#enabling

[flange5]

Please enjoy this absolutely cursed Iron Man mug I found on ebay.

[xehcainam]

I have so many thoughts on Jimmy as both a narcissist and a patriarchal male and how that affects the story and I have nobody to spew this brain rot at what do I do

[kply-industries]

"Sir, would you like to take up smoking?"

"WOWEE!"

[american-boyboss]

[vanalex]

[ayyy-imma-ninja]

Has there been a time when Mr. Sun and Mr. Moon has a disagreement to the point that y/n would have to put one of those "this is our get along shirt" and stuff them in it?

Surprisingly no.

The boys are good at settling disagreements on their own, but the problem with that is how much they unhealthily enable each other. If one has doubt about their cause, the other simply goes "No it's okay do it". It's also part of how they only really trust each other with things.

But the thought of them wearing a shirt like that is hilarious

[yusuke-of-valla]

Oh hey Portable’s on sale for Switch

Along with like. Dozens of other games apparently Nintendo is having a massive sale right now

But you know. Portable

[sagekjs21]

Random Bit of Advice #19

Be careful. Be on the lookout for people who cannot handle even minor criticism, advice, being held accountable. While facing your own faults and mistakes is never easy and it certainly does not feel good, the people that you want in your life will ultimately be people who are interested in changing and growing. Despite someone's religious beliefs, one of the most valuable things that someone can do with their life is grow, try to become the best version of themselves that they possibly can. But some people simply don't seem interested. Some people can't handle the fact that they are not perfect, that they are indeed flawed. Or rather maybe they can face a few flaws in themselves if they see them, but not if they are brought to their attention by someone else. Everyone falls into this trap occasionally; we are all human and we don't like to admit that we're flawed on the hole. But when this becomes chronic, when this type of thing is habitual or some sort of pattern, that is a serious relationship red flag. Be with people who want to grow, who want to do better, who strive for such things on a constant basis. They are the ones who can show you true forms of love, empathy, compassion, and who can also help encourage you and build you up in turn.

And if you are in a relationship of any type with somebody who never holds you accountable, that's a red flag as well. This person is most likely enabling you. While you want your friends to treat you with kindness and love and respect, it is also just as important to have friends who feel comfortable enough to say something along the lines of, "Hey, that thing you did the other day, that was not OK with me and we need to talk about that. " These are the kinds of friends who you can truly count on, because you know they're not going to lie to you just to make you feel OK. If I had to choose in a friend ultimately between kindness and accountability, in the end I would choose being held accountable. It will serve me far better, because it will make me a better Christian and therefore I will be able to serve my Lord to the upmost of my abilities. Being enabled in the end will never allow me to achieve such a thing. It will hold me back.

And finally, there is a difference between someone who holds you accountable and someone who simply blames you for everything. We are all flawed; we are all sinners. But we are not all evil monsters either. The accountability needs to exist, yes, but it absolutely must be tempered with a genuine care, respect, and love for you. If it's not, if this person just truly wants to blame you and make you feel guilty for everything you're doing and just put you down, they probably don't belong in your life. 

@titaniumpeony Thank you for holding me accountable. ❤️ 

@dragoneyes618 We've gotten into some interesting political/moral discussions before. I'm interested to know your thoughts on this if you're willing to share them. And if you would rather do it via private message that's totally fine. 😊 

[flange5]

$20 and he could be yours.

[navybrat817]

Omg the candles came in!! I have a gc with my mother and sister and my sister was like “how many did you order because this is a big ass box” I told them and my mother was not too ecstatic about my purchase😂 little does she know I still need to get 5 more before the end of the season 🤫

But yes, boo not being able to use them in my dorm😪 I know it’s a fire and mess hazard but they’re fall candles☹️

We joke like that too! As of right now she’s been trying to take my room and my squishmallow collection 😂

Woohoo! I'm so glad the candles are in! "Big ass box." My mom would say the same thing. 😂

I completely get the dorm rules, but I also know just how many rules were broken. 😂 My building was co-ed and the guys didn't give any fucks about the rules.

BAHAHA. Does she have a favorite of the squishmallows?

I also convinced a couple of my teammates to get candles. I was called an enabler and I pointed out that it's one of my working geniuses. 🤣 Our team had us take this test to determine our strengths, competencies, and frustrations. Enabling is one of my strengths, which is not surprising at all. ❤️

Love and thanks! ❤️

[zabchan]

[sithwitch13]

I would like to thank Hangman/Swerve and Toni/Mariah gifmakers specifically right now for helping me to convince my hairdresser to try watching AEW.

[immaculatasknight]

Fingering the gang

[vyorei]

US to continue backing Israel with resupplying Iron Dome

Biden, you're gonna wind up on the wrong side of a war crime tribunal

[vizthedatum]

I’m sure I’ve said this before on my blog but…

As much as I want to or compelled to, I cannot heal, fix, get someone to come out, or get someone to admit to something even if I genuinely want to help them.

I just can’t.

I couldn’t do it for my exes, I couldn’t do it for my friends (both past and current), I can’t do it for my family, I can’t do it for community members who are struggling with addiction or substance use disorders, etc.

It’s really hard for me, and I definitely have been the person who made recommendations upon recommendations or over gave… to no avail. It was frustrating for everyone involved.

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Oh yeah, my friends in the past couldn’t do it for me either - there were times when I didn’t even understand the advice they were giving because I wasn’t equipped to make changes.

It goes both ways.

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It’s one thing to be supportive and give helpful suggestions, but you have to allow people to have their autonomy without forcing them to do things they’re not ready to do.

And if you think you can’t handle their choices, then you have the power to control yourself and choose your own fate (like leaving a relationship or having more personal boundaries).