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redysetdare · 2 years ago

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While I'm all for the "Family heals together" stories that have been getting made in relation to toxicity in family dynamics i do wish that maybe there was more stories showing that it's ok to cut your family off.

I think the reason so many ppl get so upset by how much stories there are about family's healing is because for a lot of us that isn't possible. Doesn't mean that those stories shouldn't exist but it can suck to be told over and over again that you should try to fix things and if things dont get better then it's because you didn't try hard enough.

Some of us have tried to do what those movies do. We've tried talking. we've tried compromising. we've tried explaining. and we were ignored. We don't cut off our families because we didn't try. we tried so hard and our last resort is to protect ourselves from being hurt more - which means cutting out the people who are hurting us.

some of us wish we could've healed with our family. Some of us don't want to because of how we were hurt. We deserve happy endings too. we deserve stories that don't guilt us for cutting people off. We deserve stories that say "you don't need to forgive the people who hurt you, especially if they haven't tried to make it better"

we deserve stories where we aren't villainized or labeled just as bad as the ppl who hurt us just because we cut them off. Not everything works out. Families don't always heal together. Sometimes you have to heal by yourself. That story deserves to be told too.

#text #again this isn't to downplay the stories where families heal together #those stories are needed. they are needed to show that things can be better. people can be better #they are needed to show others that they can be better if they recognize what they are doing wrong #these stories are needed #but they shouldn't be the only ones told #idk im mostly thinking abt this in terms of animated films as i dont really watch live action #but even outside of animated films ik media has this issue of abused kids always forgiving the parents who abused them because #'look secretly the parent was good deep down and loved the child'#which is a different can of worms #but it still pushes this idea that to heal you need to forgive ppl who hurt you and has this idea of cutting ppl off to be bad #basically it's just a very black and white way of looking at really complex toxic dynamics #and i wish there was more out there that said 'hey not everything ends in a nice bow sometimes all you can do is protect yourself'

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