#fittinginisoverrated

[blackaproncraft]

Smart chocolate. #happy #happiness #FittingInIsOverRated https://www.instagram.com/p/B63vl1alghP/?igshid=nsugq1zb54q0

[megpie]

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” Ralph Waldo Emerson <---- I wish this is something we could instill in our children. My child is in middle school. 11 years old. 6th grade. Creative + artsy, free thinking, crazy-intelligent, dead ass funny, #anxietylife, #theaterkid vibes. Unfortunately, middle school culture tends *not* to value things like individuality, quirkiness, being unique + different + vibrantly yourself. You know? ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Instead of celebrating the range of rad differences and allowing kids to be confident with what cool things make them an individual -- these early teen years seem to urge conformity, with an obsessive need to stifle all freedom of expression unless it's like, the ONE specified "cool" version. How... boring and blah. 🤍🤍🤍 Everyone we look to as a role model, as a leader, as an entertainer... They're all people who broke the mold, did something new, acted differently than others, had something unique + special + dare I say even WEIRD about them, that helped them get to where they are. They thought differently, saw the world differently. Felt feelings harder. Heard music deeper. Saw colors brighter. Saw paths that others missed. Had a drive, a passion that others lacked. So: #weirdosunite, #beYOUtiful, celebrate individuality. Remind your kids that #fittinginisoverrated af. That being part of the crowd, blending in until they're the most boring shade of beige imaginable -- is basic ;) Life is too short to not use every color. The Universe needs all the unique, interesting things that make you, YOU, and you'll never find all of what that is when you're too busy trying to be the "same" as everyone else. Help your kids discover THEIR colors. Teaching this regularly, passionately, can help little by little to #stopbullying the raddest of our unique kids get -- while also helping *every* kid realize the full potential of coolness they have. Be an adult who celebrates your own unique, weird, colorful self too, as an example. Life is freaking HARD, man. Let's not add to it by pushing others down for glowing, you know? #bethegood, always. 💛 (at Yakima, Washington) https://www.instagram.com/p/CZZrwDmJRav/?utm_medium=tumblr

[coneflowersoul]

Yes! Be who you are. When you fit into the crowd you disappear. People pleasing can be fatal. Stop worrying what ‘they’ think. #beyourself #bebrave #fittinginisoverrated #stoppeoplepleasing #coneflowersoul https://www.instagram.com/p/B9EpnvfnHhP/?igshid=19sly4qg9c54y

[ohhichristopher]

I honestly believe this. In fact, I think it's true for everyone. If you don't and you think you're normal, I'm telling you to dig a little deeper. 'Cause normal as it's used today doesn't truly exist. It's a construct made up by people that don’t like different. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But different is a more accurate definition of normal. We're all different and that's normal. And it's the best way to be. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Who's proud to be different? #differentisbetter #fittinginisoverrated https://chrstphrswn.co/2MNOVnc

[eebell]

"fitting in" "Late bloomers"

It has been my experience, that "Late bloomers" make the most interesting personalities and some of the best people you will ever meet.

Honestly I believe that the people who "Fit in" generally just get sort of lazy. They never have any new ideas or feel the need to try and grow very much as people after graduating from high school, Every time iv spoken to someone who was popular in school iv always been so unbelievably bored. I'd probably have more of a chance for a mentally stimulating conversation if i was conversing with a damp kitchen towel.

[responsiveparenting]

Fitting In and a Sense of Belonging All humans desire a sense of belonging. It goes back to attachment. The reason attachment is important (secure or not) is because it gives us the motivation to bond with others. Why did we need to bond with others 2000 years ago? For 2 reasons; safety and procreation. When we feel a sense of belonging, we feel safe. A true sense of belonging comes from being accepted and loved unconditionally. Just like babies will attach to a caregiver, securely or not, any human will and can attach to other humans and we are driven to do this in order to pursue this sense of belonging. We will sacrifice our authentic selves, in order to feel a sense of belonging, because it feels safe. This is especially true if you have an insecure attachment type from your childhood. Yet, a child can never really feel secure and safe in an insecure attachment dyad, because the trust and security are not there. So the child learns to adapt to the needs of the parent, in order to gain that attachment and connect. This may cause an insecurely attached person to believe that fitting in and adapting to others expectations is necessary for connection. …. J. Milburn This begins in Toddlerhood. When our children first begin to separate from us a bit. Learn all about how to support your child’s autonomy and sense of belonging with the Toddler Workshop Series. Available through the link in my bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #attachment #authenticity #attachmentstyles #attachmentstyle #attachmenttheory #belonging #asenseofbelonging #parenting #fittinginisoverrated #fittinginisout #beunique #parenthood #motherhood #parentlife #childhood #responsivedads #generationaltrauma #childdevelopment #truthbetold #imjustsaying #childhoodmemories #emotionalintelligence #healingjourney #selfcare #reflections #maternalmentalhealth #dadlife #healinggenerationalwounds https://www.instagram.com/p/CbFY4HHLxHB/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

Fitting In and a Sense of Belonging All humans desire a sense of belonging. It goes back to attachment. The reason attachment is important (secure or not) is because it gives us the motivation to bond with others. Why did we need to bond with others 2000 years ago? For 2 reasons; safety and procreation. When we feel a sense of belonging, we feel safe. A true sense of belonging comes from being accepted and loved unconditionally. Just like babies will attach to a caregiver, securely or not, any human will and can attach to other humans and we are driven to do this in order to pursue this sense of belonging. We will sacrifice our authentic selves, in order to feel a sense of belonging, because it feels safe. This is especially true if you have an insecure attachment type from your childhood. Yet, a child can never really feel secure and safe in an insecure attachment dyad, because the trust and security are not there. So the child learns to adapt to the needs of the parent, in order to gain that attachment and connect. This may cause an insecurely attached person to believe that fitting in and adapting to others expectations is necessary for connection. Those who have a secure attachment type are more likely to know that a true sense of belonging is felt when one experiences unconditional love and acceptance. They may still wear their social masks at times, to adapt to certain situations. However, they are much more likely to require and give unconditional love and acceptance in their personal relationships. This is because they have been shown the depth of security that comes from a true sense of belonging. We’re all seeking that sense of belonging, children, teens, adults; how we go about finding it depends a lot on our self-worth and attachment style. J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #attachment #authenticity #attachmentstyles #attachmentstyle #attachmenttheory #belonging #asenseofbelonging #parenting #fittinginisoverrated #fittinginisout #beunique https://www.instagram.com/p/CQ_KJYoDOMu/?utm_medium=tumblr

[ohhichristopher]

Fitting in won't get you where you want to go. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As kids, many of us are taught to blend in, to be accepted. I get the why behind that — to make it easier on the kid (emotionally and even real-life physical danger). But the way I see it, our differences are freakin' awesome and they are the things that will connect us with the right people — the stuff that makes you different is also the fuel for your career, dreams, and life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But it takes courage and work to own your kind of different, and apply it to your dreams. It's 2019 and it's time to own that shit. That's what I'm doing this year. You in too? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #fittinginisoverrated #beweird https://chrstphrswn.co/2DdyLga