#daphne dorman

[yourdailyqueer]

Daphne Dorman (deceased)

Gender: Transgender woman

Sexuality: N/A

DOB: 30 April 1975  

RIP: 11 October 2019

Ethnicity: White - American

Occupation: Comedian, actress, engineer

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I always imagine that the Drakes' apartment in Gotham (the one they lived in before Janet's death) was a lot like the one Frasier lived in (from the show by the same name), with some of the art replaced by artifacts. It was large, but not gratuitously so. Big enough for the Drakes not to be on top of each other and big enough to entertain guests, but not big enough to get lost in or host a gala in. It spoke of wealth, but in a classy way.

Frasier's room would, of course, be Jack and Janet's room. Martin's room would be their home office (and would still have the built-in bathroom). Jack would behave as though he were still at their main office when he worked from home, not leaving the office other than for lunch for a short break. Janet didn't see the point in working from home if she wasn't going to enjoy any of the comforts or benefits of being at home. Daphne's room would be Tim's room. He was not allowed to have a pet.

Instead of having a housekeeper, like Jack hired after waking from the coma, they had a cleaning service that sent someone every week (sometimes more or less, if the Drake's requested it). There was a dorman, a front desk to accept packages, maintenance service for if anything broke, storage spaces, an underground garage, and a laundry room. Most of Jack and Janet's clothes were dry cleaned, but Tim used the laundry room often. The front desk person, doormen, and maintenance workers all knew his name.

The balcony got an excellent view of the Bat-Signal when it was lit. Tim took and developed many photos of it. Jack complained that it 'cheapened the view' but he wasn't home often enough to do more than gripe about it a bit. Janet played the piano, and Tim's violin was kept on a stand beside it so they could play together sometimes.

It was in walking distance of several stores, a theater, a couple museums, a subway station, and several bus stops. The Drakes owned a car but rarely used it. They usually walked or took cabs for the convenience. Tim walked, biked, or took the bus everywhere. He liked the lights and sounds of the city, just like his mother.

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Preach.

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On ‘Saturday Night Live,’ Dave Chappelle Mocks Kanye and Kyrie

In his monologue, the comic channeled antisemitic myths as he ridiculed Kanye West and Kyrie Irving.

When Dave Chappelle has previously hosted “Saturday Night Live,” his primary role has been to help the audience find humor in recent news events. This time, he was the news event.

But while Chappelle used his standup monologue this weekend to comment on a wide range of topics, including recent antisemitic remarks from Kanye West, the midterm elections and the persistence of former President Trump, he did not directly address the fallout from his 2021 Netflix special “The Closer,” which was criticized as sexist, homophobic and transphobic.

Taking the stage at “S.N.L.” as the house band played “Try a Little Tenderness,” Chappelle told the audience that he would begin by delivering a prepared statement. “I denounce antisemitism in all its forms, and I stand with my friends in the Jewish community,” he said, reading from the statement. He then looked up and added, “And that, Kanye, is how you buy yourself some time.”

In his usual fashion, Chappelle mocked West, now known as Ye, while performatively pushing boundaries of propriety and channeling some of the myths that underpin enduring antisemitic stereotypes.

From early in his career, Chappelle said, “I learned that there are two words in the English language that you should never say together in sequence. And those words are ‘the’ and ‘Jews.’”

He later said in the monologue that he had been to Hollywood and, based on his own travels, “It’s a lot of Jews. Like, a lot. But that doesn’t mean anything. There’s a lot of Black people in Ferguson, Mo. That doesn’t mean they run the place.”

The tradition of Chappelle’s postelection appearances started in 2016, when he hosted the “S.N.L.” broadcast that followed Donald J. Trump’s surprise presidential victory. On that show, Chappelle delivered an 11-minute stand-up monologue in which he reacted to the news (“America’s done it: We’ve actually elected an internet troll as our president”) and shared an anecdote about attending a White House party hosted by President Obama with a predominantly Black guest list.

“I’m wishing Donald Trump luck,” Chappelle said at its conclusion, “and I’m going to give him a chance. And we, the historically disenfranchised, demand that he give us one too.”

Four years later, Chappelle returned to host the “S.N.L.” episode that aired just hours after several news organizations had called the 2020 election in favor of President Biden. In that monologue, which ran about 16 minutes, the comedian called it “an incredible day” and, after observing that many white Americans feel pain and anguish that go unacknowledged, said that he could relate and urged a spirit of healing.

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“You’ve got a find a way to live your life,” he said. “You’ve got to find a way to forgive each other. You’ve got to find a way to find joy in your existence in spite of that feeling.”

The following year, Chappelle performed “The Closer,” in which he asked to address “the LBGTQ community directly,” adding, “I want every member of that community to know that I come here in peace.”

In the routine, Chappelle went on to speak in support of celebrities like the rapper DaBaby, who had made homophobic remarks, and the author J.K. Rowling, who had been criticized as transphobic. “I’m team TERF,” Chappelle said in the routine. “I agree, man. Gender is a fact.” He also talked about his friendship with Daphne Dorman, a transgender comedian who died by suicide.

“The Closer” drew condemnation from some critics. Netflix employees walked out of the company’s offices and participated in a protest with other activists who said Chappelle was endangering transgender people. Netflix said it could have better handled the internal debate over “The Closer” but did not remove or edit the special, which was nominated for two Emmy Awards.

The announcement that Chappelle was returning to “S.N.L.” itself elicited some derision. Terra Field, a former software engineer at Netflix who is transgender, and who had said that Chappelle’s material marginalized the trans community, wrote in a sarcastic Twitter post: “Wait I thought I cancelled him. Is it possible cancel culture isn’t a real thing??”

The New York Post reported that some writers at “S.N.L.” would not participate in this episode, though a representative for Chappelle said in the same report that no signs of a boycott were evident.

But Chappelle did not take up these topics in this weekend’s monologue, which instead was largely focused on Ye and Kyrie Irving, the N.B.A. star who was suspended from the Nets for promoting an antisemitic movie on Twitter. (Chappelle said that Irving “was nowhere near the Holocaust — in fact, he’s not even certain it existed.”)

He also joked about Herschel Walker, the Republican Senate nominee, whom Chappelle called “observably stupid” and described as “the kind of guy that looks like he thinks before he makes a move on Tic-Tac-Toe.”

And Chappelle revisited Trump, needling the former president over the seizure of thousands of government documents from his private Florida club. Chappelle explained that he sometimes stole things from past jobs where he’d been fired,: “Staplers, computer mouses, all kinds of stuff. But you know what I never stole from work? Work.”

Only at the end of his monologue did Chappelle seem to comment on his own circumstances. Looking again at how Ye had been punished, Chappelle remarked, “My first Netflix special, what did I say? I said, I don’t want a sneaker deal. Because the minute I say something that makes those people mad, they’re going to take my sneakers away.”

Chappelle ended by saying: “It shouldn’t be this scary to talk about anything. It’s made my job incredibly difficult and to be honest with you, I’m getting sick of talking to a crowd like this. I love you to death and I thank you for your support and I hope they don’t take anything away from me. Whoever they are.”

Opening sketch of the week

Hours after it was reported that the Democrats will retain control of the Senate, “S.N.L.” was on the air with this sketch imagining the deflated hosts of “Fox & Friends” (played by Mikey Day, Heidi Gardner and Bowen Yang) reacting to the absence of a red wave in the midterms.

Cecily Strong returned as Kari Lake, the Republican nominee for Arizona governor, who vowed she wouldn’t “stop fighting until every vote is counted and then some votes are taken away.” The Fox hosts also awkwardly attempted to cut ties with former President Trump (James Austin Johnson), who pleaded for airtime while he called in from his daughter Tiffany’s wedding.

“What did I do?” he asked. “Was it the insurrection?”

‘House of the Dragon’ parody of the week

The HBO drama “House of the Dragon”ended its first season a few weeks ago, but if you find yourself missing its unique blend of cutthroat palace intrigue and incestuous romance, “S.N.L.” has this filmed segment to tide you over.

It’s mostly an excuse for Chappelle to revive some of his “Chappelle’s Show” characters (alongside cameos from Donnell Rawlings and Ice-T) and imagine how they might fit into this big-budget fantasy series. True devotees also get the sight of Johnson as an especially decrepit King Viserys, which may or may not be a bonus.

Weekend Update jokes of the week

Over on the Weekend Update desk, Colin Jost and Michael Che riffed on the midterm results.

Jost began:

Democrats have retained control of the Senate. I don’t know if that’s really official but we’re not a real news program so I’m just going to call it. I was actually surprised they won, given President Biden’s low approval ratings. I guess Biden’s kind of like the “Jurassic World” movies — extremely successful, despite a 42 percent rating. Republicans, by the way, are not taking it well. Tucker Carlson, seen here struggling to make it through No-Nut November, criticized the voting process and called electronic voting machines a threat to democracy. I’m actually not that worried about the voting machines. I’m worried that they’re being operated by the oldest people I’ve ever seen. Truly, this year, the woman who gave me my ballot was wearing two stickers. One that said, “I voted.” And another that said, “I survived the Titanic.”

Che continued:

The key Senate race in Georgia between Raphael Warnock and Herschel Walker will move onto a runoff in December. But Walker has offered Warnock $500 to just, you know, take care of it, baby. Many Black voters in Georgia were frustrated with another runoff election, because the burden of saving the Senate fell on them once again. This happens so often, there’s already a movie about it [his screen showed a mocked-up poster for “Tyler Perry’s Madea Saves the Senate”].

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"I'm not racist, one of my friends is black" is never a good defence

[wordsmith30]

After “Dave Chappelle: The Closer”

Here’s one thing you should know about me. I’m not a big comedy fan. Most popular comedy is made at someone else’s expense. And as someone who has heard plenty of racist and sexist jokes growing up; been misgendered numerous times; been questioned about my sexuality; suffered from mental illness; and has had my own feelings and experiences belittled, I was not impressed. And I’m not even part of the LGBTQ+ community. I’m a light-skinned, cis-het Black girl.

I came as a complete newcomer to Dave Chappelle’s comedy and watched The Closer without any idea of what I was getting myself into. And the longer I sat there listening to him, the deeper my discomfort became.

He, like so many others, pulls the “I can’t be transphobic! I have a trans friend” card with his story about Daphne Dorman. Not only was that utterly heartbreaking, it was even more disgusting for the way he uses her to further his own position. Newsflash, buddy. Just because one trans person liked your jokes doesn’t mean they weren’t transphobic. Being validated in your transphobia does not make you right or remedy the real harm you’ve done to trans people.

He seems to be under the impression that as a Black man, he’s incapable of being sexist, prejudiced, homophobic, or transphobic, and that’s simply not true. 1) He is a cis-het man who benefits under patriarchy. He will never face the kind of sexism, discrimination, or violence that women face. And though he supposedly supports the #MeToo movement, he had plenty of jokes to make about not only women’s, but trans women’s genitalia, and offered to become the leader of the #MeToo movement so long as they “suck [his] dick.”

He says he loves the “old-school gays”, but has no problem getting into fights with lesbians at nightclubs (or misgendering them in the process). He says trans women are women and then agrees with J.K. Rowling, saying that “gender is a fact.” You can’t play both sides!

Chappelle claims that his problem isn’t with the LGBTQ+ community, but with white people and how white people within that community use their privilege to harm Black people. While that is a real issue, his arguments are undercut by his blatant homophobia and invalidation of trans identities. Because he’s not just talking about white people/white gay people/white trans people with his statements. He’s talking about the entire community at large – all trans people, including Black trans individuals (because yes, they exist too) – so he’s hurting the Black community as well. I’m sorry, but if your response to racism is homophobia and transphobia, then you’re not really helping anything. You’re only widening the divide.

You can critique racism within the LGBTQ+ community without being sexist, homophobic or transphobic.

Worse, he takes issue with anyone who criticizes him. You’d think that if multiple people – cis and trans women alike – came up to you and said, “Hey, what you said was really harmful/hateful”, you might stop for a second and say, “Oh, really? I had no idea. I’ll work on that.” But no. The attitude he takes is that all these people are “too sensitive” and that he doesn’t need them because plenty of other people think he’s funny (i.e., Dorman). He embraces the controversy and proudly proclaims himself a transphobe. Everyone else can just get over it.

And that’s just the problem. He knows what he’s doing. He knew that his commentary would get him a lot of heat. He warned his audience that his jokes were going to be controversial, and he went ahead and said them anyway. He knows what he did and he owns it. He will not apologize and he will not stop.

But the main point he takes issue with is people telling him he’s “punching down”, implying that because he’s also a marginalized individual (a Black man), he cannot be punching down because LGBTQ+ individuals are more privileged than he is. This is a gross oversimplification that ignores intersectional facets of identity. Ignores the experiences and struggles of POC people in the community. So why don’t we check your privilege, Mr. Chappelle? You are a cis-het male with a huge celebrity platform and millions of dollars in Netflix deals. You benefit under patriarchy and you’re profiting off controversy. Profiting off of the pain and suffering, and offense you’ve caused in your attack against the trans community. The Closer is going through the roof! Positions like yours only enable other people’s bigotry, only incentivize the laws that oppress trans people, only reinforce the fears and stereotypes about the LGBTQ+ community. You are a very powerful person and you’re doing very powerful damage.

Daphne Dorman defended you in your bigotry and this is how you repay her? By making fun of and misgendering her, and invalidating her identity as a trans woman? Anticipating the moment you meet her daughter so you can tell her that you “knew [her] father and he was a wonderful woman”? Screw you.

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Dave Chappelle LIED About Daphne Dorman

Well damn. This is interesting. It's almost as if we shouldn't take the word of an aging aggrieved comedian who tokens a trans woman to hide behind to make transphobic "jokes" then complains being criticized for what they say contributing to that transphobia.

Oh but we triggered trannies are just too sensitive and don't understand the complex nuance of Dave's craft... Give me a fucking break. I watched the whole special and it didn't impress me much, in fact it made Dave C. seem more ignorant of trans people and trans issues.

So in the wake of the backlash "team TERF" Dave tries to play like a canceled victim when people got upset over what he said in his special. Why are edgy comedians these untouchable people that dare not be criticized or its the end of free speech or whatever? I never wanna see a free speech absolutist type comedian get offended by anything lol! Wouldn't that be funny if they did? Does irony beget irony?

Dave didn't get canceled, a black queer Netflix employee was fired though. Very BLM of Netflix by the way. Of course that Netflix employee "deserved" to be fired as they "leaked" info which didn't happen as Netflix said it did so naturally everyone believes the white cishet Netflix heads over black queer people; people that Dave Chappelle refused to address the existence of in his special framing the LGBTQ+ community as this white-owned and white controlled group which is just beyond irresponsible and intellectually lazy.

Nobody is ever held accountable for their shitty behavior at Netflix regarding transphobia and then gaslight us into oblivion, fire people who disagreed with Dave's stand-up special all in hopes to silence the naysayers and trans people in general.

Trying to cancel Dave's special (which I don't agree with) only emboldens the rightwingers fears who hate trans people with a passion already, claiming that the big mean left or evil LGBTQ community loves to cancel people for no reason or cancel anyone over trans/gay jokes... Again, more evidence that we're not allowed to have mild disagreements, criticize, or be angry at cisgender heterosexuals even if we might be wrong on something so the bigots just paint us all as some mindless angry liberal mob to justify their bigotry disguised as free speech.

But isn't it interesting that Dave Chappelle misled people and/or exaggerated about Daphne being "dragged" on twitter (ya know, that non-real place Dave calls it unless it's someone praising him) to be one of the sole reasons that led to Daphne's suicide despite there being no actual proof of this? Makes you wonder what else Dave doesn't actually know or has misled people to believe because he's such a defenseless victim with a massive platform after all. Very unfair you see. Dave Chappelle is an attention seeking moron to my mind raking in the Netflix cash cuz controversy sells.

Special thanks to SpringsInMyStep on twitter for their extensive research and massive thread on this subject. Highly suggest folks read through it all before going off at them or Abigail Beck. And like clockwork, Abigail's video certainty got Dave Chappelle fans big mad pointing his lie out lmfao!

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It's unfortunate that lies spread the way they do about people just because everyone wants to make an enemy out of everyone.

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"Trans Woman Reacts to Dave Chapelle's "Transphobic" Comedy"

Thank you so much Blair for your feedback and for having the courage to state your honest sincere opinion and feelings even when it might not be the most popular opinion . Most of the people that misunderstand you think it is a tactic you do just for clout or clickbait ....I guess it's easier to assume that than actually believe someone is being brave and not afraid to go against the grain or out on a limb for what they believe in. RIP Daphne ( is it Dorman or Gorman? Cuz im seeing both on Google) And per usual, Kudos to Dave for staying true to himself as well... If folks would really take the time to listen for themselves and just not assume somone else's opinion should be their own, they will hear the genuine compassion in his voice as he mourns her death, and the respect he had for her while she was still alive.

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Chappelle's stand-up and the trans employees that were suspended

I've been taking my time soaking in all the feedback on this matter. Not that anyone asked but I decided to address it.

Quick refresh for those out of the loop: Dave Chappelle's latest Netflix stand up special, "The Closer", featured a lot of ragging on trans people as he previously had faced backlash on his same input on the same topic. So of course he doubled down on his transphobia in order to get clicks. Because controversy sells. So he dribbled his "team TERF" trash and of course the trans community is upset because it's unnecessary punching down, AND because he seems to have this perspective that there are Black people and then there are trans queer people, and that seemingly there is no intersection between those two communities (plot twist and spoiler alert: there is not only an intersection, it is a huge intersection).

As part of the backlash to Chappelle's stand up, some employees of Netflix who are trans have spoken up against Netflix having the special on their platform, citing that it is harmful ideology to host. At least one trans employee has quit over the matter. It's also widely viewed as hypocritical for the company to pretend to uplift the queer community while also hosting such openly transphobic drivel.

Subsequently there were headlines that 3 trans people had been fired from Netflix over the issue. The headlines made the issue that much more debated however as they were seemingly misleading about why the employees were fired. Pro-Chappelle people quickly came to counter the headlines with "they weren't fired for their opinions or dissent but because they tried to crash a high-level meeting they were not invited to".

However we have found that not to be true either.

Here is a link to a tweet from Terra, one of the employees who had been suspended, addressing the fact she has been reinstated after assessment found that Terra had actually been invited to the meeting by a director. Below are screenshots of what you find in the tweet linked:

So what the hell happened? How could an employee who was literally invited to the meeting be suspended for going to the meeting?

I'm going to keep looking into this to found out more as Terra has been a focus butis now taking time to decompress, and I don't even know who the other employees are or if they will be reinstated etc. (As i have yet to be able to identify any of the other I suspect they may be intentionally staying out of the light for their own safety). I have my theories but I won't state them until I find out more.

I'd also like to note that I would still be in support of these employees even if they had crashed uninvited because if the meeting is about backlash from the trans community then it would make sense to have trans people at the table hosting these conversations. I'm definitely of the belief that if someone is talking about you but doesn't invite you to the table that you should pull up a chair of your own as you have a right to defend yourself.

All i know is Chappelle and Netflix deserve the criticism and this weird erasure of what has actually been going on should be a red flag to everyone who gives a damn. Remember who has the money and thus the power here.

It's noteworthy that Terra isn't uplifting herself, but using her position to uplift the voices of Black trans women, and other marginalized within the community who are undoubtedly most centered in the cross hairs of this Netflix special. This is important as it cuts to where the focus should be: Chappelle's arrogance attempting to pit "Black vs Trans" perpetuating and reverberating transphobic ideology within the wider Black community that was originally imported by imperialism.

There is a whole entire history behind transphobia and homophobia within the Black community dating back to, you guessed it, times of slavery. While the background may being context to how this came to be, it does not excuse it or the perpetuation of this archaic and uninformed ideology particularly in modern day. In fact the history shows that it is part of white supremacy to instigate homophobia and transphobia within the Black community to further divide and conquer people who would otherwise Unite to subjugate white supremacy.

Ultimately, as I started off, I'm still on the side of fuck Chappelle and the one-trick-pony he rode in on because at this point it should be obvious that punching down is not the same as punching up. And if you're double down on the punch down in my eyes it doesn't matter how much punching up you do because all you're doing at that point is ensuring you maintain your own personal status quo of being adored and/or hated by the same amount of people to keep your specials relevant. That is not at all progressive of him, to Black people, or to anyone.

Of course his perspective is that queerness is a "white thing" and that "we" are punching down on "his people" - citing his "friend" who died by suicide and blaming her death on backlash she got for supporting Chappelle's transphobia, which is unsupported. (Note: it is unquestionably in poor taste at the very least to put words in the mouths of the dead no matter their relation to you. Further gross to use her death as leverage for a fucking comedy special or as a shield against criticism. If you would like to read Daphne's last words before she died you can here and make assessment for yourself) I would also like to note that we trans people are no more a monolith than Black people are. We have as many problematic people in our community as any other community does.

Anyway, in closing I will say if you aren't of the group who wishes to boycott Netflix (no judgement honestly, no issue has only one solution) then what you could do in support of trans people is maybe down vote that special (idk if that's just to impact what Netflix suggests to you or if Netflix gathers those metric but it can't hurt to prevent the promotion of other problematic media) and instead watch Disclosure, which talks specifically about the ramifications of negative representation of any marginalized community.

Peace and love from this trans brother to my trans sisters 💜

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“I like sushi and Chinese food and Indian food and Mexican food but now I'm worried that I'm a little ricist.”  One of the last (and brilliant) posts made by transgender comedian Daphne Dorman on her facebook wall before she committed suicide a few days ago. 

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Source: Gizmodo

Further reading:

Pink News: Trans comedians explain why Dave Chappelle’s Netflix special is so infuriating and degrading, October 12, 2021

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Who is Daphne Dorman?, Net worth And Biography

Who is Daphne Dorman?, Net worth And Biography

Who is Daphne Dorman Salary, Net worth, Biography, Ethnicity, Age #Daphne #Dorman #Salary #Net #worth #Bio #Ethnicity #Age Welcome to NaijaLanded, here is the new story we have for you today: Who is Daphne Dorman? Daphne Dorman was a well-known transgender comedian, actor, software engineer, and activist who frequently appeared in Dave Chappelle’s shows. Daphne Dormanwas is most known for her…

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While Dave did say he’s ‘Team TERF’ in support of J.K Rowlings comments, to say that he drove a transfem comedian to suicide is disingenuous. Her name was Daphne Dorman, and they were friends to the point that Daphne defended Dave on his special Sticks and Stones.

Now does that excuse him for recently in his latest special, where he talks about being friends with her and feeling a connection as ‘comedians’ to then defend noted transphobe J.K Rowling? Hell no! But  saying that Daphne killed herself because Dave mentioned her in a previous special, despite testimony from her family and herself stating otherwise is simply an exaggeration based on nothing but conjecture.

Don’t accuse someone of being responsible for someone’s suicide when there’s already other things you can critique about them that’s not so extreme.

this is not an onion headline

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