#beck and i have been talking abt this a bit and i think it's important
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Once u learn to be critical of rhetoric that relies on associating [supposed bad thing] with some form of psychological and/or neurological "damage", u really notice just how prevalent it is on here. Everyone you don't like is delusional, they're insane, they have brain damage, they need to Check The Carbon Monoxide Detectors, they need to Get Help and Go To Therapy, [form of media and/or communication] is literally brain poison, they've had their attention spans destroyed, they're "small brain" or "smooth brain" or "brain dead" or whatever. So many people on here remain seemingly incapable of criticizing someone's actions or views without needing to insinuate that the "problem" is neurological, "in the brain", unchangeable, fundamental. I should not have to explain why it is insensitive, nonconstructive, and oftentimes straight-up ableist to tell someone that they must have "brain damage" because you got into an argument with them online.
#this is what i'm criticizing when i criticize how people on here talk abt tiktok btw. bc eeeeveryone likes to ignore that#i have never said that tiktok does not affect society. it is the specific language of 'brain poison' that i need to call out#open mick night#beck and i have been talking abt this a bit and i think it's important#so many discourses lately but particularly a lot of 'anti ai' posting seems to rely so heavily on the rhetorical employment of#'brain dead' or even that one post that called people who use chatgpt essays 'mentally slow'. and i cannot ignore that
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WASTELANDS | theories & rants compilation [part six]
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unfortunately iām unable to finish answering all theories/rants abt wastelands part six due to time restrictions, but iāve compiled them into one post so you guys can read before part seven comes up.
Anonymous said
No matter how much of a fucking bitch sophia is, i would honestly just stare at her face while she talks shit coz she pretty like that. I mean devonš„²š„²š„² (fuck u suna why did u get a pretty gf how am i suppose to resent her)
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Anonymous said
plot twist, what if suna and the others do leave the camp and ty to find y/n but sophia decided to stay bc she would rather stay than go after y/n but then she changes her mind and goes after them bc she loves suna but they donāt know that sheās following them. what if y/n and suna meet up near the end and before they could make up or do anything, sophia shoots y/n shocking everyone. it would be unexpected š§š¼āāļø
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Anonymous said
I really hope y/n took a moment to write a final letter to Rin to reiterate their last conversation like Iām just imagining, āI know you treasured these letters more than anything, so here is my final letter to you,ā After all the years of pining over Rin sheās finally letting him go and exposing the fact she wrote the letters, not even bringing up Sophia because she doesnāt matter to y/n and whats done is done. I think itād be important for y/n to bring up the fact she was the one who truly wrote the letters to get closure in a sense? To actually fully come to terms with everything and move on. Idk, this is just theorizing my thoughts about the situation and what I would possibly do if I was in her shoes.
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Anonymous said
The way Rin barely defended y/n when Sophia said she would leave her to die... bruh these two are acc inhuman... don fckn care if it's the apocalypse Haru is more human in his lil pinky than these two combined š can they just disappear from y/n's life, I desperately want her to heal but she cant when Rin's always there breathing down her neck and showing off their fckd up relationship in front of y/n. I'm GLAD she left and I'm glad she took the first step in healing by letting him go completely š wanna hug my bby to death
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Anonymous said
I'm sorry, he DIDNT expect her to breakdown after years of loving him and at the same time him pushing her away and basically shoving in her face the love and commitment he has for Sophia? Is he... is he right in the head or has some Z leaked an infection in him cuz that's utter bullshit. Did he rlly expect her to be at his beck and call knowing full well she likes him even tho he tries so hard to make it clear he loves Sophia. That's the most shittiest thing I have ever heard. Shes not some mindless being that will love you forever even tho you already have a significant other. That's disrespectful and just utterly selfish, yes it's post apocalypse, but hell Haru has more human in his lil pinky than this brat will ever have in his entire body. Every chapter I've just been more and more disappointed in Suna and the lil flicker of hope I have for redemption just keep getting smaller to the point where I just dont expect anything from him anymore. This guy is hopeless and a terrible person. So what it took you seeing her in the arms of another to finally start questioning those lingering feelings huh? MAKE UP UR DAMN MIND FOR CRYING OUT LOUD. ANSWER THIS ONE MORE TIME, SOPHIA OR HER?. why cant u stay with that shitty woman instead of pestering y/n all day, quit flaunting ur love life cuz we all know it's as fake as Sophia and that's what you chose so that's what you'll stay with, your perfect world chose you but you chose to persue that crusty ass until the end of time, u said so urself, youd die alongside Sophia, so just go ahead and anticipate death with her, thats what you said right? dont bother dirtying y/n's life anymore with ur fucked up mentality cuz she deserves to feel the least bit human again and be truly happy before the world decides to take her. Just fuck off Suna, just leave her to heal from now on rather than staying in her life and opening more wounds. I swear miss girl the second you open the character interviews everyone is in for the kill before those Zs get to them
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Anonymous said
This was probably the best direction that MC couldāve taken. Although Iām also guessing that Suna is going to go after her but thatās just a guess.
I hate that Sophia is being a huge asshole especially right now, during a fucking apocalypse. We might be gone but donāt come screaming at us if Suna runs after us š
Also I gotta say that I loved watching Haru and MCās PLATONIC relationship grow, it was pretty fun to read.
Suna being a selfish little shit was honestly kinda funny to read since of how he didnāt realize how much of a fucking hypocrite he was being, hilarious, right?
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Anonymous said
OMG OK SO I JUST READ THE UPDATE AND I HAVE A LOT OF THOUGHTS RND SKSJSKJSOS all in all i just want to say:
- im proud of yn but also VERY worried since the girl is still injured and sheās alone and will be travelling for hours like š¬ girl you better NOT DIE i swear
- thank you haru for being such a huge comfort in such a short time š„ŗ and the bonding from the seoul kids were also bery appreciated ily please stay safe bbs
- sighhhh suna i- ok you being jealous and accusing her of going after guys was VERY uncalled for lmao i aināt for that shit š but i do be feeling bad for you when sophia gave you a fuckin ultimatum sosksmoa i hate it when people do that bro that was just so off
- AND YOU MF S*PHIA i just canāt i mean i get that you practically hate y/n and shit but damn you aināt gotta let her die like that, esp not when y/n tried to help suna look for you in the first place bruh š have some mf compassion, youāre in an apocalypse. not even tsumu would do us like that bro, thatās just really low of you
my head is very empty after this chapter, im not quite sure what to expect but im guessing the turning point could be in the next chap??? canāt wait for more conflict and development hehehe
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@bakugousmrs said
Okay first and for most,Chap 6 isš©āš³šā¼ā¼
And now my rant,,, let's start with HARU my baby, when he saw Y/n he didn't waste any second and hugged her!! That's my shit right there!! Plus points Haru! And he didn't leave her throughout the Chap, talk about a Gentlemen,,
I kept stopping because the secondhand embarassment of Bokuto and Atsumu is something! Eugh!šBut I still love 'em! And that anon with the "dumb, dumber and dumbest" is brilliant!
When Alisa said 'Every second counts' or something like that yass ghOrLLlLL!!I felt that.
And I almost thought Y/n got bitten because when Y/n's showering I remembered her cleaning the 'dried blood' the zombies latched unto,, but she slept and 8 hours had past and we're good,, after the bath scene hurts like a bitch, tho Kita,Osamu, and Atsumu saved my pained heart!! And Sophia you big poopie meaniee! I hope your yt ads are unskippable (even tho it's the zombie apocalypseš„“)
And Rin,, As Y/n said HOW FUCKING DARE YOU.Glaring at her wowwww. Just wow, through out the whole conversation of Rin and Y/n is legit hurting me, poor baby Y/n,, I'm sorry Suna is a jerk, tho he has a big dic- I'm pleased Haru is there for her 'cause if not, boyyyy imma go die rn. And when he finally realize that Y/n is important it' too late! She left him. Altho I don't think she left, like left left,(my denial ass talking 'coz idontwant her to leave the camp yet) she just probably accompany Haru to get something outside the base or something, but Suna is like a mess after, and he had a fight with Sophia 'cause he misundestood Y/n left, and when she came back, her and Sophia will fight and then baam! moment of truth about the letters, Suna chasing Y/n, but Y/n is still not giving in because she bowed to look for Asher,,, but if she really left, I think they would go after her(probably) 'cause we are still halfway through,, all in all I love it!! Aughš©š©! And I think whatever the ending is, I'll love def love it, I've already experince your Happy and Sad endings, but we'll cross the bridge when we get there:))
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#epic thank you!!!! sorry this is so long, gang, but you know me. press J if you have that keyboard shortcut option
5)favorite fics?
soph nothingunrealisticās!! click the link & peruse any of the dozen gifts to this world on ao3. also just go right to her writing tag
17)a fandom you wish more people were in/you had more people to talk to about?
well i donāt Really have an answer for this one, but just yesterday it was once again time to talk abt how jaclyn moriartyās 4-book ashbury/brookfield YA series is a lot of fun and unusual in good ways, but like, i guess what with being published throughout the aughts and like, not being super obscure but also not being explosively popular, and idk maybe they were also more Known in australia than the US, and, idk, but thereās not exactly what youād call a Fandom online, or even very many traces of one. and i just like to mention the series as Fun To Read because they are very lively and focus on girls and have a real variety of Girl Characters (and also some boy characters who are also varied and fun but thatās just a bonus) and in particular i like to talk about how the third book has a really Unusual Choice Of Protagonist (the unfun unpopular Best Grades by-the-book overachiever etc etc etc nerd girl, kinda having the personality that ppl misinterpret alana beckās personality to be lol, like something of a killjoy goody-two-shoes lol, but also with that earnestness and drivenness that alana has as well)......and the format of each book is Epistolary, but in different and creative ways each time, and itās fun how like, the characters who are telling the story (the ones whose letters are used and etc) rotate with each book [tho emily and lydia are Storytellers in the 2nd And 4th books] and itās very neat how like, you do get that sense that just b/c someoneās not being Focused On as much from different peopleās perspectives doesnāt mean they arenāt still existing and present and doing stuff and having their own story, even when thatās not being mentioned by whoeverās writing down the events that weāre reading. we love that sentiment. anyways i just like to always Promote them.
24)who are you at the end of this decade?
hmmm!! i mean in many ways i am who i have been the whole time but yknow, 2009 - 2019 was a tumultuous period. i was always furiously trying to think through Who Am I As A Person for various reasons, even though like, when youāre in ur mid-teens thatās always In Progress rather than there being a really set answer to be discovered, and for a while it was a lot of frustration with myself allĀ āwhy are you like [this], why canāt you do [that] right,ā etc etc. but eventually i had like, a better frame of reference for a lot of what was going on, and even why i never quite felt like i had a great sense of Who I Am and What I Like and etc in the first place, and more understanding and respect for myself lol. even now itās like, yknow iām ~self-consious~ in ways often lol and iāll sometimes Use that to be like, okay try to improve [this thing] about yourself!! and yknow on the one hand i feel like stuff iāve been Working On for years Has paid off in ways, but then recently itās like......okay hang on but like, itās not a bad thing to like, have some traits that maybe arenāt gonna be seen asĀ āperfectā or might be annoying or yknow, your Demeanor and Vibe isnāt always like, the most important thing to focus on lol or something where like, oh being sweet & saintly & coming across as utterly pleasant to everyone always gets to be The Objective Ideal. like, iām opinionated and can be argumentative and sometimes impatient?? like, thereās a balance here betweenĀ āgood to be trying to Improve Yourself always or whatever lolā andĀ ābut also everyone is People with Traits and Different Personalities and everyone doesnāt have to just sand themselves down into an edgeless smooth sphereā and like, sure itās likeĀ āhaha iām a bit more temperamental than iād like stillā but also i sure sympathize w/ the fact that like, oof, depression makes it tricky sometimes! and i do pretty okay at like, being Aware of when my mood is cursed and trying to be as chill about it as poss! or like,Ā āhaha wish i was better at conversation lmaoā but yknow also understanding that like.....iām just kinda Not great at it and thatās whatās Natural for me and like, again, a balance betweenĀ ātrying to be easier to talk to, lolā andĀ ābeing okay with the fact that iām not super easy to talk to and most ppl arenāt very easy for me to talk to either, lolā
im trying to be a bit less cagey lol which i guess might not be the first word someone might use to describe me for a variety of reasons, But......and but then also, i just like, for me there is no simple Be Yourself, Just Talk Naturally As U Would conversation mode lol, but you know. itās hardly a pressing issue, and at the same time, like, sometimes when i find it hard to talk to people itās likeĀ āwell this is just you needing to Be Nicerā or whatever, or like, well youāre just not used talking to Anyone so like, push through it, and then it takes me a while to realize like, well no you just donāt love talking to them, lmao......and at the same time iām Really slow to realize when people *do* actually enjoy talking to me, lmao, i am just not used to it And used to people like, not really being super interested in interacting with me even if they think iām alright lol. lord! so iām still slightly surprised whenever Anyone likes me, but also like, then again thereās sort of always these repeated scenarios where itās like [Glum Trombone Noise] iām also the recipient of various pplās various contempt for various reasons........which like, i sure donāt Absorb that as likeĀ āway 2 go, you deserve thatā but also like, sure also never is the most fun experience of your life. but i have a way more solid sense of the fact that like, i donāt inherently deserve that, and an understanding of Why people will be Like That sometimes, and thatās all been acquired knowledge from the whole journey of this decade lol
also like, i have always been and continue to be like, Basically A Cat lol.....cats-sonas for everyone, ___ the ___ cat, But Seriously Folks........like, oh, thereās a lot of ppl and/or noise around?? unless i have chosen to put myself in that situation for fun, iām probably gonna be finding whatever quiet / distant corner to hide out in and try to remain as undetected as possible.......kinda wary about interacting with people sometimes, though then also, i like to be friendly w/ strangers (if theyāre friendly with me) and wonāt necessarily mind spontaneous interactions but only if itās Plausibly Expected in the situation, and even then, i might just prefer that Nobody Talk To Me......and iāve yet to be Really comfortable in a group of ppl if iām there *with* that group lmao, like, i donāt like to take the lead or compete for attention or anything and just kinda will try to do my own thing on the outskirts, whereas if iām by myself itās just like, i feel a lot more comfortable and like i can just do whatever lmao..........and also i donāt like to make noise lol. unless again, itās deliberate, and itās Fun. like at a concert? i will be the death of whatever nerd like, wants it to be like a solemnĀ ālistening to a recordā occasion or wants everyone to yell out complete sentences if a performer asks an Arena full of people How Are You Doing 2nite or whatever. iām gonna yell!!! anyways. idk. i am always likeĀ āoh i am Very Much [this way], except for all the times i am totally [the would-be Opposite way]ā........i canāt really opt out of having Anxious Qualities and thatās alright, even though it does get in the way of things sometimes for sure. like, cāest la vie!!! i understand why i am like this, and that like, while for my own sake i can try to hold my own hand here and encourage myself to be a little bolder, itās totally fine that like, i have Problems and Difficulties.Ā
iām also at like, maybe the lowest levels of Impending Dread that iāve had since i was like, 8 or some shit lmao............like again kind of a Wild Decade and one where like, it was totally all likeĀ āwow am i even gonna make it to [a few yrs in the future] -> [a year in the future] -> [half a year from now]ā aaand it hasnāt been a full year yet since i was last thinking likeĀ ālmfao oof i might not be alive by __, who knows!!ā but even while that was going on it was at least an improvement from the times i thought i might like, hmm hope i donāt off myself. and like, this is probably the first Start Of A Year in like. well possibly the past decade lmao, where yknow, it hasnāt felt quite as dire. i mean im not really out here a cockeyed optimist about anything, and like, iām aware that things are always a little tenuous and thereās other factors iām always nervous about, but Thatās nothing new, and iām kinda more like, neutral about the future rn lol? feeling less Dread and Doom is new-ish lmao and like, allowing that yknow, despite how crappy the past decade has been re: how i felt in my Outlook, thereās been a bunch of surprising Good Things to come along, and i totally allow for the fact that that could easily continue to happen. having Less(ened) Bad Feelings about Things might not = Absolutely Thriving but i appreciate it!! i also try to be appreciative lmao. like, what with the dread and doom & (hope i donāt die this year, i guess,) feelings, itās wildly hard nowadays for me to like, anticipate stuff in a ~fun~ way or at all, but yknow when anything nice, even a really small / unspectacular / ordinary moment and/or detail, is being experienced by me, i try to enjoy that. i like to be Appreciative. and i think iām also sort of like, sharing more of myself than iāve probably gotten to or felt capable of doing in the past, and i appreciate that a lot too. like, it can be really Depressing for sure to think of like, hmm i havenāt had the chance to like, feel in control of things and like things are Totally Fine and i feel Totally Okay & like iām enjoying everything, and i can choose to pursue [things i might enjoy], and maybe i Wonāt have that chance? [another glum trombone noise] but like. i appreciate the good experiences that i Do and Have gotten so far. and the fact iāve ever been in situations to connect with people and enjoy things the ways that i can and like, itās really nice that My Presence in other pplās lives, even as just like Some Online Rando re: some ppl lmao, has had some positive effect for them or even just been enjoyed is like, wow, this is pretty great lol.........not sure where i was taking this tangent but like, i am someone who appreciates this a lot.
hmm i am also a passionate person at the end of this decade lmao!!!! that has definitely always been true. i am Of That Temperament. it is funny b/c like, the fact that i am A Motormouth Actually But Often Not Saying Anything In The Least To People, they think iām like, of this very mild disposition and Not someone with strong opinions that they will launch into, or else i would have been doing that already........but you know!!! here i am online, fully able to just dive into things and start talking about whatever for one million years. and i sure latch onto stuff in a Big Way sometimes, which is why anyone follows me at all lol, b/c if you like [whatever particular content] and i am just all about that too, itās a beneficial situation for us both i guess lmao. i can get really excited and focused about stuff, obviously, and i sure Also Obviously like to explore the emotional aspects of things. which is a vague thing to say lmfao but you all know what i mean!!! it continues to be the only reason i draw lmaooo like i draw so much and like, Making Fanart And Sharing It Online has i think also been a journey of this decade for me, and i really only draw a) exactly that fanart that i feel like making, and b) what i feel like making is always also probably abt Feelings somehow, like the Three Emotions: kissing (aka gay), crying (sad), and angry (angry)........great news if you want to see the stuff i already happen to be drawing lol!!! bad news i guess if you were hoping iād draw anything but whatever i end up wanting to draw. i cannot be diverted. and i donāt even draw for its own sake lol like, iāve always doodled for fun and all that, but like, ive never been aĀ āwow i want to make my own __ somedayā or whatever, and if iām trying to draw something which is anything other than [the exact thing i might feel like drawing] it is Such a chore that like, i just donāt do it except for like, total Exceptions. except exceptions lol. donāt ask!! anyways why did i get on that drawing tangent there........yeah itās definitely lucky that iāve been giving myself that Drawing Experience so that i can connect w/ ppl that way, cuz iām godawful at like, necessarily providing other stuff lol Or at being the one to Make Connections Happen otherwise......and also of course sometimes it is easier to convey/communicate something via drawing. woohoo!!
anyways yeah iām a bit excitable lol and i sure guess iāve got that Chaotique energy at times, for better or worse lol........like sometimes my Contribution can be like, just an absolute wild card thrown into the pile, or just like, maybe adding some Boost to a situation that other people can run with if they so choose. just throw things out there sometimes and enjoy when other ppl find that fun lmao
what else is there about me??? lol.......oh yeah iām always sort of an Office Goofaround (not actually in an office ever, though). like, when ppl Donāt have that sense of Collaborative Humor where like, if someone does something a bit silly u just roll with that bit, or if god forbid they have Exhausting Cishet Guy humor where they think everything is about Dry, āIntelligentā Sarcasm and that beingĀ āfunnyā is about making yourself look like the coolest or cleverest person there who Wins the Center Of Attention spot?? itās like, eff that, where are my Get Silly gang. also puns are funny but also only b/c they are silly. you have to really lean into it lol.Ā
well anyways!!!! and when i am asked to talk about myself i can be very extensive and yet not necessarily cover everything. here we are
26)favorite look you had?
my look hasnāt changed too much! Tees n Jeans (or shorts? or jorts? lol) are pretty much my thing altho you Know i have at times added in A Layer, or even accessories.......as always, part of the first few years of the decade for me was the wholeĀ āaha, yeah okay iām transā process, but before that i wasnāt ever really trying to be moreĀ āāāāāāāāāfashionableāāāāāāāāāā than the tees n jeans type of look anyway lmao, and even nowadays like, i have some Wardrobe Items that like, ppl might consider āandrogynousā or whatever when cis dudes wear them, like leggings or a v-neck sweater........really some of the only significant Changes was getting binder/s eventually (by 2012?? ugh idk) and also like, by 2011 i cut my hair relatively short, and from there on i just like, every year wentĀ āugh god i need it to be shorterā and even now iām like, hmm, do i want it shorter or is this fine?? but also iām somewhat limited styling-wise b/c i just continually cut it myself in a bathroom mirror, true chaotic. and! iāve been like, god i wish i had a baseball cap thatās just like, solid [my fave blue] or yknow, black or something, or idk. one that i like. and also someday it would be nice to like, not only have an updated prescription of lenses but also Multiple Glasses Frames to choose from, even though my current ones are alright still lol.......this is me just talking abt my past looks and how iād like to potentially update my look lmao i did Not answer the question but, as usual, i also donāt have a great direct answer lol
38)a prediction you had for this decade that came true?
lol this was not a decade where i was ever looking ahead to 2020 and making any assumptions about this Block Of Time as a whole.......i mean like, i was Really starting to suspect byyyy 2012 for sure that like, i could not like, be able to exist And have my parents be in my life at all lol and by 2013 it was just like. increasing confirmation of that. and i last saw / spoke to them prior to me just effing out of there at the end of 2015. snaps for me
43)an important relationship (of any kind) you had?
well a couple i appreciated that might not be obvious were pretty brief and fairly impersonal lol. so in 2015 i had this Nightmare Job for five whole months which was obviously miserable in most ways, but there was this other guy who wasnāt even a Coworker, we just had the same job and had similar routes of Stores to go to, so we would run into each other a lot of mornings, and he would talk to me and iād talk to him and he was totally good-humored about everything and that was helpful lmao b/c itās great to have Someone you enjoy seeing. i also struck up a rapport with a baked-goods stocker at one particular store, and that could be an enjoyable 14 seconds. it was a godawful job lmao and like, Any pleasantness at all / decent treatment from other people was very helpful
also at this other job the next year which was a lot less hellish, there was this customer lady who like, i canāt remember at what point she started talking to me but yknow it got to be that if weād run into each other sheād kind of update me on her life. and she would be likeĀ āsorry iām talking to you, a stranger, about all this stuff all the time, but my life is a mess and i donāt really have anyone to talk toā and i would be like, lmfao mood, do not even worry about it, and yknow this was someone i only ran into usually once every few weeks at my job, and could only listen to for however long, but she was Going Tf Through It all the time and as much as i am a chatterbox who will go on for a century about myself b/c i canāt be concise abt anything ever, iām also decent at being in Listening Mode lmao or yknow, i was like No Truly i donāt mind you venting, and also yknow, iām like well i know how much it sucks to have Nobody to talk to about Big Problems. and i am this random restaurant worker and if iām one of the only people this lady can talk to, you can bet iām going to listen lol.......and she was really goin through it all One Thing After Another and yknow iād catch her two weeks later and sheād be all like, well [this situation] has gotten worse, or This One Problem is over but now New Problem has replaced it, etc, and a whole issue that i got updated on was like lol. she had this boyfriend who sheād kinda mention early on when she was talking abt trying to find a job, or losing a new-but-terrible job and once again being back in that Job Hunt Stress, and idk like. i just sort of have decent Relationship Instincts lmfao of likeĀ āhmm this doesnāt sound greatā but like, a month or two later sheās straightup Married to this dude, and iām like oh congrats :) and then when a month or two after That sheās talking about how like, sheās maybe having Job Probs again and her now-husband is really giving her shit for like, not having found a new one yet, iām like internally all [ :)))))) Not Surprised :))))))) ] but iām like. yknow you Sympathize n Validate but if you just up and tell someone whoās being treated real bad likeĀ āyou are being treated terribly, this person is acting terriblyā then they might just want to defend them like oh itās not That bad, or minimize it, and blame themselves for making their terrible partnerĀ ālook badā.......and by extension when she once was in our restaurant With said husband and introduced us i was like, just getting further confirmation abt this dudeās shittiness from his Immediate Vibe lmao like....whenever i feel uncomfortable enough in someoneās presence in a [not just universal level of Anxiety] way, itās like, that instinct is pretty reliable & accurate lol.....but i had to pretend Not to hate him or act too standoffish towards him lmao cuz like!!! i figured i couldĀ āget away with itā but yknow, this lady had already said how isolated she was and the husband sure seemed Controlling and like, yknow, if you act like you donāt Like the shitty partner or said shitty partner catches wind of you maybe telling this person thatĀ āhey your partner is being shittyā then itās all, them telling their partnerĀ ādonāt go around that person who is so obviously Against me >:(ā and like. yknow i figured as Random Restaurant Employee this dude wasnāt about to be super on guard about me but i still was not wanting to risk it but luckily i only met him the one time and only had to casually pretend i didnāt think he was shit that one time. and anyhow! soon enough the lady is talking to me about how she thinks getting married to him was a mistake but like, again, she was real isolated and didnt have family or friends or ppl in the area to talk to, and like, yknow she would be pretty sure her husband was cheating on her but of course He was the one all like, wanting to be controlling and invade her privacy and accuse Her of cheating on him, and iām like, internally screaming but again yknow, iām just letting her vent to Anyone (me) and sympathizing. and iirc her talking about herĀ āuh oh my husband sucksā was like, i had come back from this delivery so we were in the parking lot lol and she was so upset about all of it and like,Ā āsorry iām just this random person talking to you for twenty minutes in a parking lot and crying lolā and iām like. i mean yknow if the only person you can vent to about this terrible situation is me, this random person in a parking lot, absolutely i am glad to do it, even though i wouldāve done it anyways lol...........and i was so mad at our General Manager this one time lmao b/c. yknow itās a couple weeks later and wouldnāt you know it, The Lady is really stressed b/c her husband was yelling at her and broke a window in their apartment, and the Cost Of Repairs added to their monthly rent meant they might not be able to make that rent, and she was in that crappy situation that gets pulled on Tenants Who Probably Donāt Have Much Money, where youāre supposed to get 5 Days Notice or whatever when theyāre likeĀ āget out b/c your rent is overdueā but you get that Notice on like, friday afternoon when your Last Day is supposed to be the following monday, and nobody is at the office all weekend, so obviously thatās not five days and itās really only One Day and that Last Day that youād even have a chance to talk to anyone, which is also a monday when youād probably have work, and yknow, good luck finding help over the weekend, when probably ppl will just want to spend that time rushing to just pack their shit up and leave anyways.....ANYHOW itās just some particular heinous bullshit and it was like, the saturday after it had happened to her, and i sympathized entirely b/c that had happened to me and i now lived in my car but i figured i wouldnāt bring that up lmfao.......and anyways i was sitting down with her to listen to her b/c itās an Insanely Stressful Situation and again like, whenever sheād show up iād let her talk to me abt her Problems for however long she felt like. and anyways of course eventually the one By-The-Books manager gives me shit all likeĀ āwhat are you doing daring to Sit Down and Not be doing restaurantly actions, ughā and iām like. i mean, unsurprising lecture to get lol, of course, but i was just so impatient like. well this person was having a crisis so i prioritized that above keeping the coffee stirrers fully stocked at all times, bite me. ENNYHOW and i didnāt see her for a minute after that and i Was a bit worried b/c like. of course i had every reason to be and she was just always looking so completely exhausted but then like, actually the last time i saw her she was actually more upbeat than ever b/c like! turns out that during an argument her husband had assaulted her and had been arrested. which is of course like. i was like oh i am completely sorry about that trauma but congratulations at this person being separated from you!!! and like, i wish i could have kept up with her beyond that, but i couldnāt, but like, that was the first Improvement in her life that iād heard since i met her, and it was a way better last-thing-to-hear-from-her than her stressing out abt eviction thanks to her abusive husband breaking shit. and like, weird relationship lmao but!! idk i did feel lucky that i could be The One Person This Lady Gets To Talk With b/c like, god forbid she have absolutely nobody to talk to about this shit or treat her with any sympathy, even if it was just me, the rando she only got to see on occasion. and i hope sheās doing okay still! wish i knew for sure of course, but iām glad i at least got to be there for her in a tiny way for a period of time and did eventually like, Know that she both knew that this was a bad person to be with, and got that Reason to be separated from him.
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