#but you're doing great trust me

[cosmicatta]

Every now and then someone asks me "why do you always point out that English isn't your first language?" and the answer is because it's REALLY hard, okay? :') And I kinda want that extra effort to be known.

I choose to write in English despite knowing I won't be at 100% of my abilities just to be part of the community. And it's hard, and you feel stupid and illiterate about half of the time, and sometimes people are very cruel.

Honestly, writing in a language that isn't your own is a very humbling experience, and I think everyone should try it before sending a nasty message, or making fun of someone's "broken English."

This is not the first time I get this kind of "feedback," and it probably won't be the last. I shouldn't care so much, but it's just unfair. It's unfair that I've also seen many friends and creators I appreciate deal with similar stuff.

Sometimes it feels weird to inhabit spaces that are mostly English-speaking (AND mostly USA-centric), because you're always expected to bend but rarely get any kind of gratitude for doing it (rather the opposite sometimes).

By this I don't mean that everyone should be thanking me personally for speaking English, that's not the point I'm trying to make because this isn't even about me (I'm not that important, please lmao). Just do keep in mind that every time a non-native speaker interacts with you in your language, or creates art in your language for you to enjoy, they're kinda doing you a favor. Because we could just... not do it. It's actually so much easier not to do it. Just be aware of it and show patience and kindness in return, it's the very least you can do.

[pinacoladamatata]

blink and you'll miss it moments around skyhold....

[potatoesandsunshine]

listen like... in my opinion the pov character should be wrong or contradictory or unreliable sometimes. this is third person limited they're not supposed to have all the information or always be right. the narrator doesn't stop being a character

[street-corner-felines]

Zero Day (2002)

[e-louise-bates]

I will admit that it never occurred to me that I would need to check the history book that claimed to be scholarly to see if it used references and footnotes, because how could a book be a scholarly work on history without such things, BUT NOW I KNOW BETTER.

[bumblingbabooshka]

Live Fast & Prosper

[imunbreakabledude]

Actions... have consequences. i'm offering you a clean slate.

have you ever tried to clean an actual slate? you can always see what was on it before.

i haven't watched this show in 5+ years but the way that just thinking about it for a second can get these lines just goooooing through my head in extremely 2009 eliza dushku voice

[bihexxxual]

someone in my afk life has been throwing me under the bus pretty hardcore lately....

we're not that close, something like more than acquaintances but not really friends. they've been to my place for movie nights and some dinners, but they never ever reciprocate, just talk and talk about how they're going to. but never actually do. I've made peace with that but it does make for an awkward, coworker-esque dynamic that they refuse to bridge the gap on.

this is perfectly fine when it's civil, but lately has been... not so civil.

like, this person has a big, invasive surgery coming up that I think they're lashing out about b/c fear. which I get. I do. but suddenly lots of random stuff is my fault for no reason..... I say I'll help them out with X on Day, they agree, Day comes around and they've "already handled X because they couldn't wait around any longer 🙄." ("any longer" being. the agreed upon date and time.) with absolutely no communication that there was an issue.

they like to visit my cat when they see him, which is fine, but my cat is a very unpredictable, very, very strong tiny predator who struggles to communicate his boundaries. I would not trust him around new people unsupervised, for safety reasons. This person always wants to "read what he's telling them" (which they are rarely correct about. they will keep petting him when he hisses and has huge black eyes, and completely ignore him when he's open and friendly) and simply WILL NOT listen to me or respect when I translate his communications, to the point that I now always put the cat in the other room if this person is coming over.

or their dog will come sit with me instead of them at movie night (I have a very comfy/squishy blanket doggo likes to sit on and doggo is old and ready for bed. nothing personal) and once doggo gets up their person will very loudly comment "oh am I WORTHY now???" (idk if me or doggo was more uncomfy!! wtf are we supposed to do with that!!)

and they want me to babysit their dog during their surgery, and handle doggo's meds while being babysat. ok! no problem! but we HAVE to go over the procedures to give doggo meds RIGHT NOW (surgery + potential babysitting is WEEKS away and would only be for 1 night anyway). and even though I have years of experience in administering meds like doggo's, there's a very heavy implication that I don't know what I'm doing and definitely can't be trusted with doggo or doggo's meds. (??? why ask me if you feel that way??)

I've stated multiple times that I'm fine with dog sitting, but would prefer to go over meds way closer to the actual date and that is? Unacceptable?? Apparently??

Verbatim, "I can cancel the surgery if that's too hard"

Like??? I've never said a damn thing about it being too difficult, but now it's hanging out there that if they cancel their surgery it'll be because *I* wasn't able to take care of their dog because it was *simply too difficult*. which is such a crock of bs!! (the meds in question are oral syringe btw. with a very tiny dog who's very cooperative with me. literally nothing difficult about the job - just doggo's human)

like. I'm keeping details simple here but lots of this is PARAGRAPHS of unrelenting texts assuring me that I'm sooooo helpful and trustworthy while simultaneously undermining and openly second guessing every. single. thing. that I have to say. right down to attacking my sleep schedule because 'they wouldn't want to bother me' (I am not bothered and have communicated this openly). Idk how to deal with this anymore tbh.

I can't really avoid this person as I will absolutely cross pass with them in daily life, but I also cannot have a conversation with them about how shitty they're being. we simply Do Not have that kind of relationship.

I know they're diagnosed with BPD, and I suspect they're probably using me to try and self-sabotoge out of their surgery (if I'm soooo unreliable to take care of doggo for a night, then they simply *must* cancel the surgery to take care of doggo themselves!) and like. I'm trying real hard to be empathetic about it. I've known them for years now and usually I just roll with things, but it's getting to SUCH an unhealthy and nasty place lately........

[chimericaloutlier]

When I say "Disco Elysium rewired my brain", it means I legit just thought to myself, while regretting some minor choices*,

"You just rolled poorly and failed some red checks, and it could be worse – at least you didn't yell obscenities until you were *inside* the car! Shit sucks but you can't savescum life, sorry babes~" and I actually found it reassuring

*They led to the dreaded Parking Ticket (that shade of orange should go on some listicle of Most Triggering Colors – I don't know how localized that bit of color theory may be however)

[strike-9]

saw a post on here about making friends as an adult and i feel conflicted cuz like, overall i agree that all you have to do is get the courage to show up and get the ball rolling by talking to people/getting their numbers even if it feels cringe or 'wrong' to do so however i can't help but raise my eyebrow at the 'act like they're already your friend' part because some people lean way to into that to the point where they forget we're not actually friends yet which inevitably leads to them saying/doing something that's pretty out of line so like. yes put yourself out there, talk to them and get to know them but please remember that people need to actually like, warm up to each other which could take weeks of speaking to them regularly at minimum

[timewizard-oldman]

i just finished watching adventure time i am so not ok about fern im so not ok about everything actually

fern is literally so special to me i've cried over him like 3 times......, i feel your pain unknown individual..............

[mermaidsirennikita]

one thing I wish we were more open about as a society is that like... feeling better about your appearance is so rooted in the mental game

like I can't control how society casts me, but I can control what I project and what I tell myself; and I may not truly believe I'm a hot girl every day of my life (lol who does) but I do believe in bigging myself up, and I wish everyone felt comfortable doing that. tbh, I'd compare it to that idea that if you smile at yourself in the mirror daily, you will eventually kind of con your mind into at least a slightly raised sense of positivity

and neither of those things are going to work for everyone, but it bugs me that we really kind of push this idea that you saying you find yourself pretty or beautiful or hot somehow means you think worse of OTHER people, and that it's bad to think you look good, that vanity is this like... crime; and what makes me even more bugged is that we push it particularly on everyone who essentially isn't a cis man

[kunikidas-lost-glasses]

I just looked up when the date is when I am finally two years clean from SH and THAT DATE ALREADY WAS!!! IT WAS A BIT MORE THAN TWO WEEKS AGO!! I SWITCHED THE MONTHS UP!!!

I AM OFFICIALLY CLEAN FROM SH SINCE 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!!

[satoruxx]

I'm stupid fo do this in anon but it's the only way for me to ask you this or else I'll combust out of embarrassment, but would you mind being tagged in posts, like a recommendation to read, it'll be jjk posts ofcourse, qnd I'll make to check if you've not already liked or reblogged it,.

Only cuz sometimes i feel the need to share the post and reblog just doenst seem enough...and i loovee reading your stuff (obsessed with wolf!toji too😭) so i thought to ask if it'd be okay

hi nonnie !! no omg pls don't be embarrassed you can ask me anything :33

to answer your question i do not mind being tagged in posts at all !! i'm always looking for good fics to read so feel free to share any that you enjoyed !! i will say that my tbr list is already very long and i'm very slow at getting to them but if you tag me in any fics i will add them to my list and get to them asap :33

i love that you want to share the fics it's so sweet of you and fanfic authors deserve extra appreciation for their work !! so of course, feel free to share them with me <33

also tysm i'm so glad you're enjoying wolf!toji hehe !!!

[snotsloth]

If you are like me and you suffer from constant impostor syndrome when it comes to writing, I want you to know that you will never butcher the English language the way that corporate executives do. And they make millions of dollars a year! Write your silly story. It will make you and maybe some other people far happier than I am right now, trying to fit "OPERATIONALIZATION" on a slide.

[phoenixiancrystallist]

Month 4, day 6. I think this guy just told me something about himself. Not his name, no, because that would be useful information, but instead I... think he might be Rheddig? Idk I just wanted to see what would happen if I gave him a Rheddig soldier helmet and then things just started kind of clicking into place. ...so yeah, um, was not expecting that XD