#coming out tips

[itgetsbetter]

National Coming Out Day Round-up!

This is your reminder that you don't have to come out today.

If you don't feel ready, if you're not in a supportive environment, or you just plain don't want to, you don't have to come out.

We're fighting for a world where, in the future, we won't even have to HAVE National Coming Out Day because various sexual and romantic orientations and gender identity will just be expected and accepted.

^ Our 17-year-old Youth Voice Mia wrote this amazing piece for Teen Vogue: "Being a Black-American, Muslim, and LGBTQ+ teen in Texas has been incredibly hard."

^ And LGBTQ+ teacher Sarah wrote up some advice for when you can't be out at home: "Time you can spend in safe situations without hiding who you are will make the moments when you must protect yourself more bearable."

^ Don't forget we've got an entire Coming Out playlist on TikTok with lots of tips, stories, and advice here.

^ And an entire guide to the coming out process here!

[just-a-pot-of-frogs]

Anyone have any tips for coming out to family?

I know for a fact they’re accepting and I’d be safe but I hate sharing personal things (idk why) but I want to tell them.

[tastetherainbow290]

Heyyy

Does anyone have any coming out tips?

Or step by step instructions?

I'm non binary, and think it's about time I come out :))

[holey-punch]

Uh. This is so dumb to ask but in a few years i'm planning to do me a surgery you know become a ✨trans man✨ but like I was thinking that I need advice to how to do it. And I know you are a trans and you already passed so I was wondering if you got anything to say to me. Got any medication for after the surgery. Mostly how can I tell my family i'm trans. Asking for a friend

OH. I haven’t gotten meds or surgery yet sadly, but good for you! As for coming out,

I told my family right away. I told my ma that I was lesbian when I learned abt LGBT and she accepted me, so I was thinking she would accept me on this, too. (She did lol). If I were to give you ⏃ script to go by, I’d give you this.

“[parental guardian(s)], I am Trans. I use [insert pronouns here] and [insert name here] and if you mess up, that’s ok. But please, if you don’t accept me, then you aren’t allowing me to be me. So please accept me to be who I am. Thank you.”

Also, everyone comes out on their own terms, so if you aren’t comfy with it, then wait. And if they don’t accept that, or you, then FUCK THEM!!! THAT’S RUDE! THAT’S THEIR CHILD THATS SUPPOSED TO BE HAPPY!! TELL THEM TO FUCK OFF!

…or to just leave you alone to live your life.

Hope it helps, and good luck! :]

[aceofballs]

hello!!! Im trans (ftm) and im trying to come out to my family because im tired of not being able to feel like im me when im with them. does anyone have any tips on how to come out as trans to a not exactly transphobic but not supportive family?

my family is supportive of me being a “lesbian” but they dont know im actually trans and bi (maybe? still questioning) but they also dont exactly support transgender ideals and stuff? they refuse to respect pronouns, though for other people they seem to respect preferred names. they know i go by Ace at school and stuff but they kind of ignore it, and when they first found out, they seemed upset and confused.

honestly im just kinda tired of cringing and hurting every time they say “my daughter did this” or “she did that” or “deadname said this” or whatever but i have really severe anxiety and selective mutism so it makes it hard for me to get it over with. my brain is a constant track of the worst possible scenario for every situation and it makes stuff like this extremely uncomfortable and stressful.

anyways i really need some help from other people who’ve overcame this situation and have some positive thoughts and ideas for me. thank youuu <333

[solongstarbird]

pro tip: treat breaking the news of transition to ur extended family or coworkers like an announcement of marriage/pregnancy because even the most conservative types understand the social nuances related to changing how they refer to/treat someone and taking sudden bodily changes in stride if they related to marriage/childbirth. They just need a little push to make the realization that they've already known how to deal with a loved one's transition this whole time and it's just a little different this time around.

[starry-bi-sky]

on a completely separate note; shizun luo binghe with a disciple shen yuan who fell into the abyss??? *thinks about LBH canonically stealing SQQ's corpse for 5 years* he'd hallucinate i think. like, like visual and audial hallucinations.

Keeps thinking he's seeing SQQ in the corner of his eyes, or wandering between the trees, amongst a group of disciples. Thinks he hears him calling for him, but its just the wind or another disciple.

Gets Xiu Ya reforged but patently fucking refuses to make a sword mound. Because his disciple Is Not Dead :))) There was No Body. He's Not Dead. And If You keep Insisting That He Is, He's Gonna Skewer You :). He's holding onto Xiu Ya so he can return his most favored disciple's sword when he returns. It's on his hip right next to Zheng Yang where it's supposed to be.

Also this motherfucker?? does not sleep btw. He has the image of SQQ, wide eyed and hysterical and standing at the mouth of the abyss burned into his fucking eyelids. Can't use the dreamscape to escape it either because he keeps trying to save him and either he does and it's an incredibly cruel trick to wake up to, or he doesn't and he gets his heart broken in several different pieces again.

There is no convincing this man that Shen Qingqiu is dead. Absolutely nothing at all. He is buried so deep in denial that moles would be jealous of how deep he is. He keeps making tea for two in the bamboo house only to remember that it's just him. SQQ's fans are hiding everywhere, little reminders of his presence. He goes to wake up SQQ on the mornings he sleeps in-- only to find the room empty.

[cepheusgalaxy]

Hello, I’m Ameera a 23 years old Muslim lesbian who is trying to come out, I’ve been in the closet with my girlfriend for way too long, because of how dangerous and hard it is to come out as a lesbian to a religious Muslim family, but me and my girlfriend have decided to do whatever it takes and risk it all to come out, do you mind supporting and encouraging us?, we have the plan to go away which is why I have my donation campaign pinned on my profile, if I raise at least that goal I can start the process with my savings, I can’t come out until I’d gotten my apartment and I’m away from family, so please support by donating if you can and help reblog though I know we all have what we dealing with, so I’m not imposing we just need all the support and encouragement we can get, check my pinned post for more information on how you can support, if you are a Muslim queer and you are out, please help with tips on how to make it less complicated, any word of advice is also really needed, we really wanna come out but we need y’all 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ pride please come through for us, I believe pride is for all

Omg I'm so happy you and your girlfriend are coming out, I really hope everything goes okay

Unfortunately I can't colaborate much :( The coin in my country is at a very low price, and its worth, like, 5 usa dolars. I don't have the money to colaborate and my family is agnostic so I don't have any tips 😔 But I really really really wish everything goes alright and you get everything worked up for your coming out.

I wish you all good ❤

Pride be upon ya

[fairsweetlonging]

imagine if after the transmigration shen qingqiu became a combination of shen yuan and shen jiu, not in a "second person living in my head" kind of way, but a "this house is haunted and carries the echoes of the dead" kind of way; imagine shen yuan having nightmares about a house, a fire, a faceless boy behind a door he can't remember; imagine him having flashes of emotions he doesn't understand, rage at a name he doesn't recognize, helplessness when yue qingyuan apologizes for something he won't mention, nausea when ning yingying says the name "a-luo"; imagine parts of his own self have changed too, how he now likes bows in his hair, pretty flowers and flowing robes, but can no longer stand a stranger's touch, a man's touch, yet he longs for the brothels, but never sexually, only fondly, like there's something there he misses. there are many empty spaces in his heart where he feels something is missing

[pandacattries]

Trouble in paradise #1: coming out

Might change the name who knows, anyway when the main project is too much and you can't handle working on it what do we do? start a side project of course!

[st-hedge]

Puts Elden bling doodles into ur hand

[prlssprfctn]

I've been brewing this post for far too long in my drafts, but I need more doomed!Bruce and Jason throughout universes. And it is not even always about the same Jaybin, dying in the warehouse scenarios!

Sometimes Jason is just a kid, who died in front of Batman, who maybe jumped in between Batman and the villain recklessly, to keep him safe, and whose blood stuck under Bruce's nails. His face haunts him in nightmares, still.

In other realities, Bruce meets Jason as a teen, and they never even get to become father and son officially - but they slowly get into each other's lives, until something awful happens, leaving a ghost of a smirking kid stroll behind Bruce's hunched figure for the rest of his life.

Or maybe it is one of these realities, where Jason crawls out of the Alley Crime himself, and manages to become famous in Gotham; the one, where he opens a charity fond, dedicated to people, who fight with the drug addiction. Bruce Wayne is sympathetic of a kid he meets during some of the events, and as they slowly start contacting each other more often, getting closer, he promises himself to protect him. Expect, Batman is late to save Jason Todd from the hands of yet another villain.

It could be the priest Jason Todd that meets bleeding out Batman on the stairs of the church, and who helps him out, for what he later pays with his life. Or they are not really vigilantes in any of these universes - just father and son.

And in some of these universes, they reconcile. In one of them, some of the medics connect the dots that a catatonic boy, who is covered in dirt, calling for his dad, for Bruce is Bruce's Wayne dead son, and try calling him. In another, LoA!Jason with his memory still being in a haze, crosses his path with Batman, before getting dipped in the Lazarus Pit.

But the point stands.

In all of them, Bruce Wayne is too late. In all of them, Bruce Wayne fails to save Jason Todd.

[shima-draws]

Sanji: Honestly, I can't believe you! You have someone as pretty as Boa Hancock obsessing over you and you don't even--

Luffy: Sanji's prettier though

Sanji: I

Sanji: What??

Luffy: I guess Hancock looks nice. For a girl anyway. But Sanji's way, way prettier than she is

Sanji: *squeaks* O-oh

[s0fter-sin]

saw a tweet about mer!ghost being rescued from roba by price and placed in his rehab facility that soap lives in after a boat propeller injured his tail and now i’m obsessed with the idea that ghost thinks he's traded one hell for another and when he sees the beached shark mer with a human device strapped to his tail, it's all but confirmed for him

the pens they’re in are poorly designed; they’re huge, deep with glass walls but completely open to each other and it takes nothing to pull himself over the edge into the the other mer's cage. he swims over to the platform he’s trapped on and hushes what he thinks is panicked warnings and fearful pleading. he covers his mouth and begs him to stay quiet; ghost is bigger and as an injured mer, he has every right to fear he'd take his territory if not eat him outright but he can’t escape and leave this mer behind to endure his fate

he promises he won't hurt him, promises he'll find a way to free them both from this human prison

the mer quiets, eyes narrowing in such human confusion that it makes him ache; this mer has been here too long, to have adopted their mannerisms and abandoned any hope of freedom

ghost quickly checks their surroundings, ensuring none of their jailers heard the mer's noises. no one disturbs them and he pulls the mer off the platform into the water, diving under his tail to get a better look at the trap. the mer tries to pull away, tries to get him to stop; it must hurt something awful if even freedom isn't enough of a temptation to try removing it

ghost winds his own tail around him, immobilising the mer and uses his teeth to tear through the trap and his heart breaks to see how his poor tail has been mangled; more than half of it gone, deep scarring left in its wake

he releases the mer and jets back to the surface; he’s wasted too much time, they need to hurry before the humans return. but when he looks to coax the mer through an escape, he sees him sinking to the floor like a stone, writhing and moving his arms in an attempt to swim but nothing stops his fall

ghost ducks back down and takes the mer in his arms-

only to rear back when he claws him away, baring his fangs in a threat display even as he sinks back to the floor, unmoving

ghost circles him, confused why he won't let him help when he sees him start to suffocate. he's a shark mer; if he doesn't swim, he can't breathe

and with only half a tail, he can't swim at all

ghost tries again but the mer won’t let him close so he waits for his eyes to begin to flutter and charges in, grabbing the mer out of reach of his claws and fangs and drags him through the water; forcing precious oxygen into his gills

he swims in circles until the mer comes to, sluggishly clawing at his arms but he refuses to let go. he won't leave this mer behind, even if he has to carry him through the ocean for the rest of their lives

but they took too long

a human enters and sees ghost holding the injured mer and hits something that makes the walls screech, red flashing from the ceiling, and even more human come charging in. ghost clutches the injured mer to his chest and hisses, saliva flying from his bared fangs

he won't let them hurt him any more

he spins, trying to keep them all in his sight- when the shark mer's fin slaps him in the face. his arms slacken around him and he throws himself at one of the walls of the cage, gripping it to hold himself up

ghost stares at him, betrayed and enraged; they've broken this poor mer until he doesn't even know who his true allies are anymore

his tail thumps against the wall, instinctively trying to swim and support his weight and one of the humans drops to one knee. he throws an arm out, barking something and another human takes off running

he turns back to the injured mer, grabbing hold of his arm and ghost hisses again, rushing them both when the mer snarls at him to stop and he freezes. he watches the mer hold his arms up and the human clasps his forearms and stands, walking him along the border of his cage back to the platform he'd been beached on

but he chirps as the human tugs him up on it, curling up with the end of his tail just barely dipping in the water

like he's happy

the wailing and flashing lights abruptly stop and ghost fights the urge to shake the echoing ring from his ears. the other human returns and he doesn't fight the hiss when he sees another trap in his arms; the same one the mer had around his tail

ghost's hiss cuts off when he gets a face full of water and he splutters, looking back incredulously at the shark mer who'd just splashed him

he laughs at whatever look is on his face and rolls his eyes in another painfully human gesture. he reaches for the trap, fingers flexing like he's trying to pull it right out of the air and the human shakes his head as he hands it over

the mer lifts his tail onto the platform and ghost can't believe his eyes when he fits the trap onto himself; tightening every strap until the muscles of his tail bulge under the pressure. the mer slumps like he's relieved and shoots him a look; daring and almost playful and winks as he throws himself into the water

ghost lunges for him, waiting for him to sink again-

but he's not sinking

he's swimming

he twirls and spins around him like an overgrown dolphin, flaunting his strength and agility and the humans around them laugh and shake their heads at the display like they’re used to it and ghost realises it isn't a trap on his tail

it is his tail

the humans gave him a new tail

the mer flicks to a stop in front of him, now easily supporting his weight and gives him a full-fanged grin

"you're a little tangled up inside, huh, big boy?"

[scoriarose]

She came up with a new activity

[meidui]

so confused when people hate miss agent margaret carter because what do you have against a woman with big beautiful brown eyes who pummels people with her entire body weight