#down this path terfdom lies

[the-crimson]

I was thinking about this last night but with the revelations today of several more male ccs being accused of sa and abuse, im not gonna be silent.

If your first reaction to all of this is to declare that “all men are evil” or “all men are secretly abusers” im gonna ask you to take a breath. You are rightfully angry but your anger is misplaced and you are actively making things worse.

This line of thought - even said in the heat of the moment without truly believing it - is very harmful both for others and yourself. All trans people are hurt by these words as wells as men of other minorities. Not to mention generalizations are always reductive and harmful in general. Say it enough times and you’ll eventually believe it.

Believing “all men are evil” is the gate way to gender essentialism which only reinforces the real thing you should direct your anger towards if you actually want things to change:

The Patriarchy

The entire reason why so many men feel entitled to the bodies of others and think they can get away with abuse is because of the patriarchy. This shit is engrained into our very institutions and getting angry at men as a whole is missing the bigger picture. Women also uphold the patriarchy. Women can also be abusers. Men do fight the patriarchy. Men do stand up against abuse. Men can be victims of abuse.

You want to actually help change things? Stop with all this “all men are evil” bs and do some research into how the patriarch harms everyone regardless of gender - including men. Educate yourself. If you are old enough, look into your local elections. Get involved with city hall or the board of educators or something because that is how we meaningfully change things.

All men are evil isn’t helpful and actively reinforces the real problem. Find a better outlet for your anger because hurting others isn’t the way. The patriarchy, white supremacy, colonialism/imperialism, and capitalism are all responsible for the state of the world. They are all intersectional. They are the reason this kind of behavior is so wide spread.

So just take a breath. Support and listen to the victims. Take time away from social media if you need to. And lastly if you are going to let this experience radicalize you, point that righteous fury towards the institutions that allow this behavior to be created not an entire class of people who are just trying to survive this hellscape along side you.

Only through community and solidarity can we enact positive change.