#because I don't want a ton of angry anons in my inbox

[scoobydoodean]

Dean cared about Benny more than he ever cared about Cas. Benny was a vampire and Dean wanted to save him and be with him. They formed a bond that rivaled Dean's bond with Sam in the space of a year. Dean and Cas never managed to do that in over ten years. Dean even looked for Benny again when he went back to Purgatory. There's no objective argument that Dean cared about Cas more. You're delusional.

I love Deanbenny and have said on many occasions that it's my favorite dean ship. It doesn't matter to me that other people don't like them as much or like other ships better for various reasons—such as preference for a larger breadth of canon material, just not vibing, etc. If I feel bothered by someone's commentary on deanbenny or deanlisa or anything else, I just filter/unfollow/or block if necessary.

I think maybe I've said it before a long time ago... but Dean has so much love stored up in his heart. Any attempt to diminish what the people he loves mean to him kinda aches a little for me as a deanfan? And that very much includes people trying to diminish what Cas means to Dean. In fact, that might be the relationship I've happened to see people attempt to diminish the most throughout my time here because it's such a popular ship and because some people respond to that with a need to compete and prove whatever relationship they like the best is better... and then Dean ends up being treated like a doll being yanked back and forth in a tug-of-war instead of a person, and that in particular is why I keep non-shipper in my blog description for when I'm in particular moods.

There's an unfortunate pitfall I sometimes see within the non-shipping/multi-shipping/rarepair community where people start to become what initially pushed them away from popular ships and those circles to begin with, and it feels like that's what's happening here. "Delusional" is a word that's been highly favored by hardcore wincest shippers for over a decade to hurl at destiel shippers as they obsessively stalk their blogs looking for anything to whine about. Comparing how Dean feels about Cas or Benny feels the same as when shippers of popular ships make similar comparisons to try and prove their ship is better. This really feels no different.

And to be quite honest... reflecting on all of the SPN hate mail I have ever laid eyes on in all of the time I have been on Tumblr, the amount of hate mail I have seen from fellow deanbenny shippers thrown anonymously at people who ship other things—this year alone—has at this point exceeded all other combined hate mail from other shipping factions I have ever seen. This includes the hate mail tinhats throw at each other, and it's pretty wild for a group of hate anons who love a rarepair to excede what tinhats are capable of hurling at each other. Basically at this point, I think people who anonymously come into people's inboxes to complain about people who don't ship deanbenny have poisoned the pairing in the minds of tons of people and have begun to ruin deanbenny for everyone by being horrid, block-evading bullies, and if you actually want people to like dean and benny as a pairing, the best thing you could do is post with love about them and enjoy yourself instead of choosing (and I do mean choosing) to be angry all of the time and lash out at strangers on the internet about what they may or may not enjoy.

[rise-my-angel]

Hi, I hope this isn’t a weird thing to say but as a Jonsa shipper, I really appreciate your criticism of Jonsa. I obviously don’t agree with those particular takes but it’s really refreshing to see someone with genuine good faith takes on why you don’t like the ship. Some of your anti-Jonsa takes actually gave me a lot of food for thought. So I just wanted to say thank you.

My goal was never to change anyone's minds who ships it, or really even tell them to consider another point of view. It mostly started with me making comments how I dislike it, when I started to get a lot of push back for it, when back then my opinion was simply "I don't ship that, the incest makes me uncomfortable."

So I ended up having to dig deeper to explain more of why, and that gave me more perspective on why i dislike it even more and I simply found the desire to express that. I think everyone has valid reasons for disliking ships and the right to explain why, but I also think everyone has the right to ship whatever they want for whatever reasons.

Personally disagreeing with why or why not we agree or don't agree on a ship is totally fine, because for everything I've said, I've never seen you act aggressive or unreasonable about those different opinions. We never went to the other trying to argue why you're or I am wrong, because at the end of the day, we just see it differently and we don't feel the need to argue about it, and thats what I enjoy.

I'm fine with people shipping it and I've heard people out for why they ship things I dislike as they've heard me out. I only point out where and why I disagree but I always say I get where they're coming from.

My issue was always specific parts of those shippers who insist it is canon and I am in the wrong for thinking otherwise, or I am blind and stupid or willingly ignoring things, when I simply don't see what they see. Which like, you heard my points out, and you don't see what I see, but that's okay. I've always made those posts targeted towards those people who come into my inbox on anon and get very rude and aggressive towards me about my posts, when I do tag them as anti posts, because I think if seeing those posts is that upseeting, I wouldn't want someone to read them. But they do, and they still come to me very angry about my own views and I just don't get it.

There's tons of ships in this series I dislike, but I get where people who do ship it are coming from. But, I think it's healthy to express why we dislike something as much as it is to express why we do like it. It's just a balance, and I've never had any issues with you being a jonsa shipper.

It's the mentality of, they disagree with me, and so they feel the need to come to me personally and argue with me that I'm wrong, when really, I make posts about why I dislike ships like jonsa, because I know other people who feel that way but don't want to make those posts, because it can attract negative attention. So I'm fine with making the posts, because I see the people who agree but maybe don't want to say it. It's why I don't go onto jonsa posts and disagree, because clearly those posts aren't made for me, so I have no reason to go to them with my complaints.

I like the idea of we all just make out own posts disagreeing, without personally attacking the other or going to their inbox on anon to argue when normally, none of us want to come here and argue.

Though, I'm glad you don't totally hate me for my posts because I do thoroughly enjoy your blog, and sometimes jonsas's can conflict my dislike for the ship, as me hating Sansa, and I'm always sitting here like "wait no", considering how often I can rewatch the early seasons and how much I love almost all of Sansa's Kings Landing scenes. Sometimes I also get called a jonerys shipper which is even worse, considering I talk down about that 90% more then jonsa.

Basically, its totally not weird you saying this, I'm just glad my posts haven't put you off completely, because I enjoy you and your posts quite a lot. I never aim to try and drive people away from my stuff, I just know sometimes I am more vocal about my dislikes then others, because I know the topics some people are a bit too nervous to post about, usually surrounding popular ships.

I don't want to attack the shippers personally, im mostly trying to just echo opinions I see other people too nervous to post, knowing the backlash can sometimes be a lot to handle. So, hopefully you havent felt that way, because personal attacks isnt my actual goal.

Sometimes I just sound that way, because despite being formal in my posts, I can also sound eccentric and inflammatory in the tags when that is usually just for exaggerated joking sake to offset the essay I usually just wrote.

[zeroducks-2]

Freedom of speech but not freedom from consequences. Anti-censorship but we still don’t want to platform bigots 🫤 Coming from a neutral party, I think you could learn a lot from listening to all perspectives to avoid echo chambers. Form your own opinion instead of following a crowd. My opinion? Hate the person, not the ship. Don’t judge a book by it’s cover, but that is what the book cover is made for. I think it’s healthier if you and everyone else stopped trying to be antagonistic? How are you supposed to spread positivity if you’re always on the verge of angry ranting?

Okay I'm going to try and answer for the sake of the people who might read this kind of bs in their inboxes and be affected negatively by it, and maybe even feel like they're being unfair towards the very bullies which spend their energies harassing and insulting (and sometimes also doxxing and suicide bating) us.

Let's break this down.

1. "freedom of speech but not freedom from consequences" I can't even talk about some dark themes in fiction or my own personal history of real life abuse without getting termed here. Erotic art can't be posted almost anywhere at this point, and not just the kind antis dislike. Freedom is a construct on social media because ultimately these spaces are owned by someone, and you'll be kicked out if they don't like you.

2 "we don't want to platform bigots" no, absolutely we don't. Historically, giving a platform to bigots and hatemongers fosters hate, violence and censorship. Also I have no power to platform or deplatform anyone, I'm just a guy on tumblr, so I don't even know what you're on about with this. If I had the power to decide, trust me that I would kick the terfs the fuck out of here anyways. And also the cowards who hide under the anon cover to send hate and threats.

3 "listen to perspectives and avoid echo chambers" I'm over 30 and I've been a kinkster for most of my life. I'm queer. Among other things, history and queer history are in my field of studies. I didn't form my opinion here, I came here with one already. I listened to all the perspectives you might think of also because I was here when the rise of censorship and puritanism happened, and by the way you know who got deplatformed? The kinkster and the artists, surely not the bigots. I don't think I've ever seen an instance of an anti being blocked or termed for harassment, whereas blogs get blocked every day for having NSFW content.

4 "form your own opinion instead of following a crowd" again, do you really think I existed as a blank slate before creating this blog?

5 "my opinion is(...)" You sound like a Christian preacher and it gives me the heebiejeebies.

6 "it's healthier if you stopped trying to be antagonistic" sweetheart, we are being bullied every day. If you're someone who creates erotic art of any kind you're subjected to a ton of harassment, and if you create something which could be considered problematic, you get death threats. Suibating. Insults lathered with misogyny, transphobia, queerphobia, you get treated like a freak of nature and threatened to have your livelihood taken away. Or threats of doxxing and of deplatforming. And you might very well get your blog shut down. I'm going to stop being antagonistic when I'll stop being antagonized, and if you think that said bullying is justified and I should just suck it up - and I say this in the most antagonistic way possible - fuck off. Not one single ship or one single fictional character is worth the harassment of another human being.

7 "how are you supposed to spread positivity of you're always on the verge of angry ranting" What makes you think I want to spread postivity? No like, honestly. What makes you think that my purpose with this blog is that. I'm here to talk about my blorbos, and if this makes someone happy then good for them. If the fact that I'm opinionated and passionate about things bothers you, no one is forcing you to stay.

Your whole thing is a mix of victim blaming and fake neutrality which is not welcome on my blog. Please block me and go on with your life, I'm not interested in your empty platitudes.

To anyone else who's reading this, don't ever feel guilty for defending yourself and for fighting back against oppressive measures. There is never a good reason for harassment, and if you were subjected to it, it's in your right to be angry. No matter what p r o b l e m a t i c ship you posted about.

[siriuslysatorusimping]

Hello again, I'm the one who sent you such a long text with questionable English lol

First of all thank you for your reply, I was so touched to hear that you liked my comments so much and that you were able to understand my text well.

But speaking of the chapter, finally we have Itadori and seriously I love him and now I'll have some interactions with him and Rinko, looking forward to it!!!

And I see that Rinko has already begun her work of bribing the children, she knows how to win anyone over, I love that about her.

Now I'm tense about what's to come, but I trust you, I know I'll probably cry a lot, maybe get angry, but it'll be worth it.

Thanks for another chapter.

Aah since I think I might be coming back to comment more often, you can call me May, I'll be identifying myself that way, hugs.

May! Hello! Welcome back!

I'm so very, very glad you messaged again! It was not questionable English whatsoever 😊

(A quick note for any sweet Anon who wants their own lil sign-off, I have seen other accounts have their anon's choose EMOJIS and I love that idea so if you want, please feel free to choose one!)

I'm a wordy lil bitch so I've put the rest below the cut! 💕

Read Another Level on AO3 :)

I'll be honest, there aren't a ton of interactions with Yuuji yet. Rinko doesn't get much of a chance to interact with him because she's getting so damn busy.

She is in high demand in the private sector, and she's been accepting jobs from Tokyo Tech and Kyoto Tech on top of that. Girl be working herself to the bone.

BUT! She does like how easygoing he is and how happy he seems despite everything. And she adores that Gojo likes the kid so much and that Yuuji actually seems to like Gojo just as much!

While Rinko thinks it's hilarious that Maki and Megumi don't like him, she knows it hurts his feelings sometimes, which is why she stops them sometimes because she doesn't want it to be real animosity.

Thank you again for sending another message! They've both made me so happy to see, it brought a giant smile to my face seeing this one in my inbox 😊🥹 I wasn't lying about that last message, I sent it to my best friend and cried with her.

To be a lil too personal and overshare a bit: I've been writing for the better part of 10 or so years, but Another Level is the first project I've received such positive feedback on besides research papers while I was in school. Fics I posted in the past never did very well (but I think my mistake was being on Tumblr only lol though I was on Wattpad back in the day 🤔🤔 oof that was a long time ago 😳).

It genuinely makes my heart so happy to know that the characters I made on a dumb whim bring other people as much joy as they do me.

Thanks for sticking with me and with Rinko! (Gojo is cool too, he can stay too I guess 😂)

[ghostlytalkin]

Here is a list I've complied of Cody-Ben issues for anybody confused, also to answer a ton of the asks in my inbox, also collected from anons on @rpsense (which they are lovely I adore them go look at them)

Likes to harass women or female looking people.

Low/high key, made a fetishizing comments about muns to said muns

He plays one character primarily which is Ben Winters, Dylan O'brien fc. Ben is the worse, very much has main character syndrome.

He has to be involved in any major plot or be the center of attention. Throws a fit if somebody doesn't like him.

Tricks people into joining servers under the guise of them plotting for whatever group. Once in the server starts pressuring them about doing 1x1 plots and gets upset when they don't want to do it

Always does body switching plots. Which can be fun but then expects that the characters fuck

Doesn't take no for an answer, and bullies to get his way

Uses his autism as an excuse when people confront him about being uncomfortable with his actions.

Has lied and called people ableist for confronting him. Even those that are also neurodivergent

He hides behind being autistic to get away with things

Gets mad at people for playing autistic characters, especially if they are women

Believes that all female characters want to fuck Ben winters

Serial harasser of muns, muses, and the works that present as fem.

Had some weird ass competition with male muses and curses them for "starting shit" when he wasn't doing anything

Just really skeezy and likes to harass fem looking people and muses

Throws a fit if Dylan O'brien isn't allowed in groups and also will try and force people out if somebody else is playing him

Acts like this character is the most powerful and desirable, gets upset if he's not

Told a mun that he wishes he was a woman so he could date and fuck their female muse

Asked a lesbian character if he was the exception to her not saying men. Didn't see a problem with it when it was pointed out that wasn't cool

When a character expressed she wasn't interested in Ben, he made a text thread flirting with her. Then when that didn't work thought it was a good idea for Ben to break into her house and make her dinner from her groceries. Again, saw no problem with it and thought it was a romantic gesture

Got angry with a character saying that she and Ben were dating. Threw a massive fit about people knowing for literally no reason. Jokes on them both characters suck and the girl was a copied character

(ALLEGEDLY) Sent confessions about Ben in servers confessions channels then got confused, upset, annoyed, Ben was mentioned (actually I remember seeing him botch a confession about ben once and he posted it without confessions. He disappeared offline for three days)

Tried to take over an event in a group to make Ben the center of attention, was told no, tried anyways

Went on snapchat and burned a picture of a girl, cursing about her because she rejected him

A manipulative, controlling edgelord that expects people to bend backwards for him

Hides behind his autism to escape being held responsible. Making it seem like those with autism don't understand or care about boundaries and will disrespect them

Complains nonstop if you are even slightly snarky towards cody ben. If you play a man character like I do expect to be complained about and told to be nice

Joins and ghosts servers until an event or he wants attention. Directs convo to him each time

Cannot take no for an answer, EVER

[egg-emperor]

Have these anons ever been on tumblr? Like omg have they not heard of character-themed blogs before? You clearly don't care what people think of your blog, and that's 100% valid. This incident should not have lasted this long jfc.

PEOPLE👏DONT👏HAVE👏TO👏CATER👏TO👏YOU👏

There are hundreds other Sonic-themed blogs, and you're upset because one (1) isn't fitting your standards!? If I see someone smother my dash with something I couldn't care less about, I unfollow them! And I don't get pissy in their inbox while I'm at it! Wtf is their deal lmaooo. This is one of the stupidest things I've ever seen someone get anon hate for.

You do your thing, dear Eggman simp. Don't let them stop you from being yourself.

Ikr lol the things they're choosing to target at this point, such as the entire point of my blog in the first place, is really starting to get ridiculous. I don't even know where it keeps coming from at this point or why they're dragging it out, they clearly just keep hate viewing my blog and posts and complaining as if that isn't the whole point of it.

EXACTLY, I don't understand why they get so angry when they dislike my posts, as if there aren't tons of other blogs that do what they want instead. it's like they can't simply let it exist and try to control it and make me feel bad. it's silly because they have every right to dislike my stuff but they could without being rude and insulting me personally over it.

thank you, I won't let them stop me and I'll keep posting all the Eggman love 💜🥚

[aidansplaguewind]

I’d petyr didn’t die where do you think his story would end up ? ( show )

Okay, as everyone probably knows by now, I have a shit ton of Petyr asks in my inbox. I mean, over 50 now. Close to 60.

I'm choosing to answer this one because it's one I've never been asked, or it's been so long I've forgotten, and one of very few that are not about Petyr's feelings for Sansa.

SIDENOTE REAL QUICK: Guys, those of you that sent me asks about Petyr's feelings for Sansa, just scroll back through my blog a bit. I've seriously answered asks that cover that very recently. You won't have to scroll for long. It's been within the last two months. You may find most of them by searching my blog for "anon". Though admittedly there were some I forgot to tag. But they aren't that far back.

Okay, back to your question. To be honest, I have no fucking clue what would actually happen to him because that show was never going to do what should have been done. It decided to turn everything into bullshit. But I can tell you what I would have wanted to happen or what I think should have happened.

He would have gotten Sansa to marry him. She pulled away from his kiss in the God's wood but I think he could have changed tactics and won her over. I think he WOULD have changed tactics to win her over because that's what Petyr does.

She would have realized that he was the best choice. By that point she had changed from the little girl she used to be who dreamed of big, handsome knights. Petyr may not big but anyone who says he isn't handsome is a damned liar. Even if one isn't particularly attracted to him, he's still handsome.

I also think she enjoyed his company and she enjoyed learning from him. She did cry after he died. When she's standing there talking to Arya and she says that in his own way that he did love her, she had tears going down her cheek. So, if he hadn't been found out, I think she would have ended up with him.

But even if he was found out...her being angry about Lysa is such bullshit. She wasn't angry about it when he did it. When he saved her from Lysa throwing her through the moon door. If he hadn't killed Lysa then, Lysa would have found another way to kill Sansa. So if the writers hadn't butchered that bit, I don't think she would have suddenly been upset with him for killing her aunt.

I also think he could have convinced her that he had no choice but to turn on her father. He would have convinced her that his own life hung in the balance had he not. I'm not saying that's true, but he would have made her believe it was.

They would have married and he would have had control of Winterfell with her and possibly the Vale too if he worked it just right. Perhaps, he would have convinced her to marry Robin first and then killed Robin and then the two of them would marry.

I'm not sure if he would have ever gotten the iron throne though. It's possible but I just don't know.

[spot-the-ableism]

[IMAGE ID 2: a series of screenshots by the user spot-the-ableism, Gerrysherry, Spot-the-antisemitism. the first one by spot-the-ableism says "on a alt rn, and kinda sick. but yeah, 100% I'm actually moots with him on another account. it's half I think him being in incredible pain and on hardcore painkillers + a mixture of a shit ton of different meds and half him being a fucking dickhead. wish I knew how to get some sense into him, but idk. he's def not a troll he's just a dickhead and does not know he's being a fucking dickhead, and does not at all think before he types. he's not a bad guy he's just a dick -1" the next one continuing in the thread says "he does this alot, he is on anti-psychotics and has Bipolar and does suffer from withdrawl from them at times bc his providers suck. I have a strong feeling that's happening again, I ain't defending his actions but I also do not believe in harassing ppl who are having episodes. someone does need to tell him off. -2" the thread continues "he has both good and horrible, horrible takes. he has a good heart but also he's genuinely a fucking dick, and easily falls for propaganda. love and hate him honestly, I don't want anything bad happening to him but also he's a fucking dickhead. -3" the thread continues "mixed opinions, he's an asshole and should shut the hell up sometimes. but also he's not a bad guy he just fucking sucks and needs to learn to shut up and turn the pc off when shit gets bad or get his BFF to moderate his inbox or something. ughhgghghghhhh. -4" the thread continues "I COMPLETELY TAKE IT BACK, NAH he's in the fucking wrong. BIG TIME. this is the straw that breaks the camels back my god. I didn't;t see any of the newer stuff . wtffffffff -5" the thread continues with the user gerrysherry's comment "@spot-the-ableism OK no "he's on meds all the time" is not an excuse for him to screech "I'm more oppressed than you" or "silence filty zionist" at any pushback and paints medication users badly by claiming it's not him but the meds" the thread continues with the user spot-the-ableism "Nope it is not an excuse nor does it make what he said okay, but it is an explanation of why he does randomly go on incredibly angry and defensive rants in general. Tbh I was not aware he had fallen so hard for the propaganda in the month or 2 I was not paying attention. Which is why I took most of it back, but what he said was not okay at all. Period." the next picture is a new thread by spot-the-ableism that reads "I meant before in general not in this specific case, having hardcore painkillers or other meds doesn’t make you bigoted that’s something that’s already there. I was trying to say that we should be mindful that he can and could be experiencing medication problems, and we shouldn’t go harassing people. I just want to make sure any harassment doesn’t happen to him AGAIN as he does not cope and has attempted before in the past due to harassment. Still should be called out-1" the thread continues "Still should be held accountable, he’s in the wrong and being utterly awful and horrible. But that again in general is not an excuse to harass people who are struggling already with an onslaught of harassment and hate anon’s and has for the last 4 years. Block him, swear at him, whatever, you don’t need to go fight him he won’t listen anyway. -2" the thread continues with a comment by the user spot-the-antisemitism "@spot-the-ableism I have never tried to fight him I mostly screenshotted things I made the mistake of reblogging him once and got instant harrasment" the thread continues with the user spot-the-ableism "@spot-the-antisemitism Nah not talking about you, just making sure the followers know. As I’m more worried about that, hell your followers will probably get their money’s worth of hate speech if they send asks. It’s more a “guys it’s a losing battle it just doesn’t work people have tried” the thread continues "@spot-the-antisemitism Because they will get also harassed severely by peeper, I just don’t want your followers to get hurt. Genuinely, it’s not worth it" END ID]

to set the record straight, as I have zero things to hide.

[IMAGE ID: a tumblr post by user crippled-peeper, it is a reblog chain of 3 posts. It reads “accuses me of “race faking” because I talked about being a refugee from Katrina checks my bio again first line: white man” next reblog reads “idk what’s more fucked up, that these bloggers are named “spot the antisemitism” or “ spot the ableism” or the fact that they are so racist and ableist they think the only way a white person could be a refugee is if they’re making it up” next post reads “ “you can’t be a refugee and disagree with me!!! Everyone knows that I am the arbiter of who is and isn’t a refugee as someone who lives in a gated community in the USA !!! Don’t you know I RUN A BLOG?!?!?” The tags read “#I’m so glad other people are im agreement that these kids are actual clowns not to be taken seriously at all” END ID:]

I never said or insinuated that you were not a climate refugee, nor that you were a racefaker

above is proof, I have not edited the posts nor want to. You have the reblogs to prove I in fact did not edit anything.

the things you are claiming I “did” were things that spot-the-antisemitism did and said.

intracommunity ableism is still ableism, hate speech against both Jewish and other disabled people is not okay, you can be both completely totally right to call out spot-the-antisemitism’s ableism and commit hate speech against random Jewish and disabled people. You can do both, nuance exists.

me calling you out on harmful behaviour and inciting hate speech is not a bad nor immoral thing I’d hope you would do it to me.

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if you are mad at me swearing at you may I remind you that you have committed way worse acts of hate speech and yet I gave you benefit of the doubt. People are allowed to swear at people.

i have said you may be having a horrible time right now due to medication troubles and that people should not harass you regardless. And that they should keep in mind that you have been through a lot and do not want harassment. I do also humbly apologise for swearing it was wrong of me to and not conducive to anything helpful.

if anything I have been way too forgiving, what you have said to many well meaning and non-ableist/normal disabled people has been utterly vile and yet do I use that against you? Yet do I say those same things towards you? Yet do I mean to hurt or harass you? No.

I live my life, you live yours, I care about you enough to actually call out people who do wish to hurt you. I shouldn’t, but I do. If you return my very calm and sincere response with the same energy and hatred that you usually do it is not in good faith.

you are having a hard time, a hard time always. And I do not wish to contribute to that. But I cannot stay silent and let others be hurt by what you do and you say. Words do effect reality, there are people behind these screens and I am one, and I am writing this sincerely.

again why am I ableist when I was the one to in fact call out and hold spot-the-antisemitism accountable, and explain why it was bad? I spotted the ableism, simple as that.

I am no wimp, or coward if you wish to call me horrible things I am proud to Bare it.

As I do with all things.

sincerely a disabled person who was told way worse things than this over the course of my childhood.

if you do say "KYS" or any variation of it I will be reporting you.

as that. is. hate. speech. and violent speech which. is. not. legal.

I have not discriminated against you nor malgendered you, I have only sweared at you at the worst (and called out that fakeclaiming and spewing violent hate speech is unacceptable), if anything I have been on your side on most of this.

this comes from a place of love, not hatred.

[asongofstarkandtargaryen]

Hey !! i was gonna ask what do you think of dickkory stans bullying tom taylor?? :0 im a dickbabs shipper and a dickkory shipper and seeing this sort of backlash was kinda upsetting :/

Hello!

I also like both ships ( although dickbabs is THE OTP).

I don't approve of people harassing creators (or other fans for the matter). Unfortunately, I've noticed it has become a new trend to twitter to harass creators who don't cater to fans the material they want - whether it has to do with characters or pairings. I really don't get it, because if you insult someone they probably won't start writing the stuff you like.

Usually, when I find a comic I don't like, I drop it like a hot potato because I'd rather spend my time reading something else I enjoy. And if I even feel the need to vent about something (because we all do sometimes) I'll do it on my blog using anti tags so I won't bother pro shippers and especially I won't tag the creators to my rants. Because that's common decency.

Most creators - Tom Taylor included- have no problem with fans politely point out parts of the story they didn't like or disagree with. But if someone bash all their work or their characters they will probably won't reply or even block the said fan.

Btw, lately I've noticed shipping wars are on the rise on twitter with fans even hating on DC artists who draw a pairing they personally dislike. That's embarrassing and pathetic attitude, imo.

(and yes, unfortunately it often happens with the stans you are referring to your ask)

[astorytotellyourfriends]

Hi! I was just wondering, because I read your new pinned post, that you said it’s okay to talk about jatp/headcanons and stuff? But a little while ago I saw you make a post that said you were feeling overwhelmed with them and that some made you angry or uncomfortable, and I have, admittedly, sent one or two headcanon anons your way before lol, and I would never want to make anyone uncomfortable or anything (they weren’t at all nsfw head canons or anything just to be clear I don’t feel comfortable talking about stuff like that online personally) but I was just wondering what types of stuff makes you angry/uncomfortable that you have gotten before (not the exact message or anything just like… the theme, say ‘stuff about Julie/Luke or angsty headcanons for example) because I never want to disrespect anyone’s boundaries in any way accidentally when talking about fandom stuff (which I love to do lol!) so I was just wondering if there is anything that’s a no from you that we shouldn’t send?

hi anon! thank you so much for asking! it's so considerate of you to ask about this and i really appreciate it 💛

i added that request to my post specifically to let you and everyone else know that i do love when you guys send me your thoughts about jatp. i did get overwhelmed there for a while because multiple people (i think, anyway, it's hard to tell when y'all are on anon!) were sending me super long asks that took a long time for me to read/answer properly. regarding the ones that made me angry/uncomfortable, i simply decided to delete them rather than engage and create further discomfort for myself, which i think is honestly the healthiest way to engage with fandom.

that being said, i think you're looking more for some specifics as to what i don't want sent to me, so i'm going to try and figure that out in the next few sentences.

you're definitely right about julie/luke lol i am more than happy to talk about them from a platonic standpoint but please go to someone else when it comes to shipping them bc you're barking up the wrong tree. i like them in theory as it pertains to the show, but in terms of fic i'd much rather talk about... literally any other pairing/poly relationship.

as far as content for headcanons, i'm here for pretty much anything. angst, fluff, au, canon - i love it all. i realize that because i write explicit fic that you might think it's an open invitation to send me your more explicit headcanons, but it's really not. i don't mind if you ask me something specific in regards to one of my fics, but otherwise just use your best judgment. if i've never written about [insert kink/gender identity/sexual identity here], chances are i either don't feel comfortable writing it or just plain don't want to.

other than that... i think everything else is pretty much fair game? off the top of my head i can't think of anything specific that i would feel uncomfortable receiving a question about in regards to fandom headcanons and stuff. if you start asking very personal questions about me and my life, then that's a whole other problem lol.

i do hope you and others start sending me headcanons again because i really do enjoy them, even if i get a little overwhelmed at times. i'm not really used to people wanting my opinion on things/wanting prompts from me, so to have a ton of messages flood my inbox every couple of days is still a little jarring, but i do absolutely appreciate the enthusiasm and thank you all 💛

[littlebitofbass]

Hi Jen! I'm a new ed fan and lately some people in my country's fandom started being really mean towards new fans. There's a M&G contest and I don't want to participate because old sheerios say that since I'm a new fan I don't deserve it. I'd really love to meet Ed, I've discovered him late, but also at the perfect time, right after I've experience one of the most difficult things in my 25 years. I feel like I'm so late to the party, and that I'm really bad fan :(

New fan pt.2 Circumstances in my life cause me to shut down from things I enjoyed when I was young, by the end of 2016 I was really depressed and then he come back. Thanks to my 15-year-old niece I started listening to him more, first ÷ and then obviously fell in love with + and x (speacially +) I just didn’t know there was so much more than TOL. Now I’m trying to listen and learn everthing I can. Your blog has been very helpful, thanks for spreading your Ed wisdom to newbies like me

Hello! I’m so sorry that other fans have made your experience here rough. I honestly think there is no bad time to discover Ed’s music. It only makes sense that we all come across different things at different times. You can’t help when you find something, and there’s no way to speed up or slow down the process, especially if you don’t know what it is you’re looking for until after you find it. You know? And just because someone randomly discovers a thing before or after you do, that doesn’t have anything at all to do with whether or not they’re a “good” fan or “deserve” anything more than any other fan. Let me show you one of my favorite things Ed himself has ever said about becoming a fan: 

He actually tweeted that a little before I discovered him myself, but it used to get shared around all the time. Back when this fandom was a bit smaller and more welcoming, I guess. But the point is that we’re not and never have been some sort of exclusive club with rankings based on how long we’ve been around, and anyone who treats this fandom like it’s a thing that’s not allowed to grow and change or thinks new fans shouldn’t be allowed the same opportunities as older fans is trying to make this whole thing into something other than what it is. The truth is there’s no hierarchy here. No one is even running this place like an organized group. We’re literally just a big crowd of people who all like the same music, and everyone here holds exactly the same level of importance as everyone else. Trying to assign more significance to some of the people in the crowd than others is pointless and silly. I suppose the fans you’re talking about just want to feel like they are special… but I think there are only two ways to look at it: either no one here is special, or everyone is. I prefer the second one. :) 

If it makes you feel any better, though. You’re not alone in your experience. There are actually quite a lot of people from a lot of different countries who feel the same way as you – that because they’re new, that makes them bad fans. Nothing could be further from the truth! There’s also a lot of pressure to learn everything you can learn about Ed and his older music as quickly as possible so people won’t think you’re… fake, I guess? But something to keep in mind - both for older and newer fans - is that no one can instantly know everything there is to know about something as soon as they find it. You know? And “testing” people on their knowledge of older stuff just so you can judge them is mean and uncalled for. 

I remember I went to a concert once in 2013, and it was a One Direction concert but I was wearing an Ed Sheeran t-shirt, and since I went to the concert alone I tried to talk to the girls who were sitting behind me. One of them noticed my shirt and immediately started testing me to see if I was a “real” Ed fan, like asking me my favorite song off Loose Change, clearly expecting me not to have ever listened to anything but +. She was impressed with my answer, but gosh it made me angry that she thought it mattered, like I wasn’t worthy of wearing Ed on my shirt if I only knew The A Team and Lego House. Which is so not the case. If you like Ed’s music – any of it! – then you should feel proud to wear his merch, not wary that some stuck-up person is going to give you an exam. Coincidentally, that was the same day that Ed had followed me on twitter, and I didn’t have a smart phone at the time and hadn’t talked to anyone about it – I was still a little bit shocked over it, really – so I told the girl just so I’d have someone to fangirl with, and right away she pulled out her phone to check and see if I was lying. :/ 

I think we probably all have experiences like this within our fandom. I like to say that we’re a big group of great people, and I do think that there are tons of great people around here, but there are also people like this girl, and like the fans that have given you a hard time. It doesn’t stop once you’re not new anymore, either. I’ve been around for a while and I get hassled online all the time. Every day, actually. I mostly don’t post the shitty messages I get, but I can’t remember the last time I checked my inbox and didn’t have at least one message either insulting me or insulting Ed or someone close to him. Some of them are super easy to ignore, like the ones that just say “fat” and “stupid” but there are also those passive-aggressive messages from people who hate you specifically but whose friends probably wouldn’t consider them a troll, questions intentionally designed to make you feel bad by playing on insecurities, the kind that are like, “Don’t you think that Ed probably finds you annoying?” or “Your last post made me cringe. Aren’t you embarrassed that Ed might see it?” or even, “Why do you think your opinion on his music even matters to anyone? Just curious.” Of course, those answers are 1. No 2. Nope and 3. Literally someone asked me my opinion, but I tend to immediately delete the question and/or block the user and pretend they never existed because I refuse to let some anonymous asshole take up space on my blog with their horse shit. Sometimes I also turn off anon asks for a while when that happens (which is what I’ve done now).

I guess what I’m saying is… some people are mean. Some people think it’s acceptable to treat others poorly. And just because we like the same music doesn’t mean we’re going to get along all the time. But you can’t let that sort of thing stop you from being you, doing what you like to do, and enjoying the good experiences that also come from being in Ed’s fandom – like winning a meet and greet if you can. I promise you will be able to find other fans in your country who aren’t rude. Maybe they will end up being your best friends! Just please don’t let the haters affect your sense of self worth. You’re better than that. 

:)