#emergency c section

[beckleboo]

A lot has happened over the last week.

Had baby boy #2 via emergency c section 5 weeks before his due date.

Since I use this blog as a kind of diary as well I’ll prob write out my birth story & post it here. Mostly bc it will help me process it

[captainjonnitkessler]

How could ao3 abandon me in this, my hour of greatest need

[tayloralisonswift]

thinking tonight about my bible study leader who in 2015 told me that being gay is a sin and in 2017 came back to me and said that she’s opened up her worldview, turns out her fiancé is bi, she’s deeply sorry, and if there’s anything she can do now to rectify the harm she’s done, she’ll do it. i guess those words could seem hollow if you don’t know her, but she was being so kind and earnest, and that meant so much to me, not just that she would change her mind but that she would return to someone she’s potentially hurt to take responsibility for her actions.

i hear from her every few years, she’s across the country, but she was the first person to message me about my pronouns on my ig profile. she said she was proud of me and i believe her

[skinks]

The English - 1.02

[vacantgodling]

g u e s s w h o ‘ s a n u n c l e

[brontes]

I am begging some of you to be a little more understanding in how you talk about postpartum recovery. “Well my friend’s stomach was flat again in 7 months with no exercise” and “you’re body is designed to go through pregnancy it’s literally natural” and “I know someone who had 5 huge babies and she’s tiny!” — that’s great but like can you consider, for a moment, that not every woman’s pregnancy, birth, and recovery experience is the same. It’s much smoother and easier for some but to speak as though lasting physical consequences can’t happen or that recovery isn’t rough for some is a bit unkind to those women who don’t just bounce back from an uncomplicated natural birth.

[unproduciblesmackdown]

also if only the physical copy of how to disappear completely & never be found i first encountered & read a few years ago (sort of [roughly avg age ten] reader book, not any similarly titled How To) hadn't disappeared completely & not been found since, probably b/c i put it somewhere i intended to be For Safekeeping, which is also how my binder vanished....b/c it's one of those like. those book for late elementary/middle school readers when they just weave in this unrealism which makes for a delightful range & unpredicability? and with a cynical protagonist girl like off to the races like wow her mom is depressed asf & smoking? and it's about A Family History Secrets Mystery so blatantly a haunting that the inciting incident is basically introducing a haunted [family history secrets mystery] house. and spoilers don't matter like it's stemming from there being this missing uncle who grew up so in contrast to the Winsome Winning Sibling Who Does It All Right while seeing his own affiliation with rats that he tried to disappear completely & never be found which led to this Tragedy which led to this more unintended disappearance of his & he haunts this house & wants to be left alone & only goes out at night with this [ambiguous Is That A Giant Rat Or Weird Small Dog (protagonist affected by these family situations who expresses her preoccupation with an awareness of how fate can Strike and Get you with this interest with roving packs of killer chihuahuas. people think she's weird though she spontaneously befriends this other girl struck with this bolt from the blue & a bit weird / outcast & then Insightful who i wish was in it more)] & plays into the hauntedness danger like playing into the [something's Wrong with you then] until having to take yet more action where the urge to express the truth comes out more both b/c living that hidden is more threatened but also b/c now the niece children are more threatened as well. ft. a sort of preternatural blurring of time b/c of only being communicated with through this uncle via his comic pages (that he paints?) of dubiously accurate translations of irl events that are created so quickly it seems to verge on foresight, imagine like "hmm what's this painting. it's me standing in this room looking at this painting??? as someone ominous lurks in the shadows right behind me?" in both [now how could you know this & paint it really fast ahead of time] and [horror]

[elipsi]

instagram has decided that i'm interested in """natural pregnancy influencers""" and let me tell you that shit is wild

[coochiequeens]

By Maxine Bernstein | The Oregonian/OregonLive

A 39-year-old woman accused of stealing thousands of dollars from two customers of her surrogate pregnancy agency was arrested by the FBI in Portland and faces indictment in California on wire fraud and aggravated theft charges.

Lillian Arielle Markowitz, 39, was arrested last weekend after FBI agents found her at a boyfriend’s residence. She was suffering at the time from a drug overdose, having ingested ketamine that was apparently laced with fentanyl, Assistant U.S. Attorney Cassady Adams told a judge this week.

The rest of the article was hidden behind a pay wall but I did find this older article

LOS ANGELES (KABC) -- A Southern California woman who delivered twins for another family says she never got paid for her services and that she's emotionally distressed by the experience.

Darlene Arreola says she became a surrogate to help another couple have children.

"Because they have been trying for so many years, I knew that I was doing the right thing," Arreola told Eyewitness News.

She says she signed up with Elite Women Surrogacy, or EWS, and worked with owner Kenia German.

She says under the contract she signed online, the money for her service was to be placed in a trust account. But she claims she never got the money. Arreola says it was sent to the owner of EWS instead.

"Apparently they gave her a check, or they gave her the money, and I didn't even know that," Arreola claims. "I wasn't even aware that they had paid her directly until the last appointment that I had where I talked to them and I told them I haven't been paid."

Arreola gave birth to twins a few months ago in what turned out to be an emergency cesarean section.

She says she has been going back and forth with EWS and the owner trying to find out what is going on.

"She kept saying that the money was being withheld by the bank, that the bank wasn't releasing the funds," she says.

She added that she was sent screenshots of money that was supposed to be transferred to an account that didn't belong to her. She says she never received the funds.

Eyewitness News went to the listed address for the EWS office, but it's gone. The people there say they took over the space because they were told that the previous tenant stopped paying rent.

Owner Kenia German told Eyewitness News that the situation is complicated, but she wouldn't provide specifics. She said she can't do an interview at this time.

After German was contacted by Eyewitness News, Arreola says she received an email which says in part: "While Channel 7 has reached out to us, we are unable to comment or disclose Darlene's private information... we are working diligently to complete her case and process any delayed payments by or before 12/31/23. We apologize for these delays as they were caused by circumstances beyond our control which we are unable to disclose at this time."

Arreola says she's in emotional and financial distress.

"Never did I imagine that I would be going through all of this and putting my family now through it, and us struggling because of my choices, and I feel really guilty," Arreola says.

Arreola adds this has taken a toll on her family, but she is staying strong for her own children.

[beckleboo]

TRIGGER WARNING. (Talk about medical issues, blood, surgery)

It’s Wednesday night and you’re exhausted. You haven’t been sleeping great because at 35 weeks pregnant it’s hard to get comfortable. It’s 9pm, you decide to take a pregnancy approved sleep medication. You crawl into bed and get all cozy, but at 9:45 just as you’re about to fall asleep you decide it is probably best to get up and pee. You ARE pregnant after all. You don’t want to turn the bedroom light on, so you turn the flashlight on your phone on and leave it on the bed, illuminating the room around you. You quickly go to the bathroom, but after you wipe you notice blood. A LOT of blood on the toilet paper. Thinking this can’t be real, you must be seeing things, you check again. More blood. More clots. Now you can feel it and hear it just dripping out of you. You “whisper yell” for your husband because your toddler is sleeping in the next room. After calling his name 3 times he hears you and comes from the kitchen. He says “what’s wrong?”, an uneasiness in his voice. You calmly ask him to get your phone for you. [looking back, I'm not sure why this is the first thing I said or asked for]. He asks again “what’s wrong?” You again say “Please hand me my phone”. At this point he looks at you, holding the toilet paper you had used, and said “are you bleeding?” He goes to grab your phone. When he comes back 5 seconds later he hears it, questions “are you peeing right now?” To which you calmly reply a simple “No.”

He immediately springs into action. While you call the emergency on call number to speak to your OBGYN he starts packing a bag for you and calls your mom.

The OBGYN calls you back in less than a minute. He says “Tell me what’s going on.” You let him know you’re bleeding, really bleeding. Wanting more details he asks “Bright red blood? Clear/pink tinged? Can you describe it? Was it a large amount? Has it stopped? Are there clots?” You answer his questions 1 by 1, “it’s bright red blood, just coming out as I sit here, and gets worse when I stand. It hasn’t stopped since it started and there are quite a few clots from what I can see”.

He calmly tells you to go to the birthing center at the hospital for evaluation. You knew this would be his response. In October you were bleeding a much smaller amount and had a 2 night stay in the hospital because of it. At that time they said you had some bleeding because of placenta previa. Which 2-3 weeks later they said had “resolved”.

So you are sitting there, thinking what exactly you need to do because the blood is still just coming. The bleeding gets worse when you stand, so you sit back down feeling a little light headed. Eventually you decide to just grab the hand towel from the bathroom and stick that in your pants.

Your husband lets you know a neighbor is here to stay with your sleeping toddler until your mom arrives.

He drives you to the hospital.

When you get there, they take you to a triage room, tell you to put a hospital gown on & provide a urine sample. As you try to give them a urine sample you realize you caught a large clot in the cup instead. Being the person you are, you come out and apologize and ask for a different sample cup. Once the nurse sees the clot she says not to worry about the urine sample, to come get on the stretcher so they can check out baby. Your nurse puts the monitor on you to check on baby. She says “ok, baby is on the monitor. We will call your OBGYN that’s on call, but in the meantime the hospitalist OBGYN who is here will come see you. So let me just go update her and I’ll be right back”.

Being a nurse yourself you expect a little bit of a wait. Sometimes it can take a bit to get a doctor to come see a patient. So you close your eyes and concentrate on listening to your baby’s heart beat on the monitor. You’re surprised that just about 2 minutes later the door was opening. It was 3 different nurses and they said they needed to go over paper work & consents, start an IV, and draw some blood. Not even a minute later your original nurse walks in with another nurse and the OBGYN that was already in the hospital. The original nurse starts doing admission questions in the computer, the doctor stated she needs to do a pelvic exam, and the other nurse starts going over an anesthesia questionnaire with you. All of this at the same time they are starting and IV and going over routine consents & papers with you. The doctor does the pelvic exam for what felt like mere seconds and you overhear her tell a nurse “we gotta take her back.” Next a CRNA from the anesthesiology team comes in. She starts asking questions and telling the nurses to please call the lab to rush the blood work they just sent saying “I need to know her platelet level before I do a spinal. If I don’t have her labs back then we have to do general”. This wasn’t said to me, but I knew what she was saying. My husband on the other hand did not. He had been keeping it together pretty well, you’re used to this kind of thing at work, but he is not. You can tell on his face he is worried and his anxiety is staring to set in, but he’s on the other side of the room and there are still nurses and doctors talking at you and to you, so you can’t talk to him right now. You’re trying to pay attention to the nurse having you sign consents, while listening to the others in the room. You overhear “she’s still bleeding now”, “we need to get her back there now”, “you sent a tube to type & cross right?” . . .

This is when your OB walks in. He gets a brief update from the other doctor, talks to you, and answers questions from your husband. He’s the first person to actually say to you that they need to take baby out now. They start telling your husband, “we will lead you to your room and you can put your things there. Once she’s ready in the OR you can come back.” You can tell he’s really starting to freak out a bit now. Says “so she’s delivering the baby? Like tonight? Right now?” The doctor calmly explains that yes, we are gonna have a baby. Tonight, right now. He’s going to perform a c-section because that’s what is safest for both of you, because they need to stop the bleeding. They start leading him to the room to put the bags there and start rolling you to the OR. You say his name to get his attention, tell him to come back and give you a quick kiss. He does and you say “I love you. We will both be ok”.

You get back to the OR & the CRNA informs you your labs did come back already, you don’t need to go under general anesthesia. Yay!

They have you transfer from the stretcher to the OR table. Explain the process to you. While the anesthesiologist is doing your spinal he asks what you normally do while you’re not here. You tell him “well I’ve been out of work since October on bedrest, but I am a nurse”. At this point you just had to laugh bc there was an audible “ohh that makes sense” from a few nurses and the CRNA. You ask “what makes sense?” They tell you you just seem so calm for everything that’s going on.

From there everything goes so quickly. Your little man was “delivered” at 11:42pm. He’s 5 lb 6 oz which isn’t bad for someone who is 5 weeks early. He doesn’t have go to the NICU and you’re so grateful.

And that’s how my second little man came into this world.

This was all so crazy. A timeline for reference

9:45pm notice bleeding

10:30pm arrive to hospital

11:42pm baby is out of me

It was so quick, I barely had time to process it.

The doctor said I was hemorrhaging due to a placental abruption.

They sent my placenta to pathology to figure out how this happened.

Overall it was a pretty scary situation but I feel like my husband and I handled it fairly well.

[gay-kurapika]

My sister's labor was one of the false alarm ones btw, so theoretically the baby is still happening this Saturday during her scheduled c section. I really do hope the baby can wait just that long because my sister can't deliver naturally anyway, she learned that with the first kid, and it'll save her a lot of pain if this goes as planned

[watercolor-hearts]

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[riahchan]

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[liverpool-enjoyer]

you’re my favorite little menace blog just running around causing havoc 🤗

ghlajklgal thank you but im so Normal actually. so Normal you wouldnt believe. so Normal its not funny.

[brontes]

yall are gonna bait me into jumping into discourse about that stupid poll

[permanentreverie]

would appreciate prayers. sister still hasn't been admitted for c-section yet due to emergency c-sections taking place, am just currently waiting