#feeld

[feeldco]

Don’t hold it in. Spit out your deepest desires on Feeld—a dating app for the curious. In this space, you can show up as yourself and make meaningful connections with people who get you. Meet via the app, or find your people IRL at our events —a place where spitting your truth is highly encouraged. Download Feeld now to explore yourself through exploring others.

[jadagul]

Excerpts from dating profiles I swiped left on:

"If you're a white man who's lucky enough to match with me, make sure to bring offerings".

"I heal my ancestral trauma by dominating white men and making them do things that improve the environment."

(These were two different profiles, seen within the space of a day or two.)

[milksockets]

this feeld dog is precisely me as i swipe through

[balkanscore2024]

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What a life!

[dirty--diary]

Slut Era updates:

Original Feeld man continues to provide fun and quality orgasms.

Had a few dates that didn’t go anywhere.

Two pretty disappointing play dates with the same guy. We actually met through Hinge way back and I decided to give it a chance in this capacity but the actual experience left me wanting.

Over all this has been really fun! I’m not exhausted by the attempts. I’ve enjoyed the change in mindset. I’ve grown sexually. Still have a goal of establishing a regular local play partner.

Upcoming:

Day of fun planned with the original Feeld man.

Plus! A weekend planned with someone new, I’m vvvvvv excited about him.

[backtobackagainsposts]

I might get back on Feeld. I’m pretty put out with my lack of sex/love life right now to be honest.

[lovesickbat]

"pay to unlock basic features" "looking for a third to a threesome" "need friends to 🍃 with" "Man 3x liked your profile" "you matched with someone 120 miles from you" "seen 2w ago"

[lil-bit-louder]

I still don’t know that I’m confident enough to be on The Apps actively but I have been getting the urge to be on feeld just to make out with people

[domlafou]

Weird Medieval October. Day 17. Unicorn Hunt(ers).

[raspberryconverse]

Today fucking sucks.

Beau no. 1 cancelled on me again. I haven't seen him for almost 3 weeks because of scheduling issues (basically his wife's boyfriend schedule and my inability to host has made it nearly impossible for us to get together). He ended up in the hospital (it wasn't as bad as he thought it was, so he's already out), so I can't be mad at him, but I'm still really upset.

I was talking to a tall Canadian (I have in my Feeld profile that I want to sleep with a tall guy. For science) who seemed really into me and eager to help with my experiment. We moved the conversation to WhatsApp because he was having issues with Feeld and talked more about the potential experiment. He even told me that he couldn't open the app while he was at work because I was "distractingly hot." I messaged him tonight and got the single gray checkmark and his profile pic was gone, which usually means you've been blocked. His profile also disappeared from Feeld yesterday.

And beau no. 2 said that his friend is staying with him, so basically it's not going to be our normal cooking me dinner then Netflix and Chill that we usually do.

My spouse also put a pause on sex between us because reasons.

The last two weeks have really sucked in my poly journey. There was a date with no chemistry and another with decent enough chemistry, but the end result was... not great. Not bad, but definitely not that good either. And everyone else is too busy.

I think I'm going to take my sleeping pills and go to bed early.

[feeldco]

Don’t hold it in. Spit out your deepest desires on Feeld—a dating app for the curious. In this space, you can show up as yourself and make meaningful connections with people who get you. Meet via the app, or find your people IRL at our events —a place where spitting your truth is highly encouraged. Download Feeld to explore yourself and others.

[found-under-fern]

The Feeld app finally allows multiple partnered accounts!

[milksockets]

feeld really out here pulling shit like this when their app has always been and continues to be excruciatingly, fundamentally atrocious

[pretensesoup]

Queer books, day 21/30

Okay, let's take a detour from romance novels to the world of weird fuckin' poetry.

I stumbled on this book by accident, because the press that published it (Milkweed Editions) also published a book by my sister-in-law, and when I was ordering it I asked her if there was anything else I should get off the website. You know, for free shipping.

Although I am a poet, I am only tangentially attached to the world of poetry, so I can't say this with any surety, but it does seem to me that transness is something that poetry rarely touches upon. Homosexuality in general, yes--poetry has for sure been super gay since like Gilgamesh (see also Shakespeare, Sappho, Whitman, Wilde, Housman, Auden, I cannot list them all in one parenthetical note). And most poetry is not like Charles's poetry anyway, which uses a Middle English-esque dialect that is Charles's own invention. The play of words and puns she is able to create would certainly make James Joyce ecstatic, but the use of Middle English is an interesting choice that might bear some examination.

Off the top of my head, Middle English started to be a thing at the time of Chaucer--by which I mean that our boy Geoffrey was the first one to write down language the way people were speaking, not that he invented the language or something. So writing in this new/old mode evokes a particular type of creation--not of something de novo necessarily (although the language in feeld is of course new), but of potentially bringing to light themes and ideas that a lot of trans people struggle with, as well as a moment in history when the world is shifting, and being out as a trans person is suddenly a thing people do in a way it wasn't when I was younger.

(To be clear, there have always been trans people. We talk about this in the podcast all the time--see for example this episode's discussion of Brother Marinos and a lot of this episode which talks about Eleno/Elena de Cespedes and the Blind Prophet Tiresias who switched genders and, like, a lot of other episodes. However, trans people didn't organize/discuss their experiences so publicly/as a political class until fairly recently. So the parallel of "everyone was speaking this language but no one wrote it down until now" feels apt.)

Another way this language feels appropriate to this book is the way that it forces an interpretation by the reader--when Charles writes, "i ware / & inn a hiv / u r born", does "hiv" mean "hive"? "HIV"? Can we trust that it will have the same meaning the next time it appears (e.g., "befor the wharing / the hiv")? In a way, this recreates the interpretive act trans people constantly experience when they meet cis people--another thing chronicled by Charles when she writes, "how many/ holes would blede/ befor/ u believ/ imma grl." But here, because the language is Charles's, she always has the reader at an advantage.

Here's a poem that struck me:

Anyway. Poetry! Who knew. You can definitely buy this one from Milkweed Editions, which is a small press and so always in need of/deserving of love. 10/10, go read it.

[jellyfishjulie]

Has anyone on here tried feeld and if so what was ur experience

[lovesickbat]

What especially hurts about dating apps is the immediate lack of interest with you as a person. Even when you've exchanged numbers, and talked for hours, it's not to know who you or the other is, but how they fill only your desires and needs and vice versa. It's somehow still one sided, in a way, and it's almost a gaurantee they'll forget I even exist a week later.