#don’t let anyone tell you it’s not

[asleep-and-afraid]

oh, how to articulate the woes of dating romantically while being an aro in denial. i feel i’ve been trying to find the words for a while. when i read through my old journal entries, i can almost feel the anxiety seeping through the pages. i wanted to feel a certain way about her, and because of that, i believed i actually did feel that way about her. i thought my desire to romantically like her was the same as actually romantically liking her. i truly believed that after a while of dating, i’d end up attracted to her. oh the bullshit i told myself.

i should’ve realized it when we dated before we became good friends, because i can’t date people i see as good friends. i should’ve realized it when the nasty feeling in my stomach got stronger the very first time we tried to date. instead of being happy when the feeling became bearable over time, i should’ve realized that my body was simply getting used to the anxiety- not overcoming it. i should’ve realized that not being able to kiss a girl now doesn’t mean i’ll be able to do it later. i should’ve realized that you aren’t supposed to talk yourself into attraction. i should’ve realized that if it was, it would already be.

the idea that overtime, i would start feeling “normal” and that i would eventually be attracted to her like a “normal person” is such bullshit. and i knew it! i fucking knew it! that’s the worst part! i knew it all! that’s why i couldn’t interact with aro stuff for 5 months, no loveless by alice oseman, no dr stone, no aro tag lurking on tumblr. i knew i was trying to be in romantic love instead of actually being in romantic love.

i feel like i suppressed a part or myself for 5 months. fake it till you make it right? well the “make it” in the “normal people” sense means escalating the romance- doing more than cuddling. kissing on the mouth and shit. i physically just could not make it. the faking only gets you so far, until your body rejects the next stage.

and god how the faking hurts! you’re constantly guilty! for letting her down, for letting yourself down, for not reaching a goal of human existence! the faking always leads to failing! which is even worse than the faking itself! because now you know you can only fake it so far.

and the worst part? sometimes i miss it. sometimes i miss having someone to call mine, someone who called me theirs. sometimes i look at the old texts and think about how happy i was at certain points. how great it felt to have someone to call your girlfriend. to always have a person to talk to.

but you know what i’ve realized? you can have that in a friendship, i promise you can. you just need to be willing to work for it. realizing my aro-ness has made me feel alone at times, yes, but it has also shifted my perception of true friendship.

so yeah, romantically dating while aro was ass! but hey, i least i learned something. i wouldn’t have believed myself to be a certified aro motherfucker if this shit didn’t happen! so uh? i guess that was a net positive experience? 10/10 would not do again though lol

[fkapple]

If you had to ship Emily with one of the female bachelorettes, who would you ship her with?

Well since the rest are taken…

[sp4cecrypt1d]

Fanfic Tropes I find funny (Stony edition)

basically things everyone accepted as canon and it’s kinda funny that we all went “yeah sure”

• Peter being their kid. I understand after homecoming/civil war came out but it’s been a thing since Andrew Garfield’s Spider-Man.

• Steve looking up at the ceiling when he talks to Jarvis. We’ve never seen him do this, how did we all just decided that’s what happens.

• Steve sketches in Tony’s workshop because, parallel play.

• Also Steve sketching/making art in general. This is very present in stony fics but we only see him draw twice and one was a deleted scene (from my memory). But also I really like this human part of Steve apart from the past that he’s this big hulking figure and a soldier but he likes to draw the avengers.

• Steve being the Dodgers number one fan. Again this makes sense, he recognized a game he was at by listening to ten seconds of the announcers on the radio.

• Does Peter even have asthma? Why did we all agree he has spider powers but also still uses an inhaler?

• Steve being a freak in bed or a blushing virgin. No in between

• Steve is nice to the bots and tells Tony not to be so mean to them.

• Tony can lock down the lab and not let anyone in?? Again, makes total sense that he could do this but we’ve never seen him do it but it’s in every other fic. /pos but confused

• Steve really wants to punch Howard

• Italian Tony? Steve is canonically Irish, his parents were immigrants, but Tony being half Italian seems like an amalgamation of many things.

• Steve wakes up at the crack of dawn to go on a run, Tony wakes up at noon (but this is okay because he was up late working obvi)

• “His dog tags clinked against the arc reactor” WE’VE NEVER SEEN HIM WEAR DOG TAGS AFTER THE ICE 😭😭😭😭😭 (we have seen Bucky wear them tho)

• STEVE’S REFRACTORY PERIOD BEING NON EXISTENT?? WHY TF WOULD THE SERUM DO THAT? IS THAT CONSIDERED ENHANCED HEALING????

• Also Steve can’t catch or give anything so we fuckin raw

There’s more but that’s all I can think of rn. See you next time!

[deadmornings]

“I wanted to be a rockstar. I wanted to be beautiful; long hair, eternally young…that’s me.”

[mango-peach-strawberry]

eepy

[fosliie]

Happy Pride Month fellas!! You guys are crazy if you think for a second I ain’t gonna do a pride post with the most goofiest husbands ever ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💜

+ silly Sam & Max sketches and a lil sona pride doodle :]

[waywardted]

1x07 | 3x01

[duncescholar]

🦁 big boy

[batwynn]

The figurehead and the turtle

[thattheater-kid]

Angel Dust and Alastor are those friends in the friend group that everyone thinks don’t get along well but actually meet up for drinks every Saturday and know each other’s deepest secrets.

[rickybaby]

DRIVER MARKET: There are no changes this season, but who could be on the move for 2025?

[marisatomay]

tom cruise as a filmmaker is so funny because he’s absolutely one of our best living actors and producers (don’t argue with me it’s true) and with ease he could be doing more of what most people think of as Capital “A” Acting but instead he’s like “well i could focus on winning an oscar or i could fly planes and ride off cliffs while i’m still physically able and only one of these options will let me micro-manage the united states navy and be the first movie production to film inside westminster abbey”

[julia-the-creator]

hi i’m back with another wolverine art since my non wolverine art flops

[musclesandhammering]

Saw a team cap fan complaining that Tony fans don’t get that The Accords & the concept of oversight are not mutually exclusive & you can be against The Accords while still admitting that the avengers need accountability…. and that would be a perfectly valid point if they didn’t fail to acknowledge that Steve was openly against any kind of oversight at all.

[corbits-comet]

I’m really tired of disability-Olympics

like. I don’t care ‘how disabled’ someone is, they’re still disabled and they still struggle and are still valid. They are just as worthy of help and support as anyone else. And no one, and I mean NO ONE should have to fucking defend the validity of their disability to someone else, that’s major macho bullshit.

[i-love-proselfshippers]

The biggest shoutouts to selfshippers with f/os who mostly have ship content made of them. If it’s hard to look for solo content of your f/o because everything is shipping, remember that you know them better than anyone else. You do not need to feel obligated to ship something or headcanon a character the same way that a lot of people do. They love you!!! Their love for you and your love for them is what matters the most. Do not ever allow other people’s opinions to sway you into abandoning a selfship that’s important to you.