#but he’s acting like it’s gonna change my life and it’s soooooooo important and I’m repressing myself it’s so weird

[slythernnn]

This is the most ridiculous fucking fight oooooooomg

[tellywoodtrash]

ishqbaaz lbs: 4th + 5th may

suchhhh bad acting by the qaidis. lord, why can’t this show get better extras? 😐😐😐

pft. shivaay singh oberoi just DANCED around drunk on magic berries with a bigger gun than that. try harder, qaidis. 🙄🙄🙄

lmao, shuru ho gayi apni madam. 😋😋😋

HAHAHAHA AMAR PREM 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

“naam sunte hai pata chala tha tum filmy aur awaara kism ke ladke ho, but no! tum toh nikkame aur nithalle bhi ho.” 😂😂😂

lol shivaay’s reaction to her ENERGY. 😂😂😂

OMG JUST WHEN I THINK I CAN’T LOVE ANIKA MORE, SHE QUOTES ANDAZ APNA APNA. FUCK ME SIDEWAYS, I WOULD DIE FOR THIS GIRL. I WOULD. MOVE OVER SHIVAAY. NO ONE CAN LOVE HER MORE THAN ME. 😭😭😭

this is exaaaaaaaaactly how i react when ppl tell me they haven’t seen andaz apna apna. 😧😧😧

jesus i feel like gul & co. are stalking me. *looks around suspiciously*

these qaidis need to get a grip with the bad acting. 😕😕😕

shivaay is so undeserving of my queen. can she leave his unappreciative ass and marry me? ours shall be a happy, andaz apna apna quote filled union. 👭🏽👭🏽👭🏽

why are the qaidis holding hands? are they lovers, ‘i love you philip morris’ style? 🤔🤔🤔

also i swear i’ve seen the moochi waala qaidi somewhere before. 😐😐😐

lmaooooooooo shivaay’s faceeee when she keeps talking. 😂😂😂

lol, the moochi waala qaidi is thissss close to losing it. i guess you need to be exposed to anika for a really long time to build up resistence the way shivaay has. 😋😋😋

whattttt kinda stupidass police doesn’t know what the faraar qaidi look like? 😒😒😒

i really think the qaidi are lovers. look how affectionately that one is sehlaofying the other one’s knee. 😙😙😙

who died and made anika the leading expert on tyres? 🙄🙄🙄

lol, sach mein aaj bohut bakbak kar rahi hai. i think she MIGHT still be high on berry juice. 😂😂😂

lo. aur police. 😐😐😐

finally. someone knows what INDIA’S LEADING BUSINESSMAN looks like. 😒😒😒

BIWI BIWI BIWI BIWI. man is unstoppable. i think he’s just glad someone’s married to his annoying ass.  😂😂😂

aaaaaaaaand moochi waala qaidi’s lost his temper finally. 😝😝😝

OUFF, SHIVAAY. YOU’RE THE BIGGEST IDIOT. I THINK THIS IS PROOF HE’S A BONAFIDE OBEROI, COZ SUCH DUMBASSERY IS 100% OBEROI GENES. 😑😑😑 

lol anika talking about her hair routine featuring mehendi reminds me of the scene where she offers omkaara shikakai and reetha waala shampoo as thanks for clearing her name of the chip waala accusation. 😂😂😂

why the fuck hasn’t shivaay noticed that the policeman is out cold???? 😒😒😒

CODEWORD BHI NAHI SMAJHTA, BEWAKOOF!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😤😤😤

“lagta hai bhabiji ko antakshari khelni hai.” lmao 😂😂😂

haha shivaay’s fake laugh. 😂😂😂

oh god, please don’t make HIM sing. 🙉🙉🙉

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA OMG SHIVAAY’S GETTING MAD THAT ANIKA’S SINGING DURING HIS TURN. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

shivaay singh oberoi, antakshari enthusiast. who knew. 😇😇😇

… i’m so surprised shivaay even knows how to play antakshari. it’s such a LS game as far as he’s concerned. 🤔🤔🤔

LMAO LOOK AT HIM ENJOYING ‘GOLI MAAR BHEJEEEE MEIN’ AS IF IT’S SOME CLASSICAL RAAG 😂😂😂😂

oh godddddddddddddd now he’s even singing along to oye oye. this fucking idiot. 😂😂😂

FUCKINGGGGGG FINALLLLLLLLLYYYYYYY! 

LOL WHY IS HE STILLL SINGINGGGG ALONNNNNGGG???? 😂😂😂

could youuuuu people run a little FURTHER, and not just stop at the first thing you found???????? idiots. 😒😒

“tum theek ho?” awwww 😭😭😭😭

lmaooo “haan par US WAQT ka code word tha na!” pffffffft. typical husband wala excuse. 🙄🙄🙄

“TOH ACHCHI QUALITY KA BRAIN KHAREEDNA CHAHIYE THA NA!!!!!” HAHAHAHAHAHAHA 😂😂😂😂😂

he doesn’t know what oootpataang means??? it’s a normal word though?? 😐😐😐

I TOLD YOU FUCKERS TO RUN FURTHERRRRRRRRRRR 😩😩😩

qaidis are taking full opportunity to fucking ACT the fuck out of the 3 minutes given to them. 😒😒😒

shivaay, you know she’s not gonna leave your stupid ass, as much as you deserve it. it’s her one fatal flaw. 😑😑😑

pffffffft, so only you can talk crap about how much she talks eh? 🙄🙄🙄

lmaooooooo anika and her thermocol ka stone. 😂😂😂

qaidi 2 ki actingggggggg. amazing. 

headcanon: patidev was finding anika all types of sexy and advancing to kiss the crap outta her when that stupid qaidi interrupted. 😠😠😠

is this the time to pick a fight, shivaay? kissss her! 😚😚😚

i feel like my liveblogs these days should just be a bullet point after bullet point screaming “kiss her!!!!!!!!!!!” and nothing more. 😐😐😐

please, is that why you stood in front of a gun, ready to take a bullet with her name on it FOR THE SECOND FUCKING TIME???? 🙄🙄🙄

this is an equal opportunity bullet-taking relationship, asshole. you better accept that and get used to it, mister. 😑😑😑

LMAOOOOOOOOOOO THEM SCREAMING SHUT UP AT THE QAIDI. AND HIM ACTUALLY PUTTING HIS FINGER ON HIS LIPS. 😂😂😂😂

she’s right. it is yourrrrr fault, shivaay. your nosy NKK enquiring ass is to fault! 😒😒😒

“haddi-tod bhi” LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO 😂😂😂

I SWEAR TO GOD IF THIS KANJI EYED MOTHERFUCKER GETS HIMSELF SHOT AGAIN, IMMA RESURRECT HIS DEAD ASS AND KILL HIM ALL OVER AGAIN MYSELF. AND IT’LL BE PAINFUL AND FUCKING SLOW. FUCKING HELL. 😡😡😡

5th may

lmaoooooo wait, they’re really named AMAR PREM? hahahahahaha 😂😂😂

shivaay’s sideeye at the qaidis while watching them argue. 😂😂😂

“mere koooo kyunnn maaara????” - said in the same voice and tone as “tere ko kisneee maaara????????” from gunda 😂😂😂

anika’s turn to stand in front now. #feminism 💁🏽💁🏽💁🏽

oh mooch wale qaidi. that was a mistake. you made SSO angry. you won’t like him when he’s angry. 😬😬😬

“BIIIIIIIIIIWIIIIII HAI MERIIIIIIIIIII! DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY GIRLS RAN OUT ON MY ASS ON MY WEDDING DAY???? YOU KNOW HOW HARD IT WAS TO GET HER TO MARRY ME? AND TO KEEP HER MARRIED TO ME ON A DAILY BASIS? IT’S FUCKING HARD. DON’T YOU FUCKING BE SHOOTING AT THE ONLY WOMAN ON GOD’S GREEN EARTH WHO CAN TOLERATE ME!!!!!!!!”

lol nakuul having to stand on his tippy toes to match the qaidi’s height. 😂😂😂

why’s he pointing the gun towards himself tho? such a fucking idiot. 😒😒😒

pfffffffffft, i already know the qaidi’s the one who’s getting shot. awaaiiiii ka drama. 🙄🙄🙄

looks like policeman finallly fucking woke up from his mini coma. 😐😐😐

also, god, so overdramatic, mooch waale qaidi. bas haath pe hi toh laga hai. that’s like a rudra level graaaaaaze. ask these two how a gunshot to the fucking chest feels. 😒😒😒

yaaaaaaaaaaas, you hug the crap outta your husband girl. 😊😊😊

and since he’s not taking the initiative, maybe YOU kiss him. it’s 2017, girls can do that now. 🙆🏽🙆🏽🙆🏽

coz she loves your dumb ass, you dumbass. 😒😒😒

ouff. you two. less fighting. more makeout-ing. 🙄🙄🙄

oh ho, ghoom phir ke back to NKK. 😑😑😑

btw, is this all happening in front of the chor-police? like… you two should maybe take this behind that wall. 😕😕😕

aw. he’s trying. 😭😭😭

i know he is, but… come on man, you’re a grownass adult. you gotta learn how to control your impulses. you can’t just do whatever the fuck you “want”. i WANT to quit my job and just stay in bed, braless all day. i WANT to never eat another healthy meal again and just subsist on potato chips and popcorn for the rest of my life. can i do that? NO. COZ THAT’S WHAT BEING A GODDAMN ADULT IS ABOUT. YOU CONTROL YOUR IMPULSES AND DO THE RIGHT THING. 😒😒😒

aaaah, finally she said it. 😭😭😭

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

also, crying. my boy’s grown up. he’s SO grown up. waaaaaah. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

amazing what some rottenass alcoholic berries and having a gun pointed in your face can do! they’ve given this man the self awareness he’s been lacking for 33 fucking years. 😐😐😐

ok, did he stay up all night reading some relationship therapy book or what? he’s talking classic counselling language. 🤔🤔🤔

waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhh, they love each other sooooo muchhhhhhhhhh. and iiiiiiiii love them soooooooo muchhhhhhhhhhh. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

COULD YOU FUCKERS AT LEAST FUCKING KISS NOW?!!? 😩😩😩

GODDAMNIT POLICE OFFICER!!!!!!!!!!!! THEY WERE GONNA KISS! THEY ALREADY HAVE A BROTHER WHO DOES GHATIYA INOPPORTUNATELY TIMED SHAYARI BACK HOME. NO ONE WANTS TO LISTEN TO YOUR STUPIDASS FUCKING SHER. 😡😡😡

also, where did the second policeman come from?? 

GO HOME AND SEXXXXXXXX NOW!!!!!!!!!!! 👉🏽👌🏽👉🏽👌🏽👉🏽👌🏽

walk, you spoilt braaaatttt! 🙄🙄🙄

CHAMPA!!!!!!!!! 😇😇😇

lmaooooo anika’s wonderstruck look at her ownnnn hands. such fucking cute. i love her so much. 💖💖💖💖💖💖

lmaoooooo “zindagi bharrrr yeh sunna hoga” suchhhhh a typical husband. 😂😂😂

lol tumhare paas jet THAAA. it crashed, remember? 😋😋😋

LMAO SHE’S SOOOOO ME. SUCHHHH A PATRONIZING SMUGASS BITCHHHHHH. 😂😂😂

awwww look how nervous he is. 😊😊😊

HELLO CHAMPU! 😂😂😂 

she just SHOVED him offffff lmaooooo 😂😂😂😂

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH HE’S COVERING HIS FACE!!!!!!!!! 😂😂😂

“dono” haha awwwwwwwwww 😙😙😙

“is baare mein kisi ko bataana mat.” 

omgggggggg this adorable fuckerrrrr. 💘💘💘💘

“pair theek se aa rahe hai?“ 

kyun nahi aayenge? utniiiii height toh hai nahi iski. 😋😋😋

lollllllllllllllllllll he doesn’t know what to do with his handsssssssss. 😂😂😂

why the random flashbacks to the #shitia party? 🤔🤔🤔

ouffffff, back to this hellhole. can’t my babies just stayyyyy in the foresttttttttt? 😫😫😫

lmaoooooooo look at him saunter in coooooolllly in the bg. 😆😆😆

UGH. CALM DOWN MUMMEH. HE’S BACK NOW. 🙄🙄🙄

and fuck your passive aggressiveness. 😑😑😑

shivaay’s silent but slightly annoyed “I’M A GROWNASS ADULT” face is my permanant face at my mom. 😐😐😐

mummeh doesn’t appreciate being dismissed like that. 😬😬😬

nor does she appreciate him being a GOOD FUCKING HUSBAND. THERE IS NOTHING I FUCKING HATE MORE THAN THIS DESI CONCEPT OF “JORU KA GHULAM”. IT’S CALLED BEING A CONSIDERATE, LOVING HUSBAND. MAJAAAAAL HAI KI THE PATRIARCHY LET A MAN BE DEMONSTRABLY AFFECTIONATE AND CARING TOWARDS HIS GODDAMN WIFE. 👿👿👿👿

i’ve said it once, i’ll say it again: fuck you very much pinky. please die, thanks. 👹👹👹☠☠☠

god what nonsense. looks like gauri’s bullshit #pativrataness is spreading via air to anika. ugh. LET HIM TOUCH YOUR GODDAMN FEET IF THAT’S WHAT HE WANTS. 😒😒

goddddddd pinkyyyyyyyyyy, LEAVE THEM ALONE!!!!!!!! BHOOT KE TARAH MANDARAAA RAHI HAI HAMESHA. 😑😑😑

and he said he doesn’t wanna do the damn pooja. DROP IT, MUMMEH! 😠😠😠

yeah, whatever. good luck trying. now leave. 🙄🙄🙄

“khud ko change karne ki koshish kar raha hoon. mere liye tumhara naam khoon khaandaan TUMSE IMPORTANT NAHI HAI.“ 

excuse me. it’s raining on my face. 😭😭😭

… ”HUMAAAAAAARE LIYE”. SAY IT! SAY IT! 🙃🙃🙃

HAAAAAAAA, HE SAID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😂😂😂

“ek dusre ke liye goli khaa sakte hai… toh mom ki gaali khaa hi sakte hai.“ 

lol idk about you shivaay, but i’d rather khaaofy goli rather than mom ki gaali, coz desi moms and their daant is waaaay more emotionally traumatic. 😫😫😫

also, waaaaaaaaaaaaah, i loveeeee himmmmmmmmmm. 😭😭😭

OH SHIT OH SHIT OH SHIT MAHI VE CONFIRMED TO BE SHIVAAY KA BHAI 😱😱😱

today’s lb will be put up like… waaaaaay later. :) 

[morathor]

The Adventure Zone 55/?

"He's also severely injured."

"Oh.  ...that's a good look."

Griffin you've been more rules-conscious in this arc than in others, and I get why and I respect that, I'm just saying.  You can not be telling Justin his one-hour spell faded in less than a minute.  Unless you've set up some reason that the magic is getting cancelled.  (And he did relent, so that's good, I'm just sayin tho.)

Magnus answered the question about what it means to be a hero and.  It was actually kind of deep?  I liked that answer, about how it's not just being someone who acts, but someone who acts when it counts.  Nice. We got a glimpse of the people Taako screwed over, and it's the nice peeps from before!  And the douche peep.  Less sad.  But it was really pretty heartbreaking when Rowan saw the boys, saw who forsook them, and just like... mouthed "Why."  ROWAN I'M SORRY also Magnus put the blame squarely where it was due.

Soooooooo uh.  Turns out that severed head guy.  Was working with, drumroll please, the director.  Like when he originally got here, before she was the director, he was a hireling, and I guess she sold him out to escape Wonderland.  I bet there is more to it than that, but I'm also not going to say that the full story will like... vindicate her?  I'm not going to assume Lucretia is entirely blameless in this scenario is what I'm saying.  In a desperate situation, faced with a game she didn't think she could win, I fully believe she could have betrayed him to save herself.  And like not just herself, she did want to save so much more than herself, I believe that, but.  Cam might still have gotten the raw end of that stick.

(Or maybe Cam will turn out to have been about to betray her similarly and she really didn't have a choice and was fully justified but eeeeeeh I think it would be more compelling if she did this desperate thing that maybe she doesn't necessarily regret, but wishes could have gone differently.)

So with normal healing gone, we get the healing game!  It's very ineffecient, of course, but I do kind of like how freeform it is?  For every 2 HP you give up you can heal one of your teammates by 1.  And holy shit Merle dumped a bunch of HPs on Taako.  Sooo many aitch peez.  I think Merle is now lower than Taako.  (Also Taako was not as bad off as I thought?  Way they were talking I thought he was down to single digits.  Granted the shit in Wonderland hits HARD 14 HP might still be one hit away from death.)  Magnus makes a much smaller contribution, which mostly made sense but like... I think they could have coordinated better?  So instead of Merle losing 40 and Magnus losing 10 they could each lose like, 25 and things could be much more even.  Or even just, Merle 30 Magnus 20 because yeah Magnus Rushes In and also Magnus draws attacks towards himself, protection style.

The swords one is very interesting.  So some important battle that Magnus won in the past, would have been taken?  Would the outcome have changed, or just his memory?  It's not really clear but it's real real interesting.  But he didn't take it.  First time passing a sacrifice, getting a penalty.  It's probably just as well because if this actually changed the past (I don't think they can do that because it's not the temporal chalice after all but maybe) that could have huge, far-reaching consequences.  A lot of his battles have been really really important.

When Merle hit mind I thought they were gonna take away his memory of one of his kids.  I really, really thought he was going to have to forget one of them.  Instead it's just, memory of their births?  Yeah I would have made that sacrifice.  I mean it's a potentially powerful moment sure but it's not erasing the years of bonding, whatever regrets he may have had about abandoning them, the time he's spent recently trying to reconnect... he gets to keep all that.  So yeah.  Birth?  Don't need to remember that.  (Also Travis just quoted Hook and I don't know if that was intentional but that movie was my CHILDHOOD so I choose to believe it was intentional, and furthermore that it was JUST FOR ME while I'm choosing to believe arbitrary things.)  But Merle took the penalty.  Welllllll I guess with the whole unhappy marriage/crappy dad/abandonment years, he probably doesn't have enough fond memories of his kids that he feels like he can give up any of them.  So okay Merle, you do you.  (I would have made the sacrifice tho.  Just sayin.)

Okay so Justin doesn't seem to think it's that big a deal to drop Taako's dexterity, and maybe I'm remembering 5E rules wrong and it isn't.  But like... aren't there spells with ranged attacks that use DEX?  (Or does 5E let wizards use INT for ranged spells instead?  A lot of the spells that I would expect to have attack rolls just use dexterity saves...) Anyway I know AC depends on dexterity.  So -2 AC, -2 on a common save, maybe -2 on some of his spell attacks?  That's a heavy blow there, if it were just acrobatics that would be one thing.

So Magnus is gonna forget the guy who bombed his town, killed his wife and his mentor and so many of his friends.  Not gonna forget that it happened but he's not going to know who's behind it, never going to get closure.  And I kind of liked how he handled it?  He doesn't want to be reminded, he doesn't want their help going on a vengeance quest--I mean he hasn't been on much of a vengeance quest, you know?  And he doesn't want them to go out of their way to track this guy down just.  Taako, Merle, if ya'll find this bastard.  Make him die.  Let him know why first, then make him die.  That's heavy, Magnus.  Real heavy.  In real life I'm not on board for that kind of punitive justice but I can sympathize that he wants it.  I can sympathize with wanting it so intensely, that he wants it to happen even after he's stopped wanting it.

Sooooo it's a boss rush!  Pretty interesting, they did something like this in Crystal Kingdom and it was kind of cool there and this is a very different take on it.  Magnus used some good strategic things, but I really gotta say?  Justin very, very casually reading the description of this fuckin, eldritch horror spell what.

[simplypatricek-blog]

God’s Best For Me Starts Now! + revision

God’s best for me starts now!

March 2016

I recently attended a relationship series that allowed me to gain knowledge about the way we as women should carry ourselves and how to act in relationships as well as getting the men’s perspective on how they are and how they come in contact with women when dealing with them in a relationship.

With all of the knowledge and insight I’ve gained from the series along with other information from other sources I took the time out to listen to and read from, I did something that I’m surprised I never took the time out to do. I made a list of the qualities I look for in my future husband. I thought about how important it is for me to look on paper at the qualities I look for in a husband rather than think about it in my mind because the minute I try to decide on settling, I will have my qualities to look back on & will know what I will & will not tolerate. Even though these are the qualities that I look for, maybe these can help you or you can add them to your list if you already have some.

•Has a RELATIONSHIP with God. I capitalized relationship because a lot of men can say that they believe in him or attend church time to time, but having an actual relationship is a totally different matter. He can’t be afraid to lift his hands & worship, cry or praise God in front of other people. Real men worship!

•Has a job doing what he loves. If a man works somewhere that he doesn’t like and he has a bad day at work, chances are he will take it out on me. I would rather him have a bad day on a job that he loves because we can talk about it rather than him having a bad day on a job he hates because he will blow up at me & take it out on me.

•Doesn’t flirt with other women. If he likes to flirt a lot now, then he will flirt a lot, or maybe even more, in a relationship. I want my future husband to be a man who when I walk into a room, I’m all he sees. Not saying that he should ignore all the other women, but I want to be the one that causes him to light up when he sees me.

•Has his own mind. I don’t want a man that can’t think for himself or constantly needs the thoughts of other people to influence his decision about things. I need for my husband to know what he needs to do and be confident in knowing how to do it. Asking for assistance is one thing, but asking someone what to do, how to do it, “Am I doing it right?” is not acceptable.

•Has a great relationship with the females in his life (i.e. mom, sisters, grandmother, aunts, cousins, nieces). This is important because the way a man treats the females in his family is a reflection of how he will possibly treat you, especially the relationship with his mother. A man’s mother is one of the, if not the, closest person to him and that relationship will definitely be a reflection of the way he will treat his wife.

•Dress/Look Nice. No, he doesn’t have to be POLO down from head to toe, but he does have to look nice and takes pride in the way he looks. This lets me know that he takes the necessary steps in taking proper care of himself.

•Knows what he wants to do in life and has a vision. It is attractive, well to me it is, to know a man who knows what he wants to do in life. This is important because a husband is supposed to be a leader to his wife and you want a man that can lead you in the right direction and knows where he wants to go in life versus being led by a man who doesn’t even know what he plans to do tomorrow.

•Bringing humor to the relationship. Ok. I’m very comical. Those people who know me know I can cut up. Lol. But having someone who can bring humor to the relationship is important because not only is laughter good for the soul, it brings people together and it tightens the bond between them and brings light to situations or just allows the relationship to bring the “kid” out of the two of us.

•Doesn’t mind helping others. A man that loves to help others is another thing that gets my attention. It lets me know that at that moment, the situation or event that he involved himself in is bigger than him (meaning he is selfless) and understands the purpose behind it is also bigger than himself.

I’m pretty sure these aren’t all the qualities I look for but these are some of the most important. Something that I like to leave you all with is that no matter how much good you try to find in a person, if you don’t see the “God” in them, then there isn’t any need to look for the “good” in them.

UPDATE!!!

The above blog was written in March of 2016. It is now November 2017. Sooooo many things that I written about previously has changed and it has allowed me to think about other things that I needed to include. I never thought my viewpoints could change soooooooo much about this subject but it has!! I’m gonna post the points that I included in my previous blog and I’m gonna add in anything that has changed underneath it:

1)    Has a RELATIONSHIP with God. I capitalized relationship because a lot of men can say that they believe in him or attend church time to time, but having an actual relationship is a totally different matter. He can’t be afraid to lift his hands & worship, cry or praise God in front of other people. Real men worship!

Also with having a relationship with God, it allows that man to hear from God and to submit to what God wants him to do. This means that God may or may not tell him who his wife is, but if and when he does, that man will not pursue that woman until he hears God give him the signal to do so. The man also has to love God with all his heart so that he will know how to love me. If a man doesn’t love God, there’s no possible way that he can love me the way he’s supposed to if he doesn’t know what real love is. God is love!

2)      Has a job doing what he loves. If a man works somewhere that he doesn’t like and he has a bad day at work, chances are he will take it out on me. I would rather him have a bad day on a job that he loves because we can talk about it rather than him having a bad day on a job he hates because he will blow up at me & take it out on me.

Now with this, I realize that depending on the situation, God may not have him at the place that he wants to be at that moment, but even so with that, I should be able to hear about what his passion is, what makes him happy, etc. And I also know that that man will be cautious as to how he may respond when he has a bad day at work. He will be short with his words so that he won’t allow the wrong things to come out and then it will be at that point that I will know that he will talk about it later whenever he calms down. Men aren’t that vocal when they’re upset about something as opposed to women. We like to go on and on! Lol.

3)      Doesn’t flirt with other women. If he likes to flirt a lot now, then he will flirt a lot, or maybe even more, in a relationship. I want my future husband to be a man who when I walk into a room, I’m all he sees. Not saying that he should ignore all the other women, but I want to be the one that causes him to light up when he sees me.

When I first wrote this, I was coming from a carnal state of mind and from a place of experiencing this from past relationships and thought that it may happen with my future husband. But what I realize now is that I shouldn’t have to worry about my future husband doing this because if he’s for me, I will be the only woman that he’ll be flirting with, even after we’re married!

4)      Has his own mind. I don’t want a man that can’t think for himself or constantly needs the thoughts of other people to influence his decision about things. I need for my husband to know what he needs to do and be confident in knowing how to do it. Asking for assistance is one thing, but asking someone what to do, how to do it, “Am I doing it right?” is not acceptable.

I’ve come to understand now that a man is going to need wise counsel, people that he can go to for any wisdom or knowledge about a situation that he may can’t see for himself or about any correction that he may need. Even though he needs to have his own mind when it comes to thinking certain things through, it’s nice to have positive influences around him who will guide him into making the right decisions. With that being said, asking someone of WISE counsel (I added emphasis on wise because a lot people assume that just because someone gives them advice that it’s automatically considered wise. No!) about what to do, how to do it, “Am I doing it right?” IS acceptable!

5)      Has a great relationship with the females in his life (i.e. mom, sisters, grandmother, aunts, cousins, nieces). This is important because the way a man treats the females in his family is a reflection of how he will possibly treat you, especially the relationship with his mother. A man’s mother is one of the, if not the, closest person to him and that relationship will definitely be a reflection of the way he will treat his wife.

This hasn’t changed because I still feel the same way about this because it’s true. The way a man treats the females in his family, especially his mom, is a reflection on the way he will treat you.

6)      Dress/Look Nice. No, he doesn’t have to be POLO down from head to toe, but he does have to look nice and takes pride in the way he looks. This lets me know that he takes the necessary steps in taking proper care of himself.

This definitely holds the same weight now as it did then. I always take the time to make sure that I look decent and presentable so I feel as though he should do the same. A woman is a reflection of her husband so if she looks a certain way, he needs to have that same representation, if not more.

7)      Knows what he wants to do in life and has a vision. It is attractive, well to me it is, to know a man who knows what he wants to do in life. This is important because a husband is supposed to be a leader to his wife and you want a man that can lead you in the right direction and knows where he wants to go in life versus being led by a man who doesn’t even know what he plans to do tomorrow.

If you don’t remember anything else you read on my blog, PLEASE know that it is important be with a man who has VISION, a PLAN, a BLUEPRINT, an IDEA, etc!!! This is important because for starters, whenever you get married, you have to submit to your husband, and with that, that means that you will have to submit to whatever vision that he has. A wife is supposed to be a help meet, meaning that she is supposed to be of HELP, aiding him in decision making, relaying to him what the Lord has said about people, things or situations, and also be able to help him with his vision. But if the husband isn’t doing anything or doesn’t have a vision, then how can the wife help him? This hurts both the woman and the man because being that the man doesn’t have a vision to birth, the woman can’t nurture and help invest in the vision. VISION IS IMPORTANT!!!

8)      Bringing humor to the relationship. Ok. I’m very comical. Those people who know me know I can cut up. Lol. But having someone who can bring humor to the relationship is important because not only is laughter good for the soul, it brings people together and it tightens the bond between them and brings light to situations or just allows the relationship to bring the “kid” out of the two of us.

There’s nothing wrong with being goofy together! I feel like the more goofy y’all are, the better! That’s just me! And I know it’s cliché for women to say whenever they’re about to get married that they are marrying their best friend, but I totally agree with that and want to be able to say that about my future husband. He should be the one that I can tell everything to, be myself around, cry and vent to, be the first person who I tell when good news comes my way, etc. I want to marry my best friend! That sounds so awesome to say already! But being best friends with your future spouse before anything else is also an essential part of a relationship. Being friends first sets that foundation that you will build upon over time with everything else, but whenever trials and tribulations come your way, that bond of friendship will come into play and remind y’all of what you started with.

9)      Doesn’t mind helping others. A man that loves to help others is another thing that gets my attention. It lets me know that at that moment, the situation or event that he involved himself in is bigger than him (meaning he is selfless) and understands the purpose behind it is also bigger than himself.

A man that puts others before himself says a lot about the type of person he is. It says that he has a heart for being a servant and doing what and all he can to help those around him.

 Even before doing this blog in March 2016, there were certain things I wanted in a husband and if they didn’t have those qualities, he wasn’t the one! But the bible says in Psalm 37:4, “Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.” A lot of people only see the part “…he will give you the desires of your heart” and they take that and twist it and apply it to whatever they desire in life thinking that that will allow everything that they want to come to pass. No. Just…no. The first part of that scripture says “Delight yourself in the Lord”, meaning that you have to be in his presence, know who he is, be overcome by his presence, be obedient to what He wants you to do, just all around loving God and actually allowing him to be Lord over your life. Now with that, we can now go into the second part of the scripture “…and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Now we already established that after we delight ourselves in the Lord, we have allowed Him to become Lord over our lives, and that means that over time, His ways will become our ways and His thoughts will become our thoughts. Over time, our hearts will love what He loves and with that, eventually, the things we used to like/love, we don’t like/love anymore because since we’ve delighted ourselves in the Lord, our mindset has changed which then in turn has caused our hearts to change, and THEN, that’s when God will give us the desires of our NEW heart! Glory!!

I am content with the woman I am today, but I know that God has called me to GREATER! I have so much in me that needs to be birthed. That’s gonna require work and guidance from God but I know that He will give me all the instructions that I need in the process. With that being said, even though I know my future husband is coming, I need to make sure that I’m at a good place before he comes along so that I can be able to operate in my best capacity as a help meet. I want be so full of understanding, knowledge, kingdom wisdom, clarity, etc! I gotta be what I want, meaning that I need to make sure I’m together before God sends a man that’s together but waiting for me to get it together.

  If you’re a single woman waiting for your future husband, I hope that this was an insight to a list you may have already had or either a feel as to what you may be looking for if you haven’t made one already. I made a revision to what I wrote last year, but that’s not to say that God won’t change my mindset about some things again or give me some other things to look for in my future husband. Either way, knowing what to look for is important because it matters who you marry, especially when it comes to doing the work of God. Blessings to you all!