#being in a mutually loving and supportive relationship not in any way bound by duty for once in his life

[llycaons]

man I wasn't really excited about the cheating but I'd rather read content about cheating than about all this depression...and therapy talk. I say I want wwx in therapy but it's not really as interesting if it's not in canon because his issues are insane in canon. a modern AU where he struggles with more mundane abandonment issues just isn't very interesting? this could be anyone

[thebunnednun]

Hey! You write for Sabo? If u do... can you write Sabo x Marine reader? This man needs more attention

Bound by Justice Sabo x Marine! Reader

My love, I'd write just about anything for this man.

Babes, we are adding another husband to the list!!

Ngl, I think he's a real cutie, and in a perfect world, Sabo and Ace are protecting Luffy like the good big brothers they are.

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Don't be afraid to send me any requests my loves and if you are waiting for the next installment I have my masterlist posted!

Like usual, never be afraid to hang out in the comments. I love your feedback and snort up all the love you show. <33

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Here are some relationship headcanons for Sabo and the marine reader:

Mutual Respect: Despite being on opposite sides of the conflict, Sabo and the marine reader share a deep respect for each other's beliefs and principles. They admire each other's dedication to justice and are willing to put aside their differences to work together when necessary.

Intellectual Equals: Both Sabo and the marine reader are intelligent and quick-witted individuals. They engage in lively debates and discussions, challenging each other's perspectives and broadening their horizons in the process. Their intellectual connection strengthens their bond and fosters a deep sense of understanding between them.

Shared Values: Despite their different allegiances, Sabo and the marine reader share many core values, such as compassion, integrity, and a strong sense of duty. They both strive to make the world a better place in their own way, and this shared purpose forms the foundation of their relationship.

Unwavering Support: In times of need, Sabo and the marine reader are always there for each other. Whether it's offering a listening ear, providing moral support, or standing by each other's side in the face of danger, they never hesitate to lend a helping hand.

Opposites Attract: Sabo is fiery and passionate, while the marine reader is steadfast and determined. Despite their differences in temperament, they complement each other perfectly, balancing each other out and bringing out the best in one another.

Secret Admirers: Both Sabo and the marine reader harbor secret feelings for each other, unsure if their affection is reciprocated. They often find themselves stealing glances when they think the other isn't looking, their hearts fluttering with each fleeting touch and meaningful exchange.

Forbidden Love: Theirs is a love that defies societal expectations and challenges the boundaries of their respective worlds. Despite the risks and obstacles they face, Sabo and the marine reader are determined to fight for their relationship, refusing to let anything stand in the way of their happiness.

Growth and Development: Through their relationship, both Sabo and the marine reader experience personal growth and development. They learn to see the world through each other's eyes, gaining new perspectives and evolving as individuals in the process.

Shared Adventures: Whether it's fighting side by side in battle or embarking on thrilling adventures together, Sabo and the marine reader make the most of every moment they spend together. Their shared experiences strengthen their bond and create memories that will last a lifetime.

Hope for the Future: Despite the challenges they face, Sabo and the marine reader remain hopeful for the future. They dream of a world where their love can exist without fear or prejudice, and they're willing to do whatever it takes to make that dream a reality.

ON WITH THE STORY!!!

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The moon hung low in the sky, casting an ethereal glow over the deserted streets of the coastal town. Sabo, shrouded in the darkness, moved with the grace of a shadow as he watched the marine outpost from a safe distance. His mission tonight was crucial, yet his thoughts were unexpectedly drawn to her.

She was a force to be reckoned with, a marine with a fiery spirit and a heart of gold. Sabo couldn't help but admire her from afar, her dedication to justice both inspiring and captivating. It was a dangerous game he played, allowing himself to be drawn to someone on the opposite side of the conflict, but he couldn't deny the pull she had on him.

Meanwhile, at the marine outpost, she paced the dimly lit corridors, her mind racing with thoughts of the day's events. Her encounters with the notorious Straw Hat Pirates had left her questioning everything she thought she knew about the world. But amidst the chaos, one thing remained clear to her: her unwavering commitment to protecting innocent lives, even if it meant defying orders.

As she rounded a corner, she caught sight of a familiar figure lurking in the shadows. Instinct kicked in as she reached for her weapon, ready to confront the intruder. But as the moonlight fell upon his face, she recognized him instantly.

"Sabo," she breathed, her voice a mixture of surprise and disbelief. "What are you doing here?"

Sabo stepped forward, his gaze meeting hers with a mixture of determination and something else, something she couldn't quite place. "I could ask you the same thing, Marine," he replied, his voice low and steady. "But I think we both know the answer."

She felt her heart race at his words, a flutter of excitement mingled with fear coursing through her veins. "I won't let you interfere with our operations," she said, trying to sound stern despite the uncertainty in her voice.

Sabo chuckled softly, the sound sending shivers down her spine. "I'm not here to cause trouble, I assure you," he said, taking a step closer to her. "In fact, I could use your help."

Her brow furrowed in confusion. "My help? With what?"

He hesitated for a moment, his gaze searching hers as if trying to gauge her reaction. "There's someone I need to protect," he said finally, his voice barely above a whisper. "Someone who means everything to me."

She studied him for a long moment, sensing the sincerity in his words. Despite everything, she couldn't bring herself to turn him away. "Lead the way," she said quietly, her resolve firm as she followed him into the night.

As they made their way through the deserted streets, Sabo couldn't shake the feeling of unease that gnawed at him. He knew the risks of involving her in his mission, yet he couldn't deny the sense of relief he felt having her by his side.

Suddenly, a commotion up ahead caught their attention, drawing them towards the source of the disturbance. As they rounded a corner, they came face to face with a familiar figure: Luffy, the infamous Straw Hat Pirate.

Sabo's heart clenched at the sight of his brother, battered and bruised yet still defiant in the face of danger. Without hesitation, he rushed to Luffy's side, grateful for the marine's presence as they worked together to fend off their attackers.

Amidst the chaos, Sabo stole glances at the marine, marveling at her strength and determination as she fought alongside them. He couldn't help but admire her, her fiery spirit a stark contrast to the darkness that threatened to consume them all.

As the dust settled and their enemies retreated into the night, Sabo turned to the marine, a newfound sense of gratitude and respect burning within him. "Thank you," he said softly, his voice laced with emotion. "For everything."

She smiled at him, a glimmer of warmth in her eyes as she returned his gaze. "Anytime," she said, her voice soft yet resolute. "After all, we're on the same side, aren't we?"

Sabo's heart swelled with affection at her words, a sense of belonging washing over him like a wave crashing against the shore. In that moment, he knew he had found something worth fighting for, something worth risking it all for.

As they stood together in the moonlit street, a silent understanding passed between them, binding them together in a bond that transcended the boundaries of their respective worlds. And as they walked into the night, side by side, Sabo couldn't help but feel grateful for the unexpected twist of fate that had brought them together.

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[lemonhemlock]

Thank you for the answer.

Ik there is a lot of tension between Alicent-antis and Alicent-fans but that's truly not where I'm coming from. My bit on Aemond/Alicent wasn't meant as a slight against Alicent or her motherly capabilities. I have little interest in looking for Alicent to prove herself in any particular capacity as a mother in these scenarios and GOTCHA! her nor her fans. That just seems unnecessarily mean and boring besides.

"this isn't about not loving or supporting her son." Yes! I meant to explore Aemond's feelings/POV. on the situation with his mother rather than Alicent feelings. Aemond's feelings on whether he feels loved or not don't reflect Alicent's true feelings regarding her son which as u pointed out are deep care, protectiveness and goodwill.

I'm already 100% convinced Alicent and Aemond love each other deeply, yet much of Aemond's personality is centred around this idea of having to behave a certain way approved by society (or at least his mother), though he has a rebellious streak - blood of the dragon or w/e. He has duties and much of his struggle and arc appears to be about him oscillating between Duty and Desire. I don't fully buy into the whole bit w/ "love is the death of duty etc" since such a dualistic approach is far too simplistic. I believe Aemond loves his mother (same how Alicent loves her children) but he is also duty-bound to do right by her and the family (same how she is duty-bound to love those children which she had as a teen with dubious to non-consent on her part).

I dont believe Helaena and Aemond have a bad relationship but I don't believe them to be as tight as I've seen Helaemond shippers paint. Aemond is courteous and protective over her but I don't instantly read that as implying a particularly good relationship.

Thank you for being so amiable, I really do appreciate it! I wish more fans would be as measured & considerate in their approach!

I understand now what you mean about analysing Aemond's POV and, similarly to you, I have always read him as teetering on the edge between conformity/duty & rebelling/desire. He has been a rule-follower all his life and has little "reward" to show for it. He's been ostracized, maimed, disabled & soon feels that he will be set aside and/or killed once Rhaenyra ascends to the throne. The one time he lets go and pursues his own desire, i.e. vengeance via Luke's eye, he loses control of the situation so badly that it fundamentally changes the course of his life. I'd be feeling some kind of existential despair at this, too.

There are a lot of interesting dynamics at play here - therapists would have a field day with this family. Imagine all the scientific articles they could write about them. On one hand, Aemond looks down on Aegon for not honouring his station, but, on the other, he craves the freedom Aegon allows himself. He feels duty-bound towards his family, but also loves how unencumbered he can be with Vhagar. I agree that duty & love are not mutually-exclusive.

As for helaemond, I've have a few posts about it in my tag where I explained my interpretation of their interactions. It's something I find interesting narratively/thematically, but not the be all, end all of things. I understand why some fans don't buy into it. But we're here to have a grand old time! :)

[patrickstargang]

Forgotten Past, Hidden Future (Legend of Korra fic)

Chapter 1: Looking In The Wrong Places

Chapter 2: Lucky To Have You

Chapter 3: A Lot To Learn

Chapter 4: Kya’s Story

Chapter 5: A Tale of Miazu

Chapter 6: The Avatar’s Love

Final Chapter: The Mural

spoilers for Rise of Kyoshi in this chapter

“When I was a young girl, I worked as a servant for an estate up in what used to be Yokoya Port. Before then, I was just an orphan living on the streets. I had crossed paths with a bender who taught the Avatar before me, an Air Nomad named Kelsang. He took me in and cared for me while I was growing up. He didn’t know I was the Avatar then, but he still looked after me and I grew to see him as my father. When I was old enough, he helped me to find work and a place to stay. That place was the Avatar mansion.

“At the time, many thought that a boy named Yun was the Earth Avatar. Most of this was due to the Earth Kingdom’s somewhat archaic system for finding the Avatar, which led to desperate decision making. After I showed dedication in my work, I became a personal servant of Yun. I got to know him well and we became good friends. There were even times where I thought we would be more than that.

“I also met someone else. Someone who would be incredibly important in my life. A girl named Rangi. She came from the Fire Nation and was the Avatar’s bodyguard. She always said that she was ‘honor-bound to follow and protect the Avatar.’”

It was a brand new sight to see Kyoshi chuckle, Korra couldn’t believe it but she didn’t let it distract her.

“She was great at barking out orders, always bossing me around the mansion. But I could always sense a facade behind it all. Like the cold shoulder, she would give me now and then meant something else. But I grew to be close with the two. It seemed odd, being a mostly novice bender and having two friends who were masters of their craft. Sometimes it felt alienating. More than that, it was hard to come to terms with the fact that I had feelings for both of them. Being at a young age my mind was going in a million different directions.”

This reminded Korra of her own relationships, and the million different directions her mind went back when she was younger, going from Mako to Asami. “I definitely know what that feels like.”

“But, things started to change. The position of Avatar was being put into question as people began to slowly realize that Yun wasn’t the Avatar. Some thought I knew... that I was hiding this secret away. Rangi resented me at first, she thought it was some kind of sick joke. But it wasn’t, I’d never try to hurt her or Yun like that.”

There was a long pause after that last sentence, a long painful pause. There was a great deal of regret hanging on to those final words.

“That wasn’t the end. Someone I thought I could trust betrayed me, killed not just the only person I saw as a father but Yun as well. Or so I thought. But at that point, I felt alone. I was being hunted by one of the most powerful people in the Earth Kingdom. It felt like going back to the streets, I felt truly alone. But it didn’t last long. Rangi was there to help get out of Yokoya Port and find safety. She was by my side all the way through. At first, I just thought she was doing this because she knew I was the Avatar.

“Back when I was still a maid, there was a group of kids who would always try to pick on me. Some of them said that I was still just a poor girl just like them, which to an extent was true. But there were other things that they said about me, much more hurtful things. I’m not sure how they knew what those words meant, or if their parents told them, but every once in a while I would catch an insult from them. And Rangi, she would always scare them away. They knew they could pick on me, but they didn’t dare pick on Rangi. But she tried convincing me to stand up for myself, she was so adamant about it. It was hard for me to understand, mostly because it felt like she was mocking me. But later, I figured it out.

“While we were staying in a new city to get away from trouble, Rangi got into a fight that almost ended in her death. I felt completely helpless to stop it but she made it out before any permanent damage was done. I confronted her about the fight, I was so confused why someone would put themselves through all that suffering so recklessly. And that's when it hit me. She wanted me to know what it felt like, to see someone you love take a hit and not stand up for themselves. To just accept that suffering. She said that pained her to watch, to see me put myself through that suffering. Whether it was being picked on by some local kids or letting personal vendettas eat away at my humanity, she had enough of it. She told me that she cared about me, not as the Avatar but who I really was. She said that I deserved happiness.”

The grin on Kyoshi’s face from before returned, but it morphed into a truly affectionate smile.

“She said that she wanted to make me feel loved.

“I knew what I had to do after that. I opened myself up to her, let her know I truly felt. Ever since then, I knew that she truly meant what she said. Later on, she would become my firebending teacher. She was tough as nails but she always knew how to keep me motivated. Though I wasn’t a fan of all the horse stance practice.

“But something happened, a kidnapping took place. She was taken and a good friend was killed. I felt like I was back right where I started. But with some help, she returned and the man who killed Kelsang and Yun was gone for good. But something happened to Rangi, something that.... damaged her honor.”

Korra could tell the severity behind that statement. She wasn’t completely knowledgeable about Fire Nation culture but she knew that an attack on someone’s honor was a bigger deal than it sounded.

“Not only that, but her mother had gone fatally ill and she needed to take her to the Northern Water Tribe for proper healing. So at that point, we both had to go our separate ways for some time. I spent those days in the Southern Air Temple learning to airbend while I was on the opposite side of the world from where Rangi was. It felt like such a long time, even though it was only a few months.”

Korra recognized something familiar in what she said. She remembered Asami saying that the time she was away healing from the mercury poison felt like the longest two years of her life. She felt a knot in her stomach, realizing that despite their difference of eras that they shared many struggles outside of being the Avatar. There was a feeling of mutual sympathy.

“But eventually we found our way back to each other. From then on, we were practically inseparable. We were always out there for each other, even during the craziest missions. There was always a fear that something would happen, that this might be the last time I would ever see her. I had lost so many friends, so many people I cared about. I couldn’t bear to lose her but I had to grapple with the reality of it. But she always stayed, every step of the way.

“After we brought some semblance of momentary world peace, we decided to celebrate by finally getting married. We both wanted to do it in the Earth Kingdom, we spent so much of our lives there and it meant so much more to us. But because of the prejudice of the time, we did it in secret with only a few friends down in Maizu. Despite the secrecy, it was one of the happiest moments of my life. I still had that creeping suspicion in the back of my mind that this would all fall apart without a moment's warning, but it never did.

“That being said, we did eventually move to the Fire Nation. I didn’t want to keep my love in hiding for the rest of our lives and the Fire Nation was more accepting of us in that regard. We still got funny glances from others, but it wasn’t likely they weren’t going to say anything to the Avatar and her elite firebending bodyguard.

“After settling in the Fire Nation for some time, we both agreed that we wanted a child. We went to a local orphanage, it felt like writing the wrongs of when my parents left me as a kid. It was strangely cathartic, even healing. We found a girl named Koko. It didn’t take long before we knew she was the one. She had a lot of the same intensity that I saw in Rangi, it felt like I was seeing it again for the first time. We had our struggles raising her, as we both had our own responsibilities trying to help the world. But also, I feel we raised a really brilliant woman, and I couldn’t have done it without Rangi’s support, not just for me but for Koko.

Korra seemed fixated on this, she has considered a future with her and Asami but having a kid?! She thought it was out of the question, but this conversation gave her hope for a scenario she only considered just now. If Kyoshi could make it work hundreds of years ago, maybe she can too.

“But time went on. Everyone started getting older. Before I knew it my daughter was grown up and Rangi was reaching her final years. Having to see her go was painful, it really was, but at the same time I was content. For the longest time, we were having to suffer to help each other. Trying to help save the world. Always putting ourselves in constant danger. We went through so much, our only wish was to just grow old together. And we did. I always thought that Rangi would die in battle or be taken from me too soon. It was the greatest relief to know that she lived a good, long life and went peacefully among her friends and family.

“But I still remained.”

The coldness in her voice came back, it was as palpable as ever.

“The world was beginning to shift back into chaos and I still had to do my duty as the Avatar. To me, its what she would have wanted. In that time I took down Chin the Conqueror, created Kyoshi Island with Koko’s help and established peace in the Four Nations, for the time being.”

There was a question that was on Korra’s mind, but she didn’t know if she should touch on the subject. It felt wrong but part of her needed to know. “Did you ever find someone else?”

Kyoshi seemed confused by the vagueness of the question.

“I mean....did you ever remarry?”

Kyoshi slowly shook her head. “I couldn’t. I still felt so loyal to Rangi, even after all those years. But also because I knew that I would see her again.”

Now Korra was the one who was confused, but she continued to listen regardless.

“I kept growing older, seeing all my loved ones come and go with the ages was taxing but I still had that sense of duty that I had to uphold. Then, at the ripe old age of two hundred and thirty, I decided it was time for someone else to take over. Rangi wanted me to be honorable as an Avatar, but more than anything she didn’t want me to give up my own happiness for the sake of being the Avatar. Those last few years I started to remember that. I started hanging on to some of my biggest regrets, knowing it was pointless to do so. That was when I knew it was time for a new Avatar.

“I spent my last few days in Maizu. It felt therapeutic, with all the regret that I was holding onto, to see people that I was able to truly help. I saw how much it's changed since its inception, how happy everyone has been. It felt like a symbol to the spirit of these people, to see the village still standing even after hundreds of years. After a celebration was made by the villagers, I quietly passed on, leading Roku to fill my place as Avatar. And now, many many years later, two Avatars later…..here you are, Avatar Korra.”

It was hard to hide it any longer. Korra was overwhelmed with emotion, tears streaming down her face. She felt great sorrow for Kyoshi, having to live on without the love of her life, but still finding the courage to continue on. It felt unbearable. She also felt something else, a feeling of smallness in the face of the long legacy of the Avatar. Kyoshi’s journey defined a generation while Korra was still trying to make sense of her own. But most of all, she was confused. Confused at why Kyoshi was smiling.

The blue energy acting out the scene slowly faded away into the darkness. Korra had a burning question, a question that felt even more inappropriate than the last. But she needed to ask. “Why,” she spoke softly through sobs. “Why did you hold on to Rangi, even after all those years. Why did you say that you would see her again?! I-It just doesn’t make sense to me.”

Her confusion had given back to her sadness. It was hard for her to comprehend that level of unconditional love, a love that lasted through the eras. It was hard to see through the tears, but Korra could hear Kyoshi chuckling.

“Korra, Avatars aren’t the only ones that reside in the Spirit World.”

Before Korra could comprehend the statement, the blue aura appeared again. Taking shape, it seemed to resemble a person, somewhat shorter than Kyoshi. Then it began to fill in the details, a woman with black hair, probably in her 30s, and Fire Nation armor standing by Kyoshi’s side. It was Rangi. Korra, with watery eyes, stared in absolute amazement, beginning to smile again.

Rangi bowed slightly in her presence. “It's a pleasure to finally meet you Avatar Korra.”

Korra, trying to hold herself together, bowed back. “It's a pleasure to meet you too.”

Korra stayed in that position for longer than she needed. Once she rose back up, she was still overcome with emotion but was still smiling. “Thank you….. for everything.”

“Korra, always remember what I said to you. You're still young but you’ve done so much already.” Kyoshi let her words simmer in the moment. “Already you’ve done a great service to the world, take the time that you have to let yourself be happy. You’ve spent so much of it becoming a good Avatar, now's the time to appreciate those that truly love you.”

Kyoshi gave a cheeky smirk. “But I think you’ve already got part of that taken care of with your girlfriend.” Rangi rolled her eyes at Kyoshi.

Korra blushed profusely. “Wait, how did you know about that?”

Kyoshi stared at Korra ominously. “I see everything.” She paused for dramatic effect before Rangi gave her an elbow to the side. “I’m just kidding, I’m just kidding!”

Seeing these little interactions, the mannerisms between the two were healing to Korra. Knowing that even after years of separation and many more years of being back together, they still had playful banter with one another. It was obvious that they still loved each other. It didn’t help her already tear-filled attempt at staying collected.

“But do take her words seriously,” said Rangi. “You won’t always know when your time with the ones you love might come to an end. Take advantage of the time you have now. I may not know this girl, but I can tell from that look in your eyes that she truly loves you.”

The certainty in her tone was shocking but comforting at the same time.

“That's special, not everyone can find a love that special. Never take it for granted Korra.”

Korra rubbed her eyes, continuing to smile in admiration. She felt relieved, not just about her search coming to end, but for everything. It was starting to dawn on her that maybe she has found happiness, maybe she hasn’t fully accepted it yet. After everything, after the world continuously falling into chaos, after what was her lowest point, she really was finding true happiness. And they could tell, just from a look on her face.

“Thank you both,” Korra said over light sniffles. “I’ll never forget this, I promise.”

“We know,” Kyoshi interjected. She gave Korra one last approving face, a true sign of admiration. “Until we meet again…….”

Both Kyoshi and Rangi bowed before they dissipated into the blue aura, which itself vanished. Korra bowed back to the empty ethereal plains. The white lights around the dark began to burn brighter, becoming an all-consuming pure white. The sound of chimes started to ring in Korra’s ears.

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Korra’s eyes sprung open. She was still pouring with tears, but her breathing was slow. She glanced to see Asami and Kya, still by her side. They also opened their eyes when they heard her breathing change. Asami noticed the tears coming down her face, she looked at Korra with concern. She put a hand to her cheek just like she did at the dining hall, with the same amount of tenderness. Korra realized that this might be the first Asami has seen her cry.

“Korra,” Asami spoke softly.

“I did it, I finally did it.” Korra’s smile was massive, an affectionate look back at Asami which she also gave to Kya. She didn’t try to hide the tears, she just let them flow out like a river.

Asami returned the smile and hugged Korra. They both held on tight to one another with Kya joining in. Feeling the love around her at that present moment, it felt good, like a genuine release for what seemed like the first time in a while.

Korra chuckled, “I haven’t cried this much in months.”

They all chuckled with her, as Korra felt the collective warmth of being with those she loved. She didn’t want to ever let go of this feeling. As they all sat there together, Asami leaned into her ear and whispered...

“I knew you could do it. I’m so proud of you.”

[nikibogwater]

A Shot in the Dark: Chapter 2 (Author’s Commentary--pt 1)

Read the fic here

Author’s Commentary pt. 2

General Notes:

Yes, I actually had to split the commentary into two parts because there was just So. Much. Going on in this chapter. We shifted over to Douxie’s perspective as he and Nari spent a lovely day about NYC, were properly introduced to the antagonist, and ended on what is probably the cruelest cliffhanger I have ever left anyone on ever (I’m soooooorry...! 😅). I swear I tried to carve this down as much as I could, but even so, there was just way too much to talk about for one post. So in Pt 1 of the commentary, I’ll be talking about the Magical Siblings and their Therapy Cat, but Pt 2 is going to be all about Rivan, because I have a lot to say about this Classy Boi. 

One significant thing about this chapter is that it is my first time writing Douxie in Distress. There’s not really any moment in the show where Douxie is completely stripped of every last one of his defenses and put into a situation where he has no choice but to rely on others--which is fine! I love me one Badass Wizard Boi. But I did want to explore the concept because it opens up opportunities to expand on Douxie’s character. There is more to it than that, but I can’t say anything more until after Chapter 3 has been posted. 

All right, now let’s get into some Passage-Specific notes.

Passage-Specific Notes:

It was a bit like witnessing a long-lost family reunion from the outside, and Douxie felt a strange ache settle in his heart as he followed the tiny forest goddess, who danced from one place to another, wide eyes glowing like sunlit amber.

“...She should have this all the time,” he murmured to Archie, who, after having his own little roll in the grass, had returned to his perch on Douxie’s shoulder. “She shouldn’t be stuck in that prison cell of an apartment.”

This is probably one of my favorite instances of Douxie showing off his Big Brother Energy. He is naturally a very kind-hearted person who believes everyone deserves the freedom to live their best lives (See Ep. 4: “The Lady of the Lake”) but in this scene, he’s not wishing for Nari’s freedom and happiness because of some abstract sense of empathy--Douxie loves Nari, and seeing her happy makes him happy. But he is also bound to his duty as her protector, and that forces him to put aside both her desires and his own in order to keep her safe. He has to balance the line between Responsible Guardian and Loving Brother. I just really enjoyed taking this moment to explore the nature of their relationship, and the impact it has on Douxie, even if it is a somewhat bittersweet scene. 

“What do you suppose it would take for Americans to learn how to make a decent cup of tea?” Douxie grumbled, glaring at the disposable coffee cup in his hand as though it had personally offended him. “Seems like any hack street vendor with a pot and a filter can be taught to make a solid enough cup of coffee in this country, but ask them for a simple cup of water with a bag of leaves in it, and somehow no one knows how to do it properly.”

My new favorite game is “How Many Times in a Single Story Can I Not-So-Subtly Remind My Audience That Douxie is Very British?”  

“Sweet tea is an abomination and I only let you get one because we’re eating out. But never shall such a detestable liquid be found under my roof.” Nari pulled her cup closer to her in a mock show of defensiveness and giggled.

I really love it when the Magical Siblings get playful like this, especially given all the crap that they’ve seen/been through. Also I did some research on sweet tea just for this line--it is an American beverage, and is made by sweetening a dark tea--such as the kind Douxie always drinks. Hence the reason he views it as an abomination--how dare we filthy Americans tamper with the sacred British liquid (although to be fair, I think he’s playing up his “hatred” for it for the sake of humor. Douxie’s pretty chill about most things). 

“I...I think we should go home,” Nari squeaked. “He just....gives me a bad feeling.”

“Alright,” Douxie agreed, rising from his place and lifting Archie up onto his shoulder. He moved around the table and took Nari’s hand as she stood, squeezing it reassuringly when her other hand came up to anxiously grip his sleeve.

It was really important to me that Douxie not brush off Nari’s intensifying anxiety. Maybe she’s being a little unfair here (Rivan can’t help the fact that she can’t sense his life force/aura) but still, she feels unsettled, and Douxie responds to that by removing her from the situation, even though they still don’t have any proof that Rivan is actually following them. Douxie even begins to grow anxious about the situation himself, going so far as to double up on the concealing spell around Nari’s aura. It’s a small moment, but I like to think it displays the level of trust these two have developed over the last few months.

Even at his most desperate, Douxie wasn’t demanding. But he was begging with every ounce of his heart, calling on the bone-deep affection that had always bound these two together.

“...Yes, Hisirdoux,” Archie sighed, and Douxie’s heart ached with a rush of love and gratitude for his Familiar.

This scene was originally drafted as being on the opposite end of the emotional spectrum--Douxie was going to snap and give Archie a direct order--something he knew a Familiar can’t ignore, and it was going to be this gut-wrenching moment of Angst. But I realized very quickly that, after almost a thousand years of flawless teamwork and mutual support, these two are VERY unlikely to have a relationship fumble that intense. Also, it really would’ve just been pointless drama. So instead I leaned into the warmth and comfort of just how close and trusting Douxie and Archie are with one another, to the point that when Douxie begs Archie to do the one thing he doesn’t want to (leave Douxie), Archie acquiesces. 

“...N-no. Archie...!” Nari stammered, looking frantically between the two of them. “Douxie, please!”

“Everything’s going to be fine, sweetheart,” Douxie soothed, giving her a gentle nudge forward. “I’ll meet you both back at the apartment later.”

Douxie using “sweetheart” on Nari is actually very significant here. While Douxie is a Pro-Tier Sweet-Talker who absolutely uses pet names on both friend and foe alike, Nari is the one exception to that rule (this is actually the first time in the series that he’s used a pet name on her). Douxie respects Nari in a way that is unique to their relationship. She’s a much-loved part of his family, yes, but she is also eons old, and a demigoddess, and whether consciously or unconsciously, I think Douxie is aware of that for the most part. So the fact that he caves and accidentally calls her Sweetheart here indicates that in this moment, he’s not seeing her as Nari the Ancient Sorceress, but as Nari the Child, Nari the Little Sister--someone who he wants to shield from the harsh reality they’re facing. So he makes her a promise he knows he might not be able to keep. Because sometimes, grown-ups lie in order to protect the children in their care. It’s not right, but in the heat of the moment, it’s all he can think to do.

There was a click and a soft whirring sound, and suddenly the magic in Douxie’s hand was pulled out of his grasp, leaving his fingers cold and empty. The wizard cast a frantic look down at his right arm to see an iron band locked around it, the intricate engravings glowing the same color as his own magic.

Just a short fun fact: The Inhibitor Cuff was actually originally conceived for my 12th Century Siblings AU. 

“Spare me the pleasantries,” Douxie interrupted. “I’ll die before I’ll let the Order anywhere near her.”...

...Douxie stared back at Rivan defiantly, his jaw clenched shut, though behind his back, his hands were trembling with dread.

Writing Douxie in Distress like this was...tricky. I’ll talk more about this in pt. 2, but it was really hard to know when Douxie would drop his trademark sass and just be Dead Serious. His interactions with Morgana and the Arcane Order are mostly just him being a cocky little punk, but I also think that might have had something to do with the fact that he was never completely helpless in those situations. Apart from the few seconds he was held down by a corrupted Jim, Douxie always had at least some level of defense in those conflicts. But he has absolutely no power in this situation--his magic has been cancelled out, he’s tied to a chair in an abandoned warehouse miles away from home with no way of contacting his friends for backup, and the only thing standing between the Arcane Order and Nari at this point is his refusal to talk. So he drops the sass and just gets Stubborn. He wants to make it abundantly clear that he knows what Rivan could do to him--and that he doesn’t give a damn. He’s not talking, no matter what.

...Ngl, that’s very sexy of him.

[eviestrol]

Synastry ship for @3aphrodite

hey angel,,could i get a synastry ship with nct’s taeyong?💗💞 thank you!

@3aphrodite Thanks for requesting <3

Pros

Conjunction Sun - Saturn: This aspect is often found in long-term relationships. Your relationship is likely to be serious right away and you may rush through your relationship to get to the settling down part. You instinctively feel you can have a stable marriage right from the start. However, this could mean you skip some of the fun parts of dating. Duty and responsibility weigh heavily in this relationship, which can sometimes be difficult to bear. Saturn has a strong tendency to give suggestions about how you can improve and sometimes these little comments come out more like criticism. You’ll have to make time for lightness and play or your relationship will start to feel stifling.

Sextile Sun - Jupiter: You support each other’s dreams and ambitions. You are willing to assist each other materially and emotionally to succeed. He appreciates you just the way you are. You are likely to be friends as well as lovers. You will defend and protect each other when needed. You easily trust each other.

Conjunction Moon - Pluto: Causes a magnetic sexual attraction and you are instinctively tuned in to each other’s emotional needs. You need each other. You’ll cause great spiritual growth in each other.

Sextile Moon - Uranus: You will never be bored with each other. You share the same sense of humor and both may enjoy shaking things up every once in a while. You feel comfortable with each other and are very open with subjects you usually never talk about with others. A very secure relationship based on trust.

Conjunction Venus - Venus: You have very similar likes and dislikes and understand each other well. You tend to appreciate how one another dresses, decorates, handles money, and socializes as well. Similar tastes and values are present, helping decision-making skills as a couple. This also suggests that you tend to cooperate with one another on a basic level, and creating harmony between the two of you is one of your priorities.

Conjunction Venus - Mars: Instant and irresistible attraction. The intensity of your feelings for one another is unlikely to fade over time, and you find much fulfillment in your love for each other.

Cons

Square Venus - Saturn: Over time, Taeyong’s Saturn can easily become critical and demanding of you. You may start to see him as unsympathetic and he may see you as childish and undisciplined. You may be critical of each other’s tastes and hobbies, but at the root of this is some form of jealousy over the attention that you give to outside interests. Commitment and loyalty to one another will be vital, but also the source of some friction.

Opposition Venus - Pluto: Brings a power struggle. You will definitely experience issues with possessiveness and jealousy. Your relationship is intense and is not to be taken lightly. His pluto wants to have the upper hand in the relationship. There is an intense fear of losing each other so jealousy and manipulative behavior occurs easily. Try to avoid controlling behavior and being possessive of each other.

Square Saturn - Pluto: This aspect doesn’t make things easy between you, and can actually make it really hard to get along. You both instinctively know how the other person could improve and constantly try to help each other grow. However, this constant push to improve can make it really frustrating and hard to relax while you are together. You never feel like you can just relax, have a good time and trust that things are fine as they are. There will always be a feeling between you that things are not completely okay.

Square Jupiter - Uranus: This indicates impulsive, extravagant interactions that could influence each other to get involved in unwise, get-rich-quick schemes. There is a mutual love of travel, adventure and unusual experiences which can prove costly and dangerous. You tend to challenge each other’s assumptions about life and relationships by impulsively experimenting with new approaches toward partnership. You have different preferences where personal friends are concerned and may dislike each other’s friends.

Overall: An instant attraction. Your relationship is bound to move fast and become serious fairly quickly. You will have to make sure to make time for fun and just enjoy each other’s company as this relationship can be a bit too serious at times. There may be a lot of criticism from Taeyong’s side and he will have to learn how to curb those comments and make sure you know it comes from love.

I hope you like it! Feel free to request again at any time~

[charminglatina]

Ranking Riverdale Actors Based On Their Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility Ratings (Part 2).

People do crazy things when it comes to love. Some run away from home, others stay in an abusive relationship in the name of love, some quit their career because their love dictated so, and so much more. Most people claim they are in love but in reality, they have no idea what the meaning of true, spiritual love is. In some relationships, they are driven by obsession, jealousy, and intimidation of their spouse. They stalk their spouses everywhere they go, they physically and mentally abuse them, all in the name of love. Some people go to the extent of making sure their partners do not have any friends. That is not a definition of love; it is an illusion of love. The meaning of spiritual love is when you are able to maintain your individuality, despite the feeling of passion. You are able to love without applying any rules to each other. This is unconditional love. It does not matter that your spouse is ugly, shorter than you, or he laughs in an irritating way. You will love him or her the way he or she is. You will love all the flaws he or she portrays and not criticize them. Many people apply conditions in their relationships, claiming they love each other. For instance, you tell your spouse you love him when he buys you something. In spiritual love, it is like a spell that has been cast upon you. You appreciate your significant other as he or she is - no condition applies. You love him or her deep down and you just know it in your heart. If you ever find yourself in such a situation, that’s spiritual love. Below are some guidelines to help you know you are truly in spiritual love. 

1. You Communicate With Each Other With Ease: In every relationship, communication is the key to building a stronger connection. Couples must talk with other often and they must be on the same page. If you are able to talk to your spouse with ease, he will not only listen but will also have empathy for the situation at hand. You feel appreciated, you are respected, and most of all, no judgment is applied. Your spouse supports you fully in all your endeavors. In such cases, most couples enjoy what they have while it lasts. They enjoy each other’s company and they usually look for private space to talk all the time. When one person is talking, the other is listening keenly. No interruptions, no coming up with other options. You are both there for each other and support one another while being in love. A connection in spiritual love is taken very seriously. 

2. Equality Applies In Spiritual Love: Most people do not know the definition of equality in a relationship. It means when two people connect and they decided to live together, roles are defined automatically. You are able to acknowledge each other’s talents and respect each other enough to let them work their magic in your relationship. In every relationship, duties come automatically. In spiritual love, you know who is better at handling a certain aspect of your lives together. Trust applies in such a situation where you let your spouse take the lead without any prejudice or judgment. This does not make either the person in the couple lesser human beings, it just makes them more in love with each other. 

3. You Are Attracted To Your Spouse: Most people do not know what attraction means. Some get attracted to a person due to their looks, how they dress, how rich they are, among other things. Spiritual love is when you want to connect with the person, mind-wise, body-wise, and to the soul. You want to be close to the person all the time. When you are together, you feel a passion that you have never felt before. It is like a love spell that has been cast upon you. You are consumed with the passion but at the same time, you are able to stay sane. Your individuality is still intact. Furthermore, there is more to life other than being carried away by lust. 

4. You Find Comfort in Each Other’s Company: In spiritual love, there are no expectations from each other, no dressing up for the other. You just present yourself as you are. When you are in love with each other, you feel that you can conquer the world together. You do not see anything big under the sun. You experience joy when you are together and you do not question each other’s devotion. Only the two of you understand your connection. The way you feel for each other has no easy definition. You just feel content and your life will have a meaning. In most relationships, you will find people questioning themselves. They do not trust their judgment and most of the time they make excuses to split. Others spend years courting their partner and not making any real commitment since they find flaws in one another. In spiritual love, no such thing applies. You love your spouse as he or she is. You appreciate them for who they really are. There are no jitters or second-guesses when you are together. 

5. In Spiritual Love, There Is No Hurry: Society expects that when there is a connection with the one you love, no time should be wasted, and you should quickly make arrangements for your future together. However, in spiritual love, no such thing is expected. Couples enjoy each other company; they leave the fate of their union to Mother Nature. You do not question if your spouse is the right person, if your spouse going to be swept off his feet by another, and so on. You trust your instincts that all will work out just fine. In spiritual love, you know you are under this love spell together no matter what happens. The way you view the world is the way your spouse views it too. You connect well with your lover and share energy.

6. Spiritual Love Promotes Growth: When you connect with someone and you vow to live together, you expect to grow in all ways, especially personal growth. Your spouse should be free to let you know your flaws and you must take them positively. Listen to your spouse’s advice. If someone loves you, you should not expect him or her to mislead you. We cannot achieve personal growth if our spouses do not speak up about our mistakes. In spiritual love, you do not take your spouse for granted nor do you see him or her as a tool to make ends meet. This is a great opportunity for you to experience the true joy of being in love.

7. Spiritual Love Does Not Let You Settle for Anything: As a human being, you are entitled to love life, follow your passions, love a certain lifestyle, to be respected and loved. Your spouse should also value the things you love. He or she should not dictate the way you live. Your love should learn to incorporate his or her needs into yours. You should live in harmony and be able to respect each other. Nowadays, most commitments are the opposite. People settle for a lot less. They let their spouses dictate their way of living and have no mutual respect in the commitment, all in the name of “love”. 

8. Spiritual Love Enables You to Separate Fact from Feelings: In a commitment born out of love, you will have a few fights over the years. But that does not mean you have a bad relationship or your spouse hates you. You will get angry at some of the comments he or she makes. Instead of misquoting each other, you should learn to talk it out. Let your spouse explain what he or she meant. 

9. In Spiritual Love, Couples Connect: People in love look each other in the eyes as they talk. Most ordinary couples talk for the sake of it. Some even talk with their back to their spouse. Well, couples who get each other are comfortable with facing each other while taking. They can sit across from each other at a table and communicate with their eyes only. Who would not think they are under a love spell? This shows how comfortable they are with each other and that confidence surrounds their love. 

10. Spiritual Love Makes You Long For the Future: Every relationship differs from the others in so many ways. When two soul mates love each other deeply, they do not tire of each other easily. The excitement might fade with time, but curiosity remains. You will love each other more and more with passing years. You are two individuals who have different characteristics, but living together will enable you two to explore each other to the fullest as you age with time. Some claim they fell in love at first sight, but it takes time and growth to realize that you deeply love your spouse and that living without him or her would be unfulfilling. Furthermore, everybody would like an opportunity to grow old with his or her loved one. Nowadays, lovers settle for a lot less. They simply want to benefit from each other since they have no better option. Once they find someone new they feel a connection to, they part ways instead of giving their love a chance. True love takes time and patience. Even in the holy texts of different religions, spiritual love applies. To sum it all up, spiritual love is unconditional love that has no boundaries. It gives meaning and importance to your life. Everyone wishes to experience this kind of love at one point in life. It is a wonderful thing that cannot be compared to any other feeling in the world. It is hard to find unconditional love unless you exercise some patience. Couples who have a spiritual love are happier, they understand each other, and they fight less. If you are in a spiritual love, give it your best since you never know when it will end. Learn from each other and appreciate what both of you have. You are luckier than others because you have experienced spiritual love and you know its definition.

Ratings System Test (0% = WORST RATING; 100% = BEST RATING):

🌹0%–30%: Extremely bad and a MATCH MADE IN ABSOLUTE FIERY HELL! If a couple receives this type of rating, the spiritual compatibility either doesn’t exist whatsoever, or it’s so incredibly low that there isn’t even a spiritual connection to start. As a result of such a low spiritual compatibility rating, there’s bound to be a vast amount of spiritual conflict, disharmony and discomfort within the relationship. With a horrible and low score like this, expect these two to have a lack of trust, honesty, and communication within the relationship. Having a very low rating such as this means that the people involved in the couple will have a very selfish, ungiving relationship. In addition, a spiritual compatibility rating this low indicates that a romantic couple has a lesser chance of overcoming any obstacles that may come their way and it would prove difficult to fix the relationship if obstacles squirm their way into the relationship. If two people in a romance have this kind of rating, it’s best the two steer clear of each other because they clearly shouldn’t be together!

🌹30%–50% : Not good and a MATCH MADE IN TOTAL MEDIOCRITY! If a romantic couple receives this rating, the spiritual compatibility is subpar and mediocre in nature. There won’t be too much of a natural connection on a spiritual level, and they will have trouble connecting from time to time.

🌹50%–60%: Average and a MATCH MADE IN NOTHING SPECIAL AT ALL! If a romantic couple receives this rating, the spiritual chemistry is plain dull and mediocre. The spiritual connection between a couple who receive this score isn’t horrible but isn’t that great either. The couple with this rating is bound to have a very borderline 50/50 spiritual connection. Some days, they will spiritually connect, and other times, they will want to avoid each other like the Plague.

🌹60%–70%: Good and a MATCH MADE IN COMFORT! If a couple receives this rating, the spiritual compatibility and connection is reasonable and satisfactory in nature. It’s a slightly above average score which means that couples with this spiritual compatibility rating will have a comfortable, warm spiritual relationship. It should be noted that the spiritual connection between a couple who receive this rating won’t have an intense or passionate spiritual bond. It will be enough to provide decent compatibility for the two partners in the relationship to live a comfortable and harmonious enough life together in the long run.

🌹70%–80%: Extremely good and a MATCH MADE IN PERFECT HARMONY! If a romantic couple receives this rating, the spiritual connection is lovely and harmonious. The two partners have a powerful and reasonably intense spiritual bond, and they are highly in tune with each other’s emotions and feelings. Romantic couples (and even friendships) with this rating range will have a very fruitful, happy, successful, and harmonious romantic relationship. They have a strong spiritual connection, and they deeply understand each other very well. They will have solid communication, honesty, and trust in the relationship. Their spiritual chemistry is enough for either partner to have a healing effect on each other if either partner is emotionally or spiritually wounded. There are high chances that a telepathic and psychic link can be developed between the two partners. Also, romantic couples with this rating range can be considered to be soulmates. Couples also have a higher chance of getting married in the future and growing old together in comfort and harmony.

🌹80%–90%: Excellent and a MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN! If a couple receives this rating, the spiritual compatibility and connection between the two is excellent and highly harmonious. There’s no doubt that this couple will have a very intense, passionate spiritual connection and there will be higher chances of having a very successful, harmonious relationship with ease. Couples with this rating will easily be able to overcome any obstacles thrown their way and stay happy and united together. There may be a chance for the two partners to develop a telepathic or psychic connection because of such an intense spiritual bond between these two partners. A couple with this kind of rating is likely to have a soulmate connection.

🌹90%–100%: Outstanding and a MATCH MADE IN ABSOLUTE TRANSCENDENT HEAVEN! If a romantic couple receives this rating, then the couple is ideal for each other and made for each other in every way imaginable on a spiritual level! A couple who has this rating may be a representation of true spiritual love and unconditional love in its purest form. Everyone that comes into contact with this couple will be envious of their deep abiding spiritual love for each other and will desire to have a strong spiritual bond and love like theirs! The love and passion between this couple will just be emanating from them without even trying. They have an incredibly passionate, intense spiritual bond and connection that is unparalleled or unmatched. A couple with this kind of spiritual compatibility has a bond that is unbreakable and will never be broken no matter what, even in death and beyond. Couples with this high spiritual compatibility rating liely have a mystical, other worldly, supernatural kind of connection. They are also likely to have an intense telepathic, psychic or empathic bond where the two wouldn’t even need to say words or speak to each other to communicate! Couples with this extremely high spiritual compatibility rating are best described as true soulmates or even more, twin souls or twin flames. The two are incredibly spiritually in tune with each other and they are connected to each other intensely and intimately on another level that many others wouldn’t be able to comprehend. These two are spiritually in sync with each other, and as a result, they understand each other very well. They may also have tons of things in common and share many similarities with each other and have parallel lives and journeys. When the two meet, their meeting would have many synchronicities. There will be a feeling of destiny or fate to their meeting. Their spiritual connection is so strong and intense that it’s comparable to that of twins! A couple with this high spiritual rating is best defined as a couple that is destined or written in the stars!

Please check out my Biorhythm Compatibility rankings list where I rank the pairs of Riverdale actors and couples based on their Biorhythm Compatibility Ratings here.

#11. Camila Mendes & Madelaine Petsch (Riverdale Pairing: Chonica, Cheronica; Total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating: 56%; Total Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility Rating; 79%) 

At #11 on this rankings list (well, technically, at #8 because I forgot to add them in their appropriate spot on my previous post) is Camila Mendes and Madelaine Petsch, who portray the fictional couple of Cheronica or Chonica. Camila and Madeleine have a strong spiritual connection and they earned a score of 79% in this category. This means that Camila and Madeleine have a strong bond and kinship with each other. I can understand and see why they would have such a great score in this particular category because out of all the off screen friendships on Riverdale, Camila and Madeleine seem to have one of the closest on an emotional level. Let’s go back to Camila and Madeleine’s primary Biorhythm Compatibility and Chemistry scores. When it came to Physical Chemistry and Compatibility, Camila and Madeleine earned a very impressive rating of 85%. This proves that if their characters of Veronica and Cheryl were a lesbian couple and romantically involved on the show, they would be able to sell it brilliantly because they have such strong physical chemistry. Camila and Madeleine also did very well in their Emotional category. they earned a 78% in this category, securing the fact that they had a strong emotional bond with each other. Camila and Madeleine’s off screen bond and friendship speaks volumes about their relationship. I think that Camila and Madeleine have one of the most endearing Riverdale friendships on the show. It’s so real and genuine and you can tell those two see each other like besties or sisters. People try to say that Camila is closest to Lili out of the girls, but I strongly disagree. I think Camila is closest to Madeleine. In fact, I don’t think Lili is close to any of the other girls on set. She seems very cold, aloof, and unfriendly to me and I don’t think she has that great of a bond with other women as she likes to proclaim. Vanessa isn’t close to Lili, Madeleine isn’t that close to Lili, Camila isn’t that close to Lili, Ashleigh is definitely not close to Lili at all. How many of the girls on Riverdale are actually really friends with Lili. None of them really and that speaks volumes about her as a person. The only that Lili is close to on Riverdale is Cole and that’s her “boyfriend”. Anyways, back to my point about Camila and Madeleine having a very strong spiritual bond. How would Camila and Madeleine’s strong spiritual connection play into their fictional relationship of Cheronica. Well, I think the fact that these two have a strong spiritual connection would help them in their acting scenes together. Because of their spiritual kinship with each other, they would have a more natural vibe with each other. Their scenes together would flow much more naturally than those who don’t have this high of a spiritual connection. Cheronica friendship scenes have been some of my fave scenes in the series because they have such a nice chemistry. Not only do Camila and Madeleine have a strong emotional chemistry but they have a strong spiritual chemistry. These two have a best friend in each other for life.But, though Madeleine and Camila do have this great bond of friendship and kinship, the writers aren’t utilizing it enough. For some reason, RAS and the writers have this bias against Camila and her characters relationships with others on the show. Camila is the character that can have chemistry and compatibility with everyone because her personality is so likeable and vivacious. She can even have chemistry with someone that she doesn’t have that much chemistry with, if that makes any sense. What I’m trying to say is that the writers should be putting more effort into Cheronica’s friendship. In season 1, they always had these heartwarming scenes together and the reason why they were so touching was because of Camila and Madeleine's high spiritual and emotional compatibility. For season 4, I hope the writers make Cheryl and Veronica bond more and become friends again. I’m tired of the writers not utilizing the chemistry that she has with her costars. instead, they are spending too much time giving Lili and her character Betty too much screen time of her running around a school with a weapon and screaming like a banshee. No, I don’t want to watch that. I want to see bonds and relationships. I want to see friendships being shown and growth in relationships. I want to see new dynamics between characters being explored. Cheronica scenes were always one of the few highlights of this terrible show. Let’s hope that RAS and the writers utilize Camila and Madeleine’s strong spiritual bond and emotional chemistry and get these two back into doing scenes together again. 

#12. Luke Perry & Madchen Amick (Riverdale Pairing: Frelice; Total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating: 66%; Total Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility Rating: 67%)

At # 12 on this rankings is Luke Perry and Madchen Amick, who portrayed the fictional couple or pairing of Frelice. Since I’m going to be discussing Frelice more than about Luke and Madchen, I feel comfortable including Luke related pairings onto this rankings list. I’ve also had some time to process Luke’s death so that definitely helps as well. Luke and Madchen earned a score of 67% Spiritual Compatibility which is considered to be a good score. It’s not outstanding like some of the pairs of actors who are in the Top 10, but it’s still good. With this kind of score, Luke and Madchen had an easy and harmonious bond of friendship. This was evident when Madchen made a post on Instagram about Luke following his sudden death. Madchen had said that Luke was such a good companion to her and was a true friend to her. He would always make her laugh and smile and she would light up because of him. This was Madchen’s memory of Luke, how he made her laugh and smile constantly. Going by the way Madchen talked about Luke, it’s clear she had a strong fondness for him and they shared a strong bond. Madchen also said that she and Luke would be able to engage in deep conversations with each other about life in general on set. People with a good spiritual compatibility are able to do this very well. They are able to have deep and intimate conversations with each other and open up to each other with such ease and little effort. Madchen was definitely one of the cast members who took Luke’s death exceptionally hard, alongside Marisol, and her posts on Instagram about Luke prove this fact. They also share in common that they were both 90′s stars that were the star of a hit show from the 90′s. Luke was in Beverly Hills 90210 while Madchen was in Twin Peaks. Both were popular shows during the 90′s and they were both the “it” boy and the “it” girl of that time, Luke and Madchen also didn’t do that bad when it came to their primary Biorhythm Chemistry and Compatibility ratings. Luke and Madchen earned a score of 66% which is considered to be a good and above average score. Breaking down their Physical, Emotional and Intellectual categories, Luke and Madchen had a 78% Physical, 33% Emotional, and 89% Intellectual rating. They managed to do rather well in their primary Biorhythms but the only area where Luke and Madchen showed weakness was their Emotional Compatibility. They had a high Physical Compatibility of 78% so that indicates that of Luke and Madchen’s characters of Fred and Alice were sexually involved or romantically involved, they would have a strong enough physical and sexual chemistry to pull it off successfully. The high Physical Chemistry rating between Luke and Madchen is probably why some fans had interpreted Fred and Alice’s interactions as sexual tension. Plus, physically and aestheitically, Luke and Madchen would look together. If you take a photo of young Luke and younger Madchen and put it side by side, they would be a major 90′s aesthetic. Luke and Madchen didn’t perform as well when it came to the Emotional Compatibility category, but they managed to make up for it with a much better score in the Spiritual Compatibility category. Finally, Luke and Madchen do exceptionally well in the Intellectual Compatibility category by earning a 89% in this category. This means that Luke and Madchen connected very well on a mental basis and they stimulated each other on a mental level. Going by how Madchen had stated that she could talk to Luke about anything and everything for a long period of time, this is very fitting. With regards to their fictional couple of Frelice on Riverdale, Luke and Madchen’s characters of Fred and Alice always had a very contentious relationship. The two would snark and bicker at each other. They were next door neighbours who had a very sarcastic and snarky relationship. Some people interpreted the snarky relationship and dyanmic between them as sexual tension. As a result, some people suggested that Fred and Alice may have had some sort of romantic fling back in high school that may have gone south or went wrong and both Fred and Alice held a grudge against each other because of it. We find out in the flashback episode (3x04) that Fred and Alice initially got on each other’s nerves but they also shared an emotional bond with each other. Fred and Alice shared a moment when Fred tried to get Alice to open up about what was bothering her. Alice had confessed to Fred that she was scared and lost and that she had no idea what to do with her life. Fred opened up to Alice that he was just as scared as her because of his sick, dying father and being unsure of how to handle the situation. The two shared an emotional moment and in the heat of that moment, they shared a tender kiss with each other. It was one of the highlight moments of that episode for me. Even though that scene of young Fred and Alice wasn’t Luke and Madchen and was instead KJ and Lili, the moment between Fred and Alice was the first time that we see the two of them be open and vulnerable with someone. Alice was a tough girl from the Southside who didn’t let people in and let anyone break down those hard shelled walls. But Fred managed to do so. In regards to Luke and Madchen and their relatiosnhip as Fred and Alice on the show, I wished that the writers would have had them share more scenes together. Luke and Madchen have a decent overall chemistry rating and it’s a shame that the two didn’t have enough scenes together. I mean, they were neighbours after all and they should have talked to each other alot more than they did. I would have liked to see a friendship between Fred and Alice, where Alice would turn to Fred for emotional comfort in times of crisis. I think Fred would have been a strong emotional pillar for Alice, especially once she found out that her husband Hal was a serial killer and the Black Hood who had shot Fred and spent all that time tormenting the town in disguise. I think what Alice needed at the time was a good, solid and dependable friend that she could turn to for comfort and support. Unfortunately, Alice didn’t have that and that is one of the major reasons why Alice fell apart as a person and as a character throughout season 3. Alice lacked the bonds of friendship and companionship and reality, Alice was so inctedibly lonely. Who did Alice have outside of her famil? She had nobody. That is why she fell through the cracks the wayshe did so badly. She had no external support system outside of her family. This is where I believe that the writers could have incorporated Fred. The writers should have had Fred support Alice and be a comforting companion for her. Considering they lived next door to each other, it’s a shame that the writers failed to produce. Fred and Alice would have had such a good friendship bond if the writers tried to distance themselves out of their same bubble for more than five seconds. Since Luke and Madchen had such a strong bond and a great friendship off screen, the writers made a huge writing error and missed opportunity in not fleshing out the complex and complicated relationship between Fred Andrews and Alice Cooper, a complex relationship that has existed since their high school years. Nonetheless, it’s evident that Luke and Madchen had a special bond with each other and it’s one that Madchen will always cherish for the rest of her life. 

#13. Lochlyn Monroe & Madchen Amick (Riverdale Pairing: Halice; Total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating: 57%; Total Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility Rating: 63%)

Coming in at #13 is Lochlyn Monroe and Madchen Amick, who portray the fictional couple of Halice. Lochlyn and Madchen earned an average 63% Spiritual Compatibility Rating. This is not a bad rating considering that their fictional couple of Halice is the complete opposite of anything do with a spiritual connection or bond. Halice’s relationship is the embodiment of a loveless marriage in every sense of the word. But for some reason, Lochlyn and Madchen manage to bring out an aabove average Spiritual Compatibility score. This means that contrary to the fictional couple that they portray, Lochlyn and Madchen have a spiritual connection that is pretty solid. Their decent enough Spiritual Compatibility indicates that the two work together very well and that they have a very good professional relationship because they would be able to do scenes that flow more naturally. I have to say as messed up and as toxic as the relationship between Hal and Alice is, some of the best acting scenes between actors on this show is between Lochlyn and Madchen. Some of their strongest acting together was when Alice discovered Hal’s true identity as the Black Hood after he revealed himself to her and Betty. That scene was so raw, emotional and real. You could tell that Lochlyn and Madchen made the scene so believable with their acting. You could tell that Lochlyn and Madchen were really selling the fact that their two characters were in a highly abusive, toxic and loveless marriage. Looking at Lochlyn and Madchen’s primary Biorhythm Compatibility and Chemistry ratings, they didn’t have the best scores and their overall rating was pretty average. Lochlyn and Madchen earned a 57% Biorhythm Compatibility rating. With regards to their individual categories of Physical, Emotional and Intellectual Compatibility, they earned a 58% Physical, 100% Emotional, and 14% Intellectual Rating. Lochlyn and Madchen’s Physical Chemistry rating is an average score and indicates that they wouldn’t have the most robust or outstanding sexual or physical chemistry with each other. It’s fitting that their score be average in this category since Hal and Alice didn’t even have a sexual or intimate relationship. Their marriage was very loveless and devoid of real love and affection. The one area in which Lochlyn and Madchen knock it out of the park and is unbeatable is the Emotional Compatibility. They earned a 100% score in this category meaning that on an emotional level, they definitely have a connection. It’s understandable to see why they have such a strong and perfect score in this category because despite how devoid of real love their marriage was, their emotion during their acting scenes are always great and intense. Whether it’s a fighting scene or a threatening scene or a fearful scene, Lochlyn and Madchen know how to sell it. Let’s not forget when Hal and Alice had that one tender, heartfelt emotional scene where Hal insisted on getting back together with Alice and trying to fix their marriage for their family’s sake. Lochlyn and Machen do terribly in the Intellectual category, however. This means that on a mental level, they don’t click or connect and there would be disharmony on that level. It’s hard to incorporate Lochlyn and Madchen’s Spiritual Compatibility rating into the acting as Hal and Alice because their relationship is so toxic and unhealthy. Spiritual love is healthy, selfless and free of boundaries. Regardless, they manage to have a strong score in this category despite the fact that they will never be able to portray it on screen. 

#14. Vanessa Morgan & Madelaine Petsch (Riverdale Pairing: Choni; Total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating: 54%; Total Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility Rating: 53%)

Up next at #14 on this rankings is Vanessa Morgan and Madelaine Petsch, who portray the fictional LGBTQ couple of Choni. Vanessa and Madeleine earned an average 53% Spiritual Compatibility Rating. It's not extraordinarily terrible, but it's not overly good either. It's just kind of in the middle. On my Biorhythm Compatibility rankings, Vanessa and Madeleine earned an average 54% Biorhytthm Compatibility rating. So, Vanessa and Madeleine scored a similar Spiritual Compatibility Rating to their Overall Compatibility Rating, and there is only a +1% difference between the ratings. Vanessa and Madeleine’s Spiritual Chemistry rating shows that while they may have a close bond, their bond can be very unpredictable in nature. Their rating is what is called at the critical point, meaning that it’s either really good or really bad. At the same time, it’s over 50% meaning that they are in the safe point of incompatibility. Vanessa and Madeleine are known to be besties off screen, which is kind of a shock to me considering their very mediocre test scores. Much of their friendship and closeness is likely based on the Western astrology factor. Vanessa and Madeleine are compatible based on their Sun signs with Vanessa being an Aries Sun and Madeleine being a Leo Sun. Being astrologically compatible makes up for being not so compatible Biorhythmic-ally for Vanessa and Madeleine. When it comes down to their primary Biorhythm Compatibility scores, Vanessa and Madeleine are just very average. They earned a 85% Physical, 43% Emotional and 14% Intellectual. Their 85% Physical Compatibility rating means that they have some major sexual and physical chemistry between them and they do sell it very well as Toni and Cheryl especially during sexual or intimate scenes on the show. However, Vanessa and Madeleine don’t fare that well in the Emotional category, earning only a mediocre score of 43%. With this score, it means that Vanessa and Madeleine don’t have the best emotional connection and it may be very unpredictable. Again, this kind of rating is at the critical point between compatibility and incompatibility. Any score or category that has a rating between 41% and 49% is in the critical area. Finally, Vanessa and Madeleine definitely don’t connect on an Intellectual wavelength. Earning only 14% in this category means that their mental connection is highly incompatible or almost non existent. Looking at their combined categories of Physical, Emotional, Intellectual and now Spiritual, it appears that Vanessa and Madeleine’s strongest category is the Physical Compatibility, which is based on physical attraction, lust and sexuality. If Vanessa and Madeleine were a real life LGBTQ couple, they wouldn’t last because their relationship would be purely based on lust and sex and that’s not enough to sustain a healthy, long term relationship. When it comes to Vanessa and Madeleine’s Spiritual Compatibility rating and how it plays into their fictional couple of Choni, it indicates that sometimes Choni can and will connect spiritually very well and other times, Choni will have troubles connecting on a spiritual level. Their score shows that there may be a lot of unresolved or pent up tension and disharmony at a much deeper level than they both realize. It appears as though Toni and Cheryl don't always understand each other at times. They do have a bond, and it was evident when they first opened up to each other for the first time last season. But this season, their relationship has become very toxic and unhealthy, definitely not something that indicates robust spiritual chemistry or bond between two people. There is a lot of disconnection between Cheryl and Toni, and it's coming out in the way of them butting heads over power and control. If Toni and Cheryl had a better Spiritual Chemistry, then they would be able to get over their problems and the tension in their relationship with much more ease. Unfortunately, they haven't been able to do that, and that is a result of their middle of the road Spiritual Chemistry Rating. Unlike Bughead, Choni doesn't have a problem with communication and honesty, but what they do have a problem with is the type of communication they are giving each other. The two are getting things off their chests and saying what is on their minds, but they are still fighting at the end of the day. There's a lot of unnecessary disharmony in their relationship, and it's like a teeter-totter. Choni's relationship has become so unstable and unpredictable; it's tough to tell what their relationship is going to be like from an episode to episode basis. Their 50/50 Spiritual Chemistry Rating is like a coin toss. Sometimes Choni will connect spiritually and bond on a deeper level with little to no effort. On the other hand, Choni will become distant from each other end up having so much tension and frustration in their relationship and they won't spiritual connect. Choni having such a borderline Spiritual Chemistry Rating is not necessarily a positive thing for Choni and the future of their relationship, Them having such an unpredictable Spiritual Chemistry Rating may cause their relationship to be fraught with constant problems and tension in the present and the future. As of right now, Cheryl and Toni's relationship is at a dangerous threshold. Either they break up, and it's over for good, or they fight to make it work by trying to get back some semblance of being on the same page. Cheryl and Toni seriously need to communicate more beneficially than what they are doing right now. Spiritually, Cheryl and Toni aren't in such a right place. Do you want to know what makes me so disappointed about Choni? At the beginning of their relationship, I believed that Choni might have been a representation of true love and unconditional love. I thought that Choni might have been a representation of Spiritual Love. The kind of love that respects and nourishes and accepts. But this season has proven me wrong when it comes to Choni. The more I'm seeing their relationship this season, the more I realize that maybe Choni is conditional love and not one that is of a deep spiritual connection. Right now, it seems that all that matters to both Cheryl and Toni is who is more powerful and who has more control in the relationship. There's a massive lack of equality in the relationship, and it's heavily lopsided. One minute Cheryl is trying to take control of the relationship and the next minute, it's Toni. And when one of them decides to take control, the other doesn't respect it and resents the other for it. It is a big sign of spiritual disharmony in the relationship, and it's regrettable. Unfortunately, Choni cannot control science and the fact that they have a borderline, middle of the road Spiritual Chemistry Rating that will cause them to have a very unpredictable and chaotic relationship on a spiritual level. All I know is that Cheryl and Toni better at least attempt at trying to bond spiritually more often and communicate with each other more effectively, or I fear for the outcome of their relationship. Because right now, Choni is a complete toxic mess and their spiritual bond and chemistry are out of whack. Yes, they have appeared to have mended things for now, but who knows what the future holds when it pertains to this show. These writers throw people together just as randomly as they tear people apart. As of right now, I’m not certain that Choni has a lot of staying power, but we will see what the future episodes and season hold for these two. Nevertheless, I do greatly enjoy Vanessa and Madeleine’s real life friendship and I find it to be one of the most heartwarming, genuine and endearing bonds between the Riverdale cast members. 

#15. Luke Perry & Molly Ringwald (Riverdale Pairing: Frery; Total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating: 53%; Total Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility Rating: 48%)

At #15 on this list is Luke Perry and Molly Ringwald, who portray the fictional couple of Frery. They earned a total score of 48% Spiritual Compatibility Rating. Surprisingly, this is a shocking result for me. Luke and Molly seemed to have such a strong bond with each other, but as their Spiritual Compatibility score reveals, their spiritual connection with each other is just very average. Luke and Molly looked to be very fond of each other and they had a strong bond. They worked well together in the few scenes they had together as Fred and Mary on Riverdale. Looking at Luke and Molly’s primary Biorhythm Compatibility ratings, they earned a 07% Physical, 53% Emotional and 100% Intellectual Compatibility. Physically, Luke and Molly didn’t have great sexual and physical chemistry. This is fitting since their relationship was not based on sexual matters or lust. Their relationship is based more on love, trust and honesty than anything of a sexual nature. Their Emotional Compatibility of 53% indicates that they have an average Emotional Compatibility. It’s not overly great but it’s not extremely terrible. It’s in the safety zone. I’m kind of surprised that Luke and Molly didn’t have a higher rating in this category because Fred and Mary are known to be the loving, healthy couple and they have managed to do well with it. Finally, Luke and Molly’s Intellectual Compatibility score is where they did exceptionally well, earning a perfect 100% rating. With this rating, they tie Cole and Camila (Jeronica) in having a perfect 100% rating in the Intellectual category. Luke and Milly have a strong mental connection and this is where their strength lies. This made their professional co working relationship a pleasant experience for the both of them because they connected so well on a mental level. In regards to how their Spiritual Compatibility plays into their fictional couple Frery, I can’t say that it does. Since they don’t have the strongest spiritual connection, it’s hard for me to make a connection with the two relationships. I will say about Fred and Mary however is that their relationship and marriage is a representation of what a spiritual connection is. Fred and Mary’s relationship is very selfless and loving. Despite the two of them being divorced or separated, they still had a lot of love and respect for each other. Fred and Mary were clearly very supportive of each other and there was no animosity or hatred between the two. They were just two people who discovered that their marriage wasn’t working for them and they parted ways in the most amicable fashion. For that reason, I would say that Fred and Mary had the healthiest relationship out of all the adult relationships on Riverdale. They were separated and no longer in love with each other, but they were still friends and respected each other. they were also good parents to Archie and always supported him and wanted what was best for him. They were willing to put aside ant differences that they may have shared and be there to support Archie when it mattered. This is what you call a bond of true spiritual nature. Like it states at the beginning of the post, spiritual love is selfless and it’s about putting someone elses’ needs above yours. There is no selfishness in the relationship. There is an equal partnership between two individuals. This is what Fred and Mary represented. It’s unfortunate that Luke and Milly’s real life spiritual connection and bond wasn’t as abstract and strong as Fred and Mary’s, but it didn’t negate the fact that Luke and Molly had a great on screen and off screen relationship with each other. I’m gonna miss seeing red and Mary scene son the show and they will be sorely missed. The Fred and Mary scenes were always some of the best scenes between the adult actors on this show and they had the least toxic fictional adult relationship. Fred and Mary were the heart of the ParentDale side of the show and it’s a tragedy that it will never been seen again.

#16. Luke Perry & Marisol Nichols (Riverdale Pairing: Frione; Total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating: 92%; Total Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility Rating: 48%)

Up next at #16 on this rankings is Luke Perry and Marisol Nichols. They portray the fictional couple of Frione. Luke and Marisol earned a score of 48% Spiritual Compatibility, meaning that with this score, they tie Luke and Molly. Luke and Marisol don’t have the strongest spiritual bond and connection with a score like this. However, when it pertains to their primary Biorhythm Compatibility scores, Luke and Marisol are extremely compatible on all levels. Luke and Marisol have a very impressive 92% Biorhythm Compatibility rating, only coming in second to Cole and Camila (Jeronica). Breaking down Luke and Marisol’s individual categories of Physical, Emotional and Intellectual, Luke and Marisol earned a 92% Physical, 94% Emotional, and 89% Intellectual. Those are very impressive scores across the board and in of the categories. Unfortunately, Luke and Marisol don’t perform well in the Spiritual Compatibility department. Can’t win them all, right? With Luke and Marisol having a 92% Physical rating, it means that they have strong physical and sexual chemistry with each other. Unfortunately, we were never able to see this chemistry on display even when they were engaging in an affair in season 1. Instead, we were subjected to watching couples that didn’t have the strongest sexual or physical chemistry grace our screens, couples such as Archalerie, Bughead and Varchie. Fremione was kind of thrown into the background eventually and those couples overshadowed them and took over the screen time. Luke and Marisol also did very well on an Emotional Compatibility level. They have a score of 94% in this category and they tie KJ and Lili (Barchie) in this category, in which they also earned a 94% score. Luke and Marisol having a strong emotional connection isn’t shocking to me. because Luke and Marisol were so close off screen. Out of all the Riverdale cast members, I think Marisol took Luke’s passing the hardest next to KJ and Camila. She worked the most intimately with him other than KJ and Camila so it’s understandable why she was so heartbroken over his death and why it was more pronounced for her and hit her harder on an emotional level. So, it was apparent that Marisol had such a strong emotional attachment to him off screen and their Emotional Compatibility rating proves this fact. Next is their Intellectual Compatibility and Luke and Marisol continue to do well. They earned a 89% which means that mentally, they have a very strong and robust connection with each other. They are pretty much on the same mental and intellectual wavelength and there is little to no disharmony in this area when it pertains to their relationship, off screen and on screen. When it pertains to how Luke and Marisol’s Spiritual Compatibility plays onto their fictional couple pf Fremione, it definitely matches in my opinion. Though Fremione had a lot of chemistry, their relationship was very shallow. We discover that they dated back in high school and had a brief fling, but then Hermione broke up with Fred and chose to go back to Hiram in which she ended up marrying him. For that reason, it makes it appear as though Hermione may have been using Fred as a replacement or a substitute for Hiram. Hermione’s mother didn’t approve of her dating Hiram or being in a relationship with him because she felt that he was a scrub despite coming from wealth and privilege. So, she dated Fred because he was there for her and they had a genuine bond, but it wasn’t a forever kind of bond unfortunately. We also discovered that Hermione was sexually manipulating Fred and having an affair with him because she was trying to get Fred to get into business with Lodge Industries. Her intentions of being with Fred were not genuine, selfless or based on true love. It was based on what Fred could do for Hermione and her family much to Fred’s chagrin. That is the epitome of a relationship or romantic affair that is selfish, shallow and devoid of depth. Their relationship was purely sexual in nature and they didn’t have that strong emotional bond. This is ironic considering that Luke and Marisol had the opposite and have a very strong emotional connection. So, in reality, Luke and Marisol’s mediocre Spiritual Compatibility rating managed to match their fictional relationship of Fredmione. Luke and Marisol had brilliant connections and chemistry in all of their other categories but they lacked in the Spiritual Compatibility. Despite this, I absolutely adored Luke and Marisol’s on and off screen relationship. They worked so well together and they complemented each other on screen. Their interactions were some of my favourites amongst the adult relationships on the shiw. Fredmione wasn’t the most healthy relationship but I never doubted that Fred and Hermione had a genuine love for each other. And I especially don’t doubt that Luke and Marisol loved each other very much and had a strong connection. Luke will surely be missed on the show and the heart of Riverdale has gone with him. RIP Luke. 

Bottom 5 Couples (#17 to #21)

#17. Cole Sprouse & Lili Reinhart (Riverdale Pairing: Bughead; Total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating: 35%; Total Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility Rating: 26%)

Topping off the Bottom 5 couples is Cole Sprouse and Lili Reinhart, who portray the couple of Bughead. Once again, Cole and Lili find themselves at the bottom of the rankings. Maybe not at the very bottom this time, but surely near the bottom. But what else is new with these two right? Cole and Lili racked up a terrible 26% Spiritual Compatibility Rating. I’m not surprised that Cole and Lili have such a bad Spiritual Compatibility Rating. Much of the reason why I think they don’t have a spiritual connection is because I don’t think Cole and Lili’s relationship is nbased on the concept of true love and genuine romance. I have made arguments in other posts of ine that Cole and Lili may not be a real or genuine romantic relationship. I made the argument that they may be a publicity stunt and are using their relationship for attention and PR purposes. If they are, then it’s not a bad thing, but what bothers me about them is how they try to pass their relationship off as if it is some epic love story or some fairytale. I don’t think Cole and Lili are dating each other for the most authentic or selfless of reasons. I think they are dating each other for selfish reasons so their low Spiritual Compatibility is very fitting for their relationship (or lack thereof). Normally, I don’t care about the status of many celebrity couples, but Sprousehart is just so overexposed in the Riverdale fandom and in the media that I can’t help but have a strong opinion about them. Not to mention that it appears that their relationship has overtaken the entire show and has ruined the promise of the show. Because now it seems that everything about Riverdale has to revolve around Sprousehart and Bughead and as someone who wants to see Riverdale focus on all of the characters and relationships, it’s incredibly frustrating to me. My dislike of Sprousehart is stemmed from the favouritism that they are constantly being shown by the writers, the media and the fandom and how the fandom goes out of their way to portray Cole and Lili as some saints who can do no wrong or as some kind of royalty that we should all bow to or fawn over. In reality, Cole and Lili are the most boring, ordinary, and uncharismatic couple in Hollywood or in showbiz. They aren’t even the most charismatic cast members on the Riverdale cast. Every other Riverdale cast member has more charisma and personality than the two of them combined.Once again, it’s no surprise to me that Cole and Lili have a dreadful spiritual compatibility because they also have a horrible Biorhythm Compatibility rating too. Cole and Lili earned a horrible 35% Biorhythm Compatibility and this rating made them the pair of Riverdale actors and Riverdale couple with the worst compatibility and chemistry in the entire Riverdale verse. They were at the very bottom of my Biorhythm Compatibility rankings list and it means that Cole and Lili have the worst chemistry out of all the couples and possible pairings.  In addition to having a very horrible Overall Compatibility Rating (35%), they did horrible in all of their categories of Physical, Emotional and Intellectual. Cole and Lili earned a 68% Physical  33% Emotional, and 05% Intellectual Rating. Physically, Cole and Lili had the highest score out of all the categories, but regardless, having a sort of above average rating in this one category is not enough to master or create a successful romantic relationship for the long run. This is why Sprousehart may not make it that long because going by their scores, there is no compatibility and chemistry there. Maybe it’s just my assumptions but I really don’t believe that they are dating each other for the right reasons. I think they are dating each other because it’s what people want and because it will further their careers in this business. That sounds harsh, but the reality is that publicit couples exist I  Hollywood. Celebrities date or get together for publicity and business reasons all the time. So me making the argument or creating the theory that Sprousehart may be more of a brand than a real, genuine relationship between two people is not that far off. Plus, I’m not the only one who has made this argument about them in the past. There were actually quite a few people who thought the same as me but were then silenced into expressing this belief within the fandom and on social media out of fear of being attacked, ambushed and bullied by the Sprousehart and Bughead Stans. I have to question the nature of their relationship because alot of their relationship simply doesn’t add up. How can they be a legitimate couple yet produce zero chemistry on screen as Bughead? How can they be a genuinely happy couple in love when they have such terrible compatibility ratings and scores? All of their Biorhythm scores and ratings indicate a highly incompatible couple that should not be together whatsoever. Not only do Cole and Lili have terrible primary Biorhythm Compatibility scores, but they can add having an extremely bad Spiritual Compatibility Rating to their list of underwhelming achievements. With such a low Spiritual Compatibility score, this proves that Cole and Lili don’t have a good, strong or harmonious spiritual bond and connection. This implicates that there is a serious amount if discord, disharmony and incompatibility on a  spiritual level within Cole and Lili’s relationship. Now, how does Cole and Lili’s lacking Spiritual Compatibility rating emulate their fictional couple of Bughead on Riverdale. Well, in many ways in fact. In my opinion, life definitely imitates art where these two are concerned. It has been shown and proven on the show time and time again that Bughead don’t have a healthy relationship or a strong connection because of the things that they do to each other and within the relationship. They have a massive lack of communication in their relationship. They don ’t know how to open up to each other and talk when it matters most. They constantly lie to each other and keep secrets from each other even when it’s something of a severe nature. Jughead and Betty lacking spiritual chemistry is proof that their kind of love is conditional love. If Jughead and Betty’s relationship and love were unconditional love, they wouldn’t have so many problems, and they wouldn’t constantly feel the need to hide their feelings and thoughts from each other. Jughead and Betty’s lack of spiritual chemistry is evident in how they constantly fight with each other about little things and big things alike. It’s evident in how they constantly keep secrets from each other. It’s evident in how Jughead and Betty can’t tell the truth to each other and be honest when it counts. I don’t feel that Jughead and Betty truly accept each other for who they are. Their relationship is very conditional and is one of first love. Relationships that are First Love doesn’t represent the concept of unconditional love and spiritual love. It’s an infatuation based on impulse and foolishness. Spiritual love is deep; it’s mature and ever growing and evolving constantly. Bughead is a highly stagnant relationship that has not progressed, and they keep going around in circles repeating the same issues and problems and not doing anything to change it. Another thing is that Jughead and Betty make selfish decisions in the name of their "love" for each other. They do impulsive, stupid things that aren't beneficial for them or anyone else around them. Their actions regarding each other and about each other are very selfish. Jughead and Betty's relationship isn't self-sacrificing and selfless. True love and spiritual love are based on the act of self-sacrifice and selflessness. It's about putting the needs, wants and desires of your loved one before your needs, wants and desires, even if it hurts you to do it. Jughead and Betty have never done such a thing for each other. Even when they do things for each other, it's something bad or illegal. That is not the definition of true love.  An example of the selfishness that exists in Bughead's relationship includes Jughead having no issue with dragging Betty into his constant messes. Jughead suggested to Archie that he should get Betty involved in his drug trafficking with Penny Peabody while he and Archie were transporting drugs in Greendale. However, Archie was not having any of it because he refused to drag Betty into Jughead's drug trafficking mess and put her in danger because of it. It's like Jughead didn't even think about what the repercussions would be of dragging Betty into such a dangerous, illegal situation. Jughead was just selfish thinking of putting Betty into that kind of situation, and he didn't even hesitate to think that it was wrong of him to suggest it. Does Jughead not remember that Betty is his girlfriend and significant other, not his assistant and slave that he can use for his benefit or gain when he feels like it or needs it?  Betty is just as selfish when it comes to Jughead. She's willing to risk her life and put her family in danger so that she can join a biker gang. Betty wanted to join the Southside Serpents had nothing to do with her caring about the well-being of the Serpents. She only joined them because she wanted to be with Jughead. If Bughead were true love and a love that's based on a spiritual connection, no way would Jughead even think of wanting Betty to join his dangerous world of gangs, crime, and illegal activity. He would want to keep Betty out of danger as much as possible. However, on the flip side, Betty wanting to join the Serpents was her personal decision, but Jughead didn't respect her choice. He berated her and treated her with disrespect as if she isn't his equal. So, it's a double-edged situation regarding Betty joining the gang. Regardless of whether Betty should have joined the gang or not, Betty joined the gang for purely selfish reasons, and that selfish reason was Jughead. I don't know whom Jughead made Betty the Serpent Queen. She doesn't have any qualifications to have that title. Yes, her mother Alice was a Serpent back in her teenage years, but she put that life behind her and has since embraced Northside life. Alice barely acknowledges the Serpent lifestyle anymore. Jughead only made Betty the Serpent Queen because she's his girlfriend. Another thing is that Jughead didn't even discuss the responsibilities and requirements that are necessary for her role as Serpent Queen. Jughead just said "Hey Betty, want to be my Serpent Queen?" instead of discussing what that role means. That is another problem with Bughead. There is a lack of actual communication between the two. We hardly see them thoroughly talk about things. Bughead's lack of spiritual connection is a huge reason why they don't communicate efficiently enough, which also leads to both of them keeping lies and secrets from each other. Another reason why Bughead doesn't have good spiritual compatibility is that they cannot be honest with each other. They constantly keep lies and secrets from each other, and they are usually secrets and lies that are serious. Also, I don't feel like Jughead and Betty respect and appreciate each other, and it was evident in season 1 and season 2. Jughead doesn't appreciate Betty enough or when Betty goes out of her way to do nice or good things for him. Instead, he chooses to throw it back in her face which provokes an argument and fight between the two. It was the case in season 1 when Betty decided to throw a surprise birthday party for Jughead. Yes, Jughead had told Betty that he didn't want a birthday party because he had faced childhood trauma that he didn't want to relive regarding birthdays. Yes, Betty should have listened to Jughead and respected his wishes. On the other hand, Jughead shouldn't have yelled at Betty and scolded her for wanting to commit a nice gesture for Jughead on his day. Instead, the two should have calmly talked about it and communicated about the situation. Instead,d it just caused them to argue. Lack of respect and communication right there. The foundation for Bughead's relationship is pure selfishness. They represent the typical, cliche, teenaged, high school relationship that's nothing more than a phase of First Love. They aren't Spiritual Love, mature love, true love, or everlasting love. Bughead is just playing dress-up in that regard. They are a First Love relationship masking as a True Love relationship. As a result, Cole and Lili h having a low Spiritual Compatibility Rating isn’t a shock to me because LIFE IS IMITATING ART and maybe Sprousehart is just as unhealthy as Bughead is. Bughead, like Sprousehart, has always run hollow to me as if something significant is missing in their relationship, and I can’t describe it. On the show, Cole and Lili as Bughead probably share more “emotional” and intimate scenes than any of the other couples on the show, yet, every single time that Jughead and Betty tried to genuinely bond or share emotional moments, I felt nothing at all. It’s the same result with Varchie. Now, after discovering Cole and Lili’s Biorhythm Compatibility and Chemistry test results, I know why that is. Because Cole and Lili have a low Spiritual Compatibility Rating. How do you expect me to feel the profound, meaningful, and deep bond between Jughead and Betty if Cole and Lili don’t have any connection on a spiritual level? It’s not possible. Whereas KJ and Camila as Varchie is more of physical, sexual relationship and they use sex as a replacement for having a low spiritual connection, Bughead uses lies, secrets, illegal activity, and escapism as a way to replace the lacking deep spiritual bond between them. The lack of Spiritual Compatibility between Cole and lili and by extension Bughead is so evident and apparent every single time. When Cole and Lili as Jughead and Betty look at each other, I don’t feel it. When they talk to each other, I don't feel it. When they act like a romantic couple and have romantic, intimate moments, I still don't feel it. It feels hollow and empty and it really shouldn't. When two people have a profound spiritual connection and Spiritual Compatibility, it’s so obvious, not just to them but to the people surrounding them and observing them. Spiritual Love and passion is emanating from two people in the relationship who have that kind of intense spiritual bond. Jughead and Betty seriously lack that, and it’s unfortunate to watch every single week because out of all the couples, Bughead arguably receives the most attention and screen time. Fans try to proclaim that Bughead is the couple that has the deepest and most meaningful bond out of all the couples on the show? Well, this test and Cole and Lili’s ghastly 26% Spiritual Compatibility Rating (along with their lacking 33% Emotional Chemistry Rating) proved them all wrong and negated their claims. Bughead, and by extension Cole and Lili, doesn’t have a deep spiritual bond or a strong emotional connection whatsoever. Factually, Cole and Lili and Bughead don’t have much of a spiritual connection, bond, or relationship at all and science has just proven this. Now, is it just me or does science seriously dislike Sprousehart for some reason? It’s like pseudoscience or the astral world is saying these two should not be together because they are seriously mismatched and incompatible. Cole and Lili have severe case of bad luck when it comes to the Biorhythm Compatibility tests, consistently producing terrible and horrible ratings. Cole and Lili’s relationship is an incompatible, mismatched mess and Bughead really is no better either, The two are not compatible on any level and science is proving this fact consistently. Why are these two even together in the first place? They have no chemistry and compatibility on any level, and their relationship of Bughead is played out and on borrowed time. They are only staying together to prevent rabid Bughead fans from losing their sanity and mental health. Maybe Sprousehart and Bughead weren’t written in the stars?

#18. KJ Apa & Camila Mendes (Riverdale Pairing: Varchie; Total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating: 67%; Total Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility: 15%)

Next on the list at #18 is KJ Apa and Camila Mendes who portray the couple of Varchie. They scored a massively dreadful 15% Spiritual Compatibility Rating. This is alot worst than their other scores on their Primary Biorhythm Compatibility calculations. In that regards, KJ and Camila have a 67% Biorhythm Compatibility Rating, meaning that they have an above average chemistry and compatibility with each other. Though their overall compatibility and chemistry is deemed to be good and above average, the writers of the show have ruined any chemistry or potential that these two had with poor writing and sidelining of them. The last time I saw KJ and Camila have legit chemistry was in season 1, notably in the Pilot episode when they were in the closest together and shared their first kiss. However, season 2 onwards, KJ and Camila’s on screen chemistry severely declined and I’m not going to blame it on KJ and Camila, but more so on the writing and the writers ruining them. When it pertains to breaking down their individual categories of Physical, Emotional and Intellectual Compatibility, KJ and Camila garnered a 68% Physical Compatibility, 53% Emotional Compatibility and a 79% Intellectual Compatibility. So, by looking at all of their cateogires, it’s above average across the board, meaning that it’s not completely terrible. My issue with Varchie is more to do with the content of their relationship than about their chemistry. With poor writing comes poor chemistry. Sometimes bad writing can affect the chemistry that two actors have together. The two actors may not have chemistry on one project but they may have much better chemistry on another project. This is the case with KJ and Camila, in my opinion. Because looking at their Biorhythm Compatibility, it is not a bad rating at all and it’s above average to good. They certainly have Cole and Lili and Bughead beat in this department, being over 30%+ ahead of Sprousehart in regards to total compatibility. The one category that I was surprised with when it came to KJ and Camila ‘s ratings was their Physical Compatibility rating. Since they are the sexual and physical couple on Riverdale, I would expect the two actors portraying this type of couple to have outstanding sexual and physical chemistry and attraction to each other. But, for a couple of this nature, their Physical Compatibility of 68% is very mild and middle of the road. Next is that KJ and Camila don’t have the best emotional connection either. They only earned a 53% in this category and this isn’t that strong of a score. It’s fitting that emotionally, KJ and Camila don’t have the best connection or chemistry because every single time that KJ and Camila have to do touching, heartfelt or emotional scenes on the show, I never end up feeling anything while watching them. Sometimes their emotional scenes are okay, but it doesn’t wow me or impress me. The writing doesn’t help KJ and Camila and Varchie either so they aren’t able to convey a couple that has an emotional bond instead of just a sexual bond. The one area where KJ and Camila do have a good connection is the Intellectual category. Here, they have a 79% Intellectual Compatibility, indicating that while they don’t necessarily connect the best emotionally, they connect rather well intellectually and mentally. How does KJ and Camila’s low Spiritual Compatibility play into their fictitious romance of Varchie? The lack of Spiritual Chemistry between Camila and KJ is very noticeable as Varchie because of how much these two don’t communicate and talk to each other like a normal romantic couple should be doing. Instead, they are using sex as a way to solve their problems. More than anything, their relationship is purely based on the physical and they lack that emotional and spiritual bond that is so necessary for a harmonious an successful relationship to be possible. We were all wondering why Varhcie seems like such a shallow relationship. Well, that is the reason why. They have a mediocre Emotional Chemistry Rating (only 53%) and a very horrible Spiritual Chemistry Rating (only 15%). Combine those two ratings, and the result is a profoundly shallow relationship that is mostly physical and sexual than spiritual or emotional. Unfortunately, there’s nothing that can be done to change this. Archie and Veronica can’t wave a magic wand and suddenly have this magical, spiritual connection or chemistry together. It’s something that is there or it isn’t there. With Varchie, it isn’t there (and it’s not there for KJ and Camila since the ratings are based on the date of birth of the real-life actors). The lack of Spiritual Compatibility is not only evident in that Varchie are always sleeping together and using the physical activity to help solve their issues, but the fact that they have little to nothing in common whatsoever. What do Archie and Veronica have in common besides sex and their love of music? Nothing. How are Archie and Veronica supposed to formulate a deep spiritual connection if they have nothing to talk about or communicate? They also have a massive lack of trust and honesty in their relationship which contributes to the lack of spiritual connection in the relationship.  What also proves that Varchie has a seriously spiritually incompatible relationship is that their relationship is actively toxic and unhealthy for both partners. Archie and Veronica have changed dramatically for the negative since engaging in a romantic relationship. Before they got together, they were much happier and better people. When two partners have a robust spiritual connection, the two people in the relationship are supposed to grow and evolve beneficially and positively. They aren't supposed to have an abruptly negative change in their personality. It is one of the most significant signs that a romantic couple is in a conditional and toxic romantic relationship or love, not a healthy, unconditional and spiritual love and connection. When two people have a disharmonious or low Spiritual Compatibility, the connection between the two partners is severely neglected and fragmented. Ever since Archie has begun a romantic relationship with Veronica, he has become withdrawn, sullen, depressed, anxious, wrecked with never-ending trauma and heaped with personal troubles. Archie's relationship with Veronica has emotionally and spiritually wounded him, and now, he requires spiritual and emotional healing to repair his internal wounds. Unfortunately, Veronica is not the person to do that for him because she and her family are the ones who inflicted harm on him to start. On the flip side, Archie hasn't been right for Veronica either. He is a toxic influence on her as well, and her personal growth becomes stagnated. She doesn't become a better person with Archie. Archie has a habit of enabling her tosic personality qualities and traits which is a big no-no. Their relationship is way too toxic for them to qualify to have spiritual love or a powerful spiritual connection with each other. Their relationship is more physical and sexual than anything else. Therefore, KJ and Camila having a very low Spiritual Compatibility Rating is not surprising to me because again, like I have stated before, life is imitating art. 

#19. Cole Sprouse & KJ Apa (Riverdale Pairing: Jarchie; Total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating: 50%; Total Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility: 15%)

At #19 on this rankings is Cole Sprouse and KJ Apa, who portray the fictional duo of Jarchie. KJ and Cole garnered a measly 15% Spiritual Compatibility Rating. I’m shocked that Cole and KJ don’t have a strong spiritual connection. Since these two are such close friends, I would expect them to have a much stronger bond on this level. unfortunately, they don’t. Going back to Cole and KJ’s primary Biorhythm Compatibility scores, they didn’t do exceptionally well in that test either. Their total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating is 50%, which is what is considered to be at the critical point or the borderline level between compatibility and incompatibility. It means that Cole and KJ’s compatibility would be unpredictable and changeable. One minute, they would bond really well together and other times, they will want to ignore or avoid each other like the Plague. As for their individual categories, Cole and KJ earned a 58% Physical Compatibility, 0% Emotional Compatibility, and a 93% Intellectual Compatibility. Their Physical Compatibility is on the average side, so if Cole and KJ has to portray an LGBTQ couple on the show, it’s uncertain if they would be able to sell it as convincingly as they should. Having the sexual and physical component within Jarchie’s relationship would give off the impression that they have an attraction to each other. But their score is much too average. Next is their Emotional Compatibility in which they did absolutely horribly and where they earned the worst and lowest score or rating out of any individual category on the rankings. Cole and KJ have a 0% Emotional Compatibility, meaning that they literally have no emotional connection or bond with each other at all. This is quite surprising considering how close KJ and Cole are off-screen. However, where they do have a very strong bond is on the Intellectual and mental level in which they earned a score of 93%. Cole and KJ may not have a strong Emotional or Spiritual Compatibility, but they do have a very strong Intellectual and mental connection and this is likely where Cole and KJ find their connection with each other. Again. it’s shocking that Cole and KJ not only lack Emotional Compatibility, but they don’t even have good Spiritual Compatibility either! What gives? Considering that Cole and KJ and Jarchie, are so close and are lifelong best friends, I would expect them to have a powerful emotional and spiritual connection with each other. How does Cole and KJ’s Spiritual Compatibility rating play into their fictional friendship of Jarchie? Their low Spiritual Compatibility Rating somewhat makes sense in the grand scheme of things, especially with how often these two best friends have drifted apart and grown distant from each other. Before the start of the series, Jughead and Archie stopped being friends, because Archie paid Ms. Grundy and his illicit affair more attention than to Jughead. It angered Jughead because both of them were supposed to hang out together during the Summer before school started. But Archie was too preoccupied, and their relationship fell through. Luckily, they managed to mend their friendship, and they ended up being on good terms at the start of the series. However,  they had another falling out in season 2. Archie chose to turn against his friends, including Jughead, to swear loyalty to Hiram Lodge and the Lodge family. Archie turned his back on Jughead and the Southside by pledging his allegiance to the Lodges. At that point, it appeared as though their friendship might not have been repairable. However, they managed to get their friendship back on track once Archie had an epiphany and realized the error of his ways and chose to turn against Hiram and side with Jughead and the Southside Serpents. The fact that Archie and Jughead have had quite a few falling outs in such a short amount of time shows that there is some strong spiritual disharmony between the two and the two can’t seem to stay connected spiritually. Considering their very low Spiritual Chemistry Rating, this is not a shock. Archie and Jughead have proved that they have troubles with being honest with each other and opening up to each other when it matters the most. Archie and Jughead are supposed to be best friends since childhood yet they barely act like it. Both of them act so distantly from each other, especially this season. If Jarchie isn't fighting with each other or competing against each other, they are acting distant from each other. But when Archie and Jughead do manage to put their differences aside and connect as best friends, it provides some of the best scenes and moments on the show.  Let's go back to season 2 for a second and analyze Jughead and Archie's relationship. At the start of season 2, Archie and Jughead were on good terms with each other. Jughead was supportive of Archie and was there to comfort him after his father Fred got shot and almost died. Jughead acted as a good best friend would. However, when the Black Hood drama, the Serpent drama and the Hiram/Lodge family drama came about and was incorporated in both Archie and Jughead's lives, the two friends grew distant once again. Things only got worse for their friendship in season 2B. It was shocking and disappointing at the same time to watch Archie continue to choose to be loyal to Veronica and the Lodge family (primarily Hiram) over being loyal to Jughead who had been there for him since they were kids. Archie choosing Hiram and the Lodges over Jughead solidifies an example of how Archie and Jughead are spiritually incompatible. Or how the two can go months without even communicating or hanging out together and acting so distant from each other as if they are strangers. However, despite the lack of Emotional Chemistry and Spiritual Compatibility that Cole and KJ have, Cole and KJ are compatible in different ways. They have an excellent and outstanding Intellectual Compatibility Rating of 93%. They scored a decent and stable Physical Chemistry Rating of almost 60%. And as you can see in the above ratings, Cole and KJ have excellent Awareness Compatibility (a massive and impressive 99%) and Intuitive Compatibility (a solid 79%). So, while these two may not be compatible on a Spiritual and Emotional Chemistry level, Cole and KJ makes up for those lacking areas by being compatible in other areas of their Primary and Secondary Biorhythm Compatibility test scores. But regardless of their occasionally bumpy relationship on the show and their lack of spiritual connection and emotional connection in the real world, I still Cole and KJ’s friendship and Jarchie’s on screen relationship. 

#20. Skeet Ulrich & Gina Gershon (Riverdale Pairing: Fladys; Total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating: 72%; Total Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility Rating: 09%)

The runner up for worst Spiritual Compatibility rating is Skeet Ulrich and Gina Gershon, who portray the couple Fladys or Glythe. They have a horrendous Spiritual Compatibility Rating of 09%! That is absolutely awful! What’s interesting is that when it came to Skeet and Gina’s primary Biorhtyhm Compatibility calculations, they had a pretty strong score. Skeet and Gina earned a 72% Biorhythm Compatibility Rating making them one of the Top 5 ParentDale couples and one of the Top 10 couples on Riverdale in my rankings lists. Skeet and Gina’s Physical, Emotional and Intellectual Compatibility scores were as follows: 96% Physical Compatibility, 53% Emotional Compatibility and 65% Intellectual Compatibility. Skeet and Gina’s Physical Compatibility score of 96% means that they have major sexual and physical chemistry with each other. They never did get the opportunity to showcase this because Gina’s character Gladys never had any intentions of rekindling her marriage to FP and having a real relationship with him. She was there to take over Hiram Lodge’s drug empire. But as their Physical Compatibility rating suggests, they would have lit the screen on fire with their sexual tension and chemistry. They, no doubt, have one of the highest Physical Compatibility ratings out of all the couples in Riverdale. Skeet and Gina have an average rating of 53% Emotional Compatibility. So, it’s not the best, it’s just very average. Fitting that they don’t have the best emotional compatibility because their on screen relationship of Fladys eventually came to lack an emotional connection and attachment. Gladys even left FP high and dry and took their daughter with her to Ohio because she could no longer stand to be around him. So clearly, the emotional connection that she had to FP withered away with time. Skeet and Gina’s Intellectual Compatibility is above average with a score of 65%. Overall, Skeet and Gina’s primary Biorhythm scores are above average but nothing spectacular. What gives them a higher overall rating of 72% is undoubtedly their very high Physical Compatibility rating. As to how Skeet and Gina’s extremely bad and low Spiritual Compatibility of only 09% mirrors their fictional relationship of Fladys on Riverdale. Well, I say that it matches perfectly. Gladys’ relationship is extremely selfish in nature. We found out that Gladys came back to Riverdale to take over the drug empire, not to be with FP. She never had any intentions of getting back together with him or fixing her family. She cared about earning big bucks in a shady, illegal manner so that she could live the American Dream in Riverdale. Her intentions may have been wanting to provide a secure life for her family after so many years of having to do numerous criminal, illegal and underhanded things to get by in the past and conducting tons of scamming to put food on the table.  But the fact that she managed to keep something that severe of a secret from FP shows that her love for him is selfish and wasn’t based on spiritual love. If she loved FP on a spiritual level, she wouldn’t have done what she did and resorted to the measures that she did to try and bring her family back together. Do I think Gladys loved FP and maybe still loves him? Yes. Do I believe that the kind of love that FP and Gladys share is a love of the spiritual nature? No. Their relationship is much too problematic, unhealthy and toxic for it to be based on spiritual love. That is why it’s super coincidental and fitting that Skeet and Gina don’t mesh well together spiritually because their fictional couple of Fladys doesn’t either. Falice (89%) and especially Formione (97%) definitely have Fladys beat in the Spiritual Compatibility department and it’s not even close! 

#21. Martin Cummins & Robin Givens (Riverdale Pairing: Tierra; Total Biorhythm Compatibility Rating: 44%; Total Biorhythm Spiritual Compatibility: 09%)

Finally at #21 and the couple with the WORST Spiritual Compatibility Rating is Martin Cummins and Robin Givens who portray the fictional couple Tierra. They earned a ghastly 09% Spiritual Compatibility Rating and they are tied with Skeet Ulrich and Gina Gershon (who portray Fladys) with this score. The reason why Fladys is ranked higher than Tomerra is because on my primary Biorhythm Compatibility rankings, Tomerra has a much lower rating than Fladys does and they were therefore ranked significantly lowers on the list than Fladys. Fladys has a 72% Biorhythm Compatibility Rating while Tomerra only has a 44% Biorhythm Compatibility Rating. When it comes to Martin and Robin’s individual categories on their primary test, they were as follows: 20% Physical Compatibility, 71% Emotional Compatibility, and 42% Intellectual Compatibility. Physically, Martin and Robin don’t have good chemistry at all. They can’t provide hot, sexy and passionate on screen chemistry that they would need during those sexual scenes. However, despite the serious lack of Physical Compatibility, Martin and Robin do manage to do very well on an Emotional Compatibility basis. Here, they have a 71% Emotional Compatibility rating meaning that while they don’t connect very well physically or sexually, they have a great connection emotionally. This can be viewed as a positive in their favour because then they would be portrayed as more than just the sexual couple. They have an emotional connection and through Tomerra, Martin and Robin would be able to convey that. Their Intellectual Rating isn’t strong either, only being 42%. They wouldn’t have a strong intellectual or mental connection and they may not always get along mentally. They likely wouldn’t have the best communicative skills with each other which is what this rating suggests. How does Martin and Robin’s low Spiritual Compatibility rating in any way comparable to their on screen relationship of Tomerra. Well, simply put, it’s not. While Martin and Robin may not have a good spiritual compatibility, their characters of Tom and Sierra are certainly the opposite. Going by the flashbacks, Tom and Sierra have genuinely loved each other since high school. They gave up their love for each other after playing the dangerous game of G&G and after the Midnight Club had broken up. Their love was so selfless in nature that they were willing to give up their love and their relationship to keep each other safe and because they made a vow to each other to do so. They both married other people and created their own separate families. They eventually rekindled their spiritual love in the present and are now a happily married couple in bliss.  It appears as if Martin and Robin don;’t have much luck when it comes to compatibility as they have been in the bottom of the rankings in my ParentDale couples rankings and are now, once again, at the very bottom of my Spiritual Compatibility rankings. It’s a shame. I like Tomerra and they are one of the few interracial couples on this show. I just wish that they had better ratings than they have. 

That’s it for my Biorhythm Compatibility and Chemistry Rankings for Riverdale! I’ll be doing these rankings for Game Of Thrones, The Vampire Diaries, Smallville, and possibly One Tree Hill couples in the near future. Until next time!  ✌️🤘

[siverwrites]

Chocobox Letter 2019

AO3 - Siver

Thank you dear author and thank you for taking one of these up! Anything listed here is ideas and general prompts. Some mix of things or something else inspired from anything I talk about here is great. If you have another idea entirely, cool! I hope something here is fun for you.

I have several possible requests and while some are longer than others they are all equally welcome!

All requests are fic or art. Art: Interactions of some sort: emoting at each other, talking, sharing some activity, taking a walk, hugs are always welcome, whatever suits the pair/group!

Likes: fluff, hurt/comfort, comfort, missing scenes, friendships, long-term friendships, close relationships of any sort whether romantic or platonic, found family, sickfic, AUs, fandom crossovers or fusions, angst with a happy end, bonding, cuddling/hugs/holding, mutual care and support, emotional bonding, pre-canon, post-canon, reuniting

DNW: NSFW, non-con, dub-con, unrequested ships, angst without a happy ending, infidelity, gore

Dragon Quest XI

Sylvando & Hendrik

Sylvando & Serena

General Note: I haven't finished the post-game stuff yet, so unless otherwise noted please keep to the main game timeline; stuff post-final boss but before going back is good too! Thank you!

Missing scenes are always great. All those campfires are ripe for interactions. Other characters are welcome to make appearances if desired.

Sylvando & Hendrik: I'm interested in interactions between them in main-game time or just post with their shared backgrounds in mind. I love their contrast--Sylv's flamboyance and Hendrik's stoicism... until he gets flustered. More interaction during game is always welcome! Campfires, traveling shenanigans. Or maybe something in Puerto Valor while the party is there? Any other town is ripe for opportunity as well.

Could talk backgrounds, what Sylvando was doing after he left. Hendrik’s experiences in Heliodor. Or if you want to go on some kind of comfort route maybe something to do with Hendrik having been used by Mordegan against the Luminary or Jasper’s betrayal?

My one rule break on post-game: could also do something related to their Chivalry and Don Rodrigo sending them on that quest. Something during or after it.

Serena & Sylvando: Serena had a tough time after the tree fell, but who better to do some cheering up than the knight in smiling armour himself? Campfire spots are a great opportunity or something in one of the towns. We don’t see these two interact much, so anything would be great.

Ghost Trick

Cabanela/Jowd 

Alma/Cabanela/Jowd 

Jowd/Alma & Cabanela 

Cabanela & Jowd 

Cabanela & Pigeon Man 

Alma/Jowd 

Alma & Cabanela 

Sissel & Alma 

Jowd & Pigeon Man 

Jowd & Sissel 

Cabanela & Sissel

I love this game and these characters ever so much. I’ve also been having a great time with AUs, crossovers and fandom fusions. Anything from my Yuletide Letter is still game as well as anything listed here!

Cabanela/Jowd: No infidelity please. So, this could be a no-reset scenario, something during the game events--ch.9 and ch.15 stuff is always great. Or on a less angsty route, it is the ot3 or some kind of happy V. but Alma’s simply not involved if they’re at work, she’s at work, or a trip or she’s on a trip, etc, so the focus is on their end.  Fluff, bonding, banter, travel, domestic stuff, on-the-job antics either at the station or out on a case.

Alma/Cabanela/Jowd: Post-game. All the polyamory fluff! Domestic fluff, travel fluff, vacation fluff, road trip, picnics, beach trips, train trip? etc. Go for a date whatever a date might entail for these three. Hugs, snuggles, and love.

Jowd/Alma & Cabanela: The platonic route of the above on Cabanela’s front. As long as they’re close in some way I’m happy. Found family galore! This couple and their stray greyhound.

Cabanela & Jowd: The closest of friends and work partners/rivals. In-game moments--post Ch.9 never gets old. Ch.15 stuff never gets old. Post-game. Coping with memories on Jowd’s front and repeated events. Prior knowledge of cases thanks to previous timeline during the first five years and either that’s a big hint or Cabs already knows and there’s something else to be done there. Or casefic. Day to day life. Friendship anything.

Cabanela & Pigeon Man: I love these two’s friendship. And snark. And banter. And equivalent willingness to believe the weirder explanations for things. Their joint goal for saving Jowd. Anything during the year they worked together is great. Anything post-game is full of great potential. Meeting again. Figuring out how a friendship would work without Jowd in peril.

Alma/Jowd: Marriage fluff, domestic fluff, or pre-game how they got together, what did it look like for Jowd and someone interested in Jowd to get together? Their own brand of ‘courtship’. One sided flirting on Alma’s part? Nothing of the sort and they made their own ways? Wedding proposals? Who proposed to who and how?

Alma & Cabanela: All the close friendship. Early days, future days, banter, a day on the town shopping, out having a ball dancing? Some other activity entirely? Story sharing, hobby sharing that one of the two just can’t quite get? Anything fun goes!

Sissel & Alma: Cat bonding! I don’t have anything else to say really. Anything goes whether Alma knows the truth, finds out the truth, or doesn’t know yet. Cute fluff in all senses.

Jowd & Pigeon Man: Pre-game friendship when PM was still medical examiner. Post-game friendship. Pre-game Jowd leaving his coat with PM. Clearly they are important to each other but we don’t get to see much of anything with the two of them, so anything goes!

Jowd & Sissel: Post-game. The detective and his ghost cat and all the antics that might entail at work or at home. Their ability to communicate silently through the ghost world. Another anything goes.

Cabanela & Sissel: I just love what these two could get up to. Post-game working together either on actual job work, or some other thing--a surprise for someone in the family? Cabanela needing a helping paw with something (those ghost powers are useful!). Sissel needing height and a helping hand? (those ghost powers are limited, plus paws, plus lack of reading). Buddy times!

The Last Guardian

The Boy & Trico

Give me all the cat-dog-bird fluff/shenanigans/playfulness/warmth/coziness. Anything while they’re together. Barrel feeding, snuggle time, riding, flying. Sweet or silly (Trico has his moments for sure) or something else. I adore Trico. I adore the boy and Trico’s companionship.

Alternatively something in the future. The boy grown up reuniting with Trico. A flight with Trico. A temporary willing return to the nest. Meeting Trico babies!

Final Fantasy X

Auron & Braska & Jecht

Auron & Yuna

Auron & Kimahri Ronso

Auron & Lulu

Lulu & Yuna

First game only please

Missing scenes during game, scenes before, scenes post-game when returned to Besaid (Lulu and Yuna).

Auron & Braska & Jecht:  Always interested in past stuff with Braska, Auron and Jecht. How did friendships develop? What kind of trouble did this diverse trio get into? Or what were their thoughts on the summoner's sacrifice? What did Auron think before they got the truth? What did Jecht think as an outsider? What’s an event that happened during their pilgrimage of some importance or something minor that’s bound to happen while traveling? (always room for chocobo antics!)

Auron & Yuna: A quiet moment during the pilgrimage? This is Auron’s second pilgrimage--what might get talked about? Or what might Yuna ask about Braska or their pilgrimage? Does she have fears or insecurities of her own in relation to being Braska’s daughter? Just something with these two.

Auron & Kimahri Ronso: Kimahri and Auron friendship! Or Auron making the request for Kimahri to take Yuna to Besaid for him. Kimahri is more aware of Auron’s state. Good with anything for these two.

Auron & Lulu: This isn’t the first pilgrimage for either of them. I feel like they would have things to talk about in relation to their past pilgrimages, or things to talk about in relation to the shenanigans of this party. Tired Guardians.

Lulu & Yuna: Summoner and Guardian. Sister-like bonds. Moments during the game. Or events before the game as Yuna prepares for becoming the summoner? Or post-game with Lulu being there for Yuna? Or Yuna being there for Lulu over something pre, during main, or post? If post-game, nothing related to X-2 please, thank you!

Final Fantasy VI

Mog & Terra Branford

Terra Branford & Edgar Roni Figaro

Terra Branford & Celes Chere

Gogo & Cyan Garamonde

Scenes in game, during world of balance, world of ruin, or scenes after the game in a slowly recovering world?

Mog & Terra: A dancing moogle and a half Esper! Anything sweet/cute would be welcome for these two. A quiet moment to hang out? Or protecting each other? Mog dancing for Terra? Making something nice in the World of Ruin? Just ideas.

Terra & Edgar: I have a soft spot for some kind of friendship between these two. They both took on burdens of duty and while the whole world is more than a kingdom there’s still a point of connection there. Something at the castle? Or something while traveling? Terra being curious about the castle’s mechanics? Moving castle, who wouldn’t think that’s cool?

Terra & Celes: Former Empire people both of them, but one not by choice. The half esper and the magitek knight. Bonding, getting to know each other. Celes seeing the real Terra.

Gogo & Cyan: They’re both neat. Something involving the both of them is just a cool image. Gogo is neat, Gogo’s mimicry is neat. Cyan is cool though tragic. Something with Gogo’s mimicry perhaps, in combat. Not quite a lone samurai. Taking a quiet moment away from the party chaos? I only ask that Gogo’s identity is kept a mystery. (not picky about pronoun usage, I tend toward they/them)

The Legend of Heroes: Sora no Kiseki | Trails in the Sky

Estelle Bright & Anelace Elfead

Estelle Bright & Tita Russell

Olivier Reise Arnor & Cassius Bright

Olivier Reise Arnor & Mueller Vander

Olivier Reise Arnor/Mueller Vander

Anything in any of the three Sky games or something in between them. Missing scenes, scene extensions, travel along the roads, airship travel times, etc. Ample opportunity for anything in the Garden in 3rd.

Estelle & Anelace: Friends and friendly rivals. Some fun scene while they’re in Le Locle? Training? Sparring? Evening rest? Alternatively maybe they get a little time before Estelle sets off with Joshua post-SC? Or any moment during 3rd in the Garden.

Estelle & Tita: Sisters! Found family! Estelle caring for her while bemused by orbal talk. Any time during FC, SC, 3rd or anything in between is up for grabs. Cute fluff is great.

Olivier & Cassius: They worked together in secret in SC in preparation for Erebonia’s “help” (invasion). I’d be curious to see some kind of interaction between them during that. Mutual updates on the state of Erebonia after Cassius’s return and Olivier’s plans as they stood then maybe? Maybe a meeting before Olivier and Mueller go back to Erebonia? Just really interested in seeing something between these two.

Olivier & Mueller, Olivier/Mueller: Gen or romance slant. I’m good with either. I enjoy Mueller and Olivier's closeness and how they contrast each other. Olivier's more eccentric and flamboyant nature, but also his more serious side. And Mueller's regular exasperation with him, but also his care for him. Being there for each other. I’m fond of the little things like how Mueller always calls him Olivier even after his identity is revealed. Anything during Liberl travels, or in 3rd. I loved Olivier’s Star Door in 3rd, so something related to that would be cool too. Or their growing fondness for Liberl but knowing they have to get back to Erebonia. Or just some goofy town antics at some point before Olivier takes off without Mueller.

The Legend of Heroes: Sen no Kiseki | Trails of Cold Steel

DNWs: Spoilers for Sen 3 and 4, spoilers for Crossbell arc that aren't already spoiled by Sen 1 and 2

First two games are ripe for the picking, whether it’s stuff during field studies (where applicable), at Thors, in one of the towns, on the Courageous or in a town during CS2 etc.

Alfin Reise Arnor & Olivert Reise Arnor

Olivert Reise Arnor/Mueller Vander

Olivert Reise Arnor & Mueller Vander

Alisa Reinford & George Nome

Laura S. Arseid & Machias Regnitz

Towa Herschel & Sara Valestein

Towa Herschel & Emma Millstein

Towa Herschel & Rean Schwarzer

Alfin & Olivier: Alfin is truly Olivert’s half-sister. Something fun with them in Heimdallr before or during CS1. Reuniting on his return from Liberl? Music playing/singing. City strolling. Brother and sister times. Or a quiet talk by screen while she’s on the Courageous in CS2? They could probably both use each other’s company and reassurance.

Olivert & Mueller, Olivert/Mueller: Gen or romance slant. I’m good with either. I enjoy Mueller and Olivier's closeness and how they contrast each other. Olivier's more eccentric and flamboyant nature, but also his more serious side. And Mueller's regular exasperation with him, but also his care for him. Being there for each other. I’m fond of the little things like how Mueller always calls him Olivier even in Erebonia when Olivert’s identity is known and public. Heimdallr fun or trouble (Olivier...). Planning against Osborne. Look after a tired Olivert? Something during the civil war when they’re in the west?

Alisa & George: The techies of their respective groups! They have plenty to talk about with that alone, plus George being a former apprentice to Professor Schmidt while Alisa is a Reinford. Orbment talk, Valimar talk, orbal bike talk, Roer talk? Anything goes. Could be in the engineering building or maybe even over coffee in Trista. Let George into town sometimes!

Laura & Machias: They don’t get to interact much but with a rocky beginning and Laura being a noble and Machias’s views of nobles at first, they feel like an interesting pair for interactions. Laura’s no nonsense. Machias is easily flustered. Or something later when Machias has improved in his views. Something between them in a field study, at the academy, or a moment in CS2.

Towa & Sara: The ever helpful, maybe overly helpful sometimes student council president and... Sara. We know Towa helped with Class VII’s school packages and generally helped a lot with Class VII stuff. They’d see each other a lot but we don’t get to see them together much. Towa was also a former student of Sara’s as the prototype class vii, so they have a connection already from that as well.

Towa & Emma: The student council president and Class VII’s president. They’re another pair that would likely interact quite a bit, but we don’t get to see it. It’d be interesting to see something between them. (Celine is welcome too).

Towa & Rean: I’m fond of their friendship and their helping/looking out for each other. I enjoy their friendship. Anything could go whether it’s during the school year or the civil war. Fluffy or something more bittersweet with angst from the stuff they have to go through, particularly in Sen 2. Two souls who care for everyone else but aren’t so good at tending to their own needs. They can make up where the other is lacking. Head pats and lectures and shared coffee around.

Twin Peaks

Dale Cooper/Albert Rosenfield/Harry Truman

Albert Rosenfield/Harry Truman

Dale Cooper/Albert Rosenfield

Dale Cooper/Harry Truman

Tamara "Tammy" Preston & Albert Rosenfield

I'm not in deep with this fandom having only watched the original and return and unfamiliar with the supplemental stuff, however I enjoy these characters and relations. References to other stuff is fine too.

Dale/Albert/Harry, Albert/Harry, Dale/Albert, Dale/Harry: Listing these four groupings all together because my wants are basically the same for all three. Please give them some peace and warmth. Reconnecting? Already established? Something fluffy or something more serious. Albert snark required always. Hints of the surreal or supernatural are of course welcome here.

Tammy & Albert: I like their interactions. Experienced Blue Rose member and newer Blue Rose member. A conversation, a shared drink, in transit by car or flight. Searching, researching. Something with these two I’m not picky.

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The Celtic Cross Spread by TarotProphet

#1 – The first card presents the current condition the person the reading is about finds themselves in. What surrounds them and what is involved in the question they are facing? - Four of Cups: Regret, refusing offers, missed opportunities, stagnation, apathy, disillusion, focusing on the negative, self-absorption, depression, boredom, nostalgia, remorse, yearning, frustration, weariness, meditation, day-dreaming, fantasising. In a health context, the Four of Cups Tarot card can indicate that health issues have left you feeling depressed, weary or frustrated. You may be feeling sad about the restrictions your health woes are putting on you. Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t.

#2 – The second card is placed across the first card, facing to the left and is always read in an upright position. It shows what the core obstacle is that needs to be overcome, or what the thing is that’s holding the person back. If this is a positive card it may be fear or envy of the circumstances that are depicted that are holding the person back. - Two of Swords: Stalemate, truce, sitting on the fence, cross roads, difficult decisions, painful choices, stressful decisions, opposition, facing your fears, being torn between two relationships, divided loyalty, being caught in the middle, denial, blindness, inability to see the truth, avoidance, blocked emotions. In a health context, the Two of Swords indicates that blocked unexpressed emotions may be at the centre of any health issues or physical discomfort you are experiencing. Blocked emotions or holding on to anxiety or resentment can affect the heart chakra leading to physical problems related to the heart, lungs or back among others. If you are experiencing issues with these areas, as well as seeking appropriate care from a medical professional, you should also consider what steps you can to take to release the emotions blocking that area.  

#3 – The third card reveals subconscious influences. What does the subject of the reading truly desire? These unknown influences have a powerful effect on a person’s everyday life, especially in situations relating to the question. - Ten of Wands Reversed: Insurmountable problems, flogging a dead horse, duty-bound, resigned to fate, too much responsibility/ stress, cross too heavy to bear, collapse, breakdown, no stamina, not up to the challenge, working hard but getting nowhere, learning to say no, off-loading, dumping, shirking duties/responsibilities, letting go. In a health Tarot reading, the Ten of Wands reversed indicates that you may be lessening the stress or burdens that were having a negative impact on your health which should see your symptoms improve. However, on the flip side it can be an indication that you have ignored these warning signs too much and are headed for a collapse or serious illness. Again if this applies to you, you must make yourself a priority!! It can also represent your body succumbing to an illness.

NOTE: If the second card shows a positive condition and the third card shows a negative condition the person the reading is about is creating a negative outcome for themselves because they believe they are not good enough to get the positive outcome shown by the second card.

#4 – The fourth card shows what tools the person has at their disposal and what they can use to overcome the obstacle indicated by the second card to reach their ultimate goal, shown by the third card. - Two of Cups: Partnership, unity, love, compatibility, happy couples, potential soulmates, relationships, harmony, balance, equality, attraction, connection, proposals, engagements, marriage, mutual respect. In a health context, if you have been suffering from health problems, the Two of Cups is a good omen indicating that things should be coming back into balance very soon.

NOTE: The fourth card can show negative aspects, but they can be used to achieve the overall goal indicated by the third card. OR, if the second card is positive and the third and fourth cards are negative the person is using what is indicated by the fourth card to create the negative outcome they subconsciously desire.

#5 – The fifth card shows the past of the situation. What past events or issues are presently bugging the person? A negative past may harm their current condition and they will need to let go of it to stop it from influencing their current condition negatively so they can overcome the obstacle indicated by the second card. A positive past should be acknowledged as inspiration. Even though the person may be facing a problem at the moment the obstacle they face is a natural progression and evolution of the positive past they had the pleasure of experiencing and once they overcome the situation things will be even better than in the past. - Six of Wands: Success, victory, winning, having the advantage, triumph, achievement, praise, acclaim, awards, recognition, applause, goodwill, fame, celebrity, fans, well-wishers, supporters, crowds, being in the spotlight, riding high, being a leader, stability, strength, confidence, self-esteem, pride, sharing your victories, campaign trail. In a health Tarot reading, the Six of Wands can indicate good health or victory over a disease or success in battling an illness so it is a very good omen to receive if you have been ill.

#6 – The sixth card is the headlight. Where is the person heading? What path are they following? If the card says there is a negative energy on the way the five previous cards should give a good indication of why this is coming and what can be done to avoid this condition from arising by redirecting the person’s life to a better track. - King of Cups Reversed: Emotionally immature male, overly emotional, overwhelmed, anxious, uncaring, unkind, gullible, depressed, cold, repressed, withdrawn, moody, unbalanced, controlling, rape, violence, deviance, manipulation, affair with married man, cheater, conman, blocked creativity, ruthlessness. In a health reading, the King of Cups reversed can indicate alcohol or drug abuse issues as the emotionally overwhelmed King turns to vices as a coping mechanism. It is generally an indication that something in your lifestyle or environment is negatively affecting your health and well-being. You need to take responsibility for your choices and make healthier choices to improve your health.

#7 – The seventh card represents the person’s attitude. It represents your actions, thoughts, and ideas regarding the issue at hand. This will give you insight into whether the person’s attitude is conducive to a desirable outcome or whether it’s time to change the way they perceive the situation. - The Hermit: Spiritual enlightenment, soul searching, self-reflection, introspection, contemplation, inner guidance, solitude.  The Hermit in a health context indicates overdoing things may lead to health issues. If you find that you’re rushed off your feet, never having a minute to take a breath, The Hermit suggests that if you don’t make time for yourself to rest and reboot your health may suffer. Take a break. Even taking a few minutes every day to meditate or just clear your mind and connect with how your body is feeling would benefit your health at this time.

#8 – The eighth card is an energy card. What kind of energy do is the person getting from the people surrounding them and their environment? Are the energies helpful? Or is it time for a change of scenery? - Five of Wands: Conflict, fighting, arguments, rows, disagreements, struggle, opposition, battles, aggression, temper, clashing personalities/egos, strikes, chaos, unruliness, being defensive/ territorial, assertive, pent up energy/aggression,  lack of control/ cooperation, frustration, irritation, competition, adrenaline, sports, being rough, petty. In a health Tarot reading, the Five of Wands can represent battling with or successfully fighting off an illness. It can also be an indication that you need reduce your adrenaline and stress levels or you may leave yourself prone to stress related illnesses such as high blood pressure.

#9 – The ninth card symbolizes what the person wants or fears. This is a revelation card. It signifies the things that they should know and be aware of in their current situation as it might influence the way the person is acting. Something they should never neglect. - Three of Wands Reversed: Returning travels, moving home, lack of foresight/ planning, holding on to the past, haunted by the past, lack of confidence, self-doubt, restriction, failure, disappointed with choices/outcome, frustration, clipped wings, lack of progress/ adventure/growth, failed long distance relationship, failed overseas trade/expansion. In a health Tarot reading, the Three of Wands reversed can represent contracting an illness while abroad so make sure you have travel insurance if you are going abroad and take proper precautions if you are travelling such as getting vaccinated and wearing mosquito repellent in high risk countries. It can also represent being unhappy with the speed at which your recovery from an illness is progressing, be patient with your body, it will come back to full strength in its own time.

#10 – Final card symbolizes the outcome. Based on the current energies, this will have a strong connection with the sixth card. What does it say? Are the energies complementing or conflicting with each other? The final card can also indicate whether the person can avoid the immediate future represented by the sixth card, or whether it is a necessary obstacle they need to face. - The Hierophant Reversed: Challenging tradition, unconventional lifestyles, unconventional relationships, reversed roles, non-conformity. If you are ill, The Hierophant in reverse indicates that now is a good time to try alternative or holistic therapies. It will benefit you greatly. Don’t be too rigid in sticking to your normal health or exercise routines. It’s time to shake things up, try things you wouldn’t normally try and step outside your comfort zone.  

5 Oct 2019 re mental & physical problems and body/mind issues

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Shadowhunters - Reflect - Rant

So… I randomly have the week semi-free (I work as an in-home nanny for 2 boys under the age of 10, think of it like an Au Pair but less french…and this week Dad is home) so I have all the time in the world for several days and I’m gonna share some thoughts… feel free to talk at me…

I want them to kill Valentine because fuck Valentine, but I don’t want to lose Alan because his scenes with Will are stellar.. Also, can we take a moment to praise Will for handling the role of Demon-Toast-Boy/Sebastian/Jonathan so fucking well. Honestly, give Will an Oscar, an Emmy, a SAG award, fuck just make him president. He’s earned it.

It’s nice that they’re not trying to force or rush the Simon/Izzy relationship that everyone expects via the books… They need time to develop because right now, it’s not romantic at all… they are just two people with common friends who have helped each other out in the past and they continue to support each other though some really shit times. It’s a relationship based on mutual understanding. Plus they enjoy each other. Simon clearly finds Izzy lovely and engaging and he already cares for Max… Izzy knows Simon is sweet, caring and smart, plus he makes her laugh. I think we will see a lot of Sizzy in s3 but I imagine it will take a least half a season to get to romance.

Speaking of which, I’m also pleasantly surprised that they aren’t diving right back into an intense, sexual relationship between Clary and Jace - I think the kiss at the Seelie Court sealed the deal for Jace but he realized that he has to give Clary time, like she gave him and frankly, there’s a lot of shit going on around Clary right now (that’s pretty much constant…really) but anyway, I like where they’re going and I like that it’s not just Clary jumping from Jace, to Simon, to Jace, to Sebastian (ewww stop that you, no. stop it. Bad demon. -#Hits Jonathan with a stick), to Jace - It’s Clary just dealing with life… and I get that.

I love that legit everyone is aware of Alec and Magnus’ relationship and they all support it. Shit most of the other characters knew they were in love before they even got close to saying it to each other… #everyoneshipsmalec #powercouple

I need Alec to figure out Sebastian can’t be trusted before anyone else does and before they’re told by Max…. let all the extra hours at work pay off (plus I think Seb/Johnny Boy is a little bit scared of Alec and he should be, that boy don’t play and if Alec ever found out that Seb/Johnny Boy was the reason for Azazel’s attack, and thus what happened to Magnus… well, like I said, our boy don’t play around. Ya feel me?)

Okay LOOK… This arc for Magnus and Alec is about perspective and perspective is one of the hardest parts of being in any relationship, whether you’ve been together a week, a month, a year or 50 years, sometimes people fuck up simply because of how they see a situation vs. how their partner will see it. This is also about Alec learning to prioritize Magnus and his relationship while still being Head of the New York institute and leading the Shadowhunters in what everyone acknowledges to be an open war against Valentine and his followers.

Magnus’ point of view on everything that’s going on is so vastly different from Alec’s that they are bound to have problems. They always knew this - they are very totally different worlds, different centuries - and Magnus’ past also includes many dealings with the Clave that ended in broken promises, empty words… and now he’s left to wonder, is Alec really so different from the rest?

This is my perspective on what happen

Upon finding out that the Soul Sword was not only missing, but the Clave has been lying about it since Valentine’s attack, Alec focuses his mind on locating it before the information gets out… Maybe he’s planning how to tell the downworld council as a way to avoid any bias? Maybe he wants to talk to the Clave personally, gather more information before causing another panic? 

In confidence, he tells the shadowhunters he trusts the most - Izzy, Jace and Clary - (Izzy makes it clear she thinks Alec should tell Magnus)

Magnus comes to Alec’s office that evening when he doesn’t turn up for dinner. They enjoy a nice meal together as Magnus explains his meeting with the Seelie Queen, all the while praising Alec for his honesty as the new Head of the Institute. Alec is clearly aware that he should say something, but the words don’t come… he never did have a way with words. Plus he doesn’t want to have to ask Magnus to keep the information quiet, because that wouldn’t be fair either… He’s essentially stuck between two shit choices and instead of making a choice, he has a nice lobster dinner with his boyfriend and enjoy’s their time together. Was it the right choice? No. Did he have a right choice? No. Should he have informed Magnus immediately upon finding out about the missing Soul Sword? Yes. From a relationship standpoint. Should he have shared state secrets against orders? No. But he should have told his boyfriend. Fuck. moving on…

Magnus returns home and Luke is there with a note from Cleo that Valentine has the Soul Sword… Magnus immediately assumes Alec doesn’t know but Luke isn’t so sure, and he’s right because Luke, of all people, knows how the shadowhunters work and Alec is HEAD OF THE FUCKING INSTITUTE now… My point is, Luke knows that for Magnus and Alec, it’s fucking complicated and I love that he’s trying to help them.

The argument between Magnus and Alec is so well done, #kudos. Alec is defensive because he doesn’t see Magnus’ point of view at all - Magnus is pissed, throwing cheap shots, questioning everything because fuck… and look, Alec clearly compartmentalizes his feelings against his duties, he always has. This is the same boy who almost married a girl he cared nothing about because of his sense of DUTY TO HIS FAMILY. Plus, He was raised with a lot of prejudice ideals about emotions and downworlders and shadowhunters and now… He is finally living the life he always wanted -he has his dream job and Magnus - and he’s trying not to fuck it up, of course he fails at that sometimes…  we’ve all been there, am I right? - Magnus, on the other hand, is experienced beyond comprehension. He’s been alive longer than many civilizations and he’s not about to take shit from anyone. Ever. But he fell in love with a Shadowhunter and he KNOWS what Shadowhunters are like. What they have always been like. The Shadowhunters are an elitist society. They used to hunt his kind for sport …  But Magus believes Alec is different… He truly trusted that Alec was different and he got knocked on his ass for it. I would have blown up something too… but probably not my liquor stash…

Fuck all this fight was always coming because they are from totally different worlds and #life. Also, Alec needs to pull his head out of his ass and prioritize his boyfriend before he loses the best thing that ever happened to him  

I see a lot of talk about racism in the fandom and my opinion on racism is that if you make shit about race you are the problem… also I am a ghost pale, freckled, ginger, bisexual woman, and I acknowledge that my point of view on racism is based on my parents/extended family being hardcore american southern racists and I never understood wtf their problem was at all. People all look different. Humans are all equal.End of discussion … So I’m just gonna put it out there that if you have a problem with Magnus that has anything do with the fact that he’s Asian because he was born in Indonesia to an Indonesian woman, but you don’t mind the whole thing were his father is a greater demon and literally one of the princes of hell… then you are the problem.

Okay so we have 3 episodes left and overall it’s shaping up to be a good season. I’m hoping the next 3 Mondays impress the hell out of me and we get a great season worth marathoning… I lost count of how many times I marathoned s1 (and yet I still almost always missed episode 13)

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Neria Idrilla Lavellan

Origins Parents: Radavur Lavellan [father], Idrilla Lavellan [nee Idrilla Sabrae] Siblings: Salshira [sister], Eirlin [brother] Neria Lavellan, the eldest child of the the stoic, serious Radavur and fiery Idrilla, was so much her mother’s daughter that when her magic first manifested at the age of five, she nearly destroyed an aravel with anger-fuelled flame. Though she was berated by her parents, her Keeper immediately took her under her wing. Keeper Deshanna taught Neria how to control her magic, and trained her well. At the age of sixteen, Neria was given her vallaslin, taking Ghila’nain’s to honor the goddess and to pay homage to her own love of animals. Clan Lavellan Neria was passionate and bold, like her mother, but that was tempered by her father’s rationality. She was always ready to act against injustices, but everything she did was tempered with logic. This meant that trading with the shems proved profitable for the clan, for she was always able to analyze a situation and act accordingly. During her first Arlathvhen at the age of eighteen, she received many offers for her hand, but spurned all of them. Neria was a romantic at heart, and wanted the close-bonded relationship her parents had and refused to settle for anything less.

The Conclave She wasn’t very happy about being sent to the Conclave, believing that she would be better able to help the clan if she was with them. She was also apprehensive about being discovered as a mage amidst all the templars. However Keeper Deshanna pressed upon her the importance of observing the Conclave, and told Neria that she was the only one who had the guile and resourcefulness needed to handle the many shems she would encounter. When put it to her that way, Neria could hardly refuse, and set out for the Temple of Sacred Ashes on her own.

Upon receiving the mark, she was terrified, believing she would be killed and her clan targeted as well. She did everything she could to ingratiate herself with the shems, not wanting to antagonize them for her clan’s sake. It was only when she was awarded the title of Inquisitor that she stepped up to the role and really took charge, letting her voice ring out loud and clear. Her title of First, and her Keeper training served her well as a leader.

Relationship with companions

Cassandra Pentaghast - she was always apprehensive of the Seeker, not understanding why the woman insisted on imposing Andraste and the Maker on her. Neria was also oftentimes angry at Cassandra, especially when it came to religion. However she could not deny that Cassandra was honest and had a good heart. The two eventually found common ground over Varric’s novels, eventually going on to form a secret ‘Swords and Shields’ reading club [they met every Thursday in Neria’s room, along with tea and ginger-pear cookies, which the two women greatly enjoyed]. By the end, they were very close friends.

Iron Bull - Neria initially had reservations about the Iron Bull, especially because of his connection to the Qunari [she’d heard of what had happened in Kirkwall, and was wary of another Qunari attack]. As a result, she never really trusted a deal with the Qunari, and refused to sacrifice the Chargers, believing them to be better people than the Qunari ever could be. Though Bull was angry with her for his Tal Vashoth status, and they had a very nasty argument over it which came to blows, the two eventually reconciled and, with Neria as one of his closest friends, Bull eventually came to understand the true meaning of family.

Blackwall - she got along well with Blackwall, having a great respect for the Grey Wardens; however after his revelation, she was disheartened and lost a great deal of trust in him. However, conversations with Sera made her realize that he was a man who made a mistake and had tried to spend his life repenting and trying to make up for it, and so chose to forgive him, bidding him to live his life as Thom Rainier. T

Vivienne - Neria was only barely civil to Madame de Fer, the two women butting heads on more than one occasion. Despite her dislike of Vivienne, Neria acknowledged that the older woman was a mage of great talent, and eventually the two women forged a unlikely friendship over magic. Vivienne came to care for Neria a great deal, the Iron Lady impressed with the Inquisitor’s level-headedness.

Solas - at the beginning, she butted heads often with the elven apostate. She did not understand his dislike for the Dalish, and fought with him incessantly over the matter. However she couldn’t deny how knowledgeable he was, and they forged a tentative friendship over their mutual desire to learn more. Their friendship eventually blossomed into something deeper, and finally Neria knew she had met the man she could truly form a close bond with. She was deeply saddened when she was unable to save his spirit friend, and her anger at the mages who had bound the spirit so cruelly caused her to still her tongue when Solas attacked and killed them.

Dorian Pavus - she viewed Dorian with a great deal of suspicion at the start, because he was from Tevinter, and seemed to be unapologetic about slavery. They argued very often, and very loudly, but after their ordeal in the red-lyrium future the two grew closer, and Dorian eventually became one of her very best friends [on one occasion he froze the pants of a noble who was behaving very inappropriately towards her]. He was also her biggest supporter when she was trying to deal with the heartbreak Solas had bestowed upon her.

Varric Tethras - the dwarf from Kirkwall was very often her link to sanity. Varric taught her all the shem card games, and he always seemed to know when she was down - and found a way to cheer her up every time. He called her ‘Rosey’ not only because of the perpetual red flush on the tips of her ears, but also because he claimed she was “as pretty as a rose, but had some nasty thorns”.

Sera - The two women were as opposite in nature as could be. Neria was staunchly Dalish, and Sera eschewed anything remotely ‘elfy’. The two of them argued at the beginning, then avoided each other, but after her actions at Haven when Neria volunteered to sacrifice herself to save the others, Sera softened up. They became civil, and strangely Neria could understand Sera’s views on elven tradition, even if she didn’t fully agree with them. The two of them eventually went on to become the unlikeliest of friends, though it was greatly tested after the events at the Temple of Mythal. Still, they pulled through, and Sera was with her when they brought down Corypheus once and for all.

Cole - Neria wasn’t sure what to make of Cole, but she trusted Solas and readily accepted him. She eventually grew very fond of him and unofficially adopted him, refusing to let any of the others talk ill of her. When the time came for her to make a choice, it was with a heavy heart that she followed Solas’ advice and returned him to his spirit form. However, she always secretly believed Cole deserved to be truly human, and to experience everything that came with it.

Romance Neria’s friendship with the elven apostate turned into something deeper. Their relationship was the kind where each knew what the other was thinking without having to voice it. They were always found together; Solas accompanied Neria on all her excursions, and even at Skyhold, though Neria was kept busy with her duties, the evenings and nights she would spend with her love. They were two opposites that formed a perfect whole - she was fire, and he was ice. They were both rational, passionate individuals who valued knowledge a great deal. When Solas took her to Crestwood, she believed it was because he wanted to further deepen their commitment to one another. But when broke up with her instead, Neria was utterly devastated and inconsolable. She thought it was because she’d refused to let him take her vallaslin, and once back at Skyhold, in a moment of weakness, asked him to take it away from her if it meant he would come back to her. She lost her appetite and wasted away, and it was only through Vivienne’s intervention that she was able to channel her grief into anger, and took up dragon hunting instead. She knew Solas disapproved of herself throwing herself into danger that way, but she didn’t care - rather she enjoyed the activity further knowing that it annoyed him. 

Major decisions Mages or Templars - Approached the Mages and allied with them because she sympathized with their plight, and distrusted the Templars [and did she have some words with Vivienne over this or what]. Hawke or Stroud - Left Stroud in the Fade. She knew Varric had a great affection for Hawke, and she couldn’t sacrifice his friend. She also had a soft spot for Marian Hawke, the two women sharing a similar sense of humor. Grey Wardens - Chose to ally with the Wardens, knowing that for all their idiotic actions they were Thedas’ best chance against a Blight. Halamshiral - Reunited Empress Celene and Briala, rejoicing when Briala was appointed Marquise of the Dales. On Solas’ advice, she went with Leliana’s suggestion to recruit the former Grand Duchess, though she personally believed that Florianne deserved to be executed. Temple of Mythal - She completed every ritual with a great deal of faith, and would’ve spent longer in the temple if it wasn’t for the threat of Corypheus. She was incredulous when she first encountered Abelas, and felt honored to be able to ally with them [although she later came to learn, much to her anger, that the Sentinels did not consider her people their own. She had some choice words for Abelas]. She drank from the Well of Sorrows, believing it to be her right. 

Divine - Leliana was nominated Divine, which pleased Neria a great deal. She believed that the softened spymaster was the best leader for the controversial Chantry, preaching a message of love, inclusion and tolerance.

Trespasser The Exalted Council angered Neria a great deal, to know that the shems were so ready to forget about all the blood she had shed for them. Her friendship with Bull meant that he laughed at the Viddasala’s orders. She chose to free Ataashi, angered at how the Qunari had treated the majestic creature. When she met Solas, he shattered all her faith and her belief in her religion, and disheartened, she asked to join him. He broke her heart again when he refused to let her accompany him, and again when she understood that he’d known all along that the Anchor would kill her, but he’d done nothing for two years. She understood what he wanted to do, and knew, in the way only a soul mate could, that walking the dinan’shiral would destroy him. She knew she loved him too much to let him to that to himself, and so swore to him that their love would endure, and that she would find him another, less violent, path. Neria disbanded the Inquisition, considering its purpose completed, and wanting to devote all her time to tracking Solas down.

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2 page paper.Week 1 – What Am I Called to Do and Who Am I Called to Be?This assignment is the first in a series of assignments that will result in your final Personal Leadership Statement due in Week 4. This week, you will express an intentional and informed understanding of your leadership values and your calling.Kleinhans (2005) stated, “If vocation is God’s call, there are too many Christians who expect that call to be difficult to understand. It is not uncommon to hear the assertion that ‘God has a personal plan for my life’” (p. 401). Kleinhans offered a different perspective suggesting that God is already at work in your everyday life. Thus, your calling is found within the scope of what you do, be it a secular job or other.After reading the article, The Work of a Christian: Vocation in Lutheran Perspective (Kleinhans, 2005), to inform your understanding of calling/vocation, and completing the Individual Core Values Identification (Concordia University – Portland, n.d.-a), write a 2-page paper to address the following:Support your statements with evidence from the required studies and your research. Cite and reference your sources in APA style. I wrote something for class that might help with this assignment which is the individual core value identificationI will attach article.ValuesCOLLAPSETop of FormCore values can be explained as the principles that guide an individual’s primary conduct as well as it’s the relationship with the others. During my coursework, I have studied and completed the Individual Core Values Identification (Concordia University, Portland, Oregon) and among the core values that were presented, the following are the five top values that resonates within me: I also strongly believe these values are important qualities that a great leader should have.CreativityCreativity is inspired by passion and urge of exploring and figuring ways to perform better through creative use of new materials, information or innovation leading to incremental improvements in one’s areas of study, career or work. As an artist and one who loves to think outside the box, I have used my creativity skills while performing my duties as a substitute teacher to assist my students to learn and understand instruction materials and also what is around them. I consider myself very fortunate to work with young students who are not only eager and curious but also motivated to learn new things. Since my goal is to assist every student to be an achiever. I want to assist students to set exceed their own standards by constantly raising their bar themselves. I, therefore, strive to develop a good working relationship with each student in order to be able to guide them in studying in those artistic areas they choose and like best as individuals. I have used creativity in incorporating technology and encourage hands-on lessons. I also try as much as I possible to encourage the student to be cooperative in order to improve our ways of engagement so that they can easily understand what they have been taught. I have seen it is necessary to introduce reflective activities as a way and means of providing students with an opportunity to absorb information more easily and deeply. Today’s generation of students rely on and love technology very much and so my making use what they love most and incorporate it as a part of classroom activity is more than welcome by most of them. Finally, it is important that a leader of any group be creative. My artistic creative qualities and passion of using collective imagination to develop an effective solution to the evolving challenges posed by the environment have been assisted me very much in my work as a teacher.Creative imagination is more likely to spark ideas that can become innovation. according to Ladin Nikravan article “Why Creativity is the most important Leadership Quality” (Nikravan, 2012).DiversityDiversity is a broad group made of different demographic, ethnicity, class, gender, physical ability/quality, race, sexual orientation, religion, gender expressions, educational background, geographical location, income, marital status, parental status, and work experiences. (Williams, 2015). It does not matter where one goes, one is bound to always encounter people who are different from us. Taking of all these differences in a positive way, understanding of each other and moving beyond simple tolerance to embracing and welcoming these differences contained within each individual is the main feature of diversity and what makes the United States of America a strong and most powerful nation on earth today.With that said, on my part as an individual, I believe that understanding diversity is an import aspect of been an effective as a teacher and as a leader. Born in and growing up in Africa, coming to and USA and becoming a US naturalized citizen and also traveling to and living in Thailand (in Asia) for more than five years has enabled me to be more open-minded, accept, welcome and respect differences in culture, languages, customs, thoughts, and communicating with others. When I was working hospital as a nurse and attending patients from different backgrounds and now currently teaching different students, I always try to become more aware of student’s cultural background in order to be effective instead of assumption. Due to my background, I find it extremely important to support and protect my student’s diversity by valuing each individual because by valuing individuals it frees them from prejudice and encourages mutual respect. Any time I go to a new class, I initially engage in discussions with my student so I can learn more about them and I also try to extend interaction beyond the classroom with student parents and community. It’s the responsibility of a teacher to recognize and structure plans based on individuals so that a student can find it easy to succeed. Therefore, I recognize that my understanding of diversity assists me in encouraging individual students to recognize who they are and others as well. This also helps when leaders need individuals to work as a team and as an education leader who recognizes this helps in appreciation of a diverse school population. It also brings a connection between cultural heritage within a single school culture. To me recognizing and acknowledging our difference is part of treating students fairly and equally.Encouraging others- Encouraging others is essential to value. As a teacher I have a mindset in which I believe all students can learn and do better. I use positive affirmation as well as positive criticism with my students and outside of school. Using this strategy has helped me create a threat-free environment in where students feel safe and supported rather than laying out the consequences of not doing things. I also allow my students to get involved in the classroom by assigning them tasks or responsibility. For example, I will ask one student to help me tidy up the classroom and I would ask other students to help me pass out work material. Encouraging students to have a sense of ownership and encouraging them to do good in class encourages participation. An Educational leader should believe and have trust with his students by recognizing their strengths allow his or her students to make decisions, and giving them more responsibilities.Humility Humility means “the state of being humble. I believe humility is the most vital value that a leader can have. It’s important to be humble because it helps build trust. My parents always taught me the importance of been humble. Leaders who are successful, exhibit humility. An arrogant leader treats conversation as a personal attack and by doing so, he effectively ends any real discussion of the topic and blocks any opportunity to learn or grow. Love for others- It’s no brainer. It’s important to love others and respect them. If you do not have compassion and love for others it will be difficult to be a teacher and a leader. I love what I do and I love children. This exhibits in my personality.

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Provide your criteria (gender, age, location, sexual orientation, interests, etc.), and search for dates and partners on your own as well as receive them from Match. The Guardian. Retrieved 2010-12-08.. The most appealing kind of email to send is friendly, funny and flattering. Rather than jumping into a new relationship to avoid being alone, give yourself a chance to explore life on your own terms. There’s the terrifying possibility one of your friends or co-workers will stumble upon your profile and see who you present as romantically. (Or if you’re me, the chance your younger sister will stumble upon your profile when you’re home for the holidays.) That’s why you see so many people essentially give up and put “lol I’m not good at writing dating bios” where their witty personal statement should be. Zoosk has a totally free, extremely comprehensive membership that anyone can sign up for and that will give you the opportunity to try out the entire app before whipping out your wallet. Me being 50 I won’t settle for the chase if it isn’t mutual it’s one sided.you not only have to be emotionally ready but time ready as well to make anything work. You. Get out what you put in and if you can’t put in your time it’s toast. The principal modern radiocarbon standard is N.I.S.T (National Institute of Standards and Technology. I gave him a book on a topic he’s expressed interest in several times, he thanked me and gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. CONS One of the biggest drawbacks could be that users cannot themselves search and browse for matches.

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The feminists are going to hate me on this one, but I think “I am woman, hear me roar” has done us a disservice in the dating department. That’s because talking on the phone can serve as a gut-check, giving you a blind glimpse into her personality before wasting your time, money, spirit or heart on a date that is bound to go sour. “If you have met someone on a dating app, the usual protocol is to first text and then talk on the phone before asking someone on a date. In addition to the detrimental effects of upholding limited views of relationships and sexual and romantic desires, stereotypes also lead to framing social problems in a problematic way. While Match has reams of cards and thank-you notes hung around its headquarters for every wedding and child it helped create, it also hears from plenty of users who have had bad dates and blame the company. “Part of dating is the up and down,” she says. “We live with all that psychology, and they’ll have to, too. I have thick hair, I usually get it cut very short, then let it grow out for months, then go short again--and he's a master at cutting my hair into different short styles that grow out super well with minimum styling effort on my part. I will be honest I don't get how it's more chillax or cautious to not call himself your boyfriend but what's important is that what you have makes you happy, not how you label it. The goal of an email is to get her to read the whole thing and want to reply with something other than “I’m going to have my big bad bouncer friend come over to your house an smash your face in you piece of crap!”.

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The somehow arrives in the form of a contest--the grand prize: a date with Tad Hamilton--and the someday is now. The question is whether these gentlemen will be satisfied to wait for a hypothetical conversation early if the influx of female profiles will be enough to get them to use the application. What's not: Not everyone is super-active on Facebook, so you might not be able to see what your friends are up to. I haven’t had any major problems with the app, but I have met some pretty cool people, so don’t sleep on bumble ya’ll. I worry that if I don’t change how I feel when he does decide to date I won’t be able to stay his friend and I will loose him. To put it in perspective, I’m so quiet and shy I have no one to explain this too other than this thread of replies that someone may or may not read. That night at the bar resembled one of those “roundtable” discussions you see on an American Sunday morning political show such as Meet The Press.

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Now that they are heading to different colleges, they are going to share a memorable goodbye kiss. Th. Valentine's Day Slacking 2014 Sarah and her handsome husband, Tim, are preparing to enjoy a romantic date at a fancy restaurant to celebrate their love for Valentine's Day. Just 3-4 to put in my purse or in my pocket and refer to when we start looking like that elderly couple in the restaurant that remains in silence throughout the meal. This ties in with the shift towards spending less time on the internet and quickly moving to real world interactions. But Western publishers are still apprehensive because of past failures and the large up-front script translation cost with an unsure audience. Salsa Lessons This happy couple has always wanted to go salsa dancing, but they've never been able to find the time. As others have said the best you could hope for is to get fired and if it cost them the client the firm might even sue you. We are involved in the process of long distance matchmaking and we will use a variety of methods to facilitate that end.

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The Twin Flame Dynamic: More than Meets the Eye. Via Gerry Ellen on Oct 23, 2013 1 Shares Photo: James Nagy on Pixoto. get elephant's newsletter This isn’t just any typical relationship I have been privy to in my life. The last time I wrote about the twin flame relationship and if it was truly an honest occurrence in our lifetime, I mentioned that the likelihood of this meeting was rare and special and required gentle kid gloves. I wasn’t even so sure that the man in my life at that moment was “the one,” as we were going through the initial phases of any partnership. History shows that any twin flame relationship is bound to be the most difficult, as the partners have been incarnating over vast lifetimes to get to the point where they meet and reconnect. This is no easy ride, as I am poised to tell you. If anything, it is a roller coaster of every damn emotion and nuance that the “normal” relationship doesn’t offer. As I write this, the sun is streaming down on my face (one of my favorite inspirational feelings), I have classical music softly playing in the background (another favorite), and my man is soundly asleep for another few hours. We are in phase three of this twin flame relationship: the dance. The “dance” phase is where we are continuing to dig up emotional stuff, but we are doing it together, in each other’s presence, no longer alone. The alone time for our past karma is up. All the work now is in union, and that includes the arguments, the disagreements, the making up, the cleansing. We are deeply embedded in our merging for the purposes of spiritual bliss together. Our energies during this reality is both humbling and frustrating, and I for one, am watching my own self progressing through this partnership, with imperfection and humanness. The initial phases seemed effortless and romantic and full of more bliss than I could have ever imagined. Once the second phase hit, I thought “okay, this relationship is a bit more than what I have bargained for,” but I stuck with it, despite wanting to run a few times due to the intensity. The same can be said for my man. This dynamic requires so much work—the kind of work we signed up for in this lifetime. This twin flame relationship is exactly what I need, where I am in life, and who I am meant to share space and time under the fleeting stars, sun and moon. But, it isn’t a picnic at all. It is almost like a full time job, without the clock-punching and paycheck. The best aspect of this soulful dynamic is the rewards; not your typical every-day-gee-honey-aren’t-we-the-coolest rewards, but we are a witness to our every intention, act and result. We aren’t running or chasing any more. We are submerged and uncomfortable, and striving each and every day for the yin and yang. And when it doesn’t happen as we would like it to, we keep going. This isn’t just any typical relationship I have been privy to in my life. Being with this man is showing us our potentials as human beings to ascend together in spiritual bliss. We are in a deep cleansing process together. We still continue to wound each other, knowing full well that this is part of the dance of intimacy. But, the resolution we have far surpasses any ill-feelings toward the other person, as we continue with mutual respect and love. This twin flame dynamic always sounded so fairy-tale and completely unattainable to me. Years ago, I had asked for this, written about it, and never expected what is now occurring on the deepest level possible. Am I happy? Consciously, yes, more than happy. We both get frustrated and confused at the slightest offset to our paths. We run a bit. We chase a bit. We agree often. We disagree and concede that we have different views on life. I once read the book, a big fat book at that, by my favorite author Ernest Hemingway “For Whom the Bell Tolls”. This was a story about the protagonist who was in the republican army with the best of intentions for all involved. He meets a Spanish girl. During their brief course of interactions, they felt as if the earth had moved with their intense love-making. As he continued on his path out of duty to his fellow soldiers and man, she was taken away from him, and he felt as though he was finally operating from his heart versus his mind. Their liaison taught him about how fragile love is in the wake of turmoil, and his courage to protect. This book took me forever to read, yet any Hemingway book has a specific message that I resonate with on a deep level. I used to mimic Hemingway’s writing when I was in a creative writing class in college. For some reason, this author has always made a strong impression with me. This novel “For Whom the Bell Tolls”, as I found out through my own inner work, had a message for me. The message was how past lives are directly proportional to current sagas and relationships. I needed to read this large, relatively boring-ish book, to gain the message about my man and me. Strange as it sounds, these synchronicities appear when we least expect them. Throughout the years, with my own diligence in discovering more of what makes me tick and the underlying currents of my psyche, I found this Hemingway novel was placed on my path for a reason. Call me crazy, but I pay attention to this stuff. He and I are approaching the next phase of this twin flame dynamic. We are poised to continue the dance and take it to the happiest phase of all—where the world is our canvas, the sacred love and intimacy is enlightening, and we can move all of this energy invested to the outer world. Lots of deep breaths in this current phase, lots of deep breaths. I can’t sweep anything under the carpet any more. I can only welcome what is happening, as we have completely merged in a spiritual realm. More deep breaths. Want 15 free additional reads weekly, just our best? Get our weekly newsletter. 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She recently launched her own gig called *8 Paws Wellness with Gerry Ellen* which combines all of her passions (outdoors, yoga, strength, meditation, writing, dogs, fun!) Her first novel Ripple Effects was published in March 2012. As a regular contributor to elephant journal, Be You Media Group, Light Workers World, Meet Mindful, Tattooed Buddha and Rebelle Society, she also balances incredible friendships, heart-centered connections, and sharing her experiences of life and love. These are the things that matter to her most. Her second book A Big Piece of Driftwood, published in April 2014, is also available on Amazon.com. Become a member elephant journal Join the Community. See fewer ads. Support indie journalism. Sign up today and read as much Elephant as you like! Only $24 per year. Comments One Response to “The Twin Flame Dynamic: More than Meets the Eye.” @boho_things says: October 24, 2015 at 22:23 Hi there Gerry, Thank you for an interesting post, however, I have found it has raised a few questions for me. I am hoping you can share your thoughts back. Firstly, How do you separate a physically connected, soulful relationship, that has toxic undertones such as an affair, etc? Do you work on this? How do you know if you are in a twin flame relationship if you are going through the honeymoon phase, the dance phase, to enter into a monotone phase. You work at it, but you still feel bored, although it was intensely beautiful at the beginning. Basically, what constitutes a twin flame relationship from an intense relationship that is not a twin flame? Cheers, Rusty

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Are You Co-Dependant and Do You Enable Others? Discover Why, Learn to Stop and Gain Life Balance.

ARE YOU CO-DEPENDENT AND DO YOU OTHERS that are ENABLE? Discover why, discover to stop and gain life balance.

“We are all here on earth to help others; what on the planet the others are here for I don’t know”. W.H. Auden

Can you sometimes feel as if you were put on earth to serve other people? Are you overly accommodating and find it difficult to say no? Are you drained from overdoing for others? You told that you sound like a martyr when you complain, are? If your answer is yes, you might wish to consider the possibly that you're an enabler.

Enablers are motivated by love and the need to be valued; qualities especially encouraged in females. An enabler is a person who through his or her action allows someone else to attain something. Most often the term enabling has been linked with alcoholism but it is perhaps not always the case. Enabling can have broader implications and include other forms of codependent behavior. Enabling is considered codependent because the work will often satisfy the have to help some body, but dependency that is simultaneously foster. Are you an enabler? Have you been in any co-dependent relationships? Have you ever wondered why?

If you are like most enablers, you were born with a generous heart and enjoy helping others. You might have been an older sibling or had parents that are non-available. It was necessary for you to step into the help and void out in your family. Your behavior became identified and you received re-enforcement that is positive your actions. You were helped by the recognition feel good about yourself and internalize the belief that your role in life was to help others. Eventually, your role became cemented into the operational system and people stopped appreciating your kind acts and came to expect them. This response would have caused you to develop a low self esteem because you experienced love as conditional and feel selfish when you were not doing enough for others. I once had a client who was such an enabler that whenever someone bought her a thank you gift for helping them out, she actually bought them a “small thank you gift” to thank them for the gift!

Enablers unconsciously believe that relationships can only be maintained by doing nice deeds and placating others. If you are an enabler, as a child you probably became motivated by a desire to be loved, learned to avoid conflict and give in to unrealistic demands. You learned that to challenge someone you care about might result in anger and rejection that is possible. In order to survive in this type of system, you began to ignore and over look problems because to address them or your feelings would be too risky. Unfortunately, this behavior exacerbates the loss of self because with each capitulation, you further disconnect from your feelings that are true minimize your sense of entitlement. Your behavior not only makes you appear more accommodating but it permits you to become prey to more people that are selfish. Suddenly you find your life filled with takers and there is no reciprocity in your relationships! You become increasingly upset because others’ do not tune into your needs, but then criticize yourself for being selfish or not acting in a manner that is loving.

If this been there as well, what can you are doing about it? The first step is to recognize that you are an enabler or have tendencies toward enabling. If so, admit it and make the decision to practice some new ways of relating to people. Begin to engage in solitary activities that bring you pleasure and satisfaction. This will help one to keep the focus on your needs and get in touch with exactly exactly how, when and where you want to do something. Give yourself some of the pampering on yourself instead of a loved one or friend that you usually give to others; spend time and money. State the affirmation that “I am as important as everyone else” and “I don't need to give in order to be loved”.

Commit to trying to find new healthier relationship as you pledge to change your old relationship patterns. Decide to become your person that is own the person others want you to be. Begin associating with people who have the ability to have a relationship that is mutual are accountable for their own behavior. Go slowly in a new relationship, and practice new behavior: abstain from rescuing people, stop over-functioning and graciously accept assistance when provided to you.

Are you tired of being the person who seems to are put on earth to help others? Do you sometimes feel unappreciated, used and exploited? If so, I invite you to explore the dynamics that are following solutions:

Ask yourself if the person is asking for your support and if your help is appropriate. Sometimes someone is simply looking for a listening ear. You tend to feel duty bound to fix the situation if you are an enabler, when a problem is presented. When someone comes to you with a problem, take a breath that is deep listen, then ask them “what do you need?” and “how would you like me to help you?” For years, I jumped in and offered my daughter lots of solutions when she came to me with a problem. This resulted in both of us feeling frustrated! I thought that she was not listening to my sage advice. It turns out, she just wanted to vent, knew she could solve her problem that is own and my advice as a vote of no confidence.

Sometimes an individual does approach you with a request that is specific assistance. In this case, you want to ask yourself if this is a reasonable request and consider if you have the time, energy or desire to assist them. While helping others can be seductive and feed your enabler’s “need to be needed”, you do not want to prevent another from learning life’s lessons. An example would be the parent who always brings her “forgetful” child’s homework to school or drives them to college when they miss the bus. Does this irresponsibility that is merely perpetuate? Would it better for the young child to have the consequences in school rather than as an adult? Is this well parent that is meaning the child from learning to take responsibility? It might be more helpful for the parent to support the child by compassionately&ldquo that is asking do you need to do about it?” or “what can you do in order to avoid it happening next time?” This offers support and compassion but puts the onus on the person and encourages personal responsibility.

Can you feel good about your participation? Enablers tend to feel utilized because they go too far with their help. While it stems from a generous heart, they will often over function and end up feeling exhausted, unappreciated and resentful. This is a full case where you would like to measure the “return on your investment” and estimate what benefit the person might receive from your assistance versus what it is costing you. Then step away and get some distance if you are unsure about whether you want to be of assistance, tell the supplicant that you will need to get back to them.

Additionally, you will want to consider your level that is current of energy. When your energy is low and you assist another, you may end up giving out of your reserve and become further depleted. In this case, everyone would be better served, for you to postpone your assistance until a time when your energy is higher and the service does not drain you if it is possible. You are able to be more attentive and generous with your assistance and feel good about the service when you give from a place of greater emotional energy.

Is the individual doing 50% or more of the work? Do you feel as if you're dragging the person up the hill? Are you doing the majority of the person’s work? If you are working harder than the person that you are trying to help, you are over-functioning. I have discovered that when I do cartwheels to try to get a client to do something for their “own good”, I am actually more invested in the outcome than my client. This has become a red flag for me to step back, take a breath and ask them what they want. Conversely, I have had experiences where I merely suggest something to a client, and they go off and make monumental changes because it the advice is in line with their desires.

As a psychotherapist, helping others is extremely seductive to me; I know that I have tendencies toward enabling. To counter my enabling, I always ask the client to share with me his/her goals for counseling. I keep their goals in mind and respect the person’s right to make his/her own choices; even though I do not agree with the alternative. I try perhaps not to give advice but in listening to their inner wisdom because ultimately they are the expert on themselves if I do, I try to give several possible solutions and assist them.

That you pay if you have a “need to be needed”, allow yourself to recognize this fact and explore the reasons that motivate you, as well as the price. Is it habit? Is it the real way you define yourself? Do you wish to continue over functioning? Whether you feel used and resentful as you begin to look at the benefit you get out of helping another, notice your reaction, the cost to you and. The next time you are tempted to “help” another, examine your intentions for doing so as you refrain from automatically offering help and advice that is giving. http://clashofclanscheats.us/ You are being treated unfairly or being taken advantage, speak up right away when you feel. Set limits, and say “no, this is not a time that is good talk” or “no I will not have the ability to aid you at this time” when you feel that another’s request or appeal would be too demanding for you. Trust yourself to understand what and need is wanted by you and make your feelings known as they are important. If some body has to be unhappy or do all the giving, it doesn’t always have to be you!.

“It never occurred to me that mainly because a deed was good in nature, and put before me, that I was not the one to fulfill it, even if I did have the talents to do so” The Gift of the Red Bird by Paula D’Arcy

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