#but i would recommend looking into poisc(?) communities for advice

[cavityinmybrain]

a lot of posts about headspaces fall into a couple of categories: discourse (therapy device vs real emotional experience), advice (tips for building a headspace), or positivity. it leaves myself feeling a bit alienated as a system who doesnt have a headspace by choice.

i know for myself, the effort it takes to build one is better spent on other goals for my system. it sometimes feels like headspace is trotted around as the Main System Thing that every system should have and aspire to have, but i’ve picked up some other tips to cover some of the bases that a headspace also covers.

these tips might not be accessible for everyone and might not work for everyone, but these are tips i got from friends who are also systems and my therapist who is a system. take what you need and leave what you dont :)

having a safe irl space for parts to feel comfortable existing in

having safe irl hobbies for parts to use as outlets when needed

visualizing my parts existing in the space around me instead of in a headspace area, especially when trying to communicate with them

this isnt something i do, but having objects (stuffed animals, toys, etc.) that you can “project” your parts onto when communicating

having conversations with parts while looking in a mirror (helps with making responses feel less forced/coaxed out)

having mundane things for parts to do when they front to help them feel more comfortable

having many many many grounding objects/fidgets available for parts who may need help feeling attached to my current place in life

having safe system friends that make parts feel comfortable in self identifying and dont pressure us to introduce each part

having a journal/place to log memories when they appear. for us, it usually ends up being art rather than actual written journal entries