#but tiktok tells me to fuck off

[eniokai]

Random post with my old edit

[sleepy-crypt1d]

One of my favorite parts of COF that I find is commonly overlooked is the fact that it doesn't sanitized itself for a broader audience, it comes in with a message, with a story to tell that's hard to swallow with characters that are realistic and heartbreaking, and it doesn't apologize for this once.

Something interesting that occurred to me was how people who have never experienced severe mental health struggles view COF- the specific instance I'm thinking of is when I was explaining the plot to my mom, and had explained the different endings to her and how to get those endings, and what each one seemed to imply both for Simon and his relationship with those in his life, and her takeaway from the conversation was- "I don't like that the mentally ill main character becomes a killer. I don't like that he's the bad guy"

And this was interesting to me because, that's kind of the whole reason why I started to love Simon in the first place.

So infrequently are we shown mentally ill characters who do bad things yet still deserve redemption. Who still deserve to be treated as a person, because they are one. In a world that is becoming largely comfortable with the idea "bad person = deserves to die" it was insanely refreshing to see a character like Simon, who we see hurt people, who we see become obsessed and stalkerish and violent, gain redemption through healing. Through therapy and community and the belief from others that he will get better. That he isn't a lost cause.

In ending 2, one of the darker endings of the experience, we learn that Simon is alone. That his friends and family have all left him. That he's been abandoned due to his disability and general mental health struggles, and this was devastating to me. Upsetting to a degree that had me thinking about it for days afterward. Not helped by Simon's plea to Dr. Purnell to not feel bad because "not everyone can be saved". The way Simon views himself is much too similar to my own view of myself as someone who has struggled with similar issues.

As someone who was led down a path of harm due to untreated issues and still struggles with believing I "deserve" redemption.

Because I do, and so does he.

And it's always so upsetting seeing so many people who view victims as one note stories. As people who just cry sometimes and have trouble talking to people or get sad every once in awhile. Mental health is messy and hard to live with and life ruining at times, and this stripping of it's nuance is so frustrating to see happen over and over and over again.

Victims are not your savior story. They are not cookie cutter helpless children that need to be protected. Abuse and severe struggles do not make you stronger, they do not make you better, they do not magically make you more empathetic or loving and I'm fucking tired of that narrative. I'm tired of being talked over by people who've never experienced it or other victims who think they're the "good" ones because, well, they never did that which means anyone who did is horrible. I'm tired of stories of illness being sanitized for other people's comfort.

Victims can become perpetrators, that does not take away from their victim status. That does not change the fact that they still deserve help. That does not take away from their personhood. They are a human being that needs help, not a death sentence. Should they take accountability? Of fucking course. Does their trauma absolve them of wrongdoing? No. But I'm tired of people acting like cycles don't exist, like the second you act out on your trauma you're past saving.

Simon's story is perfect the way it is. A story of redemption and acceptance, of learning to live and grow and learn from past mistakes and find a way to live peacefully. To take responsibility and attempt to rekindle the relationships you lost, the ones you hurt.

Ending 4 and his admittance to the hospital, as well as his continued friendship with Sophie but acceptance of his loss of a romantic one, is heart breakingly bittersweet in a way that is hard for me to describe. Him getting better but living with what he's done, growing from it and learning to live anyways.

Another part of this is that, in his happy ending, in the ending where he does get better; he doesn't do it alone. Largely, the narrative of community is lost in these stories, how helpful a support system can be. Simon gets better because he has people there for him, because he has Purnell and Sophie and his mom looking out for him. He has his doctors and the staff at the hospital and people who know he can get better, that he's still a person deserving and capable of good.

People need people, and this seems an obvious note to me in the story of COF. Simon needs people. He needed people the entire time. Someone, anyone, to listen to him and give him the hand he needed.

And it's so refreshing to see a character like Simon still be loved and cared about and helped even when he was "the bad guy". Let mental ill characters be realistic. I'm begging you.

[chadillacboseman]

I WILL MAKE JANUARY 6TH LOOK LIKE A BABY SHOWERRRRR

GIVE ME BACK MY TIKTOK

[solisitude]

quite literally could not fit this into the comment section of the video logically so im just making a post here because i think its important. not my usual content but idc.

i saw this video today.

and it just. pissed me off beyond belief so i decided to sit and refute every single one of her statements because she's just. wrong. so here we go!

I find this utterly disrespectful and just plain out wrong so I'm going to talk a bit about Islam because by your very directed comments it's clear that it's a religion you see as deeply problematic. Purity culture by definition is a Christian movement. "Religion" does not promote that, facets of Christianity do. Sexual abstinence is not something Islam asks people to strive towards, it simply keeps sexual intimacy within marriage. Virginity has no real hold in Islam beyond not having sex until you are married and this applies to both women and men. There is absolutely no concept of staying completely away from sex in the same way Priests or Nuns do. Women's modesty and sexuality are not patrolled in isolation, in the same way women have what we call an awrah (portion of you body that needs to be covered) men ALSO have an awrah. Just as hijab is mandatory for women, not shaving your beard is mandatory for men. These are indicators of our religion and things we believe bring us closer to God. Do not presume to understand why women wear the hijab. No where in Islam are you condemmed to hell for simply existing. In Islam you are condemmed for ACTIONS in the afterlife, granted you never seek forgiveness for them and even then God may forgive you because He is Most Forgiving. It is unfathomable that you are punished for something out of your control. Not being able to hold the Quran when menstruating has absolutely nothing to do with being "impure" it is simply a state of Wudhu. In Islam we can not pray or hold the Quran unless we are in a state of Wudhu in which we purify ourself with water. There are factors which break wudhu one of which is bleeding. If a man cut himself and was bleeding continuously, he would ALSO not be allowed to touch it. As we are continuously bleeding, we physically can not be in a state of Wudhu. All our Prophets are men because it is historically factual that sometimes no matter HOW hard we fight and HOW logical we sound, some men simply will not listen to a women simply because we are women. There would be people who refused logic just because a women was talking to them, ESPECIALLY during the time in which prophethood occured. In Islam we don't really have religious leaders, we have islamic scholars- called Aalims and Aalimas. There are both men and women scholars. The Prophet (S. A. W)' wife Aaisha (R.A.) famously relayed the MOST hadith (words and behaviours of thr Prophet (S.A.W)) out of all the Sahaba (people who knew the Prophet (S.A.W)). Do not presume you are able to talk for all women when it comes to the fight of feminism. It is in no way true that the only reason we have progressed as women is because we "strayed from religion" when my religion has only made me believe in feminism more. My greatest role model is a woman who fiercely protected my Prophet (S.A.W) in battle. I didn't come in here for a fight, but do not make broad statements about "religion" when you are blatantly wrong. If your problem is with people and the way they perpetuate misogyny and cover it up with the flimsy shroud of "this is what my religion says" and you take that at face value, then thats not my problem or anyone elses. People are flawed. My religion is not.

[roughroadhaley]

you know from a PR standpoint Roy having his brand be “asshole who curses a lot” is actually perfect. Because either he’s a dick to a fan, like they’d expect, so who cares or he’d be nice and it’d be a pleasant surprise for them that would make their day.

There’s no big exposé coming about “Roy Kent secretly mean manager” lol

[thisbisexualbrainrot]

hi Supernatural community 👋🏻

As a long time member, an elder if you will, I would like to remind you all that telling any of the actors to unalive themselves is super fucked up and absolutely never okay

I don’t care if you don’t like them

shut your fucking mouth and be respectful or don’t interact with them at all

[dyslexic-fool]

Zuckerberg actually fucking got tiktok. I've been having this problem before the Meta boycott on Instagram where I would constantly get bombarded with shitsrael ads (its only ever been on Meta apps I've never had this problem with shitter surprisingly) and I just fucking got one on tiktok I'm so fucking pissed I HAVE NEVER HAD THAT SHIT BEFORE AND GOT A FUCKING INSTAGRAM AD AFTERWARDS ACTUALLY FUCK OFF YOU LIZARD

[artioprotection]

I honestly hate how people on tiktok talk about fics because the most popular funny videos are just MEAN.

"why you like a rare pair but the tag has only one author that sucks!!"

"when you're reading a good fic only for the author to add in art that so ugly 🤢🤢🤢🤢"

"those cringey song fics 🤭🤭🤭🤭"

"AUTHORS UPDATE TOO SLOW GIVE ME FIC NOW!!!!"

"the author hasn't updated in like a month!? Did they abandoned the fic????"

"girlies we need to take matters into our own hands" *them using chatgpt to finish the fic*

"LOL LOOK AT THIS FETISH WTFFFF"

"Omegaverse is everywhere for this ship help!!!"

And of course so much making fun of the author learning how to write and how they describe things that range from this person clearly is learning/not that experienced in this to just hatred towards poetic writing they will again label cringe for being to heart felt.

Everything I wrote is examples I have actually seen by some high school to college aged person that hasn't figured out that making fanfics is a hobby people do in their spare time and if you really want something specific you need to find a writer that does commissions instead of harassing a person playing around. I just can't stand it!!! It's just so demanding, so impatient, so deliberately ignorant and so so mean!! I too have fanfics I don't read or find annoying but guess what? I figured out most of them are written by literal children or is simply a style I don't like! It doesn't hurt me and I can easily just not read them!

It also feels so just non communal? Idk how to describe it but these guys are finding others online that loves the same thing as them and instead of being happy are running off to talk shit about them behind their back because they're still better then the person that writes the fic in a superficial way. No joy is found in finding an author that's writing for a rarepair you like, no joy is found in an artist that was loving this same fic as you so much they made art and the author needs to be a machine to pump out fics just for you. Again I must say again FANDOM IS DONE AS A HOBBY IN PEOPLES SPARE TIME FOR FUN

I simply don't know how anyone in the tiktok fanfiction space have any fun at all outside of bullying and truly give my heart out to every single author that's been effected in anyway by these people. I don't even write and I'm so disheartened by how they act most the time on there.

Also on the off chance that you're a person that likes or makes what I'm talking about.... don't bite the hand that feeds you.

[soaps-mohawk]

Is it bad that I don’t want to give birth? Like, I told some of my friends and family that I don’t want to give birth and they told me that I’d change my mind and I told them I wouldn’t and they get mad at me. I told them that I’d adopt kids instead to give them a home and living family but they say that doesn’t matter and count because they won’t be biological.

That's not bad at all!! I know a lot of people that feel the same way. Hell, I feel the same way. I don't want to give birth and I'm very against having children. I've known that pretty much my whole life since I was old enough to conceptualize children and parenthood (very young as a woman growing up in America), and I was always told I'd change my mind someday.

Well, it's been about 20 years and I haven't changed my mind at all. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. The constant societal pressure that every generation has gone through of "you have to have children otherwise your life is meaningless" has very much been challenged as of late with plenty of people realizing your life doesn't end as soon as you're old enough to have children. A lot of those people pushing that narrative shouldn't have had kids in the first place. The world would probably be a lot better off if people that didn't want kids but were pressured into it by society just hadn't given into that pressure.

There's plenty of neglected, abandoned children, and children in foster care that deserve love and support. So yeah, if you don't want to give birth, then there's nothing to feel bad about. You've made that decision and anyone that tries to tell you otherwise is only recycling the same societal pressures that probably made them have children they didn't want.

And if anyone says adopted or fostered children don't count, then kindly say fuck them and don't speak to them again. Same with people that say IVF or children born of surrogates. Just because you didn't give birth to your child no matter the reason, that doesn't make them "not your child." Hell I know there's people out there that say C-sections aren't "giving birth" because it wasn't natural.

Yeah, fuck those people and do what you want. It's your body, it's your life and they can either get over it or get out of your life 🤷

[bedforddanes75]

saw someone say "dont make decisions when in your luteal or follicular phase" or something then bitched when someone (admittedly a trumpie i think) said "so how do you expect women to do good jobs in power" like you brought this on yourself. its YOUR fault youre getting misogyny because Believe It Or Not women are not completely controlled by their hormones ?? yeah i feel like shit during whatever fucking phases of my cycle but good LORD dont start up on your "dont make decisions!" its sooooooo stupid. oohhh poor women baby waby cant make decisions because her Emotions are too biggy wiggy :(((( SHUT THE FUCK UP

[yixiangs]

been thinking a lot about when yusei casually dropped the insane lore that jiwoon, hanseo, and him used to go to the same dance academy years ago

[moonstandardtime]

iiiii kind of hate that joke. the "aging userbase" thing. did you not have to do chores as a kid. did you not exist before you turned 20?

[babisawyer]

I've been over halloween in general thanks to 'valloween' and 'summerween' and y'all being incapable of moving on from literally anything...but we're coming upon the time where I have to see tiktoks of white girls going to spirit halloween to buy their little boring twink boyfriends ghostface masks to proudly announce to everyone how kinky they are and I've had it.

[medicinemane]

Mike johnson has so god damn much blood on his hands, obviously Ukrainian blood, but also plenty of American blood

Refusing to renew something that helps vets exposed to atomic blast and Americans who were downwind of the fall out... it's just sick. I can't fucking stand mike johnson, he's one of the worst scum to ever be in congress, and that's fucking saying something

"Johnson refused to allow House members to vote on bipartisan legislation to renew and improve the program"

Fucking quivering little pimple seems to have a real MO for just wringing his hands while insisting it's not his fault, he just can't do the one fucking part of his job of putting shit up to a vote... oh boo hoo, so sad, he'll just have to unilaterally let funding expire on things instead of literally just putting it up to our elected representatives to see if they want to vote yay or nay

Single handedly make the choices but it's not his fault when they work out how they do

Murderer

[fragglerockopinions]

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[mostlyiwant-tobekind]

Manifesting book writers and journalist to also go into strike because the fact that published writers get usually get a 5% of what their books made is insane.