#divorce babe divorce

[merwgue]

Tamlin is one of the most misunderstood and controversial characters in the ACOTAR series, and while some of his actions—like locking Feyre up—were inherently wrong and abusive, they stem from deep-rooted trauma and manipulation, making his story much more complex than people give him credit for.

1. Trauma from Amarantha – 50 Years of Hell Tamlin spent 50 years under Amarantha’s rule, being groomed and manipulated. He was powerless to save his court and the other courts from suffering, and that burden fell squarely on his shoulders. For half a century, Tamlin lived under the constant pressure of being the one to break the curse, with everyone’s freedom hanging on him. He was traumatized, broken, and desperate, having endured endless torment. This trauma shaped his every decision when it came to Feyre, and while his actions—like locking her up—were wrong, they were driven by deep-seated fear and an overwhelming need to protect her, which he saw as his only chance at redemption.

Tamlin’s fear wasn’t just about control; it was about trying to keep Feyre safe after having lost control over everything else for decades. But, of course, that doesn’t excuse his abusive behavior. It was wrong, but it’s important to understand where that behavior came from—trauma, manipulation, and the belief that if he failed to protect her, he would fail once again.

2. Reactive Abuse in ACOWAR – Feyre Deliberately Provoking Tamlin In A Court of Wings and Ruin, Feyre plays a dangerous game of provoking Tamlin to make him react in ways that paint him as the villain. This is reactive abuse. She comes back to the Spring Court with the intention of tearing it down from the inside, manipulating Tamlin’s emotions and pushing him to his breaking point. She does things deliberately to make him angry and hurt him, knowing he will react out of frustration and heartbreak.

While Tamlin’s actions in earlier books were abusive, Feyre’s calculated manipulations in ACOWAR cannot be ignored. She deliberately enrages him, knowing exactly what buttons to push, and when he reacts, he’s painted as the bad guy. But let’s not forget: Tamlin was already mentally broken and reeling from losing Feyre, and she intentionally took advantage of that vulnerability.

3. Feyre Destroying His Court – Overkill Feyre’s decision to destroy Tamlin’s entire court is a massive overreaction. Yes, they broke up, and yes, Tamlin made mistakes, but wiping out his entire kingdom because of a failed relationship? It’s spiteful and malicious. Feyre didn’t just want to hurt him emotionally—she wanted to ruin his entire life, his legacy, and everything he had worked to protect. And for what? A breakup? The level of destruction she brings to the Spring Court is wildly disproportionate to Tamlin’s mistakes. She knowingly and willfully destroyed the home and people he loved, leaving him with nothing but ruin.

4. Tamlin Saving Rhysand’s Life in ACOWAR – And Still Getting Trashed Tamlin’s good deeds get completely overlooked in favor of villainizing him. In ACOWAR, he literally saved Rhysand’s life during the battle. Rhys was on the brink of death, and despite everything, Tamlin stepped in to rescue him. Tamlin put aside his grievances and his heartbreak to do the right thing, proving that despite his flaws, he still cared enough to save someone who had wronged him.

But instead of gratitude or any kind of recognition, Rhysand continues to trash Tamlin in ACOFAS and ACOSF. He makes snide comments, mocks him, and even invades Tamlin’s court just to taunt him. It’s infuriating when you consider that Rhys wouldn’t even be alive without Tamlin’s help. How can someone who owes his life to Tamlin continue to treat him like dirt? It’s an example of how skewed the narrative is in Rhysand’s favor.

5. Rhysand’s Hypocrisy – His Own Crimes Ignored Let’s not forget that Rhysand literally murdered Tamlin’s family. Yes, Rhysand’s family suffered a great loss, but they initiated the blood feud by attacking first. Tamlin’s family was killed in retaliation for Rhysand’s father and brothers attacking them, and yet, all the sympathy is directed at Rhysand’s loss. Tamlin’s pain and trauma from losing his entire family is brushed aside, while Rhysand’s grief is front and center, as if only his loss matters.

Rhysand is glorified, and his family’s death is framed as this great tragedy, but Tamlin’s loss? Barely a footnote. It’s a double standard, especially when you consider that Rhysand’s family brought the conflict on themselves. Tamlin’s trauma from losing his family is completely ignored in favor of building up Rhysand as the hero.

6. Rhysand Telling Tamlin to Kill Himself – Beyond Cruel Rhysand’s treatment of Tamlin post-ACOWAR is downright despicable. Tamlin is left broken, suffering from depression, having lost his court, Feyre, and his family. Instead of showing any empathy, Rhysand invades his court and tells him to kill himself. This is someone who is already at his lowest, and instead of being left in peace, Rhysand shows up just to make his suffering worse. It’s not just toxic—it’s cruel beyond measure. For someone who has supposedly suffered so much himself, Rhysand shows an astonishing lack of empathy for someone else in pain.

7. Tamlin as a Victim of Trauma – Deserving of Understanding In the end, Tamlin is a victim of years of trauma, manipulation, and immense pressure. His actions were wrong, but they were driven by fear and desperation, not malice. Tamlin suffered from Amarantha’s grooming, lost his entire family because of Rhysand’s blood feud, and had his court destroyed by Feyre’s revenge. He is not a one-dimensional villain; he’s a deeply flawed character who was broken by his circumstances.

While Tamlin’s mistakes should be acknowledged, it’s unfair to completely vilify him while Rhysand gets away with far worse. Tamlin’s trauma, pain, and losses are real, and they deserve to be treated with the same understanding and empathy that Rhysand’s story receives. At the very least, Tamlin deserves recognition for the good he has done—saving Rhysand, fighting for his court, and suffering through immense trauma without any support. Tamlin deserved better from both the narrative and the characters around him.

(This took me an hour to write I better see NO ONE discrediting me🤣)

[wejustvibing]

[sarafangirlart]

Honestly, the way people romanticize Hephaestus' and Aphrodite's relationship while ignoring Aglaia really reminds me of how we as a society view divorce.

Think about it we see divorce as a failure, as the end of the world, we look at unhappy marriages through rose-colored glasses and ignore the really bad stuff, whereas whenever we DO see a happily divorced couple being in relationships that aren't toxic we demonize them because hey, we didn't they stay together they were fine!

Modern audiences and retellings trying to fix up Aphrodite and Hephaestus' toxic marriage really hits the nail on the head that, instead of letting these two be happy in a relationship without the other, they try to make it seem healthy, and it's disgusting

Yeah, we need to get rid of this fear of divorce.

[izzieedraws]

i heard a rumour something something about divorce???

[goldenpinof]

something about dan's 'get out of my life' threat. it's so Much but there is zero heat behind it. it's the sheer impossibility of it ever happening. he may as well of said 'divorce' or 'leave me'

he did say "divorce" multiple times. we've been through it, we've survived it.

[prettydeeryess]

if aaron taylor johnson actually got divorce I want his old groomer of a ex wife to know that I was the one praying on her downfall and I'm gonna throw a party when she dies ❤

and to aaron taylor johnson: go listen to would've could've should've by taylor swift and live a happy long life baby

[buuuuggggggggggg]

Living in a dorm but going back every weekend rlly reminds me of the Divorce Childhood before i went to live w my mom because well, travelling between homes w a bigass suitcase will do that to you

Except that now instead of going from one parent to another im going from one parent to By Myself and honestly?

Much better situation than last time.

Instead of Divorced Dad meals its College Kid meals nd instead of Bad Parenting its Having Compassion For Myself.

This is great, merry divorced parents to all who celebrate

[rizumuj]

Nimona Spoilers/Thoughts ahead:

I'm sorry, but ain't no way in hell would I ever date/be romantic with a mf who severed my arm and didn't trust me when I needed them to trust me the MOST!!! Like WHAT THE HELL!? That is not love??? That is not weathering the storms?????

A great movie nonetheless, but my gosh!!!

[anotherhumansthings]

Adele

[the-flying-trex]

I'm not afraid of being loved. I'm afraid someone will let me believe they love me.

Divorce parents kind of trauma…

[bklynmusicnerd]

I know Portia can stand up for herself when someone's being rude to her so the little smile she made when Curtis decided to remember she's his wife and defend her against Valentin was so depressing. One of the things I hated most about her and Curtis is the way she would make herself small to make him feel like a big man.

[strongheartneteyam]

I love my bf so damn much. GOD BLESS DIVORCE 🙌🏻 it saves lives <3

[hedalextra]

turns out getting divorced was the best thing to ever happen to me lmao thanks bitch

[yawnflrtz]

CRYING QIWI 😭

Yeonjun is a literal drag queen I love him 😭 I can imagine him coming over all sassy chewing his gum and asking me to dance battle PLS.

not the txt shorts. anything but those I DESPISE THEM LOORRRDDD

Soobie is adorable. I'd happily let him kick me off the bed tbh anything for the babe. the ketchup and rice is an instant ick

txt as husbands!... part two. alternatively, why you might divorce them within a week of marriage.

യ 𝐢𝐦 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 creating rumors... ꧔ txt! x fem!readers!...

۫ ִYEONJUN.

Wore a customised designer tear away pants on yalls wedding.

Just so that he could tear it off and wear it as shorts in the reception.

Leaves you alone at the bar to go slut drop with his gang.

Might come by with his girls and provoke you for a dance battle.

۫ ִSOOBIN.

Stayed quiet when you asked him if he loves you more or his pet.

Constantly kicks you off the bed in his sleep and blames it on his long legs.

Calls you out if you complain because you did want him for his sexy toned long legs before marriage.

Eats ketchup with rice as a side dish probably.

۫ ִBEOMGYU.

Wears beach flips flops with socks.

EVERY fucking where.

Probably never washes his flannels.

Does not tag you in his Instagram pictures.

The only time he did tag was you falling over with the caption, "lol she fell for me again."

Straight up asked you what pussy size you wear with utmost seriousness because he got overwhelmed by the amount and types of pads.

۫ ִTAEHYUN.

Has sharing issues.

Tries to drag you to the gym every morning or night because he wants to live a long life with you or whatever bullshit.

He sneezes like he has a whole set of another family with kids, one already off to college, on the side.

Leaves passive aggressive Gordon Ramsay quotes around the house because you told him one time that he needs more salt in his compound butter.

۫ ִHUENING KAI.

Was late to his own wedding.

Did not cry either.

You realised he looks like a cute mole rat when he laughs one day and you haven't been able to look at your husband the same way.

Finishes the anime he starts with you before you and always looks like he knows the end but will not spoil and honestly it's too much stress just divorce already.

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[emborami]

Wouldn’t mind making a deal with this devil tbh

[shirecorn]

Tumblr keeps popping up to sell me ad free dashboard. But what it doesn't understand is that me and the ads have a sort of symbiosis at this point.

The guys from the fake gameplay trailers for a predatory mobile app are my blorbos