.

As you can see it’s posted on the verified border security account and you can see two different nazi symbols on him :(

yeah it looks like standards for what they allow soldiers to adorn themselves with are low and the person taking and posting the pics aren't paying good enough attention because that guy also straight up has a naked anime bitch on his knife sheath

as I said this is an individual thing and they need to start knocking their heads together like the Three Stooges and sending them into trenches first

You know who saying that th**fab is actually a storied term that trans fems have been using to identify transmisogonists is fucking insane like girl that's such obvious lie give us nothing

they aren't even trying

It’s crazy how almost every other day on this site I see a new post with like 50k notes talking about how absolutely NOBODY deserves to be harassed, sent death threats or be put on blast yet once again I’m seeing people trying to justify the harassment of another transmasc teenager. Honestly people should just start openly admitting Tumblr is becoming increasingly hostile towards trans masculine individuals, I don’t see clownery on this level on any other platform-

Tumblr...is really bad.

I think the reason why this whole headcanons discourse bothers me so much is that is really is just fuelled by petty spite. Like all these characters are cisgender in canon. We make headcanons because it’s FUN to expand on characters in ways that reflect our different life experiences in whatever form that may take. Intentionally going after transmascs, especially young transmascs, for doing this with characters like they like and accusing them of all these different things genuinely does just feel like bigotry. Who cares if a head canon may not make the most amount of sense? It’s a cisgender fictional character we’re playing around with! Why does it have to be some grand act of activism to say blorbo number 3 is transmasc? We have much bigger fish to fry here.

exactly it's such dedication to not letting anyone else have anything

So sick of people acting like trans men are the same as cis men under the patriarchy and moreso im really sick of the "you're privileged to not be surrounded by men". Like, for lack of better phrasing, saying that about a group of people that is generally perceived as "failure women" pre transition (and sometimes during and post) is a little tone deaf. All about acknowledging how women and people perceived as women are harmed by misogyny until the ones perceived are men. Gender essentialism is ugly and tasteless and nonsensical. Please feel free to delete this im just rambling without a point

rambling is okay anon <3

„wow ur so privileged to not fear men”

i fear the fucking everyone asshole, i just realized that isnt everyone elses fault so i should still treat them with respect !!!!!

that woman called me a "self-hating doll" and I hate the second part a lot more than the first

[freddiemerqwerty]

I read a lot of Our Flag Means Death fics in 2024 and thought I would start the new year off my sharing some of my favs from the year!

Force Majeure (121362 words) by seularen Rating: Explicit Relationships: Stede Bonnet/Israel Hands, Edward Teach/Stede Bonnet, Edward Teach/Israel Hands, Edward Teach/Stede Bonnet/Israel Hands

This fic made me a Steddyhands truther. It changed the game, set the standard, and almost convinced me to get a carrick knot ring. Months later, I am still losing it. How did you know so exactly, dear author, what made these men tick? What must first be broken in order to be made anew? I AM LOSING IT. Read this please. I will never be who I was before Stede Bonnet read Shakespeare's Henry V to Izzy Hands.

Does the Body Good (21395 words) by zemph147 Rating: Explicit Relationships: Edward Teach/Stede Bonnet

A screenshot of one line of this fic made me want to read it. I did in fact throw my phone, and pace around the room in distress when I got to that line. Fabulous work, an all time favorite—I lost my my mind at these men. This is representation I look for in media, truly feeling like this is my allo-sona—if such a thing existed. I also love the deeply feral sequel to this fic: Does the Body Even Gooder. I will return to you through the ages dear ones, you are very silly.

in the wake of tales (44000 words) by zythepsary Rating: Explicit Relationships: Stede Bonnet/Israel Hands, Edward Teach/Israel Hands, Edward Teach/Stede Bonnet/Israel Hands

Your honor, these are their get-along handcuffs. Obsessed with so many of the choices in this fic. And I love the accompanying art! I think this fic truly made me understand what a Stizzy dynamic is. They are so perfectly the wrong people to be handcuffed together and I loved watching their undoing. I will be reading this again in 2025. This fandom needed this

To the Lonely Sea and the Sky (141270 words) by zythepsary Rating: Explicit Relationships: Edward Teach/Stede Bonnet/Israel Hands, Edward Teach/Stede Bonnet, Stede Bonnet/Israel Hands

The knifeplay tag definitely was a bit of a gamble for me, but I'm so glad I read this fic. I HAVE SO MANY EMOTIONS! The summary may read "Izzy decides Stede needs proper swordplay lessons" but it is so much more. They're figuring out what they need and want in the most backwards way possible and I love them. Give me more fanfiction where Izzy and Ed start their relationship by trying to kill one another, "propose", spend years fucking, eventually kiss for the first time, and then have submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known by admiting that they're friends. Also the Stizzy of this fic is so *chef's kiss*. I might have been scared of that tag, but now I think it's what they need. What is romance if not a stabbing your boyfriend's boyfriend like he stabs you?

Stranger on a Beach (46486 words) by zemph147 Rating: Explicit Main Relationship: Edward Teach/Stede Bonnet

What if they kissed in the Chauvet cave? What if they fucked in the Chauvet cave—with respect and awe? I read this fic for the Chauvet cave tag, but become obsessed with everything else that it is. Stede is sad in France and won't stop putting back wine and cheese so the crew take him to a gay nude beach and it fixes him. So much love for the queer joy of this fic. "I want to go to there" is the feeling I have about the emotions in this story. Very good vibes for something I read purely to figure out how Stede and Ed would make it into Chauvet cave

Discreetly Yours (254277 words) by BonnetPetit Rating: Explicit Relationships: Blackbeard | Edward Teach/Stede Bonnet

The fandom hype for this fic got me invested. Enemies to Lovers but your enemy is not only your "OnlyWangs" competitor but your coffeeshop crush? Ed, Blackbeard, and Stede, The Gentleman Reviewer, are rival sex toy reviewers. It is wildly on brand for Stede to be this much of a geek, and Ed to be this emotionally distant but needy. I lost it and have never found it since the scene about the dryocampa rubicunda lingerie. Gotta say though, this fic emotionally devastated me at points and I'm so glad they're in therapy now.

intimately rearranged (3395 words) by givemebaretrees Rating: Explicit Relationships: Edward Teach/Stede Bonnet/Israel Hands

I love how fucked/fucked up Izzy Hands is as a character. This little vignette could absolutely be canon, I see the author's vision. The tag that ultimately made me read this fic was "I read 2 articles on 18th century shaving to research this". Real of you

Slippery When Wet (7660 words) by chaotic_neutral_knitter Rating: Explicit Relationships: Edward Teach/Stede Bonnet

This was one of the first fics I read this year. It was cozy, sweet, and gay—with a wonderful twist/cliffhanger ending! So much of the setting and character dynamics felt so captivating that I completely forgot about the mystery at the start of the story. Even if you didn't know anything about Our Flag Means Death, it is the loveliest short story

For now, I will leave you with these, as they are the most general in terms of fic tastes for this fandom. However, I spent a lot of time in some very specific tags this year and gained favorites that aren't included here. How I love you tropes like Stede Bonnet thinking he's cursed but really he's just experiencing attraction to men for the first time, or Izzy Hands just being treated how he wants and it breaking him, or anything that makes Edward Teach make this 🥺 face.

Thank you OFMD fandom for some wonderful fanfiction. On to more adventures in 2025!

[40bodiesinmybasement]

I didn't say that self perception starts and ends with how your present or behave- that's like, the opposite of what I said tbh.

Gender should be abolished, yes. Gender roles should be abolished as well. Neither of these things contradicts the existence of trans people, no matter how hard you try to say that it does. When a trans person says that they feel like a man/woman, what they often mean is that they want to physically be as close as they can be to how they see themselves, and how to wish to be male/female. Even if the concept of man/woman stopped existing- there would still be trans people, who want to transition, who will want to live as something that doesn't align with their birth sex.

A trans person, can change their sex through surgery and hormones, can fit into the definition of what male or female is through those procedures.

But this entire thing is deviating from the point.

I don't think that transphobes care if trans people do fit the definition of the sex their transitioning to. Because the issue you have when it comes to trans people is with the idea of change that the existence of trans people brings, it means that our understanding of human existence may not just start and end at physical biology. This is why transphobes constantly call trans people who transition as mutilated or ruined, because in their mind the only correct way to exist is if you exist as what you were born as. And the idea that someone can be happy in a body that they created for themselves is outlandish and threatening to you, because it's something you yourself can't fathom doing.

[ No, I don't think this is comparable to people getting plastic surgery to fit a beauty standard or a person with an ED harming themselves to achieve an unrealistic goal of being healthy or beautiful- beauty and health cannot be measured in an objective or meaningful way, but like you said, there are definitions to male and female based in our understanding of reality. ]

You can't abolish sex based oppression unless you also get rid of the rigidity of sex itself. You cannot combat sex based oppression while actively resisting any changes that come to the idea of sex.

Amazon Description: "Nobody seems to understand that Hannah is not a girl. His parents ask why he won't wear the cute outfits they pick out. His friend thinks he must be a tomboy. His teacher insists he should be proud to be a girl. But a birthday wish, a new word, and a stroke of courage might be just what Hannah needs to finally show the world who he really is."

The idea that there are certain clothes, behaviors, activities that determine whether you are a boy, or a girl is just reinforced with the idea of gender identity. This book basically teaches young children that wanting short hair, not liking pink, wanting to actually play and have fun, not wanting to be "pretty", not wanting to wear "girl" clothes, makes you a boy.

It is so hard to explain the very simple idea that gender is oppressive. Of course kids aren't going to like being taught from birth that you must wear pink, no you can't play that sport, those are boy clothes!, etc... And no, the answer is not to say someone was "Born in the wrong body!" when they express dissatisfaction from forced gender roles. Straying from gender roles doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, your body or mind. You can cut your hair, wear different clothes, play sports, or whatever, none of those things make you a different sex.

[max1461]

Ach sorry, didn’t mean to spam. Yes, that is one hundred percent correct. There are no people who support cars who believe car accidents do not occur. People drive by car accidents every day. Rather, they believe that car accidents are a good trade off for the positives of having cars. I absolutely agree as well, based on the rate of car accidents (low), I fully accept the risk of car accidents in order to keep driving.

In the same way, you believe that the risk of a massive sex trafficking ring that encompasses the entire Pakistani population of the United Kingdom is worth… something. There is some benefit of immigration which outweighs the “downsides.”

Back to the car metaphor. When cars were first invented, there were no speed limits beyond the max capacity of the engine. There were no seat belts and there were no air bags. No laws regarding intoxication while driving. Over time, these limitations have been increased. I drive a car, I use my seat belts, I drive within the limits of speed and sobriety. Would you support limits to immigration? Or do you believe immigration should be infinite and unlimited?

Of course, if you speak to any immigration advocate long enough, they immediately start framing things in terms of revenge sooner or later. “You deserve it because colonialism,” “you deserve it because privilege.” It is also well established that the government and police, who make and enforce the laws, were fully aware of the grooming gangs and chose to take no action. So it’s actually reasonable to take the stance that the purpose of this system is what it does: the point of the Pakistani immigrant is the mass rape, it is not a downside.

I believe that there is not a massive trafficking ring that encompasses the entire Pakistani population of the United Kingdom. Some Pakistanis in the UK are clearly involved in sex trafficking, as some white people in the UK are, and both these issues should be handled in the same manner by investigating and policing sex crimes (as the Rotherham police failed to do). That is the equivalent of speed limits and safety standards here. The limits don't need to be on number of immigrants, just like we don't prevent car accidents by limiting the number of cars produced.

Anyway, what are we getting in return? Human freedom. You might not understand this because I don't think they care very much about that across the pond. But here in the USA we have this ideal called "freedom", where people should be allowed to do shit even if there's a risk of someone getting hurt. People are allowed to own guns, even though there is a risk of someone shooting someone else with one. Unfortunately many Americans don't extend this to immigration. But, yeah, sometimes an immigrant might be a criminal. Small price to pay for freedom, people being allowed to go where they want, do what they want, etc. etc. If you don't accept this as a good thing then we just have fundamentally incompatible values; I can never make you understand my views and you can never make me understand yours.

[squid-ichorous]

i have to take solace in the fact that fashion is fucked up for everyone because the idea of buying a garment online w/o exact measurements and a size chart is fr crazy-making and the idea that people just do that is even more so

[crownedwille]

I've come to the conclusion that loving young royals doesn't mean I can't be critical about it, maybe especially bc I love the show so much I have such strong feelings about it, good and bad and I can love parts of canon and agree with it and appreciate it but I don't have to love it all. I have accepted that it's okay if I don't accept the ending and I don't have to force myself to support it. It's okay to not agree with all of canon and it's okay to not side with all of the creators' intentions/views. Loving a show doesn't mean you have to take everything the writers say on face value and that's the only version that is allowed to exist. Canon isn't everything and fandom is about curating your own experience that makes you happy and not miserable. You don't have to dismiss canon in every aspect and ignore it entirely, that's certainly not what I want but there is a fine line between being canon respectful, allowing some parts to exist and sometimes, yes, you just have to say "fuck canon" and move on for your own sanity and wellbeing

[sskk-manifesto]

Ep 5!!!

[bellaaldamas]

The "mistagging" was clearly not accidental, sadly. This person deliberately used the ship tag (freytos) so that the fans, myself included, would find it. Whereas the "progressive left" has demonstrated yet again how they embrace patriarchy in it's most primordial form by claiming Freya's development and "freedom" from abuse will be "downplayed" if she enters a healthy relationship with another man. This same person never received any kind of aggressive backlash or trolling when it comes to their own, completely AU and fanon headcanons about Atreus and the yaoi involving him. But they cannot extend the same courtesy to other people in the fandom, in this case freytos shippers, and refrain from using the appreciation tag for their outburst.

And as much as I absolutely hate going into that territory and playing the "Greek woman" card I cannot help but be disturbed and appalled by how Lysandra is being used as a weapon against Freytos by the people who do not - nor have they ever - cared about her. Beyond her being a "proto" Greek wife who has "fulfilled her duty" of carrying a brooding and violent man "forward" before he could find a more "advanced and developed" Nordic woman Faye who "finally fixed him". Thus, Faye has also fulfilled her duty of making Kratos into a better person and being the perfect wife and mother before dying on him. Those same people do not even recognize how misogynistic it is to reduce both Faye and Lysandra to the accessories in Kratos's story.

@rhythmsmith and @freytos already covered most of the issues with the anti-Freytos rhetoric in the replies. Therefore I will just copy and paste my own responses to their eloquent summary (you can read their comments in the reply section to this post):

This attitude stems from misogyny and the idea that women become reduced to sexual objects the moment they get involved with men. This is normalizing the society's sexist notion that romantic/sexual relationship mean an automatic loss of autonomy and agency - but only for a woman. Same notion does not extend to men and THAT is why the anti-Freytos types support all manner of ludicrous Yaoi with Kratos involved. Including Kratos and Atreus of Sparta which is absurd because Kratos would never name his son after a man he supposedly had a "crush" on let alone a relationship with. Or Kratos and Tyr and Kratos and Thor where the former has zero basis in canon and is even more fanon than Freytos (which had allusions and direct mentions of the possibility of their involvement in Valhalla). Whilst Kratos/Thor is an outright toxic ship where antagonism between two characters is being fetishized and sexualized. Those same people would bend over backwards calling an M/F ship such as this "abusive" because "dumb women" cannot resist "bad boys'" charms. But men totally can and should be paired with such bad boys.

Finally, there is the greatest evil in the form of the idea that platonic and romantic relationship should be held to a different standard.

This is why the Baldur issue only EVER comes into play when the subject of Freytos romantic involvement comes into play. This is especially offensive in the context of Freya's story where Odin's abuse of her did not exist in vacuum and was enabled and made possible by her community, her own people and both the "evil/misguided" Aesir and the "good/confused" Vanir.

Freya's own people, for whom she had entered the marriage with Odin in the first place, denounced her - including her own brother - and wrote insults on the walls of her realm in order to humiliate her for daring to exercise her agency. But both the fandom and the narrative expected Freya to just forgive and forget because this is what women ought to do.

Then the anti-Freytos types spit on abuse victims from their victim blaming, pseudo-feminist high horse when they pair Freya with Sif - a woman who raised her own daughter to consider Freya a "treacherous ex wife" of her genocidal granddaddy (but Thrud is still a "feminist icon" and should totally be friends and even "more" with Atreus who made it clear time and again he is not interested in her and who, mind you, killed her brother in cold blood; but it's totally ok, because Thrud dismissed Modi's death in an outright sociopathic manner of "we're better off without him").

Most of the anti-Freytos misogyny is repackaged patriarchy from yaoi shippers which suggests a woman loses her individuality the moment she gets involved with a man. Particularly atrocious is the rhetoric of "let Freya just be Free" after her separation from Odin and his abuse, as if commitment and romantic/marital involvement means an automatic loss of freedom and autonomy but only for women. This is both misogynistic and absolves men like Odin of responsibility for their abusive behaviors by implying that the problem was/is not them but the fact of a woman choosing to enter a relationship and marriage. And, by doing so, supposedly "signing up" for marital and domestic violence. This is a progressive version of "she had it coming".

This is also where another misogynistic claim comes into play: the idea that Freya being involved with Kratos "destroys her entire arc, their beautiful friendship and Freya's liberation from Odin's abuse". Yet again the mechanics of abuse against women is being misrepresented and implies that involvement, for a woman, comes with the inevitability of being A) abused and B) losing her freedom/autonomy. By arguing that, the anti-Freytos camp is placing the responsibility for those occurrences on women.

But a man can totally be involved with any other man because men in general have "evolved beyond" losing their individuality and freedom when they have a relationship. Only "hormonal and gullible women" do. Hence the assorted yaoi with Kratos passed off as "progressive".

The Freytos opposing crowd is so miserable they believe their "progressive misogyny" gets a pass for invading freytos tag with their "hot takes". Of course said progressive misogyny involves an insulting anti-women claim that woman's separation and freedom from her abuser (Odin in this case) would be downplayed if she enters a positive and healthy relationship with another man. And no, you do not get to play the "but Kratos killed Baldur!!11!!" card if you still "Wuv their Bootiful Friendship" and don't want it ruined by the "dirty romance" which supposedly turns women into sexual objects and robs poor men of the ability to still respect them and acknowledge their needs. Holding platonic relationship to a different standard than romantic relationship is offensive, especially when talking about a character like Freya whose marital abuse at the hands of Odin was only possible because it was enabled by the people she had platonic connections to (including her own people and her brother who had denounced her). Kratos was the only one who did not enable it.

Needless to say those progressive misogynists are totally on board with Kratos being a part of some completely fanon yaoi such as Kratos/Mimir or Kratos/Tyr or Kratos/Thor. Because men are "more complex and deep" than women and THEIR progression, development and "journey" can never be undermined if they take romantic interest in one another. Only women become servants to their hormones if they do, didn't you know?

Predictably, in order to make this progressive misogyny work and get support from the fellow "progressives" the anti-Freytos types proudly establish themselves as the "not like other girls" of the fandom who do not need to learn proper tagging.

One good thing to come out of their sexism, entitlement and lack of tagging ethic? It gives a perfect opportunity to block everyone in the notes.

[butchriptide]

genuinely really frustrating that people will like. choose to accept the age mistake made in assassin as canon for deathbringer when it actively contradicts older material. like. sorry idk if this is me being unfair here but genuinely like. why would you think it's intentional when deathbringer is described in main series as maybe a year or two older than glory at most, and can canonically not be any older than 9 due to stated timeline facts in the main series.

like. I get not liking glorybringer, i really do. no ship is for everyone. hell, even if assassin specifically makes you feel weird about it, so be it, to each their own. i can undertsnad that too. and yes, the glorybringer fans who think the age gap are canon are also in the wrong. they're being really gross, i don't think it's necessary to disclaim that, that feels given, but like... that only comes to my point still of like, i really don't understand taking a spin-off as canon over the main series. i don't really understand prioritizing later content as canon as opposed to the main work over spin-off as canon. why should a spin-off take jurisdiction just cuz it's newer? i feel like the older the canon is, the more likely it is the newer stuff will make mistakes. to me, in the case of a contradiction, the main series should be taken to? a spin-off is meant to supplement the main series, so shouldn't it only supplement canon that doesn't contradict?

like also, i get being frustrated it isn't fixed, but also. like. i obviously have not worked with a publisher before, but if I was writing for fucking scholastic books, no matter how well fucking beloved my series was, I don't know if I could risk being like "hey. can you pull my books from shelves and e-stores for me so that I can edit one line?" Like. I really don't think there's any reality in which I can make a corporation agree to that kind of thing, no matter what that one line may fuck up about my main story. like it's not even the only mistake she makes in the winglets. she calls deathbringer a rainwing in the flip book, but we're not hailing that as canon in retrospect, right? I don't know. I think it's unfair to presume that she's choosing not to fix it as opposed to it being an improbable to downright impossible thing to ask of a publisher. like yes tui is an incredibly successful author but i really don't know if we can presume she has that much actual sway on her publisher.

it's just really exhausting as a deathbringer enjoyer to feel like if I want to talk about and enjoy his character, and yes, that includes context given in the assassin winglet once you ignore the timeline error, i feel like I constantlyyy have to be saying "yes I think the timeline error is an error. no i don't think deathbringer is 13." like. every time i bring him up. i'm a riptide fan I'm used to it but also it's sooooo tiring to go into a character tag for a guy i like and be swamped with hatred for him and it's so much worse for deathbringer than riptide because in the deathbringer tag I have to deal with being actively accused of excusing gross shit for liking him instead of people just saying that my blorbo is boring.

[theskeletoninthegarden]

Sorry about the theater of emotions going on my face from across the room. I'm trying to resolve an argument that I made up between two fictional characters.

[shut-up-rabert]

I used google AI’s SS simply because I already knew that fact and did not feel like relating. Further, that OP was bullshitting on a singular claim, I did not feel like giving a thorough answer. You have been following this blog for ages, have you ever before seen me give a political/theological take not backed by sources? Real news, as you just said?

As for your points, I guess I should tell you why that went the way it did. let me add on for you:

Only 33% of the medical practioners are available in Rural India, which is home to 2/3rds population. We get half our population’s worth of medical attention. There’s only one clinic in my rather prosperous village, not even a hospital.

ASL healthcare ambulances are still short of standard, by almost one fourth. Some lack basic healthcare facilities as well.

the number of doctors per 1000 people, while on paper, above WHO standard, is still far below developed countries, and does not seem adequate for India of all places.

All in all, our healthcare system is for the worse in its present state.

But I don’t think you understand the context here. How is Blinkit offering ambulance in any way fault of GoI? Or Hindus?

OP’s goal was to make it look like its a result of adverse privatisation by the Government which is not only a bullshit take, but done with a very bigoted political agenda.

Look at that person’s tags carefully. She tagged ‘Hindublr’. Hindublr is a tag for an inclusive Hindu population. Tagging that and using it as a anti BJP tag, that I am somehow responsible for this so called “downfall of the country” when I am just minding my own business is outright rude and ignorant, if not plain communal.

And frankly, what’s the basis of using a blinkit ad as to what the Government is doing on healthcare?

The number of Government Medical Colleges, Seats and Medical facilities, Including ambulances has increased exponentially under the last 10 years. At least a 50% growth on all these things, from an infra that existed for almost 70 years. BSL ambulances have surpassed the standard criteria, there has been an 82% in GMCs, Speciality blocks have been introduced in several Government colleges, so on and so forth. Ayushman Bharat scheme foots atleast a majority if not all of the bill for poorer strata in costly treatments.

All of this is from Research papers on Government press releases, not even news articles for your satisfaction.

We are not there by any means, the situation is still pretty poor, as pointed above by you, but all things show that we may be getting there now, and being the devil’s advocate I am, I’ll say it can’t be said that this show’s centre’s tendencies to privitasation in any way.

And that’s my problem with that post. Criticising the Government is a healthy thing that should be done, I guess I can come around and say that they need to put in more work if healthcare is to be mantained because what the fuck is up with undersupplied and inadequate medical facilities? This is not it for me who leans in favour of NDA: I expect more, we all should. That’s how Scandinavian nations got where they are. The ambulances should be 100% functional, the hospitals fully equipped.

But this OP is acting like Healthcare somehow is going for the worse because of Centre’s capitalist greed, which is not only false but opposite to the actual trend. And hey, its her blog, she can bullshit her way there and all she likes but what’s the point in tagging hindublr to shame us based on her delusions?

this is what happens when your government prioritizes building temples or life saving infrastructure.

ambulances, are part of public health infrastructure, they are essential services that should be universally accessible. However due to the incompetence of our government, private solutions will plug in the gap like below, undermining long-term investments in public infrastructure.

do remember all the temples built the next time you have to call an ambulance and pay gst for it.

this is a shame for our country.

[bandsanitizer]

nah but why tf they bringing mama to la?

[wasabikitcat]

Has anyone in this Olympics women's boxing argument ever stopped and thought about whether it would make any sense for women to be more susceptible to being injured in boxing than men? Like sure, it's a fairly common assumption that men are physically stronger than women, and therefore a man would have an advantage at boxing because he can punch harder... But how would that make you more resilient to being punched in the nose? Like I would think the assumed advantage would be that women can't hit as hard and therefore would require more effort to take someone down, but what everyone is arguing over is a woman having her nose broken from a punch to the face, when a man's nose would be just as broken from the same punch. Women don't have like, daintier and weaker facial bones or something. Being punched in the face "by a man" when you're a woman is literally no different than being punched in the face by the same person as a man. If we are to assume that men (note: the person being debated about here isn't a man or even a trans woman, she is cisgender, but I digress) are so Herculean that their punches are just too dangerous for women, then men's boxing should be banned outright because it's just too dangerous for men to be punching each other with that strength when a punch to the face is exactly the same for a man as it is to a woman.