#but i get so concerned with their gpa that i don't get to do partying and cool social stuff.. ahh next time i guess

[thepettymachine]

Time for the new semester

[my-castles-crumbling]

hi cas! so I'm in my freshman year of high school and I'm in the middle of my midterms (I have four left) and its fine honestly but recently I've been more concerned about meeting all criterias for college.

so I've always been really into psychology and maybe want to get into criminal psychology in the future? and I come from a country where, while there are a few well known universities but I don't really want to stay in this country? i mean i'm fine with the country but I definitely don't want to stay in my state because well the political party that leads our state is a bit corrupt to be frank. but I don't really want to stay in the country? I come from a country which has a HUGE diverse culture and i'm not that into the culture? im into the culture of the place I come from but not of the whole country iykwim? I don't really watch movies that are the country's generalized genre although I plan to soon. we don't have A SINGULAR official language, due to the country's diversity but we do have a national language. but according to people I sound very white washed when I speak that language (my state speaks a different language) so yeah i'm worried I wont fit in at a college in my country? but I know I will fit into colleges in like the USA or the UK because I'm into western culture more so yeah.

so I kind of want to go to NYU? but i'd be an international student right. and I'm just recently kind of stressing out about meeting their criteria, the grades, the ecs and because I study the national curriculum I have no idea how I'm gonna calculate my GPA or something and whether my accomplishments in this country are even gonna be relevant in the US or the UK.

I know I could go to a college here and then do a masters degree in USA or something but i've always imagined going away to the USA immediately after I graduate school and having the time of my life there like prime time acc to me is 18 to 22 which is the time of my undergrad course. I just wanna live there and do all the things I cant do in my country while I'm still close to being a teenager. I think a masters course along with the fact I'll be 22+ means I wont really want to do the things and accomplish the dreams I had as a kid? things I could do at 18 - 22 while I'm still relatively close to being a teenager? I don't know if I make sense but it feels like 22+ just gets a bit too old and I'm scared I wont find people who want to do those things with me.

so yeah. any tips on how I can improve myself so I get to accomplish my dreams?

Oooooo watch yourself on saying 22 is old 😜

But as far as accomplishing those dreams, I honestly think the best thing to do is to research! Most universities (at least in the US) are very transparent about their requirements online and if they aren’t you could call or email and ask them what you would need to do to get in. I’m guessing you’re not the first person to want to go to NYU from your country, so there’s probably a system in place.

Remember though, you shouldn’t change yourself to fit in. There’s a difference between meeting requirements and like..changing yourself. Please be yourself!

Naming you NYU anon!

[jizelleisintumblermotherfuckers]

incoming college freshman advice !

Go to class, even if you don't feel like it. This isn't high school anymore where you can drop a class anytime you want.

Don't commit to 8am classes or you'll regret it. It's a waste of time, energy, and you'll have a hard time learning when there are loads of tasks and you have to get up in the morning and run to uni.

Invest in good quality school supplies, even if it costs more than usual. You will spend more buying poor quality things each time it breaks frequently. To find good quality things that you can use for several months or so.

You go to class for attendance and ask questions to your classmates, and go home to study basically everything. Most of the time this is actually what happens. You teach yourself and put all your effort for your own good.

Stay organized and disciplined. Have fun but be serious in studying. Make organized schedules, comply with your tasks right away, ready a syllabus for advanced studying, and have as much sleep as possible. Even if you fail it at times, organizing and discipline will still become a habit.

Connections. Make friends or acquaintances. Networking is very important in college. These are the people who you ask after lectures for other concerns, the people you help and would help you, and the people you study with. Talk to everyone, from your seatmate to your professors, about anything that would help you go on in college. You don't have to be an extrovert, just communicate. However, NEVER JOIN FRATERNITIES, it's useless.

Analyze everyone first before choosing a friend group. If you join a friend circle and they turn out to be 🚩, leave right away or cut them off. They will push you down in college. Join friend groups that don't exhaust or drain you, choose the ones that make your quality of life better. DO NOT TRY TO FIT IN, just be yourself and you'll find your people.

Stand up to bullies. Yes, bullies still exist in college. They, apparently, exist everywhere at any point in life. But unless you want your 4 or more years of college in hell, do not let them disrespect you. If you can fight, fight them to leave you alone. If you can't, find someone who will.

Enjoy your youth. Go to parties, drink, have fun, and all that. But do not be addicted to the point that you prioritize your vices over studying. Sometimes, partying can help you de-stress.

Approach your professors. Ask questions and raise concerns if you have. We have professors that only showed up to class when we approached them, despite not being present for several weeks already. Seek advice if you also need it, but understand that they, too, are busy so weigh their schedules too.

Join organizations, and clubs, and be a student leader if you have the time for it. It's beneficial for your experience as you'll need it for the industry. Plus, you'll meet other seniors that would give you advice and maybe even help you in your subjects.

If you don't have to work, don't. Enjoy your college years and you'll find yourself more focused on it. You can improve much faster.

Be serious on day one and it'll be smooth sailing from there. Do not tell yourself "I will just do great next sem/year/term" repeatedly, start doing great the first day you enter there but do not overdo it. Freshman year will AFFECT your whole college GPA/GWA so take it seriously. Ace your freshman and sophomore year so you'll have a strong foundation for when you take harder classes that will kick your ass later.

Do not tolerate your classmates, profs, or anyone's bad behaviors. They will do it until the end of time if they're not stopped now.

Save money. You'll need it. You will have college classmates who spend a lot because they have a lot of money or are just undisciplined, big spenders. Stay away from them. Have fun but be wary of your money. You don't wanna go broke.

Assess your degree during your freshman year. If you don't like it, save yourself by dropping or shifting majors. It'll be harder to stop when you decided you don't like what you're doing in your senior years.

Before deciding anything from then on, think about it carefully. Always ask yourself if you're sure multiple times. Calmness and wise decision makings are necessary for college. Impulsiveness will lead you nowhere.

Study and think of your possible future career(s) and salaries since day 1 of your freshman year. As you progress, it may change. But it's great to think about your future the moment you enter college.

Get free scholarships when you need them. College will need a lot of financial assistance.

Drop a class when you are loaded already. There are classes that won't be that necessary for your major. If you're not sure, go ask your school counselors for advice.

Find support. From your college friends, your old friends, your professors, family, organizations, pets, and people who you can trust that will help and support your progress. College is a draining point of life for students, that's why help (and asking for it) is necessary.

[dracobaar]

I suddenly recalled an interesting dream I had a few years ago.

In the dream, I was the sole owner of a tavern in one of those JRPG worlds. It was in a small, presumably significant rural town, so it wasn't that big and I could see all of the main room from behind the bar. I had a backroom where the kitchen was, and there was an upstairs where there were a few rooms for rent along with my own living quarters.

Business was sparse, with only a few passing adventurers staying for a drink before moving on. Sometimes, a critically injured person at a party needs a place to stay a night or two. There was a world-threatening war or event or whatever going on in the setting that I'd hear a bit about from guests, but it wasn't my problem. I was just a tavern owner. I enjoyed my quiet time and helping the few who needed me.

Anyways, one day, this guy I've never seen before enters and comes up to the bar. I don't remember what he looked like other than that he had a pretty face and a funny hat, but he identified himself as Abe no Seimei. He told me that my tavern was (in)conveniently located at a key point of some leyline or whatever and asked if he could do something in the main room. I don't really know what exactly he was talking about, but whatever he said told me he was going to disrupt my business, so I told him no. He tried to tell me that whatever he wanted to do was important to his quest, so I asked him how long he would need the room. He tells me he wants to install some kind of permanent fixture, which I decree as unacceptable because I have carefully designed this room to be nice and cozy! I do not need your magical mumbo jumbo ruining my vibes! I tell him to figure something different out and go away. He then leaves politely.

The next day, some different guy comes in. I don't remember a single thing about his appearance other than he looks younger than 18 years old, but he claims to be a disciple of Seimei. This kid demands that I give the tavern over to him. Naturally, I tell him no and kick him out.

The kid comes back later, same demands, but, this time, he brought some weird paper talismans. He says he will curse me if I don't give him the tavern. This time, I dump a bucket of water over him and throw him out again before he finishes his incantation.

Some more time passes, and some adventurers come in. They tell me that they saw some little onmyōji has been wandering outside my tavern saying that my tavern is cursed and they shouldn't talk to me. Since these are adventurers, they just had to come in and talk to me. I tell them that there is no curse and they become disappointed, but now I am concerned if this kid is going to be targeting my customers, so I ask the adventurers to fetch me some books about onmyōdō and I'll give them money and drinks (wow! a quest!). Don't let the little boy out there know. The adventurers complete the quest, and I do some studying.

After understanding the gist of certain things, I set up a defensive barrier around my tavern. Conveniently, there's a lot of mana to sustain it because, that's right, my tavern is on a leyline junction. A few days after I do this, the boy comes back into my tavern, and he's very surprised that I've figured out how to set up a sustained territory despite supposedly being just a rural tavern owner. Fool! This is my dream avatar! I was, at the time of this dream, a college student with a high GPA! This is essentially an isekai scenario! I am much smarter than I let on! But he doesn't need to know this, so I tell him to shut up, leave me and my business alone, and to get out before I kick his ass. The boy is fuming but he leaves. I wonder where the hell his parents are, but, hey, this is an RPG setting. Lone teenagers are everywhere.

A few days later, Seimei comes back in. I tell him to get out because I'm still not interested. He comments on the magic barrier, similarly impressed by the quality despite my lack of background. Hey, I only figured this out and put it up because his disciple has kept bothering me. Seimei becomes confused and says he doesn't have any disciples. What. Then who was that kid? Could be a fan or stalker, he has a lot of those. Dang, the heck? Seimei apologizes for the freak, and buys a drink. He can still be a normal customer, right? Well... I guess.

Seimei proceeds to sit down at a table and orders drinks and snacks. Mostly drinks. At first, I'm not bothered, but, after several hours, I realize that he's just going to keep buying drinks and snacks just so he can stay, and, in the meantime, he's working on some kind of magic artifact. Suspicious, I ask him what he's working on, and he says it's something to tap into the leyline to summon... something. He talks unclearly. He then diverts the conversation by asking if I'm interested in learning more magic arts. He thinks I have some talent in it and maybe I could be his disciple hahaha. Uh, no. He then asks if I would rather prefer to be his wife. Uh. No. This man is just trying to look for ways to stay, huh? After he finishes his drink, I kick him out.

Next day, Seimei comes back, dragging along the kid by the collar of his shirt and forces him to apologize to me. The kid does just seem to be someone who greatly admires Seimei and wants to help him... but he also calls me mean because I always kick him. Hey, maybe if you weren't always trying to curse me!! Seimei shakes the kid down and gets him to hand over all the cursing talismans he had and gives them to me. I could stick these on unruly patrons or something, or make a cursed drink to serve to said bad patrons. He proceeds to ask me for a kiss as a reward. When I tell him no, he asks for a hug. I tell him no again. Headpat? Sir, aren't you too tall and old for a headpat? ...I end up giving him a headpat, and I force the two to leave.

(I end up sticking all the talismans on a bottle of wine before locking it away in a safe. That thing becomes chock full of curses, and I do think I end up serving it to someone later, but I don't remember who.)

After this, Seimei became a "regular" to my tavern, always sitting at the same table and order drinks in large quantities. Somehow, he never gets drunk. Sometimes, the kid also comes, but, instead of demanding I give my tavern over, he now demands I marry Seimei. He thinks that Seimei is interested in me because I secretly also have some kind of talent or blood or whatever, and the whole leyline-location business was a ruse. The man himself doesn't seem to mind this shift in goals, but I certainly do. They keep disrupting my business!! You'd think a famous person like him would do something about the world-ending thing over there, but he's just here. What the hell. They do both eventually give up and leave ?permanently?, but it still was annoying at the time.

Anyways, this dream is the reason why any Abe no Seimeis I encounter in the media are hit with an opinion nerf: because the one in this dream was annoying, all the other Seimeis are more bothersome by association.

[ghostjelliess]

One time, I was chatting with an old friend and prom got brought up, we were nearly a decade out of school at the time. Anyway, she said "yeah, it was weird that you just started dancing with those random boys that crashed it with those [our closest thing to popular girls], but we knew you liked to dance, it was just weird." and I absolutely lost it as I realized that I'd never paused to explain anything to my friends at the time.

Imagine, 2009, the awkward girls who are so unimpressed by boys their age, dedicated to angsty boy bands, GPAs, and future dreams, and among them is the overworked poor girl who usually cares for her siblings, finally getting a night off after changing into her prom dress in a van. She's either quiet or obnoxious, zero scale for in-betweens, and her beloved friends she's trying to make dance with her shoo her off jokingly, only to see her crash into her jock soccer teammates (we didn't really have bad cliques, tbh, but pretend), who brought their cool dates from another school because they go to parties and meet peers outside their bubble, so cool. And to their shock, surprise, and maybe horror, their over-active dance-y friend has roped these mysterious dates into her circle. They've lost control of her, what can they do but watch her make a fool in front of the cool girls and boys they never aspired to be—but disliked on the principle of being unfamiliar and having no common ground.

And then, finally, a slow song played. Their weirdo friend returned, and they exhaled a collective sigh of relief and dragged her to the other prom activities, determined not to let her near the dance floor again.

And I had to sit our late-20-something-year-old asses down as she reminisced, absolutely cackling, and explain to her that I knew them. They weren't strangers to me.

I'd gone to school with those dumb boys since we were seven and they were neither suave nor cool, and in fact one of them had worn the same hat for so long, and refused to wash it, that he gave the whole 4th grade class lice, and the other lived down the street from my house and we had matching knee scars from biffing the same dumb skateboard jump that someone's dad never should have built us. They'd kicked me out of their treehouse when it was too crowded, but also lifted me onto the roof of the abandoned building across the street in Sandlot style feats to retrieve the soccer ball/ football/ baseball, and we'd been to so many school-sponsored events that I could pick out their lunchboxes and overnight camp pjs if i had to. Lol, I knew their moms. Their families still live by my parents back home like a frickin' Hallmark movie.

I had to remind her how I transferred high schools sophomore year and draw up a whole timeline of moving schools, and she was just like "ohhhhhh. Wow, honestly, you did just appear at school one day. At prom, we thought you were drunk. Except Ashley. Ashley thought you were secretly cool."

I was still laughing, but also shook at how deviating reality can be. Like bro, they were that concerned but never asked??? It is so strange to think how much you can peripherally know about a person, like how I know everything about the kid versions of those guys, but I have no idea who they are today. Like, I could pass them in the street when I go back home and maybe recognize them, but probably not. But my friend who I still talk to has no concept of my life before I met her at our shared school or beyond our shared experiences. It's wild.

No wonder making adult friends is hard. It's weird to get to know new people when old people remember shoving you into a broken window to get a Frisbee and ripping your back open, when you don't have to explain yourself because they were there for it all. But it's also kinda sad cus those are usually the best stories to retell. I'm not someone who will track those guys down just to say "hey remember when..." But it's strange to hear the juxtaposition of reality from a close friend who maybe isn't that close. In that moment I realized how much more effort I put into understanding her and communicating with her. Now, I'm seen as strange and outgoing and secretly crazy, but really I just remember the details they forgot, the parts of myself the assumed or dismissed or didn't care enough about to clarify their judgements.

It was so funny at the time, looking back on our prom nearly a decade out, but now, five years later, I'm a little haunted by it. I was the only one seeking connection, interested in their lives, curious about who they were becoming as they grew, and they were only interested in having a weird, crazy friend who danced with strangers and got drunk at prom.

There's no moral of the story here, I'm just working out how to make friends now that I'm in my 30s and moved so far from what was home. Why are adults so scared of connecting, they say it takes so much energy and effort, but when I meet them as strangers, they share all their secrets, from California to Washington, to Michigan, to Rhode Island. It's cross cultural. It's weird. Open up, tell your stories, be interesting. Let people friend you. New people help us evolve and listen to the newest version of our best stories. I want to hear about your matching scars and old friends who broke your heart more than any first love ever could. I don't know why empathy becomes so scary to us as adults, I just know that I want to connect with people, but whether it's a product of moving so much in my 20s or where I'm living now, or my generation group, I'm finding a lot of people are extremely attached to the people who know them as they are, with no room for new people who might learn them as they want to become. I think we need both... maybe I'm wrong. I dunno. Adult friends are hard.

[softer-ua]

in regards to what you pointed out a few posts ago, ngl one of my least favorite fandom things is when they make Kaminari the Har Har Stupid Joking ADHD Bi Playboy Who Is Never Serious Trope. like, he's very smart, 'worst in ___ area of a UA course' is very impressive and I don't remember if it even said that or just that he was studying with some other students, worried about his grades overall, calls himself stupid with implied insecurities about it, and didn't think he was very smart compared to the other people in the course. quirk overuse makes him loopy, incoherent, and think everything's funny. and yeah, he's a bit of a flirt and made a few perverted comments and actions that he clearly didn't think through that well. I'm pretty sure he's not ever stated to be bi in the manga because it was written by a coward, so I think people should think more about why they're associating and pairing together the idea of "hot flirty playboy who if legally able would sleep with everyone he meets" with emphasis or joke in the captions of whatever the content is on him being bi. I don't think this is inherently bad, even put together, but the execution feels kind of :/ and shallow. and I mainly just wish they'd pause to consider if there's any reason (subconscious or intentional) why one of those makes them think about the other, and at the very least lean back to see if they're blatantly making those traits centric around each other and tweak how they're showing them a little. Part of this is also because it's basically his fanon sexuality, but then they stick together "oh he's bi and everyone thinks that" and "he's made flirty or perverted comments and actions in canon at some point" and then mentally exaggerate and have this Canon Image of him as *waves hand at above* and I don't think that's happening consciously in most cases but. again. Cookiecutter Bi Party Playboy Who's Made a Date Offer to Everyone In The Building. not a flirty Person or a Playboy who is bi and flirts with more than one genders

I myself headcanon him as adhd and while the exact sexuality depends on my mood I think of/have him as bi in a lot of my content, but it's the same thing with why non adhd people see how he acts and label "adhd!" Especially about comprehension speed and derpy acting and intelligence and attention span jokes/tropes. Again, not bad in and of itself, but the specific parts of his behavior that make them think he's adhd, or that they start making jokes about or Ha Ha ADHD'ing, or that they think is why we project ADHD on him, (which they aren't necessarily wrong about, but like right in a really disrespectful look at how funny this is oh look squirrel way that's only funny when adhd people are doing it and it isn't all mocking like that) when they see other people calling him adhd, are the wrong ones, I think, and it shows in their characterization of him.

I'm not saying that any of those traits are bad in a character, but as a queer adhd girl with very high annual test scores and Gifted Kid Intelligence but extremely poor grades, focus, and brain damage (admittedly nothing like his, it was a longterm passive thing that mainly just made me have a Lot of Really Bad headaches, and closest thing it did to me was make me sluggish and emotional on bad days and also techincally have the potential kill my language bit if left untreated or the surgery messed up, which it didn't, and it won't be a problem again. but even after explaining that it wasn't cancer or any sort of tumor, and after seeing it do very little at all to affect my behavior outside of irritability and performance, because y'know, constant migraines, gone after the surgery but this was before that, Certain People I Was Vaguely Kind Of Acquaintances With started to treat my like I was a fragile glass thing going to to drop dead and revive myself speaking like a comic relief cartoon crazy person at any moment which was. patronizing.) I've since had surgery for, the way the fandom combines them into stereotypes and portrays them really just rubs me the wrong way- "Flirty Bi(tm) Playboy" "Har Har ADHD Can't Focus Or Get Things After They're Explained To Him, He's Still Confused And An Idiot" "Stupid Person With Brain Damage Who Can't Take Care Of Or Think For Themself And Acts Stupid And Funny For People To Laugh At" which tbh is super ableist even and especially when people irl do fit that description, and also reminds me of the Autistic Person Freaking Out And Being Dramatic sense of humor. And I know it's not helped by canon, because it done for comic relief and to limit his powers, but explored more I think it as a limitation could have been used way more interestingly than canon did and also call me biased but that quirk induced brain frying sounds at least as concerning as Izuku's quirk's backlash.

And it's a shame!! Because he's so much more interesting than that! Instead, the fandom gives me the Cookicutter Funny Bi ADHD Flirt Who's An Idiot and I am sad about it.

tbh it reminds me of what happened to percy jackson, esp with the ADHD Idiot Trope thing. which sucks because apparently it originated in the author making up stories around characters like his adhd and dyslexic kid inspired by Greek myths to tell him after running out of actual myths because it was his special interest and he wanted more. and then the series got kind of all over the place and the fandom processed that the adhd and dyslexic main character who does dumb things sometimes but is very combat smart and great at strategizing and leading gets bad grades and has trouble focusing and has, y'know, adhd, and made him the ADHD Idiot and erased his Gifted Kid girl friend's traits and ADHD and dyslexia into No Nonsense Calls Him an Idiot And Thinks He's Stupid And Has To Tell Him What To Do And Manage His Life For Him and honestly that just kind of sucks and it reminds me of what happened to fandom Kaminari. and now that I think of it people have jirou like that around him a lot too.

im fine with you answering this publicly if you want or have something to add but probably tag as ableism and maybe a biphobia mention content warning for people who don't have the energy to deal with thinking about those kinds of negative things rn because I kind of Went Off About It

I love this! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences 💚(and double thank you for tag suggestions)💚

I couldn’t agree more that a lot of fandom has messed up Kami’s character, which is why I’ve kinda been posting more about him cause he’s just stuck in my head.

I think a lot of fandoms have trouble with characters like this, people have a hard time with duality in characters and fast/fun posts are easier to make if you flatten a character down.

The did it to Kami, they did it to Percy, they did it to Ron Weasley, they do it to Thor, the list goes on. If being the Smart One ™️ isn’t your thing and you can be goofy than you get pigeonholed into the idiot trope.

I feel for Kami a lot(probably because I have adhd/brain damage too)

It sucks when you’re smart but it’s not the traditional, measurable kind of smart(even if by national comparison Kami technically is).

I got terrible grades growing up, and I pretty much got the absolute lowest gpa you can get and still graduate. But absolutely no one would have known if I didn’t tell them, because I’m not dumb.

(It’s okay if you are “dumb”, I love me a head empty just vibes friend. You’re 100% valid, stil worthy of joining discussions, and should be listened to and taken seriously. This just isn’t about that tho)

I joke sometimes that I’m clever and witty but not smart, because that’s exactly what it feels like.

I have lots of thoughts and ideas that I think I articulate pretty well, I am excellent at finding the humor in things and expressing it in a way that’s funny to others too, and there is almost zero problems I can’t find a work around. And the people in my life love it, and they love to use it.

But eventually everyone in my life finds out that I’m not smart. They see the way I have to pause to Google how to calculate a tip, that I don’t know the name of all 50 states or even where to find them on a map, or I legitimately just can not spell (if you ever see a post where it looks like I used a weird word choice it’s probably because I tried 4 times and autocorrect+Google couldn’t help me and voice to text wasn’t an option)

No one ever questions my intelligence until they find out about my adhd and/or catch me struggling with it. After the mask comes off it’s like they can’t even hear me anymore, nothing I say could be true or matter because I’m now just the goofy accident prone spacy girl. My family literally calls me Spacy

And ya know what sometimes I just let people think that because it’s easier, it’s easier than explaining that I’m dyslexic and that I didn’t have a single geography/history clas until 10th grade and shocker the capital of Iowa doesn’t come up much by then. And it’s easier for me to laugh off losing my keys again than dwell on the fact that sometimes it feels like I’m losing my marbles.

And I wouldn’t be at all surprised if after this post I get a lot more “fact checkers” and push back on anything else I post.(not talking about people who want to genuinely engage,y’all are always welcome, I’m talking those people who don’t wanna look it up themselves but no longer trust me to know what I’m talking about)

Kami is a sweet brilliant boy. He’s in a nationally high ranking school, he loves the weather channel, he’s careful about his quirk that could easily hurt his friends in combat, he has a very high emotional intelligence level, he wears dorky shirts with electricity puns on them, and he pays attention to his friends and remembers a lot of little things about them.

He wants to be a hero and he takes that seriously, and the series has tried time and time again to tell y’all that smiling and laughter are an important part of that. Kami excels at this part! So what if his history grades don’t rival the top of the class, the top 5 students would struggle hard to do what Kami does.

Iida can’t relax, Momos rather shy, Todo struggles with social cues, Midoriya is canonically not funny, and jfc where to even begin with Katsuki. I’m certain they’ll all grow up to be excellent heros in their own right, but none of them are going to bring the level of joy and camaraderie that Denki can. You can’t test that into someone.

Kami also just notices people differently and has any easy way of joining in with them, he doesn’t struggle approaching Katsuki or Shinso. Sure he doesn’t hit the the nail on the head the same way Deku does but he’s the only one who has the guts and skills to try. Also he’s not that kinda friend, he’s not looking to a save these guys but pal around with them

I think Kami 100% realizes what a special case and tough nut to crack Bakugo is, I don’t think he’s just careless or too dumb realize his life’s at stake or whatever.

I think he’s purposely testing Bakugos boundaries all while trying to not be a threat to Katsukis actual ego and calling Bakugo out when he needs it in a way that not to serious. Kami knows how to be just goofy enough that he’s approachable. He’s also keyed in that the way to Bakugo is through Deku, meanwhile everyone else is stuck believing the opposite.

Kami also realized how important music is to Jiro and saw an opportunity to let her display her skills and combin the two worlds she lives, and he wasn’t afraid to get some back lash from her for it.

Like Deku Kami isn’t afraid to be uncomfortable. You really can’t teach that level of social ease, you can teach the posture and feed people a couple of lines but it’ll never hit the same. Funny approachable people have spent a lifetime learning the craft, usually out of necessity.

It’s actually what gives me the biggest adhd vibes from him, because adhd is (speculated to be) a dopamine deficiency disorder. People with adhd are constantly trying to raise their dopamine levels, and that means looking for praise and reward and nothing makes the human brain light up faster than postative human connections.

Adhd children struggle a lot with connecting with peers and often find making people laugh a fast way into people’s circles and makes it more likely people will overlook being interrupted or spaced out on.

Also adhd people are pretty much forced by their own brain structures to be genuine in all they do, low dopamine levels make it very hard to do things you don’t enjoy because there no promise of dopamine from the activity and you don’t have enough to spare, plus impulsiveness makes it really hard to not show when you do or don’t enjoy something.

I agree that Kami is also painted as overly perverted at times, he’s a little flirty but in a fun casual way but it’s not the foundation of his personality and it’s really mellowed out over the course of the series.

And while I subscribe to the bi hc from his interactions with Jiro and Shinso, we should all be very mindful that we don’t lump these characteristics together. The are separate facets of his personality that are not dependent on each other in anyway.

Kami deserves all the respect and love, I can’t wait to see our electric king again 🖤⚡️🖤

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I was so close to God this summer 2k17 and it was the year I got saved bc i was a mess. But when school started again I saw ppl from my past and it all came back. Now i don't even think im going to college with this low GPA and my grades are trash I'm such a mess I don't even feel God's presence or the Holy Spirit for going back to my olds ways plss help idk what to do anymore

Anonymous: Why does bad stuff happen to me? I see people who don't even follow God and good stuff happens to them they get straight A's and high ACT scores and party and have it all together but I 'm the complete opposite   I've asked God for wisdom and to make me smart but it doesn't happen Idk anymore I think I'm going to disappoint my parents bc of my GPA

Seek Christ! The only way to get close to God again is to seek Him. Read the Bible, pray, go to church and just surround yourself with godly people.  God can use your mess for the good, as long as you have faith in Him. Your parents should love you no matter what your GPA is and ultimately God loves you no matter what your GPA is.  Continue to seek Christ, things will work out. (Romans 8:28)

(Why does bad stuff happen to me? I see people who don't even follow God and good stuff happens to them they get straight A's and high ACT scores and party and have it all together but I 'm the complete opposite) The the psalmist who wrote psalms 73 asked the same question. “But as for me, my feet had almost slipped; I had nearly lost my foothold. For I envied the arrogant when I saw the prosperity of the wicked” (Psalm 73:2-3). Like you, the psalmist had experienced some difficulties and questioned the injustice of it all. He watched the evil people around him living by their own rules, enjoying all the wealth and pleasures of the world and collecting riches. He complains, "They have no struggles; their bodies are healthy and strong. They are free from the burdens common to man; they are not plagued by human ills" (Psalm 73:4-5). The psalmist envied these evil people until he realized one very important thing. When psalmist entered the sanctuary of God, he fully understood their final destiny: “When I tried to understand all this, it was oppressive to me till I entered the sanctuary of God; then I understood their final destiny. Surely you place them on slippery ground; you cast them down to ruin. How suddenly are they destroyed, completely swept away by terrors! As a dream when one awakes, so when you arise, O Lord, you will despise them as fantasies” (Psalm 73:16-20). Those who have temporary riches on earth are in reality spiritual beggars because they do not have true riches—eternal life. In the end, we should not concern ourselves when good things seem to happen to bad people because we know their end. We only need to keep our focus on God.

Here is a sermon on Psalms 73 that I believe will help you. 

Francis Chan: Intimacy With God Pt 1