#bracing myself for the hate

[endearing-dalliance]

Lesbian love cannot compete with heteronormative love. Because its not a damn competition.

Piggybacking off this great post by @needanaccount2readarcaneposts

Amanda's line about needing to make the CaitVi scene better than Meljay's is SO WRONG. She admitted she was the "only reason" there was sex in season 1. So she put it there with the full intent to make it the inferior sex scene for CaitVi's.

This kind of BS is why so many people are scared/hostile towards queer relationships, and she's giving them ammo. So many people are against gay marriage because it "makes my marriage mean less". They see it as competitive, and its not.

And here we have someone self-congratulating herself on showcasing a lesbian relationship. What kind of message is it sending to queer youth, especially bi/pan people, that the lesbian sex NEEDS to be better than the hetero sex for it to be so meaningful? You don't need to put down a different kind of love so that yours can have value.

And (for me at least), it explains why the other relationships felt so...tragic. Jayce and Viktor's homoerotic undertones are dismissed with "asexuality" and "just bros". Ekko and Jinx are a doomed not-really-a-couple. S2 Sky is so ambiguous that even the writers don't agree. Meljay became "manipulative". Maddie (who was created to be hated by CaitVi shippers) literally got executed. And is it any wonder the fandom has gotten so toxic with all the shipping discourse?

[kiddolane]

Okay, I'm about to have a serious fandom hot take here. This may get controversial, but I really need to get this off my chest because I will go absolutely fucking insane if I hold it in any longer:

If there's one thing I've come to really hate in my short time in the IASIP fandom, it's the moralizers in the Macden community.

The entire appeal of Macden is that they're both toxic to each other, and paradoxically, it works, because while they're both so fucked in the head, that fucked-upness is in complete compatibility with one another. Even in their lowest moments in s13 and s14, doing and saying horrible shit to each other, they manage to make it through all of that and come out of it stronger (as evidenced by their improving relationship in s15 and ESPECIALLY s16).

[Okay, here's where I really start to get ranty, and potentially even controversial, so I'll put a cut right here.]

That's why I absolutely CANNOT stand it when the moralizers try to make one of them the sole villain of the two. As if everything wrong with the entire relationship is that person's fault only and the other one is a total saint. It's annoying enough when I see it from Mac moralizers, but Dennis moralizers just drive me up the fucking wall.

Trying to make it seem like Dennis is Mac's poor little victim, minimizing his role in the tumultuous spiral their relationship went through in s13 and s14, and just forcing and shoving that interpretation down people's throats as though it was the Holy Gospel. Anyone who disagrees with them is treated like an illiterate moron who is too stupid to see Mac's flaws and not someone who thinks the interpretation is making things too lopsided in Dennis' favor. The sanctimonious, condescending vibe it all gives off is so fucking suffocating.

But that's not the worst part...

The worst part is when they use actual social justice rhetoric in their interpretation (especially once it turns to sexual assault). By doing this, it automatically shuts down all the discussion right then and there. They have full control of the conversation because people are now scared into silence, scared to give a different interpretation. They're forced to agree, or else they'll be perceived as awful people who support rape culture or some other problematic position. That kind of mentality and paranoia can really eat away at a person's psyche over time if they're not careful.

This should NEVER happen in a fandom. Ever. No one should ever have to feel scared and paranoid about sharing their ideas.

This tactic is not only underhanded, but it's also dangerous, and the moralizers really need to realize that, even if they have the best of intentions.

The point of fandom is that fictional character and shipping preferences do NOT define someone's actual, real-life morality (especially not when said preferences involve putrid assholes like the Gang lol). Trying to blur that line is annoying at best and potentially dangerous at worst, and it needs to stop.

[shukruut]

if you're someone who draws fanart you can't let spoilers get ya because sometimes you're casually looking for references of a neat background-maybe-eventually-major character and then oops they die. and you did that to yourself.

[mactiir]

The very funny thing about having finally recovered from depression after being depressed for literally decades is. Even though I'm no longer depressed. My kneejerk initial reaction when I get overwhelmed is like "fuck it time to die" and then, because I have spent a lot of time and intention and money on therapy, my IMMEDIATE next thought is "no you won't babe, eat some broccoli. Go for a run. Go see ur friends" and the moment I've done any combination of those things I'm like singing showtunes about how good life is. Like ok brain i understand you spent the last fifteen years in a critical state but maybe we can do the broccoli first next time. Vegetables before defaulting to Habitual Symptoms please.

[celiaelise]

bro Marcille was really having her White Woman Moment this episode.

[kkkkkkkitty]

[hwangyeddeongie]

it gets to a point.

[kay-elle-cee]

I keep telling mr k all the scorched earth fb status I want to post but won’t. My current favorite is:

I wanna say you’re all dumb as hell but I think most of you are just hateful.

Honorable mention to: Always heard “money isn’t everything” and that’s obviously a lie for most of you when you're willing to sell out your friends and neighbors for *checks notes* egg prices.

also told my mom that we have no obligation to be nice to our family that voted for tr*mp because we as a country have obviously decided that kindness and respect don't matter.

[peachykcqt]

some ppl window shop for like. clothes or shoes or jewelry or whatever. i window shop for crutches and braces and finger splints 😂😂😂

[rad-roche]

i was playing fallout the other day and shot out a deathclaw's head. it exploded, but the game bugged out and it kept charging me. i went from perfectly reasonable human being playing a video game to 'WORLD'S WACKIEST SOUND EFFECTS ALBUM 3 - TRACK 15 - WOMAN SHRIEKING FOR LIFE' in two whole seconds

[user-name-h3re]

If Nurf ever does ONE horrible thing or ever so slightly CONSIDERS hurting Preston in the new episodes i'm going to projectile vomit and gouge my eyes out the ENTIRE REASON HE WENT TO CAMP WAS TO BE BETTER WHY IS HE THE ONLY ONE THATS HASN'T GOTTEN BETTER WH-

[martin-enjoyer]

so, little idiot confession time, i did not clock the possibility, or make the assumption, that chester and norris are jon and martin at all until i conferred with my friends because i was too caught up in the euphoria of jonny and alex reading the statements

[ceasarslegion]

My most cancellable opinion is that i dont think kinning is real or healthy and that if you genuinely believe yourself to be a fictional character or an animal or even a different real person that is known as a delusion and you need to seek psychiatric help. Like i get having deep connections with characters but the moment you start believing yourself to BE that character you have crossed a very dangerous psychological line that needs to be reeled back. You are not komaeda because komaeda is not REAL, and thats just like, objective fact. And i dont like how tumblr treats these delusions like they should be accepted and fed into lest they compare it to actual real world bigotry

[hot-wire-this-old-car]

the longer i’m a disabled leftist the sadder i get every time i see the home chores vs. leftist theory post going around. i’m not going to be able to say this quite right but

guys maybe tying an individual’s value to their revolutionary labor isn’t actually the radical leftist move you think it is

anyways i love you disabled people who can’t do home chores, or need help, or have fluctuating energy. idc that you have a sink full of dishes. lying in bed tweeting about communism, finding ways to connect to the movement that are accessible and comfortable to your bodymind IS radical, actually. ily

[cowgurrrl]

what’s your thesis about?

It’s about how a lack of positive male representation in film leads to men not having the tools/models to live outside of patriarchal masculinity and therefore being denied their full humanity so I’m looking at films like Good Will Hunting, Dead Poets Society, and Barbie and how in the 80s and 90s there was a wave of models of positive (albeit somewhat problematic) masculinity but after 9/11 there was a clinging to hegemonic masculinity and traditional gender roles due to global crisis and with the 2010s there was a huge conversation around toxic masculinity which was great but now there’s a generation of young men who’ve grown up thinking that to be a man is to be 1) a killer 2) killed 3) toxic so when people like Andrew Tate or people within the manosphere say shit like “you’re powerful because you’re a man” it doesn’t matter how untrue or harmful what everything they’re saying is because that’s more often than not the first positive thing they’ve heard about masculinity

Gender minorities like women get massive amounts of self help books, magazines, TikToks, YouTube videos, etc about what it means to be a woman living outside of patriarchal culture and standards but men don’t get the same thing and because of that they are trapped in this cycle and are doomed to never get positive representation because why would Hollywood grant them that when they make so much money off of toxic masculinity?

That’s a long winded explanation but that’s the gist!! I’ve got about six weeks left of writing and then I can get back to my real life 🥲

[momo-de-avis]

Tomorrow have a tour with someone who is full to the brim with walking limitations and I have been working in my head a dozen scripts to tell them that stopping every hour might just not be possible because 1) there might just not be a place to sit, and 2) I do not have that type of availablity