#buy my lesbians boy /ref

[annahanover]

🎤 you there! do you have any spyintist thoughts you'd like to share?

hell yeah :)

i know i've mentioned a few times before the idea of them relearning how to be human together, but i'd like to talk about the flip side of that now. it can't be easy.

sure, barb wants to help her, but it can't be easy to see your partner looking at you with nothing but fear, flinching if you get too close to her, just a few moments away from pulling out a weapon if you make a wrong move.

tatiana wants to help barb. but that's difficult when she can't get through to her, can't convince her to take a break, can't convince her to eat, to do anything to take care of herself, because barb still thinks that she isn't good enough.

it's frustrating! on their bad days, trying to reach them is incredibly difficult. but these two are stubborn, so they'll try anyway. they have a system worked out, what they'll do on those days to make this slightly better. if tatiana needs to spend most of the day holding a weapon, barb will make sure that at least she's handling it correctly and won't be accidentally hurting herself. if barb is going to lock herself in her room and work on a gadget until it's complete, tatiana will make sure that she's at least comfortable while doing it.

it's a delicate thing they have going on, but they're spies. they're used to walking on eggshells.

[im2tired4usernames]

21 23 31 32 36!!!!!!!!!!!!

already answered 21! I dont have any minis!

23. Do you have any art of your characters?

oh my god SO MUCH ART uh i have kinda been doin lil doodles for my dnd parties since the beginnin! uh https://www.tumblr.com/blog/im2tiredsart is the link to my art blog but here's some dnd doodles to sample!

golly anon friend i would straight up draw comics of every games adventures theres SOOOOOO MUCH ART LIKE 99% OF MY ART IS DND ARTS

31. Tell me about your current party!

Well i guess tech in 4 currently but only one or two really care to communicate so meh

this is "Bestpur and Friends" consisting of 5-0, a Warforged monk and menace to the world constantly vomiting up rope and caused a economic depression. Seraphina half orc sorcerer an actual single mom and party's mom she dose not have a shadow for some reason?single mom to a gorgon and a tieflin and now moth Bestpur a wingless pixie druid he is the party's common sense and is very smart and kind and so traumatized all his friends are dead and he had his wings ripped off. and Moth (Timothy! my Boi!) Human Warlock very slapstick comedy he fucks up a lot he's the winter court's knight and very anxious the party's healer which is BIG OH NO.

and?

The "Brazen Coalition" Ashe's tiefling sorcerer, she likes to buy cursed items and is a lesbian was a soilder and lost her wife Lavender she has no sense of self worth. Abednego,(also my boi) tefling Paladin party's local asshole his name is a pun and a bible ref eldest sibling and religious trauma wrapped into one lil bitch he has a vow of vengeance against his own church also Neil's older brother. Neil woodelf druid aka furry boy scout and baby of the party at age 15 he likes insects and has a southern hospitality charm goin for him. Umoris human? cleric she was a sailor her whole life and is now the party's mom in death very tired and really sweet and kind she really tries her best. Arkashtrew, bard very naive and innocent veeeeery sheltered also tries his best at everything honestly just a good person plays the bagpipes and has a great sense of humor also one of the only people in the party with any brains.

32. Most memorable NPC you've encountered in a game you played in.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHH SO MANY TO CHOOSE OK TOP FIVE I CANT PICK JUST ONE YOU'D UNDERSTAND IF YOU HAD MATT FOR YOUR DM OK THEY MAKE REALLY GOOD NPCS AND I GET V E R Y ATTACHED

ok first off Sola they were a warforged monk and a important family member to the vagaband. They were very gentle and kind and very self sacrificing also the only person in the vagaband that probably had any common sense

then we had Racassan who was just a very good friend and member to the vagaband also he was a weirdo who couldnt die and also was very kind but not the smartest he pissed off the gods and also blew up a airship also helped lead the resistance.

Aulo and Colt half dwarves they were cute shop keeper brothers who owned a magic shop and weapon shop hybrid that was super duper cool they also helped a lot with the resistance and had conspiracy theory string all over they're living room wall had a lot of fun banter Aulo was very Mysterious and Colt was loud n silly they both were very kind and also Kozu's uncles so she loved them so much.

and last but not least

Galavant he's very mysterious n sometimes spooky very silly and sometimes sarcastic but always helpful firbolg he has a lil shop n rest place for adventurers and just kinda pops up out of thin air hes's fun I WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT HOW DID THIS MAN BECOME WHO HE IS NOW he knows like ALOT of people and has inside jokes with everyone hes super smart and lhas ot of helpful info i love him though Abed thinks he's kinda a freak.

36. already answered and oh golly gee i've talked your ear off so much already!

[anonarat]

When she was four, Weiss started self-defence classes. There had been enough threats to her family that it had seemed sensible to train the young Schnees to defend themselves. Even if they had the best security money could buy.

When she was twelve, Weiss made her debut in high society. At first it was only attending parties, curtsying when expected and perhaps a dance with a young gentleman, both uncoordinated and fumbling.

When she was fifteen, Weiss considered the angles and came to the definitive conclusion that she was a lesbian. The boys who were her peers may have attempted to be alluring, but it was the female form she found truly captivating. She told no-one.

When she was seventeen, Weiss realised that she had a real thing for strong women and washboard abs. She began properly competing in the MMA scene. It wasn’t just about meeting very attractive potential partners, that was merely the incentive to dedicate herself to it.

When she was eighteen, Weiss attended university studying PPE. For the first time she learned just how stifling her father had been. Even so, she restrained herself from going too wild. The danger of tabloids always lingered.

When she was twenty, Jacques Schnee died of a stroke. However much Weiss had come to buck against his teachings and however much she knew that he’d built their fortune on veritable slave labour, Weiss cried. He was her father, and it hurt.

When she was twenty-two, Weiss graduated with a master’s degree. The company had flourished without the binding yoke of Jacques, replaced now by Winter, if not financially, then morally. Weiss finally confided her sexuality to Winter.

When she was twenty-five, Weiss competed in the Vytal Tournament on behalf of Atlas, coming in a respectable fourth place. She had the chance to see the gold medal bout for the weight class a couple higher than hers. Both Pyrrha Nikos of Mistral and Yang Xiao Long of Vale were incredible, with Pyrrha eventually taking the title.

When she was twenty-five, Weiss attended a party for competitors in the Vytal Tournament. There she found Pyrrha wrapped around a twig of a boy and Yang Xiao Long without a date. The pair had flirted the night away, but no contact details were exchanged. The next day Weiss couldn’t help but pick up a pretty blonde thing for a one night stand. It wasn’t who she wanted.

When she was twenty-six, Yang suddenly vanished from the MMA scene. The last she’d been seen was at the Vytal Tournament. No-one knew what had become of her and rumours abounded.

When she was twenty-seven, Weiss faced Yang across the ring.

It was an impossibility. No former silver medalist should be seeded sixty-fourth. Moreover Yang looked as bulky as ever, there was no way that they should be in the same weight category. Yet there she was, in a bulky hoodie, getting ready for the coming bout.

Yang unzipped her hoodie, as the fight drew close to beginning. Weiss could almost feel her mouth salivate at the sight of that toned abdomen. She centered herself, just because her opponent was hot as sin, she wouldn’t lose to a pretty face.

Then the hoodie was shucked off and there was a confused moment as Weiss tried to process what exactly she was seeing. A few straps were loosened and a good chunk of Yang’s right arm came off. No, the prosthetic was removed.

Her eyes widened, pieces falling into place. Yang gave her a cocky grin.

“Oh don’t look like that. I’m not completely ‘armless. I’m sure I’ll be able to beat you handily.”

The ref called the start and immediately Weiss was on the back foot. That gave Yang the opportunity to swing in hard. Weiss about managed to block. The blow still hit like a truck, disrupting her guard. If she’d had both arms, the follow-up punch would surely have put Weiss on the floor. Instead Weiss recovered.

���If you behave real good I’ll kiss those boo-boos better for you tonight,” said Yang shooting her a wink.

“I’d rather have you kiss my ass; among other places,” Weiss volleyed back as she sent a couple of quick jabs at her opponent.

“Tempting offer. Beat me and maybe you’ll even win a date too,” Yang flirted as she lashed out with a surprisingly nasty kick. It took Weiss a moment to recover and get a bit of ground on Yang.

“I should warn you blondie; I play for keeps.”

“Wonderful.”

[stonerbughead]

Maria watches friday night lights (#12)

Alright y’all, I’m starting season 4! The Michael B. Jordan character has arrived. This is my post for 4x01.

Wait so I’m supposed to believe Landry and Julie were both younger? Why did I think Julie and Landry were the same age as Tyra and Saracen?

Oh heyyyy, young Michael B. Jordan! This is a really interesting time to see a plotline where two black cops bring a kid who “has only nonviolent offenses” and would “be on a bad path” if he was sent to juvie to Eric Taylor instead. (In reality, this kid would be churned into the prison industrial complex likely for the rest of his life and that’s why we’re out in these streets saying abolish the police!)

Weird to see Buddy Garrity on a different side than Eric now...also, boosters, can y’all stop sucking up to Tami when you got her husband fired this is awkward af

“I think it’s really important that we show we’re all in this together” -Joe McCoy literally go fuck yourself!!!

Lol I love how they showed a teacher babbling about specifically the Odyssey for like fifteen seconds before Riggins throws all his books out the literal window and comes home. Same, babe, I was assigned that book WAY too many times.

This town is toxic af if Eric literally can’t hang out with his old co workers without these coaches feeling like their job security would be in question?? JFC.

Poor Eric Taylor is just trying to get something fixed at Best Buy and he’s getting harassed by someone who wants a coaching job. His facial expressions kill me leave this poor man alone

“It’s not a Panther party!”

“Julie, Beth is a cheerleader, Friday is the first game, I think we can acquiesce to the fact it is a Panther party.” Love you Matt Saracen and your new S4 hair

Ew JD is such an asshole. “It sucks you didn’t go to Chicago like you were supposed to, I was totally gonna make a move on Julie. JK.” Dude you’re standing in like, a mansion rn and Matt’s delivering you pizza, kindly understand that you are the “rich” in “ eat the rich”

Why is Best Buy dude an Eric Taylor fan boy like I get it but also chill

Yay Devin is here!!! I missed our one and only Dillon lesbian

Ew JD really has transformed to full douche with his arm around this random girl, being an absolute asshole to Julie and Matt. I miss when he was an awkward freshman.

Did JD really just ask Matt what his problem was after he tried to throw Matt’s girlfriend in the pool while she screamed for him to stop? Also JD just said “this is my Dillon”???? BRO YOU ARE THE WORST I had sympathy for you before bc of your abusive dad but I’m done witchu.

I look away for a second and the Riggins brothers are rolling around on the floor fighting.

Grandma Saracen: You’re just a funny looking creature.

Landry: Okay, good seeing you.

But also oh Grandma Saracen seems like she’s getting worse 🥺

If I woke up after fucking some random girl and her daughter was singing The Star Spangled Banner in the kitchen I’d think I was dead. Also plz tell me Riggins isn’t gonna start fooling around with the daughter of a woman he fucked bc I can’t

The fact that the Eric Taylor Best Buy Guy is actually named Stan when the whole bit is that he’s essentially an Eric Taylor stan is hilarious.

“Will redistricting end football as we know it?” Oh this show.

Awww the first game of Tami and Eric’s relationship Tami has ever missed? So cute! “I’m gonna flip my coin and then I’m gonna sneak out to East Dillon.” My heart.

Lol Julie making Tami put her money where her mouth is by declaring she’s going to East Dillon is such a classic 17 year old girl move.

I love how Landry is like, translating football decorum for the rest of the East Dillon team. “take a knee!”

Oh I love the contrast between the crowded, overfunded panthers stadium versus the ragtag East Dillon field. These parallel shots showing class difference? Sign me tf up.

And having the daughter of the woman Riggins fucked sing the East Dillon anthem was a nice touch. This show really shows all the intricate ways football is weaved into the town’s culture!

Tami’s fuck you to Wade Aikmen/Joe McCoy with the coin toss YESSSS we love to see it

Did one of the East Dillon players just say he can’t feel his arms???

This East Dillon huddle dialogue is so hilariously accurate with them not remembering all the plays.

It is such a testament to Eric Taylor valuing the players themselves over anything else that he spends half time after a 45-0 half checking in with his injured players, then wordlessly leaves to tell the ref to forfeit.

Very intrigued to see where this season goes with this team!

[facialgirl2017-blog]

My Very Own Day Time Tv Soap Opera Drama Book Series

Hi everyone! The last few months I have returned to creative writing which I had stopped doing many years ago. I used to write my own soap opera which I have returned to writing. 3 weeks ago I published the first volume, my first published book ever. However it is not really selling. I know it is a hard genre as you dont really find soaps in book form only on tv. I am trying to reach soap fans to buy my book.

It is called Cape Heights and it is a full fledged soap opera. A small town filled with over 50 characters. Many stories going on at one time. So much romance and drama! Tons of different kinds of relationships. I got love triangles, ex’s getting back together, I have a lesbian relationship I have a TRUE polyamorous relationship (us Kalagang Sense8 fans know what I am talking about!) bad boys, complicated family dynamics, drug running, complex characters and much more. I am trying to keep the stories and characters as realistic as possible while also being entertaining and there is some humor as well, it isn’t all drama. There is some cursing in the dialogue as that is how most people talk so don’t be offended, this book is not for the easily offended type. 

I am really enjoying writing it and I want to share it with people please check it out it is on kindle and I have it in paperback as well and if you like it, please leave me a review on amazon. If you have kindle and you can share it with friends for free, please do that.

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Cape+Heights+Volume+1&i=digital-text&rh=n%3A158566011%2Cp_n_feature_nineteen_browse-bin%3A9045887011&dc&qid=1556228593&rnid=9045886011&ref=sr_nr_p_n_feature_nineteen_browse-bin_1

[closetofanxiety]

Show Review: Women’s Wrestling Revolution, “The Show Must Go On”

Hey! I went to this show a couple of weeks ago and then forgot to review it. Let’s remedy that. 

When: Sunday, August 20, 2017, with a 3 p.m. bell time

Where: The Aurora Nightclub in beautiful “downcity” Providence, R.I.

Who: A crowd north of a hundred?

Show notes: This is going to be the last WWR show at Aurora, because the block is being turned into luxury condos. That’s a huge bummer. The gentrification of Providence is ticking over from, “Ah, good, it’s nice to see people moving back to the city” to “Only wealthy assholes can afford to live here.” Also, this show is named after one of the best Queen songs. If you meet someone who doesn’t like Queen, here’s my advice: be very suspicious of that person.

Allie Recks vs. Elena Pogosyan

These two were totally new to me. WWR kind of likes to start off with unknowns in the first match, much like Shine does with their “Sparkle Showcase” matches. Normally that means the first match is usually bad, but in this case it was a fast-paced, spot-heavy duel between two evenly matched opponents.  Pogosyan was the heel, working an arrogant Armenian-American princess gimmick which, for a fan of obscure ethnic groups like me, was catnip. She also executed a truly brutal-looking curb stomp on Recks, who ultimately got the win. Pogosyan’s Twitter bio describes her as “Half Journalist, Half Wrestler, All Armenian.” I’M INTRIGUED. This was really short, but that’s not bad. Too many matches are too goddamned long.

Rating: Three luxury condos.

Maria Manic w/Penelope Ford vs Davienne w/Sammi Lane

I feel like Maria Manic is what Candy Cartwright is trying to pull off. Like, Maria already does that really well, so there’s no need for someone to do it poorly. But Candy Cartwright wasn’t in this match: local villainness Davienne was. This was kind of the WWR equivalent of the hoss fight, with a lot of brawling and stiff forearms. Sammi Lane kept getting involved, so Penelope Ford would get involved as the equalizer. Not a bad match, but nothing spectacular.

Rating: Two and a half luxury condos.

Terra Calaway vs Skylar

Skylar is hugely over with this crowd, despite coming out to the ring to a Reel Big Fish song. Listen, don’t get me wrong, I like some Reel Big Fish songs, it’s just that it’s the kind of musical love that dare not speak its name. Terra Calaway is a much, much larger woman who came out with a big dinosaur skull mask. She is the “Queen of the Dinosaurs.” I’m here for it. I love gimmicks that are rooted in prehistory. This is your classic monster heel vs plucky face battle, and both are really good at their roles, although Calaway is maybe too funny. That’s one of the things these days, you know; heels cracking jokes and stuff. We’re supposed to hate you, stop being funny.

Anyway, Skylar takes a beating for most of the match, rallies to come back, but then loses after a full nelson slam. That’s awesome. We don’t see enough nelsons, full or half, in wrestling. 

Rating: Three luxury condos.

Willow Nightingale vs Vanity

The crowd likes both these women, and although Vanity nobly tried to play the heel, it resulted in kind of a lukewarm match overall. There was also an extended sequence in the match that turned on the question of whether kicks to the groin are as painful to women as to men, one of the great scientific questions of our day that wrestling is unafraid to answer. Lots of brawling around in the crowd on this one as well, which I have mixed feelings about.

I like both these wrestlers, but they need to work on their characters a bit, since both are a little vague. Willow is a Bayley-esque fun-loving happy person, a little? Kind of? And Vanity is a sexxxy dominatrix villain, although not really? We need to sharpen those lines, ladies.

Rating: Two luxury condos.

Shine Nova Championship: Priscilla Kelly (c) vs Jordynne Grace

These are two of Shine’s hot new stars, Shine being in need of hot new stars because they alienated many of the old stars! I want to emphasize here how much I love when a company lets its titles be defended on another company’s show, even though that pretty much telegraphs the result of the match well in advance.

Still, these are two of the top up-and-coming women in wrestling right now, and this was a great contest. It was my first time seeing Kelly in person, and she did not disappoint: she’s really good in the ring without being clearly one type of wrestler or another. She knows how to work the crowd and pace a match and tell a story physically, which is oddly rare nowadays, when too many people are focused on the “get your shit in” aspect of matches.

She overdoes the dangerously sexxxy thing, of course, and on this show it was dialed way up, to absurd levels: putting her hands down the front of her trunks, constantly licking and biting Jordynne Grace, crawling around on all fours and whipping her hair around like she was in a Whitesnake video in 1987. It was nuts. It was an afternoon show and there were little kids in the crowd! A dad in front of me kept covering his son’s eyes. That father-son duo had a really weird dynamic that I wish I could explain, though. This is why it’s bad to go to shows by yourself, because when you see things that need unpacking there’s no one to bounce ideas off of. 

Anyway, the match. Grace is rapidly becoming one of my favorite wrestlers. She can do a whole lot already, and is picking up the rest with alarming speed. She threw the smaller woman around for most of the match, but kept succumbing to Kelly’s vampishly evil tactics. The home stretch featured a couple of great near falls and ultimately Kelly getting the win via submission. Good stuff!

Rating: Four luxury condos.

The Sea Stars (Delmi Exo & Ashley Vox) vs. Team Adams (Karen Q and Tasha Steelz)

OK, first things first: Karen Q rules. I first saw her maybe a year ago and though, “Gosh, that wrestler shows promise,” and now, not much time later, when I see her name on a card I think, “I am in for some topnotch wrestling, courtesy of Karen Q.” She’s currently stranded in the wilderness of Women of Honor, but check her stuff out. She’s great.

Team Adams are the villains here. The Sea Stars offer to start the match off with a round of shots, and Team Adams cravenly uses the opportunity to start beating on their opponents before the bell. 

The ref eventually restores order, and the heels take control. Q is terrific, Steelz is good, and the Sea Stars are coming along. They’re not bad or anything, but there’s a clear and obvious skill differential between the two teams that makes the match a bit clunky at points. One thing I liked: both teams are actually TEAMS, instead of just two wrestlers randomly paired up for a night. 

Team Adams gets the win thanks to some interference from two of my favorite Masshole dirtbags, Taeler Hendrix and The Artist Formerly Known As Alexxa Neveah.

Rating: Three luxury condos.

Sonya Strong vs Gabriela Rios

Gabriela Rios is the latest stage name for Gabi Castrovinci, who was Raquel in TNA. She’s going to retire from wrestling soon, she said on Twitter. That’s too bad! She was just getting good. This was the best singles match I’ve seen her have.

This was kind of a battle of exaggerated Latina archetypes, with Rios being the alluring Carnivale pinup queen and Strong being the Nuyorican hood chick who is just itching to beat your sorry ass. I thoroughly enjoyed that aspect of it. Throughout the match, Strong made a big show of having contempt for her opponent, constantly putting her in submission holds and barking, “I think this bitch thinks she’s the only one in this locker room with a big ass.” Because, that’s maybe half of Rios’ gimmick.

Rios mounts a few valiant comeback attempts, but this is mostly Strong’s show and she wins pretty handily. After the match, she grabs the microphone and starts running down Veda Scott. She breaks off when she sees Deonna Purrazzzo walking to the back and starts running down Deonna, saying she’s only getting the choice spots in shows because of her boyfriend (she is dating Marty Scurll). The crowd does that “OHHHHHH SHIT” thing and Deonna stands on the ring apron, making the “Two Sweet” hand gesture. Is this a shoot? Is this a PIPEBOMB? THE FOURTH WALL IS COLLAPSING!

I know some people hate this stuff, but I like it. I follow waaaay too many wrestlers on social media, this stuff is candy for me. Sonya vs. Deonna will be good money.

Rating: Three luxury condos.

The Twisted Sisterz (Holidead and Thunder Rosa) vs Taeler Hendrix and Alisha Edwards 

I really like the Twisted Sisterz. I got a mark picture with them during the intermission. They charge for pictures, and that’s Controversial, but I don’t give a shit. It’s a way to Support The Boys without having to buy a glossy 8x10 or a T-shirt I’ll never wear in public. And by God do I Support The Boys. On the census form, in the “race/ethnicity” category, where it says “Other” I write in, “Supporter Of The Boys.”

Anyway, they were facing New Bedford’s skeeziest, Taeler and Alisha, who was formerly Alexxis Neveah before becoming a TNA/Impact/GFW/Nick Gulas Promotions Knockout (TM). I can’t overstate my love for Alisha’s character: the loud, conniving, violent southeastern Massachusetts chick. The kind of woman who has a Tawm Brady jersey for formal occasions. The kind of woman who has to go to court because she punched out another mom while dropping kids off at kindergarten. I WOULDNA HIT HER IF SHE HADNA TAWKED SHIT ABOUT MY MAAAAN, YER ONNER.

Taeler is Taeler, and in the world that Priscilla Kelly is set to inherit, Taeler’s high school drama club femme fatale feels a little hollow. Kelly really comes across like the genuine sleazebag that Taeler is pretending to be. Taeler needs to drop that gimmick and embrace her inner New Bedfordian, change her name to Rosie O’Grady and come to the ring threatening to stab people with a roofing knife.

Interesting match! Lots of what I guess we can only call “lesbian chicken,” where the wrestlers try to intimidate each other with the kinds of unwanted personal advances that are grounds for termination in most workplaces. This was a very “Women’s Wrestling! (clap clap, clapclapclap) kind of crowd, so I’m not sure what the thinking behind the escalating sexxxiness was.

Apart from that, the Sisterz work really well together, and while Taeler and Alisha aren’t quite on their level as workers, both are nonetheless terrific at selling and overall ring psychology. Lots of dives to the outside, brawling through the crowd, and Team New Bedford trying to keep the larger, more powerful Holidead out of the ring. In a payback for the earlier tag match, the Sea Stars interfere, allowing the Twisted Sisterz to get the win.

Rating: Three and a half luxury condos.

Deonna Purrazzo vs Awesome Kong

This felt like a bonkers matchup, considering Kong is a cast member in the Netflix “GLOW” show (just picked up for another season) and doesn’t really do a lot of indie bookings. The crowd, which loves Purrazzo, went completely fucking nuts for Kong, though, as loud a reaction as any I’ve ever heard. It felt like a big deal, because it’s not the kind of thing we’ve seen a hundred times before.

The story of this match was obviously the giant vs the feisty babyface, and they had to work it in a way that didn’t blow Kong up completely. I mean, we all get older, and the reason Kong doesn’t work much anymore is because she doesn’t have the same physical abilities she had during her legendary feud with Gail Kim. So this wasn’t a marathon; it was a lot of Kong flinging Deonna around the ring, and Deonna trying to wear down the much larger woman. Eventually, Deonna got a Fujiwara Armbar applied in the center of the ring and Kong had to tap out, a result I’m not sure anyone expected. People went CRAZY. The dudes behind me were screaming their heads off like their favorite team had just won the Super Bowl. It was a great moment.

After the match, Deonna got on the microphone to do the “you fans make it all possible” babyface speech, and got in some digs at Sonya Strong. I want to see that match! 

Rating: Four luxury condos. 

[le-dreadmau5]

Ok it's 2a so why not:

1) that was a misread on my part

2) that's the thing, it's quite literally impossible to define 'boy' or 'girl' genders without inserting gender roles. Gender is just some relative thing. But since 'boy' and 'girl' are very common in society, those are kinda used as 'bases' when talking about the relativity of gender. I mean yes, the definition of what makes a boy gender and a girl gender have commonalities across cultures and time, but those sometimes WILDLY conflict. In the U.S. a cis male would have identifying traits as

Competitive

Stubborn

Sexually focused

More attracted to physical labor

Boastful

Somehow also lazy (I don't know why but yeah it's there)

And for a cis female in the U.S

Less focused on winnng

Somewhat easily persuaded

More sexually reserved

Interested in vanity

Repulsed by physical labor

Somewhat more submissive

More focused on intelligence

But those are very very rough traits with a LOT of exceptions. I mean cis gay guys and cis lesbians have a solid mix of all of those traits. Gender and gender expression (ref: gay bears) are very relative and hard to nail down. It's incredibly tough for me because I'm Agender. For me, when I think of what gender I have I just get

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I don't really care about "dressing like a guy or a girl" I just buy what looks good on me and is comfy.

3) gender expression is just how you rock your gender (whichever it may be or if you have one). The gay community is pretty good at explaining this part. In Gay Male World, it is 100% possible for a cis gay male to wear make up and finely manicured nails and be cisgender. Just because he expressed himself with traditionally "female gender" qualities, doesn't mean he's not a cis man. Some guys are into guys who express themselves as such. Conversely, Lesbians have definitely "butch" look with wearing t shirts, basketball shorts, baseball caps and little to no make up. Very similar to what straights guys would wear. But even though they are cis girls, they can still express their gender how they please. Some lesbians are into more butch girls, some are into more femme girls. But they're both still cis girls who express themselves differently

4) I was talking more like a trans person who hasn't transitioned but still presents himself as a guy. Because he, as a trans man, would want to look like a guy but can't transition due to whichever reason. If the case were "I can only be turned on by you if you have literally ALL male equipment", then before getting turned on, id have to reach into a guys pants and see if he can pre cum before being attracted to him. That would be RIDICULOUS (fun but ridiculous), furthermore, it would effectively mean that were attracted to sex organs (pee pee y vagine) as opposed to people's bodies and how they present them.

5) I used the term "monosexual" strictly to mean homo and hetero people. As in only attracted to one gender. Contrary wise I would use "multisexual" as a blanket term for bi/poly/pan people as they are attracted to more than one gender. How does that give anyone power?

Are some gays guilty of biphohia? Yes. Do some gays exclude bi/poly/pansexuals if they date the opposite sex? Yes. But that doesn't mean you get to criticize pansexuals. Pansexuality isnt the "alternative" to Bisexuality just because of the negative connotation bisexuality has gotten. I get it, bisexuals go through a lot of shit from both the gay and straight community(ex fetishization, invalidation, being told to 'pick', being told you have to kind of choke half of your sexual attraction, being told to take it...etc) and at the exact same time, I don't get it because I'm not bisexual. I will never understand firsthand what it is like to grow up bisexual and figure it out. But I DO know that it isn't helping anyone to criticize another groups identity. Saying that "pansexuals are just bisexuals who don't want the negatives" is doing to pansexuals what straight people do to bisexuals. You act like their sexuality isn't real. You act like they're pansexual just for attention.

End of the day, you're probably not pansexual. You don't know what it's like to come out as pansexual. You don't know don't what it's like to have the group that you'd think would understand you, ridicule you. And if you say you do, you're a hypocrite.

Personal empowerment actually goes a long way. If one person of an oppressed group has the guts to stand up against oppression because they believe they can, it can inspire others to follow suit.

It shows that someone who they relate to, and understands their oppression, can stand up against said oppression and live to tell the tale. Doing that has inspired change throughout history. It's what inspired Gay Civil Rights. Every major change for the better throughout history has started with one person empowering themselves with the confidence to say they can do something. And people who believe in that person follow and that leads to change.

You clearly have a lot of self hatred on your bisexuality. And that genuinely sucks. Self hatred is very draining and agonizing to deal with. But it's not an excuse to direct your anger at another sexuality. At the end of the day, humans are weird, complex, beings that will probably be a mystery to themselves for the rest of time. But that doesn't mean hatred is the answer.

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Hey, thanks for the refresher on Latin prefixes. I actually already knew that, but I appreciate you actually providing a point in your argument for discussion.

I’m being critical as in “involving analysis of merits or faults” not as in “showing disapproval”. Surely we can all agree that considering and observing a concept is part of education and exercising the mind.

Indeed, bi, pan, homo, hetero are all Latin prefixes exactly as you’ve defined. two, all, same, different. I’m glad we’re agreed.

And I’m SO glad you brought up science! Since you were kind enough to provide a breakdown of the prefixes for me, I’ll go over what you may have missed in biology class.

We are talking about sexual orientation. Sex is defined as (Merriam Webster, emphasis mine): 

1: either of the two major forms of individuals that occur in many species and that are distinguished respectively as female or male especially on the basis of their reproductive organs and structures

2: the sum of the structural, functional, and behavioral characteristics of organisms that are involved in reproduction marked by the union of gametes and that distinguish males and females.

Now, it does say ‘major’ forms of individuals. I’m sure we both noticed that, meaning not all. The exceptions to these biological rules (such as intersex people- which is still a condition defined in relation to male or female reproductive organs) are about 1.7% according to this website about intersex equality. So that leaves 98.3% of people born with the standard dimorphism found in humans and most animals. We commonly understand that human beings are born with two legs, for example, but a small minority isn’t.

Back to sexual orientation. The Latin root for ‘sex’ comes from the word sexus and refers to males or females based on reproductive organs. Orientation means the direction oneself is facing/going toward. 

So sexual orientation = the sex oneself is directed towards.

You’ve stated “pansexual: attraction encompassing the entire gender spectrum” - however, there are issues with this. As a sexual orientation, a pansexual would mean someone who is potentially attracted to all sexes. What’s the issue with that? You’re probably already seeing it. There are only two sexes, two kinds of reproductive organs and body types that define male or female, because human beings are a dimorphic species.

You said pansexuals are attracted to all genders. But what is gender? Gender is the social and cultural attributes given to persons of either sex. It’s constructed, not tangible. 

Gender varies greatly from culture to culture and time period to time period. 

This is an example drawing of noble men’s fashion from France, 1700s. They are the height of fashion, wealth, prestige, and you guessed it, masculinity. What a fine leg they show off in those tights! Those outfits emphasizing wide hips! Wigs! They’re probably wearing makeup and perfume, too.

Are these not men of their time? Would anyone say they are a different sex from men today, just because they’re expressing their gender very differently? Because the fact is, they are extremely gender-conforming men based on cultural expectations. 

Bi means two. Pan means all. But there are only two sexes. ‘All’ the sexes one can be oriented to is ‘two’. That’s the max. People aren’t sexually oriented to gender, because gender fluctuates greatly. Gender is a performance. Sex is unchanging, concrete fact.

There’s nothing wrong with being bisexual, by the way. My original post came from my feelings that people look for a ‘softer’ alternative to the word bisexual because it has negative cultural connotations. Which it does unfortunately carry. But it’s also not a label. It’s what someone IS. Someone is gay because they are gay, not because they ‘choose’ to ‘label’ themselves as gay. Same goes for bi people. 

I don’t ‘label’ myself as being 5 foot 6 inches tall, I just AM. 

If you have questions, I’m happy to continue. Otherwise, have a nice day.

Ok, lots of ground to cover here because we clearly have very differing views about how sex/sexual orientation work.

As you quoted Merriam Webster in regards to sex, you effectively made “real” sex exclusive to hetero mlw sex and shoved out fun fun mlm and wlw sex. If those are you’re feelings about sex as a bisexual, then you do you boo boo but it starts your argument already shaky indicating cherry picking

now lets get to the meat of the conversation regarding Pansexuality. As i defined Pansexuality, I said it encompasses the entire gender spectrum. If you haven’t noticed, gender is a spectrum that has nothing to do with biological sex. While Boy and Girl are both definitely on there, there’s a VAST region in between and even off of it for Agender individuals. Pansexuality is be be attracted to the entire gender spectrum. I never said it had anything to do with biological sex.

Now for those smexy Frenchymen. Yup, you’re 100% right. those men are probably a great example of how the male gender was presented in 18th century period France. Same sex, and probably same gender as men of today. Gender is definitely a social construct that changes over time and across regions. however gender expression is a malleable thing. In the gay community, bears are very large hairy men but are often huge gossips complete with lisps and other “feminine” traits. Whereas in straight world, a man with similar physique would be somewhat aggressive and rugged. Yet they are both male gendered men but express themselves very differently.

People can be attracted to Biological sex, gender, gender expression or any combo of those. if you as a bisexual, are attracted to people purely based off of biological sex, more power to you, have fun. there’s tons of people like that and that’s perfectly fine. But you’re completely overlooking the trans community.  If youre a gay man dating a trans man, does that make the cis gay man straight because his boyfriend is biologically a female? No because they’re both guys.

Look sweetums, I 100% see the negative connotations that bisexuals have to deal with especially in the gay community that’s supposed to be based in acceptance. But just because you don’t like it, doesn’t mean you can shit on people who embrace being pan. you’re just doing to them what monosexual people do to you and that’s no fun. you’re basically telling pan people “Oi stop feeling validated and come down and suffer with the rest of us at the cost of sawing off part of your identity”

Labels can empower us by helping us find others who identify the same way. don’t take that away from people because you yourself are miserable

XOXO, A proud queer guy

( I’m going to respond to these points numerically for coherence, and I shortened the post because it was getting Super Long )

1)  you effectively made “real” sex exclusive to hetero mlw sex and shoved out fun fun mlm and wlw sex

I don’t know how you came to this assessment of what I said. I wasn’t talking about sexual intercourse at all. I’m talking about anatomy. Humans are a sexually dimorphic species (like many animals) - this is science. This is fact. If you’re going to assert that human beings are not dimorphic, we cannot have a productive dialogue. 

What people then choose to do with their bodies is up to them. mlm and wlw can do whatever they want and I support that. 

2)  “ gender is a spectrum that has nothing to do with biological sex. While Boy and Girl are both definitely on there, there’s a VAST region in between and even off of it for Agender individuals.  Pansexuality is be be attracted to the entire gender spectrum.”

I agree! Gender has nothing to do with biological sex. Gender is a social and/or cultural phenomenon. Girls don’t come out of the womb liking pink and boys don’t come out liking sports, for example. These are roles that are imposed on people. 

Please define ‘boy’ and ‘girl’ without referencing gender roles, which as you’ve stated, have nothing to do with biological sex. Also, please define agender for me and give examples of what those individuals are consistently like (genuinely, I’ve never met someone who identified as agender, so I don’t have a point of reference here).

Also, please explain how someone can be attracted to a social/cultural construct.

3)  “ Gender is definitely a social construct that changes over time and across regions. however gender expression is a malleable thing”

Again, please explain how someone can be attracted to something as intangible as ‘gender’ and ‘gender expression’ - because as you’ve said, it’s changeable and malleable depending on social and cultural expectations.

4)  “if youre a gay man dating a trans man, does that make the cis gay man straight because his boyfriend is biologically a female? No because they’re both guys.”

If someone has the capacity to be attracted to both male and female bodies, they are bisexual. Males and females have different primary and secondary sex characteristics, and beyond that, they are socialized differently. Many trans people recognize their biological reality (which matters for a myriad of reasons) but choose to present in a way that makes them more comfortable with themselves. But that doesn’t stop their biology from existing. Sexual orientation has to do with the anatomical sex, not gender expression.

I’m not overlooking anything because everyone on Earth is biologically male or female with very few exceptions, and those exceptions have normal scientific explanations. 

If you claim that gay people have the capacity to be attracted to the opposite sex, you’re positing that everyone has the capacity to be attracted to anyone (false), and in turn you’re claiming sexual orientation is a myth. It’s not. Try telling straight men they need to be open to dating people with penises because those people are women like any other. Just give it a try.

5) ”you’re just doing to them what monosexual people do to you and that’s no fun. you’re basically telling pan people “Oi stop feeling validated and come down and suffer with the rest of us at the cost of sawing off part of your identity”Labels can empower us by helping us find others who identify the same way. don’t take that away from people because you yourself are miserable”

“Monosexual” is a term that implies that gay people have power over bisexual people, which they do not. Gay people don’t oppress me. 

It’s not about fun. It’s not about personal validation. It’s about the truth and facts.

And I’m not miserable at all. I love being bisexual and my life is pretty great right now, I just feel bad for other bisexuals who have internalized biphobia and I want to help them. Those are my brothers and sisters and I have been deep in the stages of denial before. I get it. The existence of my sexual orientation isn’t the reason the word ‘bisexual’ has negative connotations; that’s created primarily by men who don’t want bisexuality to exist except when it serves them (ie, the idea that bi women are faking it to turn on a man, or that bi men are really gay). A great example of how cultural norms warp a neutral biological state like human sexual orientation.

Labels can be empowering, but is that more important that truth and facts?Personal empowerment is not the same thing as achieving power, by the way, and that’s a big problem with liberal feminism today. One person having a healthy self image (while okay on its own) does nothing for the betterment of a collective group of oppressed people.

People either are something or they aren’t. Sexual orientation isn’t an “opt-in/opt-out” situation, and neither is biological sex. Otherwise everyone would be able to identify as a straight man and then receive all the social/cultural benefits of the patriarchy. Does that sound ridiculous? That’s because it is. 

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Today was an eventful day 1. sorry I'm Doing this on tumblr. Idk why but it feel easier to keep up with if I think someone might read it . Any way you can block (tr)ash talking or diary entry if you don't want to see this 2. MY flight was delayed 2 hours 3. I spent money on a really dumb shirt and I'm pretty ashamed /embarrassed that I did? But also I think it will be fun to wear to parties and stuff and it's really good quality and was pretty cheap 4. When I went to buy the shirt I knew it was half price cause I had seen it online but the guy tried to charge me full price so I was like excuse me. And then he was like nope it's not on sale so I was thought I was wrong and I left. Then I went back and realized it had a blue dot which means half price so I argued with him and he was like nah that's wrong so I bought the shirt online for half price when I got home. I'm really pissed about it and I'm not sure why he would do that? 5. I am wondering if it is because his friend wanted the shirt or because I am brown or because it was an MENS shirt and I don't look or sound like a man or because I am dressed like a lesbian today 6. Sunny comes out in two days 7. I'm writing this on the plane back to school after winter break idk I'm half excited to see everyone like the iasip boy and my director friend who has been snap chatting me recently (he convinced me to buy the shirt tbh and my friend who likes rpdr and my friend who is going to be my assistant this quarter and my friend who is really good about not misgendering me, but I'm half really really anxious 8. A girl from my hall at school is sitting a few rows ahead of me on the plane. We are friends on Facebook. I wave to her As I pass. She waves back. Her friend who is next to her says who is that. I don't know she responds. 9. I'm reading This Is How You Lose Her by Junot Diaz right now and it's really really incredible. I don't think I know of anyone who writes about the immigrant experience better than Junot Diaz. 10. A choice quotations from This is How You Lose Her are listed below 11. "As we walk over to the courtesy golf cart, I say, I feel like you rejected my whole country, Magda" I have had so many Magdas in my life it's painful. Every time someone says something about Iran or makes a comment about Indian doctors not being as good as American doctors, it goes straight to my heart. Every time one of my American friends opens their mouth about one of my countries-- something they experienced when they went to the Taj Mahal, something they read in an article online because no one reads the newspaper anymore--they become a Magda. And it hurts. 12. It's a good book. The girl on the plane next to me is reading the back cover as it sits turned upside down on my lap, spine pressed open. 13. I am wondering how long until we land. 14. I am picking at my cuticles 15. I do not want to Uber home from the airport but I am thinking that it is going to be too late to take public transportation alone right now 16. I don't actually think that Uber is much safer but I've never hearted of Anyone I know getting h mugged in one and That at least provides some sense of comfort. 17. I wrap my ring finger around my little finger and press the pad of my pinky against that of my thumb. The plane roars as it begins its descent. My fingers quicken. With my middle finger I rub rapidly at the tiny piece of skin that pokes out from between my nail and the nail bed it hurts. There is a cuticle on my thumb that is not so close to the nail. It would hurt less I know. I keep rubbing my pinky. The plane hits ground with a sharp thud and my hand, ring finger still wrapped around my pinky, shoots out to the chair in front, unsuccessfully trying to absorb the shock. I will be back at school soon. Things will start moving again soon. I am worried. I am scared. I still do not know what I am doing there. The plane slows to a stop and my middle finger goes back to rubbing my pinky. The girl next to me straightens her back as if to nudge me out of my seat. I settle back and continue to rub my pinky. We're the very last row on the plane, we'll be waiting anyway. I can't tell if my pinky has stopped stinging or by now I am just used to the pain. 18. I am eating dried mangoes (the unsweetened kind like I like) as I wait for the crowd around my baggage claim carousel to disperse. People swarm toward the silver roundabout trying to grab there bags and get out of here. It's okay that I can't push forward. I have time. People breathe down each others necks standing on tip toes , eyes trained on the little hole that vomits up bags searching for that purple ribbon or orange tag that distinguishes their bag from everyone else's. Its okay. Im in no rush. 19. An old man in a thick red coat sits next to me flanked on the other side by a young girl in a hoodie. He is telling her that everyone else is dressed much more warmly. Is she sure she will be okay. She rolls her eyes and says she is fine. My chest swells up no one is fine for our winters. They're the kind of winters that make your bones feel cold. They're the kind of cold that seeps through woolen socks and pinches at any inch of bare skin. I'm proud of my ability to sustain these winters. I'm an immigrant. I'm not used to this weather. 20. I decide to take the bus home. It'll take lo ref but I've got time plus last time I ran into a friend on the bus. 21. I watched a little boy on the bus draw a peace sign in the condensation on window. I smiled as he slid his little finger back and forth