"Willoughby could not hear of her marriage without a pang... he long thought of Colonel Brandon with envy, and of Marianne with regret...he always retained that decided regard ...and made her his secret standard of perfection in woman; and many a rising beauty would be slighted by him in after-days as bearing no comparison with Mrs. Brandon."
- Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility, C50
Many of us want our exes to still think of us, to regret their behaviour and/or the break up. Marianne has the ultimate revenge; not only is she whole heartedly devoted to her husband (success is the best revenge after all) but Willoughby can't forget her.
It's debatable whether it was hard for Willoughby to leave Marianne. Though "he strongly partook of the emotion which over-powered Marianne" in their last individual meeting, it was his choice to leave and not propose as he has intended. He may have been fooling himself thinking that he would propose, he certainly had no issues abandoning Eliza Williams - perhaps his involvement with her, a much younger woman, puts him in the category of groomer with Wickham.
It should be noted that Austen does have a thing about men with the initial "W." As discussed in a podcast episode she sends two Williams to sea, she doesn't like either Sir Walter or William Walter Elliot in Persuasion (though Wentworth skirts this trend). Amme asks, quite reasonably, what William hurt her? Someone with the initial W did at some point.
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Video and audio from Sense and Sensibility 1995
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