#biromantic curious?

[onlydigressing]

A Rant- Religion and Queerness

In conclusion… I basically internalized this meme. It sucked. (4/4)

Because of my religion colliding with my queerness, my experiences include:

I took forever to realize I was aspec because Christianity is weird and somewhat validates asexuality

I had to decide if I was okay with accepting this part of myself… which was synonymous to thinking I was going to Hell for a while.

I ended up kinda hating, half shedding, and reconstructing my religion (also thought I was going to Hell for that)

I had to deconstruct my internalized idea that my asexuality was a practical STD avoiding blessing that erased my confusion, hurt, and embarrassment.

I had to accept my sexuality and queerness in spite of my misgivings.

I then had to have a romantic attraction crisis after I finally broke down my compulsive heteronormativity

I was then mad that my upbringing discouraged me dating a girl, because they’re pretty and nice and I already have enough trouble getting into a relationship, more options would have been nice

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credit to @justlgbtthings for the ace hearts divider

[genderstarbucks]

Bisexual | Biflux | Bifluid

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Bi-Cycle | Biflexible | Bi-Curious

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Battle Axe Bisexual, also known as a Band-aid Bisexual is a term for bisexuals who push back against biphobia and uplift and support other bisexuals. This is NOT an exclusionist term, this is using the original definition of battle axe bisexual. A battle axe bisexual acknowledges that multisexual terms other than bisexual exist. They acknowledge that not everybody under the multisexual umbrella is also inherently bisexual. For example, they acknowledge and accept that some omnisexuals may also identify as bisexual and acknowledge and accept that some omnisexuals may only identify as omnisexual.

Tags: @caeliangel

I'm tired of exclusionists taking our shit so I'm reclaiming bab to what it originally meant

[queer-headcanons-archive]

Randy Meeks from Scream (1996) and Scream II (1997) is asexual and bi-curious! (headcanons)

bi-curious — someone who is primarily heterosexual, but is Interested in relationships with another gender/the same gender

[cielling]

Ficto- Bicurious (otherwise Bicurious Ficto-)

A combination of the prefix 'Ficto-' and the label 'Bicurious', Ficto- Bicurious is a label that describes the exclusive, near-exclusive, or primary attraction towards fictional characters, or someone whose attraction is influenced by fictional characters. Ficto- Bicurious can be described as someone who knows that are Ficto- but is questioning whether the attraction they experience is towards fictional characters of two or more genders or not.

Fictoromantic + Bicurious; FictoromanticBicurious or BicuriousFictoromantic is a combination of the labels 'Fictoromantic' and 'Bicurious'. Someone who is Fictoromantic-Bicurious experiences exclusive, near-exclusive or primary romantic attraction towards fictional characters, however, they are uncertain, or questioning whether the attraction they experience to fictional characters is to ones of two or more genders or not.

Fictosexual + Bicurious; FictosexualBicurious or BicuriousFictoseual is a combination of the labels 'Fictosexual' and 'Bicurious'. Someone who is Fictosexual-Bicurious experiences exclusive, near-exclusive or primary sexual attraction towards fictional characters, however, they are uncertain, or questioning whether the attraction they experience to fictional characters is to ones of two or more genders or not.

FictoAroAce + Bicurious; FictoaroaceBicurious or BicuriousFictoaroace is a combination of the labels 'Fictosexual', 'Fictoromantic' and 'Bicurious'. Someone who is Fictoaroace-Bicurious experiences exclusive, near-exclusive or primary romantic and sexual attraction towards fictional characters, however, they are uncertain, or questioning whether the attraction they experience to fictional characters is to ones of two or more genders or not.

FictoAttractional + Bicurious;FictoAttractionalBicurious or BicuriousFictoattractional is a combination of the labels 'Fictoattractional' and 'Bicurious'.

Someone who is Fictoattractional-Bicurious experiences exclusive, near-exclusive or primary attraction towards fictional characters, however, they are uncertain, or questioning whether the attraction they experience to fictional characters is to ones of two or more genders or not.

- Labels might be coined by me (unsure if these were already coined or not) - Flags were created by me!!

[thevoidwatches]

From Melting in her Mouth

Claire was lost in a crowd, surrounded by people, and had no idea what direction to go. Faceless bodies streamed past her, pushing her forward like a leaf floating in a stream. She had no control - all she could do was stay afloat as she tossed and turned in the current, the mass of humanity around her taking her onwards regardless of what she might have wanted. She reached out, blindly, hoping to find a handhold - something to use as an anchor in the chaos. A hand grasped hers, and she felt a surge of hope in her chest as she was pulled from the press of people and towards a strong, indistinct form… …and then disgust as lips were pressed against hers. This was no anchor - she wasn’t being rescued. How could she have ever thought that? No, she was caught up in someone else’s desires, as she always ways. Whether pushed by a crowd or taken by just one person, she had never been in charge. A tear dripped from her cheek to the floor, unnoticed… …and then she was awake, opening bleary eyes as her alarm began to beep. Time to get up. The dream faded away as she reluctantly pushed herself out of bed, putting it behind her as she always did. The past was the past. No reason to focus on it, whether it was a dream or three years of work that she hated.

The beginning of my just-started queer erotica/romance novel. Hopefully it sets things up well. Dreams as a way to help establish a characters' mindset is a trope I'm quite fond of, although it can be tricky to show the right amount - not letting things get lost in symbolism, but also not showing too much too soon.

[sapphanimates]

biromanitic-curious asexual

[sielunroskaa]

On one hand, I could call myself bisexual. I fit the description; I like more than one gender. I feel sexual attraction towards men and romantic attraction more towards women. But I feel like I can't call myself bisexual since the bi rep I see is mostly "men are hot. women are hot. I date both." which is valid. But I just don't see myself in it at all.

This idea of a bisexual being somebody who doesn't have strong preferences of one gender over the other(s). Who likes girls and boys 50-50.

When I see people talk about their bi experiences, I rarely actually relate. Exceptions are Nick from the first book of Heartstopper. He has a crisis about having a crush on a boy even though he knows he likes girls. That was me for a long time, only the other way around.

BisexualRealTalk on YouTube has a video "Why bisexuals fall in love differently?" in which I did actually feel like I could fit the bi category.

The most I've actually felt represented was when I finally searched "biromantic heterosexual" on YouTube and watched the couple of videos of people telling their experience with this sexuality.

The first time I saw biromantic heterosexual people without searching for them was on Instagram @/real.polylife.germany. They are a triad: 1 woman, 2 men. The men are not bisexual, they are biromantic. They made a post about "What it means to be a man loving a man when there is no sex?" (or something about that, it was in German).

So in the light of the term bisexual actually including people like me, I still feel the representation is very stark with how a bisexual person is. I feel I don't fit there. I've actually not interacted with the "bi community" but I feel like I wouldn’t be welcome there since I'm too straight. (I recognise that these are only feelings and not based on facts.) But what with the whole biphobia/bi being invisible in the queer community, I've never related to it.

So for the moment I'm identifying as biromantic heterosexual. That is the term I feel most represented by and it explains quickly how I feel.

There are 2 people I've come out to as bi-straight, my best friend and an internet acquintance. I'm still very scared of what other people would say, mostly about the straight part. I do not want to sound like a "snowflake" or take up queer space since I still feel heterosexual.

Even though I know most people are accepting and understanding, I am scared. For that, I don't think I'll come out unless it's necessary. Even though I have the words to describe myself, I'm hesitant to use them. I'll just keep my sexuality vague.

This was kind of a ramble, genuinely thank you if you actually read any of this♡

[helpmeimblorboing]

I feel like every time I go to sleep, I wake up a little more gay

Like five days ago, I woke up and was like "I'm straight"

One sex dream about a man and that became "I'm bi-curious"

One romantic dream about a man and that became "I'm bi"

One more sex dream : "I'm bi with a male preference"

One more : "Bi-curious, from the opposite end this time"

I think I'm turning gay

[onlydigressing]

A Rant- Religion and Queerness

I’m Acespec. Having been raised Christian and being Queer, I have a lot of feelings. And here is where I shall vent. (3/4)

So we know that religion kinda screwed with me, because you know, compulsive heteronormativity.

I just need a mention for how frustrated I am that I spent so long not considering girls as a romantic option.

Actually, I feel the need to interrupt myself here and produce a record of my bi crisis.

Apparently it’s quite normal for Ace people to think they are Bi or Pan because their lack of sexual attraction (0) means they have no preference over who they date (0 = 0). This means that their “sexual attraction” (read, lack of) is equal so they’re actually attracted to MANY genders/identifies since they HAVE to be attracted to SOMEONE, RIGHT?! (hello compulsive/expected allosexuality, i dislike you)

Well I don’t think like that. Or, well, I had already read that by the time I was starting to accept my first aspec label, so my thought process was a little different. Either way, I was convinced of my asexuality before anything else.

So I took on the label of demisexual at first. Analyzing that is a different post. It was only after I started suspecting I was demisexual, that my bi crisis appeared.

See, demisexuality means you start having sexual attraction after a deep bond is formed. It’s not really on purpose, it just happens because you need a lot of trust and confidence before even experiencing attraction (no demisexuality isn’t always the product of trauma). For my ex, that meant being friends with him before considering a relationship, and being in our relationship for a while before considering we could be “more.”

So for me personally, getting into a relationship had to be kind of purposeful. I was homeschooled, so honestly, trying to connect with someone at all always had to be purposeful. And, well, i had never been purposeful towards a girl.

So as soon as my asexuality started showing, one my first thoughts was “well how do I know I’m not bi? After all, from my limited experience, I won’t be attracted to a girl until I’ve already been in a relationship with them for a while, and I’ve never tried that.”

So that was my crisis. (Let’s ignore the fact that I am probably bi if my immediate thought was “could I be bi <3 ????”) Not too bad. So what am I upset at???

The fact that it never once occurred to me that romance with a girl was permissible. Yeah, I’m basically angry that homosexual relationships were somehow silently yet loudly discouraged in my experience. Which was because Hello Christianity, I don’t like you either.

Because I had to ask myself if my “ick” towards dating a girl was because of how I felt, or if it was because i’ve been conditioned to feel that way.

And that angered me. I was already facing fears of what my relationship could even look like in light my newly discovered sexuality, I had also been raised to ignore HALF THE POPULATION?! Ridiculous.

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credit to @justlgbtthings for the ace hearts divider

[edwinspaynes]

My Case for Why Only Romantic Payneland Would Feel Truly Satisfying

Last night, I made a poll about whether people would be satisfied with QPR Payneland. I was curious where we stood on this as a fandom, and it's cool that it's about 50/50 between "either would be okay" and "I want them romantic."

Preface: I'm a monogamous biromantic asexual. If you were wondering. I have been in both a queerplatonic relationship (where I had a one-sided romantic crush on my QPP) and a few romantic relationships with both men and women.

Preface II: This post is not at all intended to be judgmental of any type of relationship. Poly people are awesome; aro/ace people in QPRs rock. This is specifically examining what is right for Charles and Edwin.

Preface III: I think that Edwin and Charles have definitely been in an unlabeled QPR since the beginning. They don't have the word for it, but it definitely is a QPR. They aren't romantically involved, but they make major decisions surrounding the other one and feel like they would wither up and die if they had to live in separate places.

This was great up until now, I think. A QPR is very valuable, very special, and very beautiful. It's meaningful and has served them wonderfully up until this point.

But it isn't sustainable for these specific characters.

The Need for Exclusivity in Both a QPR and a Romantic Relationship

I think that with no other external factors impacting my media needs, I would be okay with an exclusive QPR Payneland.

@tumblerislovetumblerislife astutely said:

I do not think that there is any world where they're suited for polyamory - this is honestly my biggest nope-out of fics and I deeply, deeply hate it for them.

This is because:

They already feel like a Pair Set to me that cannot be separated or infringed on by anyone else, and

In the end, it would never be fair to a romantic (or other platonic) partner because they would unplug anyone else's life support to charge the other's phone. No one else would ever be the priority over the other, and if they did, that would be OOC.

Even if they decided to date someone else now in the short-term, like Crystal or the Cat King, it's necessarily temporary. It's to Figure Things Out. There is an expiration date. And whether that's due to a romantic or a platonic bond between Edwin and Charles, their bond being stronger than any other is the reason for that expiration date.

So polyamory feels extremely disingenuous to their characters to me and is imo extremely OOC.

Authenticity to the Story

Edwin is currently, in the explicit canon, essentially Charles's QPP who has a one-sided crush on him. That is the explicit canon. It's not a fun place to be, no matter how much your QPP loves you - I have Been There.

Edwin is not unhappy or dissatisfied with the current situation, and he knows Charles loves him. But it still is kind of a sucky place to sit.

Luckily, the love does not actually feel one-sided! Charles reads as a character that has always been romantically in love with Edwin, probably long before Edwin fell romantically in love with Charles, but he neither has the self-awareness nor the words to describe it.

Charles touching his heart at the end of episode 8 makes it clear that he is beginning to have his Big Epiphany. I wish the show wasn't canceled because, uh, I want it.

This obvious two-sided romantic love makes a future QPR feel inauthentic to me. I think both characters would feel like it was the wrong shape for the relationship after they both had their epiphanies.

Other Media Considerations

I understand that a lot of people, it's important to have an explicitly-labeled QPR in a show. I do not disagree with this! I think we need WAY more QPRs in media that are explicitly labeled as such and treated as valid. I just don't think that it's right for Charles and Edwin.

I've explained why this is true from a character perspective; but let me also talk about how relationships like theirs are treated.

I'm personally sick of the "bond-beyond-bonds relationship that remains purely platonic." We saw it with Destiel onscreen because of the rancid queerbaiting in Supernatural; we saw it in Johnlock as a direct result of similar, albeit less magnified, queerbaiting.

This is, to me, the exact type of relationship that a QPR between Edwin and Charles would be.

It would be different. I know this. There is no world where DBDA is queerbaiting us; we have a gay MC and tons of queer side characters.

But to me, platonic Payneland being endgame would still feel like a betrayal because that endgame would feel like something adjacent to the endings of other shows that have queerbaited in the past. I feel like a huge appeal of DBDA is that it's beginning to right those wrongs and heal those wounds, and I firmly believe that's one intention of the show. It would feel unkind to the bulk of viewers for them not to end up together.

I think that the show ultimately was going to make them romantic endgame. It just didn't have the time to before getting the axe, which SUCKS.

So yeah. These are my personal thoughts. I hope I've articulated some of the things that a lot of you think.

[pupkinpumpkin]

Aight, don't get me wrong, I have and will read about almost every Rookanis fanfic there is, and I enjoy almost every version of Spite I see, but I think I see Spite's development and role in Rook and Lucanis' relationship in a certain way, but, suffice to say, Spite's relationship with Rook is just as much of a slow burn as Lucanis' relationship is

Just my personal opinion under the cut, you're free to believe whatever you wish

Spite is interested in Rook from the start, not romantically or sexually, but as a new person to learn about/annoy the fuck out of

As Rook gets closer to Lucanis, they also begin to tolerate and like Spite, which is new to him since everyone he meets kinda hates him, so, since acceptance is a very nice feeling, he wants to spend time with them. He's also realizing that Lucanis is developing feelings for them, feelings that are rare for Lucanis and completely new, and therefore, weird, to Spite

All Spite really knows is that Rook is nice, Lucanis trusts them, and Lucanis has certain feelings for them that Spite doesn't really understand, but he wants to (he's very curious for a Spite demon), so he wants Lucanis to hang out with Rook more so he can potentially talk with them more himself so he can understand these odd new feelings better

Here's where I may start getting a tad bit far fetched in my beliefs when it comes to how Spite, and possession in general, works

I'll keep it short, but just know I have a lot of feelings about Justice (all good, I love him dearly)

So, Justice in Awakening takes over Kristoff's dead body, and, when he does that, he gets these memories of him and his wife. He tells The Warden that he longs for the connection that they had and when he was just a spirit, he used to pity mortals, but now he finds beauty in their world and wants to experience all of it for himself.

I personally believe that when Justice takes over Kristoff's body, he is now able to feel different kinds of love more than the average spirit can because of this new form, and I believe that applies to Spite

When Spite possesses Lucanis, he is able to feel more than he can when he's just a spirit, feelings he's not used to and has never even thought of before. The feelings equivalent of seeing shrimp colors. New and confusing, but still exciting and worth investigating

It's in these moments that Spite's interest and fascination with Rook becomes more defined and intense, especially since Lucanis feels it as well, but because Lucanis doesn't let go of control often, these moments are few and far between, which kinda pisses Spite off, since it's another thing that he doesn't get to experience because Lucanis won't let him, so Rook becomes this forbidden thing that he wants to learn about, but has little to no access to, and, as a Spite demon, this only makes him want them more, but not in the way you're thinking of just yet

Lucanis is demisexual, we've learned that from God herself, so on top of Spite being interested in Rook, which is only intensified by Lucanis' feelings and Lucanis refusing to let Spite talk to them, Lucanis starts developing more intimate thoughts of Rook (which I personally think is around the time of the almost kiss), adding to the disaster of this overly caffeinated bisexual (well, biromantic)

Spite does not understand this. He's already trying to untangle the weird feelings he has for Rook, but now Lucanis is adding even more weird feelings that Spite can't possibly understand. He could understand, at least a little better, if he possessed Lucanis (which would give him deeper access to those feelings according to my little headcanon) and unpacked that with him, but Lucanis does not allow this, so the whole thing frustrates Spite and Lucanis, who is constantly being asked why he thinks Rook being in certain positions is so interesting all of a sudden

So, stretching my headcanon even further, I think that after Inner Demons, when Lucanis and Spite finally accept each other, Spite is given greater access to all of Lucanis' feelings for Rook, romantic and otherwise

He still needs time to truly get what all of that means, but I think those wings unfurling during the last romance scene is him beginning to understand exactly what he's feeling and being able to fully explore his new emotions, desires, etc without the previous constraints that were holding him back

I don't think Spite is by any means going between Rook's thighs and that he has any idea what he's doing by the end of Veilguard, but he's at a place where he is trusted, loved, and wanted, which is new, and he is a very curious demon who may or may not want to see what the fun's all about now that he understands people and their complexities more

Or maybe he's asexual and he just really loves cuddling, that's up to you, I'll read it either way

TLDR: I don't think Spite was begging Lucanis to pin Rook to a wall and have them scream his name from the beginning, but after Veilguard, who's to say?

[taketwoinink]

Also if anyone knows where the similar term Bi-Fi (gaydar variation for bi people) came from, I'd also appreciate knowing that

This might be a long shot, but does anyone know where the term Pan-Scan (used as a pan specific version of gaydar) came from? I can't remember where I first found the term and the internet is supremely unhelpful, so I figured this probably originated from Tumblr and thus Tumblr could help me

[chris-prank]

Absolutely love Dr.Seraph, he's such a pathetic man in the best of ways, gotta love it <3

But ngl, I'm also kinda curious about Fatalité, he's been mentioned here and there but we haven't seen much of him ....?

Could you tell us some stuff about him, if you don't mind ? Like how he feels about a hero reader/vigilante reader, or how he would feel if he discovered Dr.Seraph's feelings about the reader, for example

I'm so glad that my little mad scientist is to your liking! 😆 I decided to had some personal info about Fatalité on top of answering your questions!

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About Fatalité:

💣 Fatalité’s real name is Jules Dubois, he is born in Belgium.

💣 He is in his mid forties.

💣 He can speak French, English and a little bit of Spanish.

💣 He doesn’t have superpowers, that’s what Dr. Seraph is for! The only things that could be considered his “quirk” are his metal gauntlets that gives him inhuman strength. He can easily destroy a wall in one punch!

💣 His real weapon is money. Jules can pay, blackmail and bribe his way into fulfilling his goals. He still is on the field most of the time, since he doesn’t believe his henchman can do the job properly without him. Additionally, he finds sick pleasure in watching his enemies fail, so he wants to witness it first hand.

💣 His evil deeds vary between typical robbery of precious jewels or works of art and trying to take over parts of the city.

💣 Fatalité is a real narcissist, with psychopathic and sociopathic tendencies. Remorse is a feeling foreign to him seeing that he felt it rarely in his life.

What is he like on the romance side of things:

💣 Fatalité is biromantic and asexual, which I subtly hinted at in one of my previous posts. Sorry guys, but that means no spicy time with him.

💣 He is obviously a yandere too, since he is an evil supervillain, obsessing over things is ingrained in him. If he likes someone he doesn’t care what it takes, he will have them. Fatality is inevitable after all.

💣 He would be less mean to his partner than with other people, but taking in consideration his narcissism, his desires are still more important to him. So he might not be the best boyfriend in the world.

💣 You don’t want to cuddle? Too bad he wants it and he’ll trap you in his arms. You're so cute when you’re struggling to get away, you’re just like an aggressive stray cat. He does enjoy seeing you frustrated a little bit too much.

💣 His prominent love language are words of affirmation. He needs to hear you say how much you adore and worship him! Don’t expect any words of affirmation from him, he is too proud to admit his feelings out loud.

💣 On the other hand, he expresses his love for you by giving expensive gifts and physical touch.

His view on hero/vigilante reader and if he discovers Dr. Seraph as real feelings for them:

💣 About the hero reader, in simple words, Fatalité hates them. They take away or prevent him from getting the things HE wants.

💣 His views on vigilante reader will change depending on how much they are on the good side. If they are serving justice but with no moral ground, he will hate them as much as the typical hero. But if they are more flexible with their activities, Fatalité might try to work with them if it can serve his interests.

💣 If Jules founds out that Dr. Seraph is in love with the reader; he will be shocked and feel a bit betrayed. With all the people in the world he chose his arch nemesis!? Vincent should just spit in his face while he's at it.

💣 As long as his sidekick don’t plan on betraying him literally, he doesn’t mind this obsession of his. Actually, it could even turn into something positive, for exemple if Dr. Seraph decides to kidnap the reader for himself. That way Jules wouldn’t have to deal with them anymore.

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I hope this satisfied your curiosity about Fatalité!

[nevermoreconfessions]

I'm curious, so let's test a theory. Dear Nevermore readers:

[sapphanimates]

mmmmmmhhhrrr

just saw some mighty x espio fan art and now i'm in a chaotix kick again specifically mighty i need to work on more art for their story aaaaaaa