#faerypost // love letter

[rowan-post]

RPC self-care

We all get worn down by life and often we turn to RP for rejuvenation. But more than once I've seen people on here that find themselves burnt out on the RP community itself. With nearly 20 years of role playing under my belt, I thought I'd share some of my favourite self-care tricks.

Block people. You don't have to explain yourself and 'weird vibes' is a legitimate reason. You deserve to feel safe and unbothered in your hobby space, and RP is based on consent. Just like with any recreational activity, you can withdraw your consent at any time and no is a complete sentence.

Turn off anon. This prevents anonymous harassment and gives you great insight into who to block or report if you get non-anonymous harassment.

Drop threads. I know RP etiquette suggests you need to tell your RP partner when and why, and sure, if they ask politely you can give it a go - just know that a pre-written variant of 'not feeling it' is good enough. In my humble opinion, I think dropping boring or vexing threads is everyone's prerogative and doesn't require explanation. Again, no is a complete sentence.

Talk it out. If you like the thread but things took a turn you didn't like, it's time to bring the RP into the workshop. Something like 'Hey I really like our RP so far but I'm losing my spark, can we talk about course correcting where the plot is going?'

Make clear rules and revise them frequently. I'd also advise against spending said rules excusing or explaining why you don't like or want a certain thing - I cannot stress enough how your preferences are not up for debate.

Get comfy chasing. A lot of RP is about inviting others to play over and over and over. Rejection is a part of it. See if you can't find some element of self-care in it - taking rejection well is a great skill to practice in such a low stake environment.

Notice and celebrate the good stuff, instead of digging holes about the bad. Tell your co-players how great they are. Marvel at all the hard work you put into your muses and graphics. Admire your own blog.

Stop. Take a break. Check in with yourself. Do you actually need to face something in IRL? Do you need to rest? A snickers? A walk? Don't bother with posts á la 'offline for the day' - leave your options open to reduce guilt or shame if you want to poke your head back in.

Happy writing. 🌿

[jonneal]

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[rowan-post]

If you don't take the money, they can't tell you what to do.

- Bill Cunningham

Roleplaying generates no monetary value.

Roleplaying is lust, exploration, desire, curiosity - a delighted what the hell is this, oh I loved that, what if we made some more, what if we make it worse, better, brighter, softer, darker, harder - hornier, angrier, more, more, more?

Roleplaying is excavating something dark, twisted, wonderful, new - it's offering it up, to the readers, writing partners, lurkers: look what I made, watch this and what if...?

Roleplaying is a gesture, a gift, a prompt; a hand offered at a party - wanna dance? Roleplaying is taking the no thank you with a smile and a polite dip of the head, hand returned behind your back, no worries. Roleplaying is the elated thrill, the beaming grin, when there's a oh yes - and then a few eager, clumsy steps on the dancing floor. The rush of pleasure when you find your rhythm.

Roleplaying is anger. Is resistance, queer liberation, anti-racist and anti-ableist action, it's watch me write it anyway, motherfucker. Is voluntary, is sitting down by the keys after dinner, bone-tired; is typing on the bus, subway, train - is a balm. A help. A tired, happy sigh - finally.

Roleplaying generates no monetary value, and they can't tell you what to do.

[rowan-post]

Dearest community,

Your ambition and drive towards inclusivity and diversity astound me. One step into the Tumblr RPC and I knew I had to step up my game. If I had been resting on my laurels in other roleplaying spaces, I now had to get back on the horse.

It's a very mild autumn where I am at and this weekend I spent a lot of time crying and cleaning - the capital C:s. To top it all off, my electronics started going haywire, and today I'm on a mission to do laundry and get new tech.

Improving my writing and pushing boundaries in a safe environment is one of the reasons I've always loved roleplaying so much. I've often been awarded grace when I've messed up - like when I made a courtesan character that screamed Orientalism - and gentle correction when I've done something really dumb - like when I misgendered someone in a tabletop game - and while both of these instances made me cry, I find that crying is often the first step towards doing something differently for me. To finding a new direction.

Thank you so much for being enthusiastic and interested in my queer, POC and especially my femme coded characters. I can't promise I won't mess up. But I can promise I'll try to match your ambition.

Having a clean house was worth the tears.

Lovingly, Woods