#culture is guilt trips

[frances-kafka]

I want you all to understand that among the biggest reasons I have such big issues about having fallen down the class ladder is that I am completely isolated in my ethnic community now that we are all fracturing along the lines of Prison Race Gangs and that because I fell down the class ladder, I didn't reproduce and thus I struggle with feeling complicit in genocide/in the actual extinction of my family. On both sides of my family actually. Though it actually is much worse on my mom's in some respects because I Am The Last One Standing. My dad's work, instead of him leaving it to me, he can just leave it to the tribe and we've talked about that. My mom's intense genealogy work though, there isn't anyone who gives a shit about that. She's tried to interest other people in it. Most of the immediate extended family became Christian and don't seem interested in inheriting the family guilt trips. Though some of the ones that got taken by CPS sometimes want to know about the family genetic legacy and why we're all autistic. Occasionally my mom finds a 4th cousin on another continent or something who's interested in her immense autistic historian passion project of being the family memory keeper. You didn't ask to hear about that.

You're welcome. Guilt is the gift that keeps on giving. Want some of mine?

[clownfessionsofficial]

I don't care how useful or informative your post is. If it's phrased like "you MUST reblog (or you're a terrible person)" with a fuckton of knife emojis, not only will I not reblog the post, I will also likely block op and possibly even unfollow the person who put the post on my dash. I'm not anybody's bitch and I don't have to listen to anyone who talks to people they don't even know like that. Congratulations, your guilt trip has the opposite effect. Your possibly nuanced and well informed take has been put in the trash with the rest of the aggressive fuckers who think they can talk to people any which way.

[jamscandraw]

Idk if fellow artists/gif makers/other creatives have experienced this too or if it's just me, but people just...don't say anything in the tags anymore?

Some people still do of course, and I love reading a good keysmash or someone spotting something I intentionally put in for people to spot, but it feels way less common than it used to, and way less interactive. I used to get tag game so good I made new fanart out of it. Now I can get 100 notes on a drawing and not a single tag or comment and it feels a bit ghostly tbh. Tags are for expressing yourself! It's like putting a picture in your scrapbook and annotating the margins. When people look at my art and care enough to reblog it I wanna know what are your thoughts tell me your feelings

[dykedvonte]

Danse and Hancock work only after blind betrayal because it’s the equivalent of the one closeted person you kinda pity getting kicked out after being outted and you and your like 7 other faggot friends take them in and help them do a 180 on their outlook on life and personal style and get them to weed (possibly grape mentats in this case).

[direwombat]

listen. i'm always happy whenever someone leaves a comment because they enjoy my writing. whether it's a quick "love it!" or a longer dissection of whatever they've read, it warms my heart that they took the time out of their day, however brief, to let me know that they liked my work. i don't consider myself entitled to receive comments for posting my work, which makes every single one i get a gift!

but comments like these (particularly ones that come from profiles that haven't posted fic and are aggregates of bookmarks*) really do leave a bad taste in my mouth:

so, let me spell some things out for anyone who may be unaware:

I don't write for you.

I write for myself.

I am writing fic for free in the little spare time i have.

You are not entitled to my (or anyone else's) work

i haven't posted fic to ao3 since literally january of this year. i also wish i were posting fic more frequently, trust me. the only thing worse than writing is not writing. but asking "where's the rest????" and "part 2????" only activates my spite response to not post. you'll get updates to fics when you get updates. writing fanfiction is a hobby for me. i do it for fun. but i also take my craft (writing) very seriously. i want to write a good, compelling story and i take great care in the writing process. it's laborious to begin with, and on top of that, i am a meticulous planner. it takes me much longer to write a fic than it does for you to read it -- yes, even for the short ones and smutfics!

it's the famous "pick two: high quality, cheap, and fast", and unfortunately for all of us, if you want my "not bad"-writing and have it also remain free, then you're gonna have to be patient.

*i'm not saying that this is an incorrect way to use ao3. if you're using ao3 as a place to keep track of the fics you like, that's a valid way to use the site, and not what i'm mad about. it's the entitlement.

[todayisafridaynight]

(gaiden and iw spoilers) hiii i finished infinite wealth and I'm kinda insane about it hope you don't mind

i can't stop thinking about how disappointed i am in iws story :( especially with how the jimas they just get thrown under the bus all the time

what bothers me the most is that i was so hopeful after that scene where the four all fought together at the end of gaiden(when daigo says the No Balls line)

after he says that and kiryu has given him a little speech about how he's proud of him, majima and saejima nod at each other, and JUST THAT tells you so much about how he's talked to them about how insecure he feels about dissolving the clan, going into hiding and all that stuff, it made me so hopeful for a proper talk between daigo and kiryu, for kiryu to finally change his ways and actually try to help him out instead of asking for shit without giving anything back all the goddamn time

it's really fucked up how we got that subtle story telling and then just. oh they're fishermen. oh kiryu's asking them to do stuff for him again. oh he got pissed and beat them up and then left without doing ANYTHING again after not seeing them for three years. oh they don't get to come with when kiryu's dying in a fucking helicopter

being a 3jimas fan is suffering we could have had so much man. how did they even get to that village. why is it abandoned. why didn't we get to do anything with them we just left

i'm so tired oh my god

i've ranted Extensively with My Cabinet about how much i'm annoyed and disappointed by IW's story and handling of characters, and how the 3jimas were handled is one of them- tbh mostly daigo since he had more of a presence in the plot but perhaps because of that its awkward to see how the game handled majima and saejima as well

to just focus on daigo, it genuinely was really annoying how we were given SOME semblance of finally getting a scene where daigo breaks it all down for kiryu about how much the past twosome decades have sucked and that kiryu was abysmal for just dumping (AND CONTINUING TO TRY TO DO SO) problems onto daigo and others and maybe JUST MAYBE kiryu gives a right proper apology or realizes he's being selfish (again). like the build up was great, but it just falls flat when kiryu just. LEAVES after the fight after making them all feel like piss about themselves so the jimas pull through at the tower anyway

[iamthepulta]

That post with a bunch of open pit mines and "your culture" has me losing my mind at 8am lol.

This is what not teaching history, metallurgy, and resource management in school does to a society. Everyone is getting a lesson on Indian diamonds, Nigerian iron, SW turquoise, and Cyprus copper tonight.

[leon-on-the-froggy-chair]

ranting abt personal life stuff because i have fRUSTRATIONS, to be deleted.

I love being treated like an annoyance because of my stances on companies and brands and my choices to not purchase or support my friends/family in purchasing from them and getting told off about how I'm a poseur and should put my energy into something more important and how I'm cringe. By mfs who cant live without buying chic fil a and starbucks and then TELLING ME like

bruh. dawg.

OOoOOo how dare i dont wanna eat mid chicken and prefer to make coffee at home

[silusvesuius]

eli/sef having this crush on elelelenwen is worse if u imagine her being like. wawaoo... true elven culture... a part of myself i cannae indulge in for the throne is a heavy burden... and meanwhile elen/wen is like. eating men and hunting them Purely for the Sport of it while everyone around her is that old man meme... i dont know... thats scary... the fuck...

romanticize ur local maneater today it costs no money

JXCCLZXXCJKL this is why elf elis/if x elly is better than anything .... all of the 'homeschooling' where tu/llius was pointing at pictures of the th*lmor and wagging his finger evaporating from elis/if's mind the moment she sees elly and her people. she'd legit be like "Omg i feel so loved and appreciated here it's like i found a whole family 😿" meawhile everyone at that embassy is just trying their best to not swat her like a fly 💙 elis/if's thanes fall asleep leaving her unsupervised for like 3 minutes and then stand in shock and horror realizing she left for the th*lmor headquarters next door but they're too scared to go look for her there because they think th*lmor are scary af

[fromthemouthofkings]

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[pedestrianversee]

i think vegans would find people would hate them less if 1. their movement wasn't overrun with ecofascists and 2. if they all didnt have such a cult like mentality.

[gabiwnomagic]

if I hear a conservative mouthpiece on YouTube guilt trip me one more time about not getting married yet while completely disregarding how rare (impossible) it is to find someone who is both physically attractive and has the same values as you in 2023 I'm going to rip my ears off

[kharmii]

It's never that Muslims flood into every cushy Western nation to become vociferous bloodworms causing nothing but problems.

Musk Asks If Muslim Rape Gangs Are Still Preying on British Girls, Victims Say ‘Yes.’

Sammy Woodhouse, a rape gang victim and anti-rape gang activist, told the X owner, “Our rapists are even allowed contact and custody with our children that were born from our rapes. I’m trying to change the law.”

Most Syrian adult refugees in Germany depend on social welfare

That's why they come, suckers! Everybody knows this, but it's 'impolite' to say it (plus the girlies in college are constantly encouraged to self-flagelate over whipipo priviledge.)

Access to Western world culture and benefits is not a human right.

"You can't facilitate genocide in Palestine and not expect US and Europe to be taken over by fascism btw."

"I truly believe the racist riots we have seen this weekend in the UK are linked to the international reaction to the Israeli genocide in Palestine. Muslim lives have been devalued on such a grand and gruesome scale that every racist with a taste for violence has been emboldened."

The Imperial boomerang

[snekdood]

"tumblr culture is-" NO! no its not! it is ~for you~, but your experiences and reality is not universal, my good bitch!

[homunculus-argument]

Worldbuilding: A culture whose funeral practices involve ritualistically beating the shit out of the corpse while yelling at the deceased, scolding the dead for dying. "If only you had not [___], if only you would have [___], then you would still be with me, then I would not beat you now."

It's culturally understood that blaming the dead isn't blaming them, as much as the anguished structure of the poem is accusatory and clearly in rage. Even if the loved ones of the dead could not see it at the time - as grief wins over reason every time - it's understood that the more absurd the demands of what the dead should have done to avoid dying are, the more obviously it was nobody's fault. Such as accusing the elderly for failing to stop the passage of time, or an infant for not being strong enough to swallow.

"Fine, but I wll beat your corpse if you do", is a common go-to line of guilt-tripping mothers who do not want their children to do something that they've decided is dangerous. The mental image of one's own grieving mother beating the shit out of your corpse after you die of something stupid has a varying success rate in deterring teenagers from doing inadvisable things, but the most important thing is that it's not a threat, it's a promise.

[bandydear]

Land acknowledgments be like: I would like to acknowledge the traditional, ancestral, unceded territory of the First Nations band we had to google before writing this an hour before the presentation on which we are learning, working and organizing today. I think it’s important to acknowledge the land because growing up as an immigrant here, I never heard the traditional names of the territories. I still don’t use them because, frankly, they’re difficult to pronounce and I don’t like learning things where I can be corrected. Indigenous people were talked about in the past tense and all the struggles they faced were in the past tense as well. It is easier to deny Indigenous people their rights if we historicize their struggles and simply pretend they don’t exist. As an activist, I would like to take this opportunity to commit myself to the struggle against the systems of oppression that have dispossessed Indigenous people of their lands and denied their rights to self-determination, work that is essential to human rights work across the world. I’m not going to invite any Indigenous voices to participate though. We invited one elder here to give us permission to guilt trip everyone in this room for five minutes, but we are making no effort to support the existing Indigenous community. We plan to continue ignoring them after patting ourselves on the back for this acknowledgement too. It’s not that we’re against adding indigenous voices, it’s just not the time and place for it. If anything, we’re for the further segregation of our cultures, because we feel guilty and uncomfortable at the poverty these communities continue to live in when we charged $100 a ticket for everyone to be here.