#carnationqueer

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Profiction/proshipping, at its core, is a combination of three ideas:

Ship and let ship (your ships don't harm me and vice-versa) and YKINMK (your kink is not my kink, and that's okay; my kink stories don't harm you and vice-versa)

Harassment over fiction is not acceptable

Censorship of fiction is not acceptable either

That's it.

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🌱 Carnationqueer / Post-Anarqueer 🌈

Carnationqueer is a blankqueer stance based on self autonomy and consent as basis for all else. It expands upon the basics of queer anarchy.

ꕥ For:

☮ All good faith identities

➥ Including but not limited to:

★ Alterhumanity (otherkin, non-humans, alterhumans, therians, otherlinkers, copinglinkers, funlinkers, flickers, fictionfolk, constellics,...) (including "problematic" kins)

★ Age and pet regression

★ Subtilens aka "contradictory" identities (m-spec gay/lesbian, he/him lesbians,...)

★ Atypical dysphoria based identities (disconomeis, arrisomeis, intusuis, transids,...)

★ Xenogenders, neopronouns, xenoAGABs

★ All plurals (no matter the origin)

☮ Bodily autonomy (decision to recover or not, to transition or not, to get body mods, abortion,...)

☮ Consent (for all relationship, including friendships, queerplatonic relationships, romance, conabuse, age gaps, incest,... But also for things like hugs, DMs, pictures,...)

-> Children and animals cannot consent to everything, eg. sexual actions.

☮ MUDs

☮ Self diagnosis

☮ Sexual liberation (destigmatisation of kink, fetishes and paraphilias, kink at pride,...)

☮ Youth liberation (with the exception of chrono children being in sexual spaces)

☮ Religious & spiritual freedom (including "problematic" past lives)

ꕥ Against/Anti:

☮ Bigotry of all kinds

☮ Cops and military

☮ Censorship

☮ Harrassment

☮ Exclusionism

☮ Xenosatanism

☮ Psych

☮ Forced Recovery

☮ The idea that narcissistic abuse (and other pd abuse) exists: you being an ass isn't inherently because of your pd

☮ Chrono children in sexual spaces

ꕥ Inherently:

☮ Punk

☮ Agerepunk

☮ Pluralpunk / Systempunk

☮ Cripplepunk

☮ Madpunk

☮ Joypunk

☮ Radical Inclusionist

☮ Profiction

☮ Peacefic

☮ Eco-transhumanist

☮ Progressive

☮ Anarqueer

ꕥ Emoji Combo: 🏵️🌿🏮

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Common misconceptions about proshipping:

Proship means "problematic shipping"

All proshippers shipp something

All proshipper spaces are NSFW

All proshippers cope using proshipping

All proshippers enjoy all tropes

All proshippers are lolisho

To be a proshipper, you need to engage with and enjoy dark media

Proshipping is just a way to cope. People grow out of that

What really is true:

Proshipping always meant "pro—shipping"

Proshipping means being anti harassment

There are plenty SFW spaces for proshippers. Proshipping can not be summarized as simply being just r34

Not all proshippers use it as a way to cope with something. There are people that just believe that censoship over fiction content and harassment over it is unnecessary.

You don't need to like every trope and every ship to be a proshipper. You can like one, you can like two, you can like NONE! you just need to be respectful.

You don't need to be a lolishocon to be a proshipper.

You can be a proshipper and dislike incest/age gape. You are still a proshipper since you don't go to ppl that enjoy those things and starts harrasing them.

Proshipping is a belief that in fandom spaces, you are free to enjoy fiction that you or other ppl made without the fear of being doxed or getting rape/death threats from random strangers. Respect is the base.

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Selfshipping terms & resources

Want to get into selfshipping? Good for you! Here are some terms and other things you might want to know ^^

Selfshipping is when you imagine yourself (or an OC) in a relationship with a character you feel a connection with.

Ship is another word for "pairing".

“Yumeship” is another word for “selfship”.

Your “f/o” is the character you imagine yourself with. F/o means "fictional other", it is simply a play on the term “significant other”. F/os can be romantic, platonic, familial, queerplatonic, the list goes on.

A “self-insert” or “s/i” is a character created by you that’s used to ship with canon characters. A self-insert can be you, or just you with different features.

A person who is fictosexual and/or fictoromantic experience sexual and/or romantic attraction to fictional characters. It is a valid sexuality.

Proshipping and profiction are terms for people who are anti-censorship and accept all fiction, even if they personally don't vibe with it.

Comshippers, and darkshippers are people who like ships with darker themes like age gaps, abuse, incest, that kind of thing.

Doubles are people who have the same f/o as another selfshipper.

Also, selfshipping can be a coping mechanism or a hobby! Overall, it’s something that should make you happy.

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If you have a social media account where you want to post content of your ship, don’t worry about what other people will think. We’re all weird and different. If someone judges you, just block them, and tell someone about it if you feel like you need to vent.

There are also lots of people who post imagines, templates, and ask games that you can use to develop your relationship with your partner

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On neoAGABs & xenoAGABs

Here is a good summary of what I've been seeing online, screenshotted & anonymised to leave the op in peace.

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Yes AGABs are terms to describe how intersex & trans people are made to conform to the sex/gender binary. Yes, that experience is traumatic for many/most.

Some people cope with that by having fun with it and reclaiming it.

I, as an intersex AFAB genderfluid person, consider myself assigned clown at birth. Why? Clown is an identity that brings joy, comfort and light-heartedness to my life. That neoAGAB helps me not feel trapped by the binary imposed on me and the trauma that comes with it.

Not everyone may like to use these kinds of terms and identities, and that's completely understandable & valid!! But some might love to, because it allows them to reclaim their suffering and break free og the imposed binary.

The op themselves acknowledges that theses acronyms and the experiences that come with them are personal. So is the way we choose to express ourselves and cope with that.

These identities aren't there to make a mockery of very useful and traumatic terms, but to break free from the pain they cause and allow ourselves to cope, move past it or through it.

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You can't say that a label is bad faith just because you dislike it. If the person identifies as such genuinely without intention of causing harm, it's good faith!!! You don't have to agree with every good faith identity, but it's just incorrect to pick and choose which labels are good faith based on your political views.

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As much as confession blogs are awesome, I don't think they should be platforming ableism and sanism under the excuse of "free speech". Your freedom stops where other's start: you can't hate on people for existing as existing is their right.

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🌱 CarnationQueer Resources 🌈

Coining Blog: @carnation-coining

English Discord Server

French Discord Server

Tumblr Blocklist (DM me for password)

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📖 Information on Consent 💬

📖 What is consent? 💬

Consent, as described by the Oxford Dictionary, is permission for something to happen or agreement to do something.

Consent applies to many stuff, not just sexual advances. From letting someone borrow your pen, to drinking tea, to hugs. I will be using the tea comparison for this.

Consent does not simply mean "both parties love each other". One can love someone but not consent to certain stuff, or may consent to stuff with those they don't particularly care for on an emotional level. If you ask someone if they want tea, and they say "Hell yeah, I love tea!" then great, that is active consent. They do indeed want tea. If they respond with "I'm not sure, maybe?" then you can still make that cup of tea if you want to, but don't be mad if they don't drink it when you offer it to them. And if they don't drink it, don't make them drink it. Just because you made it doesn't mean you are entitled to have them drink it.

If they respond "No, I don't want tea." then don't make them tea at all. Don't be mad at them for not wanting tea, don't annoy them until they give you until they tell you "Fine I want tea". That is coercion and it doesn't change their actual mind about whether they want tea or not. It is not consent.

If they say "yes, sure! thank you." but when the tea arrives they don't actually want the tea, don't make them drink it. They may have changed their mind. Sure it can be annoying because you went through all that effort to make them tea, but they still have no obligation to drink the tea just because of that. They did want tea, now they don't. It's okay for people to change their minds, don't make them feel guilty of that.

If they decide while drinking that they actually don't want tea, then don't make them drink the rest of it. Again, it's okay for people to change their minds, do not make them feel guilty of that. And if they're unconscious, then don't make them tea at all. Unconscious people can't answer the question "Do you want tea?". You may have asked them when they were conscious and they may have agreed, but now they're unconscious. make sure they're safe, and, this is important, don't make them drink the tea. They may have agreed then, sure, but unconscious people don't want tea.* If they were conscious when they started drinking it but then passed out, don't make them drink the rest of the tea.*

If they're not in the right mind, say, mentally unwell, then don't offer them tea at all, even if they say they want it or deserve it. They need safety, and comfort, not tea. You can offer later when they feel better. If they said yes to tea once, don't expect tea time always forever whenever you want. Don't come up to them unexpectedly and make them drink tea saying "But you wanted tea once!". Just because they wanted tea one day doesn't mean they want it anytime forever.

📖 What falls under consent and what does not? 💬

For both parties involved:

Are they actively saying "yes, I want it"?

Do they know to the fullest extent what they're in for? what they're agreeing to?

Are they allowed to change their mind at any given time and have it be respected by the other party?

Is there safety precautions? (such as safe words)

Are they on an equal level with no power imbalance that could put either party in jeopardy should they change their minds or say no

If the answer to all of these is yes, great! That falls under consent. If the answer to any of these is "no" or "maybe" then that is not consensual.

*Some points in the first part are more nuanced, like in the case of a contract for example. In such a case, if everything in the contract fits in the checklist above, awesome!