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Anybody have advice/resources for emigrating out of a country?
To answer your questions 1) yes, this is a sincere and legitimate request 2) yes, I'm aware this process is long and laborious (unless things escalate to the point we need to go full refugee which God forbid) and 3) it would be two adults (40s, advanced degrees, decent if not ideal health) and two minors.
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there are two executions scheduled next month
michael smith is scheduled to be executed by the state of oklahoma on april 4th, and brian dorsey in missouri on april 9th. of the time i'm writing this, willie pye was just killed last night by the state of georgia. none of these men should have been eligible for the death penalty: both mr. pye and mr. smith had/have intellectual disabilities and mr. dorsey was incapable of deliberation during the time of his crime which should have changed the nature of his murder charge.
read more about michael smith and brian dorsey and sign petitions asking for clemency below:
#i was shamefully late to posting about willie pye on here due to health issues so i'm trying to be proactive now and will try to post#about people the month before they're scheduled when i'm able to so people have time to see it#death penalty#death penalty action#petitions
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i have been spending so much time adulting lately AND i just remembered i still haven't even done my taxes UGHHHHHH i am so tired. going to watch the two hours of kim's convenience scheduled on pluto every weeknight and edit some crosswords during the commercials.
#no time to watch cql today i spent all day 1) working 2) doing laundry and 3) trying to figure out how to avoid getting poisoned#with asbestos given i am a renter and have absolutely no control over what is done to my apartment#backstory is that my bathroom floor has been rotting for the past nine years and no one has done anything about it#but we got a new property manager recently and i brought it up with him and he has been SUPER on it. which is great!#except that i brought up the concept of asbestos today when the contractors were here to give a quote#and they all acted like it hadn't occurred to them before?? even though this building is 100 years old????#so that was a bad sign. then the guy told me his company were the ones who did the siding work last year#which means they're the ones i overheard saying outside my window 'YOU know there's lead in the paint. and I know there's#lead in the paint. but we're not gonna remove all of it' or whatever. great sign#and then i gave the name of the company to my friend who knows all about this shit and she looked it up and they don't have a license#for asbestos abatement...#so i'm getting really nervous#spent a bunch of time on the phone with my renter's insurance company to see if they could help me be proactive about it#by somehow idk putting pressure on my property management company to do it correctly? but they can't#AND i discovered. they can't even tell me what my policy covers. unless i submit a claim. and the claims adjusters won't even talk to me#unless there's damage to my belongings. and there ISN'T damage to my belongings NOW. i want to PREVENT it#ANyway. it's been this kind of shit and me trying to figure out if i can move AND trying to avoid the like 5 different ways i could be#laid off etc etc it's been a fun time AND I STILL HAVEN'T DONE MY TAXES!!!!!
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i think it's time to start aggressively looking for new opportunities....
if anyone has any leads for a designer, pls lmk c:
#been here 4 years and pay's been at a standstill...#every time i try to negotiate a raise it's always the same damn answer: 'we don't have any money'#yet i've witnessed numerous times when money's been thrown out the window due to bad financial management like oK......#i'm doing the work of an entire team but they don't care lmao#what a shit show... i am so done working for people who pass over all the time and effort i've invested into them#i need to be more proactive to get what i wANT and it's definitely not here :/
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#oooc#thank you everyone for your support#I have felt a little out of place amongst everyone because im not the most proactive when it comes to the spice#I have more experience writing fluff/comfort and angst/horror/fighting and such. The times I have is with mutuals im really close to#i will absolutely entertain the idea of sinday asks and such because it makes me laugh like crazy being able to write flustered goku#but i will probably take a while to write anything downright smut/spicey#i'm also working on making something to see who would be interested in shipping with Goku. A ship checker#mainly just to see who'd be interested and then try and slowly plot it out or ya know#alright i've rambled enough in tags im now going to go be emotional for an hour because im an emotional wreck of a person and i need#my ice cream to cope
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I know the canon explanation for Planet Jackers is just that the Tallest neglected to mark the earth for conquest so they saw it as up for grabs. But imagine if it wasn't a random coincidence that the Planet Jackers just happened to show up to take the earth not long after Zim arrived? Like, the Tallest were hoping for Zim to die before he even made it there, so after he reported in for the first time they called the Planet Jackers and told them to incinerate the earth hoping to get rid of him.
#invader zim#i'm a big fan in general of the#almighty tallest#being more proactive about dealing with zim#especially after backseat drivers#i think it would've been sick if they realized just humoring him from a distance wasn't enough#so they actively start sending assassins to try to take him out#and maybe only back off because they're afraid if the assassins aren't successful they might talk#and if zim finds out who sent them he'll come after the tallest
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it's day two and one of my classes is already giving me anxiety attacks BUT there's so many people in my class that are in the same major as me so hopefully it'll be fine??
#also trying to be more proactive about emailing professors when i'm having trouble bc i really can't drop out of this class#screenwriting is lovely but i really do hate doing literally every other job in a production#like i'm not interested in it so i don't care so i'm bad at it#and then i get freaked out bc i'm bad at it#look i can make a banger script for my skill level okay#like when it comes to my screenwriting i can give an a-worthy script no problem#but that's what i'm studying. professor banging on about how if you just put enough effort in your short film final from this class could b#festival-wrothy like bro!!! no it will not!!! i fundamentally don't understand how to use a camera and trust me i've tried#they legitimately just don't make sense to me#like i get it in theory but then there's always 1 million things i somehow get wrong#and that's very stressful!!#anyways. i guess it's a good thing i only have three classes this semester#rambling
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can you believe i'm already planning my holiday event
#hehe#author update#amymas is coming back in nov/dec!#and i'm trying to be proactive and write some stories early#so i'm not sweating on christmas eve to post SLDKFJSD
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"[Alice Perrers] requested that she be buried in the parish church of Upminster, St Laurence, before the altar of the Virgin Mary. Alice seems to have had an affinity with Mary through her life; a seal of hers from c. 1374 shows an image of the Virgin Mary and child, her tabernacle seized in 1377 had an image of the Virgin Mary on it, and now she wished to be buried before Mary’s altar."
— Gemma Hollman, The Queen and the Mistress: The Women of Edward III
#historicwomendaily#alice perrers#my post#I didn't know about this but it's so very intriguing#I wonder if Alice associated herself with Mary to try and assert her own 'quasi-queenship'#(ie: the most powerful woman in the country at the side of a king)#as Mary was obviously important element of queenly iconography in late medieval England#though on the flip side I suspect it would have also raised hackles that Alice - a commoner and royal mistress - was attempting#to present herself in such a way#it's especially interesting to consider in the context of Tompkins' argument that Alice was perceived as 'inverting queenship' (slay)#also this book was ... complicated.#It's very understanding and sympathetic and raised some very good points#but also tried to...massively soften Alice's actions and downplay her role and power in the process#(ie: defending her by diminishing her)#also there's this gem:#'Edward had been markedly restrained with the gifts and favour he had bestowed upon Alice' girl that is a flat-out lie#no other royal mistress of medieval England was ever given so much or honored in such a way.#yes we should emphasize Alice's own proactive role and intelligence in building up her vast estates#but even if that hypothetically hadn't happened#Edward's grants and gifts would have still made her extremely wealthy and powerful regardless#and was also weirdly obsessed with romanticizing Edward III and it got kinda questionable#like yes obviously I think we should ascribe more nuanced motivations and emotions to *Alice* than 'ambitious gold-digger#taking advantage of an aging king'#but I'm not fond of it veering too far on the other side either#I think sometimes we should simply be comfortable admitting when we simply don't know something
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oh damn, the terrors have kicked in
#its so cold#and i emailed 2 more teachers about my accommodations#and one of them responded back right away asking if i wanted to take the asynchronous online version of the class instead#and the other has a big thing in bold in the syllabus saying computers aren't allowed cuz they're too distracting#i'm scared#like. they'll have to let me use my laptop or else deal with me not taking any notes at all#but still. what if i'm just seen as a whiny loser who wants to cause problems on purpose?#which is literally the thing i'm trying to avoid by being proactive about reaching out as soon as they open up the course#like? what if i go in first day and open up my laptop and they yell at me and then i explode#and then everyone in the room points and laughs and takes pictures and i end up on the news#with big headlines that say 'wow look at this dumbass. theyre soooooo stupid and probably smell bad'#and things of that nature#i know i'm being irrational and i know its probably just a combination of nerves and also being too cold (always fucks up my anxiety)#but also. also. what if they immediately throw hammers at me
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I think all Sims or visual novels (not just dating ones) should have like. Four dialoage options. Each with a unique personality and tone.
Like, one could be more sarcastic and dry, one happy go lucky "look on the bright side ™!", or just emotional in general, one purely logical, and one who just tries to make jokes or playfully flirt.
Player can choose any of these options at any time, they don't just have to stick to one. This could be tweeked whichever way would work the best, but yeah. My opinion.
Thank you very much for answering!!!
In some interactive fictions I've played personality works like a stat, so if you're character is shy but acts more outgoing around an RO they'll comment on it, which I like, but just letting people choose at will would certainly be easier... lots to think on (╭ರ_•́)

This more or less what I've been working with as a general guide for myself???
I split how MC talks generally vs how they are with the specifically romantic choices. My handwriting is a bit messy here, but I know I want how the player interacts with the romance to be something I keep track of even if I let you bounce around between being pessimistic or optimistic. That way if you are playing someone who is repressing their feelings you get to choose who cracks first, you or your RO.
#<3 asks#the listed characters are the starter ros#i split off four from the group to work on so I'm not trying to write 72 at once#if you are curious and can't make it out#they are:#mammon (oblivious) gabriel (restrained) virgil (proactive) and cas (flustered/proactive)#cas is special#I've spent a lot of time thinking about him#but mammon had to be one of the first routes w how popular he is in obey me#not that they're exactly alike though...
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No fear
One fear
#Yadda yadda#(I'm just trying to have a good laugh about all the things that come under this tag)#You see#I am a wimpy baby#Aka I'm proactive about my mental health#And being weird while using fanfic as a means to escape#This makes me SO NERVOUS#Unless the tags are thorough#IT SCARES ME MOM#I WANT TO GO HOME
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Ashamed, exhausted, food repulsed. Wish my gf was here so at least I could be held through the agony.
#recovery#I'm trying to be kind to myself#I'm almost certain I have bpd at this point#but I need to talk to my therapist about it#and maybe need a meds adjustment#regardless I'm gonna ask about DBT#and if we can work through some of the dbt skills workbook together#now that I have a serious partner again#it's waaay too easy for me to backslide into unhealthy coping mechanisms when I'm triggered#found out the hard way last night#but today is a new day#and I can always choose to be proactive about my health going forward#I want to be a good boyfriend#but I also owe it to myself to maintain a healthy relationship#something I never got the chance to really learn or practice#but this time I will#this time it can be different#I can grow I can change I can do the work#but today I will curl up in a ball and rest
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I'm literally counting down the days til I bring my puppy home. I know it'll be a lot of work, and part of me is stressed about it, but I'm really looking forward to having something like a full time job. As a disabled person who's unable to work and isn't going to school, I struggle with depression and my self-worth. Also being autistic and ADHD, I really really struggle with setting my own routines. I NEED routine to function because of my autism but due to my ADHD, I can't stick with it without external accountability. So, I have a lot of free time on my hands in comparison to my peers, and it's hard when I'm asked "What's new with you?" or "What have you been up to?" because I don't have anything the average person finds value in to say. My mom (who's also AuDHD) and I always say we need "have to's" in our lives (meaning responsibilities and obligations) to maintain a routine. A puppy is a big "have to" and I really need that in my life. I need a big "have to" to organize my life around so I can get my shit together
#a lot of my days lately I'm just like. trying to kill time cause idk what to do yet#trying to do all the research and preparation I can before she comes#I know more about dogs and training than most but with puppies I feel less equipped because it's been 7 years since I raised one lol#and back then I wasn't very well equipped at all knowledge wise. so I really want to be better this time#be more proactive about training socializing and conditioning#I have BIG plans and I just can't wait to get started!#em rambles#puppy talk#personal#I wanted to post my thoughts to my dog Instagram but I don't have a picture to post so I'm rambling here lmao
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it's probably a crazy long shot but I'm a lil bit desperate so why not float the idea idk. just wondering if anyone would be interested in trying to organize a group to play dnd over discord some time. I've never dm'ed and would prefer not to, but if we can't recruit someone who will, I can try to run a prewritten campaign. it's just been like literally 6 months since the last time I played, and it doesn't seem like the campaign I specifically bought dice at youmacon for is going to happen SO
#I've spent a lot a lot of time crying and lamebting the fact I'll probably never get to play again#but I at least want to idk#TRY and be proactive and make an attempt at finding another group#I'm not super experienced but at one time my friends and I had 3 campaigns going st once#and it was the most fun I've ever had tbh#I miss it so much and then my bestie put on the vox machina animation last night and it made me want to play again#SO BAD#but he would never lmfao and even if he would you can't play a campaign w just 1 player lmfao
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self-isolation during times of stress is pretty bad actually shame it took me 2 years of uni to realise this
#not to be cringe but i ended up joining the people on my course today when our lecturer didn't show and one girl was getting on with work#so sat at the same table but not talking to the rest of us#we were having a whole rant session about third year optional modules and i said something that made the others laugh & she was smiling#to herself @ it#u are trying to be serious studying over in the corner but i got u sjhbjkhbsd#they're such nice people and i wish i'd been proactive in becoming friends at the start#because my lecture skipping meant i never gave myself the chance to do so and they all moved on ahead of me#i can talk to them any time and they're always so lovely but i'm not in the core group#and i've done that to myself#:(( hopefully next year .... she says again#i see them often in lectures but not outside of that much and it's my own fault that now i'm at a point where it's weird to request to join#outside of lectures i mean#but today i asked and it was fine <3 small steps#for someone so prone to removing myself entirely from everyone around me#:/ my default is to assume that nobody wants me there and i can rarely gather the strength to be there anyway#deep deep issue that one!! because it extends to my parents#need to shut up and get one with work wow
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