#bonuskid

[jennyjenjen]

Aidan lost his final tooth. #bonuskid #portraitmode (at North Park) https://www.instagram.com/p/CIHwiATDnjy/?igshid=1add48hykdhy9

[inge-universe]

Saskia Noort - Bonuskind @saskianoort #saskianoort #bonuskid #bonuskind #tbr #tbrpilekeepsgrowing #want https://www.instagram.com/p/CFbYUvogqrI/?igshid=mysd8g89d7yv

[beaucoupbougie]

Me and my Hammy!!!! #ToddlerLove #HamHam #Hammy #BonusKids #BonusKid #Selfies #ToddlerHugs #ToddlerSnuggles https://www.instagram.com/p/B7MwCoVlt2e/?igshid=itewmsih3b9k

[feistyredfire]

🚨Late Birthday Post!🚨 On October 22nd a Beautiful Libra ♎️ was born! 👶🏾 This year of 2019 she turned the BIG 1️⃣3️⃣ and is now officially a teenager‼️ My Bonus Kid is growing up! 😭 Happy 13th Birthday Aaliyah!!!! You know I love you!!!!😘💞 #stepdaughter #stepdaughterlove #bonuskidsrock #bonuskid #libraseason♎️ #thebig13 #officialyateenager https://www.instagram.com/p/B4L3kb8hWtF/?igshid=1psau458kiv6s

[5stonesdesigns]

Never thought I’d be a badass #bonusmom but here I am... killin’ it! 🌻 https://etsy.me/2Px7TfJ #mothersday #stepmom #bonusdad #stepdad #stepparent #adoptivemom #handstampedjewelry #handstamping #keychain #jewelryinfluencer #keepsakes #formom #badassbonusmom #badass #killinit #stepkids #bonuskids #bonuskid #5stonesdesigns (at Stephens City, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwsPGSrBj81/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=19yfebxvdx4qf

[crzydragonldy-blog]

The Hood in me.

I felt this would be a beneficial post. For most women. However I will warn you: I have the mouth of a fucking sailor. I get it from my momma, it can’t be helped. Oh whale.

Motherhood is exactly what it sounds like. A hood. So I commonly refer to myself as a “hood bitch” though many don’t know the hood I’m referring to. Motherhood is a gang, maybe not the kind that we are all familiar with but it is and it’s tough as hell. Think of it like this; you have to be “jumped in”, you spend your days doing some really questionable shit, you gotta be tough as nails to be here, and you can never leave. Does that NOT sound like a gang to you?

My experience in this hood hasn’t taught me much yet but I’ve learned quite a bit about how terrible it feels to be an outsider even though you “qualify”. Being a “step-mom” or finding your place in a child’s life that isn’t yours is hard as hell. But you know what’s harder? When you have to do it with little to no support because everyone expects you to do it one way and one way only. I’m living proof that that is not the case. There are many ways and knowing which one comes with practice and patience and a fuck ton of wine.

This gang is rough. They don’t let you in even though you have the same struggles. Even when you’re begging for someone to just hear you out, you still aren’t worthy. The toughest part in my opinion is that it’s not just the mothers, it’s the kids too. So tight are they with their gang that you practically have to bend over backwards to even get an invite. Until one day you get “jumped in.”

Finding out I was pregnant and finally feeling like “part of the group” felt amazing. I did it. I finally got my invite and was part of the gang now. But why do I still feel so out of place? Maybe because it was only half of me. I still had this cloud over me that made me something different. Something other than just a mom. Now I had two titles to work with and only one of them was accepted. So what do I do?

I’ve read the books. So many books. The mom blogs. The parenting forums. All of it. But still there has not been one scrap of advice for us. Step moms who are doing their very best to be a mom to one child and find their groove with another. Especially those step moms with resistant step children and not very helpful partners. So what do we do? Do we grit our teeth and get through it? Or do we reach out? How do we balance our “hood lives” when they are “competing gangs.” It’s like the unification of Bloods and Crips, that shit is never gonna be blended until some seriously fucked up shit happens. So where’s the line? How do we find it? And for the love of god how fucked up does the shit have to get before it becomes blended?

All questions I continuously ask myself. All questions that no one will answer. But hey welcome to the hood we doing a whole lot of gang shit over here.

[amishamaree]

@taylorswift @taylornation You inspire the most in us, especially this unique little human who loves you non stop and gets more excited than anyone I know when your songs come up on the radio! Please give my Ryleigh girl a shout out I could share with her!! She has jumped so many hurdles in her young life and inspires all four of her parents every day!! #blendedfamily #blessedbonusmom #YNTCD

[jenthrives]

Happy 14th Birthday to our son Tyler! Where has the time gone?!? And by the way...the big a*s “cookie 🍪 cake” was by request 😂 #birthday #cookiecake #14thbirthday #kidsaregrowingup #bonuskids #boymom https://www.instagram.com/p/Byd9olOA_7Y/?igshid=6i511mk6s7c3

[ablendedmomma]

My newest post! Sorry was in my feels writing this one lol

[jennyjenjen]

It took a few tries, but I finally got a good one of these two 😍 #sonya6000 #a6000photography #bonusbarn #bonuskids (at North Park, San Diego) https://www.instagram.com/p/BxYqCyyH5o5/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1vwqpc8h3ati1

[speakin-4-myself]

Don't put #conditions on how I love my #stepchild. Some of these #biomoms will hate the woman her #babydaddy has been with for YEARS and not want that woman around her child, but then will meet a man today and have her child calling him #daddy next week! #gtfoh ➡️🚪 I will respect rules as far as what you allow and don't allow the child to do, but I won't #LOVE them the way you want me too. #Speakin4Myself #BlendedFamily #StepMomProblems #StepMom #StepDad #StepParent #BonusDad #BonusMom #BonusChild #BonusKid

[thehollydoll]

Birthdaying hella hard at @ragingwaterssac! Happy eleven years earthside to this amazing little human! I feel so blessed to have had shared the last 6 with you #BubbaCash! Here's to many many more!!! I love you to the moon! #happybirthday #birthdayboy #ragingwaters #longhairdontcare #11yearsold #stopgrowingup #bonuskid #bonusson (at Raging Waters Sacramento)

[benzo-ashv]

↳ INSTAGRAM: @ashleybenson uploaded a new photo:

This kids are having fun and I’m going to need a pressure washer to clean the kitchen later.  #TotallyWorthIt  #BlendedFamilyTime  #BonusKids  #BonusMom

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[datroutcrew]

You think your #fishing conditions are difficult? @troutmomma is catching #walleye with #kids #swimming laps around the boat! #datroutcrew #hiwasseeriver #jetboat #neverloseyourcool #bonuskid #fishhappens https://www.instagram.com/p/ByGut6xh5Su/?igshid=11wod9t3832on

[5stonesdesigns]

Love > DNA Handstamped copper keychain for #bonusmoms or #adoptivemoms 💕 🌺 https://etsy.me/2PtDOh6 #stepmom #stepparent #bonusdad #adoptivefather #mothersday #fathersday #loveislove #loveisgreaterthandna #loveisgreater #bonuskids #metalstamping #newmomlife #stampedmetaljewelry #5stonesdesigns #formom #adoption #adopted #shopsmall (at Stephens City, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwsRPIOhlDb/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=10xrhgg2vgux9

[shesroyalgems]

#Mommy #Fiance #Manager #Mommy #Fiance #Business/Passion Up packaging pre-orders. 💜 Good night 👸🏾💪🏾💜 #Motivational #RoyalGems #Jewels #gems #accessories #igkingsnqueenz #inspired #fashion #style #shesroyal #LoveWins #couples #gear #blessed7 #encouragement  #bloggingmoms #blackmomsblog #blackgirlsblog #blackgirlswhoblog #blogginglife  #raisingkings #blackmomskillingit #wivesandmothers #bourgiebabies #bonuskids #blendedfamily https://www.instagram.com/p/BnklgkRgDkp/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=10mi48n7mk0i7