#fail better

[dd-is-my-guiltypleasure]

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Okay.. Now when is Chris Carter gonna apologize to Gillian Anderson..

[mvlderfox]

gillian anderson praising david duchovny’s podcast “fail better” on ig // july 15, 2024

[mezzo-morte]

You're telling me Gillian came onto his podcast with a beverage called G-spot, explained it was an "APHRODISIAC" and "MADE OF "BUTTERFLY PEE" so she could share it with him????

THESE PEOPLE ARE INSANE

this is five minutes in

[fmluder24]

“The podcast interview didn’t tell us anything we didn’t already know.” False. Now we all know Duchovny is pro Mulder Mpreg

[randomfoggytiger]

I did ask this to another blogger because I respect both of your viewpoints. I like hearing your analysis. I don't mean to send this to you also out of any disrespect.

OK..are Gillian and David really Mulder and Scully? Lack of communication that could clear up how they felt back in the days? He is like a little puppy and she is cold hard fierce who tries to shut off the world so she doesn't get hurt? No wonder they played those characters so well:) Thank goodness that THEY controlled the narrative to this discussion instead of having some kiss ass pompous interviewer trying to get them to truly talk about the tension so that we get "it was moist". Granted, that was a fun answer and brought out an interesting dynamic between the 2, but their frank and honest discussion is more true and loving. I love that D shared in the discussion and didn't take the interviewer seat like he has in the other podcasts. He actually participated in the real conversation and let it somewhat go in some areas naturally. Now, please, D or G, release the video so that we can see those lovely smiles and gazing eyes and, you know it happened, reaching out and touching each other.

I understand that completely, anon-- I used to (and still do) go to each inbox and ask the same question, even ones I'm principally against. Just want to know what they think, y'know?

Release the Gillian cut! XDDDD I don't think there is one; but maybe someone has clips on their phone of the two of them talking that day? That'd be fun.

You have a point, especially in the early days. David and Gillian were such young, green actors that Chris really had to cast for type.

But I WILL add: Half of the very close loved ones in my life are Gillian's (Gen X) generation, and the other half(ish) are David's (Boomer) or older. Each and every person I've talked to has said the same thing about the past: no one, and I mean no one, talked. Ever. Even in functional families; but especially in dysfunctional homes, with fragile mothers-- not without (varying) consequences. Communication was wired around what could be acceptably acknowledged without the whole house of cards tumbling down. Chris Carter slipped that into the themes of his show, too; and no wonder: his own childhood was turbulent, and communication a compoundingly fraught issue.

And I will also add, though I don't know how salient this point is: I have a Gen X mother who took one look at David, one look at Gillian, and a couple looks at their past interviews, and read them like a book. (So much so, that everything they admitted to in the podcast wasn't surprising, just confirming, for me.) I fed her bits of the Fail Better interview afterward, and she was nodding along to their interruptions and admittance that they had a hard time getting along-- she'd called that Gillian likely (accidentally) hurt David's feelings over the years unconsciously; and that DD grated on GA's nerves as much as she on his... and low and behold. But more importantly, she was nodding along to the communication issues section particularly: "Yes, that's how it was."

In short: I think Chris picked the people who could embody his characters' characteristics effortlessly. (But I also know, per his own words, that he cast for chemistry.) So, I agree¬.

What do you think, anon? :DDDDDD

Edit: Also agree concerning the pompous reporters. It was great to hear them without a third party trying to spin a narrative.

[spookydanamulder-multifandom]

I died of excitement

[cecilysass]

Me arguing outloud with David Duchovny in my car about art and politics on the way to work this morning.

[lostdogs10]

Gillian: Hey david duchovny, I’m loving your podcast. You’re so good at it!

Hey everybody else, have a listen they’re really special.

[thatgirlxf]

So do you think she told him which one was hers? 🤔 #FridayThoughts

[fernsehn]

Wonderful. Jack Halberstam educating DD on systemic context and core identity. Some essential moments for this 64 year old cis white guy.

(I normally am tired of educating men. But i would TOTALLY make an exception for you, David. 😇)

After everything I've experienced in the past few years I COMPLETELY favor the curious honesty of his width of understanding as in "I don't wanna walk into every conversation apologizing for being a cis white man" over a completely fake and incurious performance of allyship or something like that. Yes he can easily be uneducated because it's actually where the political ruling power lies at this point 🤢. But as a Hollywood figure he could also try to mask some of his (non-violent I think) hesitance. And he doesn't. And I appreciate it. So much. Because it's an opportunity to learn. For him. ETA: I actually think I'm a little to tough on him here. It just came out differently than I intended. And I just wrote this post down super quickly without thinking much about my words. His heart is in the right place in a big way I think and I picked out one of the two moments where he vulnerably shared his last lack of fully getting it and that's actually what I want to applaud.

[dd-is-my-guiltypleasure]

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listening to david’s podcast w gillian felt like sitting at the dinner table with my parents who are pretending they aren’t already divorced for the sake of the kids.

[carrie11]

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[beedomexf]

I've recently started tuning into a new podcast by David Duchovny—not just because I've been obsessively rewatching The X-Files for the last 30 years—called "Fail Better." Think of it as therapy, but cheaper and with fewer aliens (just me?).

The show dives into how our failures shape us, and let me tell you, my big takeaway has been the shocking realization that not everything needs to be perfect on the first try. Who knew, right?

Apparently, our subconscious mind doesn’t register negatives. So, when we tell ourselves "don't panic," all it hears is "panic." Now I get why my heart rate jumps and my feet tingle before exams.

Listening to highly successful individuals (Bette Midler, Ben Stiller, and Brad Gilbert so far) discuss their epic fails has been eye-opening. I’ve come to realize that my anxiety stems from a fear of failure because I care. It's okay to care, and it's okay to fear failure. Failure isn’t inherently negative; it’s just a funny-shaped stepping stone on the path to greatness.

Striving for perfection without support from peers, mentors, or management often leads to paralysis by analysis. Trust me, I’ve been there, staring at my computer screen, contemplating my existence, and wondering if I can turn coloring in and listening to podcasts into a career.

When I perceive that I've failed, my mind spirals into catastrophic thinking about my career, home, and relationships. This podcast is teaching me to focus on the present and not let the fear of failure dictate my actions. Easier said than done, but hey, baby steps!

I enjoy listening to "Fail Better" on Amazon Music Prime Podcasts on Tuesday mornings with my coffee while planning my day. It's been a game-changer in helping me embrace imperfection and focus on continuous improvement. Plus, it’s always fun to hear someone more successful than you talk about their mess-ups—it’s like schadenfreude with a side of self-help.

[mezzo-morte]

WAIT IS GILLIAN FINALLY HOPPING ONTO DD'S PODCAST??? IS THAT RIGHT?