#butch for butch

[androgynealienfemme]

"There is a kind of connection that I sometimes have, with certain people, a way of trust that only comes with people who have what I always think of as a butch heart. That's not quite right. Some of them don't identify as butches; some, in fact, hardly identify as anything even in the same zip code. But's it's a very boy way of being bigger than, a sturdy and quiet way, taking care of everyone around you as best you can, always trying to fix it, always stepping up to do the crap job that gets no recognition, and also of being so gentle, so generous, so nonjudgemental of other people, believing that they are doing their best.

Is that sexist? I don't mean it to be. I mean to describe this way of some masculine things, so different in its energy from other ways of caretaking. In Yiddish, this is referred to as being a mensch, which also means a man. There's a part of me thatr wishes I could separate it entirely from gender, and another part which sees it as exactly right that this is gendered, that there are ways of butchness that are composed of the best of masculinity and leave all of its borrish excesses behind.

But I met this butch, a handsome writing with a toughness about him that I recognized as the result of his life for the forty-six years before he and I crossed paths, a toughness that even still showed an underlying playfulness. That he had been able to keep that place alive and tender in the hardness of life made him light up my eyes as someone who would know some of the things I knew, someone who would honor the same places in me, and we started talking. Talking turned into flirting, and flirting turned into intention. We made a date to spend an evening together seeing what our combined toughness and playfulness might mean when we took our clothes off, a kind of old-style faggot good time without a lot of expectation about who might or would do what, to or for whom.''

"Laying Down with A Butch” Butch is a Noun essays by S. Bear Bergman (2006)

[pleasurebutch]

It's been a minute, so I thought I'd post a lil something for yall. So excited for Wednesday, I got some new things I'm very eager to try

[grizzcore]

I can’t believe I get to marry my best friend, my love, my toad, the most amazing person who’s ever lived this month.

[bambisgay]

Need more butch and masc friends. Please come over and watch me install a new alternator. Hit me up and ask me to spot you at the gym. Yes I'll like the pics your femme posted so she feels better. Of course I'll come to the pub and get a burger with you. Yeah there's more beer in the fridge at home. Need dumb girls who wanna drift in my car and wander abandon buildings and get up to dumb shit together.

[randommothxd]

NEW SEXUALITY/FLAG ALERT

Made by:me

(With and w/o symbol)

Girlkisser

Meaning: when, you know you're on the lesbain spectrum but you don't know which kind of lesbain

Example: you're confused if you're a Sapphic lesbain or just a lesbain

In other words: you are a girlkisser,you know that you like girls 100% but you're just cunfused what term to use for yourself

Questioning lesbains can also use this flag

Color meaning:

[butchmuppet]

Fat butch friday!!!! Give it up for fat fuckin butches!!!!

[puppygirlbutch]

just like, fyi to lesbian/sapphic boys, men, transmascs, transfem and other butches, futches, and any and all other masculine bi/lesbians: I am kissing u on the mouth with tongue!!! U are so handsome and sexy, my gay heart can't take it! And I mean hairy bearded butches! Twink ass looking dykes! The manliest lesbians beyond your wildest imaginations!!!! You are loved, you are wanted, you are valued, and most important of all, you are fucking HOT!!!! Yes, you!

(also maybe reblog with ur pics??? or reblog if you know someone following I who is a masc sapphic? I want to see my handsome lesboys and boydykes and butches and masc bi/lesbians and sapphics and bykes and aaaaaaaaAAAAAAA!!!!!)

I love you! 🥰❤️

LESBIAN SEPRATISTS/"GOLD STAR" LESBIANS FUCK OFF!!!!! I HATE YOU!!! EAT DIRT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[youronlinebutchdom]

[chubby-femme-boi]

We've got our cowboy butches, but where are our

Buckle Bunny Femmes?

[androgynealienfemme]

"I can be a butch without opening door for girls," he's saying. "I can be a butch without opening doors for girls," he's saying. I can do it even if I follow while dancing, I can do it without spending my Saturday afternoons as a femme's shopping bottom at the mall and I do. I am. I am honorable, I take good care of the people I love as well as I possibly can; I watch out for my community. I have a butch heart full of love that I can express when I feel safe enough; I walk in the world resisting gender norms and transgressing gender rules, transcending them. I am fixing whatever I can, whenever I can, and I laugh, and play, and let the spaces in my masculinity show, just like you, just like every butch. I get all slicked up for a date in a suit and tie and I pick up my date, also in a suit and tie, and we just open the door if we get to it first and we take turns paying, and it doesn't make me less a butch. It doesn't make me less of anything. It doesn't mean that I don't think femmes are swell, I surely do, but they are not my salvation when I travel, they are not the North of my heart's compass. That's butches for me, and I will always go a little weak when I see someone who looks scared and hardened and delighted and ashamed and proud --- proud, just like me."

"FAGGOT BUTCH" Butch is a Noun essays by S. Bear Bergman (2006)

[pleasurebutch]

Got brand new dildos to go in my strap so I can slowly stretch you out until you can take my thickest. Who's first?

[grizzcore]

I identify AS a lesbian , that is how I perceive myself and what to me is a truth about my personal and full lived experience, I adore butches and specifically MY butch. I was known to be a lesbian at a very young age. I only had crushes on little girls, i had a huge crush on my lesbian aunts butch partner and I was not good at hiding this. (Very cute photo of me staring at Lisa available at request) I didn’t behave like a lot of little girls, I was a tomboy, I was also very clearly lesbian and this lead to being “othered” a lot , especially by adults who did not want me around their children because of my homosexuality

At age 11 I was diagnosed with gender identity disorder, and at 12 I started going by he/him pronouns and the name Oliver at my Ohio public middle school. I was technically out as agender but did later identify as a trans boy/trans man. In my teen years trauma and dysphoria complicated things for me, I dated much older women and afab NB people who did a lot of emotional damage to me , and with my trauma around lesbianism I ended up identifying as a gay trans man for a long while. From 16 to 21, this is what I considered myself publicly - though I’ll admit that on some level I always knew deep down I was a lesbian, and that I was sort of making this identify for myself to fight against that.

I identify WITH gay men , because for many years I thought that is who was, I took testosterone, which I don’t regret at all btw and would and maybe will take again one day, I love being a t lesbian- - I was with gay men intimately, both my age and much older, i was bullied for being both a lesbian and a gay man at the same time because again, I transitioned in a semi rural Ohio public middle and highschool setting starting in the year 2012/2013. i was in gay mens spaces in real life, I felt very real community with gay men and they never treated me very differently than other gay boys just for being transmasculine. Sex with them was not emotionally fulfilling me, but I did enjoy their company and companionship for a while I thought I may be asexual. (Don’t so many of us, lmao)

But No, I was most certainly a lesbian with too much trauma hanging onto that label to connect to it for a while (and many people in my direct personal life kept informing me of this, lmao, which made me double down in a very childish way)

Me and my partner are both afab and identify personally as lesbians- but on many occasions we are perceived socially as gay men because we both previously identified as gay trans men, took t and socially transitioned. Then we dated each other. I told Theo about a year in I thought I may be a lesbian and that transmasculinity to me was an extension of a lesbian gender identity and I didn’t want them to feel invalidated by this as they at the time were a binary trans man to my knowledge. They told me they felt the same way and we had one of the most eye opening and relationship strengthening conversations we’ve ever had. We’re both lesbians , with dysphoria, with no connection to a male identity- just a masculine one.

So were lesbians, who look like gay men and often are regarded as gay men by strangers , we’ve experienced homophobic violence geared toward gay men, other lesbians tend to recognize us as lesbians, but gay men - especially trans men and especially t4t trans men also recognize us as gay trans men socially - and im okay with that! i actually LIKE that.

I don’t care if people see us a lesbians or gay men or both. I have community in both places, I feel safe in both places, I have love for both communities. I have lived in both communities, been fostered and loved in both and don’t feel these communities in real life are half as separated as the internet leads many of you to believe. I was in the gay bar scene at too young an age but I am thankful for the community I feel as someone with what a lot of people could consider a pretty complex gender identity now that I’m an adult still in those spaces

And now that I’m experiencing a sort of complex gender fluidity I could only best describe as “genderfluid but the genders are ‘butch’ and ‘femme’ as genders, not male and female” where I’m exploring femme identity and my relationship to butchness is shifting back and forth, I feel a new strange sort of identification happening to me wherein a lot of people in this irl space are assuming im some sort of drag queen - which I’m ??? Not entirely sure how I feel about but i think I’m overall okay with it in a Chappell Roan femininity is performance sort of way

In short what I’m saying is : my gender is lesbian, but I am aware my SOCIALLY PERCEIVED gender is often that of a gay man, and other queer people seem to vary widely in how they perceive me and my relationship on a scale of “lesbians” to “t4t” to “gay men” often reflecting their own identity

And I’m like! Okay with that and acknowledge these identities as also being a valid part of who I am because they affect the way other people treat me in these spaces I share and the life I live.

[bambisgay]

I'm butch for femme until I see a butch in public. Like ma'am 😵‍💫 just the confidence gnc women elude has me down bad

[mlekom3]

[chaos-in-one]

GNC lesbians <3<3<3