#but like rebloggable personal bs???

[siixkiing]

I am going to have to say this again apparently...DO NOT REBLOG RP THREADS OR ASKS THAT ARE BETWEEN MYSELF AND MY PARTNERS. I don't mind personal/non-rp blogs following me BUT less it's fanart (mine or others), you are NOT allowed to reblog anything of mine. This includes HCs, RP Threads, OOC posts, IC Posts, or Asks LESS you are an RPer or involved in the thread/ask. OTHERWISE, keep your hands OFF, if this continues to happen I will start blocking personals.

[rainbowsky]

Hello, I just want to let you know that you and vic are my comfort spaces and I'm your constant reblogger and I read your posts like my daily morning paper. You made my ggdd fandom experience fun and informative and I always find myself crawling back to your pinned posts for whenever things get too dramatic in twt to calm and restrain myself. My tl is curated but sometimes some people get lost on our side of the pond and the urge to defend the boys gets overwhelming and your posts keep me in line. So we appreciate you so much 🙏

Sorry you had to deal with a lot of antis but i hope you know some of us would really like to take you to a lovely dinner if we could, if only to say thank you for being the voice of reason and for being amazing overall 🩵

Aww, thanks so much, stilluntamed! 🥰

Thankfully anti garbage isn't usually a very prevalent thing in my fandom experience. I ruthlessly make use of the block function and I tend to guard my enjoyment of fandom pretty closely.

It's just when people start importing all that BS into my inbox that it becomes unavoidable for me, and that's when I start to get a bit twitchy. I understand people's desire to have someone tell them everything's going to be OK, but I can't always be that person.

At some point every individual has to take responsibility for their own fandom experience and curate that trash out of their news feeds. At some point every individual has to learn to consider the source when evaluating claims.

I have built a lovely, peaceful little garden cottage here, people shouldn't come dumping trash on my doorstep. 😅

[alatismeni-theitsa]

Auntie,

I saw the latest post you reblogged and went through the comms and rebloggs and ended up finding this post that an American wrote after making up things in the comments.

https://www.tumblr.com/cardassiangoodreads/736940010036756480/me-i-dont-care-what-some-overly-online-greeks

My favourite part is where they claim to be an Italian and due to that, fully able to just spout out any possible bs they want (I'm guessing they are like 25% Italian at best, it just looks good when they say shit about things they don't know about but have an opinion on anyway). What makes me angry is how dismissive they are and how they try to whitewash what Greeks have gone through just so they can do whatever they want with Greek culture without understating that it's wrong or feeling guilty about it (as they would if this involved any other culture). Like, Greeks are suddenly "chronically online" if they just don't want to be excluded even further.

Thanks for letting me know, cause I had the chance to reblog that post with my thoughts! And thanks for the support! 💙 I've seen chronically online people make crazy demands crying "cultural appropriation" and there's a clear difference between those cases and the valid cases.

What's funnier is that Italians and other neighbors are very supportive and relate to the Greek complaints. (because they know there's more to our history than some events that happened 2.000 years ago)

I understand that in their post this person makes light of the fact that their Italian ancient ancestors heavily appropriated Greek stuff, and I'm not holding a joke against them. Buuut ya know, I'd like them to have a better overview other than some ancient events on things they have a very confident opinion on. Our ancient culture never stopped being relevant to us Greeks and there are certain rules in place on how to be respectful to ancient cultural figures.

[anendoandfriendo]

Not sure what's going on with y'all but we're sending good vibes and all the strength we've got to spare.

Oh, uh, thanks.

It's more some stupid bs from high school, some jackass on amino bullied us into not-drawing and we've definitely posted some (not great) mentions of it in personal tags on non rebloggable posts.

So we'll be fine (hopefully) once we, firstly, stop teeter-tottering between some feelings. And hopefully less stressed overall once 29APR hits abd we're on our new project.

We've just got a lot going on rn tbh. Like, we could be typing all day on this post a lot.

[kisssatoru]

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[sonicenvy]

listen up y’all my mom was, in the 90s, a chaotic being with the biggest BDE tbh. to set the scene:

mom, 1990:

my parents had no money, three small children and no car in the 90s. at the time our story starts, dad has already stopped working. mom is the sole breadwinner for the family. she takes the bus to work everyday, which is, presumably awful. every time that she wants to go see her mom or her brother she has to go through like a 2 hr public transit adventure for a visit that would only take 30 mins by car. dad does not want to buy a car bcs they are expensive and mom and dad already spent money to buy a shitty house. they probably argued about this a ton, and mom didn’t really say anything, because she doesn’t, like do that. 

Instead. 

one day, tired of taking the bus to work and her mom’s house and everywhere else she has to go, mom decides enough is enough. she gets off the bus at a different bus stop where she knows there is a car dealership. mom, who has never purchased or owned a car before in her life, and who knows nothing about buying cars, and also who has no money walks into that dealership and goes up to the salesman and is like “hi id like to buy a car” like 20 minutes later, mom is driving out of that dealership the proud, new owner of a brand new car. mom does not give a fuck how dad is going to feel about the fact that she signed on for like $20k in car notes. she finally has a fucking car. she drives that car back to their house and parks it in front of the house, at which point dad is presumably all like what the fuck??

the thing is, there is literally nothing dad can do about this development. you can’t, like ... return a car. you can’t do that (i think??) so mom, who was previously losing this argument, because she cannot stand up for herself wins bcs she impulsively BOUGHT A CAR. 

get reckt dad.

see the thing is, mom had done this before. one day in like, 95′ mom is taking the bus home from work, in the winter. so the only house plants that mom and dad had at the time were spider plants born from a spider plant my dad’s mom bought in like 73′ or something. the spider plant is an immortal plant yall. anyways. mom decides this snowy day that she wants the house to have another plant in it. she gets off the bus near the hardware store and picks up one of these fuckers. a potted rubber tree. its literally a SMALL TREE in a pot. she pays like $10 for it and walks like 1 mile in the snow home to their apartment with the thing. mom and dad still have this plant over 20 years later. it never died. it never left. in fact.. mom and dad have a veritable jungle of house plants because mom would ... just ... impulsively buy them on the way home from work?? she would just show up with these hugeass plants, invading dad’s perfectly organized space with their messiness. just doing that.

she still does this, impulsively buying big things on her way home from work. she literally bought an entire new couch once like this. she comes home like there’s nothing different and then like two hours later there’s this knock on the door, and this man is there. dad opens the door. the man is like “sir we are here with your new couch”. dad is confused as all fuck. mom is like “oh good the couch is here.” dad, attached to the old, and super ugly couch is forced to make his own living room with ugly living room furniture in the basement because mom’s prettier stuff is going upstairs. 

because this shit happens so surprisingly and suddenly dad does not have the time to properly format his shitty arguments, mom wins by sheer shock. if thats not BDE i dont know what is.

[astertimberwolf]

Something else I wanted to outline in regards to OPs and the second reblogger's huge post is that there is also a lot of cis people who are misinformed and truly believe sex and gender are the same thing. Unless you have a lot of trans and/or LGBT+ friends, or have been in the community long enough to know how labels and people evolved, it is really easy to be misidentified as a terf when truly, these people (holding rudimentary/discriminatory beliefs) are usually just ignorant.

And while it is not our job to educate everyone on the topic, I also think it is not healthy to go around attacking people based on a couple of dogwhistles or assumptions... Just because, I've been on the receiving end of this before and it's not pretty.

I'm autistic (with ADHD) and have a huge problem when it comes to expressing myself right (I still f*ck up from time to time, but I definitely got better over the years), which can lead to a f*cktonne of misunderstandings (add the fact that English isn't my first language).

Additionally, I have a very weird spectrum of attraction (and gender non-conforming beliefs), which —I still think— falls under a lesbian spectrum of attraction- and I'm aware there's been label wars and gatekeepers arguing over what can exclusively mean something and what cannot-

What I'm trying to say here is, I wish people would understand and respect that there are others who seemingly reflect some of the things stated above here on the surface, but effectively do not have a single bad bone of transphobia, trans exclusionary radical feminist ideology &/or ill will in them.

For instance, I truly believe that gender is a societal/social construct. That doesn't mean, however, that it's meaningless to either cis, trans or gender non-conforming individuals out there. As part of the latter category, I still respect gender, new names and people's pronouns, like I would (respect) any other human religion, even if I cannot understand/grasp it fully sometimes.

I can't stress this enough but, I do NOT believe that gender is invalid (or that sex is the only real thing that exists). That is, and always will be, total BS.

...and with that out of the way, I would also like to say that attraction is a complicated thing and labels never fully cover every scenario. If I had to try and pinpoint my own form of lesbian/gay attraction with labels, I would take you down a rabbit hole.

People usually think that simply because I am not attracted to MtF trans women, I am transphobic- which is not the case at all! I wholeheartedly believe trans women are valid. I just don't feel attracted to them for some reason... And that's simply because my attraction factors in a lot of elements in a person that need to all be present at the same time for my attraction towards that person to form, but again, I want to stress this as people tend to be hateful and reductive: it's NOT all about someone's genitals- or whatever they were assigned (with?) at birth!

I'm on the ace spectrum too, which might complicate things even further... But yeah... I try my best to explain how I work if someone is interested, without getting into needless arguments or misunderstandings, if possible.

I feel like "lesbian" should, for all intents and purposes, still be a term/label that can be used in an umbrella spectrum kind of way, just like gay (or queer, sometimes) when it comes to attraction, or trans, when it comes to all trans identities (MtF, FtM, non-binary, genderqueer, etc).

If a woman (whether trans or cis, doesn't matter!) is still exclusively attracted to other women (cis OR trans), whichever the case may be, she still deserves to be able to use the term "lesbian" to describe herself, if that's what she thinks fits (and/or describes) her spectrum of attraction the best. Putting restrictions on who can use what label can be damaging to someone's self-image and identity. And even when it comes to non-binary folk that lean more on a transmasc look, or have different pronouns than she/her, or want to get rid of their boobs or other parts that give them dysphoria... If they still feel like "lesbian" is the best fitting term for their form of attraction, I'm not going to police that label and take it from them. Out of sheer respect for the person, following the principle that everyone needs to be respected in their identity. It's not only a human right but it's merely human decency (saying this as an otherkin is weird, but please stick with my analogy/what I'm trying to convey here).

I've been made aware that people prefer it when you use "sapphic" when it's some kind of lesbian spectrum attraction with exclusions (or was it exceptions? Someone send help, as those two words don't mean the same thing! Aaa), though I really think we oughta stop label policing others and just let them live as themselves without instilling a fear in them that if they come out under (and/or use) a certain label, they'll be bashed for it.

The only use of "lesbian" that might (rightfully so) still be inappropriate or cause people to be upset, is when people make a mock of it (cis-men using it as a joke) or some people on the bi/pan spectrum, who are still attracted to men, use it to outline a preference for women. There, I can still understand not agreeing with it... But I usually just tend to ignore those kind of people. I still believe that chewing someone out verbally/attacking someone for it, is not the way to go.

I think everyone should be allowed to feel valid in their identity, and that making assumptions might even be ruining our diverse communities...

I also don't believe that cis-lesbians creating spaces for cis-lesbian dating is inherently a bad thing... Some people might have a specific kind of attraction, just like me. Trans women are just as free to create trans women only dating Discord servers or spaces! And I wouldn't feel offended or excluded, at all. I wouldn't start calling them cis-phobic or whatever strange negative label (even if I was attracted to them)... Simply because, I don't see people congregating based on similarities as an affront to my own identity.

It is true that people, including (and maybe especially) trans women, still suffer from discrimination and invalidation on a daily basis, yet I don't think that nitpicking at people's profiles in search of someone to take your rage out onto, is an acceptable or healthy kind of behavior.

I just want to raise some awareness on the matter because I feel like it happens way too often that people oversimplify concepts and then go on to attack others who have done (or meant) no harm.

We can all evolve together as a more peaceful, accepting and loving community. Aggression is not the answer... Or you end up being just as bad as some of the most vocal and nasty TERFs out there.

terf (and other radfem) dogwhistles & warning signs

I wanted to make an easy guide to helping people identify terfs and other radfems. 

Followers, if you have anything to add on, feel free to reblog and add it, or shoot an ask and we’ll add it!

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[badpadfoot]

man if i were born in a high fantasy universe at least my anxieties would be about like

dragons and shit