#ethical feedism

[doublequaterpounder]

Sending my love to all the other feedees living the reality seeing their families for the holidays after gaining weight!

FAs and feeders don’t just assuming everyone’s ok with “how’d your family react to your gain?” question it can be a complex situation with potential nuances outside of kink

i understand the fantasy and kink side of it all and the hotness of a realised gain from people that don’t often see a feedee but again as someone who got fat and deals with there family’s comments, it’s not necessarily the horniest thing to me (ofc everyone’s different and you gotta respect everyone’s boundaries is all)

[growmydarling]

if you're a feedist, you should be engaging with fat acceptance media and learning more for yourself as well as your community! a great place to start is by looking into the Health At Every Size movement, reading You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar and Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness as Anti-Blackness, and listening to podcasts like Maintenance Phase and Food Psych- Intuitive Eating and Anti-Diet. these are great places to begin educating yourself on fat acceptance and anti-fatphobia so you can make your community a safer, more inclusive, more comfortable place for fat people. 🧡

[feedists4fat-lib]

💛Happy Fat Liberation Month from FFL!💛

All this month we will be sharing fun facts and information specifically about Fat Liberation, its history, as well as information on how to combat Anti-Fat Bias and its origins. We'll touch on the Medical Industrial Complex, the intersection of LGBTQIA2S+ identities and fatness, and the Anti-Black Origins of fatphobia. And of course, it wouldn't be FFL without some food recommendations -- this time from Black Owned Businesses!

When it comes to harm in the medical field, anti-fatness has a particular role in the lack of care given to trans people. If you are trans and are interested in looking into Gender Affirming Healthcare, transbmi.com is a great resource to find doctors who have high or no BMI restrictions.

[cherryblossomsandapplepi]

My favorite flavor of this kink is whatever makes my partner the most comfortable and the most horny

[athleticbelly]

It's not the fact that you've gotten lazier. You haven't really gotten lazier. Being lazy means you've taken to not doing anything.

You're sedentary. You have become so active at the task of staying put you've become so much more efficient.

It started when you moved your bed into the living room next to the front door. Makes best use of the space after all. Then it was putting the refrigerator next to it. Easiest to grab food while you work. And having your laptop on a small cart that can be wheeled to any part of your bed is so helpful! Of course you have the microwave and air fryer on your bedside table. Makes all of those meals so much more fulfilling.

Over time you have been enjoying this. Sometimes a little too much. You've bragged about how easy your life has become from managing everything at your bed. But there are things that require moving. Bathing, getting groceries, the bathroom. So you decided to do something that helps with that. You hired help.

It was hard at first. Nobody was interested in taking the ad. Nobody wanted to help somebody be more efficient with their lifestyle. That is, until you changed some wording. And added some pictures.

A flood of messages came for weeks. People offering to donate for mobility assistance. People offering to take care of your needs. And the praise for pursuing this venture was more than you expected! But most of it was centered around eating for others.

And you didn't mind.

You found someone that was more than willing to help you. Somebody that had diet plans, medical background, was a psychiatrist, and overall a pleasant person in emails.

And you ate out of the palm of their hands. They took care of all of your needs. They pampered you with decadent foods, massages, sponge baths, and compliments. And they praised your body.

You were so focused on being efficient you didn't grasp the concept of what would eventually envelope your once athletically average body.

All of this eating and staying in one spot led to you taking up more space on that living room bed of yours. The first month was unnoticed. Your belly only becoming slightly paunchy. Pushing your pajama bottoms down ever so slightly. It became a nice place to rest your laptop after month three when it started to cover some of your thighs. You didn't notice the rest of your body until you hired the help. When they had to take your clothes off to bathe you. Your legs widened so much and your arms were really restrained by your ill-fitting shirt. It was when they had to wash your neck under your second chin that you came to the realization you were at the point of no return. That you were destined for fatness.

And you didn't care. The compliments on how fat you've gotten were so nice. The food was such a good incentive to keep cultivating this body of yours.

You're not lazy. You're just efficient at being sedentary. And you are thriving.

[celesteafterdark]

Stuffing myself with junk has been nice but I’ve got to get back to my regular foods. My mental health is taking a hit which really takes the joy out of things, so I’ll be filling up on proteins, fruits and veggies for a while.

Eat food that makes your brain and body feel good. Sadly, for me, that’s not milkshakes, cheesecake and potatoes.

[doublequaterpounder]

not that controversial but we should restructure the whole clothing size system tbh

the worldwide average persons clothing size is XL (38ish inch waist) meaning most bigger than the average person goes into the infinite 3,4,5 etc XXL territory but like let’s just slam it down so that XL is the new medium (WHICH IT IS) and then chuck a bunch of extra smalls down the other end and not have to have as many ridiculous 10XXL bs

like an adult small is crazy that extra extra small tbh

[growmydarling]

the amount of time i have seen disparaging shit about this kink on reddit hurts. there *are* more ethical ways to engage in this kink. just because so-called "normal" people aren't into weight gain and larger bodies, doesn't mean your sexual interests are gross or wrong. we can't turn off the part of our brains that make us into this! people don't seem to understand that the humiliation aspect of the kink doesn't translate into the rest of a feedist relationship, and that most people are fully aware of the health risks and consent to it anyways because it's OUR BODY. your kink is valid. it's not gross. it's sexy, it's beautiful, it deserves to be treated as just another kind of kink.

[feedists4fat-lib]

💛Happy Fat Liberation Month from FFL!💛

All this month we will be sharing fun facts and information specifically about Fat Liberation, its history, as well as information on how to combat Anti-Fat Bias and its origins. We'll touch on the Medical Industrial Complex, the intersection of LGBTQIA2S+ identities and fatness, and the Anti-Black Origins of fatphobia. And of course, it wouldn't be FFL without some food recommendations -- this time from Black Owned Businesses!

For our first stretch of Graphics, we'll be looking at a couple of Fat Liberation Activists and their contributions to the movement! Today we learn more about Elana Dykewoman, a legendary artist and thinker who found pride in her lesbian identity and fatness.

[dieletztepanzerhexe]

feeder fetishist is disgusted by unethical and politically problematic practitioners of his repulsive fetish

oh he has more serious opinions

oh he's worried about lack of positive portrayals of his degenerate fetish in pop culture! this is literal violence and early stages of a genocide

for comparison his regular content

[doublequaterpounder]

Getting fat and fatter on purpose is truly a top teir life experience. like full being in tune with you body, listening to every craving eating whenever you get hungry. making yourself full and fulfilled and just high feeling concept as your body grows as you listen to it

when i was fit and working out i was constantly ignoring my body and restricting it and trying to convince it to go out and over exert itself so it burns itself away but reclaiming that and enjoying the growth and feeding it what it’s wanted the whole time

true at peace lifestyle following exactly what it wants and i want to be fat and that’s very cool

[naughtynoodle056]

Not to be controversial but the way some feeders expect feedees to eat is nothing short of unhinged and I don't mean that positively lol. Maybe I'm just too soft but why do some feeders think it's genuinely sustainable for the average feedee to eat like 10,000 calories a damn day EVERY day? To eat literally Everything in their house regardless of grocery funds or other people living with them? To order out Every Single Fucking Day like that shit isn't crazy expensive? Think it's genuinely sustainable to be stuffed to the point of pain at Every meal ever?? Idk man sometimes I feel like some feeders get so horny they forget to think with their brains and acknowledge that most people don't have the resources, funds, or physical capability to perform some of the things the hard-core gainers in this scene do and it's really irritating to navigate around lol

[growmydarling]

there is NO ethical feedism without the base knowledge that fat people are loveable and deserve respect and accommodation in more than just the bedroom

[feedists4fat-lib]

Black History Month at FFL: Highlighting Black Feedist Content Creators

As we round out the end of Black History Month, us here at FFL thought it was important to highlight our fellow feedist community members in the present! These Black feedist content creators put in the work year round to provide amazing feedist content. Models and Sex Workers are a huge part of the feedist community. They are pillars – providing the community with unique erotic content that could otherwise be hard to find as people with non-normative sexualities and desires, as well as providing ample representation of the diverse array of people who have and love this kink. Not only is this work needed, but it can be incredibly healing and validating to find erotic content highlighting feedism, especially if it is made by creators that look like you!

As the world has grown increasingly reactionary and puritanical towards porn, sex work, and virtual erotic content, censorship has grown alarmingly commonplace. Many workers find that it is a struggle to be visible on platforms and social media sites, and this struggle only heightens when you have to deal with antiblack and fatphobic algorithms and moderators. While FFL cannot remedy the shifting tides of internet censorship, the least we can do is create a resource that makes it easier for people to find and support our working members of the feedist community.

After reaching out to Black content creators, a handful agreed to be highlighted on FFL’s website and social media. Featured below are five feedist models alongside links to their clip and fansites, linktrees to find all their content, wishlists, as well as preferred payment methods! If you are looking for feedist content, check out the wide variety offered in these model’s catalogs. Or if you’re feeling generous, sending a tip through their payment methods is a great way to show your appreciation for the work they do for their community. And as always, Sex Work is Real Work, and Black History Month should be celebrated all year long! So feel free to come back to this post as a reference for the next time you are on the hunt for more feedisty and fat admiration content!

Big Belly Judy

Cashapp: https://cash.app/$chrissyjudy 

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/bigbellyjudy

GreedyPiggy

Cashapp: https://cash.app/$piggyeatsworld

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/biggreedyp

Lavendarlove-96

Cashapp: https://cash.app/$lavlove96 

Curvage: https://curvage.org/forum/index.php?/profile/240862-lavendarlove-96/ 

Tumblr: https://www.tumblr.com/lavendarlove-96

LilithIsFat/Lilith Void

Cashapp: https://cash.app/$abigbrat

Wishlist: https://www.wishtender.com/mothervoid 

Manyvids: https://www.manyvids.com/Profile/1002293935/LilithIsFat/Store/Videos/ 

Fansly: https://fans.ly/LilithIsFat 

LoyalFans: https://www.loyalfans.com/mothervoid 

Onlyfans: http://www.onlyfans.com/lilithisfat 

Clips4Sale: https://www.clips4sale.com/studio/139989 

Sextpanther: http://www.sextpanther.com/lilithisfat

APClips: http://www.apclips.com/lilithisfat  

Pornhub: https://www.pornhub.com/model/lilithisfat

Mz Fluff

LoyalFans: https://www.loyalfans.com/mzfluffssbbw

Email/Paypal: mzfluff125@gmail.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mzfluff123

[velvetafterdark]

Masterpost

Velvet | She/Her or Vi/Vix | Autistic

Ko-fi | Commissions (On my main) | FurAffinity

I like fat robots what can I say

Sex-repulsed. Only into kink

Really shy and trying not to be ashamed

Single and perfectly content that way: not looking for advances, just to share and find content

DNI: <18, Proship, Pedophiles, Exclusionists, Queerphobes Transphobes/TERFS, SWERFS, Nazis, and those okay with Hogging/Objectification (People are ALWAYS more important than kink: die mad)

My kinks

ETHICAL FEEDISM RESOURCES

The relationship between kink and body positivity

Feedists for Fat Liberation resources (off-site)

Fat feminism resources (non-kink. Would love to get ahold of masc and enby oriented resources like this!)

I'm always on the hunt for resources to help people navigate life and fall in love with their bodies and those of their partners, and engage in kink in a safe, sane, consensual, and fun way. If you have resources you'd like to share, hmu!

[heavycreamy]

Hey Matt Gazy

This post is for Australian Journalist Matt Gazy.

Apparently you've been contacting members of our feedism/erotic weight gain community in order to discuss our very multifaceted, heavily misrepresented lifestyle.

As someone who has been in this community for 3 decades, has seen most if not all of its forms, understands the ethical connections between Feedism and Fat Liberation, and deeply cares about how folks in our community are represented to the general vanilla public, I hope that you are entering into this project/article/episode with the necessary due respect, empathy, intelligence, and kindness that you would bring to ANY oft-misunderstood and ridiculed subculture.

No one needs another sensationalist piece of journalism wilfully and lazily misrepresentating our community, sexuality, and lifestyle, which only EVER serves to further stigmatise and shame us.

We have been taken advantage of on many occasions, cast as freaks and pathetic fools with mental problems, so neither we nor the general public need more of that.

EVERY time a piece about feedism appears in the public eye, our community experiences a massive wave of trolls and judgemental, deeply fatphobic tourists coming into our online spaces and abusing us.

Please don't debase us nor yourself by making a surface level hit-piece on our community, whether intentionally or unintentionally, due to a lack of thorough research and basic respect for perspectives and life experiences outside the norm.

Feedism is INFINITELY more than simply heteronormative power play. That corner of the community represents less than 10% of what actual contemporary Feedism culture is, and ironically harbours 90% of the toxicity present in the entire culture.

Feedism is so much more than heteronormative, coercive power play. It is extremely queer, extremely feminist, extremely sensual and emotional, and is a major facet of many people's lives and psychologies.

While it may seem like simply a niche genre of porn to the casual tourist, Feedism exists outside of porn. It exists outside of kink. It exists outside of fetish. It can and should be considered an orientation, rather than simply a freaky outlier bedroom interest worthy only of reactive disgust.

Please don't be yet another unscrupulous journalist exploiting our incredibly vulnerable community for shock bait bullshit.

If you're going to try to represent us, do it comprehensively, and do it PROPERLY.

Truly speak to us. Do the work. Don't just find an extremely popular female model and falsely imagine that her experience is a stand in for ALL Feedist experiences.

If you truly want to represent Feedism, you NEED to represent it as the complex, multifaceted diaspora that it is, full of people of all kinds, all cultures, and ALL SIZES.

Should you be committed to pursuing this topic, I can offer links and connections to extremely well informed writers, thinkers, professors, and others within this community who are doing INCREDIBLE work on understanding, exploring, and expressing the deeper truths of this desire and lifestyle. There are people doing the work. You need to do it too.

We're humans. Treat us with respect, dignity, and kind curiosity.

Be better than every journalist who has come before you.

Thank you.

ps. Dear feedist pals, if you feel that what I've said here resonates with you, and mirrors your feelings at all, please feel free to reblog the shit out of this in the hopes that more visibility may help it reach its intended audience. Thanks gang ♥️🍰🍕