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deancasforcutie · 1 year

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"Now you live in a secret bunker with an angel and Lucifer’s kid", AKA queering domesticity par excellence

#something capital-q Queer about the way they create a life within The Life unlike the heteronormative 'apple pie life' the show critiques #(and just the way they're masculine mlm never stereotyped into 'man/woman' roles even with constant parallels to m/f pairings)#it's barrier-breaking and they're very special to me 🥺#dean winchester #castiel #destiel #spnedit #supernatural #spn #parallels #dean is bi #spn is queer #mine

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sarasade · 10 months

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One of the most generally useful things to come out of Hbomberguy's plagiarism video and Todd in the Shadows' similar video on misinformation is how they bring transparency to the internet phenomenon of "I made up a guy to get mad at".

Seriously, I've seen people make up a lot of stupid shit on the internet over the years and it's often just a manipulative attempt to paint a group of marginalized people in a bad light.

That's the TL;DR version of this post.

ANYWAY here is the long version

Those videos are mostly about James Somerton's plagiarism of other queer people's work. However I'd like to talk about that 20-30% of Somerton's original writing- and oh boy. It's mostly about complaining about White Straight Women and misgendering well-known trans creators such as Rebecca Sugar and calling Becky Albertalli a straight woman while it's pretty common knowledge that she was forced to out herself as bi because she received so much harassment over "being a cishet woman who appropriates LGBT+ stories".

One thing that irks me especially is how in his Killing Stalking and Gay Shipping videos Somerton brings up how straight women/ teen girl shippers exploit gay men for their personal sexual fantasies. This gets brought up several times in his videos.

Being all up and arms about Somerton being a "White Cis Gay Who Hates Women and Queer People tm" is not that useful because the kind of rhetoric he's using is extremely common in fandom and LGBT+ spaces on Tumblr, TikTok and Twitter. We really don't need to bring Somerton's identity to this since he is in no way an unique example.

It's hypocritical to make this about an individual person when I've seen A TON of posts, tweets and videos where queer people talk about these Sinister Straight Women who are supposedly out there fetishizing and exploiting queer men. It's pretty clear to me that this is just an excuse to shit on women and queer people for having any sexual interests. At worst these comments are spreading misinformation about BL, a form of media that has been excessively studied by both Asian feminists and Asian queer women.

This all sounds really familiar and I think it's good that people are calling it out as what it is: misogyny and transphobia. I'd also point out the potentially racist motives behind being this hypervigilant about Asian media.

People can absolutely be misogynist regardless of gender or orientation. I really don't know why we need to create some kind of made up enemy to get mad at. I actually think it's almost sinister how "anti-fujoshi" people call Slash shippers and fujoshi misogynists or claim that they have internalised misogyny while being dismissive about women's interests and creative pursuits under Japanese obscenity laws, China's censorship, book bans in American schools and various other disadvances that are part of being a queer and/or female creator.

I think we shouldn't be naive about the bad faith actors who want to turn queer people against each other. For example Fujoshi.info mentions anti-gender (TERF, GC etc) movement using this kind of rhetoric as well.

Anyway if you want to read more:

- about the false info around BL fandom fujoshi.info

-There is the scholar Thomas Baudinette who studies gay media in Japan. Here is a podcast with him and the scholar Khursten Santos

-James Welker is a BL scholar as well. Here is a podcast interview about the new international BL article collection he edited.

-I've already talked about this Youtube channel by KrisPNatz and his great Killing Stalking video that actually engages with the themes of the manhwa

- There is also HR Coleman's thesis DO NOT FEED THE FETISHIZERS: BOYS LOVE FANS RESISTANCE AND CHALLENGE OF PERCEIVED REPUTATION where she interviews 36 BL fans and actually breaks down why fetishization has become such a huge talking point in the fandom discourse. Spoilers, it's mostly about young queer people and women being worried that they will get judged and pathologized for their interest in anything sexual.

-Great podcast about Danmei and censorship with Liang Ge

#Also I don't mean that you can always tell if someone is a transphobe or a TERF based on a couple of things they have said.#My point is that sometimes ok people can have very regressive ideas too.#This is not a call out post about how we should go around accusing anti-fujoshi people #todd in the shadows #hbomberguy #sarasade text #even I've got those “Fandom is mostly straight women fetishizing gay men” comments once and it begins to sound kind of passive-aggressive #when you're a bi woman. Lot of fandom stats at AO3 show that fandoms are montly bi women. who are these people calling straight exactly hmm #also straight women are completely ok leave them alone. I know I know Yes I'm so brave for saying this #cw: transphobia

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purgatory-jar · 6 months

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Who's excited for tonight's episode???? I am!!!

A lil bit of buck/tommy as a good luck charm for tonight!

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#buck/tommy #have we decided on a ship name?#evan buckley #tommy kinard #I feel like I need to say this #I am absolutely a buddie endgame truther BUT I am also very happy with Buck figuring out he's bisexual and I really like Tommy #we should keep Tommy even if it looks like he's just here to ease our disaster boy into his bisexuality #as a bi woman honestly I care more about buck figuring this out for himself #let the boy have some fun #we can add the enourmous complications of finding out you're in love with your best friend later #also lou is making it very hard not to like tommy so #he's *cool*#911 spoilers #911 on abc #thunderjellyfisharts

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fandomsandfeminism · 6 months

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😮‍💨 Went out to socialize with some coworkers yesterday. I mention that I'm bi, and then just a minute later that I have a husband.

Coworker (who is a lesbian, for the record, so what follows isnt straight ignorance) that I really do not know: oh, wait, you're married?

Me: ha, yes.

Them: And you're bi?

Me: ...yes?

Them: wow, so like, an open relationship?

Me: ....?????? No?

Them: really?.....so, you're married. In a monogamous relationship? And...you're still bi?

Me: ...................yes? I...still think women are attractive? Like my husband still thinks women are attractive? Getting married didn't change that.

Them: oh, wow, how interesting.

#in the year of the lord 2024 #why am i having to explain this #this woman couldnt have been more than 5 or 6 yeara older than me though so wtf #but my lesbian grandmother had said something similar when i told her I was bi after i was married #she was like 'still? even though youre married?' like yeah grandma. still. wtf #it wasnt like malicious or rude #but it was #...uncomfortable and confusing

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thevillainsfangirl · 3 months

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This is gonna ruffle a lot of feathers, I’m sure, but...

If you're going to love a fictional villain, LOVE THEM AS A VILLAIN! Stop trying to make them into some Good Person™ that they’re not. What is it that you even like about them? You think they're hot?

Quit being a pussy! THEY'RE FICTIONAL. It's not some moral dilemma if you love a villain AS A VILLAIN.

(Remade this old post because I had some characters to add.)

#You either like a character AS THAT CHARACTER... or you like some OOC version of them in your head. Thus – you're not *actually* a fan! 👏🏽#harley quinn #amber freeman #ethan landry #stu macher #billy loomis #quinn bailey #charles lee ray #tiffany valentine #michael myers #nubbins sawyer #slashers #aemond targaryen #alicent hightower #bi han #skarlet #erron black #mileena #negan smith #henry creel #This type of bs (and ppl loving to victimize/infantilize women even if they're evil) is what got Harley turned into Farley. (FAKE Harley)#DO NOT come at me with ''Actually Harley-'' NO. I've heard it all.#And it's all just victimizing/infantilizing a woman and ignoring all of her evil she has ON HER OWN.#This post is for those of us who understand HQ's true character and that the New 52/Rebirth/etc Harley is not real Harley.#rant #txt

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clownsuu · 8 months

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Hello Clownsuu!! I hope you are having a good day! well I have a question about MOB!Barnaby. Among the family members, he seems to be quite arrogant and a womanizer, so my question would be is he really a one-night-stand man?

thanks. Have a good day/afternoon/night!

huh?????

#“Arrogant womanizer”???#Because he has a huge crush on poppy? (and howdy-??) Iconic bi panic man???#Arrogant maybe but never a womanizer- (poppy would hate him for it)#He’s chaotic but the most tame in the trio- considered a huge romantic (in mob standards)—#This doesn’t even get tags I’m bamboozled JDHDDHJ

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yardsards · 5 months

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i personally think marcille is bisexual but in the "i am attracted the Occasional anime twink and also every woman who has ever walked the earth" way. like a solid 5 on the kinsey scale, y'know?

#eliot posts #(yes the kinsey scale is outdated and a vast oversimplification plus doesn't map perfectly onto modern label uses but. yk.)#dunme #dungeon meshi #marcille donato #i am only extrapolating a little bit from canon here #gestures at the succubus chapter #and then gestures at how the Vibes feel a little bit gay to me whenever she's interacting directly w almost any other adult woman #it's odd to me that i very rarely see ppl headcanon her as bi unless they are actively shipping her w a man (usually chilchuck or laios)#i personally ship her exclusively w falin (to me chilchuck is her work dad and laios is her boybestie and future in-law)#but she is simply bi and dating a woman to me #(now falin on the other hand i personally generally see as a lesbian)#(that ''she almost accepted toshiro's proposal bc she was worried no one else would want her. but hesitated because she felt guilty abt-#-the idea of marrying him even though she did not return his feelings'' read as compulsory heterosexuality to me personally)

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spraypaintstainonawhitewall · 20 days

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"Arthur should just marry Merlin at this point, he's done more for him than anybody else." -my mom

#to put into perspective as to why im saying this #this is the same woman who yelled at me for two hours when she found out i was bi #and goes “woke has infected all shows” when theres a canon gay character on screen #merlin is also her little son and mordred is a piece of shit #oh also this was sometime during s2 i cant remember exactly when #in case that puts it even more into perspective #merlin #bbc merlin #merthur #merlin emrys #arthur pendragon #guinevere #morgana pendragon #emrys #merlin bbc

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karmathenightowl · 3 months

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Godwin and Mutt's waltz is what wlw and mlm solidarity looks like

#we love a reanimated elderly aristocratic lesbian barbarian woman #and a bi monster hunter king #even though mutt says he's courting a lady #i'm still thinking about the whole dipping mr mistoffelees thing ngl #also when godwin asks mutt if SHE leads i mean come on #taz vs dracula #the adventure zone #taz versus dracula #lady godwin #crawford muttner

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13thdoctor · 10 months

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i really really really like the whole thing the toymaker has going on but i like women and i really needed to see her as a fruity butch. or else id die. So heres if the toymaker was an old fruity butch. hi. i thuink im going to be sick over how bad i want her

#the toymaker #toymaker dw #doctor who #dw fanart #art #mine #at least “faggy butch dyke” was what i was going for. masc for a woman but in the way gnc men are. yknow #masc but in the fruity way. like a queen. but still gnc about it.#doeas anybody hear me #i might huave covid. btw.#i dont know if im a lesbian or if im bi but shes infinitely hotter like this and i might throw myself off a bridge about it #i NEED to draw master incarnations as dykes as well by the way. If id even survive it

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punkeropercyjackson · 9 months

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"We need more male protagonists who aren't traditionally masculine!"You guys couldn't even handle Percy Jackson

(Oh btw since this is gaining traction,when i say 'traditionally masculine',i'm referring to y'all's backwards ass 'Gentlemen perfer blondes' bullshit)

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grassbreads · 5 months

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Man, genuinely there's little that excites me more than encountering queerness in fiction where I wasn't expecting it. I'm gonna be thinking about Kikuhiko/Yakumo from SGRS for so long.

Even setting aside the subtext of his feelings for Sukeroku, the narrative around his relationship to gender norms and his own expression is so fascinating. Guy who grows up steeped in rigid 40s gender roles and actively tries to enforce them, yet only truly feels like himself when he's acting on stage as a woman. Guy who says his life would have been better if he were born a woman and then refuses to elaborate.

#I don't know what kind of queer he is but MAN he's certainly something #gay or bi or trans or ace or whatever combination of the above #I was so ??? when he said the 'if only I were born a woman' line in chapter 3. and then we just kept going #Kiku ily so much #wish you had been born in a world where you were allowed to be bitchy in a girl way instead of just a misogynist way #and of course you can't really separate his feelings for Shin from his gender situation bc like #being a man attracted to other men (even if you never acknowledge it) can shape your own relationship to gender expression #man kiku is so good #this series was a treat #shouwa genroku rakugo shinjuu #sgrs #descending stories #kikuhiko #yurakutei yakumo

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torchickentacos · 3 months

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i will always shout praises of bi4bi but given recent discourse I feel the need to say that I love bi4het too! I just love bisexuality in general in its many forms, and anyone who only likes it when it's 'queer enough' for them is biphobic. Bisexuals should be able to bring their LaMe CiShEt BoYfRiEnD to pride without being made to feel like spectators and outsiders to their own event.