#do men have a version of ovulating? cause if so I think I have that.

[kiryucutie]

Heavy sigh.

[parentsnevertoldus]

Periods & Queeriods 101

The first time I woke up in a pool of my own blood, something changed forever. 

My life, sure, but most importantly my sheets. Blood stains don’t come out, especially when you’re a ten-year-old child who does not know how to do their own laundry (side note: the answer is a cold water rinse and blotting with hydrogen peroxide). But also, you know, puberty was a big change too. 

Menstruation isn’t always pretty--it’s bloody. I’m not going to lead with the whole “this means you’re becoming a woman” bullshit because not all women menstruate and people of any and no gender can and do menstruate. Periods can suck. They can be uncomfortably heavy, irregular, painful, and dysphoric. And while you might see your period as an indicator that you are alive (yay!), you don’t have to be grateful to have a period. In fact, you don’t have to be grateful for any bad and uncomfortable experiences or for your formative trauma. Sometimes things just suck, and that’s okay--you exist not because of these things, but in spite of them. 

So, without further ado:

What is Menstruation?

Menstruation is the periodic discharge of blood and mucosal tissue from the uterus that signals that an egg released from an ovary has not been fertilized. It is an indicator that the person experiencing it has entered puberty, and often occurs alongside other physiological and mental changes. 

The word “menstruation” has the Latin root mens, which means “monthly.” However, while lots of people menstruate regularly once a month, many periods occur irregularly. A period is considered irregular if the first day of your period is longer than 38 days from the first day of your next period, or if the duration between periods varies. Irregular periods can be caused by pregnancy, hormonal birth control, breastfeeding, perimenopause, polycystic ovary syndrome, thyroid conditions, uterine fibroids, endometriosis, extreme weight changes, eating disorders, excessive exercise, stress, certain medications, certain cancers, and other hormonal problems. Certain hormones, like those in hormonal birth control, can cease menstruation entirely! This is fine, because menstruation is not medically necessary. 

The Menstrual Cycle

I know, I’m throwing a lot of vocabulary at y’all (check the bottom of this article for a cohesive list of definitions included here). While menstruation is the actual physical shedding of uterine lining, a menstrual cycle is the period of time it takes for eggs within the ovaries to mature. The same hormones that cause egg maturation during the follicular phase thicken the lining of the uterus during what’s called the ovulatory phase, so that if the egg becomes fertilized by a sperm cell, it has someplace to land and grow. The uterine lining that is created is made of nutrient-rich tissues and blood. Cervical fluid during this time is white or yellow, with a creamy and tacky consistency. 

During the ovulatory phase, hormones cause the release of a mature egg from the ovaries. Most people don’t feel when they ovulate, but sometimes it causes bloating, spotting, or pain in the lower belly on one side. During this time, a person is their most fertile with cervical fluid that is stretchy and slippery with an egg-white consistency. After the ovulatory phase comes the luteal phase, during which estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone rise to their highest levels and then drop, causing PMS (premenstrual syndrome) and the beginning of the menstrual phase. During this phase, cervical fluid is thick, white, and dry. 

After the luteal phase comes the menstrual phase. If the egg is not fertilized and pregnancy does not happen, the lining of the uterus is broken down and shed through the vaginal opening (a period!) The hormones that cause this bloody exodus also have receptors in your gut which is why many people get period poops--your whole lower abdominal area is receiving signals to squeeze. If pregnancy does occur, menstruation pauses until you are no longer pregnant. 

For a more in-depth look at the phases of the menstrual cycle, click here. 

PMS

PMS stands for premenstrual syndrome, the emotional and physical symptoms that people feel right before and during their periods as a result of hormonal changes. Some people get PMS every time they get their period, others experience it sometimes or not at all. Symptoms include:

Food cravings

Increased appetite

Tender, swollen, or sore chest

Bloating

Headaches

Weight gain

Dizziness

Muscle/joint pain

Fatigue

Skin breakouts

Nausea

Belly cramps

Depression

Anxiety

Mood swings

Irritability

Trouble concentrating

Insomnia

Changes in sexual desires

A more severe version of PMS (but wait, there’s more!) is PMDD--premenstrual dysphoric disorder which causes intense physical and mental health symptoms during the two weeks leading up to your period and goes away at the beginning of menstruation. The symptoms of PMDD are similar to PMS but more intense (think “panic attacks”) and can be overwhelming. But you don’t have to face it alone! If you have these symptoms, get in touch with a medical professional maybe in conjunction with therapy. 

Menstruation vs Periods

Even people who don’t have vaginas, uteruses, or ovaries can have periods. If you have been on a  hormone replacement therapy (HRT) regimen that includes estrogen for a few months, you likely will experience monthly symptoms like chest tenderness, bloating, mood swings, cramping, nausea, and period sh*ts--periods without the blood, eggs, or tissue. 

Who menstruates?

Anyone with a uterus, ovaries, and fallopian tubes can menstruate. Sometimes people take puberty blockers before they reach puberty which can prevent periods and other gendered body changes. Those who already have periods can use birth control methods like the implant or a hormonal IUD that may lighten or stop their periods altogether. Taking testosterone can make your period go away--injections do this faster than topical creams-- although it will come back if you stop your regimen. 

Menstruation stops when menopause starts, around age 45 for folx with uteruses who are not on HRT regimens.

Article Glossary

Menstruation/menstrual phase - the actual physical shedding of uterine lining when an egg has not been fertilized

Menstrual cycle - the period of time it takes for eggs within the ovaries to mature

Follicular phase - the period during which an egg matures in the ovaries

Ovulatory phase - the phase during which the uterine lining builds and an egg is released through the fallopian tube into the uterus 

Luteal phase - the part of  the menstrual cycle from the ovulatory phase to the first day of menstruation during which the uterus prepares for a fertilized egg to implant or an unfertilized egg to pass through

Other resources

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/menstrual-cycle

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/health-and-wellness/menstruation/what-premenstrual-dysphoric-disorder-pmdd

https://www.bedsider.org/

[thesimplewife]

How to Period Like a Unicorn

I recently heard a No Filter podcast where Mia Freedman interviewed a woman called Lucy Peach. She is a folk-singer and a comedian, turned Period Preacher. The title ‘How to Period Like a Unicorn’ grabbed my interest and I was not disappointed. 

In the last five years my body has endured two pregnancies and births. I have breastfed both of my babies for a combined total of 24 months. I have dealt with postnatal depression. Between the two pregnancies my body had time to fall back into its own natural cycle.

I’ve always been pretty empathetic and emotional. But what was postnatal depression? What was irrational overthinking and anxiety? What was me just being me? Then I heard this podcast. What. was. hormones.

We tend not to talk about periods. Ew! you might say. I think for most women who don’t have excruciating pain, heavy bleeding or endometriosis, you just get on with it and don’t give it much thought. In our society ‘PMS’ is something to be written off, it’s just a cop out - Oh she’s having a bad week, must be PMS. Whether it’s coming from men or women I think Lucy Peach is right. Yes, PMS is a real thing, it exists. And it would be so fantastic if we as women understood our cycle more and then educated our sisters, daughters and friends. If we educated our partners, husbands, brothers and sons. The menstrual cycle is part of who we are as women, and all the emotional and normal changes that come with it. We should embrace it. 

It all begins with day one of your cycle, the day of first blood, haha. In her more tasteful period preaching Lucy Peach calls this, 

WINTER - 

The first day of your period. Your hormones are at rock bottom, your energy levels are low and you’re a little bit sensitive. You need to nurture yourself, fill up your own cup and rest. Don’t take on any big projects, it’s okay to say no or not yet. Lucy shares that it’s not procrastination, it’s prioritising and self-preservation. During Winter we should take the time to meditate and relax, especially as our bodies are more in tune with that mindset. 

SPRING - 

Your body is getting ready to ovulate, your oestrogen is rising and you might be a little bit anxious. You could be making list after list after list and have the energy and urge to accomplish everything (anyone else on board yet?) but you could also feel overwhelmed. You don’t need as much sleep in Spring, you might be waking earlier than usual. You’re so task-focused with all your projects and goals you become single-minded and impatient, not really having the time for others ideas. Your oestrogen peaks, you ovulate and suddenly things become softer and maybe to the outside eye a little less chaotic. 

SUMMER - 

You’re riding high on energy. Hello progestin, your feel-good hormone. Summer is a little bit like Oprah. You can have a new car, and YOU can have a new car! You can have a new car and YOU can have a new car! Except that next week, in Autumn, you’ll wonder why you didn’t get a new car. (Can you see yourself in this cycle yet?) Enjoy that progestin, enjoy those good vibes only, but be cautious and aware. Be wary of making big commitments because you’re feeling all of the feelings at the moment. (Have you ever just wanted to adopt every homeless dog? Or sponsor every hungry child? You think maybe you were in Summer?) Be yourself, if you are compassionate and giving, don’t hold back - just be wary not to overcommit and send yourself into Autumn already burnt out. 

AUTUMN - 

In Autumn all your emotions are coming down, you’re not in the same space emotionally as you were last week. That in itself may cause some inner conflict and confusion. You have less energy and care for the little things like where the heck your toddler put that little orange Duplo teddy. Figure. It. Out. Look. After. Your. Stuff. You’re probably irrational. And irritable. If you play any competitive sports maybe your opponent may need to brace themselves. Spend time with yourself, channel your creative energy. Crochet. Sew. Knit. Sing. Dance. Act. You don’t need an attachment to the outcome, you just need to let it out. Autumn will test the strength of your relationships, you don’t really have a filter. 

One week I’m all about being the best version of myself I can be. The next I’m short-tempered, impatient and yet again said something I shouldn’t have. At times this can be a self-defeating cycle, looking at how far I’ve come only to fall back into the rut. 

I thought in sharing How to Period Like a Unicorn with my husband I’d be met with a little harmless snicker and that old oh yeah PMS phrase. But I was pleasantly surprised. He could also see me in the seasons and was on board for mapping it out. 

I think it’s fantastic that Lucy tours with her husband Richard (his sketches are super cool). He’s totally on board and in the podcast she says sometimes he just asks ‘Where are you at? Just tell me, so I can understand.’ So she will, then she goes on to say that during this window of 4 days invite all your friends over, I’ll make them a feast, we’ll entertain, we’ll do this, and do that and I’ll be as good as gold! How incredible is that. Not only that you can have good communication with your partner, but a level of communication that doesn’t make talking about who you were made to be unacceptable. 

I don’t know yet how we’ll educate our son and daughter about How to Period Like a Unicorn. But I know we will. For now I’m just happy to understand myself better and share that with my husband. 

You can check out Lucy Peach live here.

mygreatestperiodever

[connorfergusonccc]

Cultural Worldview - Non-human - The Olfactory Lives of Primates - Robert M. Sapolsky

The excerpt begins with a short story in the form of a letter regarding a wedding. This letter however retells the wedding from the perspective of humans, if our olfactory senses were dominant - If we were to rely on our smell in the same way that mammals do. The humorous undertones of the story made me consider the idea that surely, humans once used to use smell in a similar way. This coming together of civilised humanity and the non-human provided an interesting insight on what we miss due to our tendency to be more reliant on our senses of sight and hearing. From new versions of intimacy, to the ability animals have to smell cancer and to sense when someone is ovulating, the story points out the incredible power that our senses (or lack of use of a particular sense) affects the way we perceive, interact with and feel about the world around us. Interestingly, the narrator is able to view the world in a more honest light. What would be considered embarrassing (animals smelling each others crotches) is a normal version of flirtation. In situations, there is no longer the ability to lie due to the heightened or ‘enlivened’ use of the olfactory to learn things about others that we are not able to do currently as humans. In fact, it almost seems like a sense of attraction for another is derived predominantly from smell rather than the way someone looks. This is interesting because it makes me consider how we are programmed to employ our senses to view the world and from this, how would we interpret and navigate through the world if our relationships with our senses was different or changed?

This article is framed from a scientific perspective of the olfactory. Interestingly, the olfactory part of the brain and the emotional center of the brain inhabit the same space. Whereas the other senses are further apart. From the example of the limbic part of the brain being connected to emotions such as sexual desire and aggression it seems we are biologically assembled to derive more emotion from our sense of smell than any other sense. This is easier to point out in other mammals. For instance, a dog's keen sense of smell allows it to smell the genetic pedigree, age, gender, if it’s ovulating, is sick, happy or terrified. This in turn affects its behaivour as if it is scared it reflexively covers the anal glands that secrete these hormones to attempt to mask the smell. Hormones created from emotion are linked to smell and this causes mammals to exist and behave differently due to their reliance on smell.

On top of this is the fact that the memory center of the brain also exists within the same space as the emotional and olfactory centers. They are all linked. This is why scents can have more profound effects on memory formation and retrieval (and then the emotions surrounding these) than other senses. 

While I have commented earlier on our relationship with smell being largely programmed into us from history, discourse, generations before and memory, there are also biological reasons as well. A simple example is how we have evolved to see colour. Mammals lack this ability and therefore in instances such as finding non-toxic food sources, humans can also rely on seeing discretions in colour as well as smell, where animals need only to rely on smell. But on the flip-side, this is not always the case - In the example of baboons, they identify the gender of their offspring by smelling them, despite also being able to see their genitalia.

This all isn’t to say that humans have stopped using their sense of smell. That is literally impossible, seeing as it is linked so strongly with emotion and smell. Instead, our interactivity with the olfactory slips into our subconscious. The article brings to light experiments that prove this (men can distinguish the smell of a woman ovulating as it smells nicer, smells can suddenly transport us to a memory from childhood, pheromones increase the tendency of female roommate’s menstrual cycles to line up). It seems our conscious use of the olfactory has atrophied, we don’t use it for survival, as a tool of communication or to understand our world as much. But the remnants of how we may have once used this sense still remain within our genetics. 

I love the mention of our 98% genetic likeness to chimpanzees. That half of the 2% difference comes from our functionally disabled use of the olfactory. That we have literally evolved to have a worse sense of smell. This, may have massively how we as humans are now. 

“We have become disproportionately specialised in our other senses. We can be aroused by an erotic picture. We can be moved to tears by music. We can read an essay in braille.” 

What I love about this is reflecting on the construction of the narrative of humans being greater than beasts. While yes, we have managed to master abstract thought, this has caused some senses to suffer, while others become improved. The link between our senses and our survival instinct have somewhat severed, but have been replaced by an awesome new perception on all of our senses that may never be reflected in mammals.

I found this to be such an exciting perspective on the senses. The way our senses biologically have influenced how we exist, but also how this perspective on the olfactory outlines how we as humans think. The olfactory appears to sadly be a dormant sense. But in saying this, still has an incredible connection with emotion and memory that the other senses don’t have. This gives me a lot of ‘what ifs’: What if (as the story at the beginning imagined) interacted with smell in the same way as our primate cousins? Not only would it prove to be a useful skill, would change our concept of romance and reproduction, but would also completely change the way we communicate with and understand each other. Would we be more attuned to others’ emotions? As is shown in other mammals, would we be able to understand that our friend is scared? That a stranger in a bar is aroused by you? If that was the norm, then how would we navigate social situations and how would we understand the world differently? While the olfactory is used less, we also now use it differently from how mammals work. Our attraction to a person is still very much attributed to smell, we douse ourselves in perfume to aid us in this. We use aromatherapy to help calm ourselves, interestingly, the smells used in this might also trigger a negative memory associated with that smell. What I’m trying to say is that it still has a subconscious importance because we are genetically programmed to have a strong connection between memory, emotion and smell.  

[krungle]

Let’s empty this scarecrow one straw at a time.

1. ALL unwanted pregnancies are caused by the irresponsible ejaculations of men. FALSE - A man does not need to ejaculate to impregnate a woman. Also if a man doesn’t even penetrate a woman but just comes via dry-humping a woman can still become pregnant. The OP goes on to talk about such things as the Rhythm Method as if that is an effective form of preventing unwanted pregnancies; it isn’t as most women’s ovulation cycle is not like clockwork, things including sleep and emotional things have an effect on this cycle.

2. Oral contraceptives: Not okaying the male contraception was not ‘because men are wimps’ but because the scale of the side effects, including blinding headaches and homicidal thoughts, were both much greater and much more wide spread than side effects female endure in comparative studies. One must keep in mind that the majority of females experience little to no side effects from the Pill and many actually praise the Pill for beneficial effects. Several of these positive effects of the Pill for some women are the exact opposite for others. The negative effects are often due to the specific Pill used, not the general contraceptive method as a whole, so when a different one is used the negative effects go away. However the Male version causes severe problems with the majority of the trial subjects and ‘adjustments’ were not possible without completely negating the male Pill’s effectiveness.

2a. One can miss a pill during the month, in fact in most Pill packages only 5-7 of the pills contain active ingredients, the rest are just sugar pills so one times out the taking of the active pills properly. Even then it is possible to double up on a missed pill and still be okay with it, even if the risk is slightly increased by doing so.

2b. There are other female contraceptive methods besides the Pill such as a shot (not recommend if you have severe side effects to the Pill and the IUD which is recommend for those who have serious side effects to the Pill. There is also the Rubber Frisbee, as I call it, and the sponge, both which are as effective as a condom when teamed with a Spermicidal gel or ointment.

2c. Medication costs rise, not lower, when there are mandates for insurance or the government to cover the costs, as does the cost of the insurance coverage as well. The Pill averages about $15/month and most women get the prescription at the same time they get their annual Pap Smear, which every woman should do as part of her Female Health Treatments, and thusly the doctor’s fee for the Pill is basically free. If a female says another female should not get a Pap Smear then they do not care about Women’s Health.

Basically the OP knows nothing about contraceptives and would rather to just blame males than to learn anything helpful to herself or others.

3. The OP is correct that a woman cannot get use of birth control on the same day they decide to get on it, that it takes time as the pill needs a month to cycle (with the Cycle so it generally takes longer than a month), and the IUD and Frisbee both need to be fitted -source So if the timing is right, the shot is effective the same day.

4. Condoms. The best thing there is to prevent transmission of STDs. They do expire, however and if the package becomes compromised they can become brittle and useless. They also occasionally break and when they come into contact with some lubricants such as Petroleum Jelly they break down. Also if someone wants a second turn at bat or you want to play an entire series, you may run out of the supply. with the Shot,f you get your first shot within the first 7 days after the start of your period, you’re protected from pregnancy right away.

4a. It is true that condoms do reduce the pleasure for most men. It is also true that some condoms increase the pleasure for most women. If you are in a monogamous relationship and STDs isn’t a concern, then maybe thinking of a way to increase the male’s pleasure (and the female’s via repetition) should be a thing. Whereas the argument of a man being selfish if he refuses to use a condom at the beginning of a relationship, the tables turn when said relationship becomes long-term and another form of contraceptive is possible without undue side-effects.

4b. If either half says they will use birth control and then don’t, that is beyond wrong. It is just as bad for a woman to lie about being on the pill as it is for a man to sneak off a condom, perhaps worse because if a woman has a guys baby then they have a legal way to put their hand in the man’s pocket for at least 18 years.

5. OPs Rant: ... risk getting a woman pregnant which literally means willing to risk her life, her health, her relationships, her social status, her career... The risk from pregnancy to a woman’s life in the First World is negligible, smoking is a worse health threat, in fact not smoking and getting breast cancer is a higher risk than dieing because of being pregnant (and studies have shown having a child or two reduces one’s risk of getting breast cancer). Most health risks involve morning sickness which is temporary. The big health risks come in when a woman has twins or triplets, which is an increased risk during Artificial Insemination, otherwise extremely rare and runs in families.

5a. As far as risking her relationships, maybe she shouldn’t be cheating in the first place, or dating someone who would run away if she gets pregnant. If she is dating someone who cares about her then her having his baby would not ‘ruin her relationships’. Don’t blame her poor choice in men (or being a lying, cheating person) on all men, or any man, for that matter.

5b. Social Status: Someone is trying to be Progressive yet they are bringing up something from the first half of the last century. If you really want to be Progressive then being a single mom shouldn’t be a bad thing, period.

5c. Risking her career: see above. You either are Progressive and these things shouldn’t be a thing or you are someone who is living in a long past time period and need to wake up into the Twenty First Century.

6. Men can’t get a woman pregnant without having an orgasm: False! When a man gets an erection a small amount of fluid excretes from the penis. This fluid has sperm in it. It only takes one to fertilize an egg. This means the ‘pull out’ method’ is false, doesn’t work, is a bogus form of birth control. Preaching like you know what you are talking about then spreading false information is very bad.

7. OP says, It's totally possible for a man to impregnate a woman while causing her excruciating pain, trauma and horror. Yeah, that’s called ‘rape’ and it is an act of violence and control and has nothing to do with physical pleasure. If any woman takes birth control because they are afraid of being raped and having a kid then they have some serious problems, probably partly to thank is people like you scaring her out of her wits, literally. Besides, because of DNA and Rape Kits the modern rapist is at least as likely to wear a condom as any guy a girl asks to wear one is.

8. A woman’s orgasm has literally nothing to do with pregnancy or fertility... Again the OP is completely wrong here. The vagina ends at a hole called the cervix then the uterus (womb) is on the other side of that hole. When the woman orgasms her vagina contracts while the cervix moves into the vaginal area and opens up. The cervix then closes and then retracts moving into the uterus. Basically the cervix is reaching out and capturing the sperm and then throwing it into the womb towards the egg. This is why if a couple is trying to get pregnant the man should orgasm first then make sure the woman orgasms soon afterwards, or they have a mutually timed orgasm.

9. Again the OP repeats here false statement that men need to orgasm to get women pregnant. This statement should be met with the same disdain as some congressman saying that women cannot get pregnant if they are raped unless they enjoy being raped, for both statements are completely false and reprehensible because they excuse bad behavior. Convincing women that ‘pulling out’ is okay is wrong, very wrong.

10. Then I stopped reading once she came to her real point: men need to be castrated. If men are castrated then all of women’s problems would be solved. Of course it also means the end of the human race but that is the goal of Leftist Environmentalism anyway, so why not?

But since everything she said up to that point was nothing but empty straws, nothing but a string of falsehoods and misinformation, is it a wonder that the stick she wants to beat it with is also only a radical dream, or should I say say a radical nightmare?

Thread on abortion. Men bear no responsibility. Women are expected to suffer. This is part of our patriarchal culture and it has to change.

[dreamingotter]

gonna post cause it’s been a reoccurring dream and the stress of having it is gone and now it’s just annoying))

Arrive with a handful of other people at a rickety old house after walking around the desert in search of an exit. The house sits on the edge between the desert and a mountainous escape with a massive drop that expands out to a lake. The way everyone talks about the area, it feels like they were talking about another dimension not on earth. (The house may be limbo while the desert is hell and the mountains are ‘the go od place?’)

We walk inside the house and there is a man, his young adult son and sometimes a cat. (If the cat is there, it ends up dying or running off by the end) The man tells our group he can get us out of here but he has to prepare so he sends us down to the basement to wait. When he comes back (which never takes long but no one ever questions it) he takes us up the stairs one at a time, unless there is a family (always a mother and daughter, sometimes a dad) in which case the family goes together.

Those of us who go one at a time are subject to r-pe... although, its more like he (or the son) touch the privates and then we die or poof out of existence?? (Families are tossed back out into the harsh wilderness) That’s happened a couple times. Most of the time I sneak a peak outside the basement to the person in front of me and figure out what’s going on before it’s my turn and then con the men (maybe they’re demons) in to letting me stay at the house and they always agree in some form or another, but I’m always their secret prisoner, and always banished to the side entrance room (that travelers always come upon and they’re all greeted there) and usually have to give in to what the demons want.

This last time I had it, I actually went out to the man as he is signaling a family on which way to go to “escape” (though I seemed spectical on if he was leading them to safety or a worse place) and though he was mad I was out, (again, secret prisoner. Supposed to just go along with the act of him killing or sending people away) he was taken aback when I gripped his shirt, pressed against him and said “I know I shouldn’t be here, but when you’re done can we... do it? I’m just so... uncomfortable.” He put an arm around me and for the first time I actually heard emotion in his voice? He seemed frustrated and scared. “I know, everything is horny here and it won’t stop.”

And suddenly I pulled away with the realization that maybe this WAS hell or some version thereof and to get out all we had to do was to stop falling for the lust within us. And then I woke up.

I looked it up and lust is the second circle of hell, out of 9. So was the desert limbo and then we get to the house which is lust? And with my revelation did I “beat” it? Will I have a continuation of this with more circles or am I just reading too much in to it? Alternatively, it could be a metaphor for “being a prisoner to my sins” although arguably, I’m not *that* horny. Mari writes much more perverse stuff than I think about and I only mstbte like 1-2 times a month and I know some ppl who do it more than that A DAY so . . . Finally, it could just be because I’m ovulating and my body is like “if you don’t put a baby inside me, I will send you to hell and do it myself.” And I’ve been having the dreams for the past three days or so which is when my app says I was ovulating, but I know I had the dreams a couple weeks ago too when I wasn’t so idk

idk. I hope “solving the problem” means I won’t have this dream anymore.