#fiction is a safe space to think of unsafe things

[damnfandomproblems]

Fandom Problem #5548:

Which one says more "groomer"?

"NSFW - Trigger warnings: age gap, noncon 18+ only, dead dove do not eat, minors keep out" "What you enjoy in fiction is mot necessarily what you think is acceptable or good in real life, and that's okay. Just be courteous and respect people's boundaries, tags, filters, and content warnings are useful tools. Fiction is a safe way of exploring unsafe concepts. Many people use fiction as a method to work through their traumas, but its okay even if that's not the reason they like it, some people are just drawn to taboo subjects, that's completely natural. Regardless we're not going to try to force people to open up about their past traumas, nor any other personal information. No story should be banned from being told just because it makes some people uncomfortable. Art is meant to provoke intense emotions, afterall. Even if I don't like something, it's not my business to tell someone else what they should or should not create. I'm an adult and its MY responsibility to manage my emotional responses, not anyone else's. If you find yourself unable to manage please remove yourself from this space and find somewhere more suitable.

or

"EVERY OTHER ADULT BUT ME is out to get you!! I'M the only one I can trust!! I only like WHOLESOME ships and WHOLESOME content!! Look at this GROSS NASTY PORN someone made!! They tried to hide it because they don't want anyone to know what a GROSS FUCK they are!! That's why I'm showing it to all of you!! I can't trust anyone unless you detail ALL of your privileges and your traumas! And if anyone steps one toe out of line by enjoying a problematic cartoon ship I'll publicly shame them and tell all my other 14 year old friends to bully harass cyberstalk and socially ostracize them as well and if they don't I'll make sure the same thing happens to them!! This is for the SAFETY of other minors and NOT because of any petty personal vendetta!! ALSO I think its a good idea to send specifically minors to mess with people who - I claim to truly believe are - ACTUAL REAL PEDOPHILES-- to totally frickin own them online!! Anyone who disagrees with me is a pdo and gromer!!! So ONLY LISTEN TO ME!!! NO opposing or outside perspectives allowed!! I'm a good, SAFE, HEALTHY, NORMAL ADULT!! PROSHITTERS KYS!!!!!!"

[saphig-iawn]

Springtime with Miss Saphi

Hello darlings!

I have had a quite a nice little break, and its given me time to think about how I want to progress as everyone's Welsh hypnotic witch. Below the cut is a big ol' post about how I do what I do. I will talk about my sessions, my writing, and my audio files. If you're interested then click on and keep reading. If not, and you're just happy to see I'm back, then thank you so much for the support and love.

💝

So, for the darlings who are still here, I've broken things down into 4 or so chunks that I feel tend to each part of what I do as a kinky creative. So, first up:

Sessions

Sessions are one of the main ways I keep my little business running. These are remaining largely the same, but I want to take this opportunity to explain a little about how they work, and what I'm doing to change them.

The prices aren't changing at this point in time, even though a lot of people have said that I am undercharging quite a lot. There is one big thing that is in the way of me doing so which is that, times are really tough right now. People don't have as much money to spend as they wish and things that felt safe and predictable are now not. With this being my only income too, I know how it can be when you feel like you have to choose between the things you enjoy and the worry and anxiety that comes with making a purchase that doesn't live up to what you wanted. I would feel so tremendously guilty charging more because of how things are right now, and so I'm finding ways for people to enjoy what I make in more accessible ways that also still support me (more on that later).

Firstly, I am remaking my intake form. I feel I need to do more to set expectations within it. I am a hypnotist, first and foremost, and a domme second if the scene or session permits. Between the sessions, I am not a Domme. I tried to be, and it began to make me quite sick. It would also be unsafe. I have a lot going on (as you'll see reading further along) and I would not be able to devote the attention needed to make sure that the domme side of things was done safely. Ultimately, the Miss Saphi you see in my posts and my writing and my audio and my sessions is going to remain in the content I make.

Secondly, what actually are my sessions about? In basic terms, you come to me, we negotiate the content of the session/scene, figure out boundaries, then we set out a date and time. The intro session is very much like this too, but a little more structured and strict in its content. I don't tolerate "I have no limits" or "Do anything to me" kinds of play partners. Much like hypnosis, everything we do is collaborative, even if I am the one leading the scene. It is a give and a take.

What they are not is me becoming more than a hypnotist in a few capacities. As I said above, I'm not a capital D domme, so what we do is in our sessions and that is it. I am also not a confidant or, to be reductionist, a therapist. While my work is warm and welcoming and I put forward a very caring environment, there are only so many things I can do. Providing you a safe space, in which you are always in control, to explore hypnosis and kink? I can do that. Flirting and teasing via text at any of day and maintaining play and scenes outside of my working hours? That is something I cannot do.

If you want a little teasing, my posts are the best and only place for it.

Talking of which.

Writing & Reblogs

I have been slacking on writing. I feel a good chunk of this was down to burnout.

My writing comes in three forms: session writeups, fiction, and posts.

When it comes to session writeups, I have a big backlog that I want to get through. I have had amazing sessions with beautiful people from all walks of identity and gender, and I feel sharing their experiences are good things. To be transparent, writing about these sessions has two functions: first, they share the wonderful experiences of hypnosis that is a bit different to what is usually out there. I've seen, time and time again, how people love that my kind of hypnosis is framed in a more caring and safe way. Second, they advertise. They show what I can do, what people enjoy, and that someone could have an experience with me themselves. Everyone I write about gives express consent and understands this. A business, of any kind, needs to reach out, and I want to do it a way that provides and isn't intrusive.

Fiction is something I want to get back to doing. It allows me to flex my writing while giving something different and fantastical to you. There are thing that my hypnosis cannot do, and fiction is where those fantasies can flourish. It also allows me to explore characters and places through the lenses of hypnosis and magic. Melody and Dina, my two witches who can't seem to catch a break, the wider myths and stories of Miss Saphi, and whatever ideas come to my mind or come to yours with commissions.

Then we have posts. These are like indulgent snacks compared to my writeups and fiction. I like to make these because I may have an idea in my head that maybe doesn't have the room to grow into something bigger, but should still be shared. They also allow me to interact with you lovely folk in the reblogs. Admittedly, interactions have become something that I want to look at a little differently. I do so love responding to you all and inviting you in to my little world of magic, but that also means I'm not doing other things while I'm responding to people. I don't want to stop responding to people, but I now know I can't respond to everyone. So please, if you reach out to me through my writing, know that I do see it, and that if I don't comment or react, it isn't because of you or anything you've done.

Audio

I have been having so much fun with making audio, but lots of things got in the way of me doing more.

I have them forming in two categories for me: hypnosis and narration.

With the former, I would like to begin provide hypnotic and hypnotic adjacent experiences. I want to create audio files that do what they can to emulate what I provide in my sessions, and avoid a lot of the pit falls that audio files seem to do. It also means that the people who want to try my sessions can do so in some capacity without needing to commission me. I've seen so many lovely folk tell me that they'd love to have a session with me but things get in the way, so this would provide something for them as well. With these audio files I hope they give the experience I want them to give, provide a creative outlet for myself, and to also provide a means for people who were able to have a session but were unsure or tentative, have more of an understanding and experience; a try-before-you-buy.

With my narrations, I want these to occupy a similar space that ASMR audio and roleplay does. Consider them stories that I tell you that can begin to feel a little real if you so wished. With regards to my work, they will sit between my fiction writing and hypno audio, something fantastical that might just suck you in if you want it to.

Support

As I've said, my sessions are my main form of support right now, with tips/donations right behind them.

I want to bolster my Patreon so it becomes a more accessible way for people to support me and my work.

Buying sessions is a scary thing, they're quite big, they're an unknown for a lot of people, and so I feel that my Patreon can be a place for people to engage with me in a way that supports me and is more respectful of them.

I am aiming to put new fiction and new audio on Patreon first.

I also want to create content that would be exclusive to Patreon. This is not to arbitrarily paywall. This is for the content that takes more to produce and create. This would include more involved audio roleplays and hypno content, and fiction.

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Thank you if you got this far, that means a lot more to me than you might think. I am overjoyed that I get to do this, and I want to do so much more, and I hope you all will be here while I do it.

As a treat for reading all of that, here's what I'm going to do next. I'm going to release my first audio roleplay. It is about you visiting my cottage because you've wanted to have a session with me but you're not too sure. So, I sit you down in my cottage and talk to you about how my magic works. I do this in my intro session, and I feel its good to share for people. It isn't inherently made to entrance, but creates a safe space for those who may want to slip into my words.

[theprettynosferatu]

Gatekeeping or This Fiction of Ours

State of the Blog, June, 2025

Well these monthly reports are getting weirder and weirder, aren't they?

Business first: I'm producing around 2 stories a month and captions quite consistently. I've made an effort to showcase some of... the goodest girls around and minimize AI content, although I doubt it will be gone entirely soon. I confess the way the platform is erasing blogs left and right has me concerned, especially in light of proposed US legislation that would in effect make ALL of our content illegal.

Oops politics snuck into one of these posts again! Almost like my head is constantly mulling the topic!

Well, now that we're here, there IS a point I want to make.

There is an idea that we shouldn't gatekeep kink, with the obvious exception of those who can't consent due to age or other reasons. Positive, enthusiastic, informed consent is the one barrier we should uphold. I find this idea generally good. BUT I feel we should be at least vigilant about one other aspect.

Now, I'll be the first one to admit I've fucked up in the past. I'll surely fuck up in the future. I've been called out about it in private and in public, and almost always the people that called me out were right.

Until recently.

I've gotten dms and comments to the effect that I am a misogynistic asshole, or a fascist, or that I believe the things I post in kink. Now, most of us understand that this is fiction. Life and kink are not the same thing and the ideas that turn us on are often the opposite of what we truly believe; their power, in part, comes from the fact that we know they're wrong, that we don't believe them. It's this fiction of ours we indulge in together, knowing we don't really believe in, say, female inferiority. As clear as I've been trying to be about it, however, some people are unwilling to understand or accept that such content is NOT a reflection of real life beliefs.

And you know what? I get it. I do.

I've had the experience of scrolling through kink Twitter, seeing a retweet of something I think is kink, following through to the person's feed and realizing... oh. Oh no. This person is an ACTUAL fascist.

The little twerps are emboldened. They are infiltrating more and more spaces, ours included. They are more open, more brazen, and sometimes their deluded hateful posts are almost indistinguishable from the exaggerated fiction we post AS KINK.

So in this moment I say we gatekeep. We gatekeep as hard as we can. The only way kink can be healthy is if it's safe and understood as fantasy- and these dogfuckers are making the space unsafer by the minute. So, we must be vigilant. We can't reblog real fascists. We let our real colors show, even if it breaks that fiction for a moment.

So with that said, let me be clear:

Fuck fascists.

Feminism is necessary. Perhaps more than ever.

Fuck homophobes.

Trans rights now.

Fuck white supremacy.

Fuck Trump and all authoritarians.

Fuck corporations and their vampire-like need to suck up the work and wealth of people.

Shelter, food, and Healthcare are universal rights and the profit motive should be nowhere near them.

A woman's right to choose about her own life and body should never be violated.

Sex work should be legal and safe.

Income should never be a barrier to education.

Billionaires should not exist.

Conflating labor and productivity with the value of a person is monstrous. People have value because they are human.

The ultimate function of the police is to protect the interests of the ruling class.

I'm sure I'm missing quite a few things. But that should give an idea of where I stand outside kink. I feel we should all take the time to state our core beliefs every now and then. Yes, it harms the fiction of it all. But sometimes we must let truth shine through this fiction of ours.

-Nos

[devildomwriter]

*TW*- i*cest, r*pe, g*re, p*dophilia, some general discourse

Ok so I am trying to ask this in the most respectful way because I don't wanna snowball this into a huge discourse; but I wonder if you've been seeing the Dark Content Discourse here on Tumblr?

It basically entails that despite your personal preferences, attacking/ demeaning other ppl who create/ consume dark content is a big no no because it's their safe space to be able to explore these topics. This includes all sort of stuff like i*cest, r*pe, g*re and even p*dophilia. Now you may not agree with any of these things, most ppl don't, and they might disgust you; which is totally fine. But there is a huge leap b/w something that is fictional and something that is real.

Fictional characters are literal lines on a paper. Doing anything with a fictional child does not mean you are harming a REAL child. This might still disgust you and that's fine too. You can block that person so you don't have to look at it again but to call everyone like this and start a campaign against them is well...

I just want you to know that I am not defending that person. I didn't even know them at all before this...Neither I am advocating for anything they are saying or confirming/claiming that they are good irl. I don't know them.

I just want you look at this from a different perspective and know your thoughts about this ordeal. Like for one moment step away from your pre-existing feelings and bias and look at this objectively. Everyone likes something that's even a lil problematic, so if we went on these campaigns every time, literally no one will be left in fandom. I don't agree with p*dophilia but I don't agree with this either...AGAIN THIS IS NOT MEANT TO CONDONE ANY OF THIS BEHAVIOUR! But to paint someone as a bad person for things they do in fiction in their safe space no matter how problematic, is somewhat disconcerting.

I again wanna say that this is not any hate against you or anyone else. I don't want to cause any discourse myself . I think you are an amazing writer and a valuable member in our fandom. Which is why it's important to me to hear your stance on this. But if you'd rather not answer this at all that's fine too! :>

I appreciate your perspective and I sometimes enjoy certain dark content as long as they warn others but pedophilia— fictional or not— should never be written/glorified/accepted. If it’s written as a horrible incident or traumatic backstory (like Lolita) then I understand why it’s written but glorifying or romanticizing it in any way is unacceptable.

If no one is left in the fandom after going on these “witch hunts” then the fandom is toxic, preditory, and unsafe.

As for the huge leap between fiction and reality, everything starts as a thought or fantasy. The more you think about it the more likely you are to commit or watch such an act.

Tumblr should under no circumstances be a safe place for pedophiles.

[honeyhotteoks]

I read your post about rigger yunho and just wanted to say I’m learning shibari now. If you have questions or need resources for the fic or just for your own exploration let me know here and I’ll DM you. There’s a lot of good resources but also a lot of people out there who don’t know what they’re doing, and it’s hard to figure out what’s what……… also for my own curiosity I have to ask what you’re working on that you think you won’t publish? I know a lot of us would be open to new stuff from you

oh!! that would be amazing and my DMs are absolutely open. i have some questions and some things to work through as i workshop that i’d love to run by someone with hands on experience.

as far as the fics…. honestly i have a lot of short work and long work that i write for myself usually to work through something through the lens of safe and comfortable characters.

click under the cut for more, but cw for SA and how and why i write this -

for rigger!yunho, i’ve been exploring the idea of assault and belief for victims in risk aware consensual kink spaces, and what it would mean to have boundaries pushed or completely ignored in ways that leave you grappling with your own relationship to consent, kink, sex, and the body.

i find writing these arcs out to be really helpful to me, seeing things ive personally struggled with or tried to understand through the lens of fiction and with characters i can write myself.

a little over two years ago i had a personal experience with attempted sa. it’s not something i talk about frequently, but i think i mentioned it on this blog before when discussing why i wrote the assault arc of tnt. i was cornered by a male coworker (who i thought was a friend) on a work trip after getting drinks together and it was an experience where he tried to use my own openness to talk about things against me. he was persistent, said things i wish i could unhear, and tried to get me into his hotel room. it was honestly pretty scary, and even though i made it back to my room safely, i then had another year of navigating a report that went poorly.

i quickly became labeled as a slut and had to leave a job i loved. it’s probably one of the worst experiences of my life, and i still have a feeling that it could have been so much worse. it’s taken me years to just stop hearing his voice whenever certain things happen or when im touched in certain ways.

writing that attempted assault in tnt was a safe way to explore this for me.

at the same time, i’ve spent the past two years thinking about how people who are open about sex or who have more “hard” kinks often have their boundaries ignored. not just in the concept of no limits, but of abusers who utilize the mask of kink to enact harm.

while the man who hurt me was a coworker, and completely removed from a kink context, there was something in the way he spoke to me about sex and boundary pushed that reminded me of things i’ve seen in kink spaces. a slow but unsafe push into deep waters, something selfish and dehumanizing.

this is all to say… i’ve been getting a lot of that out of my system via fic and with the idea of rigger!yunho because it’s a way to process those feelings and that complexity with someone safe.

the reason i don’t feel like i can publish it though…. is more complicated. it is personal, of course, but it’s more than i have complicated feelings about rape/recovery arcs. i enjoy them as a reader, and often seek them out in romance if im being honest, but they are also often problematic and im aware of that. i’ve never wanted to contribute to “tragedy porn” so to speak, or the idea of a white knight / wounded bird narrative….. but i also genuinely enjoy reading those and writing those when well done.

i’ve always tried my best to curate a space here that’s safe for my readers, particularly when it comes to SA. i don’t want to ignore the reality that SA exists and is something we have to navigate in the world (especially as women) but i also worry about perpetuating something negative even in fanfiction.

ultimately… i don’t know if it’s something my readers would want to engage with, and even if it’s something i could publish and feel confident in because it’s very hard, very messy, and very much like recovery.

i’ve always had complex feelings on rape/recovery arcs, but for me personally good ones have helped me navigate what happened to me, what’s happened to friends and loved ones in my life, and brought me comfort. but who i am as a reader and a writer feel different.

i know this might be a lengthy answer you didn’t really need… i just wanted to explain and to share a bit.

if anyone has thoughts, of course my ask box, dms, and replies here are open. if anyone’s reading this and you’ve been through an experience with SA, you’re not alone and i love you.

[youryanderedaddy]

I absolutely get you on that. Not a fellow author, but I write for myself and some of my experiences w men heavilyyyyy impact my writing. Like when I was 18 there was this guy who kept on stalking me, sending me rape threats, blowing up my phone. And when i blocked his number, hed get a new number to call me from and ask which i did that which absolutely just traumatized me. He lowkey also heavilyyyy manipulated me (im a heavy peoples pleaser). He ruined my chances with people i liked as well. He would go and tell them who knows what and theyd ghost me completely. Like in theory it's hot but irl stay away from me pls😟😟🫵🏻🫵🏻. Yeah so like some of the stuff I write stem from that.

Men r just so scary and I'm so sorry about your experience you don't deserve allat. Please stay safe as well.

Tw for discussing all things terrible :((

Oh dear 😔 It really pains me to see and hear about stuff like that. I am so sorry you went through that, nobody deserves to go through this horror. This person sounds absolutely insane, like should be in prison lowkey? I hope you are safe now and away from that abuser. My mind can’t comprehend how a fellow human being could do something so traumatizing to another human being…

Honestly sometimes (especially lately) I feel the irony of being a dark romance/erotica writer. Sometimes I walk home alone at night and the absolute fear I feel is just that. Fear. There is nothing sexy about it, it’s just scary and even embarrassing (at least I sometimes feel embarrassed that I don’t know how to fight, or that I can’t be firm enough with creeps).

I genuinely don’t understand how people can be so cruel. I’ve done wrong things in my life (like anyone else) and I’ve hurt people, I’ve even struggled with obsessive tendencies myself, but I’ve never put anyone in danger or discomfort, never made anyone feel unsafe (at least not to my knowledge), I have no idea what would urge someone to act in such an entitled way.

This may be TMI (may delete later) but yesterday I opened my curtains cos sunlight, right? And I just started typing on my laptop for some time. I looked up, and a guy from across the street was staring at me, like into my room. He waved at me and blew a kiss, and like. I was already panicking bcos wtf man?? Way to make me feel like a zoo animal?? I look down and ignore him, hoping he goes back into his house. But he doesn’t, and 5 minutes later I look up, and he was naked 💀 I literally can’t do this shit. Why TF would you do that??? Like omg act like a normal human being, what in the inadequate creepy behavior is this? So yeah. I don’t even think this will be hot in fiction for me personally, it’s just too freaky and gross.

Being a woman is exhausting (especially in the summer). I like how literature and creative writing gives us a space to explore and talk about our daily lives and our issues. But it’s also scary how such a big part of women’s sexuality is projection - projection of other people’s expectations, of porn, of violence that we internalize and try to sexualize as a coping mechanism, it’s crazy. And to be honest, it’s sort of the reason I’ve been writing less, and writing about less extreme topics. It started feeling too real. Last summer I had issues with stalking and like… yeah. Not so fun to write about (although sometimes I have ideas I want to explore, of course).

I don’t know, everyone stay safe. I hope in the future things get better. I know there are many good people in the world, but also many bad, and we need to be cautious and alert.

[creamco]

— why queer people are chronically online? ᝰ.ᐟ

never seen so much queer people together, except the pride month parade. why are we here anyway?

╭┉┈ lack of irl queer spaces

here's the thing: finding irl queer spaces is either impossible or exhausting. if you’re in a conservative town, good luck even seeing another openly queer person, let alone finding a safe place to exist without side-eyes or worse.

even in big cities, queer spaces are often bars or clubs, but what about underage queer people? completely left out.

schools? workplaces? friend groups? all a gamble.

so where do queer people go? the internet.

online spaces become a second home, sometimes even the first. discord servers, niche twitter circles, random tumblr posts— these are where people find each other. it’s easier to be yourself when there’s no risk of some homophobic classmate or family member ruining your day. instead of hoping to stumble upon another queer person irl, you can literally log on and immediately be surrounded by people who get it. the internet fills the gap that the real world refuses to.

i mean, i live in a city where there are many queer people, and still, even i don't know more than 5 queer people.

╭┉┈ representation & identity exploration

if you’re queer, your favorite character is probably queer too, at least in your head. that’s because mainstream media still sucks at real representation. sure, we’ve got a few decent queer shows now, but for the longest time, it was either tragic endings, token side characters, abusive/cheater partner or completely nonexistent rep.

so what did queer people do? they made their own.

fanfiction, headcanons, text posts breaking down how that one character is obviously trans? all part of the culture. and it’s not just about seeing yourself in fictional characters— it’s about discovering who you are in the first place. the internet exposes you to terms and identities you wouldn’t hear about anywhere else. you grow up thinking you’re just “weird” until one day you see a tumblr post about aromanticism or genderfluidity and suddenly everything clicks.

i started reading yoonmin (bts) fanfictions on wattpad and that was when i became sure that i was queer. (i realized it bc i was in love with my science teacher, i couldn't pass science in middle school bc i was looking at my teacher's tits&lips instead of listening the class)

╭┉┈ safety & anonymity

being out is not an option for everyone. some people live with homophobic families, work in unsafe environments, or just aren’t ready to deal with the exhausting conversations that come with being openly queer. but online? you can be as out as you want. you can use your real pronouns, your real name, talk about your real experiences; all without the fear of real-world consequences.

this is why so many queer people have separate online personas. a random twitter account where they can say whatever they want, a locked instagram just for their close queer-respecting friends, a discord server where they don’t have to filter themselves. the internet is the only place where some people get to exist authentically.

╭┉┈ activism & community building

queer people have been at the forefront of internet activism forever. from early forum days to tiktok campaigns, online spaces are where activism thrives. social media makes it easier to organize, educate, and fight back. whether it’s a viral hashtag, a gofundme for a trans person in need, or an instagram story spreading resources; activism is a huge part of why queer people stay online.

but it’s not just about big movements. sometimes it’s as simple as finding people who understand your struggles. queer community online isn’t just about activism— it’s about fucking survival.

╭┉┈ humor & coping mechanisms (i am a f@g)

if there’s one thing queer people know how to do, it’s make a joke out of everything. the humor is different— it’s self-aware, ironic, sometimes dark, and always hyper-specific. it’s the kind of stuff that only makes sense if you’re in the community.

but it’s not just about being funny, it’s about survival. humor is a way to process trauma, to make oppression feel a little less suffocating. jokes about coming out, about queer stereotypes, about dealing with homophobic relatives; they all come from real experiences, but they turn something painful into something funny. and if you don’t laugh about it, you’ll probably cry about it.

i remember (in twitter) reading about this cis man talking shit about a girl (mtf) about how "he" was a boy no matter how "he" looks, and she was a fucking goddess. like, milk me mommy kind of goddess. then someone retweeted and said "if you don't fucking shut up, your pronouns will be was/were" IM FUCKING CRYING

╭┉┈ escapism & digital comfort zones

irl sucks, so why not log into a better world? gaming, fanfiction, roleplaying, obsessing over comfort characters; these are all ways queer people escape reality. when your daily life is stressful or unsafe, online spaces become a refuge.

queer people also tend to form strong parasocial relationships with queer influencers or celebrities. watching a tiktok of someone who reminds you of yourself? feels validating. hearing a queer content creator talk about their experiences? suddenly you feel less alone. online spaces give queer people a place where they can breathe.

╭┉┈ relationships & internet discourse

ok, let’s be honest. if you’re queer, at some point you’ve either gone to the internet for relationship advice or just straight-up vented about your situationship to strangers. queer relationships come with their own set of struggle. internalized homophobia, different levels of out-ness, weird power dynamics, exes that were also your first queer friend, and sometimes the only people who get it are other queer people, who happened to be online.

tiktok, reddit, tumblr and twitter have basically become queer therapy (for better or worse). people post their messy breakups, their toxic ex/partner stories, their need in sex advice, their questions about queer legends, their polycule drama: and the internet eats. it. up. sometimes it’s about getting real advice, but let’s be real, sometimes it’s just about talking shit. and honestly? i love talking shit, it's valid.

the internet is a never-ending queer group chat.

queer people are chronically online because, in a lot of ways, we have to be. the internet isn’t perfect, but it’s one of the few places where queer people can exist freely, find each other, and create their own spaces. logging off sounds nice in theory, but when the real world still doesn’t feel safe, why would we?

[pictures are from pinterest]

[tellmeallaboutit]

It was pleasure to read knock knock as a fic that was actually a horror. Distrubing. Terrifying. Fucking twisted. Not “dark” but irl just regular bdsm with sometimes bad bdsm etiquette. Which brought me to the question: Your advice how to write horror fiction in general. Reading King is step one, but what’s next? ☺️😁

how I adore this ask <3

My first advice would be to skip step 1. No, just kidding, but I am actually not a big fan of Steven King. He is a bit heavy-handed about what is right and what is wrong (moral absolutist). I am more the kind of person who always doubts what is right and what is wrong (moral relativist). Anyway (personal, opinionated)...

Thoughts On Writing Horror

Thought Number One. It's Never Just Horror

Horror is a lens, a method of accentuation. There is always a plot structure underneath. Take famous stories and think about what it would look through a horror lens. What would a sci-fi exploration story would look like ("Event Horizon")? What would a family drama look like ("Hereditary")? What would a gen-z party story look like ("Bodies Bodies Bodies")? A spousal drama ("Possession")? Medieval tale ("VVitch")? FBI Flick ("Silence of the Lambs"). It's less of a genre per se and more of a general vibe.

Thought Number Two. Choose Your Fear

What scares you? And I am not talking about clowns or zombies, those are just symbols. Symbols of joy and corrupted childhood, symbols of an uncontrolled, frenzied hive mind. Talk about the fears that speak to you. Are you afraid of dying? Of never achieving anything? Becoming demented like your grandmother? To end up in a loveless marriage? Are you afraid of men? Of never being loved? Of never being able to love? Of crowds? Of poverty? Sickness? Old age?

We can connect through positive emotions, but we can also connect through common fears. But you need to know yours intimately.

Thought Number Three. Don't Hold Back

Horror is the opposite of a safe space. Horror is a space that is deliberately made unsafe. Horror is the playground where you can throw punches, but actually DO throw punches, and not just stay inside the ring fence and look into the crowd afraid that they will judge you if you get too violent.

If you are afraid of offending someone, if you are on your toes about certain things, if you are afraid of the backlash, fights agains these feelings. Otherwise, the readers will smell your fear like bloodhounds and they came for blood.

Thought Number Four. Don't Preach.

A horror with a strong moral message and imperative very quickly becomes a sermon, and things with sermons is that they are dead boring.

[valkyriexo]

Since you want the attention that bad. Here you can have it.

statement and rant below the cut

If you're going to post screenshots of a conversation. Post the full thing. But since you didn't. I will.

let's start at the beginning, shall we?

the first time you felt "attacked" was in a staff channel, where you claimed one of our moderators at the time was attacking you. Here is a screenshot of that conversation.

Mind you, this is in response to you saying you didn't think fake texts were a valid form of fan fiction or work. But of course you can have your opinion,

but so can we.

The second time you claimed you were attacked was when you were called out for your negative criques every single time someone posts anything to general chat. In this case, it was a photo of Chan. The original messages between both you and ace were removed, so I'm not going to recount them as it will just be hearsay. However, what I can show are the screenshots of our conversation when I put both of you on timeout (cant send messages for a period of time) and issued warnings out.

Here is the official warn.

Here is our conversation.

I was not rude to you. I did not attack you. I did not blame you.

In the meantime, you continue to make remarks about others' appearances, making people in the server feel like they can't share anything without being invalidated or ignored because you always find a way to make it about yourself. You've turned what should be positive spaces into negative ones, and it's giving serious pick-me energy. You can't blame others for not wanting to engage with you or for voicing their concerns when your behavior pushes them away. Maybe instead of questioning why people aren't talking to you, you should consider why they don't feel comfortable doing so in the first place.

Here are some of the many statements you've made in public chat channels.

No one sent anyone to hate on you. the statement had to be made public because it wasnt just two or three people complaining. it was 12+ people through different forms complaining about how you were making them feel.

You're saying the complaints weren't real? The only reason i am not showing you them is because people came forward confiding in me. so i will not be putting them on blast.

HOWEVER.

You stated and i quote

"People claimed they felt so horribly unsafe by my presence, God knows why (nobody ever explained it beyond insulting me on anon lol) "

But here is the original message that got sent to you from our admin. TELLING YOU EXACTLY WHY.

You chose to leave, that was YOUR decision. We did not remove you.

You also stated and i quote "but sending your minions to harass me, insult me and tell me to kill myself is totally safe. This is absolutely fucking insane."

Here is the post i made both on discord and tumblr, along with Bel ( a mod) post that was also made

No where in this did we ask people to hate on you. and this is the message you sent me.

Apparently, I'm supposed to control the community? hm interesting.

I'm not a dictator, I'm not the president, and I'm not even the only administrator of the community. The name says it itself, it's a COMMUNITY. I'm not here to control people on the internet.

I'm sorry, your getting hate. But I'm not Tumblr's help desk. you can report your issues to tumblr.

Now onto the statement you said about @seungminindabuilding.. here are all the messages you so kindly left out.

But .. you have the full conversation, so you can re-read it yourself.

During this conversation, is when you blocked me. While I was responding to your message, you sent me on Tumblr.

You know... when you "recognized the language being used" as if i was the one sending the messages.

I'm sorry you're receiving hate; I don't condone that kind of behavior. But I want to be clear—I am not the person sending any of it to you.

I value myself as someone who is kind and calm, but that doesn't mean I'll tolerate disrespect. You do not get to bash me, this community, or its members without expecting a response. Respect is a two-way street, and it’s about time you learned that.

In short.

I stand by what I said.

You do not get to be rude to me and my staff and then play the victim in my messages. We were genuinely trying to help you, and in return we get you attacking us and blaming us. no thank you. You blocked me. now its my turn.

Have the day you deserve

-Val

[obsidianpen]

With all the negative discourse around Tomarrymort I just wanted to share how your writing - particularly NG, helped me through a tough time. I first came across NG not long after my grandmother died. I was having a lot of trouble dealing with my grief. So, being able to immerse myself in such a compelling and well-written story really helped at that time. I am the kind of person who delves deeply into fiction and reading NG helped me take my mind off real life events (not to mention I was inspired to start writing Tomarrymort myself).

💙 I think you stated something really nicely here that gets at the heart of why so many people have so many feelings. Fanfiction - or really any fiction writing - is just that, not real, an opportunity to get out of your own head and away from your own problems and into someone else’s story. People can get really emotional about the stories they cling to that way. Totally understandable and I can see why people have strong feelings when the story maybe doesn’t go a particular route. Feelings of all kinds are valid.

broadcasting your negative feelings by shit talking the author/content creator is not. thats why this is all so upsetting to me, and why I’m certain it bothers so many other people out here writing and posting for free online. I don’t really care if someone likes or doesn’t like what I’m writing - to each their own - but for people to be sharing what they see here on another platform just to btch about how unsafe and hurt they feel, for things I haven’t even written??? As though a creators exist solely to cater and coddle them, specifically? I’m the one who feels legitimately unsafe, and hurt. Writing fanfiction used to be my safe space, and readers like that are the ones making it hostile and scary. Guarantee no one writing 100k+ quality fics is out there being that entitled and shitty. It breeches a sort of social etiquette and respect for the people who are spending so much time creating that used to exist, but more and more seems to not matter to people. I think that’s what is the most disgusting. Ugh I almost wish this had never been brought to my attention at all because it’s really annoying. I’m sure I’m like two days I’ll be over it but I’m still feeling bothered atm.

ANYWAY back to you. Sorry for that tangent. I’m glad my writing has helped you and inspired you, that’s what it is all about 💜💜💜

[damnfandomproblems]

Responding to 3 anons in #5796

"I agree with this tbh. Like adults are the ones making things unsafe for minors in fandom spaces. YOU are the ones who approach minors unprompted. Minors are just minding their own business in fandom, then you all come along and bother everyone."

Predators that are adults are not synonymous with all adults in fandom. It's not the fault of the vast majority of fandom that kids purposefully bust into adult spaces and arbitrarily believe the creeps saying they're "safe" adults. It's the fault of your parents for not reaching you worth a damn and the predator. And yes, kids do fucking barge into adult NSFW spaces. None of the the ones that say they mind their business actually do.

"I agree with this post, cause like... the ones doing the most harassing are adults. I am a minor, and it makes me feel unsafe in fandom spaces. Especially when I see adults drawing nsfw of characters who are MINORS! aging them up does not excuse that gross and creepy behavior. Just stop and give us a space where we don't get pushed into a corner and called annoying. Leave our fandom spaces!"

It's gonna be really funny when you age out of your favorite characters and have a moral dilemma over the fact that you don't stop thirsting over Bakugo or whoever the fuck the minute you're older than him.

And aging up is...how time works. That's like saying no one can view anyone sexually, fictional or real life, because they were once a child. Do you realize how stupid that sounds? If you don't want to be sat at the kids table, learn how to behave rather than screaming at the main table because Aunt Milly told an off color joke and Grandpa Joe has a naked Princess Peach tattooed on his arm.

"I see people getting mad about Fandom Problem #5796, but that kind of is just proving the point? You all act like the minors are the biggest problem in fandom, but you are the ones constantly inserting yourselves and making it about you.

I see adults say things like:

- "Fandom wouldn't exist without adults."

- "Who do you think created fandom? Not minors!"

- "Minors wouldn't have content if it weren't for adults."

All are ignorant of the idea that minors are the foundation to fandom. Fandom would not exist if it wasn't for minors being interested in it and starting groups for people to join. Often times, the best artists and writers in the fandoms are THE MINORS.

Adults make the space uncomfortable by inserting themselves and putting NSFW fics and art of minor characters. Then they get pissy when a minor points out it makes them uncomfortable and go "stop invading our space!"

You are the ones trying to push minors out when we just want to have fun! Just leave us alone!

-A minor"

Minors aren't the biggest problem, no. But by food are they the loudest. You say you just want to have fun but minors have on mass harassed people that were leaving them alone simply because they didn't understand the concept of dead dove don't eat.

And no, you are not, nor have you ever been, the foundation of fandom. It has always been adults, from the very beginning when Sherlock Holmes novels gained an international fan club unlike the world had ever seen to the 1960s housewife Spock/Kirk shipping Trekkies starting conventions, mailing lists, having coalate parties for zines, and laying down the foundation we have today. Adults were the ones that got sued my lunatic writers in the 90s, and they're the ones that, 90% of the time, are buying the services or media for you to consume in the first place.

And I'm sorry, but the best artists and writers in the fandom are never minors. Exceptionally talented minors are exceptional for a reason. The rest of you sit somewhere between "average and has potential" to "would make My Immortal hide its face in secondhand embarassment." Art and writing are skills, and anyone under the age of 16 likely hasn't been writing fiction long enough to run with the heavy hitters. Considering the state of the US education system, this is an even more laughable stance.

Many minors have great potential, but acting like your the best in show when you just made it out the gate is the height of hubris.

Posting as a response to a previous problem.

[unclevladscorner]

On sock puppets, pen names and Freydis Moon

First, lets talk about the difference between a pen name and a sock puppet becauese lots of authors use pen names. This includes me.

I use two names- Uncle Vlad is for my games and erotic short stories on itch. I do not intend to take this name off of itch or Tumblr. I will publish Sword of the Voivode under T.G. Joye. This is mostly because my legal name is used by several entities to publish other work already, and I don't want to be mixed up with unrelated works that are not my own.

Sock puppets are almost exclusively online handles used to harass and manipulate people. Freydis used both- sock puppet accounts often tended to also be pen names for other styles of writing.

While neither of these things is a crime per se, some of those alternate personas engaged in digital brown face. While also not a crime per se, it is in very poor taste.

Here's where things get absolutely FUCKED-

Freydis is an award winning latinex author who is; by all accounts, not a latinex person. Freydis also engaged heavily in multiple forms of bullying, which I have been on the recieving end myself. This bullying largely targeted minorities who are underrepresented in fiction- allowing Freydis to boost themselves as a supposedly marginalized author as they harrassed many trans, non binary, and people of color out of publishing own ownvoices work.

I've seen the effects of Freydis's predatory behavior first hand on transmasculine writers- many were afraid to leave their sphere of influence after becoming attached to Freydis, in spite of the bad behavior. Many more were harrassed off of various platforms- like Discord and Twitter- cutting them off from a small but tight knit community.

I am one of those people who was harassed off of Twitter, and have not made any inroads into the digital writing community b/c I feared backlash from Freydis. I've spent the last two years trying to figure out what I was going to do once I released Sword of the Voivode. While not erotica, I still felt fear to publish on Amazon due to Freydis's past harassment. It is a miracle the book has come this far in the process and I will be publishing it later this year.

Many, many more people were manipulated into believing Freydis with an unwavering, cult-like fervor, making it impossible to even have a conversation about years of abuse and manipulation going on behind the scenes.

The Takeaway-

We need to be better to one another, both by being more supportive of those within our own communities and by questioning our loyalty to any one person. We talk about believing victims, but never in the context of bullying and I think that has to change here and now.

We also need to boost each other like there's no tomorrow. Many ownvoices works have been left languishing in obscurity because Freydis took up so much space in multiple minority communties. Boost those books you felt unsafe to do so before. Boost your own. We need to lift each other up and engage with one another more readily to really undo the hurt done to us.

Be safe, and be kind to one another,

-Your Uncle Vlad.

[avilionea]

PSA; PT 1. Pulling this from my WSS archive because it remains important. slightly altered for this, but the main points remain.

friendly reminder that tumblr savior and other blacklisting extensions exist. also the block button exists. I'm over it.

You know what it boils down to? CONSENT.

Here’s the thing my guys-- YOU DO NOT HAVE TO MAKE AN EXCUSE FOR A SINGLE THING YOU WRITE. JUST TAG YOUR SHIT ACCORDINGLY.

This gives everyone else the chance to give informed consent as to whether or not they want to read the shit you write. Because again that’s what all this boils down to: CONSENT.

And here’s the thing about fictional characters my loves. THEY CANNOT GIVE CONSENT BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT REAL. 

YOU THE READER ARE REAL. YOU HOLD ALL THE CONSENT TO READ OR NOT TO READ. IF YOU DO NOT CONSENT THEN DON’T READ IT AND MOVE THE FUCK ON. the block button is there for a reason. Blacklisting tools to block those tags exist for a reason.

the whole purity thing and policing what people should and should not write is pretty 2008 and no one likes a pearl clutcher. This pearl clutching and purity policing really comes down to readers denying or disguising (and sometimes even both) their own agency and consent to promote their own agenda.

“writing smut or sex with underage characters and aging them up is wrong because they can’t give consent” THEY CAN’T GIVE CONSENT BECAUSE THEY AREN’T REAL. THEY ARE FICTIONAL. Even if they are 18+ ( a consenting adult across the US federal law) THEY CANNOT CONSENT BECAUSE THEY ARE FICTIONAL. they do not exist. They are not real.

As for the anon, this also applies to altering the common narrative for comfort. I don't have the write the bedtrick /instances of rape to birth a destined character into the narrative if i don't want to. It doesn't hold anything for the narrative anyway. its all fictional. none of this is real.

An ant’s left butt cheek can give more consent than a fictional character because IT EXISTS.

the ongoing argument that stemmed tonight’s drama isn’t about defending the rights, consent, and moral righteousness of the fictional characters mentioned, its about “ this sort of writing shouldn’t be allowed”.

And this argument is shit. Take away the camouflage and the coverup and the victim blaming and what you really have is a real living person behind a computer screen saying “ I do not consent to this and i am not comfortable with my own personal agency”.

a person who has the critical  and comprehensive thinking skills can look at writing or an rp blog and say “ huh, this is something that i do not consent to. This makes me uncomfortable. this doesn’t seem like my kind of thing” and can just keep on scrolling.

A person who is not comfortable  or confident with their own personal agency goes through this in-depth thought process in response to what they have read:

-I do not consent to read this. - I do not feel that I am in a safe enough space to withhold my consent. - i feel unsafe. - i need to be protected. - i can’t make it about my feelings, because i am not allowed to. - a sense of displacement takes place --> Others need to be protected. --This should not be allowed.

Take for example, someone walking into a movie theater and saying “ i don’t like horror movies.” and walks into a showing of a horror movie and says “ This is so harmful to viewers why are they showing this!”

There’s a rating system for a reason. You don’t have to go into that movie. Just keep walking.

Lastly my guys... PEOPLE ARE INTO WEIRD SHIT. In real life, with real people, consent is a super huge deal. and guess what, that’s why people have active and open conversations about consent, boundaries, empathy, and an understanding  towards power differentials. Its in the news. its in school. We are in an era where these kinds of conversations are socially expectable. Pearl clutching recedes this.

In fiction you can do whatever the hell you want. Some people actually like how it makes them feel because it is not real. it can be experienced within the safety of fiction.

going back to the horror movie analogy who am i to tell Stephen King to not write horror because it could make me uncomfortable? Lots of people like it. He’s won awards for is writing.

 and people still pearl clutch saying things about  weird fiction in general  like “ but it will normalize rape and pedophilia!! people will think its okay!”

do you think seeing a sewer clown murdering children is going to make a fan go out and do that? unless there’s some severe mental health issue, i think not.

Now for the pearl clutcher who decided to start all this shit...

YOU’RE CONSENT DOES MATTER. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO NOT LIKE WHAT PEOPLE WRITE. JUST DON’T MAKE IT ABOUT SOME GRAND MORAL JUSTICE OF THE UNIVERSE. YOU CAN SAY “ UM YEAH NO THANKS NOT FOR ME” AND KEEP ON SCROLLING. Worry about your own shit my guy.

That’s why Rpers stress to tag their shit. and I can say hands down that the things you clutch your pearls about were 100% tagged. And if you bothered to actually read the about page, you'd know that I don't write the shit you sent me hate about. as part of that muse's narrative. its a hard no for me fam.

Please. just keep moving. use tumblr savior. use that block button.

but don’t start shit. it ain’t fun. it ain’t nice.  There’s that one quote by oscar wilde “ give a man a mask and he’ll show you his true self.” the internet is one hell of a mask and you are exposing yourself.

and I’m gonna scroll on by. i do not consent to participating any further in your mess. Not my circus. Not my monkeys.

[shiraglassman]

Hey, I know this is kind of a dumb question, but I came across a TikTok about a month ago suggesting that dragons (the western, fire breathing, princess snatching, treasure hoarding ones) were rooted in antisemitic in the same way something like goblins are. I couldn’t tell if it was a joke or not, and it kind of sent me into a tailspin, since I’ve always loved dragons (I read the WoF series ONCE and wouldn’t shut up about it for 3 years), and I was worried that I would have to drop them entirely for fear of offending someone. I can definitely see the similarities between common antisemitic tropes and dragon tropes, but I’ve always heard that the origins of the western dragon were that it was just a scalier of the devil and not meant to represent any marginalized community. However, I am not Jewish in any way, and I’m aware it’s not my place to dictate what is and isn’t harmful, so I was curious as to what you thought. (Sorry about how long this is TuT)

I held on to this ask for a few weeks to try to make sure my response made sense, so here goes. Disclaimer that I'm just one Jewish woman who loves dragons, and I claim no expertise or position of authority. I can't guarantee that someone won't look at your special interests and judge you unfairly. I also can't guarantee that you'll be hyperaware enough and careful enough to catch dogwhistles if they're subtle, compared with ordinary fictional dragons. What I can guarantee is that your average Jewish person is not going to assume you are more unsafe to be around than other unknown gentiles just because you like dragons, but fandom spaces and Tumblr spaces sometimes represent a skewed or specific cross-section of the population and may react differently. I can't make any of those calls. I don't want to tell you to start tuning out marginalized people when we speak about our issues including bad representation, but I also don't think "every Western dragon" is a problem the same way the entire perception of Halloween witches is, for example. For "some reason" (antisemitism) we've decided that big hooked noses are a thing you strap to your face to fake being a witch, or the way witches look in clip art. This is an issue because it takes a simple, neutral feature that some of us have and exaggerates it to the point of looking nonhuman. "Ha ha," says the trope. "Wouldn't it be funny if this trait that these Others have was so different and so jarring in appearance that they looked as different as they truly are, from us, the In Group?"

If the same group of folks who had anxiety about us coexisting alongside them created the witch aesthetic as created the Western dragon lore, and indeed much of old-fashioned European fantasy, it's easy to see how their feelings about us an other marginalized groups (disabled people etc.) creep into the stories. HOWEVER, it's also incredibly easy for dragons to not be us. Or have anything to do with us. If you're nervous when writing your own stories that someone is going to mistake your greedy characters for Jewish-coded, try to establish that real (human or otherwise) Jewish characters coexist with the greedy dragon or whatever to show that you're not using the dragon as a subconscious Jewish reference. But if you're talking about just "can I continue to buy dragon merch from creators who draw cute art", the only thing I can tell you is that there's an intense diversity of opinion among the Jewish people and even though I'm saying it's fine and probably most people at my temple would say it's fine, I can't account for strangers on apps I don't even have. Personally, I think you're safe as long as you avoid dragon things that evoke the trope directly. And many MANY dragons don't even evoke the trope these days, because so many millennials and younger grew up adoring dragons so we launched media where dragons are good. And don't even always hoard wealth. Much of modern dragon media seems to ignore the greedy and/or hoarding tropes entirely or have replaced greed as a motivator for the collections with "this dragon has a special interest", which is cute and doesn't evoke antisemitic tropes at all. You'll probably be able to make good judgments about what does the trope and what doesn't, but for some additional help here is a post Meir and I did on @writingwithcolor, which is where we'd prefer these questions be directed (yes, I know we're closed currently but we're reopening soon.) P.S. If this was sent to my personal specifically to avoid the WWC ask box being closed, please don't — that's an amount of volunteer work I simply can't take on. But I also know that it's possible and likely that you didn't know about WWC at all, so now you do — feel free to peruse our vast archives of past posts. @im-tired1124

[rosesradio]

do you filter out ships/something fandomey?? genuinely interested &I feel a little bit inadequate when I do that

bro you caught me getting ready for work (and by that i mean motivating myself to get up lol)

when it comes to ao3 i’ll meticulously filter every little thing until i find the particular niche fic i want (or gods forbid write it myself lmaoo)

when it comes to tumblr i have a couple tags blocked but not a whole lot. as far as i remember it’s just atla (nothing against those who like it, i just had a toxic ex who introduced it to me so now i unfortunately associate it with his gross ass ://) and those “reblog if/reblog bait” posts because i find them annoying/manipulative/messes with what i suppose i would call morality ocd (like “reblog if your blog is a safe space for queer people anyone who doesn’t reblog is a bigot who should be blocked 😡😡” like bro i’m literally queer and gnc and i feel more unsafe with those posts’ energy than i do just. your average queer person existing on tumblr. but anyways)

i’ve been thinking about blocking arcane for reasons along with solangelo, but I haven’t seen much arcane stuff anyway and solangelo does have really good fanartists so 🧍

but Anyways. i’m gonna tell you something and i want you to write it on a piece of paper and crumple it up and swallow it with your preferred condiment so you can really internalize it okay:

There Is No Need To Feel Inadequate For Curating Your Own Preferred Space 👏

i talk a big game about “oh you should confront the things that make you uncomfortable in fiction because you might find you like them” but a big part in doing that is distancing yourself first—exposure therapy isn’t always the best for everything. i’ve had ships i’ve blocked, and then months or years down the road i take a second look and unblock. i also accept the fact that there’s some things i’m never going to like, and that’s totally okay too. life can be busy and stressful, and curating your own space can help you feel better when you’re online. i also feel better when my followers block tags that i use (for example, “tw smut” or “jasico”), because they can still enjoy the things i make without having to see the things they don’t want to see. you add the things you like to your space, what’s wrong with blocking out the things you don’t like?

those features are there for a reason, and there’s nothing wrong with using them, promise 💌

[thewolfofthestars]

I feel like... hmm.

As I am now a creator of NSFW material on the internet, I feel like I've had to consider this issue more carefully. Especially given the recent slew of conservative-backed sex-negative legislation targeting the internet here in the US. And I think I've come to a conclusion.

When you post your explicit material publicly on the internet--be it horny fanfic (hello), artwork, photos, video, etc.--you need to accept that there will be a nonzero amount of minors who will see it. There is no age gate in the universe powerful enough to keep every single minor out. Minors will find a way to engage with material intended for adults only, that is a simple fact of reality.

If you really, truly are strongly opposed to that--and it's absolutely fine if you are! There are very legitimate reasons to be opposed to minors accessing your work, and I don't blame anyone at all for not wanting that. But the only foolproof way of ensuring that is to never post your work publicly in the first place. Or privately, even, tbh; shit gets leaked off of OF and SubscribeStar and whatnot all the damn time, and even if there are no minors there, I guarantee there are minors looking at Pornhub and R34.

And as someone who does post my work publicly on the internet, I have decided that I am okay with people under the age of 18 looking at it. Yes, I am okay with minors reading my explicit fanfic. That is a thing that will happen. That is a thing that has happened, in fact, and I know it has happened. I have no way of stopping that, and I have little interest in doing so, quite frankly. I would far rather a minor engage with and develop their sexuality in a private, safe space, strictly within the realm of fantasy and fiction, than go out there and get themselves into an unsafe, uncomfortable, or abusive situation IRL. So yes, please, minors, jerk it to my old man yaoi instead of getting yourselves groomed.

However.

There is a caveat to this. And it's a big and important one, so listen up.

As the creator of explicit, adults-only work? If you are a minor and you are reading it? I don't want to hear about it. Do not message me about it, do not leave a comment, do not talk to me about it. Even if it's to tell me you're a fan, even if it's to compliment my work. I appreciate the sentiment, but if you do this, you will be ignored and very likely blocked. I'm not stopping you from looking. But if you walk into the bar with your fake ID and then loudly announce to the bartender that you are 17, he's going to kick you out.

You need to at all times be aware of the fact that you are a minor in an adults-only space. You are not supposed to be here. And the only way you're going to be able to stay is if you keep your mouth shut. Do not share your age (you really shouldn't be doing this at all anywhere publicly on the internet, tbh, but especially not here), do not interact with the people around you, whether that be the creators themselves or other fans of their work.

Yes, this is about keeping you safe--but it's also about keeping me safe, too, tbh. Most adults do not actually want to have sexual interactions with minors! Including me! That is a harmful thing to do to a minor, and I do not want to harm people. And this is a sexual interaction space! If I interact with you in this space, there is a very real chance I end up in legal trouble because of it! At the very least, there is a strong chance I'll get my account restricted or even outright banned for doing so. I don't want any of that to happen, and neither does any other adult in this space--that's why we made it adults-only. Any reasonable adult in this space is going to be the same way; they're not going to want to interact with you. Any adult who does solicit interaction with minors in an adults-only space is an incredibly unsafe person to be around, and you should run as fast as you can.

You may be here now, and I may be allowing that to happen, but make no mistake, you don't have a right to be here. I can and will give you the boot if you're being unsafe. I am trusting you to judge for yourself whether you want to read my work or not--if you've found it, and if you've read the tags, I believe you're smart enough to do that. You're a human being with a brain in your skull, you're capable of making that choice. And if you do read it, that's fine. But this also means I'm trusting you not to be a dumbass about it. So don't be a dumbass, aight?