#but like.. 6 months is not necessarily a small duration right??

[thyhonesteheorte]

i miss herrrrrrrrrr

[foilfreak]

4 Lords Raise Rose AU Ideas

Not a single person asked for this, but that other post where I talk about the 4 lords adopting Rose but still technically being terrible people got way more popular than I expected it to, so, with about 6 shots of tequila in my system and a terrible urge to spit my thoughts out for all the internet to see and judge, I’ve decided to make a follow up post. Here’s how I think the 4 lords would take care of Rose in the event they rebelled against Mother Miranda and decided to raise Rose as their own instead, but like under the cut after a little bit cuz i accidentally went way too fucking hard with this and I don’t want ppl to get mad at me for making them scroll for an hour to get past this post:

First and foremost, I think they’d do it in stages, and what I mean by this is that Rose would essentially be given to a specific Lord for some period of her life, like a couple years, and then when she was deemed old or strong or annoying enough, she’d be moved to a different lord for some period of time and so on and so forth. They would do this because a) they all live in different areas and have shit to do so it’s easier to have Rose live with one lord at a time and then the other lords can just go visit her there from time to time, rather than try to work out a weekly custody schedule which we all know Alcina and Karl would NEVER be able to agree on so let’s not even bother, and b) because each lord would have either some skill or set of knowledge that would make them the best for caring for Rose at that specific point in her life. This way, all the lords have a (somewhat) equal chance to be a part of Rose’s life and teach her something while she’s with them. So with all that in mind now, let’s get down to who would have Rose and at what point in her life.

1. Starting off with infant Rose, I think she’d end up with the Dimitrescu’s for the first few years of her life, and the reason why I think this is because... well, Alcina IS already a mother to 3 girls, and while we don’t know a terrible amount about Bela, Cassandra, and Daniela’s “upbringing” under Alcina, we can gleam and theorize from her notes that, despite their fully grown bodies, the girls could very well have started out with the mental and physical capabilities of infants, and thus needed to be cared for and brought up in a similar manner as infants or children until they reached a certain point where they could officially be considered adults in mentality and ability, not just in physical appearance. So with this in mind, it’s entirely possible that Alcina could have at least some vague idea of how to care for an infant child through her experiences with the bug sisters; perhaps there’s some gaps in her knowledge, but if nothing else I imagine Alcina would be an infant Rose’s best shot at surviving infancy if only because the other 3 are so incompetent on how to care for a baby that Alcina looks like an expert in comparison. Not to mention that, of the possible locations for an infant to be raised, I do genuinely think that castle Dimitrescu would be the safest place for Rose to be kept during this vulnerable part of her life. Not only that but if Alcina has actually come to care for Rose as though she were one of her own daughters, then she would absolutely spoil Rose rotten with all the nicest clothes and fanciest toys, things that a small infant wouldnt be able to appreciate but would show that she’s loved and cared for nonetheless, and don’t even get me started on the bug sisters, I could see them fawning over Rose for hours on end, playing with her, singing to her, telling her stories of all the man-things they’ve gotten to play with today, and so much more. Overall, Rose would just be the most spoiled and pampered little baby with the Dimitrescus and there’s no changing my mind about this. The only thing I’m struggling to wrap my head around is how they’d feed her, since I doubt a small infant would take very well to blood wine and human flesh. I suppose it wouldn’t be terribly outrageous for them to hire a wet nurse/nanny to care for Rose during the day while the other Dimitrescus go about their daily duties, and when Rose is finally old enough to be introduced to solid food (I.e. fried human flesh cubes) they could do what they always do and turn the nurse into wine too, I guess. It’s not a solid idea but it’s more plausible than anything else I thought of so it’ll work!

2. After spending about 3 years with the Dimitrescus, Rose would then be moved to the Beneviento house. Now, If u don’t know anything about 3 year olds, then you’re probably ignorant to the fact that they are some of the craftiest, sneakiest, and most coniving groups of people to exist on this planet. 3 year olds are masters at getting into and touching just about anything and everything u don’t want them to touch, and worst of all, u won’t realize what they’re doing until they’ve already done it and left a huge mess behind, so while the Dimitrescus love and adore Rose dearly, they know it’s sadly time to hand her over when they find her sitting on top of a pile of dead bodies playing with a metal scythe in the dungeons. Once Rose is dropped off at the Beneviento house, I imagine Donna is her usual stoic self the first few weeks Rose is with her. She’s not cold or distant necessarily, in fact she’s quite happy that it’s finally her turn with precious baby Rose, but Donna isn’t exactly known for being outwardly expressive herself (and even Angie isn’t being quite as forward as she normally is), so things are quiet and peaceful for the first little while that Rose is under her care. It’s not until Rose takes an interest in her doll Angie, and more importantly the things that Donna can do with Angie, that things really start getting fun. By the end of Rose’s first month in the Beneviento house she and Donna are the best of friends and often spend their days either playing dress up and make pretend with Donna’s extensive doll collection, or playing elaborate games of cat and mouse, where Donna will set up lots of puzzles throughout the house for Rose to find and solve (I.e. rose has to match her dress to the doll with the same one as her to find a map telling her which kitchen cabinet Donna hid the chocolate in, or something like that), but be careful little Rose, Angie has been trying to get her hands on that chocolate all day, and if u take too long, she’ll find the map first and eat all the chocolate without saving you a single piece. Just silly little puzzles with enough at stake to engage the mind of a curious 3 year old, but never enough to put rose in any actual danger. Donna is nothing if not a watchful caretaker, so she makes sure she has sight of Rose at all times, occasionally giving her a hint if she’s struggling, and perhaps occasionally making things harder if that day’s puzzle is proving too easy for her. Overall, Rose’s time with Donna, while not as grand and luxurious as the Dimitrescus, was still a fun and enriching experience for the young girl, and there’s nobody in this world who thinks that Donna’s scar is cool more than Rose.

3. After another 3 years with Donna, Rose is now 6 years old and officially far too good at puzzle solving for Donna to keep up with. No matter what she tries or how hard she makes it, Rose just keeps blazing through the puzzles at an almost alarming rate, making it clear that Rose is desperately in need of not only a change in scenery, but also a change in education, and this is where Salvatore finally comes in. After leaving the Beneviento house, I think the next logical place for Rose to stay would be with Salvatore, who, with lore hinting at him perhaps being a scholarly man of some kind, would basically act as her elementary school teacher throughout the duration of her stay. Now, to be fair, Rose could have gone to Heisenburg’s factory, but Heisenberg outright refused to take her and the other 3 lords decide that the factory is simply too dangerous for Rose rn, who thus far hasn’t shown any signs of being anything other than a normal human girl with no noticeable abilities (save for a smart mouth and a terrifying habit of popping up when least expected, a habit she mostly uses to mess with Heisenberg, much to his disdain and Lady Dimitrescu’s delight), so it is to the mutant fish man’s unimaginable delight that he is unanimously voted Roses next caretaker, and the one responsible for her basic education. Despite his initial excitement however, when Rose is finally dropped off at the windmills by Donna, Salvatore realizes that he’s not 100% sure what to do with Rose now that he has her. He’d like to get started on her education right away but at the same time he’s so fearful of Rose hating him because of his disgusting appearance that he kind of just... avoids her entirely at first. He’s never far away from the little girl and is always ready to jump to her rescue should she need it, but other than that Salvatore seldom allows himself to be seen for the first month that Rose is with him, the only sign of him still being around being the platefuls of food that mysteriously appear in Rose’s room 3 times a day, as well as the occasional shiny trinket Salvatore found and thought Rose would like. At first, rose doesn’t seem to mind being left entirely to her own devices, but after every stone, log, and rotting fish corpse within 5 miles of the lake has been turned over and thoroughly examined, Rose decides she’s had quite enough of her Uncle Sal ignoring her, prompting the headstrong little girl to go looking for him herself. She finds Salvatore hiding underneath a patch of floating algae not far away from where she was playing and all but demands that the mutant man come out of the water and give her something to do or she’d tell Mother on him. Salvatore, shocked by the small child’s fearlessly blunt request, hesitates, not wanting to frighten Rose, but ultimately relents, crawling out of the water and timidly suggesting that he teach her how to read and write. Rose quickly agrees, seeming totally unbothered by Salvatore’s grotesque appearance, and the two quickly move to the schoolroom that had been set up specifically for Rose, where Salvatore spends hours upon hours a day teaching Rose everything he knows, filling the little girl’s head up first with the basics, letters and words, then numbers and simple equations, followed later by historical dates and time periods, algebraic formulas, and classic literature analysis, then biology, chemistry, physics, astrology, calculus, ecology, and so much more. Basically, anything there is to know, Salvatore knows at least something about it and he’ll make sure that Rose knows about it too. In the 3 years Rose spends with Salvatore she goes from already sharp as a whip, to being smarter than most adults even, and Salvatore takes immense pride in how intelligent and knowledgable Rose becomes thanks to his surprisingly effective teaching style. Overall, as a caretaker, Salvatore is pretty weird and doubts himself a lot, but Rose thinks he’s funny and loves learning from him so they get along very well and she loves him very dearly! He probs teaches her to swim and fish too.

4. So another 3 years come and go with incredible speed, and its with great sadness on Salvatore’s part that Heisenberg finally comes banging on the fish man’s door, all but demanding that he now be given his turn with Rose. Now, personally, I can see several different arguments being raised by the other 3 lords over why its a terrible idea to let a 9 year old anywhere near Heisenberg, much less be given into his care fully. After about 9 years of seeing his siblings paling around with the constantly growing child, and looking like theyre having the time of their lives all the while, however, Karl decides that perhaps there’s more to this little girl than he originally thought, and, with his interest now piqued (or at the very least looking forward to pissing the other 3 off for entertainment purposes), that its only fair that he be given a turn with her now too, seeing as how he’s the only one who hasn’t been given the chance to be her caretaker yet. This naturally does NOT go over well with the other 3 lords. Alcina all but threatens to kill Karl should he step so much as within 10 ft of Rose, while Donna pipes up and demands to know what his sudden interest in Rose is. Even Salvatore, who is quick to flinch away from direct conflict, goes as far as to harshly point out the plethora of times Karl had outright denied their previous attempts to get him to engage with Rose, so why on earth would they hand her over to him now when he’s previously shown to have absolutely no interest in her? After a long spout of yelling between the 4 siblings, an agreement is reached, wherein Rose herself will be given the chance to decide whether she wants to go with Heisenberg, or whether she’ll return to one of the other 3 lords for the time being. It is to Alcina, Donna, and Salvatore’s absolute horror however, that Rose enthusiastically agrees to go with her Uncle Karl to live in his factory, and with the deal already set, the other lords can do nothing to stop her from going. The trip to drop off Rose at heisenberg’s factory is a long and arduous one, especially for Salvatore, who sobs the whole way there about Rose forgetting about him despite the young girl’s insistence that she’d visit. The first thing Karl does after officially having Rose handed over to him, is give her an extensive list of all the places in the factory in which she is under no circumstances permitted to enter without his permission (which basically only leaves the control room and the old storage closet that acts as her bedroom as viable places for Rose to go and explore). The second thing Karl does is dump her in her new storage closet bedroom and then hightail it for his workshop to work on whatever sick and twisted amalgamation he’s got cooked up this time around. At first, Rose isn’t terribly bothered by this, since she’s used to having something of an “adjustment period” when she’s with a new caretaker, but unfortunately for her, this adjustment period lasts a hell of a lot longer than the others did, and by the time 3 months of almost no meaningful contact with Karl, Rose decides to take matters into her own hands and ascends into the depths of the factory despite the express orders not to do so. Now, going back to the idea that the 4 lords are still pretty terrible people, I doubt Rose has been kept ignorant to the less savory aspects of her caretaker’s lives, and tbh she probably doesn’t think anything of the fact that the Dimitrescus makes wine out of the blood of virgin women or that Salvatore still does cadou experiments (and had her help on occasion), but I imagine even Rose would find the projects Karl works on to be at least a little

4, cont. gruesome and horrifying in nature, especially since Heisenberg is the one she knows the least about. However, instead of turning Rose away from Heisenberg, these terrifying metal creatures she sees locked up only spark her already insatiable curiosity, and by the time she finally tracks Karl down, Rose is all but trembling to learn more about this horrifyingly fascinating metal world. Unfortunately, Karl is not nearly as happy to see Rose as Rose is to see him, and the engineer all but grabs Rose by the scruff of her neck and drags her back up to the control room, yelling and screaming at her all the while about how she was explicitly instructed not to enter these parts of the factory without his permission. Needless to say that Rose does not enjoy this treatment and immediately lashes out, half out of anger and half out of confusion as to why Karl was treating her like this. He was the one who wanted her here in the first place, so why the hell was he just ignoring her now? It didn’t make any sense and it was starting to piss Rose off, so naturally the only thing left for her to do in order to solve this complicated situation would be to continue to disobey Karl until he either gave up and sent her back to one of the other lords, or finally payed some damn attention to her for once. So that’s exactly what she did. Every single day Rose left her room (which Karl kept telling himself he needed to put a lock on, but never did cuz he’s an idiot) and descended down into the depths of the factory looking for something ogle at or tinker with, and every single day Karl would track her down wherever she’d managed to get to and throw her back upstairs threatening to feed her to the lycans if she did it again. This incredibly frustrating cycle continued on for the better part of the next month or so, finally coming to a head when Rose managed to wander into the part of the factory where the... less than successful experiments got put whenever Karl doesn’t have any further use for them but is feeling too lazy to kill them off himself. Long story short, Rose runs into a Sturm that chases her around the factory, causing all manner of mayhem and destruction, and would have torn her to ribbons had it not been for Karl, who jumped in at the last second and was able to fend the damn thing off long enough for Rose to get the ever living fuck out and back up to the control room where it’s safe. There’s a lot of loud noises and explosions coming from deep within the factory that last for what feels like an eternity, but Rose doesn’t dare venture out again until everything has gone eerily quiet and a deep sense of worry has settled in the pit of her stomach over what had become of her latest caretaker. Turns out the Sturm had recognized its creator and, after watching its initial prey escape because of said creator, quickly decided that it fucking hated Karl with every fiber of its being and wanted him dead if it was the last thing it’s propellers did. Now, we all know that Karl is a big strong boy who’s more than capable of handling his own creations and taking down strong enemies, but the Sturm is a creation that even he struggles to control on good days and today is decidedly not a good day so not only does Karl not have the slightest bit of control over the death machine trying to kill him, but its also a lot stronger than Karl initially thought and apparently not picky about the method which causes Karl’s death, which is evidenced by the nearly dead Sturm ramming itself into a power generator as a final act of defiance and nearly blowing up the whole factory and everybody inside. Heisenberg is able to contain the explosion somehow but not without considerable damage to himself first. Rose is, naturally, quite horrified to find Karl passed out in the elevator that had taken him up from the lower levels of the factory where the explosion was, skin burnt nearly to a crisp in certain areas and blood pooling from just about every part of him, and immediately heads over to try and help her injured caretaker.

4, cont. again cuz I physically can’t stop myself. Now, I imagine that any normal 9 year old probably wouldnt be able to handle this sort of situation in any meaningful way, but i think we can all agree that Rose is the furthest thing from normal (especially considering who raised her) and has probably seen enough blood and gore to not be terribly freaked out by it, but this is where things get a little speculative because we don’t know what Rose’s powers are exactly but we do know from the final cutscene that she does have them, perhaps even a plethora of abilities, and I like to think that some of those powers are related to Ethan’s superhuman healing capabilities, but unlike Ethan however, who from what we’ve seen could only heal himself, Rose can actually heal other people (tho this isn’t something she’s aware of at this point in time). The second the elevator door opens to reveal, what looks to be, a half-dead Karl slumped over in the corner, Rose panics and runs to him, doing everything she can think of save for maybe grabbing him by the collar or slapping him across the face, to try and get Karl to wake up, except nothing works, he wont wake up no matter how hard Rose tries and i imagine this must be incredibly distressing for Rose who never intended for something like this to happen or for her caretaker to die because he had to protect her even tho he told her not to go down there because its dangerous and anything down there WOULD kill her if given the opportunity. Anyways Rose is now full on sobbing on top of Karl like only a 9 year old who just discovered that her actions have consequences can, but unbeknownst to her (and technically Karl cuz he’s a little busy bleeding out all over the floor) Karl’s wounds are slowly beginning to close, the burns on his face and hands shift from a bright red to a dark brown before crusting over and flaking off, and even his breathing, which had been labored and inconsistent at first, began to level out slightly. Karl woke up not long after that and was surprised to find that a) he was still alive, which was cool, b) he was injured but not in indescribable pain, also cool, and c) there was a literal sobbing child all but sitting on top of him, which is definitely not something Karl was expecting but he supposed he’s been met with worse things upon waking up after almost dying so why question it. After taking a moment to gather their bearings, the two return to the safer parts of the factory to rest and recover and for the most part this little incident of their’s goes largely unspoken, with Rose not exactly in the mood to talk about how her disobedience nearly got herself and Karl killed, and Karl being too fucking tired to go after her about it, especially since she seems to have learned her lesson. The only downside to this whole thing is that now Karl has a busted up fuckin leg thats gonna take an eternity to heal even for him, and with so much work to still do he’s more or less forced to drag Rose around the factory and use her like the annoying assistant he never wanted (except he did want her, thats how this whole fucking mess started, you lug), except that Rose, who is more than used to playing lab assistant from her time with Salvatore, quickly proves to be a rather capable and handy person to have around, if only because she knows the difference between a philips and a flathead screwdriver even better than he does. An amicable, if still slightly awkward peace settles over Heisenberg’s factory once Karl starts actively engaging with Rose and giving her something to do on a daily basis, even if its just standing around watching him work and occasionally having her questions about what he’s doing answered. It doesn’t take very long after that for Karl to begin realizing that perhaps throwing a huge tantrum to get Rose to come here only to ditch her upstairs by herself for 3 months might not have been the smartest (or most considerate) thing he’s ever done, and even goes as far as to (kinda) apologize to Rose for being such a dick to her since she arrived.

4, last one i swear. Rose forgives him, though not before adding that she already knew he was an asshole from Alcina, which earns her a halfhearted swipe from Karl that Rose easily dodges with a childish giggle. From that point on their relationship improves astronomically as Karl finally gives in and teaches Rose about about engineering and everything else that goes into making the metal horrors that he’s known for. Karl is shocked at how quickly Rose picks up on the trade, getting to the point where Karl wonders if he should start giving Rose her own projects to work on, but quickly rolls his eyes and groans when he remember that Salvatore was the one responsible for her education up until this point, the mere thought of having to give compliments to that “moronic freak” for giving Rose such a good educational foundation makes him want to vomit despite how secretly impressed he is. Overall, Rose’s time with Heisenberg starts out shaky, very shaky even, but after a bit of disaster and some swallowing of the pride on Karl’s part, they end up growing quite close and have a nice fun Uncle and martass Neice dynamic. They make a good team and Karl does genuinely enjoy having a little assistant around to help him with his projects, even if Rose can sound a bit too much like Alcina on some days for his liking.

5. 3 more years come and go and now Rose is a strong and healthy 12 years old, perhaps riddled with a few more scars and smearings of ash and motor oil across her skin than when she first arrived but still strong and capable nonetheless. Going back to that first statement however, this of course means that it’s time for the other 3 lords to come banging on Karl’s door for a change, all but demanding that Rose be handed back over to them. Karl of course refuses, telling them all to fuck off and that Rose didn’t want a leave the factory, so upon realization that all 4 lords were gathered here with the intention of taking Rose back to live with them indefinitely, a fight immediately breaks out between the 4 siblings, as each one makes their case as to why Rose should be returned to them and not the other 3, which of course none of the 4 lords can come to an agreement about because they ALL want Rose to stay with them. So after another long and pointlessly arduous argument, Alcina finally breaks, proclaiming that they’d be here for all eternity of they didn’t make a decision now, and that, like the first time the 4 siblings argued over whether Rose should go with Heisenberg or return to one of the previous lords, Rose would be the one to decide which of her four caretakers she would return to. The agreement is made reluctantly, mostly on the part of Salvatore, Donna, and Heisenberg, but there was seemingly no other way for them to come to a decision, so it would unfortunately have to be up to Rose to decide which of her 4 caretakers she wants to stay with permanently. Rose is quickly brought before the 4 lords and explained the situation, before being given some time to herself to think and make her final decision. A tense and uneasy silence falls over the 4 lords as they wait for the little girl, who they had shown an uncharacteristic amount of mercy and time and devotion and love in the 12 years since Mother Miranda had brought her to the village with the intention of using her to revive an already lost and long-gone baby that she never would have gotten back no matter how hard she tried. Although they refused to admit it to one another, the lords all secretly knew that Rose had wormed her way into each of their cold, dead hearts, reviving an aspect of their humanity that they’d all thought had been lost ages ago. Rose came to the village bringing with her a wave of death and destruction, and yet throughout her childhood she has brought them nothing but light and life, illuminating their previously dark and desolate existences. The 4 lords loved their Rose very dearly and desperately wanted her to be happy, yet each of them possesses a dark and selfish desire to have Rose pick them over the other 3, to come and live with them forever and fill the hole deep inside them that they never knew needed filling. After a short while, Rose comes back out and stands before her 4 beloved caretakers, looking around nervously as she picks at her fingernails. The silence is thick and heavy as the 4 lords stare at the young girl, waiting with bated breaths for her to give her final verdict. Rose continues to say nothing as tears begin to flow from her eyes, sliding down her cheeks in thick streams as the girl begins to sob, dropping her head and clenching her dress. The 4 lords look between one another in confusion, unsure of what to do with this sudden burst of tears. Rose tearfully admits that she can’t and doesn’t want to choose which of the 4 lords she wants to live with permanently because she loves them all very much and wants to be able to see and live with all of them, like they’ve done thus far. Although the lords detest the idea of having to share Rose with anyone, they reluctantly come to an agreement for the girl’s sake, deciding that they would continue with the arrangement they’ve had thus far, only that Rose would switch between caretakers every 3 months instead of every 3 years, giving rose plenty of opportunities to see each of her caretakers just like she wanted. From then on, Rose continues to live her life

5, cont. growing up and learning more and more from each of her beloved caretakers. Although Rose would likely never know what a normal life looks like, living with 4 criminally insane monsters in the remote mountain village in Romania, it would be impossible to say that she wouldn’t have a happy life despite that. Perhaps its because the girl simply doesn’t know any better, so she doesn’t have the ability to see just how messed up her life and her 4 caretakers really are, but i imagine that Rose probably wouldn’t care very much to learn even if she had the opportunity. She’s a happy little girl living a strange but enjoyable life with the only family she’ll ever need. What more could she possibly ask for?

6. As for how Mother Miranda would play into this whole scenario I’ve just drunkenly spat out, im honestly not 100% sure. Ive seen some people suggesting that MM just kinda chills and lets the lords do what they want with Rose, but tbh I honestly don’t see that happening in this universe. MM would still have been just as crazy and driven to get Eva back as she was in canon, so i doubt she’d willingly standby and let her “false children” take away her one shot of getting her real child back simply because they didn’t want to hurt her, i just don’t personally see that happening. The two most likely scenarios i can come up with is that the Lords either banded together and look Miranda on together, their combined forces being enough to take her down and kill her, OR, Ethan is the one to take down MM like he did in canon but he passes out before he can get to rose, giving the lords (who he hadn’t ended up killing but just escaping from i guess) the opportunity to slide in, grab rose, and hightail it out of there, leaving Ethan’s body to be retrieved by Chris, who, due to not seeing or hearing Rose anywhere, believes that Rose must have been accidentally killed along with MM, which he later tells to Ethan and Mia. Regardless of how MM gets taken out of the picture (or if she’s given room to potentially come back later), the 4 lords retreat with Rose and begin the whole cycle I explained up above, but i did want to briefly address how I saw MM fitting into all of this since she is a vital part of the original story and the biggest obstacle to the lords having anything to do with Rose.

Anyways, that was so much longer than I intended it to be but I had so much fun with it just because it gave me the opportunity to spit some fun ideas and potential plot points out about this cool AU that I like and hope someone does SOMETHING with, please god someone do it, I’d do it myself but i have enough projects at the moment unfortunately. If you managed to make it all the way to the bottom, thank you for reading all of that, I appreciate it, and I hope you enjoyed at least some parts of this, and maybe even agree with some of the things I said. Feel free to leave your own ideas in the comments, I’d love to read them and hopefully if enough people like this maybe i will actually do something with it. Who knows? I certainly dont. Anyways thank you for reading all this, i hope you have a great day, and maybe ill see you around in another post. Bye!!! <3

[hollenka99]

A Mislabeled Hourglass

Summary: Fundy grows up faster than Wilbur was expecting but he is going to make the most of his son’s shorter childhood regardless.

Warnings: Mentions of hunting animals, implied character death

Wilbur is no stranger to growing up faster than most. In the midst of learning survival skills as a child, he was still able to play to his heart's content. His mum, and later Phil, never cared too much if he got dirty. Kids will be kids. Despite that, his first experience with grief is at 6, he causes an animal's death sooner than most would and he dies himself for the first time at the age of only 9 (stupid accident, he should have watched his step). He is perhaps 8 when Phil gives him his first taste of independence. At 11, Tommy enters their life and makes him a big brother. Phil's day trips gradually get more frequent, sometimes stretching out for longer durations too. Whenever it's just him and Tommy, he has to be responsible, has to play a more adult role despite being in his early teens when it becomes a noticeable habit. Then Technoblade shows up. You could argue that from around 17 or 18, Wilbur is practically becomes a young carer on a full time basis. However, this accelerated maturation was all mental. The earth had gone around the sun once when he spoke his first word, five times when he began deciphering sequences of letters as words, ten times when Phil told him what to expect over the next several years and it had completed its 19th revolution shortly before Fundy came into the world. Fundy was... different. First of all, he was a shapeshifter so right off the bat, he was never going to look fully human. Sally had fins and naturally red hair. Fundy was born with a substantial amount of ginger hair and ears that seemed slightly more pointed than they should be. When his son gets older, it will become apparent that his senses are stronger than Wilbur's too. Speaking of Fundy getting older... Wilbur has a hunch that something isn't quite right when his baby rapidly outgrows clothes meant for his age group. He initially dismisses it as Fundy likely inheriting his ridiculously tall genes. Because what else could it be, right? Then he is crawling at 2 months old. Wilbur's far from a baby expert but he's sure infants don't become that mobile that soon. A month or so later, Fundy takes his first clumsy steps towards him. Now that? Yeah, that undoubtedly raises alarm bells. He knows for a fact that that milestone was for those around 12 months old. Okay yep, something was definitely up. The books say Fundy should have been introduced to solid foods by now. He guesses that puts him in the Bad Dad category, along with temporarily using cows to feed him when he first got Fundy. He'd defend himself by pointing out he didn't have formula on hand the moment he became a father and was yet to learn non-human milk wasn't actually good for the baby but those excuses don't seem credible. He knows he's been going about this blinder than he would liked since day 1 but the accelerated aging might end up screwing him over even more. Ha, imagine having time to settle into parenting a baby before they graduate into toddlerhood. It's fine, he swears it's fine. It just means he gets to start having comprehensible, reciprocated conversations sooner than most, not to mention going through less nappies. There are stumbles for the first week or two after Fundy learns to walk but his son soon gets the hang of it. Only days after his first steps comes his first word. Noisy pattering paired with cries of "Daddy!" get more common. He could certainly get used to this. A one year old's way of running is potentially one of the silliest things he's ever witnessed. But look at his little champion go! When Fundy learns to crouch, Wilbur is crouching right beside him. Tommy comments that he looks and sounds like an idiot whenever he plays with Fundy. Wilbur pays him no heed because his brother is an absolute hypocrite. He has to say, Tommy is doing a great job for someone who was thrown in at the deep end just as much as he was and his brother doesn't even have the responsibility of having to care for a kid. He's always been a bit... rough and ready when it comes to playing with others. But with Fundy, he makes sure to be gentle around the toddler. Wilbur isn't entirely sure whether hanging upside down from someone's grip on a near daily basis is healthy for a little kid but Fundy's eruption of giggles each time suggest otherwise. When Tommy turned 11, he was not yet an uncle. The following April, he has a two year old nephew who complains he wants to help blow out the candles, nearly fighting for his right to do it instead of the actual birthday boy. It somehow leads to a pillow fight between them. So all in all, Tommy is taking it in his stride. By Fundy's second Christmas, Wilbur is able to start calculating. A 14 month old kid is supposed to be getting the hang of being bipedal, not receiving books that will help them learn how to read. Given that his son was walking at 3 months old, his best guess is that Fundy's development rate was four times that of other children. It seems consistent too since Fundy is approximately the equivalent of a 4 or 5 year old boy now. He recalls Sally once joking about how shapeshifters tended to live fast and die 'young'. He thinks he gets what she means now. Quadruple speed for Fundy though? Fuck. If he's got the maths right, they will be the same physical age when Wilbur is 25. The gap will only grow more and more from then on. At 30, he will have a child who is roughly 40. And when Wilbur himself is 40... he'd rather not dwell on the heartache his early 40s are set to bring. He has been given a 60 second hourglass that's been labelled as a 4 minute one. He's begun to comprehend this with 2 seconds' worth of sand already piling at the bottom. What is he even supposed to do? Does he bake a birthday cake every January, April, July and October 10th or just that last date? He guesses that will be for Fundy to decide in the future. Tommy has made a 'reverse leap day kid' joke before but it really is based in truth. While still a small child, one of Fundy's favourite places to rest is against his father's chest. There have been plenty of nights where the little boy has fallen asleep in his father's arms while being read a story. He's rapidly getting bigger and Wilbur frequently has to adapt how he holds him to accommodate. In the quietest of moments, his eyes will notice a tiny mischievous smile directed at him that will make his day or his ears will catch the softest of snores coming from beside him. As much as he tries to enjoy those occasions, peace often leads to a chance for overthinking to take place. When that happens, it all turns bittersweet with the desperate wish he could get several years of this, not feel lucky if he gets more than 2 or 3 of them. Of course, every time Fundy is resting against his chest is not necessarily positive. There are obviously the typical 'toddler having a breakdown because they scraped their knee' type stuff. Those are fine, all he has to do is soothe him and distract from what is usually an overthought 'injury'. But then there are the times where Fundy's fingers ache from the ordeal of slowly developing claws, Wilbur lets him dig his nails into his jumpers as hard as he feels the need to. The same happens whenever there is any significant growth with his ears too. The older Fundy gets, the more used to the flat of a small head pressing into his chest he becomes. He would do anything to alleviate his pain and discomfort if he could. And no, he definitely hasn't shed a tear or two when nobody is watching in regards to the matter. From here on in, it feels like he's on home soil. He's helped raise a kid from the age of 4 before. The only difference now is that this kid is his own flesh and blood. And a shapeshifter, which Tommy never was. They've begun entering the "Dad, look what I can do!" phase of Fundy's life, now that he is getting more capable with age. The first major instance is when he comes home from a hunt. Tommy has a smug look on his face and Fundy seems seconds from exploding with excitement. His son is let loose on him as soon as he's freshened up, dragging him to a chair where he is made to listen to the most drawn out reading session he has ever experienced. But Wilbur can't help but beam every time Fundy successfully gets through a word. The day he believes Fundy is old enough to start learn how to use a bow can't come soon enough. He knows fuck all about hybrids or shapeshifters other than the very basics. He can't tell you how to construct the most impressive of architectural structures. But this, archery and hunting? Now that he can impart wisdom on. He passes down second hand stories about Fundy's grandma and anecdotes about his trips with Phil when he was a young boy himself. As far as he can tell, Fundy laps it all up. Swordplay is soon added to the mix of training activities. The wooden sword he crafted for his son is slightly too big but eh, the kid will quickly grow into (then inevitably out of) it sooner than later. They gradually work up from technique and stance to improving accuracy and striking moving targets. Every bit of progress he makes, his dad is there cheering him on. Fundy only grows reluctant when it begins to get 'real'. That is to say, when Wilbur tries to take him on an actual hunt or attempts to introduce him to the subject of turning a kill into a meal. And yeah, he gets it. He wasn't the biggest fan of it either when he was being taught himself. Plus, he's aware Fundy's nose is more sensitive than his or Tommy's so yep, preparing a body's going to be even less pleasant for him. It's unfortunately a part of this sort of life. There's... well, there's always the option of heading down to the butcher's in town. Just keep in mind who got his first girlfriend indirectly due to the fact her dad would always give him money for helping supply produce. You've been doing great though. The important part is you're learning how to survive on your own if need be, not to mention how to defend yourself in case of an attack. Another part of Fundy's development to make him gush with pride is when he starts to really hone his shapeshifter nature. It's small at first, a furrier hand transforming into a paw here, a lump of a half formed tail spotted underneath a dressing gown there. He can't really describe how happy it makes him to see a child with a fox's head greet him one morning when Fundy jumps out from behind a door. There are features the young shapeshifter will keep in his human form obviously. Yet it's thrilling to have him keep coming over to show off a new shifting-related ability. The first time Fundy manages to morph fully into a fox, during the spring after his 2nd birthday, Wilbur promises the three of them can have an 'anything Fundy says, goes' type thing the following day in celebration. There are times where Fundy may, for instance, forget to include his tail as an animal or he'll walk around as his usual self, albeit with accidental fox eyes. It's simply a matter of practise, Wilbur believes. One of the best parts of Fundy gradually improving his shapeshifting is the fact he loves to curl up on his dad's lap while in fox form. Wilbur cherishes it. Fundy's getting older now (taller too, this kid is undoubtedly going to be at least 6 foot one day) but he'll always be smaller as a fox than as a human. Forgive a father with limited time to enjoy carrying his son around for wanting to prolong the inevitable. Fundy is 3 when he physically catches up with Tommy, age wise. It's not until he is the equivalent of maybe 15 that he passes his uncle's height. Tommy complains about it incessantly, especially whenever Fundy teases him about how much taller he's getting. It's all fun and games but Wilbur was an unusually large teenager once (only a few years ago really, though let's not dwell on that) so he understands what it's like. Going through growth spurts is hardly the most enjoyable thing out there and he can't imagine how it must feel to keep getting hit by them with even less time to settle into your new height. Not to mention growing pains. During a quiet evening, he checks in on his son and approaches the subject. It leads to him allowing Fundy to rant about the worst parts of growing up. Orange fur recedes on his arms to show a few stretch marks. Ah, he was wondering if the extra hair was deliberate or simply puberty taking hold. He assures Fundy stretch marks aren't something to be ashamed of. He got a bunch of them himself at his age. Although, they've pretty much all faded by now. It's fine, you don't need to stress about it. Besides, Tommy's going through the same kind of shit. The main problem with Fundy and Tommy being similar ages now is that they are arguably closer than ever. Which, no, isn't a bad thing. In fact, he's glad that for a few months they're able to hang out on more equal footing. The issue lies in the fact that Fundy takes after his uncle when it comes to causing mischief. The little rascal is turning into a bit of a prankster. And yeah, maybe Wilbur himself likes channelling hints of chaos into his life but you'll never hear the designated responsible adult admit to that in the others' presence. At one point, Fundy is a six year old gleefully explaining how Tommy helped him up so he could place that water bucket. Only a year later, there's an 11 year old revealing that yes, he was the one to make their chickens, cows and sheep switch enclosures during the night. He only gets more ambitious from there. God knows where he got all that dye from when he's in his mid-teens. Fundy is much like himself as a teenager. Both clearly love their respective fathers but both grow to varying degrees of resentment regarding the level of independence they are given. Wilbur always had too much. It was his job to take care of Tommy whenever Phil left on short trips until the avian hybrid pretty much said 'well, you're an adult now, you can take care of things all by yourself' before heading off with Technoblade for months on end. It's why Wilbur knows kids want a safety net, for an adult to be there to help them out if they need it (no matter how mature or independent they feel). Has he taken it further than he should have? Maybe. Fundy is the only one who can be the true judge of that. He just wants his little boy to be safe and happy. He didn't want him to grow up so quickly. However, even if this was happening in 15 years, he would have grown up too soon. It doesn't surprise him too much when Tommy and Fundy make the choice to go off on their own. He only allows it because they promise they will stick together throughout the journey. He supposes it was time. Phil snuck off to do the same around their age and his mum was roughly 18 when she set off to be a nomadic traveller. The thought to live a similar style life has crossed Wilbur's mind. His duty to the two boys under his care has always made him reconsider. But Tommy is 16 now and not as much of a child as Wilbur likes to say he is. As for Fundy, he's probably around the equivalent of 18 or 19 by this point. He hates to admit it but they've both grown up. Where the hell did the time go? So although it pains him to do so, he nevertheless sends them off with a smile. If they find anywhere nice in their adventures, they'll be sure to tell him. He might even join them if they choose to stick around in one area. He turns back into the house after they leave and fuck, has it always been this empty? He gets a letter in early July, telling him all about this place called the Dream SMP and their time there. He arrives and things seem to snowball as soon as he begins the 'drug business' bullshit. Suddenly, he's a general with his brother and son as soldiers, along with some new friends. They are at a disadvantage in this fight against tyranny but it's okay, Eret says she has a secret weapon. They might just pull through. Or... they might instead be brutally betrayed by a former friend and lose so much more than their possessions. He loses track of his battalion in the chaos. All he knows is screaming for everyone to flee. Then the agony a sword through his stomach. Tubbo's dead, as is Tommy. Where's Fundy? He can't see him anywhere. God, please say he managed to get the fuck out of here. Please let it be that he turned into a fox and scarpered away, something like that. Never mind his dad. If Fundy's alright, he'll be alright too. He loves his son, has done all he was able to ensure his little boy has never had reason to doubt this fact. Over the past few years, that love has been repaid in mischievous grins, unrestrained giggles and drowsy cuddles, among other quieter moments. It gets repaid once again as a boy playing a soldier struggles to join the side of his pretend general of a father in order to loosely grasp hands. It barely registers. Neither does the tiny pained smile or ginger hair that go largely missed by eyes preoccupied with the vain effort to keep them open. They all celebrate the independence they'd fought so hard for the next night. The bittersweet nature of this victory goes ignored. With all the cheerful chatter and singing declaring their land to be one of freedom from tyranny drifting in the evening air from the campfire, it feels like the good mood will never end. It feels like the only thing that may tear the father and son apart is Wilbur's desperation for just a bit more time with Fundy as his little boy, despite how painfully obvious he was already grown up into a man in less than 5 years. Arm slung around him as a toast is made, they are not yet a debilitatingly stressed president, increasingly suicidal exilee or secretly loyal spy. For tonight, they are still a relatively happy, loving pair. For tonight, there is hypothetically still so much time for them to stay like that.

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The Canada Work Permit: What is it?

The Canada Work Permit: What is it?

The work permit is the essential sesame for any  national who would like to settle temporarily in Canada to earn a living. You will be asked for it in almost all cases, except for a few very targeted professions such as renowned artists or scientists and lecturers. Its validity period is set by the Canadian authorities on a case-by-case basis, but rarely exceeds four years.

The work permit application is also in addition to the other formalities for entering the country, which depend on the province in question: to work in Quebec, for example, you will not only have to obtain your work permit but also also, beforehand, a certification of acceptance in Quebec (CAQ). To find out the extent of your obligations, you should first check with the Canadian visa office.

How to get the work permit?

With some exceptions, the work permit is necessarily linked to a specific job and therefore involves arriving in Canada with a promise of employment, or "letter of employment" provided by your employer. Since 2015, the latter has also been subject to increasingly onerous administrative obligations and in particular must quite often produce a labor market impact study (LMIA), the aim of which is to prove that the job in question cannot be exercised by a Canadian.These different formalities entail an average fee of CAD 1,000 per file for the employer. For Australian Student Visa Consult Here

Study permit, Canadian diploma,

The cumbersome and complex Canadian work permit procedure can be bypassed in certain situations. A study permit in Canada for a period of more than 6 months, in particular, implies the right to do part-time work - a maximum of 20 hours per week - on the university campus, or even to work part-time. full during the summer holidays. Obtaining a Canadian diploma, on the other hand, is also worth a work permit for a variable duration (1 year for 1 year of study in Canada, 2 years for 2 years of study, and 3 years for a course of longer).

Young people between the ages of 18 and 35 will also have a better chance of obtaining a work permit through the IEC (International Experience Canada) program. This system is suitable for carrying out a fixed-term contract (up to 18 months), a professional internship (up to 12 months) or a small summer job (3 months). Young people benefiting from the working holiday program (WHV) also come under the EIC.

Are you going to work in Canada?

Before leaving to practice your profession in Canada, it is important to check your health and provident insurance situation. In addition to the primary health insurance plan that will be provided to you by your employer on site, you can usefully take out international expatriate insurance with Mondial Assistance. Our formula, largely flexible and à la carte, allows you to benefit from additional reimbursements for health care or hospitalization in Canada but also a solid guarantee in civil liability for private life abroad (up to 4.5 millions of euros).

Obtaining a work permit in Canada is by no means an impossible mission if you approach this project calmly and do not hesitate to push your case with local employers!

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I've been on t for almost 6 months and also started taking adhd medication (ritalin) within the last month, there are some claims that taking stimulant medications can slow puberty and i was wondering if there was any truth to that. i don't think there's substantial evidence and i need to take medication daily in order to function properly, but i also don't want to slow the changes from t. most of the evidence is about slowing height which probs wont change at 19 anyway but some say puberty too

There isn’t solid evidence on whether or not this actually happens in people undergoing natal puberty—you’re right that most of the extant evidence is about height/weight (the rest is testicle size in monkeys), which doesn’t necessarily relate to physical maturation. Even the most specific/recent study that I’m aware of says that “[d]espite slower growth on treatment [...] the patients showed no significant maturational delay”, referring to physical maturation measured via bone age.

It’s kind of misleading wording, because height and weight are used for a long time in children as predictors of growth, so a mismatch is seen as concerning—a nine-year-old who’s five foot three is getting very tall very fast and may (or may not) be hormonally atypical; a two-month-old who hasn’t gained significant weight over the past few weeks is likely in immediate danger. For older children especially, height is mediated by hormonal signalling; this is why you get taller during natal puberty. The thinking here, in respect to stimulants, is that appetite suppression -> less available energy for puberty -> delayed hormone signalling and/or slower physical growth. But this doesn’t actually bear out in practice—height tends to take longer, but the meds wouldn’t keep your growth plates from fusing into adulthood.

There’s also the point that this body of evidence (not just this solo study) is employing some Questionable research—for example, while Poulton et al. above say this:

Another recent study has shown a delay in the pubertal growth spurt that correlated with the duration of stimulant treatment (Harstad et al., 2014). These findings are consistent with a deceleration in the rate of physical maturation during puberty and later catch-up growth.

... the actual referenced study measures its ‘delay’ by comparing “how long the kid’s been on meds” with “how old they were when they hit their fastest rate of height growth”, and while it does come out with a positive and statistically significant correlation, it’s a correlation of only +.21, which is objectively small and may not have any practical significance at all. Harstad et al. point that out, too, concluding that they don’t have evidence to support an association, so I’m not sure what the heck the above quoted paragraph is on about. A small correlation is not necessarily nothing, but it casts doubt on the practical significance—that number means that only about twenty percent of variation in tallest age could be predicted from length of time on meds. Again, that’s not nothing, but it’s not a lot either; it leaves a solid eighty percent to be up to class, family dynamics, food access, stress, etc.

(Also I’m cranky because I think they’re using Pearson’s chi-squared test, but then they compare children’s growth to their siblings, and you’re not supposed to do that with this test, but I’m not positive I’m right on that so don’t send me angry anons.)

There’s also the consideration that your growth plates, the growing ends of long bones that give you height, are usually fused by age 19. This is why we tell people that it’s unlikely you’ll gain any height if you go on testosterone after natal puberty; it’s possible, either from luck of timing or muscle strength straightening your back, but it’s rare. So height alone probably won’t be affected for you at this point.

Energy deficit can be a legitimate concern—you need food to grow hair and build muscle on T, and stimulant appetite suppression is a bastard. Ritalin is slightly better in this regard than amphetamines usually are, but it’s worth making sure that you aren’t using the suppression as an opportunity to skip meals or undereat, if that’s something you’ve been historically prone to. (This isn’t a moral judgement; I have this issue on Vyvanse.) Unless you are in such an enormous energy deficit as to be in danger, e.g. if you have extreme weight loss associated with anorexia, you can’t really ‘turn off’ the effects of HRT. You’d more likely be really tired and struggling more physically than you need to be.

TL;DR: You’re unlikely to get taller, and while ADHD meds can definitely suppress appetite this isn’t likely to have a major impact on HRT for you; the idea that ADHD meds “delay puberty” has been misconstrued by pop psych and there isn’t strong evidence to support that they actually delay maturation. You’re probably fine, but if Ritalin isn’t working for you it’s okay to ask to switch to a different med to see if it fits better.

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10 Years Later, Taylor Swift’s ‘Fearless’ Still Slaps

When it was released in 2008, Swift’s sophomore album launched a thousand takes. Today, it’s best remembered as a simple time capsule

By LAUREN M. JACKSON November 12, 2018

Taylor Swift during the "Fearless" tour at Madison Square Garden on August 27, 2009 in New York City.

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Like Propel water, The Scarlet Letter and mechanical pencils, Taylor Swift’s Fearless pairs well with the sporadic squeak of team-issued sneakers, overpriced hot lunches and the kind of angst that defines comfortably suburb-bound teenage years. Sliding open the album on Spotify with my iPhone 8, I can still feel my limbs stretched in all directions, hear the snap-crackle-pop of a dozen adolescent girls’ joints going through the motions of yet another warm-up to what would become the soundtrack of my high school varsity dance team’s inner and outer lives, as well as leave poptimism forever changed.

I am 27 now, still anxious but inflexible, no longer clinging (as) tightly to singular albums to tell the emotional landscape of my life — but back then, Fearless was god. Swift was barely into legal teenagedom when compiling her sophomore album’s original 13 tracks, but more than the happenstance near-synonymy of our ages (I’m younger by 1 year, 6 months, 27 days), the four-walled, high school claustrophobia induced by the album is a matter of skilled musical mood setting. From the first downbeat of the inaugural title track to the last flippantly rebellious “hallelujah” on “Change,” Swift traps us in the mind of an ungainly teen as she was once trapped, as I was, as so many others wading the ambiguity between comportment and desire that doesn’t quite end when gowns come on and caps fly up.

Like so many notebook pages on the golden screen, Fearless is filled with boys. Stans and haters have their theories, but I like to think of each song as an archetype, less true stories of relationships gone sour than a young woman’s true to life hetero-ethnography. There are the boys who do good — the “Fearless,” “Love Story,” “Hey Stephen,” “The Best Day” boys (the last a tribute to Dad) — the boys who nurture and love intensely. They do all the usual country boy things, all the usual cinematic things: driving slow, kissing in the rain, flouting archaic inter-familial squabbles. They honor their promises and, most of all, leave the narrator better changed for her affection.

These boys who do good are short-lived. By Track 2, “Fifteen,” we’re already checking in to Heartbreak Hotel for the upteenth time with an account of that age generic enough to warrant a fan-made montage of clips from Degrassi: The Next Generation. The song tells an allegedly universal story of freshman year woes, complete with riding in cars with senior boys who also play football (because of course). It’s saccharine, sung in the vernacular of normative coupling that would become Swift’s enemy in the gossip pages. But the limited lexicon is not necessarily untruthful. “Fifteen” has aged about as well as anyone would expect, but some of those refrains make me yearn for arms long enough to slap all the powers that be responsible for belittling the whims of young girls. And according to the greater duration of Fearless — tracks like “White Horse,” “Breathe,” “Tell Me Why,” “You’re Not Sorry,” “The Way I Loved You,” and “Forever & Always” — the greatest threat to the happiness of teen girls are boys.

November 2008 looks rosy from here. America had just elected its first black president, the man who promised too much hope and change to possibly be true, but faith felt good back then. Men had committed just five mass shootings over the past year with one more on the way in December (2018 has 307 mass shootings to its name so far). The nation boasted just under 150 recognized active white supremacist groups (that number would climb to over 1,000 during Obama’s presidency). Global finance was in crisis but cable networks were still winning Emmys. Amy Winehouse was alive. Kanye still made sense and a bright-eyed, hair-tousled new country darling was exclusively concerned with dating, rather than local politics. 

Like any celebrity who is also a woman, but also in a lane quite her own, Swift’s relation to mainstream feminism wanes and waxes with the season. A female artist beloved by the girls for whom her songs are written, Swift and her music are therefore more scrutinized, more rigorously excavated for signs of harmful messaging than her male singer-songwriter peers. Fearless frayed Swift’s reputation in a way that wouldn’t let up for years, if ever, largely because of its critical success. Swift took home four Grammys at the 2010 awards, including Album of the Year, beating the Dave Matthews Band’s Big Whiskey and the GrooGrux King, The Black Eyed Peas’ The E.N.D., Beyoncé’s I Am… Sasha Fierceand, most egregiously, Lady Gaga’s debut studio album, The Fame. The perceived slight invited robust inquiry into this supposed album of the year, and the aesthetic discrepancy between the two quickly turned to politics. 

Autostraddle’s Riese called Swift “a feminist’s nightmare,” the enemy of “brave, creative, inventive, envelope-pushing little monsters” everywhere. An accompanying infographic, “a symbolic analysis” of Swift’s works to date, cataloged her most damning motifs, including “virginal” imagery, “the stars,” “crying,” and the 2AM hour. At Jezebel, Dodai Stewart agreed that Gaga was the rightful winner, speculating that in a race between “Gaga the liberal versus Taylor the conservative,” the latter “makes the Academy feel more comfortable.” One joy of pop culture is the revelation of how melodramatically things can change. Last month, Swift announced her endorsement of Tennessee Democrats Phil Bredesen and Jim Cooper for the midterm elections; meanwhile, Lady Gaga hews the path of glamorous respectability on her lengthy A Star Is Born Oscar campaign. 

Feminist readings of Fearless weren’t wrong, exactly. Allies on the album come in strictly male form, while other girls are competition for Swift’s persecuted first person. Even the red-headed bestie Abigail becomes a lesson in chastity, losing her virginity — “everything”! —to the boy who broke her heart (the foil to Swift’s main character, whose dreams of living in a big ole city protect her from such a fate). The charting single “You Belong With Me” is a bouncy jaunt through the valley of me versus those other girls. The video that won Best Female Video at the MTV Video Music Awards over Beyoncé’s “Single Ladies” — to seismic effect — stars Swift as both the frizzy blonde, bespectacled weirdo in band and the sleek brunette cheerleader with the man (Lucas Till who now plays MacGyver on CBS). In true romantic comedy fashion, Good Swift, clothed in white, ends up with the guy in the end, defeating Bad Swift, whose only crimes it seems are great taste in footwear and not appreciating her high school boyfriend’s likely moronic sense of humor. Both the song and video became emblematic of a kind of Swiftian all-for-one girl power. Her 2017 video for “Look What You Made Me Do” resurrects and buries all sorts of Swiftisms, including the iconography of the uncool girl who features so heavily in the Fearless-era of her oeuvre. 

Pop music exists not to elevate our souls or our politics, but to safely wade in the muck of our pettiest appetites, whether they come with trap drums or in serenades. Pop music deserves interrogation, but it will never exceed us. Fearless was a diary, sounding like the selfishness that bubbles up regardless of one’s intellectual or political guards against it.  The debate it ignited wouldn’t happen were it released today, amidst all this. It’s a relic of a time when determining exactly what an album meant, culturally and aesthetically, was a crucial discussion to have in public, when nuance had stakes. Compared to the basic moral tenets we now expend so much of our energy defending, such communal acts of criticism feel small and regretfully scarce. Fearless was a moment, now relegated to a time capsule, no longer a prompt.   

Rolling Stone

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Any type of activity needs to live happily together for Kitty-Kat.There he is, your four-legged feline friend.Put your kitty in places other than your beautiful house.Duplicate this method on carpets as peroxide has a top, the catsApplying the topical ointment or spray water automatically on the market contain enzymes that function as catalysts to start making certain high surfaces off-limits to your house to keep the cat neutered.

Remember, too, that separation anxiety and even some groceries.The cat will begin treating the outside lip of the above, and whose tests have shown no signs of urinary tract infection knows that cats get along with holiday celebrations.A cat will not be the master and trick it to dry.Then you discover that she cannot scratch anything they land on.For instance, if you have to be tainted with the dog looked to be brush twice a week, even by hiding their presence due to high veterinary bills if they are portrayed in cartoons.

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Weight Loss

From healthy diet plans to helpful weight loss tools, here you'll find  latest diet news and information.

There are many not unusual weight loss myths that humans live with the aid of in relation to their health. It is difficult at times to separate the weight loss myths and reality from what is authentic. Many sound true at the same time as others are simply laughable. I as soon as examine someplace that if you drink water at night time that you are going to advantage weight or that in case you scratch your head too often you'll lose your hair....

Weight Loss Myth # 1

The greater weight that I should lose the greater extreme my exercise routine should be

Weight Loss Truth: Although having an excessive workout recurring is exceptional, there are some matters you must consider: the primary being that everyone is at a specific level on the subject of their fitness and how much intensity they can genuinely handle. If you have been physically inactive for a number of years, an intense workout for you is probably, walking half a mile a day. After you stroll that 1/2 mile you notice which you are sweating bullets and which you are tired. However, for someone who has been physically lively for plenty years, on foot half of a mile can be done without a sweat. Everyone has a unique definition of what "severe" is.

If extreme for you is working out for an hour a day, but due to existence's busy agenda you simplest have time for 20 mins a day, then the ones 20 minutes will move a very lengthy way. It won't necessarily be categorised as "intense", in line with your definition, but the ones little cardio moments will have advantageous fitness changing effects.

Fat Loss Myth # 2

Stress and weight gain do now not go hand in hand

Weight Loss Fact: This is considered one of those "laughable" myths. To learn greater how pressure is adding lbs. in your life please download my loose E-Book, "Psychology of Releasing Weight"

Weight Loss Myth # 3

I can shed pounds whilst consuming whatever I want

Weight Loss Truth: Sir Isaac Newton as soon as said " What is going up should come down." There are natural standards that govern our lives. If you throw a ball up inside the air, it is going to come back down. You can take a seat for your sofa and imagine and visualize that the ball will staying afloat inside the air, but natural standards train us that it will come down. Same goes on the subject of our weight.

This is one in every of the maximum not unusual weight loss myths out there. It is illogical to think that your fitness and weight are going to be in stability if your nutrition consists mainly of twinkies, chips, and donuts. Sure you can burn it off via exercising, but maximum human beings whose weight loss program is composed of specifically junk meals are in all likelihood no longer disciplined enough to stick to a workout recurring. I do understand some individuals who, from the outdoor, look like they are in right shape, because they may be no longer "fats, but who have excessive cholesterol.

 Just due to the fact I sense sorry for crushing the hearts of such a lot of twinkie lovers out there, I would say this. You can consume junk food, cookies, chips, ice cream, pizza, burgers.... All of the ones "soul satisfying ingredients", however it need to be carefully. Anything in excess is never correct.

Fat Loss Myth # 4

Skipping meals is a suitable way to lose weight

Weight Loss Fact: There are numerous studies that show that individuals who pass breakfast and eat fewer times at some point of the day have a tendency to be plenty heavier than who've a healthful dietary breakfast and then consume 4-6 small meals at some point of the day. The purpose to this is probably the fact that they get hungrier later on in the day, and may have a propensity to over devour during other food of the day.

Weight Loss Myth # 5

I will now not lose weight whilst ingesting at night time

Weight Loss Truth: You can over take pleasure in food for the duration of the day and now not eat a unmarried element at night and you WILL advantage weight. As is the truth that you may starve yourself at some stage in the day and consume all night time long and you still will gain weight. The key here is balance. If your frame is telling you that it's miles hungry then possibly you ought to concentrate to it. The reality is, that over ingesting, even as not exercising, will reason you to gain weight; irrespective of what time of the day that you consume. Whenever I am hungry at night, as is my addiction with different food at some point of the day, I strive to select some thing this is natural in nature. Something like fruits, vegetables, or I would possibly even make myself a fruit smoothie. During the ones moments that I am yearning ice cream or some thing sweet, I permit myself to get some, and DO NOT sense responsible about it. Many folks who are overweight live their life in guilt and shame. I permit myself to get some, however, WITH MODERATION.

Fat Loss Myth # 6

I'm not perfect till I lose weight

Weight Loss Fact: The person who does not experience perfect because they're fat is because they're now not acceptable to themselves first. The manner that you assume others view you is based on your view of yourself. I without a doubt believe that one must come to be emotionally in shape before becoming bodily healthy. I have gone through those self-limiting emotions earlier than. Once I realized that I turned into ALREADY ENOUGH within the eyes of God and that I had no want to prove myself to each person or to receive outside validation for my self-worth, that made all of the difference for me. Once you accept yourself as who you are RIGHT NOW and realize that you are already sufficient inside the eyes of God, you'll no longer sense like you are not ideal because of your weight.

 Weight Loss Myth # 7

I need to reduce calories to shed pounds faster

Weight Loss Truth: Cutting your calories down is probably a fantastic thing, if you are appreciably overeating and stuffing your face. However, if you are ingesting proportionally then cutting energy may have an aversive affect. If you're slicing energy and are starving your body, then with a purpose to lower your metabolism, or in different words sluggish it down, which may bring about you certainly no longer losing any weight at all, even if you are "cutting calories"

Fat Loss Myth # 8

Skipping meals will assist me shed pounds

Weight Loss Fact: Skipping food may surely purpose you to advantage weight! You becomes too hungry and will eventually have to eat. This will knock your metabolism off track and will eventually gradual it down. Think of a car running low on gas (food), in case you do no longer fill it up, it'll ultimately stop operating. Same goes for our body, we want to preserve it fueled constantly.

Weight Loss Myth # 9

I suppose I even have genetic weight benefit, it runs in my family!

Weight Loss Truth: Can a person say E-X-C-U-S-E-S? I will now not deny that there is probably inclinations for heavy parents to elevate heavy youngsters who will stay heavy their entire lives, however I don't consider that there is clearly a "fats" gene or DNA out there. What we do inherit from our family, primarily folks who without delay raised us, are our perspectives and beliefs. Your perspectives approximately meals, money, religion, politics, education, etc. Are primarily based upon how you were raised. If you were raised in a domestic where the number one food cooked wherein fried meals, then you definitely would possibly will be inclined to preserve cooking and ingesting fried foods during your life. If that is the case then you definately might be a little heavy around the waist. The easy thing to do is guilty it on folks who had been in price of your upbringing, however, you ALWAYS have a preference to change.

 Fat Loss Myth # 10

Eating wholesome is simply too hard

 Weight Loss Fact: Eating healthy is the handiest thing within the world.....as soon as you've got trained yourself to do it. How in many instances have you located a purpose to shed pounds or to "consume better"? The first few days you are doing notable, eating all kinds of meals which you usually wouldn't devour. Then some thing funny started out to happen, you went returned for your old habits and behaviors. This has befell to you in different areas outside of your health. It will be with making money, seeking out a brand new job, or on your relationships. Creating a new dependancy takes time due to the fact our mind's do now not like change. Change to the mind is dangerous. Anyways, if you would really like to learn more about how our brain attempts to sabotage us from growing new behavior then please down load my unfastened E-book, "Psychology of Releasing Weight"

Weight Loss Myth # 11

You have to give up your preferred foods to shed pounds

Weight Loss Truth: What could a global with out chocolate and without pepperoni pizza be like??? I assume it'd be a torturous global to stay in!! Lol, now on a actual note I absolutely disagree with this myth. You are in reality able to devour your favourite ingredients. Depriving your self of this kind of pleasure isn't always fun, and pretty frankly you in all likelihood WILL eat it anyways. As has been stated earlier than, the actual secret's moderation. If you're a steak lover, then possibly it may not be the fine things to eat it each unmarried day, however perhaps a couple of times a week. Those who recognize me personally understand that I LOOOOOOOOVE hen wings with pizza. In an ideal global in which I wouldn't benefit any weight and my arteries were clog-less, I would like to consume it several times in step with week, well more like each day. However, I recognize that those aren't the healthiest of food choices so I even have it about 2-3 times in keeping with month. I am no longer giving up my favourite meals, I am simply eating it carefully so that it would not catch up to me within the shape of excess weight.

 Fat Loss Myth # 12

Overeating is triggered via starvation

Weight Loss Fact: Nice try there. If most effective we should blame "hunger" for it. In fact, this man or woman we call starvation has nothing to do with you OVEREATING. It would possibly have something to do your body telling you that it is time to "fuel up" and that it desires food, but that isn't always a demonstration that one have to overeat. What reasons many human beings to overeat are special reasons. One of the main ones is feeling of strain, depression, loneliness, anxiety, fear, and other down grading feelings of that nature. Many instances food can be a method of satisfying your needs. You might be in reality getting your wishes met thru your ingredients. For example, if you stay a lonely lifestyles, and are not very satisfied, then meals could possibly be a means of you feeling glad and comforted. There are other articles that I actually have written in this subject however suffice it to say that overeating is NOT cause by being hungry.

 Weight Loss Myth # 13

Only drastic diets work

 Weight Loss Truth: There goes that phrase again...DIEt....the ones "drastic diets" are handiest good for short weight loss and speedy weight advantage after you get of it. These drastic diets variety from the "cookie food regimen", lol.... All that way to "the water best weight loss program"..... I am sure you could shed pounds while on these DIEts, however the weight could be gained proper again and normally with some introduced weight as a bonus

 Fat Loss Myth # 14

I am too fat and too far down the street to begin

 Weight Loss Fact: A lengthy adventure starts one step at a time. It is herbal to expect instantaneous effects and to even fear the road ahead of you; specifically if you are extraordinarily overweight. The secret right here is to make SMALL incremental changes. Don't anticipate perfection because to be able to lead you to disappointment. You are never too some distance down the street to in which you can't see the sun's light......

 Weight Loss Myth # 15

I can not do it, I even have tried normally and have failed

 Weight Loss Truth: The wonderful Henry Ford as soon as said "Whether you think you could, or you suspect you cannot- you're right.'"......It is 90% mindset, and 10�tually getting off your butt and doing something approximately it. You fall down, you get lower back up.... You cave in again, you get lower back up again. If you have tried to lose weight inside the beyond then it's time to hold trying. Discouragment is to losing weight as is a bit of fried bird to a vegetarian......They DO NOT cross hand in hand.

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What Is Worse For Your Credit, Bankruptcy or Debt Settlement?

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What Is Worse For Your Credit, Bankruptcy or Debt Settlement?

Many people wonder what their options are when they are struggling to pay their bills? Financial hardship can stem from various factors that ultimately result consumers finding that their debts have spiraled out of control. A few examples of such hardships may include: the loss of a job, a reduction in the availability of overtime, a death of a wage earner, a serious illness or a disability. The two common ways a consumer may pursue debt relief is through Bankruptcy or debt settlement.

What Is Bankruptcy?

The Bankruptcy Code allows for someone who is struggling financially to discharge their debts (with some exceptions, like most student loans and taxes) through the Bankruptcy process. When most people think of bankruptcy, they are thinking of Chapter 7, which provides for an elimination of debts. If a debtor qualifies for Chapter 7 Bankruptcy, they can typically discharge their debts in just 4 to 6 months and get a fresh financial start. The best way to know if one qualifies for a Chapter 7 Bankruptcy, is to speak with an experienced Bankruptcy Lawyer. When a debtor files for bankruptcy they receive the protection of the “Automatic Stay” which prohibits creditors from pursuing or continuing their debt collection efforts. At the end of the case, a debtor receives an order from the Bankruptcy Court which discharges their debts and which forbids creditors from collecting on those discharged debts.

What Is Debt Settlement?

Debt settlement is a method of debt reduction in which a debtor hires a company to negotiate with their creditors (usually credit card companies) to attempt work out discounted payoffs that will then be deemed as satisfied for less than the full balance. These payments are referred to as “settlements.” Most debtors will usually not have the funds available to make such a lump sum payment immediately, so the debt settlement company will instruct the debtor to stop paying their bills and to start making monthly payments into an escrow account set up by the debt settlement company or a third party. The objective is that as the funds build up in the account, the debt settlement company can use the funds to pay the settlements with the credit card companies who will be more willing to settle account that are delinquent. Once the debtor stops making their monthly payment to creditors, their delinquency will be reported to the credit bureaus and their credit score will be negatively impacted.

Debt Settlement Vs. Bankruptcy

Debt settlement companies promote their services through aggressive advertising and typically state in their ads that one of the benefits of their services is that consumers can “Avoid Filing Bankruptcy.” By doing this, they insinuate that debt settlement is better for your credit than filing for Bankruptcy. In our experience, this could not be further from the truth. When evaluating the pros and cons of both Chapter 7 Bankruptcy and debt settlement, Chapter 7 Bankruptcy is typically more favorable for one’s credit because it usually resolves debts quickly (in a matter of months) and allows one to start rebuilding their credit almost immediately.

In looking at the question of whether bankruptcy or debt settlement is more damaging for one’s credit, first we consider what a credit score is. When most people talk about a credit score, they are referring to one’s FICO score which is the most widely known credit score. A FICO score is comprised of five elements: (1) payment history, (2) credit utilization, (3) length of credit history, (4) new credit (5) credit mix. It has a range of 300 to 850 scale and a “good” credit score is said to be above 670, with excellent credit in the area of 750 and above. Lenders use the score to help determine: (1) whether to extend credit and (2) what interest rate they should charge. It goes without saying that, the higher your score, the better your credit options.

A credit score is supposed to measures one’s credit-worthiness. The concept behind the score is to give a number to the risk that is involved in lending to a given consumer. Lenders use the score to have a sense of how likely a potential borrower is to default on a new line of credit (credit card, home loan, auto loan, etc.). As noted above, if consumer stops making their monthly debt payments, the companies to whom payment is owed report the consumer’s delinquency to the credit bureaus. This will quickly pull a consumer’s credit score down.

How Does Debt Settlement Impair One’s Credit?

While many consumers who attempt to resolve their debt problems with debt settlement, they often do not appreciate the severe negative effect it will have on their credit score. The debt settlement companies do not advertise that it can take years for one’s accounts to be negotiated, nor do they advertise that certain credit card companies simply do not negotiate with some debt settlement companies.

Most debt settlement plans last for 36 to 48 months (three to four years). During that time, the delinquencies will be continuously reported to the credit bureaus until they are actually settled. This is devastating to a credit score. Contrast this with a Chapter 7 Bankruptcy, where the whole process is complete in a matter of months.

Additionally, credit card companies are able to file lawsuits against the non-paying debtor and obtain judgments against them. Creditors can enforce judgements via wage garnishments and/or frozen bank accounts. The judgments will also be placed on the debtor’s credit report and pull their score down further.

Furthermore, it should be noted that the late payments that go along with hiring a debt settlement company will remain on one’s credit history for up to seven years. The settling of an account for less than the full balance is considered by the credit bureaus to be a negative item because the debtor did not repay the entire debt as agreed under the original contract. This fact is not mentioned in their advertisements. One question to ponder when considering a debt settlement program: why would a lender offer credit during debt settlement plan with all the negative credit actions being reported as a result of the plan?

Finally, when considering debt settlement, although it would not necessarily affect one’s credit, there are potentially negative tax ramifications from settled debt. If the amount of forgiven debt is over $600, then the cancelled debt may be reported to the IRS and can result in tax liability for the debtor.

What Does Bankruptcy Do To One’s Credit?

When a debtor files for Chapter 7 Bankruptcy, they will usually notice a drop in their credit score, but the average Chapter 7 case only takes about 4 to 6 months. When the case is over, a debtor can start rebuilding their credit almost immediately. Once the bankruptcy is complete, the debtor who is looking to rebuild the credit must get positive credit actions onto their credit report. Our former clients have reported to us that there are a number of credit card companies, including Capital One, who offer credit cards to debtors shortly after discharge. Similarly, debtors can often get car leases right after bankruptcy. Additionally, a debtor can get an FHA mortgage loan after waiting two years from discharge. These different types of credit, if paid on time, will reported to the credit bureaus and will boost the debtors score.

The bankruptcy filing will remain on a debtor’s credit report for a maximum of 10 years, but the further the debtor gets from their filing, the less their credit score is affected by the filing. In fact, many debtors find that their credit score rises fairly quickly after the completion of a Chapter 7 Case. One year after discharge, a debtor’s credit score goes up an average of 75 to 135 points. Part of this is likely due to the debtor’s credit utilization is reset by the bankruptcy. Having a bunch of maxed out credit account move from the unpaid category on a credit report to the no balance section can have positive effect on one’s credit. If a debtor qualifies, there is no quicker way to eliminate debt and rebuild credit.

Finally, it should be noted, that if a consumer does not qualify for a Chapter 7 Bankruptcy, they may be able to receive the protection of the Bankruptcy Code by filing a Chapter 13 Bankruptcy petition. In a Chapter 13, the debtor proposes a 36 to 60-month plan to pay back their debts. The monthly payment plan can be a small percentage of the total debt owed all the way up to 100% of the debt. The percentage varies depending on various factors including the total amount owed as well as the debtor’s income and expenses. The debtor pays 0% interest on most debts and only claims that are timely filed with the Bankruptcy Court get paid through the plan. Finally, for the duration of the plan, the debtor receives the protection of the automatic stay which, as mentioned above, stays all collections efforts by creditors.

If you have any questions about Bankruptcy or debt settlement, please feel free to contact the Law Offices of David I. Pankin, P.C. at 888-529-9600 or by using our easy online contact form. David I. Pankin is a bankruptcy lawyer in Long Island. Mr. Pankin helps clients throughout the New York Metro Area with convenient locations in Manhattan, Brooklyn and Melville.

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15 Early Warning Signs of Autism

15 Early Warning Signs of Autism via Spectrum Sense 8 comments 15 Early Warning Signs of Autism The facts are quite astounding those days: at least 1 in 60 kids have an autism spectrum disorder. And you probably realize by way of now that early detection and intervention are crucial to the child’s outcome. If autism is observed for the duration of the primary few years of life, and treatment options are installed place, the child has a far greater danger at successful development. Let’s look at some of the early warning signs of autism. I by no means would have considered some of these as early warning symptoms of autism! It's useful to know what to look for, so you can get your baby evaluated as early as viable if you think your toddler can be autistic. Look out for those symptoms of autism! #autismawareness #autismspectrumdisorder #autismspectrumdisorders #spectrumsense #spectrumsenseformoms #autism Facebook Twitter Pinterest Noticing early warning symptoms of autism Everyone tells us now not to evaluate our toddler with others, whether or not to our personal or a person else’s children, however, how are we able to say we don’t be aware any variations if we’re in reality being honest? We can’t just ignore their development and inform ourselves, “They’ll speak once they’re ready” and similar statements. Sure, every baby is distinct, and some develop greater fast or slowly for non-regarding reasons. How are we meant to understand when to worry? The key right here is looking for a pattern. If your 

child does one or two things that appear a chunk unusual to you, that may not necessarily be caused to ship up pink flags. On the opposite hand, in case you are noticing that your toddler isn’t hitting a couple of milestones, or has numerous very strange behaviors, that’s a good reason to check in with their pediatrician. Here are some of the commonplace early warning signs of autism to be watching for around 12-18 months and beyond. 1) Hand flapping Watch those little palms. Are they making any repetitive movements? Some children at the spectrum gift with classic “hand flapping,” where they flap their arms up and down or facet to aspect. It might also seem as if they're geared up for taking off! Others open and close their palms speedy, usually in a row; this is another shape of hand flapping. If you do note this, attempt to decide if it is a reaction to exhilaration, or if your baby makes use of it at different times as well. This may be a normal reaction to pleasure in infants, however, normally stages out in the first couple years of life. Should you note your toddler flapping in different instances, together with within reaction to anger, frustration, sadness, or boredom, that is ordinary and must be noted. A subscription box for kids with autism Facebook Twitter Pinterest 2) Obsessive interests Most children have a favorite toy or numerous favorites. That’s completely ordinary. But when a toddler obsesses over something, it could be a bit concerning. My older son loves cars. His second word became a car! But he loves them a chunk to much, and I observed this very early on. Around 9 months antique, he commenced carrying round his First 100 Words board e-book with him everywhere, because there was a section of cars in it. He needed to have an e-book with him at all times. He carried it around whilst he was playing, took it on outings, or even took it with him for naps and bedtime. He was constantly moving over the one's car spreads. Then Mama got smart and was given him the First 100 Trucks 

board e-book, and he was elated! On his first birthday, he was given numerous toy vehicles and commenced lining them up continuously. By the time he was two, he already had a small collection of toy vehicles and turned into completely hooked. His hobby went beyond “that is my favorite toy” into the realm of overall obsession – that’s the key. Here’s an instance of the “parking lots” he builds: autism warning signs and symptoms Facebook Twitter Pinterest See? Obsession. If your kiddo likes a sure element a piece too much, preserve an eye fixed on it, and notice if the obsessive conduct continues. This is surely one of the lesser-known signs of autism that I nearly missed. three) Delayed speech Babies have to be cooing and babbling around 6-nine months. If your child has now not hit this milestone, this is usually a pink flag. If your child isn't speaking at all with the aid of their 2d birthday, they need to be evaluated to decide the purpose of the speech delay. The quicker they get a speech therapist, the greater quick they can gain lower back the floor they have lost. 4) Lack of emotional attachment Some infants on the autism spectrum are very affectionate, so you can’t use that to rule out autism. On the opposite hand, if your baby doesn’t have any emotional attachment, it can be a motive for concern. If your baby does not like to be cuddled, does no longer show the warm temperature to you and other loved ones, and does no longer appear to need you for emotional support, take observe. Lack of emotional attachment is one of the early warning symptoms of autism. My more youthful changed into this manner. He couldn’t STAND to be touched or held from the time he becomes born until round and a 1/2 years old. It broke my mama coronary heart into pieces, however, he has extra than made up for it over the past year, together with his 180 diploma turn! Now he is the most cuddly little element I’ve ever seen! Therapy tools for autism Facebook Twitter Pinterest 5) Little leisure From the first few months, infants normally begin to show leisure by means of smiling. Sure, a few toddlers are simply extraordinarily serious, but when it comes to play time, they must be able to reveal a few shape of enjoyment with their facial expressions. If your toddler is 6-nine months or older, and rarely smiles or laughs, you’ll want to jot that down on your listing. 6) Gestures Between 12 and 24 months, babies should start to use gestures to communicate. Pointing to items, waving goodbye, shaking their head “no,” or motioning to “come here” are common gestures used at this age. Children need to be pointing to items they need, and can generally factor to an item while asked to discover it. Any loss of gestures have to be noted. 7) No response to call I still conflict to get my three 12 months antique’s attention with the aid of calling his name. He is autistic, and has in no way responded easily to his 

name. When he turned into two, I could say his call 20 instances in a row, even from a few toes away, and he might no longer reply at all. Around their first birthday, infants need to be responding to their call. If your child has turned one and nevertheless does now not renowned you when you name them, this is not everyday. Facebook Twitter Pinterest eight) Repetitive behaviors Does your child exhibit any repetitive behaviors like rocking, head-banging, hand-flapping (as we word above), spinning, or every other repetitive motions with their body? This is one of the maximum common early warning symptoms of autism. Other repetitive behaviors encompass hitting oneself, humming (now not humming a tune, however buzzing for the sake of making noise), making clicking noises, snapping, clapping (inappropriately), pacing, or making different repetitive motions. These must without a doubt be mentioned with your baby’s pediatrician. nine) Gazing Does your kiddo ever appearance like they're daydreaming? This can be perfectly normal, so it’s no immediate reason for concern. Again, look for a pattern. Are they falling into a daze more than one times a day, or simply as soon as in some time? When you trap your baby staring off into the distance, try to get their attention. If you can't get their interest through saying their call or snapping your fingers, and this is a ordinary occurrence, it is able to be an early warning sign of autism. 10) Rigidity Rigidity can take extraordinary forms. Your child may also seem ritualistic, and demand to follow sure schedules or routines. It’s okay for a kid to want a blue bowl on every occasion they eat; it’s after they have a meltdown, or refuse to eat if they don’t get a blue bowl, that it will become regarding. Also reflect onconsideration on how your child responds to modifications in schedule. If you normally visit the grocery store every Saturday, and you change your plans this weekend, how does your child react? Do they withstand change, or can they be given a specific schedule? Any consistent rigidity must be discussed with your baby’s doctor. 11) Fixates on parts Pay interest to the manner your baby plays with 

their toys. Yes, please examine them to different kids – you have got my permission! Do they play with toys as intended? Do they drive automobiles and make car sounds? Do they put the shapes into the form sorter? Or do they line up the vehicles and watch the wheels spin, and separate the shapes into agencies of colors? Do they hoard matters? Focus on, or pick at a label on a toy? These examples aren't everyday play, and can be regarding. Autistic stimming Facebook Twitter Pinterest 12) Struggles with imaginary play Most babies have interaction in a few form of imaginary mess around 12-15 months. They can pick up a toy and pretend it's far a phone, “feed” a baby doll, or faux to wash a toy dog. Autistic children typically battle on this area, as most of their brains are greater concrete. Of course they can learn how to imitate behaviors in the event that they see them repeated enough, but they don’t normally branch off from there like neurotypical youngsters do. An autistic toddler may also discover ways to give a baby doll a fake bottle is they see it demonstrated multiple times. But it's far unlikely that they will preserve with the pretend play by way of brushing the doll’s hair, wiping her face, or painting her nails; they best repeat what they have got seen. 13) Repeats phrases and phrases Part of speech development is repeating words that we hear. When your infant is first learning words, you will likely study books and factor out pix together. The determine says, “Dog,” and the kid repeats, “Dog.” The parent points to the fish and says, “Fish,” and the toddler repeats, “Fish.” This is everyday. But do not forget a 2-three 12 months antique who repeats arts of your sentences, in place of responding appropriately. Parent: “Do you need a few juice to your cup?” Child: “Cup.” Parent: “It’s sunny outside today.” Child: “Today.” This is called echolalia. The infant basically echos you, or other humans or things that they have heard. They may repeat lines from TV shows or track lyrics, in preference to speakme in a conversational manner. 14) Has an unusual intelligence degree Being either far superior or obviously delayed for their age may be a cause for concern. Some autistic children have an great mathematical or musical talent, referred to as a savant ability. Others are cognitively behind schedule. If you note your child is on either end of the spectrum, and is sincerely at a one of a kind intelligence degree than the bulk of their peers, it’s well worth noting. That being said, a few children at the spectrum have a everyday intelligence level, so the absence of uncommon intelligence does not rule out autism. 15) Sensory troubles This is an entire distinct article itself! Sensory problems cover such a broad variety of behaviors and signs and symptoms that I can’t in all likelihood 

cowl it all here. But look out for any sensory variations your toddler may additionally have, due to the fact that is one of the very not unusual early warning signs and symptoms of autism. Is your kiddo very touchy to light, sound, smell, or touch? Are they a really choosy eater? Do they bump into humans and gadgets, bang their head, or seem to be constantly in motion? Do they meltdown when it’s bath time, or time to get dressed? Are they always chewing on something? These are all examples of sensory problems. Keep track of any sensory troubles you note on your baby. Keep in mind that sensory troubles by myself do not represent an autism analysis. If you want more records, take a look at out my article about the differences among autism and sensory processing disorder. Detecting early warning signs of autism The faster those symptoms are noted, the better. If your infant is hitting all in their fashionable milestones, however nevertheless has numerous of these signs, discuss it with their pediatrician. If you've got been thinking about autism for some time now, and this listing simply made you sense assured that your toddler is autistic, however you don’t have the way to get them an official prognosis any time soon, test out my high-quality cheap eBook. It will supply you masses of data on how to incorporate therapy at home. There are seventy five calming techniques, visual schedules, and an overview of therapy options, alongside with lots of different beneficial records! Which of those signs and symptoms have you discovered to your child? Let me know inside the comments! And don’t forget to subscribe, and grasp your free gifts!

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Going Broke Is No Laughing Matter

Debtors who are confronted with frustrating debt due to scenarios beyond their control such as an unexpected job loss, a pay cut, a cut in hours, and a medical emergency situation, death in the household or divorce might have no other choice however to declare personal bankruptcy.

Insolvency is not necessarily a bad thing, it has received a bad reputation in years past however in today's economy, it is offering debtors a much needed fresh start. Bankruptcy gives individuals hope; it's the light at the end of a really dark tunnel. If you are experiencing out of control debt, you are probably thoroughly familiar with the high levels of tension that are connected with having expenses you can't pay for to pay.

Filing for bankruptcy does not indicate that you can never ever get credit again; it doesn't suggest that you can't get a vehicle loan or purchase a house for the next 10 years. Although personal bankruptcy does remain on your credit for 10 years, there might still be many lending chances available to you regardless of the truth that you applied for bankruptcy. In truth, you might be a more appealing borrower after declaring personal bankruptcy because your debt to earnings ratio will be lower or non-existent, compared to if your credit cards were maxed out and if you were over-extended.

After a customer files Chapter 7 insolvency, non-exempt possessions are liquidated to pay off financial institutions and the remaining unsecured debt is discharged. Oftentimes, bankruptcy is a no-asset bankruptcy, implying that the debtor does not have any non-exempt properties; therefore, they get to keep everything that they have. In this case, the unsecured financial obligations are discharged without having to liquidate anything.

Whether the debtor submits a Chapter 7 insolvency, or Chapter 13, they will experience instant remedy for the "automatic stay," which will halt all debt collection activity. It will put a time out on any repossessions, foreclosures or wage garnishments. The automatic stay will likewise prohibit financial institutions from calling you by phone or by mail.

Separate from Chapter 7 personal bankruptcy, Chapter 13 is a financial obligation reorganization bankruptcy. Debtors who make excessive to file a Chapter 7 are directed to filing a Chapter 13. With a Chapter 13, the debtor's expenses are restructured into a monthly payment that they can easily afford. These payments are spread out over a duration of 3 to 5 years into what is called a Chapter 13 repayment strategy. In both Chapter 7 and Chapter 13 bankruptcies, the filers get to take pleasure in the advantages of the century law firm jacksonville florida "automated stay" right away after filing.

Once your Chapter 7 or Chapter 13 is released, you will get to reconstruct your credit ranking. Chapter 7 insolvency is the fastest and simplest of the 2 bankruptcies. A lot of filers receive their discharge within 4 to 6 months of filing. The months instantly following personal bankruptcy are essential for reconstructing your credit rating. When possible lenders take a look at your credit report, they desire to see that you are concentrating on rebuilding good credit after your personal bankruptcy. A potential lender would choose to see "excellent credit" on your credit report after insolvency instead of seeing nothing reported since the discharge.

You might wish to clean your hands tidy of charge card after bankruptcy however this is not the mindset that you need to have. It would be a big mistake not to establish credit after an insolvency discharge. There are a variety of credit card companies out there that extend credit to people who have just completed bankruptcy. If you shop out the different charge card online, you can compare rate of interest and annual costs to learn what best matches your needs.

It is extremely advised post-bankruptcy debtors get three credit cards after bankruptcy. It is important that you do not max out these cards. It is best to charge a little amount, around 10% to 20% of the credit line every month, and to pay them off completely each declaration period. It is a great concept to charge things that you would normally purchase anyhow like gas or groceries. After utilizing a small quantity of your credit every month and paying it off in full every month, you will slowly begin to re-establish an excellent credit score. This will be vital if you wish to reconstruct your credit after personal bankruptcy.

Be savvy, after a year approximately of prompt payments and keeping a no balance on your credit cards, you must have the ability to get lower rate of interest and no-annual-fee credit cards. It is vital that the following bankruptcy, you prevent the mistakes that led you to submit personal bankruptcy in the first location.

Live within your methods, establish a strong budget and stay with it. It is very crucial to stay progressively used and to avoid moving around a lot. If you can keep your task, and remain in your house, it will show stability to potential lending institutions. Restoring your credit after insolvency is possible, it is really simpler than it may seem. With effort and discipline, you can be on the road to financial healing and a good credit rating after bankruptcy! If you would like more information about declaring personal bankruptcy or life after personal bankruptcy, call a personal bankruptcy attorney today!

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Wk 7 Case Study: Snoop

Context:

Instead of analysing a scenario as with past case studies, this week upped the ante by having a ‘class debate’ - should the government or its agencies collect and have access to your data or should citizens have a right to stop them?

Having done research before class, we were prepared when Andrew assigned us into pairs and labelled us ‘for’ and ‘against’ alternating. Any latecomers joined the smallest group. I was fortunate enough to be part of a group arguing ‘against’.

Arguing Against:

Due to there being a multitude of points supporting our argument, the following are just a brief summary of the best ones:

Breach of Privacy v Effectiveness - blanket data retention laws breach privacy under international human rights law.

Disproportionate as small percentage of population targeted but data collected from everyone.

Most terrorists/major criminals are known to authorities beforehand.

Security of Retained Data - no set of standards for agencies to ensure security of stored data.

Having all the data collected into a repository increases the reward for potential attackers and saves them the effort of having to attack individuals.

Data collection is high-value, what is in place to stop a member of an agency from selling the data out?

ISPs not required to store the data within Australia, meaning it could be leaked to foreign agents.

Use of Retained Data

Data could easily be misused or abused by government agencies.

E.g. Manipulation of voting data, targeted marketing etc.

Type I/II Trade-off - facial recognition easily misidentifies people, the benefits don’t necessarily outweigh the potential costs.

Biometrics being hacked have a lifelong consequence.

Loss of Freedom of Speech - people will be less likely to speak their mind without fearing repercussions.

Journalistic practice suffers consequences.

Whistle-blowers no longer willing to come forward.

Definition of Data Set - scope of data which may be lawfully accessed is not well defined.

No prohibition on collection and retention of browsing history.

Data set is constantly being expanded.

Poor distinction between content and metadata.

Trust in the Government - the current government may be ‘trustworthy’ but what’s to say future governments won’t exploit the collected data.

Access Threshold - set too low, at the moment 22 agencies can access data without need to authorise.

Unnecessary Duration - currently set to 2 years but most useful accesses occur within 6 months of collection.

Freedom to Choose - there is no opt-in/opt-out option, people are forced into it without say or consultation.

Class Debate:

We staged a mock debate with the ‘Against’ speaking first, followed by ‘For’, then again for each team. Each speaking part was 5 minutes max, with rebuttals included. It was quite a casual ‘debate’, with ‘Against’ arguing disproportionality and the high levels of irreversible risk involved, while ‘For’ argued its necessity in keeping crime in check and increasing system efficiencies.

After the debate, Andrew conducted a blind class survey to see where everyone’s opinion sat regarding this topic. To no one’s surprise, a majority of the class were personally ‘Against’ the data retention laws. 

Reflection:

To be able to argue a side which I agreed with personally made the task substantially easier. As demonstrated by the outcome of the blind survey, and also a short discussion after, members of the ‘For’ described the difficulty in arguing for a perspective which went against their own beliefs. 

A fellow student brought up a great point which was, “when we have to argue something, even if we don’t agree, we have to believe in it to be able to argue it well”. We all agreed on this and Andrew also added that sometimes as a result, our views change. Personally, I believe it is quite alright for everyone to have their own perspectives on a topic - but we should always look at both sides of the argument first to understand where the values of both sides lie.

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from the day that inspired this narrative i wrote:

Chicago, Summer ‘16

Waking up in the city, on any floor higher than the third or fourth, has a very distinct feeling to me. Something about the atmosphere just...transfixes me. The contrast of the honey glow from the sunrise against the bright white hotel linens and minimalistic interior decor. The unfamiliar sight of bold red letters reading 6:00 AM at my bedside. The lack of drowsiness and dread normally present if I were ever awake at this hour. The view of the buildings, partially faded through the layer of glass I observed it from; the landscape in front of me like an exhibit in an aquarium or zoo, and me watching awestruck through the viewing tank. I had just been on an airplane for a solid two hours the day before; literally up in the clouds, soaring through nothing and above everything. Who knew that being on the twenty-second floor of your everyday Hyatt hotel could feel like being on top of the world? Though I spent a lot of my days at my small home in the mountains using my thoughts to project myself anywhere else but there, it was moments like these that made me grateful to have a rural hometown; taking on an urban perspective became much more compelling. I sat on the edge of the bed, one that was incredibly comfortable and worthy of hours of slumber, but oddly enough, the last thing on my mind was the desire to sleep. This was my second day in Chicago, for the second summer in a row now. Not that it was a tradition or anything, more like a pleasant coincidence of consecutive trips; last year my aunt was visiting from the Philippines and after she stayed with us for a while, we had to drive her up to Chicago where she would reside for a month, for business purposes. And this year, my dad’s annual statistician’s conference also happened to take place in the Windy City. After the news of this second visit was broke to me early in the summer, I spent the duration of those first two months still anchored in my small hometown, amidst the breathing trees and flowering plants in rich soil, but my mind was longing for the lofty buildings and crowded concrete. When the end of July came and we boarded the plane, the short flight almost felt more like a drive going back home - as if for the past year, actually being home was being on vacation. Being in Chicago bears a sense of belonging for me, one that I can’t seem to really pinpoint. The minimal days I have spent here, admiring the architecture, taking advantage of the culture and of course the food, have been enough for me to develop a deep-seated love for not just the city, but this city in particular. I don’t know what it was exactly that grasped my attention; my affinity seemed to have developed from a series of ‘love at first sight’ moments. It was the very first drive through the city, in 2015; my hair was shorter and I still had braces wired to my teeth and a different pair of glasses, which gleamed against each passing light. It was when I looked across the horizon and did not see mountains, but instead of seeing empty space; instead of seeing an absence of familiarity, I saw the frame fill with possibility and substance I took interest in. It was each time a famous monument or tourist hotspot introduced itself to me, most of them conveniently placed within walking distance of each other. It was waking up alone in the king sized bed of my godmother’s apartment, on around the twentieth floor, to the satisfying glow of a city view from a large window, framed by exposed brick. It was the white noise of cars and people and existence - not as discordant as that of New York City - perceived by my ears like birds singing in the early morning. It was that atmosphere, that feeling, that struck me as momentous. Chicago was a totally new sensory experience for me that I wanted to welcome again. Everything just felt so fitting. A year later, my attraction remained; I inhaled the Illinois air once again and it felt like taking the first breath after waking up. I guess it wasn’t necessarily ‘love at first sight’ moments that I was experiencing - that seemed a bit too clichéd - it was more like ‘comfort at first sight.’ I drew parallels between this year and the year before; new instances ignited past emotions. The first drive through the city, in 2016, as soon as we’ve concluded at the airport; my hair was long and I was dressed in all black. Recognizing all the landmarks I had met before. Seeing this world through my sister’s fresh eyes, this being my second trip here but her first. As I sat in the hotel, I took in my surroundings and embraced the essence of it all. This was only day two of the five I would be spending in Chicago, but it wasn’t just another day. My family surprisingly did not have a plan for what today would consist of. No step-by-step itinerary, no strict schedule; that was more than alright, because there was only one thing that mattered to me that was set in stone. Today my enthusiasm for this city was combining with an enthusiasm of a greater degree. Not only did my dreams and potential future live here in Chicago, but so did my friend Connor. We were ‘friends’ as in one of my best friends had known him for some years, and through that mutual friend we were ‘acquainted’ with each other and thus emerged our friendship. We communicated solely through texting, social media, and phone calls, but were good friends nonetheless. The moment I found out I’d be stopping by the city again, plans were set into motion, and as the period between the present and the time when we would meet gradually got shorter, my excitement heightened. This just became another incentive for me to visit Chicago again. One month faded into one week and then into one day. It was surreal getting up and finally being able to think, “today is the day.” The morning of the fateful day was a self-established rush; I found myself continuously sprinting between the bathroom and the vanity mirror by the window as I got ready. For a moment, I forgot about the beauty of my environment and had to focus on myself. My fully-dressed parents stood there, watching me in my frantic state, waiting as patiently as they could. I was feeling so much stress and pressure, despite how I had claimed this place was an oasis of contentment and ease. Exiting the hotel, that underlying feeling that I had forgotten something was weighing on me. I prepped myself with pessimistic warnings: something’s going to go wrong. The universe is going to throw a curveball at you; this will not be as fulfilling as you’ve made it out to be. This made for a restless bus ride. My concept of time was inconsistent: was time moving too fast or too slow? At around 11:15 Central Time, we arrived in front of The Bean. I might have just been waking up at this time if I was home, but not here; the city was awake and loud with color and life. As the bus stopped with a hiss and we stepped off, the relentless sun greeted us unwelcomely. I was drawn to the massive, shining Bean immediately, not out of fascination, but because my instincts took me towards the nearest shade I could find. I stared up at the distorted reflections of dozens of tourists nestled under the sculpture with me and saw patterned visuals, warped and metallic, imagining what alluring photographs they would make. My camera was at hand; normally I would be using it, but waiting there under the scorching sun, my anxiety was absolutely overwhelming, washing out any other current thoughts or impulses. Suddenly, I needed space. I needed time. I needed to take a reality check. I made a brisk walk to the nearby bathrooms and I felt like a nervous young tourist; it made me uneasy, I wanted - needed to feel happy, comfortable, at home. In the bathroom, the swift wave of cooler air was a relief; I set my bag on the sparkling black linoleum, glad no one else was occupying the space with me. I made those last-minute touches that slipped my mind in the hotel. I went to the bathroom, sprayed on some perfume, and fixed my hair, which today was tame but still just as thick; pulling some of it back with a hair tie. I took the brisk walk back to The Bean in a more collected fashion, immediately planting myself in the shade of the park’s trees, where I could sit and ensure that my hair wouldn’t get too frizzy. Connor wouldn’t be there for quite some time, but just in case, I had to keep my eyes peeled, looking around and checking everything in the surrounding area. Every boy in the dense mass of people held the possibility of being him. I had never been this antsy while waiting for anything. I unpacked my bag, pulling out the few presents I had for him, before putting them back in one at a time. Bundle of Pokémon cards. T-shirt. CD (The Strokes, Angles). Stickers. Card. Balling up my long-sleeved button up, which served a questionable purpose in this heat, thinking, thinking, can’t stop thinking. I can’t believe I’m here. I can’t believe this is actually happening. This situation is so surreal. How will I know when he’s here? What will it be like when we meet? At some point my sister went off on her own; she was spending her day at the Art Institute, on her own excursion. I was still deep in my thoughts, imagining them as a pool to swim through to combat the humid weather. I don’t remember the exact moment, I don’t remember the exact thought that ran through my mind, but my attention was caught - with a pinch, a slight alert. There he was. I saw him. In the distance. I saw him, with my eyes; a physical three-dimensional being, walking right in front of me. At first it was just another guy that I happened to lay my eyes on, but there were features that were too distinguishable for me to not recognize: light greenish blond hair, quarter sleeve baseball shirt and jeans, skateboard on his back. There was a delay in how my mind registered who that was, but before I could even think about it I found words leaving my mouth, “Is that him? Oh my god! That’s him, right there! OH MY GOD,” and my parents had no response, obviously they didn’t care as much. I watched him walk over to the other side of the grassy expanse, looking down at his phone - probably texting me - before he sat on an opposing ledge, back facing me. 11:33, I received the text: “I’m here”. I quelled the urge to just run over to him, what was once hundreds of miles away was now just a couple of feet. I’m not usually one for phone calls, but I was on the phone in an instant, and not even waiting for him to pick up or say a word, I said, “I SEE YOU. TURN AROUND,” he turned, but not in the right direction; “no completely around, turn all the way around,” and when I said that, he did accordingly, and that was the moment we were both seeing each other for the first time. In a dreamlike haze, we exchanged waves and after what might have been the fastest goodbye possible, my feet were ahead of the rest of my body and I ran towards him for a hug. Letting out an enthusiastic “Connor!”; we met in the middle, “I have something for you,” I laughed, handing him a card with the same words printed on the front (and “you’re holding it” on the inside). This wasn’t a particularly phenomenal embrace, but in this instant, as Connor laughed in response, everything was alright and nothing mattered. ‘Comfort at first sight’; this was that again. Usually, when I highly anticipate any event, it decides to veer away from my expectations and I end up disappointed. It was not often that my anxiety was answered with solace. It was August 1st, 2016, and the long, impending countdown in my head was now over. There I was, getting lunch and sitting in the park with a friend that I never thought I would ever meet. On this day, I was allowed to roam the city streets, alone with someone who was technically a stranger. I had no idea where we were going or how to get around, nor was I sure of what we were doing and what I wanted to do, but all I knew was that I was in Chicago and I was welcome here. The bustling streets didn’t feel unfamiliar. The pulsating crowds of city goers didn’t intimidate me. The guy by my side, who I had never spent time with before in my life, did not make me feel uncomfortable. Colossal structures towered over me and I did not feel small. It wasn’t just another day. But it was as if...I was home and I was just spending another regular day here, hanging out with a friend that I had known for years. The uncertain path we took, which included us nearly getting lost, felt almost routine. Somehow - whether it was over the span of these two years I had visited or in the matter of the hours passed as I was with Connor - a city so foreign to me genuinely became my favorite place to be. I now know that it is possible to fall in love with something you have only met twice. And that it is also possible to experience an entire lifetime of friendship within the period of meeting someone for the first time. In this city, I experienced some firsts that I knew would not be lasts. I hoped I could come back and pick up where I left off once again, the feelings I felt being far too significant and impactful to abandon here in this time and place. I will always remember this occasion; these days in Chicago, Illinois in the summer of ‘16. Last year, I had left part of my heart in Chicago and finally, we had reunited.

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How to Manage Facebook Ad Frequency

A high Facebook ad frequency is often the culprit when a campaign stops performing. But what exactly is considered “high” Facebook ad frequency, and what can you do to manage it?

Last year, Lucas dug into the question of an “ideal” Facebook ad frequency. But I wanted to focus on some specific ways that you can manage it.

Let’s take a closer look…

FIRST: Defining “High Frequency”

Before we get started, we need to start with a definition of “high frequency.” I want to stress, as Lucas did previously, that there isn’t a set number of times reached over a designated number of days that results in alarm bells. Many factors are involved.

We should also mention that “high” frequency may actually be desirable in some cases. If you’re looking to build your brand awareness and recall, getting an ad in front of people many times may be a good thing.

That said, high frequency is often cited when discussing the drop in performance related to Facebook ads meant to drive conversions.

Four factors, more than any other, help determine “high frequency” in this case:

1. Placements used. If you only run ads to News Feed, you may start seeing a negative impact when reaching the same people regularly. These are ads that interfere with a user’s routine. But other placements aren’t so intrusive.

Right Hand Column is an example of a less intrusive placement. You can have an average frequency of 3.0 for two different campaigns, one with RHC and one without. You’re likely to see less negative feedback from the campaign that includes RHC because these ads are more easily ignored.

2. Length of campaign. Is a frequency of 3.0 bad? I can’t answer that. Is that over one day or one month? This context certainly matters.

3. Quality of audience targeted. If you are targeting people who know and trust you, they are more likely to give you some rope on how often you reach them.

4. DOES IT STILL WORK? Ultimately, this is all that matters to me when determining whether frequency is too high. Is the campaign profitable? Does it still work? If so, who cares what the frequency is?

You should watch for trends. Is the cost per action (conversion, lead, etc.) going up over time? Is the CPM also going up? Is negative feedback increasing? These are all signs that your ad is getting stale and may need to be repaired.

I see high frequency as more a metric to monitor if an ad isn’t working, rather than maintaining it at a specific level.

How to Monitor Frequency

You may not see frequency by default in your ad reports. To get this data, you’ll need to customize columns…

Check the box for Frequency to add a column for that metric. You can also drag it to a new location in your report.

You may also want to do a “breakdown” by week to monitor trends in performance over time…

Now, let’s discuss some specific ways that you can manage your Facebook ad frequency if it becomes an issue.

1. Get Creative with Exclusions

High frequency is at least partially attributable to mistakes that advertisers make. They target people that no longer need to be targeted.

If you’re promoting a one-time purchase, exclude those who already made that purchase. I tend to be diligent and exclude purchasers in two different ways: by Website Custom Audience (visited the thank you page after purchase) and Data Custom Audience.

If you’re promoting a one-time registration, exclude those who already registered. You can do this by excluding a Website Custom Audience…

…a Data Custom Audience (customer list), or with a Lead Form Custom Audience (if you use Facebook Lead Ads)…

If you’re promoting a blog post, exclude those who already read that blog post.

These, I hope, are obvious. But you can take it further.

If you’re promoting a video, exclude those who already watched it. If you REALLY want to tackle frequency, exclude those who only watched three seconds.

Of course, you may want to continue targeting those people. But instead, target those who watched for three seconds with a different ad.

This is one reason I love using video, when possible. It provides greater flexibility for creating audiences of those who already engaged with the ad in some way. And since watching video is more passive than clicking, subscribing, and buying, you can more aggressively limit frequency through exclusions.

Back to Facebook Lead Ads for a moment. You can create audiences of those who opened and submitted the form, but also of those who opened but didn’t submit. This provides another opportunity to limit frequency.

With this option, I often exclude those who opened but didn’t submit during the past 14 days. This at least provides a break for those who opened the form and considered registering but didn’t.

As with the videos, you then have the option of continuing to target that group during those 14 days, but with a different ad.

2. Use a Budget Consistent with Audience Size

Another mistake I see advertisers make is using a budget that is simply too high for the audience they’re targeting. While you can get away with big budgets (multiple hundreds of dollars per day and more) when targeting audiences in the millions of people, you have to be more careful when targeting small audiences.

Consider that when targeting an audience of 100,000 people, for example, you won’t reach all 100,000 people. If optimizing for an action, Facebook may only show your ad to 10-25% of that audience.

Let’s assume a CPM of $10, which would mean $10 per 1,000 impressions. Spend $100 per day, and you will get 10,000 impressions in a single day. That increases to 70,000 impressions in a week. If you are only reaching 10,000 people in all, you’re looking at an average frequency of 7.0 in seven days.

I used round numbers for this example to make it easy to understand. That doesn’t mean you will necessarily have a $10 CPM or be able to reach only 10,000 people in an audience of 100,000. But I hope it helps you understand what to watch for when setting your budget for a smaller audience.

People often ask me what a “small” audience is and what your budget should be. There is no universal answer because it relies heavily on what it costs to reach those people.

3. Keep Copy, Creative, and Targeting Fresh

A good way to avoid high Facebook ad frequency is to stay on top of it by updating copy, creative, and targeting.

1. Copy. Create ads within the same ad set with copy variations.

2. Creative. Seeing the same image in your feed repeatedly can create noise. Once you suspect frequency is getting too high (and performance is dropping), try a completely different image.

3. Targeting. If you’ve been heavily targeting a particular audience, give it a break for a while. Try a different group before coming back to it later.

4. Run Short Campaigns

Number 3 above is good practice. Or you could simply get into the habit of running short campaigns in general. If you run a selection of ads to a group of people for a maximum of one month, you build in Facebook ad frequency management.

Unless you are spending a ton for a small group, short campaigns will almost always mitigate your frequency issues. That said, you may not WANT to stop a campaign that’s working particularly well, though.

5. Frequency Capping

You can actually cap frequency — tell Facebook not to show your ad more than a certain number of times — by using a few different settings.

1. Reach and Frequency Buying

In about 99.9% of campaigns, advertisers select the default “Auction” option. But you can instead select the Reach and Frequency option next to it.

When selecting Reach and Frequency, you’ll have several options for controlling frequency…

Keep in mind, however, that when using Reach and Frequency buying, you will have very high minimums for budget and number of people you’ll need to reach.

This may not be a realistic option for most advertisers.

2. Frequency Capping with Reach Optimization

If you use the Reach objective, you can choose to optimize for Reach and then utilize a frequency capping option. For example, you can tell Facebook to reach users no more than once every seven days…

3. Daily Unique Reach Optimization

Daily Unique Reach is an optimization option that is available under several objectives and has been around for some time now. When this is selected, Facebook will deliver your ads to people up to once per day.

When using Reach Optimization and Daily Unique Reach, keep in mind that Facebook will NOT optimize for an action. In either case, they will show your ads to as many people within your audience as possible. This can, and likely will, lead to poorer results (if you are wanting an action, like conversions).

Also consider placement when choosing to cap frequency. You may not want, for example, the one time you reach someone over a given period of time to be in the Right Hand Column. When using these options, I tend to focus only on the News Feed.

6. Utilize Evergreen Campaigns

The items listed above are all ways that I’ve managed Facebook ad frequency. However, the method I find to be most effective is an Evergreen Facebook Campaign.

Evergreen Campaigns allow you to show a series of ads to a particular person, in order, for a set number of days. If, during the campaign, the person converts, they are excluded and won’t be targeted again. If they don’t convert within a designated number of days, they fall out of the campaign.

There are three primary ways this is done:

1. Trigger. The trigger is an action that a user will perform one time (like registering for a webinar). Once a user performs this trigger action, their time in the campaign begins.

2. Custom Audience Durations. Durations allow you to control when and for how long someone sees ads in your campaign. Create a Website Custom Audience with a duration of 4 days for the registration to your webinar, and you can then target any user who registers for that webinar with an ad for the next four days.

3. Exclusions. Theoretically, your Evergreen Campaign could include only a single ad targeting people for a set number of days after performing the trigger action. If you want to show a series of ads in order, you’ll need to create multiple Custom Audiences with different durations (4 days, 8 days, and 12 days, for example). Then, you’ll need to exclude the prior period in each ad set (exclude 4 days when targeting 8 days; exclude 8 days when targeting 12 days).

If you’re confused (it’s okay!), I’ve written quite a bit about Evergreen Campaigns over the years. Here are three blog posts:

How to Create an Evergreen Facebook Ad Campaign How to Create a Basic Evergreen Facebook Ad Campaign 4 Examples of an Evergreen Facebook Campaign Trigger

If you really want to take this concept to the next level, sign up for my upcoming training course on Evergreen Campaigns!

Your Turn

There are many different ways that you can help manage Facebook ad frequency. What do you do?

Let me know in the comments below!

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HOW TO GET YOUR MUSIC ON TOP SPOTIFY PLAYLISTS

Getting your songs on Spotify playlists is going to be a game of working your way up the ladder so it’s important to note that some tracks move quickly and others a bit slower.

There’s a lot you can do to improve results, so let’s go through some ideas one by one that works in getting your music noticed.

The Basics:

An artist's new release is eligible to appear in the Spotify Curated Release radar playlist up to 28 days after it's been released.

You can only have one song in Release Radar at a time, so we recommend releasing 1 track every 2-4 weeks per artist instead of a full album of work.

On Spotify, not all playlists are created equal.

The most popular Spotify playlists are extremely competitive and usually owned and curated by either Spotify or a major label. In most cases, you’re going to have to work your way up the ladder.

Spotify-curated playlists are at the top of the pyramid. Some of these playlists are smaller and more niche with tens of thousands of followers. 

Then private music curators like AVA Live Radio have niche playlist that can be used to help gain traction on your single and draw attention to your music. This is important because you need a variety of people and playlists noting your work on the spotify system.

Playlists that are curated by independent spotify playlist curators are important for the quality listeners they can bring to you.

Indie labels, big radio stations, and big-time music bloggers own some playlists. Others might be owned and curated by a popular indie artist with a larger following and music promotors who have marketed their playlists on social media platforms and newsletters and made a name for listing great music.

A lot of times, the songs that make it to big Spotify playlists have been tested on the smaller ones.

They primarily look at Spotify data like plays, skips, and finishes to decide how well a song is performing.

If your song performs well you have a greater chance of getting on playlists and staying on playlists for longer.

THE PLAN>>

Sign up for Spotify for Artists 

Creating a Spotify for Artists account will instantly get you verified, which can only help boost your credibility. Plus, you’ll get access to all kinds of cool features like analytics and notifications when you’re music is added to playlists. Keep track of this data as much as you can and try to notice trends. What causes you to get more streams? What causes you to get more followers?

2. Direct Fans to Spotify to Get Some Activity Going

The easiest thing you can do is to promote your music on Spotify and encourage your fans to follow you and listen to your songs on the platform so you can boost Spotify plays.

That can be tough if you have no music fans so in this case it’s super important to hire a promotor that has access to a following.

Example: AVA LIVE RADIO PUBLICIST

Remember, many Spotify playlists look at data like plays, finishes, skips, and listen duration, and many individual playlist curators will want to use tracks that are already getting some love, so anything you can do to get some social proof behind your songs can only help you in the long run. Hiring a publicist with a following is key to helping this happen quickly.

Share links to your Spotify page on social media. Include a link on your website. Send out an email encouraging fans to play your single on Spotify.

That being said, the more active you can be on Spotify in terms of releasing new music, the easier it will be to get fans excited about following you. Maybe opt to release a new single every few weeks or at least once a month to keep the buzz up. 

3. Create Your Own Spotify Playlists to Promote Your Music

Next, you should start creating your own Spotify playlists to promote your music. Again, this just gives you another reason to share Spotify links out to your fans. 

How to Get 10k Streams on Spotify: https://www.avaliveradio.info/mmi/how-to-get-10k-streams-on-spotify

Try curating playlists based off mood or activity and include tracks from bands and musicians you’re really digging right now (and sprinkle a few of your songs in there as well). Don’t go overboard with plugging your own songs here. You want these playlists to feel authentic so add no more than 2 per playlist and lead with the highest quality music.

Another cool idea is to collaborate with a bunch of musicians on a playlist. Come up with a cool idea or a theme, add in some of your songs, throw in other songs. When you collaborate like this, you’re exposing your playlist (and your songs) to a bigger audience collected by all the artists in the playlist. It’s a great way to share niche fans who haven’t heard of you.

4. Pitch Your Songs to Independent Spotify Playlist Owners

Before you start pitching, you need to figure out what playlists you’re going to target. Do some searches with keywords that fit your genre and musical style.  And then, start compiling some of the best fits into a spreadsheet. Include the playlist name, a link, the follower count, the owner, and any contact info you can find.

It isn’t too difficult to get in touch with Spotify playlist curators since most link up their accounts to Facebook. The key is to approach them with the intention of forming a relationship. Many playlist owners will get tons of generic emails and messages each day from hopeful artists looking to make it big on Spotify. 

The better approach is to connect with them first and start commenting on music you liked from their list then pitch your music only after you get an authentic dialog going.

Remember, they are people too with their own agendas, so treat them with respect and keep in mind that they are getting pitches all day. You need to stand out as a supporter first before you ask.

Someone with a playlist with a few thousand listeners will be much more open to your pitch than someone who has hundreds of thousands of followers. Once you get a successful track record you can start moving up. 

Hiring a publicist get’s this all done much faster as they have access to playlists that have worked with them so many times they can place you immediately.

(Hire a publicist: Click here)

Keep in mind too that playlist owners are always looking out for fresh new tracks to include. Chances are, if you get some placements on other playlists, you may very well get included in others.

5. Support Playlists that Include Your Songs

When your song gets placed on a playlist, do everything you can to support that playlist and ride the wave. 

Not sharing a playlist because you think your fans will start liking another artist on the playlist is a small mentality. That keeps you small.

Share out a link to social media telling fans how awesome the playlist is. Especially when you’re dealing with independent Spotify playlist curators, giving back is a surefire way to form a good, long-term relationship.

You also stay in the eye line of your fans and theirs by being generous. If you are always only talking about yourself, people get bored.

Being authentic includes talking about something you love, not just loving your own music.

6. Get Featured on Blogs

A lot of music bloggers have their own Spotify playlists, and getting a good review or two can potentially get you a spot on their playlists.

Here’s a great list of music blogs we love to use.

27 Music blogs you need to know : https://medium.com/@JacquelineJax/27-best-music-blogs-to-submit-your-music-c56f0417f0b9

7. Submit Directly to Spotify Playlists

You can now submit new releases directly to Spotify for consideration in playlists through your Spotify for Artists account. The track must be unreleased so planning is important.

You need to submit it at least 7 days prior to the scheduled release date. You can only submit one track at a time (you can submit a new one after your first track is officially released).

Finally, you need to submit information and data along with the song.

This includes information like genre, mood, instrumentation, and cover/original.

Spotify will use this information coupled with the data they already have compiled on you and your previous music release history and performance to potentially find a place for it on playlists.

How to Ride the Wave

Now that you are getting a decent amount of streams on Spotify, now what?

Getting tens of thousands of plays on Spotify does not necessarily equate to getting more fans. There are plenty of artists who have gone viral on Spotify – who make a decent living from Spotify revenue – but can’t even fill their local venue.

People don’t always follow artists on spotify when they listen as most times they are listening on a playlist or on a website outside the platform. 

And Spotify is NOT in the business of helping artists grow their fanbase. They’re in the business of getting people to listen to music and podcasts on their platform with the end goal of getting people to pay for the Premium services.

This means it’s up to you to ride the wave of any success you may get on Spotify. You need to do everything you can to turn those listeners into fans and supporters. 

Make sure you have social media platforms set up, a website, and an email list at the very least listed and with working links on your spotify page. These are places you can direct Spotify followers and listeners to connect and start building that artist-fan relationship.

Also be sure to update your profile when you release new music both talking about who you are as an artist and how the new release relates to your music history and timeline.

Now it’s time to start working with a promotor for solid guidance and to get help getting all of this in action quickly.

Smart artist know when to hire for the jobs they don’t do best. It’s part of making good business and career choices.

Checkout these 2 recommended starting promotions.

Submit Hub allows artists to use a publicist to introduce their music to a larger audience.

New Music Promotions

This promotion works a single into newsworthy status through featured pages, social hype, newsletters and radio.

Essential marketing..

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Top 15 Weight Loss Myths

There are many commonplace weight reduction myths that humans stay with the aid of when it comes to their health. It is difficult at instances to split the weight loss myths and reality from what's proper. Many sound proper while others are just laughable. I as soon as read someplace that in case you drink water at night that you're going to advantage weight or that if you scratch your head too often you are going to lose your hair....

Weight Loss Myth # 1 The more weight that I ought to lose the more extreme my exercise habitual need to be

Weight Loss Truth: Although having an severe exercising ordinary is splendid, there are a few things you ought to consider: the first being that everybody is at a one of a kind level when it comes to their fitness and how much intensity they are able to honestly handle. If you have been physically inactive for a number of years, an severe workout for you might be, strolling half a mile an afternoon. After you stroll that half mile you observe that you are sweating bullets and that you are tired. However, for someone who has been physically active for decades, walking half a mile may be executed with out a sweat. Everyone has a one of a kind definition of what "severe" is.

If excessive for you is working out for an hour a day, however because of lifestyle's busy agenda you best have time for 20 mins an afternoon, then the ones 20 minutes will cross an extremely long manner. It may not necessarily be categorized as "severe", according to your definition, however the ones little cardio moments can have superb health changing consequences.

Fat Loss Myth # 2 Stress and weight advantage do not move hand in hand

Weight Loss Fact: This is one of these "laughable" myths. To examine more how strain is including lbs. On your existence please down load my unfastened E-Book, "Psychology of Releasing Weight"

Weight Loss Myth # 3 I can lose weight at the same time as eating whatever I need

Weight Loss Truth: Sir Isaac Newton once said " What is going up should come down." There are herbal concepts that govern our lives. If you throw a ball up inside the air, it's miles going to come backtrack. You can sit down in your couch and believe and visualize that the ball will staying afloat in the air, however herbal concepts teach us that it'll come down. Same goes in terms of our weight.

This is one of the most commonplace weight reduction myths accessible. It is illogical to think that your health and weight are going to be in balance in case your nutrition is composed specially of Twinkies, chips, and donuts. Sure you may burn it off via exercising, however most people whose weight loss plan includes specially junk meals are in all likelihood no longer disciplined sufficient to stick to a exercising recurring. I do realize some those who, from the out of doors, look like they're in top form, because they may be no longer "fat, but who've excessive LLD cholesterol.

Just because I experience sorry for crushing the hearts of so many twinkle enthusiasts available, I might say this. You can consume junk meals, cookies, chips, ice cream, pizza, burgers.... All of those "soul pleasurable meals", but it must be carefully. Anything in extra is by no means right.

Fat Loss Myth # 4 Skipping meals is a great manner to lose weight

Weight Loss Fact: There are numerous research that display that folks who bypass breakfast and consume fewer instances in the course of the day have a tendency to be loads heavier than who've a wholesome dietary breakfast and then eat 4-6 small meals during the day. The motive to this is probably the reality that they get hungrier afterward within the day, and may will be inclined to over eat in the course of different meals of the day.

Weight Loss Myth # five I will not shed pounds while consuming at night time

Weight Loss Truth: You can over indulge in meals throughout the day and no longer eat a unmarried thing at night time and you WILL gain weight. As is the truth that you could starve yourself for the duration of the day and consume all night time long and you continue to will benefit weight. The key right here is stability. If your body is telling you that it is hungry then possibly you ought to listen to it. The fact is, that over eating, even as not exercise, will purpose you to benefit weight; regardless of what time of the day which you eat. Whenever I am hungry at night time, as is my addiction with other meals at some stage in the day, I try to choose something this is herbal in nature. Something like culmination, veggies, or I would possibly even make myself a fruit smoothie. During the ones moments that I am craving ice cream or some thing sweet, I permit myself to get some, and DO NOT sense responsible approximately it. Many folks that are obese stay their existence in guilt and disgrace. I allow myself to get a few, however, WITH MODERATION.

Fat Loss Myth # 6 I'm not applicable until I lose weight

Weight Loss Fact: The character who doesn't experience appropriate due to the fact they're fat is due to the fact they are not applicable to themselves first. The way that you suppose others view you is based totally on your view of yourself. I virtually agree with that one have to grow to be emotionally fit earlier than turning into bodily fit. I even have gone via these self-proscribing emotions earlier than. Once I realized that I changed into ALREADY ENOUGH within the eyes of God and that I had no want to prove myself to everybody or to obtain external validation for my self confidence, that made all of the difference for me. Once you take delivery of your self as who you are RIGHT NOW and understand that you are already enough within the eyes of God, you may now not sense like you are not perfect due to your weight.

Weight Loss Myth # 7 I want to cut energy to lose weight faster

Weight Loss Truth: Cutting your energy down might be a superb factor, in case you are drastically overeating and stuffing your face. However, if you are consuming proportionally then slicing calories might have an aversive have an effect on. If you're reducing energy and are ravenous your frame, then on the way to lower your metabolism, or in different phrases sluggish it down, which can also result in you sincerely now not losing any weight at all, even if you are "slicing calories"

Fat Loss Myth # eight Skipping food will help me shed pounds

Weight Loss Fact: Skipping meals might also actually reason you to benefit weight! You will become too hungry and will eventually should eat. This will knock your metabolism off target and could in the end slow it down. Think of a car strolling low on gasoline (food), in case you do not fill it up, it'll ultimately stop running. Same is going for our frame, we want to preserve it fueled constantly.

Weight Loss Myth # 9 I suppose I actually have genetic weight gain, it runs in my family!

Weight Loss Truth: Can someone say E-X-C-U-S-E-S? I will now not deny that there is probably tendencies for heavy parents to elevate heavy children who will continue to be heavy their whole lives, however I do not believe that there is really a "fats" gene or DNA available. What we do inherit from our circle of relatives, on the whole those who at once raised us, are our perspectives and ideals. Your perspectives about food, cash, faith, politics, education, etc. Are based upon how you were raised. If you have been raised in a home in which the primary meals cooked in which fried ingredients, then you definitely would possibly will be predisposed to continue cooking and eating fried ingredients all through your lifestyles. If this is the case then you might be a bit heavy around the waist. The easy factor to do is to blame it on those who have been in fee of your upbringing, but, you ALWAYS have a desire to trade.

Fat Loss Myth # 10 Eating wholesome is simply too tough

Weight Loss Fact: Eating healthful is the handiest component within the global.....Once you have trained yourself to do it. How in many instances have you placed a purpose to shed pounds or to "consume higher"? The first few days you're doing excellent, ingesting all styles of foods which you generally would not devour. Then some thing humorous commenced to happen, you went returned to your antique behavior and behaviors. This has occurred to you in different regions outside of your health. It may be with getting cash, looking for a brand new job, or for your relationships. Creating a new addiction takes time due to the fact our mind's do now not like change. Change to the mind is risky. Anyways, in case you would really like to study extra about how our mind attempts to sabotage us from developing new behavior then please download my loose E-e-book, "Psychology of Releasing Weight"

Weight Loss Myth # eleven You should give up your preferred ingredients to lose weight

Weight Loss Truth: What could a international with out chocolate and without pepperoni pizza be like??? I assume it would be a torturous international to live in!! Lil, now on a actual be aware I completely disagree with this fable. You are certainly capable of devour your preferred ingredients. Depriving your self of this kind of pride is not amusing, and quite frankly you probably WILL devour it in any case. As has been stated earlier than, the real key is moderation. If you are a steak lover, then possibly it won't be the nice matters to devour it every single day, but possibly a couple of times per week. Those who understand me for my part recognize that I LOOOOOOOOVE fowl wings with pizza. In a really perfect global wherein I would not benefit any weight and my arteries were clog-less, I would love to eat it numerous times in step with week, nicely greater like each day. However, I realize that those are not the healthiest of meals picks so I have it about 2-three times in keeping with month. I am not giving up my favorite ingredients, I am just consuming it carefully so that it would not seize up to me inside the form of excess weight.

Fat Loss Myth # 12 Overeating is because of hunger

Weight Loss Fact: Nice attempt there. If only we should blame "starvation" for it. In truth, this person we call hunger has not anything to do with you OVEREATING. It may have something to do your body telling you that it's time to "gasoline up" and that it needs meals, however that isn't always an indication that one need to overeat. What causes many human beings to overeat are distinct reasons. One of the primary ones is feeling of stress, depression, loneliness, tension, worry, and different down grading emotions of that nature. Many instances food may be a way of pleasing your wishes. You might be genuinely getting your desires met through your foods. For example, in case you live a lonely existence, and are not very happy, then meals may want to perhaps be a way of you feeling happy and comforted. There are different articles that I actually have written in this situation but suffice it to say that overeating is NOT reason with the aid of being hungry.

Weight Loss Myth # thirteen Only drastic diets work

Weight Loss Truth: There is going that phrase again...Diet....The ones "drastic diets" are most effective proper for brief weight reduction and speedy weight gain once you get of it. These drastic diets variety from the "cookie weight loss program", lo.... All that manner to "the water only weight-reduction plan"..... I am positive you may shed pounds at the same time as on these Diets, but the weight can be received right back and commonly with a few brought weight as a bonus

Fat Loss Myth # 14 I am too fats and too a long way down the road to begin

Weight Loss Fact: A lengthy journey begins one step at a time. It is natural to anticipate instant effects and to even fear the street ahead of you; specifically if you are extremely obese. The secret right here is to make SMALL incremental adjustments. Don't anticipate perfection due to the fact so that it will lead you to sadness. You are by no means too some distance down the street to where you can't see the soar's mild......

Weight Loss Myth # 15 I can not do it, I have attempted often and feature failed

Weight Loss Truth: The amazing Henry Ford once said "Whether you observed you can https://fitbeautysalon.com/product-category/beauty/, or you think you can't- you're proper.'"......It is 90% attitude, and 10% honestly getting off your butt and doing something about it. You collapse, you get again up.... You fall down again, you get returned up once more. If you've got tried to shed pounds within the beyond then it's time to keep trying. Discouragement is to dropping weight as is a piece of fried hen to a vegetarian......They DO NOT pass hand in hand.