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thefortysecondolive · 6 months ago

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hit a rough patch processing my gender in the past few days & have been feeling down about not being able to talk about pretty much any aspect of my identity without tacking on seven disclaimers and a vocab quiz 😮‍💨 wish I could just put the identity crisis on hold until I finish my finals

#personal #a classmate asked me if I had a lover and I said fuck no I’m ace as hell and immediately felt like a Bad Ace™️ even though it was true #can’t just talk about being ace bc that’s aroallo and sex-favorable erasure #can’t just talk about being aro because I also don’t want to fuck #can’t talk about being aroace without explaining the SAM even though I can’t split my own identity bc that’s aroallo AND alloace erasure #can’t talk about sex- or romance-repulsion without clarifying that I’m not judging my friends for having/wanting relationships #can’t pin down my gender with one label so I feel like a fraud using all of them #can’t talk about being socialized female without distancing myself from the first 22 years of my life #can’t be annoyed about being parsed as a butch lesbian because god it was a compliment and it’s not like I’m actually a man right?#but also can’t explain why it’s weird to think of women (or anyone) being attracted to me because that’s? basically homophobic I guess?#idk man I’m just tired #I’ve got so much other stuff on my plate rn it’d be great if This One Thing was easier

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