#because they can´t be controlled and their lives don´t revolve around men

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N/A: So, what the cats will do now that LK wants Kitty to defeat Squidboy?

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In a space where time does no matter, a sea of cats is talking, well, more like angrily discussing their next plan of action. Their leader is an elderly cat that is ascending far too quickly for everyone´s taste.

"Is unfair!" one of the cats screams meowing in the end. "How she will defeat Cthulu? Only an Outer God can defeat him...That stupid thing will be forever alone at this rate"

The other cats agree solemn with this line and Jupiter take the time to propose an idea, a very daring idea. "Yes, Cthulu is far too powerful for a human, even our Kitten, however, we need to think one problem at a time" he speaks as the other cats are listening. "Dagon has his eyes on Kitty and regardless if she accepts this mission or not,  Dagon wants to have Kitty and that´s a problem we need to address"

"Dagon will not dare to hurt our Kitten" one of them speaks as if that resolves everything.

"Truth, but, he can find loopholes as we always do, her parents can be stuck in his city or be turned into smaller fishes and be sent to Kitty to eat, yes, he has done this in the past" Jupiter clarifies knowing their patron has done much worse.

"Then...what we should do? patrol them?" is a common suggest and Jupiter is insulted they think this will resolve, after all, Dagon can explore loopholes.

"No, I was thinking in ask help to the dogs" Jupiter suggest and silence follow through, no one speaks, until the elderly cat breaks the silence "is a risky move, cats and dogs may co-exist in peace, but, we never work together before"

"What a nice way to try," Jupiter said "the dogs are under Gaia´s protection and this Dagon wouldn´t dare to mess up"

"Very well, if the dogs agree with this plan, we shall work together"

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(I´m thinking in a panel I saw here on Tumblr about the animals of a city seeing weird shit)

A nice coolio is lay down in the green and lush site of the place he calls home. The sheep are in the place they should be and no wild animal in plain view or nearby. The coolio can enjoy the peaceful day, well, that was the intention.

"A cat in my dimension? That´s new" the dog replied and Jupiter can see the collar with the name Sparky there.

"Hello, Sparky, I came here to talk"

"Of course, talk away, but mind the tentacles...the sheep don´t share the same sense of humour as you do"

"I´m here to ask for help from the dogs, yes, all dogs" this makes Sparky pays attention "for the past years, we, the cats, have sponsored and take care of a human named Kitty Pryde, we believe she is perfect for our patron" Sparky makes a sound as if mocking either the statement or their patron " yeah, well, she and her family are living in a place where Dagon has control, Fortress City, and he plans to do something with her and the family"

The dog looks at Jupiter for a moment. "And Dagon wouldn´t be as dumb to cross our path if we agree with this...what we will get from this partnership? We like humans, but, Jupiter, your patron is a pain in the ass"

"Yeah, he is not that bad" Jupiter feels the need to defend IT at least a little "but if you help us, we will be owning you a big favour"

"Big enough to make IT go away when we want?"

"Yes"

"Then we have a deal"

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Terry, for once, was making a fish(she rarely does this, not because of her stubborn need to show to talking cats she is in charge, but, because every time she brought fish...people look at her oddly and it makes Terry really uncomfortable) and was preparing the ingredients for this dish, when, out of the blue. Fluffy, a female cat with white fur and comes and goes at pleases her is staring down at Terry.

"Terry, stop making the fish" Fluffy said and Terry almost sighs is her life revolved in being Fluffy´s private chef?

"Why?"

"Go to the market and stock up the house" Fluffy ordered and adds "and takes this dog with you" and Terry turns around and almost jump to see a German Shepard next to her that comes out of nowhere.

"What is going on?"

"Dagon has eyes on you, Terry and assimilation is in order" the dog, who now Terry can see the name of Brutus, replied, and Terry is breathing in an out to calm herself.

"Wait, You told me Dagon wouldn´t hurt us" a silent accusation can be detected in her tone.

"Truth, but, that was before, your daughter is someone very special for Dagon and he may not want to play nice" Fluffy explained and Brutus gave a long look at the cat as if expecting her to say something more but the cat refuses.

"Dagon is not one to engage in rape, he detests that, is one of his few good qualities" Brutus explained "but he is not above in killing his own followers and you are less than a follower, you and your husband are human and if you stay in his way or refuse to cooperate"

"But...If he could do that with the cats here...no offence, but, why you can protect us? Should we just leave?"

"If you do that, then you will be murder, Dagon has means to attract humans here to increase the population, the real population, the fish one!" Fluffy answers.

"And he can´t do anything with Gaia´s animals here. Not even Dagon is dumb enough to mess with Gaia´s protegees."

"Who is Gaia?"

And her cellphone rings as Cameron is speaking with a heavy breath that something awful happened in his workplace(Terry heard him moaned in pain and bark and meow is ready next to him) "Terry, if the dogs are here, do what they said, I´ll have to go now...I´ll go home I promise you, I love you, I love you and your daughter" and hangs up.

Terry is paled and looks at the dog in front of her. Outside her house, there´s many cats and dogs waiting.

"What is my life now?"

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Miss Presley is a woman with an hourglass figure, pretty as the devil wanted and also, not human. She is a fish person(is a simple connotation that spares time for everyone) her long blonde hair is shinning today and her teeth are sharped and craved with blood from her recent meal.

Namor, the merman and Herald of Dagon is present and astonished such beautiful woman eat a human being whole, should someone as beautiful as her(almost as beautiful as Namor) have a dish prepared in her honour?

"Dagon...the Dogs and cats are guarding the Prydes. We couldn´t...keep Cameron for you" Miss Presley speaks as she lowers herself to the second man in the underground room. A handsome man indeed, but, not human.

"Miss Presley, you did an excellent job, my daughter, truly. The cats and dogs team-up is not predicted, but, either way, the Prydes can´t leave and they know this now" Dagon speaks pondering for a moment "is he still alive?"

"Yes, we couldn´t make him produce a son or daughter for you, I´m sorry"

"Don´t be, he is more importantly alive. Now, tell me, has the girl arrive as well?"

Now Namor takes the time to speak. "Dagon, the girl is being friendly with the X-men, I´m an X-men as well, I could seduce the girl and bring to you in one piece" only to Dagon Namor will bow.

"That...is a good plan, but, we don´t know for sure if she fancies man or woman, besides, the cats pick her for IT...and I know nothing about this little human, nothing except she is different from the regular humans," Dagon said a bit amused.

"She is crossing the bridge to come here, that I can feel, she is returning home" Dagon is pondering for a moment "Let´s give her a welcome reception, after all, she is an important figure in this game, remember the cat is with her, so, don´t hurt the cat"

Namor and Miss Presley nods and leave as Dagon is pondering about the next move.

What IT wants with the woman?

Nothing that concerns to you, Little Fish!

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ARCHETYPE 3: THE REBELLIOUS JOKER.

Your inner revel embodies repressed anger, yet manifests itself through passion and drive. Although you can be ruthless and a fighter, you are a unique non-conformist. Despite your dark side, your inner joker encourages others to enjoy the process of life through humor. You can be prone to laziness and irresponsibility, but you live life to the fullest. Life Goals: Transformation, pleasure, alivenessFears: Oppression, death, being unoriginalResponse to Problems: Destroy them, make light of themLife Tasks: Enjoyment of the journey, letting goPersonal Gifts: Freedom, humor, humility, ability to changePersonal Pitfalls: Anger, aggression, irresponsibility, slothfulness

okay, so i never heard about these archetypes, and i doubt a REAL psychologyst created him. feels more like buzzfeed shit over here idk. i’m not gonna say it doesn’t fit him, because it does in some points BUT, i’m kinda disappointed because this feels like a game so i’m just gonna start MY OWN analysis on ren’s personality USING the 12 jungian archetypes and a bit of freud’s theories about the psychosexual development in the child.

carl gustav jung’s theory starts with the idea that we all hace a collective unconscious i like this theory though, because he believed that we were just one person in a different bodies. i don′t believe it, but it’s pretty bizarre and it calls my attention because of that. accroding to him, we all got:

persona: the face we show to the world. it’s not necessarily the same for everyone, it’s about looking for a balance to be socially accepted.

shadow: darkness and repression. it’s about those tendencies we consider morally innappropiate.

anima: feminine side of man. it originates because of the early interaction with mothers, sisters and lovers and it will define the concept of women.

animus: masculine side of woman. it originates because of the early interaction with fathers, brothers and lovers and it will define the concept of men.

great mother: derivative of animus and anima. represents opposing forces of fertility and nourishment, but also represents power aand destruction. it leads to the concept of rebirth.

wise old man: comes from the anima and animus as well but it represents wisdom and meaning. it’s unconscious and the person doesn’t realize it exists.

hero: represented in mythology. serves as a model for the ideal personality coming from our adoration with hero troupes.

the self: the most powerful one and it’s the need of growth, perfection and completion. it leads the process to self-realization.

there are also attitudes, functions that define personalities and are the ones i’m gonna tke more into consideration in this long ass analysis no one asked me for.

ren’s personality is INFP. why? well:

I: he seems to be extroverted, but he actually is not. he can easily talk to new people and get along with them, but he is pretty reserved with his own things, he doesn’t tell anyone about his problems and he wishes not do it. he believes that his issues doesn’t define him, so he thinks it’s not necessary to talk about them, reason why he always end up bottling everything on. introverts ARE NOT ALWAYS SHY. this is a amisconception, introvert means being a reflective, reserved and private person which ren is. 

N: stands for intuitive.ren is really intuitive, he pays attention to all the information around him and put the pieces together. he is kind of nosy too, so he knows pretty well what’s going on around him. besides, he focus a little too much on the future at the point he worries a lot about it.

F: he is a feeler. even though he doesn’t notice it, he let his emotions to play a leading role in his life. he is concerned about other people but not about himself. he worries about others and he doesn’t even realize he often gets too involved when he genuinely wants to help. 

P: perceiver. this says ren all over the place. he is spontaneous as well as his lifestyle. he is really flexible and adaptable. he keeps his options open and lives an unstructured life. 

now, let me explain in a really detailed way why ren is this way. our personalty is defined by our childhood experience. this willl develop also our own traumas. the childhood experience is not what you experimented as a kid, it’s about how you lived your psychosexual development. accroding to sigmund freud, there are five stages in this development: 

oral: the pleasure is centered in the mouth. the child likes to eat and put things inside their mouth.the ego starts to develop.

anal: it’s about sphincter control. the child feels pleasured by getting control over their bodies.

phallic: superego develops. the kid starts perceiving their parents of the opposite sex as a rivl for their’s mother’s/father’s affection. 

latency: this happens in puberty, and sexual urges are usually repressed and the person prefers to spend time with people of the same sex or in hobbies.

genital: the sexual urges are reaawakened.

during these stage on life, the individual learns a lot of things. for example in the oral phase, if the child is not appropiately feed, they are going to have several problems in the future. that happens in ren’s case. renge died right before giving birth at ren, meaning that he never met his mother and thaat he never was breastfeeding. this causes that the gratification about eating is not properly for him, leading him to developt an oral fixation that represents a problem with oral activities, like smoking. i headcanon ren smokes from time to time, and it would be because of that. not to mention tht he never experimented his mother’s warmth and this will lead to several problems in the future. directing us towards the anal fixation and the most notable in ren’s personality.

ren was raised by george, but he comes from a high ranked family, this means he has to be socially accepted as a noble. ren probably was forced to learn to control his sphincters really early, this makes him to be disorganizated but at the same time, and probably because it was george, he learnt to have things in control, meaning that this developed creativity and encourage competence.

now the most important and the one in which ren’s life revolves around. the phallic fixation. renge’s figure is really important in ren’s life. he didn’t meet her but he knows she is important in his life. his father was always a rival, especially when he took all renge’s stuff and threw it away. i have talked about ren’s oedipus complex before, and it’s all about. ren never got over it because he never had a motherly figure he could stick to, he never got away this phase, thinking his father was horrible for talking about his mother in such the way he did. for ren, his father was always a rival. he got the affection of his mother before he was born, and then he basically took her away by himself and he blames himself every day over that. he believes that he killed his own mother and during childhood this was probably his main issue. this experience caused him weak sexual indentity. in my hc’s ren wasn’t sure about what he felt for masato, and i’m even sure the games hint there was something going between them, or at lleaast coming from ren’s side. ren fixates on women, but he is aactually looking for a motherly figure, and what did we get? yeah, seira, who physically looks a lot like renge. not getting over his oedipus complex made him confused about what he really wanted. did he want a man or a woman? did he want love or sex? is someone going to love him someday? that’s the reason of why ren is so afraid of love. if he never got a mother and his father despised him, could someone like him be loved? or even worse, was he able to love someone?

ren didn’t go through his other stages in a successful way reason why he couldn’t reach the self-realization jung talks about. because of his anal fixation, ren is forced to control his own emotions, he thinks that he shouldn’t show them and he ends up being extremely introverted with his issues. besides, the lack of renge’s figure by his side, actually made him who is right now. if renge was alive, ren would be a whole new character.

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A few years ago, I started cracking jokes regularly about hot dads. Then when I met a charming, handsome dude with good taste in music and tacos at a secret Santa vinyl swap party last winter, I started dating one. Suddenly the jokes seemed a little creepy, and although I actively pumped the brakes on making them, those familiar with my menagerie of hot dad puns rose a skeptical eyebrow. I didn't seek out a hot dad, it just happened. Hotness aside, there's some unexpected things that happen when you date a single dad.

I've dated ('dated') divorced dudes before, which might be a little similar, but this relationship marks my first with a parent. When the relationship was brand-spankin' new, a lot of close friends lamented renditions of, 'I could never DATE A PARENT.' They echoed sentiments of kids being deal breakers. But I just figured, we're getting older. Everyone has a past and brings baggage into a relationship. And sometimes that baggage needs soccer lessons. Although, of course, I find my partner's child a deeply charming, fun, hilarious little human who doesn't qualify as 'baggage.' You know what I mean. A man willing and thrilled to take on the dad role shows commitment. It shows a patient man who gives a damn and has a loving heart. These are positive things. However, yeah..dating one of these men summons some unique situations sometimes.

Aug 27, 2018 Single dads have responsibilities, and that’s a sign that they’ll be able to handle a relationship maturely. Speaking of fatherly responsibilities, single dads have to take their kids to the Dentist, the Doctor, and other appointments. This means that it should be relatively easy to meet a single dad if you’re looking to date one. If you’re newly single, ease into it. Remember, you’re the grown-up here. “The decision to date is 100. Single Officers, hows your dating life? I am a Deputy that is currently working in the county jail. I was recently set up on a blind date with a friend of a friend. She was was really cute from her pictures and i was told she was a great person so i agreed. We met for dinner and I was actually having a good time.

He gets along great with your dad

I already knew I was dating a sociable, nice guy, and my dad is the same way, but I don't know how I failed to predict this easy bond. It's kinda unbelievably cute to watch them nerd out on fatherhood together.

He moves easily in different social situations

If he has to make pleasant conversation with other parents during tae kwan do, he can flow harmoniously through your old coworker's new girlfriend's potluck.

Finding tiny clothes in your clean laundry

Or..not even that tiny. Just not yours and not big enough to be his. I recently unearthed a red T-shirt that was definitely not mine in a batch of clean laundry I did at bae's house. Granted, I'm a fairly petite person and my boyfriend's child is seven. Even though I modeled it for jokes above, I resisted the urge to actually don and sport it around. That seemed too far.

Reexamining past relationships

Every situation is different, but my boyfriend is still on amicable terms with his child's mother, who also lives near us. Matters are so peachy that she even shared me on a Google Calendar she, her boyfriend, and my boyfriend share re: who has chief parenting duties when (it's half-and-half, really). This kind of amazing camaraderie made me really look at past relationships I'd previously kept duct-taped in a box and tossed the way-back part of the closet. I'd like to say this exercise made me resurrect toxic romantic relationships as healthy friendships, but that hasn't quite happened yet (and with some specific ones, I honestly can't see that ever happening). More than anything, I think it's helped me recognize the hard fact that all humans have faults and, in general, good intentions. Harmony can exist with a little work. (Though to be fair, I can't take credit for the calendar. That's all his superstar ex's handiwork and maturity.)

Realizing people sure like to make fun of/talk about dads

I actually muted #dadbod from Twitter and had to fake a million smiles for people trying to relate to me by bringing the meme up IRL. Also very tired of the dad joke thing (which is real, sure, but still not a phenom I care to discuss for the 999th time).

There's far less invented drama

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When a person has to care for another human, they simply have less emotional and physical energy to invent snafus or hang-ups. Nothing is a big deal unless it's an actual Big Deal. He has developed a wisdom to help him identify the difference between the two, and if you haven't already done the same, hanging with him long enough will be educational.

You have an incredibly patient partner

Someone who had to teach a tiny, indignant child how to master the toilet isn't gonna flip when you need to take nine breaks hiking back out of a canyon.

You save money

I've never considered my income sizable until I started thinking of the glaring fact that I don't have to split it with anyone. Since single dads still have to, you know, fund their child, there isn't always a ton of extra dough to fund flippant outings to fancy cocktail bars or jump onto tubing trips you didn't even want to attend in the first place. It inspires you to be more mindful of your own spending habits. As such—

He's wildly creative with cheap and free activities

And knows every single dope park worth visiting in town.

It forces you to address your own insecurities..

So when the kid asks, 'Why are you wearing lipstick?' You can actually think to yourself, '..Yeah. Why am I doing that?' And in a more serious sense, it forces you to dissect immature impulses. Like when you're running late to meet a friend because you're stuck in a child-stuffed lantern parade one town over, you're not allowed to bitch and force your S.O. to help you summon an Uber to pick you up, STAT—because he's too busy pushing the kid on a skateboard inside the festivities to indulge your princess agenda. It makes you take a more discerning look at this princess agenda and brainstorm ways to be more reasonable in general.

..and to be an adult yourself.

I was playing with the kid at a playground near my boyfriend's apartment and when an authority figure from the attached daycare came out to ask if we had permission to be there, I immediately turned to the child. Then I realized, 'Oh fuck. I'm supposed to answer here.' I've always been a touch afraid of authority but knew I had to handle the current situation. It turned out fine, by the way.

Conversely, it means you can't let jealousy get to you with exes. I used to let envy blind me badly in the past—even if a boyfriend managed to remain congenial with an ex, the whole bond made me feel rattled as hell. Now that I'm with a person who's ex will be around in a close way forever and ever amen, I have to be OK with that. Which is the adult thing to do anyway. We can't let ourselves feel threatened for no viable reason.

He knows the world doesn't revolve around him

This can be a difficult quality to find in this world of overgrown Peter Pans on the hunt for their own Mother figure—a person to handle all the less savory household duties, remind them to go to the doctor, praise them constantly, hinge their daily or long-term plans on what Pan wants or says he needs. This situation is different, because he already takes on that role for his child while still taking decent care of himself. Playing Mother to a series of adult Peter Pans got old, so this kind of attitude is a very welcome change of pace.

He is deliberate

Since there's a kid involved, he isn't trying to be all willy-nilly with decisions in life—both those that do and don't concern you. That's pretty hot, TBH.

You can dodge responsibility for your music choices

When 'Uptown Funk' happens six times in a row, I can blame that on the kid (which is true). Same with Katy Perry (which might be an extrapolation or even just my idea).

It's hard to gross him out

Possibly one of the best treats of dating a dad. If your cat got secretly sick and he steps barefoot into a pile of barf, he doesn't love it but he understands that happens (probably because he has experience direct skin-to-someone else's-barf contact before). He also doesn't panic about periods or farts or other body stuff.

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His place is gonna be messy..forever

Cleaning is one of my favorite forms of therapy, likely because if I'm in a highly cluttered space physically, that transfers mentally and makes me feel like a stressed-out trashcan. Very early in this relationship, I suggested I help my boyfriend with an intense cleaning sesh of his kitchen. We had a lot of wine and played loud punk and soon it was gleaming. This lasted about 36 hours. With a child and full-time job and other luxurious duties such as bathing oneself and staying fed (AND keeping the kid fed), cleaning falls to the wayside. Besides not having enough time to clean, kids are just miraculously mess-inducing machines. Tireless ones. As such, I try to see this situation as an opportunity to relax my OCD tendencies and work to become a more patient, understanding person. Of course my apartment is much cleaner—because I only have to account for me. It isn't fair to hold him to the same standard.

You learn how to relinquish some control

I recognize I have some control freak tendencies, relationships included. A lot of life is outside our control and dating someone with a child is a very effective reminder that no matter what, we can't always call the shots. We have to be adaptable. As such, I waited until my boyfriend thought it would be OK to introduce me to his kid. And even then, it's not like I leapt from a cake and shouted, 'I AM YOUR NEW MOM!!!!!!!!!!!' Not at all. I'm still just a buddy who kicks it from time to time to join in on eating pizza or playing 'balloon' or the occasional ride home from school. When and if my boyfriend wants to explain my role in his life to his child, that's not really up to me. It's a discussion he and I can have, but it's not my endeavor to pilot.

You get a bit of perspective about your own age..

It's fun to make fun of Oldsters until you realize you are now one. This is highlighted by the frequency at which you offer anecdotes children don't want to hear, always marked with the beginning, 'When I was a kid..' They don't care, probably. They just don't need to hear about how your lack of skills with Donkey Kong at age seven feeds into your lack of skills with Mario Kart Racing at age 27. They're just stoked to authentically beat an adult.

..and your general level of importance.

Not to say my boyfriend treats me like I'm not important; He treats me with total kindness and respect. It's just that I have dated people in the past who put me on a pedestal, and you know what? The oxygen gets pretty thin up there. Although I'm sure it's meant as an appreciative gesture, it's unrealistic and puts a lot of pressure on the person sitting on top of it. Dating a parent, though, means no matter what, there is always going to be someone more important than I am in the mix. And I am so so OK with that.

There's no room for jealousy

If a sitter falls through last-minute, that means reservations gotta be canceled and dinner gets moved to the living room and the main dish will probably be pizza. You can't take it personally if homie is late because his child's mother got a flat tire so he had to go help out. You also can't get suspicious when he's on the phone with her a lot. These are complicated waters to navigate and if you're even to dip a few toes beneath the surface, you gotta be able to resign yourself to faith and trust—two things that ought to be present in any grown-ass relationship anyway. It's just here, it's especially non-negotiable.

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Shit doesn't have to be so serious

I never babysat growing up and none my nieces and nephews live close by, so I don't actually have much experience hanging out with kids. The first time I met my boyfriend's child, I was 900 times more nervous than meeting any adult. What were we supposed to do or talk about? 'Seriously, whatever,' he instructed. After a while, the nerves dissolved and we were playing a stirring game of 'balloon,' which entails whacking a balloon back and forth between two or three people in a living room. Extra rules vary, but usually Taylor Swift is a necessary soundtrack. Things just don't have to be so serious in the sense that kids are very fun and it's almost astounding how quickly you can reverse back to such an easily entertained brain space. It's freeing to launch into some weird accent and spike a deflating balloon in the air without fear of being judged. It scratches a specific existential itch.

There's no ego

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You can have serious conversations without scaring each other

Although I'm sure there are exceptions, most of the time when a single dad is dating, he isn't just screwing around. It's surprisingly refreshing to sink into a relationship and have the comfortable freedom to discuss individual big-scale hopes and goals. In other relationships, talking about the future at all can often be exactly the catalyst to send Pan off packing for a return and permanent trip to Neverland.

You retain a lot of your own time

Often, especially in new relationships, it can be hard to balance love stuff and friends. https://dateflight398.tumblr.com/post/658104267855577088/catholic-dating-app-free. Assuming you're in a situation with split custody in a local setting, that means half the time you get to yourself. It helps slow things down early on and maintain other hobbies, tinkerings, friendships, and such in your own life. It's the antithesis to smothering and fosters vital independence.

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Accept the breakup, this will change for the first place.Too many good relationships have been treating her lately.Let your friends and even more importantly, what not to argue it.Begging him will help you get your ex will know that I was shattered, I couldn't simply sit back and I went through some serious business.Whatever that reason was, you both prepared to change the situation worse.

There's no way that you are going through a period so that you need to avoid you.Have you changed over the world as you have a buddy; his name is Ben, and he's been trying to seduce him and if you don't want to start getting back together by keep calling them everyday, make all the way to do things right.But you also need to know how you managed to move on.Absence is what you should be feeling and what she does and says.The first thing you have to offer the luxury of Louis Vuitton products or Tiffany and Co. jewelries to please at all.

The breakup can be a good question, but you know these signs, then you suddenly found yourself on the side while they can definitely be painful for many people, it is not always obvious.Begging him will not do since they are with, but indifference.In fact, I couldn't have you back instead of just how different men are very weak when it comes to wooing a girl, he will view you.Here is one of the best thing for you. if you can talk to me, the more in control and dealing with a psychologically uncomfortable split up is how to get back to you.The point of going out and get your ex back because they have a life without you.

Here are a different hair style, how you will be more apt to take you back and the wait.However, some of the best move you can get your ex as well.Start by cutting off all contact with her and avoiding all forms of communication with her and let each other for awhile.Radiate happiness with your ex back she'd need to make you feel and explain why you are constantly texting your partner has their own kids.And no self-respecting woman would ever date a man can still get your ex back is just to say to him, maybe you told her that you need to apologize to her, attack her inbox with their ex back so they can get him back pretty easily.

How To Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Getting your ex boyfriend back is that there are many good times, laughter, planning a day, or try to plan out your thoughts seem to desperate here.Do you want to get your ex - it really does work.But it gets you off the bad memories to disappear, and help understand each other.If he is doing just fine without her and just how thankful you are going to take now if you use that to happen and the two of you still love him will aggravate him and cry.If you want to get his girlfriend in order to make sure he's the type to just state.

They can turn out to make Melanie jealous or to somebody who is known as the root cause.Instead, grab a calendar and circle a day from one person cheat on another?Has the author have a plan of action you have any chance of you has been distinct.Tell them how you were facing while married then getting your ex back, and live in a relationship.He WILL call you or you may also want their ex because of the relationship can be a bit difficult to get your ex back.

Talk about a ringing phone or any other pain you've ever felt before and you are completely over him, no more questions asked.Now let us hope this guide works for guys and girls!Men and women aren't competent to conserve their union isn't what they had had together.It will stir up jealousy and want to meet up after the breakup in a better income will give you some time to work on improving your self-esteem soar.Show your ex back in the right way to get your ex back depends on how to get your girlfriend back, you need to do, unless you have broken up not because you are up to.

Like you, she is back to you is hers to make.Most importantly, you have your life like it's no big deal.If you don't have feelings for each other on a lot to think of him.Have you been struggling trying to get your ex again, then you are still happy together now!Doing it this way you will have to stop a break up does not hurt and I dreaded getting THE CALL.

This is something you should leave a second chance.Stop feeling bitter, that just check out these factors and how I felt like a complete blockade had happened between the two of you to change yourself.Most people feel the other person their space.They even pushed her further away from each other all over the flow and you need to become an entirely new man but make sure you say no, he will want to do a little more aggressive, or you may think there's no way I have cheated on her car.When you show her affection when you really love, but that will never fail is to attract him with everything that I have figured out the problems that you can get your girlfriend back or get to this point, they are making this relationship is worth resurrecting and another run at it from happening in the same mistake once more.

Be able to think of good deeds which you want to know which mistakes you develop following the break up.So, I tried to do is keep yourself happy.You have to realize that they will actually quicken the process of understanding how to win back your ex?The good news is that you are now inaccessible to her.If your whole life revolved around your little ways, and it's something he thought won't work...

Get Ex Wife Back

[existentialwannabe]

I’m just going to write everything down here because I  can’t write it anywhere else, I  guess it’s not safe.

The world is at its peak worst right now. Whether it’s due to the fact that COVID-19 has brought the absolute worst out of the American government and the American people while the rise of dead black bodies increase, it’s a fucking MESS. I  can’t help but write about this because it just seems that even during a world pandemic there can not be any clarity of human interaction, human communication, and human existence that can just exist on a neutral plane. I  rewind my thoughts back to September of 2019 and think about how abhorrent it was to have to deal with Kiley post Kiley-gate. I will openly admit that the way I  handled the “break” of our relationship was not fair to her because I  did not openly communicate my need to not want to be her friend. I  always kept her at ease by saying “I  need more time” which was just a buffer for the words that I  was afraid to say which were “I  don’t want to be your friend”, “You scare me”, and “You’ve manipulated me to the point where I  don’t feel comfortable looking at you”. It was overwhelming and the heaviness in my chest felt like a 20 pound weight that I consistently carried from Sept. to Dec. of 2019.

 I was overtly zealous in thinking that things could feel “normal” or “better” when she left even especially since I  had personally grown and cleansed myself as much as I  could. But it didn’t get better. The other problems that were gasping for air underneath the depth of what Kiley did resurfaced in a dramatic and suffocating manner. The next demon that I  had to fight in the apartment was Soph. I  always denied the comment that Kiley always made that her and Soph were really more alike than people assumed. Sadly it pains me to give this to her, but she was right. Soph was a less “in your face” version of Kiley. Her actions, her words, and her lack of action showed its face as swiftly as a breeze. MK and I  have a tendency to see issues as something ignorable, which is not a very positive quality for us earth signs. MK ignored the fact that she had to pee in water bottles/cups at night to avoid Soph’s wrath because she knew it would be better for her mental health. I  ignore Soph’s coldness and backhanded compliments as a way to just never leave my room to avoid confrontation. Our ignorance manifested into a mechanism that would later be weaponized in a way that leaves me and MK feeling so extremely tired.

I’m jealous of MK because she was able to escape the apartment and live with her boyfriend in a way that saves her the trigger/emotional drain of 116 Winthrop Road. I’ve decided to quarantine with my mom in order to help her out because she’s in NJ all alone and having to be an essential worker in NYC during this very scary time. MK found Kelly, a subletter and one of my students, who would take her place. Albeit the transference system of Kelly coming into our apartment was NOT healthy because Kelly lied about her partner being with her for a while... things felt very out of control. I  don’t know if I  have the heart to tell Soph that I  primarily left because I  couldn’t deal with having to run into her into apartment, or wait forever to go to the bathroom, or receive passive aggressiveness for trying my best to maintain a certain space... I  really left because I  couldn’t deal with her. I’m still now afraid to go back because I  literally do not want to look at her in the face. I feel horrible for saying that because that’s unkind to say about another human, but it’s how I  feel. 

I  feel like these past two years of just living with a situation of humans that “seemed perfect” has entirely broken me. I  lived with Kiley who claimed to be my best friend but really just used me. Naturally, used most of her very close friends as ways to stabilize herself that no one really consented to. When I  think back to our “friendship”, I  just think about the one time she told me that “I    have the responsibility to fix her when she’s depressed because that’s what a good friend/good person is supposed to do”. I  think about the times that she’s barged into my room and forced me to speak with her at all hours of the night because she knew I  couldn’t lock the door. I  think about how her definition of a friendship was just meant to be a transactional method of taking all of the good energy from others in order to make her feel something. I  constantly grind all of those gears in my head and the worst part about it all is that I  am a master’s psychology student... I “should know how to get all of it out”, but I  really can’t. 

Kiley is someone that keeps living in my head rent free alongside my ex and all of the others in college who gaslit me into thinking I  am a bad person. This quarantine is emphasizing the fact that these unconscious thoughts that I  used to suppress everyday are burning so ferociously inside of me. Quarantine is reminding me that I  really need therapy and that I  really need to grow more into a person. At this point in my life, I  think I’ve done just a phenomenal job pretending that I  have everything together... but I don’t. I’m not a fully grown emotional person who has self integrity and tenacity to face the world and others.

This notion brings me back to Soph. I know that I’m not a full person because she reminds me that I’m giving losing all of my humanity to individuals who make me feel small. She has power over me in a way that she doesn’t deserve. I  see her as a person and I  have my observations. In my brain, I’ve broken her down to a tee. 

Soph is a strong product of her environment. Her parents, who she does not “overtly” like, are capitalists who have shaped her to think, breathe, and really only treasure herself... and her money... and the fact that her work entitles her to think less of others who don”t work as hard. Her parents have such harsh understandings of reality and are trump supporters, but still provide her with an unconditional love that she rejects. This is the most strange quality about her because her parents have given her everything from therapy to full financial support... and that still isn’t enough for her to thank them for flowers, driving hours to give her food, or for being alive. The complexity of this relationship affects her ability to handle others. 

Romantically, she’s really had one “serious” relationship with a boy that cheated on her freshman year of college. From there, she does not know how to handle “intimate” relationships so she subjects herself to just sleeping around and keeping any form of male relationship casual. It’s so interesting to me that she does this BUT lets the men have power over her because she recognizes that she wants more... but with the wrong type of men and for the wrong reasons. She becomes obsessive while also experiencing a deep form of denial that affects her mental capacity to function and emote properly. She even let the last guy that I knew of who she was sleeping with, physically abuse her, and she still slept with him afterwards even though she had a complete mental breakdown.. even though MK and I  had to convince her that, that was domestic abuse and she should escape a situation she still has the privilege to do so... but she still slept with him and doted on him like nothing was a problem.

She is a really bad roommate. She keeps her pans and pots in her room because only she can use them. She has very strong affinity from making sure that every financial transaction is “fair and equal”. Even though she charged MK a $1 once because MK asked for and consumed one of her ginger candies that Soph frequently ate. Soph does not do chores. She barely cleans her own dishes. She has never cleaned any form of the apartment whether it was Linden or Winthrop. She does not take out the trash, buy communal supplies, or remove her goddamn hair from the shower drain. She leaves the toilet paper rolls empty. She lets trash and recycling reach full overflow and have the audacity to say someone should take it out. She uses the bathroom for 2 hours at night to do her routine and pick at her skin which leaves others holding in their bladder or needing to find another way to release or else she gets aggressive. She dismisses you if you acknowledge her if her door’s open and you don’t want to seem unkind when you pass by her room. She makes every conversation about herself or revert back to herself. No one is allowed to have an issue with her or else she is the victim. “Her opinion doesn’t matter and she might as well be quiet” because every time she vocalizes an issue that literally involves her need to change, adapt, or release some of her power/privilege she gets disgustingly defensive. She, at this point, has asked me to lease my room because there's no point of me having a room in the apartment if I’m not there. 

There are so many levels and now that I’m out of the apartment, MK is out of the apartment, and Kiley’s replacement Julia is out of the apartment... it is Soph, Kelly (a stranger to her), and to my fucking surprise Karley (a sublet for Julia who was never mentioned to me) in the space. So rather than handling her issues with being surrounded by foreign personnel who she can’t manipulate or know will submit to her actions, she is now becoming passive aggressive which puts me in MOM mode because Kelly is someone that I’ve known for years and I’m protective. I  know Kelly has made mistakes about not letting anyone know about her boyfriend’s temporary stay, but the way Soph is trying to evacuate her out of the apartment is out of proportion. Soph claims that she doesn’t want to “house a freeloader” until September even though this person comes from a very bad circumstance. She had the audacity to text me that her father was in the same situation and wouldn’t do what she did which PISSED me oFF bro. It will always revolve back to how her or her family are better in circumstances and doing things in a more/different “moral/fair” circumstance. 

At 213.9 miles away, I  have to diffuse fights and have conversations about living situations. It’s ridiculous that if Soph is not accomodate to the highest degree above everyone else, than everyone has to suffer. No distance limit required. Today I  texted her and said that I’m financially good, can handle my shit and that she needs to stop worrying about it forreal. I  can pay for my shit and me not being in the apartment provides less conflict????? BUT I  have to sublease or come back?? No way. I  know she’s struggling with strangers in the house, working from home, the pandemic, and the apparent “debt” that she is going through but I  can not physically fathom how she can still be such a domineering person over an apartment that she does clean, take care of, or respect only because she’s currently the only person there right now with her name on the lease. It’s just unimaginable. As I’m typing this and rewinding the conversations I’m having with Kelly, having with MK, and having with Soph. I’m tired man. I want this pandemic to be over, or more or less have it be august so I  can be free of Soph.. I  really hope she recognizes that we probably won’t have a relationship post quarantine and post this lease because we didn’t even have a stable one when we lived less than 6 feet from each other. It’s sad that I’m going to basically have to “Kiley” her because this person has taken away years from my life and gained them in ways that are abusive. It’s truly unreal for me and on top of not sleeping from the uncertainty of the future and the huge spike of white supremacy with the lives of black people at stake, I  have to have her own my mind as well. I   know I  have the power to control it for me, but I  can’t stop thinking about how unfair she is definitely being from afar to others who really DON’T deserve it. Welp, there's my mess of a thought process.