#black women journalist

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[1818havefaith]

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Journalist and author Isabel Wilkerson. At Wikipedia

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These men just don't want to be around kids otherwise they would be the fun uncle, volunteer for Big Brothers and Big Sisters, be ok with dating women with kids and have a good relationship with the step kids. They just think they were entitled to biological offspring.

Amelia Hill

@byameliahillMon 28 Aug 2023 11.00 EDT

Father’s Day is dangerous for Robert Nurden. Childless not through choice but, as he puts it, “complacency, bad luck, bad judgment”, he tries to stay indoors and ignore the family celebrations outside.

But one year, he went for a walk. “I met family after family. There were children everywhere,” he remembered. “It was terrible. Just so painful. So many ambushes and triggers for my anguish.”

There is very little research into men who have not had children, although that is beginning to change. Research by Dr Robin Hadley has found that 25% of men over 42 do not have children – 5% more than women of the same age group.

Half of the men who are not fathers but wanted to be describe a huge grief and isolation from society. Almost 40% have experienced depression and a quarter feel a deep anger

Now 72, Nurden had a sheltered upbringing. Reaching adulthood, there was a lot he wanted to experience. “Having children was a very low priority. I was complacent: I just assumed it would happen,” he said.

It was not until he was in his early 40s that Nurden started to get broody. But by that point, he discovered, women of a similar age had already had children, if they were able or wanted to.

“I went into this 15-year period of not going into relationships or ending relationships quickly because I knew that person wasn’t going to want or be able to have a child with me – or that the relationship wasn’t going to be strong enough to last if we did have a child,” said Nurden.

He said high-profile older fathers breed complacency in ordinary men. “If I’m honest, even when I was in my 50s I believed that it might happen for me. But in real life, the Mick Jagger and Jon Snow-age fathers are actually very rare – and in any case, it’s medically not wise, as regards sperm quality.”

What compounded Nurden’s pain was that there was no public or private discussion about how men feel when circumstance leaves them unable to become fathers.

“There’s lots of publicity, quite rightly, about women and childlessness but men are very mute about this. Married men don’t want to hear it either: I’ve had men with children react with anger, as though they feel threatened, when I’ve tried to talk about my pain,” he said.

“I was mute too until recently, because as I aged, I found the regret grew into a great pain,” he added. “Unlike many other forms of grief, this compounds itself as it gets older: I wasn’t a father but now I’m not a grandfather. When I’m even older, I might find myself entirely alone.”

Nurden has published a book, I Always Wanted to be a Dad: Men Without Children, about his story and that of some other men. “It turns out that there is a lot of pain, regret and sadness out there,” he said.

Hadley, the researcher, is childless because although his wife had wanted children, by the time she and Hadley met, her age meant the risk of having one was too great. “I chose love but that doesn’t make the pain of not having children any less,” he said. “When a close colleague had his first child, I was so jealous that I couldn’t be in the same room as him.”

Being a father is a marker of status in many countries, said Hadley, but not in the west. “While there has recently been a lot more public discussion about how to be a good father, we still don’t have any narrative or celebration about how important it is for men to become a father in the first place,” he said.

Paul Goulden, the chair of Ageing Without Children, said that, along with the lack of public dialogue about becoming a father, he was “not convinced that there’s this Game of Thrones genetic push felt by men to have children”.

Instead, he said: “There’s this mistaken belief that men are fertile across their lifespan, so there’s no imperative to get on with it.”

That complacency persists because men without children historically have not spoken about their grief. But, Goulden said: “I hope Robert’s book will trigger a change in public dialogue around this issue. I think there’s an overwhelming sense of loneliness and fear out there about who is going to be there for these men, when they’re old and all alone.”

I wonder what their exes for these men would about them. Because the bar for Father's is so low that women showing they didn't want kids with them should really be a sign to do some soul searching.

Personal experience.......I think of my ex fiance who constantly said he wanted ro get married and have kids. However his actions said he wanted me to have the kids while he worked full time, he didn't believe in daycare so no job for me, and he would have to go to the gym almost everyday, he had a physically demanding job, and of course have his weekly card night with his buddies. And yes I stated all my objections but he had tunnel vision when it came to his fantasy family life. There's more but those were the issues relevant to this article.

[fuckyeahmarxismleninism]

By Kim Ives

Maude Leblanc, the longest-serving member of the socialist weekly Haïti Progrès, died on Jan. 25, 2024, at the age of 69.

Born Aug. 31, 1954, in Port-au-Prince, she spent most of her life living outside of Haiti but always devoting herself to radical social change in her home country.

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Rokhaya Diallo

Journalist, filmmaker, and activist Rokhaya Diallo was born in Paris in 1978. Diallo is the founder of Indivisibles, an organization that combats racial discrimination, as well as a board member of the Center for Intersectional Justice. She has directed six documentaries, and written more than 10 books and numerous essays. Diallo's written works include Racism: The Guide and France Belongs to Us.

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Trump at NABJ Racist, "Is she Indian or is she Black" Attack Line Explained

Reading time: 4 minutes We all know that Trump openly questioned Harris' ethnic identity. The only question is why? Why would he do such an offensive thing? He needs to expand his racist base, that's why.

The Freak Out Over Trump’s Open Naked RacismVideo Clip of Trump’s Indian or Black CommentsAnalyzing Trump’s Motives for His Outrageously Racist RemarksAttack the Reporter When Asked a Difficult QuestionThe More Outrageous the Lie or Claim, the Stronger the Reaction, the Better the Sound BitesUnderstanding Trump’s Racist Agenda and GoalAppealing to White Nationalists and the Openly RacistReaching…

[the-busy-ghost]

No need to worry, the screams of fury emanating from her room are just because she made the terrible decision to read someone else’s list of the ‘100 Best Classic Fiction Works in English’

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Portrait of American investigative journalist, educator, and an early leader in the civil rights movement Ida B. Wells. Photographed in 1893.

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Do you think Taylor is praised for the bare minimum. I saw a post praising her for her diverse back up dancers when I'm pretty sure others have had diverse back up dancers.

absolutely. diverse backup dancers isn’t even an awardable achievement anymore, imo. it’s so common now that it’s literally normal. taylor just has backup dancers. that’s it. there’s nothing to award her for there.

[theartofsupafly]

[outrockoakley]

oh you've GOT to watch iwtv

thank you omg 😭 😭 i've honestly been living vicariously through tumblr posts/gifs of lestat and louis instead of mustering up the mental strength to watch the whole show. one of my favourite parts of my vampire class last semester was when someone said they watched the iwtv movie with their 12 year old without knowing there was gay sex in it

it ticks so many of the boxes i have for my favourite types of media: 1) dialogue heavy to a point where the audience almost has to pick and choose what they take away from the show 2) being gay gets combined with the part of themselves they see as a monster 3) vampires bc they literally make everything better

[1818havefaith]

🩷 TELFAR

Despite becoming an 'it' bag this bag still remains accessible as opposed to exclusive like other luxury brands. Desiree Design states that the brands is a 'reimagining of luxury.'

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it is specifically saying that the commentary MUST come from a white man about shit happening in black culture. There are already a plethora of videos detailing whats happening in great length, but people will not listen to them because they are not done by a White Guy(tm).

if you want to take steps to avoid this, listen to non-white video essayists. theres a fuck ton, in whatever genre you like, that are routinely buried by popular white guys. take great care to not pigeon-hole creators into being "experts" on their minority status, watch and listen for other shit too.

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Trump was TOO SCARED to take NABJ Stage

Trump Defends January 6th Rioters

Trump Throws Total Hissy Fit In Humiliating NABJ Mashup vvvvv

Trump DOUBLES DOWN On Unimaginable Kamala Harris Racial Attacks vvvvv

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Cynthia Tucker

Cynthia Tucker was born in 1955 in Monroeville, Alabama. Tucker was editorial page editor of The Atlanta Journal-Constitution for 17 years. She is also a syndicated columnist whose articles appear in newspapers throughout the US. In 2006, the National Association of Black Journalists named her Journalist of the Year. Tucker won the 2007 Pulitzer Prize in Commentary, having already been a two-time finalist for the award.