#but we’re all feminist right 🙄

[dulcewrites]

Hey, just wanted to say thank you for being one of the few writers that writes Aemond centric fics without feeling the need to bash the living daylight out of Aegon. It’s always so frustrating to see most fic writers drag Aegon through the dirt ten times over to make Aemond seem more likable.

no problem!

I do try to walk a very… delicate line with how I write/discuss Aegon. Because though I think it is fair to dissect the disparities between how narratives were set up, at least in s1 (Aegon vs Rhaenyra, team black vs team green, Alicent vs Rhaenyra), I do not want to slip into rape apologia territory. Which unfortunately, and I don’t think people are trying to but impact and intent aren’t the same, I do feel like a lot of people trying to ‘defend’ Aegon or just make sense of the choices the writer/producers made end up doing. It is entirely possible to write/discuss his character true to form without either erasing the bad parts (even before the events of ep 8) or exacerbating them.

Honesty, one of the reasons why it’s hard for me to continue with my Aegon centric work that I never feel like I have a good handle on his character. I try to do the characters justice and I’m annoying about my shit always, and it’s made worse when I can’t characterize someone right. It’s something I’m working on slowly but surely

[tra-archive]

Warning: I’m about to talk about the protests that have been going on across college campuses, as I was part of one as well (and assaulted by cops along with my friends). I don’t talk about the current war much because I know it’s a politically charged topic, but I felt like this needed to be said. It’s not really about the protests themselves, but how women involved in political discussions are treated. No matter what side you’re on, I think I make a good point.

Have you noticed that, when discussing the protests that have occurred on college campuses recently, conservative men (and even some liberal men) have been claiming that we (college kids) are just protesting because we want to look cool/go viral and we don’t actually know anything about the topic?

Yeah, well I say that’s misogyny 100%.

Look at the caricatures they’ve been making of us, of all the protesters. It’s 99% of the time a young woman, usually with dyed hair and usually fat as well. The stereotypical “blue-haired feminist” (which I think is a stupid trope). Liberal women in general are stereotyped this way. It’s also well known that teenage girls & college women are hated by grown men and, dare I say, society in general. We’re constantly the subject of ridicule.

Do you really think it’s a coincidence that because many of the protesters have been women, that men are claiming we don’t even know what we’re protesting about? A college girl can’t possibly care about a war and dumb women can’t possibly be aware of what’s going on in the world, right? We must be protesting because we want views on TikTok and oppression points.🙄

And let me point out that the counter-protesters at many schools, including mine, have been white boys and they’ve been being praised for “fighting for America and Israel.” A frat boy at Ole Miss is being praised all over social media for making monkey noises at a Black woman who was part of a pro-Palestine protest, he’s being hailed a hero for being racist to this woman. So the protesters (majority being women and POC) don’t really know what they’re protesting about, but the ones against them (majority white boys) do? The misogyny is so glaringly obvious I can’t believe it took me so long to notice.

Women, especially young women, who involve themselves in political discussions, protests, and activism are looked down on like crazy, while men seem to be praised for it. I’ve seen this happen to both liberal and conservative women, yet another example that neither side supports us. We’re assumed to not know anything about the topic and men think we only care about politics for clout or internet points.

The next time you say something like this about a protest, maybe examine why you think they must not know what they’re fighting for. Especially if you’re a woman yourself. We’ve long been made fun of in political discussions.

This will probably be the last time I talk about this topic but it needed to be said. Don’t even bother arguing with me, especially if you weren’t part of a protest, because I’m speaking from experience about the misogyny I’ve been facing. If you’d like to help the students who are facing unfair academic consequences for exercising their right to peacefully protest, DM me for info about petitions.

[josiebelladonna]

“90% oF aLl MeN aRe TrAsH”

no, the problem is men are not educated on a sexual level nearly enough. our (women’s) sexuality is studied down to the molecular level, but we just assume that men know about it because they start jerking off the very second they realize they have a penis. their sexuality is very monolithic (is it really, though?) and it’s often discarded to the side and treated as a joke. i am taking a huge leap of faith saying this but i guarantee you that rape culture wouldn’t exist if everyone had adequate sex education, not just women but men, too. adequate sex education and adequate access to sexual healthcare.

and the problem is “””””””feminists”””””””” making bullshit statements like this, not realizing that women coexist with men, and not realizing that you are being incredibly sexist, not just to men but to women, too, because you’re putting us up on a pedestal and thereby undoing everything women’s rights groups have worked for, because oh, yeah, no woman ever has cheated on a man before, no woman has ever abused a man in any way and took advantage of feminism to make it seem like he’s the abusive one when the marriage was clearly a sham (it’s not like there was a whole entire high-profile court case two years ago that revolved around that), no woman has ever used a man’s status to make a statement about something all because she’s too goddamn shy for her own good, and no woman has ever played a guy to get what she wants (it’s not like there’s thousands of popular songs out there that actually discuss this 🙄).

seriously, fuck right off with this. men are not trash. men are human beings and they need help. we’re getting plenty of help ourselves as women, but when you make statements like this, it makes the help we’re getting seem hollow, at least to me. they need help, and our help especially, probably more than ever after today.

[frostyyyroyalmilktea]

Why Vesna’s “My sister’s crown” in no feminist anthem but a Trojan horse filled with pro-russian messaging

My thoughts as a Ukrainian with a poli-sci degree.

I was debating whether to write this post but as the discourse around this song grows, I want to give people from other countries some context on the messaging used in the song and why Ukrainians are grossed out by it.

While I was writing it this post grew a mind of its own and I even ended up adding pictures so I'll fold the post here in case you don't care and just want to scroll through quickly.

First of all, it’s worth mentioning that this song attracted so much attention from Ukrainians because they use UKRAINIAN LANGUAGE in the chorus. It’s an important detail seeing how one of the singers is russian. A lot of Ukrainians share the opinion that letting a russian woman sing in our language is a completely vile thing to do to our culture. I agree with it too. But the abuse of our culture doesn’t stop there.

See this shot? This is supposed to be Borsch, a traditional Ukrainian dish. It’s worth mentioning that russia tried to appropriate this dish and in 2022 we fought tooth and nail to have UNESCO protect it as part of Ukrainian heritage. But back to the shot. The letters around it are supposed to symbolize russian propaganda. Great start🙄

But it gets better, lads. They start “feeding the propaganda” to the girl that —judging by stylistic choices as well as matryoshka makeup—  is supposed to represent russian people.

Right, so they *checks notes* use Ukrainian cultural dish —that russians almost succeeded in stealing from us— to show… what exactly? “Poor russians🥺 uwu” getting brainwashed? Oh, then let me grab my handkerchief. This is so so sad I think I’m about to cry😶😶😶

I mean, just a thought but if they wanted to show how shitty russian government treats its people, they could’ve recreated the historically accurate moment when russian tzar Ivan the Terrible shoved his underling’s face into a boiling soup. What does Ukraine and our long-suffering dish has to do with all this bs???

Now let’s talk about that “Crown”, that is supposed to belong to the sister (aka Ukraine). To me, as a poli-sci major, this is so stupid I don’t even know whether to laugh or cry. From the words of the band themself, where they explain —quite poorly might I say— the meaning of their song, we learn that “Crown” symbolizes the sovereignty of the 13 Eastern-European countries. Sounds perfectly valid. Here's a few random countries that I can remember from the top of my head in no particular order that have crowns in their symbols:

Coat of arms of the Czech Republic, Coat of arms of Serbia, Flag of Poland and Flag of Croatia

I actually decided that I don't want to have russian flag and emblem in this post because I don't want to look at it every time I scroll through, but you can go google it if you want, they have not one but two crowns on their emblem actually.

So what am I leading up to with all this flag-talk, you might ask. Well, the kicker is that THIS ⬇️ is Ukrainian emblem:

Not a crown in sight as you can see. I guess as a nation that was constantly fighting against imperial colonisation we’re not very fond of those. Who could’ve guessed🤷‍♀️

But the aforementioned two points are pretty circumstantial and in the grand scheme of things are not particularly significant. I felt compelled to point them out first to give people from other countries a bit of insight into the music video's visual. You are free to disagree with me on those. The main problem that triggers the majority of Ukrainians is the use of the word "sister". Listen, I know you don’t want to read a lecture on the nuance of Slav politics and I don’t really want to write it, I know you know how to google. So here’s the gist:

One of the BIGGEST narratives that russia is pushing in its export propaganda (aside from their go-to claim that all ukrainians are nazis) is that Slavs are all a family. Talk about shitty relatives, eh? But basically, it’s a lingering thing from USSR where russia exploited a bunch of neighboring countries and called this shit a “Union” (while convincing the rest of the world that those countries entered that union willingly and not under threats —or as a result of— hostile invasions, but I digress). So the way russia frames it is that russia is this big brother that "takes care of other little siblings”. Even writing it down made me want to barf🤢🤢🤢. This narrative was specifically very actively weaponized against Ukraine before the 2022 invasion. Its goal is to infantilize Ukraine as if we're not a whole-ass independent country, but a little sibling that doesn't know how to wipe their own ass. And that we just need good ol’ russia to come and save us from our own stupidity. I hope I shed some light on why this word specifically triggers us so much and why I think that this song has 0 to do with solidarity and overall is complete populistic bs with a generous dash of russian propaganda.

I want to emphasize that I didn’t make this post to fight or argue with anyone  but to give people another perspective if you’re interested in it from my pov as a Ukrainian. If you have other takes on it, I’d love to read them in the comments. Just please be respectful or I won’t interact.

This is all I have to say for today. Love, love, peace, peace, my dudes.

[wolfnesta]

I don’t see Mor as a savior of women. What has she really done? Not tell Rhys off about Illyarian women being abused and mutilated. Or are those titles she gave herself?

I get where you’re coming from anon. The abuse of Illyrian women is a whole ass topic but we’re given so little info. About my prev. answer and Mor being considered a savior of women is because she helped set up the Library as sanctuary for the priestesses, and also being how it’s a highlight Mor saving Feyre, it’s implied one of her things is to help abused women. I think there’s also a story about her and Miriam but I can’t recall.

Which brings me to my point that a case can be made that Nesta pushing everyone away/refusing help would give cause enough for Mor/IC not to actively go seeking her out to help her because it’s no one’s job to coddle her but with Mor it’s not that her character is rude to Nesta or just leaves her alone— it’s how canonically Mor is 100 percent all for Nesta— A. Getting sent to her place of abuse B. Just dumping her out of their lives. Which means she’s not all about women helping women right? Unless said abused woman is Niceee to her friends first of course. Only and only then are you deserving of healing apparently. Because if it’s anything more challenging than that let’s just chunk them to that one palace where we keep all the abusers 🙄🙄 and that’s not even taking into consideration Mor is a leader of the NC and as such I would think be capable of setting aside any biased feelings BUT it goes back to sjm for me. Sjm used the ‘Rhysand is the only HL to appoint females as leaders uwu what a feminist’ thing but failed to en body those said female characters uplifting each other when they’re anything but a nice victim. It’s truly a shame. The lost potential

[hxhhasmysoul]

bro get over ur 'performative feminism' idiocy 🙄 personally, i think half of ur analyses r shit but i can still find valuable or at least respectable commentary in them, just like i can find valuable or respectable commentary from those 'performative feminists.' as i should. bc thats how critique and discourse needs to be approached. just bc u can write a rant and do research doesnt mean ur arguments will be worth anything. and theyre prob not worth anything if u cant even respect the ppl ur addressing

I have to tell you, I’m fucking fascinated by this. There’s just so much here.

This will be an honest attempt at interpreting this, a long and at times quite serious reply to your rather unserious anon. 

What is the point of sending this, anon? When I get anons like this, I can’t help but muse what prompts their authors. 

1. I mean the least charitable interpretation would be that you want to insult me but in a way that to you subjectively upholds the pretence of respectability or intellectualism? 

2. Or maybe your goal is to actually encourage me to change my behaviour?  

3. Maybe you want to educate me on the proper way to do fandom “discourse”? Or on the merits of the philosophy you present here?

Any of those? None? All of the above a little bit? 

______________

If option 1 was your sole objective, I’d say it works only as an insult. The tone of your ask is all over the place and it doesn’t really match its content. If I were writing this, I wouldn’t have called my analyses “shit” and the “performative feminism” “idiocy” while chastising me for lack of respect for the opinions of others. I don’t mind you matching my lowbrow energy and tone, it’s just that in my opinion you contradict your point by going down to my level.

Maybe something closer to this:

“(...)the phrase ‘performative feminism’ doesn’t have a place in proper critique or discourse(...)”

“(...)I find half of you analyses poor quality, unwarranted or downright wrong(...)”

______________

If you were aiming for 2 exclusively then, alas, shaming and condescension doesn’t work on me at all, for personal reasons. 

______________

Third option is the one actually fascinating to me. You’re not the first person here that would be trying to lecture me on how there is a right approach to fandom “discourse”, namely your way. But you know, why not. I too hold very strong beliefs.

There are two issues with this working, though.

1. I don’t find your argument internally coherent. I will try to interpret what you’re saying, to show you how I understand it. Which may be completely contrary to what you were trying to say.

2. If my reading of what you’re trying to say is close to your intentions, I sense that we’re not really close ideologically and we don’t share values. 

1. 

The way I understand your last sentence is that according to you an opinion loses its value by default if it doesn’t meet some respectability standards. 

Yet a few sentences up you claim that you manage to find some “valuable or at least respectable commentary” in my rants, I’m not 100% sure which rants do you mean exactly here. All of them? Or just those that are “shit”? How can you find value in something that you seem to consider to be by default void of value? 

I’ll be real, idk what “respectable commentary” could possibly be, but if I show no respect to the people I address, then how could my commentary be respectable. 

This confusion is also amplified by the mismatch of tone and message. Because according to the rules you laid out I should disregard what you’re saying completely, because how can your arguments be worth anything if you aren’t showing respect to me. 

2. 

And here we come to the clash of values. 

The way I understand yours, is that you subject yourself to fandom takes that you find low quality or wrong because that’s the right thing to do. That according to you we should all strive to find something positive in all sides of an issue. 

It reminds me of the centrist political “both-sidedism” almost turned into an art form. And centrism irks me because I’m a nasty lefty, a social justice warrior. I’m very far from the so-called “centre”, which in real politics is usually just non extremist right wing ideology. I will use “leftism” as an umbrella term here for various ideas, both economic and social, including feminism. It's a very reductive approach but in this case I don’t think a distinction is needed. 

Social media platforms can have a heavy political slant, and fandom Tumblr on average slants left.

The problem is that in many cases it’s image building and not true understanding of the issues that comprise the political leaning. It’s using, but more often misusing buzzwords and appropriating language, sometimes in active attempts to render words or terms meaningless. All in the pursuit of maintaining the image of being “for the good things and against the bad things”. It’s a performance.

Performance that is self perpetuating because the people, who indulge in it, will pressure one another to express “correct opinions” on whatever is the hot topic of the hour. To always be available for outside scrutiny. Those people feel obliged to have public opinions, and have them fast.

Fandom and social media are a funny territory where petty arguments about characters or plot choices get mired in real world political topics and ideologies. While it is true that art is always political, political criticism usually can’t be nailed down in one catch phrase. And it definitely can’t be done without honestly engaging with the text and the context it exists in. 

In the JJK Tumblr tags you will find a shit ton of posts, no longer than a paragraph, usually no longer than a single sentence, that call Gege a misogynist, that say that “Gege hates women”. And they will usually use one argument for that, namely that female characters die in JJK. Or more recently, that they are irrelevant to the plot. Both these takes stem from bastardisation of academic discourse surrounding female characters in fiction. They are in bad faith, they show that the person reflexively regurgitating them has no desire to engage with the text seriously and probably doesn’t know where such considerations came from, or understand how they functioned in their original context. But sometimes you will see more dedicated clout-chasers, who try to write meta posts on the misogyny in JJK without having a basic understanding of feminism, just trying to string together popular hot takes. Just to show that they don’t “mindlessly” consume media, that they are not afraid to criticise it and its author, an all out a woman hater. Show it in the most vapid and thoughtless way possible. 

That’s why they are a performance. And this performance is to build the image of the op as a feminist, a "Tumblr good person". That’s why they use the trappings of feminist critique. That’s why I call it “performative feminism”. 

An important thing to understand about me is that I don’t treat leftism as a zero sum game. I believe that political movements, organisations, people and works of art, can be doing some leftist things right and some wrong. That perfection on this is impossible. But there are also non negotiable issues, issues that you can’t really do a bit right, because human dignity, safety and livelihood is at stake. For example I’m not interested in listening to people who will condone genocide, I don’t think I should try to find value in their arguments. But I also don’t find value in reactions to genocide that dehumanise and use genocidal language towards a different group, even if a subset of that group is committing genocide. For me genocide is a non negotiable issue. I don’t respect people who try to perform support for genocide victims by justifying genocide others. People who instead of donating to relief support, or promoting relief support and direct pressure on government, chase clout by shouting out their vile opinions under the guise of supporting the victims, regardless whether they understand their own bias or not. 

But you may say that I’m exaggerating, using a real life issue to illustrate my disagreement with your values, when maybe you were just limiting your philosophy to fiction. But my character flaw is that I’m very principled. Especially when it comes to my grander principles trickling down to more trivial stuff. 

I don’t think I should respect people who appropriate and misuse feminist language to chase social media clout. I don’t find any value in their behaviour. I find it actually harmful. It reinforces this trend in first world leftism that activism can be done by yelling the right buzzwords on social media. Especially the right buzzwords about popular media. That activism and social critique doesn’t require engaging with the ideas, interrogating their own preconceived notions. That it makes them a “good person” when they misuse academic language to shit on a work just because it’s popular, just because they want the clout of an intellectual who can see through the mainstream. While it’s painfully obvious that they have no idea what feminist critique academic or casual is, or what the words they abuse mean, or what modern feminism even entails. 

Can you see how funny it is? This idea that they can position themselves as above the mainstream, as the betters of those who enjoy mainstream, by reflexively regurgitating the most popular hot takes. And this lazy behaviour is purely voluntary because no one has to have an opinion on everything. It’s actually impossible to have an in-depth and well researched opinion on everything. So if you don’t have the time to do research, or to even properly familiarise yourself with the work you have the very valid choice not to. Have the choice not to parrot a hot take for the sole purpose of performing activism. You have the choice to just divert your attention elsewhere, towards things that you will engage with in good faith. 

Because this kind of bad faith approach can lead to darker things. Because you can actually make yourself believe that your behaviour isn’t just a vapid social media act, you can convince yourself that you’re on some moral high ground, that you’re actually fighting against evil.

If Gege is a misogynist, if they hate women, it means that they are actually vile, a bad person and it’s ok to use violent ideation while writing about them. This is normalising dehumanisation for clout points. Priming yourself for viewing people and situations like this.

Gege is kind of an abstract entity for these people, it feels harmless because, come on, they will never meet Gege. And obviously this is all hyperbole and they wouldn’t really get violent. 

I witnessed it in real time when a group of people in fandom decided that my friend was a bad person. Over trivial fandom shit. They dehumanised my friend amongst themselves and proceeded to attack my friend for months, until they left Tumblr. Attack them in racist, misogynist and queerphobic ways, while claiming it’s okay because my friend is an actual evil person, they are actually dangerous for existing in the fandom. And also their attacks are okay because they are PoC/queers/women and as members of these groups their behaviour can't be racist, queerphobic or misogynist by deafault…

You also misunderstand my actions towards those people. I’m not engaging in “discourse” with them. This is not academia, I’m not an academic. I’m pushing back against their behaviour. I’m expressing my distaste towards the groupthink. I’m not pretending to be respectable because I don’t think their behaviour deserves respect.  

This is the crux of our disagreement, anon, our values don’t align.

[justzawe]

RIGHT… 🙄

So that’s why she auditioned for the Loki role but lost out to Gugu Mbatu-Raw? She respects independent filmmakers.

That’s why she posed with Harvey Weinstein before the allegations came to light about him? Because she loves working with female directors.

That’s why she referred to new actors who turned to the superhero franchises as going and “put on a cape for four years”? Because she’d rather help a new writer and/or director get their script off the ground.

That’s why a lot of her roles she was cast in before meeting Tom came via the production company of her ex, Oliver Harbottle? Because she’s a feminist and her list of “no’s” is from her turning the roles down, not the casting agents passing on her.

Yeah, OK then. Keep gaslighting yourself that this chick isn’t craving the Hollywood fame that is now coming her way. She “worked hard” and didn’t just lay back and sleep her way to the top.

Lol let me address these one by one, you gross misogynistic freak

Oh, y’all are still pushing that lie that she auditioned for Loki? Just straight pulled that out of your asses. Next

Lol she took a pic with him once at an industry party and was never seen with him again. A lot of celebs have a pic with him. And?

This one doesn’t make any sense. What does her talking about the lack of diverse roles being available for newcomers, have to do with her wanting to work with female directors?

Again, and? You can have a production company with your partner and still be a feminist. I’m sure she turned stuff down and also got rejected for roles she wanted. Zawe has been very open that rejection in the industry is something that she’s very used to, and what a lot of actors go through. You thought you did something here 💀

And now we’re back to square one, you being a misogynistic little freak. This all boils down to you being angry over the fact that Zawe was able to snag your fave. You’re acting disgusting like this over a MAN. A man you don’t know personally and who will never know you. STAND UP

[josephtrohman]

your cat dog person analogy is soooo true

sorry to go off rn but those m cr fans are just soooo bitter for no fucking reason. they think their morals have to align with their music tastes and find any sort of way to find any sort of dirt on other bands they don’t enjoy. example i constantly see callout posts for band guys that usually overlap with similar fans and music with m cr. look i know band guys can suck and obviously they shouldn’t be praised like saints, but these out of nowhere callouts for band dudes i see are always from m cr accounts. are you actually wanting to call out shitty behavior or do you just want points for being high and moral because youre the fan of the most unproblematic feminist anti capitalist band who’s never done anything wrong?

they always pick and choose on who’s worthy enough to even be liked on some level of m cr example i remember seeing posts about how the savior m cr were the only ones there for paramore 😫🥹 they are just so cool like that!! no other bands were there for paramore 😞

they act like they are the underdogs and how nobody understands them, but i constantly see several thousand notes about how cool the band is on my dash every so often

they will always call other bands cringe or saying they never understood the assignment with their newer stuff or how they were just never on their level of punk rock in the first place. i seen people say m cr has always made consistently good music unlike those other bands who are pop sell outs but bitch your band hasn’t put anything new out in a decade how tf do u know 💀

sorry to go off, but god damn it’s just music, stop, whatever happened to the emo trinity, you all use to love that, what happened

thank you bestie!!!! NEVER be sorry for going off i am always here for it!!! especially when it’s well thought out like this. cuz a lot of my opinions UNFORTUNATELY boil down to “mcr fans annoying” (OBVIOUSLY not including my moderate mcrtuals!!!). im putting the rest of my response under the cut cuz i also popped off but a tldr is: u are the best and i love u.

i absolutely agree with everything you had to say here tho…like why do these people act this way. like babes your guys are embarrassing sometimes too or whatever. we all saw frank having an overpriced garage sale of his trash or whatever recently. not really anti-capitalistic to me sounds like!! that’s crazy about the thing you said about paramore tho cuz it’s like. what does that even mean to be a saviour of paramore????? as if they need saving?????? that doesn’t sit right with me for SURE to imply that 😡

sooooo real about the underdogs comment cuz like. i think that mcr feels like the most popular of the “emo trinity” of times past. it’s not like i know this for a fact but i don’t know anyone else irl that is into fob that i HAVENT specifically got them into them!!! whereas i feel like i have so many friends who are into mcr but had never listened to fob until i sent them my playlists. and also another piece of info that backs it up is i’ve gone to 4 emo nights in the last year, and the reception of when they play the black parade vs like…sugar we’re going down is like a BIG difference. except for maybe the specific fob edition, the crowd i would say is duller during sugar like 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄. also like i think you can tell by the dynamics on tumblr too, i feel like there’s like 20 fob girlies and every other bitch is an mcr fan here. we’re outnumbered like CRAZY. and the amount of times i’ve seen people be like “if mcr ain’t your fave from the emo trinity = 🚩” but people NEVER say that about fob. i think i had another example but lost my train of thought bc people are talking around me LMFAO

ALSO THAT SECOND LAST PARAGRAPH LMFAOOOO GET THEIR ASS!!!!!! literally it’s not that deep, it’s music, i get spicy bc i’m frustrated with fob being treated this way from people fob fans are allegedly supposed to be “making out with” or whatever. like i know i’m insane about my four men but they are like INSAAANE about their four men and it’s not in a cute way. as i always say, mcr and fob as bands respect each other and i GUARANTEE the mcr guys wouldn’t want fob to be treated the way these crusty ass mcr mainies treat them. god.

this was rambly, i have no idea if any of this was smart or good, but my main takeaway is to say THANK YOU FOR THIS!!!!!!! and i always appreciate the support ofc bc i’m worried i’m going to be eaten alive by the mcr fans bc they have a history of eviscerating us.

[this-daydream-is-dangerous-13]

What are your thoughts on OW using the sex scenes (and made them seem as something revolutionary) in DWD to promote the movie as some kind of feministic message about female pleasure, when it ended up that the women there were in a simulation and couldn't give consent? It's sad that Florence was misunderstood about the whole thing and made out to look like she is not a feminist and was just hating on Olivia just to hate on her (and was being jealous apparently because of Harry??), while she was bringing up valid points about the false promotion around it. Even now that Oppenheimer came out there were so many people that were saying that she's not complaining about the sex scenes just because the movie is directed by a man and she can't say anything against him, but could definitely attack O, when her issues weren't even the sex scenes themselves, but the length at which they were utilized as part of the promotion. She's being made out to be unprofessional and whiny and is the butt of the joke for a while now because of it, I find it disgusting that everyone seems to have forgotten about Olivia's actions and lengthy interviews about it. Even WB came out defending her. 🙄

There's an interview with Harry talking about how him being a part of sex scenes feels like he's giving a part of himself and it's really intimate for him. I can't imagine how he must have felt about the whole thing. Your girlfriend exploiting your sex scenes just to advance herself and making everyone uncomfortable in the process. The very thing he's trying to shed as part of his image being the 'sex symbol' that he was made out to be from a very young age being used in such a way. And he also talked about trusting her with those kinds of things. Makes me feel uneasy just thinking about it. 🤮

(Side note: O going out of her way to praise Harry for letting Florence shine is so weird. Florence has been a professional actress for YEARS, she doesn't need to be grateful to a man for letting her shine and make it out like she owes him for doing so. Like, 'Thank God if it weren't for Harry Styles accepting a side character, I wouldn't have been the star of my own movie'. (Nothing personal about Harry, just the way she made it seemed out to be and made me annoyed about it and roll my eyes) Praising men in general for just being decent humans and doing the bare minimum doesn't sit right with me. It's the least they could do. Especially in an industry where if one doesn't like being a side character, they can just not accept the job. Those are usually the men who are already successful actors and have a say and the entitlement and ego to do so, like Brad Pitt for example, they don't need the money like some other actors do, they can cherry pick all they want. Other people with not much experience, or not being already established in the industry in my opinion would just seem ungrateful to be whining about it. Quite frankly, The Weeknd exists, so I get where she was coming from, but still it feels weird.)

I love both Harry and Florence so much I get really heated about all this. At times it feels as if she was trying to pit them against each other.

Ooooof, we’re approaching the anniversary of this mess, anon, and it is giving me hives. What a big old mess.

I agree with a whole lot of what you said, especially the uneasiness for H and the weird emphasis OW placed on the scenes that made both Florence and H feel…vulnerable/used/like sexual objects? And in this movie about violating consent? 🤮🤮 I don’t want to pile on OW (ah…any more than I already have) but she seems to fundamentally misread situations over and over again. As she did in her promo interviews, and the “explaining to H what an apron is” stuff. Except this was way worse.

I actually don’t fault OW for praising H because he was willing to take a secondary role to a woman; she is right that so few actors are. Have we seen Leo do that since Titanic? But what I found weird was: what about Chris Pine, who did the same thing *in this movie*? And seems to be willing to do it often? THAT was weird to me, and made me think “she’s praising her boyfriend and overlooking others.” That and the stuff you pointed out—as if Florence needs help!

And as a side note, ooof. Brad Pitt. I know you were using him as an example (like Clooney) of someone who can pick and choose, but I cannot in good conscience let his name stand without pointing out how f*cking problematic his behaviour towards women, esp. AJ and kids is and how he gets away with it. I haaate it. Huge double standard. And it pains me to admit it because I am old and young Brad Pitt (like A River Runs Through It and Legends of the Fall era) was the star of all my tween dreams. But gross. Brad’s reckoning is coming.

[the-rainbow-lesbian]

"is it just me because I haven’t been spending a lot of time here or did the blackpilled group go quiet? I haven’t seen any posts recently calling women dickworshippers…"

i wonder if it could be possible that a lot of these kinds of posts are specifically referring to asian radfems who DO use this kind of language? i know that a lot of chinese/taiwanese radfems post on here as of this year although basically none post in english/tag their stuff or interact with english radfems, they're all highly critical of radfems with boyfriends and find them hypocritical/laughable, whereas with english radfems it feels more like a lot of women on here are quite TRA-rhetoric with their "everybody is valid" mentality. i think there's a huge difference between mocking "normie" women with boyfriends vs mocking "radfems" with boyfriends. what exactly is liberation from patriarchy and why do asian radfems have the answer figured out but we're all still arguing about whether or not nigel=bad and if lesbians are oppressing osa women? 🙄 (if you're willing to use browser translation extension, i highly recommend looking into weibo, the radfem communities on there are massive and super unified+informative. literally night and day compared to here lol)

anon so you’re telling me they are offended by women who don’t write posts in english or tag them so these western osa bloggers have to put in the effort to find and translate them? even though these women are quite literally minding their own business?

in general there’s a difference between how people from collectivist cultures and individual cultures see things, for example I feel like in western/english speaking spaces online there is a lot of emphasis on identity rather than action. (so you kinda have a point there with the TRA mentality because they’re more concerned with the label than the actions and beliefs) women on here can call themselves radfems and then feel like someone is taking away their identity of being a radfem when they are questioned on how their actions contradict their beliefs, but did calling themselves radfems in the first place mattered if they don’t fit the criteria? I feel like they sense this on some way which is why they get incredibly defensive in a childish way and feel the need to have everyone validate them and their choices when again it doesn’t hold any real impact on their personal lives. heterosexual relationships are literally the norm and radical feminist spaces are so scarce that you don’t even have to fear criticism (god forbid activist group members challenge each other and hold themselves to a standard) from other radical feminists once you shut off the internet.

idk like??? the future really looks bleak for us because you’re right we can’t unify on anything and it’s exhausting as a lesbian seeing osa women saying we’re incels and only want separatism so we can coerce them into being in a relationship with us and how lesbians are just the worst and in their dystopian fantasy that seems real to them we basically have all the power like some anonymous users online on this silly platform telling them “maybe dating men isn’t the safest thing to do and statistically speaking women are happier without them” is exactly like how lesbians get assaulted for not being into men told by their religious leaders they’re sinners for their sexuality and then getting sent to conversion therapy camps. I feel like if you seriously think that in any capacity you lack critical thinking skills and I seriously question your ability to engage with other women with empathy and compassion.

[tea-with-evan-and-me]

She’s still talking and writing songs about jake gyllenhaal. It’s been more than ten years (and we’re talking about a relationship that lasted only a few months).. C’mon 🙄

Okay I know this isn't Taylor swift blog but I'm that annoying person who always have to correct people so I just want to say that she isn't currently writing about Jake gyllenhaal. She did rerelease her album that has songs about him but they're all 10 years old and she does it to own all the rights to her work!

it's alright! and just so you know, i am aware of this. that the song is from a past album and she's been bombarding all of us with re-releases because of her bum record deal.. but she made a whole short film about that song and their relationship, so the point still stands that she did a dramatic retelling of her short time with jake gylenhaal lol which would be reasonable, except some of us find it tiring that everything she does has to be associated with not-quite-naming and shaming her famous ex-lovers. and no, despite what she might say, this is not some anti-feminist media agenda that is causing it. she is, she knows this, and she is leaning all the way in because people eat it up. her stans love the lore associated with each song/album, each ex-boyfriend, each ''era''. some people love it, some people don't, and that's fine. enough people love it that she is a mega star so obviously she has no reason to switch up now.

[thegreymoon]

Love Like the Galaxy

LMAO, seriously, you could have missed one day of court 🤣🤣

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Wait, is she trying to stir up trouble in her marriage??

Smh. I thought the Crown Princess was one of the good guys 😠

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Horrendous.

This woman is evil, Jesus Christ. 

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Good for her, honestly.

I hope her friends in the Palace help her get away with it. 

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Oh, she was framed 😕 Less satisfying than having her kill him herself, but it’s still a good thing he’s dead. 

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Oh? 👀

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I can’t believe I’m starting to like him, smh. 

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Oh, drop dead, you old witch.

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OMFG, DIVORCE HER

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We are all asking the same question 🙄

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OMG, YES, PLEASE!

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LMFAO, the sincerity with which she asks that 🤣🤣

Cutie, when have you not caused trouble? 

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Aaaaand, he’s back to being a negging piece of trash 🙄

My dude, this is not how you get a girl to like you! 

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As unpleasant as he is, he does have a point, though. Here they are, letting this fifteen-year-old girl walk all over the crime scene. He’s right, she has no skills related to solving murders, but just watch them have her come up with the key to solving the crime 🙄🙄

Also, 

Girl, now is not the time for your feminist ideas!

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LMAO, I love him and his methods!

He has neither the time nor the patience for anyone’s nonsense! 

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What an unsatisfying conclusion to this case. And now we’re back where we started, in the palace. 

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LMAOOO, THEY SET HIM UP!! SHE SET HIM UP!!!

Consort Yue remains the best! 

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LMAO, this Emperor is really incapable of killing anyone, isn’t he? 

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I love her pettiness 🤣🤣

Her getting revenge for various wrongs done to her and those close to her, big or small, was one of the best points of this drama! 

[queenhosana]

The amount of people that missed the message in this statement is astounding. So many people are like, well what about the woman? She's a partner, not to be led. 🙄 Tell us your wounded and have issues with submitting without telling us. OBVIOUSLY the woman was created to be man's HELP MATE in the partnership called marriage. What does that mean boys and girls? You HELP him lead, but he's still THE LEAD. If he doesn't know how to you're role is to help him get there with prayer, talking through the situations & supporting him where he needs it so that HE can make the right decision for y'all. Women leading in the home when there's a king present is backwards and out of order. God would've created Eve first if that's what He was looking for. He would've made a woman Israel's first Judge, first King. He didn't. He gave man dominion and when he saw that man was lacking by himself, he created us from man & put in woman everything man was short on. Hence why we're more emotional, intelligent (no disrespect), introspective, multi-tasking, etc. If you found yourself with a boy where you had to step & lead cuz y'all was finna crash, just say that. Stop trying to give women as a whole a role they never really wanted. Personally I'm a queen waiting to HELP my king rule. I want to be called on only when it matters, you can have all the responsibilities! Its too much for me and I'm not built for that. When I didn't have a choice I handled mine, but thats cuz I had to. I'd rather be loving on people, building our empire, getting pampered & loved on, & minding all the business God called me to. Who wants the weight of the world on their shoulders when God never called them to it? I used to think I did, buying into that feminist bullshit. Then be crying cuz you got this load & no help. DUUHHHHH!! Ain't no help mate for the help mate!Don't get me wrong, I'm for us, ALL DAY. But there's levels & layers to this and y'all been doing WAY TOO MUCH. Go sit down and let that man lead. Help him when it's needed, & let him figure it out while you handle yours otherwise. Society done got this so twisted, the enemy barely has to lift a finger to sabotage. We do it for him. Daily. https://www.instagram.com/p/CZnCbmmP69u/?utm_medium=tumblr

[thepreggochronicles]

This month has been so shitty~~~~~ for meeeeee🎵

So I’m blogging again, you know what that means.

I’m depressed, haha *finger guns*

It’s all good though because I’m feeling slightly hopeful today. I applied to Tar-Jay and hopefully I get it and they are willing to be flexible with me and shit. I honestly cannot take another demanding job right now. I just got a super nice desk job, it was litty, I had my own office, felt like such an adult but unfortunately they turned out to be assholes so I had to quit. They literally asked me to get on a step ladder at 7 months pregnant. Like if you want me to die just say so and fire me bitch, but they knew they couldn’t fire me because that would be *discrimination* so they just kept making me feel more and more uncomfortable until I quit. Also the commute was an hour there and back so it was definitely not the vibes. Now I’m trying to be wifey status which if you know me, you know is something I’ve never wanted to ever do or become. Ugh and it sucks cause when you’re a mom you kinda have no choice because then it’s like you gotta cook for your kids and family. 🙄 it’s not that bad honestly but the feminist in me hates it. Devon is great though like he will cook and clean too. Hell he cooks and cleans more than I do it just so happens that now I’m home all the time now so his only request was that I cook. Lmao that’s it just cook. Cleaning is like an eh cause he knows me 😂 so I’ll keep you guys updated on how that goes. I’m feeling very frustrated lately and I just hate that all this stuff is happening right now of all the times. I know there’s never really a good time for bad shit to happen but damn. It feels like financially Devon and I have not been able to catch a fucking break. He even got his new job that’s pays good and now I have to stop working. Like Jesus Christ. Even two weeks without me working is fucking catastrophic to us because we’ve been working so hard to move and pay our bills and just get caught up on everything. I do kinda miss La Grande, our rent was cheap af there. I’m also not super in love with our new apartment, we had to pick it out while we weren’t living here and kinda just settled on it but now that we’re living here there’s a lot of things that are not so great about it. The fireplace is in a weird spot so we can’t even use it. It’s super off centered to one side of the wall and the architect who made this place must have been high. He also must have made the roads because the roads here don’t have any fucking sense either. Anyway it’s always going to be hard moving to a new place. At least we have Brandon and Hannah. I’m hoping and praying that it gets better soon. Maybe once I have the baby and I can drink and stuff again I’ll at least have an outlet to deal with shit again. I would give anything to just after a bad day be able to have one trulys. It’s also the end of the pregnancy which is where a lot of reality starts to set in. I’m just anxious af right now and there’s so much to think/overthink about. Also I think Odin still has fucking fleas even though we’ve done everything to get rid of them. They’re gonna do a treatment on him I hope it works. Ughhhhhh…

[justme21stcentury]

mayabc666 said: Why can’t y'all just let women have a game focused on them without crying “but what about the men???” every day?

hamiltrash-32000 said: So you want equality for women to have women focused books and refuse to let people wish they had male focused books? Almost every single book is gender locked and there is always an oproar over it being genderlocked. But one just asking for a male equivalent of a female book, that’s too much to ask? Oh yeah, so equal 🙄

ethangpeck said: “Let’s show our support for women and prove we’re feminists with naked misandry!” 😂

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Am I honesty reading this right?   Has the world really come to this point?   Where only MOTHERS should be allowed to be celebrated?   I mean yeah I get it that the society has turned into a women in power so we rule America and all .... but have we gotten to the point where fathers are no longer allowed to even say that they are fathers to children?    

These above comments to this confession is why feminist movement is now the #1 sorry ass SJW movement in the entire world.

Sent by @xxxsimplyhookedxxx

‘I would love to see a Father of the year type book where the father is a widower raising a toddler ... and have the issue be the mother's side of the family be taking a hard line on him not being capable of raising a child on his own. After all we now of a book solely on motherhood now we need one on fatherhood.’

POST/CONFESSIONS DO NOT REFLECT THE MOD’S PERSONAL OPINIONS!