#bisexuality and polyamory also but yknow

[aroaessidhe]

2023 reads / storygraph

A Crown So Cursed

conclusion to the Nightmare-verse trilogy, a YA urban portal fantasy

follows a Black girl trained to fight nightmare-monsters in Wonderland, to protect the people of both worlds

but the nightmares start coming for her in the real world - at a convention, and even her own home, and the crew have to prepare to fight a greater evil tied to Wonderland’s past

[mcnuggyy]

I just wanna go home and play more monster road-trip :,(

[jigenshat]

have a jiglup hc that i kinda fell off of the more i binged the series but i still think its an interesting hc

so SUPER early into part 1 i was thinking that lupin and jigen were both gay and into eachother, but couldnt come out to eachother bc it was the 70s and homophobia was still acceptable to most of the population yknow (or at least to my knowledge it was)

jigen accepted that he was gay a while ago but lupin on the other hand only realized it when he met jigen, and in turn hasnt come to accept it yet

so lupin is a womanizer in order to like.. prove to himself that he isnt this way ig? like hes compensating in a way since he cant really handle change this quickly plus yknow.... people are homophobic in the 70s so i imagine it wouldve been scary to come out, ESPECIALLY to some intimidating gunman massive cope on his part

thats as far as i came up with before drifting away from the idea but i like to think lupin eventually comes to terms with who he is and makes out with jigen or something KHJGKHFGH

maybe my answer is a little controversial idk but i don’t see either jigen or lupin as gay. they still do both like men, but i don’t think it has to take away from the fact they like women and other people too. i know source material is a little dubious at times but i do think lupin is genuinely attracted to fujiko and jigen has genuinely been attracted to women in the past. for lupin i think polyamory is also a big part of his identity and while he’s happy to be committed, it’s just not with one person. of course, anon, you’re entitled to hc whatever you want but i’m going to respond to this in a way about when they realised they both like men. as a bisexual myself i know this can still be a part of your identity that takes a while to come to terms with and embrace even if you know from the get go you experience same sex attraction.

honestly i don’t disagree with the fact jigen probably came to terms with his identity sooner than lupin. as much as he experiences self doubt, he just knows this is something inherent to him. since a young age he’s seen men as hot and fantasised about them both romantically and sexually. he still sees it as a little taboo but if someone questioned his sexuality, he wouldn’t lie. in his days as an assassin, he did a lot of solo travelling and this gave him the personal space to explore his sexuality. he’s been with men, and not just for one night and know he likes it. as he lost more and more in his life, what jigen longed for more than anything was a constant. when it was just him and lupin he saw that maybe there could be that which he yearned so much for with him. but then the gang got bigger. and life got more hectic. the time to tell or show lupin how he felt was slipping away from him. he was certain he could feel a tension between them, but just kind of waited for it to break on its own.

i’m not so sure with lupin. i could definitely see him living in denial and sort of hoping that if he just ignores his fantasies and desires that they’d go away. trying more things such as various forms of kink likely kept his sexual desires occupied and sedated enough that his repression didn’t drive him mad. in the processes he likely discovered polyamorous relationships and felt this was something he was driven towards. but ultimately he’s a ticking time bomb and not always so subtle socially. it’s likely everything was admitted really suddenly in one theatric gesture, like randomly leaning in to make out with jigen when he couldn’t stand the tension between them any longer.

[sistersblack]

Hi! Feel free to ignore this, but I was wondering where your polyamorous Lucissa headcanon comes from? I hadn't thought of it until I started reading your fic and now I can't /stop/ thinking about it.

hi!! i’m always happy to talk about this! though i fear it isn’t very interesting fjdj

it’s basically just a mix of a few things like.

i hc them both as bisexual and ship them with other people, but they’re high enough up on my otp list that i don’t like thinking of them separated and can’t stand infidelity fic for them. so the answer? poly.

i don’t think either of them are above using their ~sensuality~ as a tool of manipulation but i imagine there are like. Rules about it.

i just get that vibe, yknow?

it allows for the existence of severus/lucius/narcissa

also this isn’t exactly part of the answer but i remember reading snucius fic when i was like 12 and didn’t know what polyamory was & thinking ‘this is nice but i wish they were nicer to his wife’ (never been much of a fan of the pushing aside f character for a m/m ship trope) aaaand, well. twelve yo me can rest easy now lmao

[dyketennant]

>be me

>freshly 19, still living with dad and stepmom during college bc money. parents have been divorced since you were born and you no longer talk to your mom, but your dad has been with your stepmom for over a decade and the two of them bought a house together, though they never officially got married.

>most of your family on your dad and stepmom's side is queer; stepmom was raised by two moms and is bisexual, stepsister is bi, older stepbrother is trans; dad is straight but has always been chill about it

>stepmom has a fuck ton of student loan debt that just started earning interest again after the pandemic, so she picks up a second job working overnight processing produce

>she starts talking about a friend from work she's been helping because the friend—a woman who we'll call ali—has cancer. stepmom also has cancer. cancer buddies.

>stepmom, ali, and other coworkers begin spending a lot of time together, yknow going to ihop after their late shifts and all that

>once stepmom and ali both quit that job, they continue to hang out a lot, including stepmom spending the night at ali's place. ali brings you gifts sometimes so you think she's chill but you don't see her often

>you do, however, see how much time she's spending with your stepmom and how much they're doing together, and you're pretty sure you caught ali kissing your dad on the cheek once.

>eventually, dad tells you that ali will be moving in with you guys purely for financial reasons.

>sure.

>ali moves in. she brings her two dogs and two cats, whom you quickly bond with, but something else is afoot.

>you catch ali and stepmom sleeping on pull-out couch together to watch the dogs on their first night in the new house. this is practical, you assume -- there's only one couch after all.

>now, seeing your stepmom and ali kiss in the guest room, well, that is not practical.

>after weeks of recounting updates to your monster of the week group as you attempt to figure out what's going on, you finally work up the courage to ask your dad what the fuck is up. he tells you "it's complicated" and that he "doesn't let the little things get to him."

>so stepmom and ali are definitely fucking, but you're beginning to question if this is "ethical nonmonogamy," as the kids say.

>you go to LA and visit your stepsister just before thanksgiving and ask if she knew about this.

>she tells you that she asked stepmom about it, and that's how she found out that your parents have been poly for their entire relationship

>oh all those times your dad said he was heading out to grab stuff and your stepmom jokingly said "he's going to see his girlfriend"? yeah she wasn't /j she was /srs

>contrary to what your dad said, your stepmom tells your stepsister that this is the healthiest and happiest their relationship has been. you have doubts but say nothing

>so now you're re-evaluating the past ten years of your life, while also wondering what the fuck the next family reunion is going to look like

>stepmom and ali do literally everything, and i mean everything, together. it's only been a year but ali is pretty much your third mom at this point

>really putting a new spin on lesbians with insane mommy issues

>young stepbrother moves to wyoming, and dad takes over his room. stepmom and ali share the master bedroom.

>you're starting to wonder if maybe this isn't even polyamory and your dad is actually just thirdwheeling in his own house as the Obligatory Man. you hope this is not the case because you already lived through one divorce, and sure you're an adult now, but you're still in their house and therefore it's still your problem.

>dad is still saying he loves stepmom and calling her pet names like 'honey.' surely this is a good sign?

>ali starts wearing a ring on her left ring finger. nobody addresses this

>all of your siblings are older than you and have moved out of state so you are left to fend for yourself along with your own two cats, alongside ali's two cats and two dogs. any attempt to keep ali out of your already-present family drama is now fruitless

>she's in it now, and so are you. she was there for you when your oldest cat passed away and you cried about it for weeks when he got sick. you help her take care of the animals. she tried to help you fix a vibrator that one time (not during use fucking obviously) in a moment of pure desperation. all of you are in deep now and there's no going back.

>(and yeah, you are bitter that your parents can have their fucked up poly dynamic while meanwhile you get no bitches. what about it)

if tumblr knew about the extra layer of family discourse i have to deal with because my parents are polyamorous i think someone would try to make my life into a cartoon series that ends up becoming a $75k kickstarter scam

[reddieao3feed]

a (number) neighborhood of seven

read it on the AO3 at https://ift.tt/2MadhGQ

by lynsayskick (BookRockShooter)

Richie decides to text his number neighbors - all at once. Thus, the "number neighbors wassup" group chat is born.

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modern day au where richie literally just makes a gc with his number neighbors and it's the losers, but they don't know each other irl... yet

Words: 421, Chapters: 1/1, Language: English

Fandoms: IT - Stephen King, IT (2017)

Rating: Teen And Up Audiences

Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply

Categories: F/M, M/M

Characters: Richie Tozier, Eddie Kaspbrak, Bill Denbrough, Mike Hanlon, Beverly Marsh, Ben Hanscom, Stanley Uris

Relationships: Eddie Kaspbrak/Richie Tozier, Ben Hanscom/Beverly Marsh, Bill Denbrough/Stanley Uris, Mike Hanlon/Stanley Uris, Bill Denbrough/Mike Hanlon, Mike Hanlon/Bill Denbrough/Stan Uris, The Losers Club & Richie Tozier

Additional Tags: Alternate Universe - Modern Setting, Texting, Group chat, number neighbors au, Eventual Friendship, Eventual Relationships, Slow Burn, bc they're strangers at the beginning, richie texting a bunch of strangers i.e. his number neighbors seems like something he'd do, Georgie Denbrough Lives, Alternate Universe - No Pennywise (IT), Alternate Universe - No IT (King), pennywise doesn't exist thanks, maybe some, Angst, Fluff and Angst, Canon-Typical Behavior, i.e. swearing and jokes yknow, also they're texting on whatsapp bc that's my main messaging app, Bisexual Richie Tozier, Gay Eddie Kaspbrak, Polyamory, Alternate Universe - College/University, these tags are a mess i'm sorry

read it on the AO3 at https://ift.tt/2MadhGQ

[the-ghost-of-jason-todd]

so here’s some thoughts on queer stuff

of all the things that people argue can/can’t be defined under the queer umbrella--such as sex work, kink, polyamory, ace identities, non-binary genders, bi/pan people, etc etc etc--there is one major trait that seems to be the main contributing factor on what queer IS.

identity.  

like, duh, it’s identity.  we identify as queer.  identity politics.  self-identity.  community identity.  it’s all about identity.  why does this matter?

because there are two major types of identity i’m seeing: what you do, and who you are.  old-school queer theory is that queer is what you DO.  you do drag?  you transition?  you’re queer.  you kiss people who are the same gender?  definitely queer.  queer was an action and a lot of the queer movement was reliant on the VISIBILITY of acting queer.  which was why ‘het bisexuals’ were a thing, you know?  bi people in het relationships weren’t engaging in the act of being queer, so for all intents and purposes, they weren’t.  it was also one of the reasons why drag and transsexualism had so much crossover--engaging in drag was an ACT of queer expression, whether or not you based your entire life around it.

today, we are leaning WAY more toward self-identification through what i guess are intrinsic absolutes.  i AM attracted to the same sex, whether or not i am engaging in the act.  i AM something other than my agab.  i’m guessing this was kickback against conversion therapy and the ‘technically straight’ arguments that tried to force us to assimilate.  queer people didn’t want to be divorced from their queer identity against their will, especially because of technicalities, so they started saying “I can be married in the most cishet nuclear family way you’ve ever seen but i’m STILL queer” which is where we are today.  queer is who you are, not what you do.

which is why i can both see that things like kink and sex work did once fall under the umbrella, and why they generally aren’t considered queer in today’s queer political scene.  a cishet sex worker is incidentally queer in that they’re an active participant in a sexual act that goes against the mainstream monolith of Acceptable Sex, which is, yknow, the same thing that gay sex does.  you can certainly build an identity around that.  people have a hard time accepting ace as an identity because it crosses the lines between what you DO (you don’t do sex) and who you ARE, and there are people coming at it from both sides saying it’s nothing like the other alphabet soup letters.  that’s false.  it is EVERYTHING like the other alphabet soup letters.  every single other alphabet soup letter i can think of had the same push and pull from action to attribute.  sex work only hits one side of that venn diagram, which is why it’s not currently accepted under the queer umbrella, but we have to admit that the roots are the same, it’s just our modern identity politics that have drawn the line between them.

when you’re talking modern day queer community, the one real point of cohesion we have is that we ARE queer, not that we DO queer, because that’s how the community has decided to shift the definition as we move into the future.  it doesn’t cover everyone, and it never will, and even the people who are on the fringes of this change or actively fighting against it are still queer if they say they are because their experiences are still valid.  the general trend of intrinsic identity as opposed to active identity doesn’t mean anything to an individuals journey.  all that trend is... is a trend.  maybe in fifty years we’ll turn right around and go back the other direction, but for now this is where we are.  MOST of us center our identity around who we are.  SOME of us still look at it from a lens of what we do.  and it’s all queer, at the end of the day, because this is our history.  our past, our present, our future.  there’s no cutoff point for when a person’s personal identity is no longer relevant.  labels don’t become obsolete as long as they’re still in use.  we can talk about the shift from transsexual to transgender but we can’t automatically say that using the label ‘transsexual’ is wrong.

i can’t ever say to someone that their labels aren’t valid because who the hell am i.  one voice, is who.  it misses a HELL of a lot of nuance to insist that some queer people aren’t queer because of dictionary definition shift.  you can’t really apply your own understanding to every person you meet because it’s just not going to work.  intersectionalism forces fluidity so really, it’s best to roll with it.

and... that’s where i am, currently, in my understanding.

[37q]

just finished a fic thats centered around karas jealousy of lames and i thought the weird multiple ship tags were just, yknow, weird and just passing remarks or confused feelings but nah it ends with kara dating both like i had to read a woman kissing a man in first person which ive never had to witness before and frankly im mad and disgusted. there was also a supercorp kiss right before it but the fact that the author used comparable imagery makes me madddddd like what the fuck is that ? hello ? lena dyke luthor happily dating a man ? james being okay with bisexual polyamory ? w/w being compared to w/m ?? the fuck do you think this is

[ah17hh]

Might be polyam, in monog relationship, should I tell bf? via /r/polyamory

Might be polyam, in monog relationship, should I tell bf?

So I (25F) think I might be polyamorous. I’m sure you read that a lot on here haha. Anyways, I’ve been in a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend (26M) for about nine months now. I love him more than anything.

I’m bisexual and have never been with a woman, and it’s something I’m deeply curious about. Like, I really like girls. And want to have a girlfriend. But again, monogamous relationship. My boyfriend is amazing. He knows that I’m bi and is cool with it, all that jazz. Recently I’ve been thinking about how much I would love to get a girlfriend, in addition to being with my boyfriend.

Through discussions with my boyfriend about polyamory in relation to me talking about a friend of mine who’s polyamorous, I know that he wouldn’t be interested in opening our relationship. And I love him enough to be okay with that and to miss out on ever dating girls if that means that I get to be with him for the rest of my life.

These thoughts keep popping up though, and I’ll scroll through this subreddit, thinking and imagining, yknow?

My question to y’all is should I share my struggle with him for the sake of honesty? I’m afraid he’ll be upset if it comes out down the line that I’ve been wondering about polyamory and that I never told him it was something I’m potentially interested in. I don’t want this to be something I hide from him.

At the same time, I’m afraid if I do tell him I might be polyamorous that it’ll really hurt his feelings because he doesn’t understand how polyamory works and how me loving other people wouldn’t make me love him any less. I’m not really sure how to properly educate him on it either without it becoming obvious it’s something I’m interested in. Also, trying to maneuver a way to educate him without revealing my interest in it feels sort of deceptive, which again I’d like to avoid.

Submitted August 24, 2020 at 11:26AM by picnic-table via reddit https://ift.tt/2QkRz2X

[butch-kaz]

this is a good take, and while i hope you’re right in some regards, i really, really want hanne in the show. i want nina to be portrayed as bisexual i want her to have a kiss with a woman as much as i want your theory to come to fruition.

and maybe there is a way to do both? polyamory and multishipping is my personal solution, but idk if i trust netflix to go there and stay there, yknow? even if it happened in the first place.

also i definitely do not think darklina is going to be canon. like the actors and actresses openly dislike the ship, ben has commented and said that it’s weird, jessie doesn’t seem to like it either, so hopefully we’re safe there

Alright, i have a theory bassed on absolutely nothing but let´s see:

I don't think the show is going to reach the Nikolai Duology. First: is not THAT popular to get as many seasons as it would be needed, if it was on the level of Stranger things or the umbrella academy i might think so, but SaB is not as popular not has the pop culture relevance to keep going for so long, specially now after Netflix´s problems.

Also the show seems already aware they won't get that far, even if Eric says he has enought material: they already used names featured in the duology as easter eggs: Dima, Milana (Mila) and most noticiably; Count Kirigin (General Kirigan)

Anyway, the theory is: (Spoilers for SoC,TGT and The Nikolai duology under the cut)

The show is not going to kill Matthias off

Sure, David would obviously be spared but in theory ,Matthias can die with no problems. But i think they´ll keep him alive because:

1-If there is no KoS , there is no point of him dying

2-Pleasing the fanbase. A lot of fans are roaring for the show to change Alina´s romantic endgame and (i hope HOPE) if that doesn't happen , Helnik can serve as a comfort price; also Helnik´s fandom is not as vocal but it is bigger and has way less antis, since while DA is more popular among TGT fans, SaB´s fandom is half TGT and half SoC, a lot of SoC fans don't care about DA but do about Helnik so more people would be happy.

I am probably wrong, but come on, can we dream?